As if you didn’t already loooove her laidback style (and just about everything else about the superstar actress), Drew Barrymore’s family calendar system is about to become your new BFF. This celeb mama has it down when it comes to balancing work and family life.
Um, wait. None of us really do. And just because she’s fab and famous doesn’t mean she’s got the whole working mom thing under wraps. But she does have some pretty brilliant advice for mommy-ing with a busy, busy work schedule. She’s a mom, actress, entrepreneur and so much more. Yep, Drew Barrymore has a busy schedule — and that means having to take time away from her family life to work and travel.
Barrymore recently posted to Instagram her tips for working moms. Even though the actress-mama may have more money and fame than any of us regular ol’ folk could imagine, that doesn’t mean she isn’t totally down to earth when it comes to finding ways to balance parenting and her job.
Olive has a working mom. So, I came up with a couple of systems. One of which is “THE CALENDAR”. It has been very successful recently. I circle with sharpie every day I will be traveling. And I ask her to mark the day with an X once it’s done. That way she can see that I am gone at first, still away in the middle, and then coming back towards the end. She now has a good sense of my geographic place from the globe. She knows when I am leaving and coming home. I always explain to her that I love my Job. I don’t say “I have to go work” with a grimace on my face, because I fear it will make her feel negative about something a lot of moms must do to provide. My friend once said “never make your child feel like work is the bad thing taking you away from them” and I realized a lot of us tend to do that to try to make our kids feel better and that work is the yucky thing taking us away. It’s a good intention, but I am convinced I need to take a different approach. I want to empower my daughters to think work is good and necessary. And can even lead them to road of their dreams. I feel guilty as hell for being away (and what mother doesn’t?!) But i try a way to empower me and my kids into something more positive. I don't blame work, i own the responsibility. I will be patient when she is upset if i am away. But i wanted to give her a tool, so she could understand and gage life when i am working. Like a hand made calendar. And watching my daughter follow through with as an exercise, is so rewarding. And calming to my concerns about teaching her to grasp life. I also send her a postcard everyday at Summer camp where she walks to a mailbox and pulls out my hand written card. She knows what stamps are. And snail mail. And then she carries them in her back pack. And has even started to write me back. And we save them all in a box. Like I said, I’m trying to balance life to make it as great as it can be, and we have to find ways that are authentic and true to who we are. I tried a few methods at first… and if you ever want to corespond with Olive, don’t face time with her. I learned that the hard way.
Barrymore starts her post by writing, “Olive has a working mom. So, I came up with a couple of systems. One is “THE CALENDAR”. It has been very successful recently.”
So what is “THE CALENDAR”? Well, Barrymore uses an old-school paper calendar—not an app, not an online version and not some sort of mobile-connected, super-confusing techy version—to circle all of her travel days. She then has her daughter, Olive, mark the days with an “X” as they end. This gives her a visual reference for how long mom is gone and when she’ll be back.
Before I left for Asia, I showed Olive where on the globe I was going. And now, at this moment, I came across an article by the great @anthonybourdain LINK IN BIO TO READ because it really moved me. It’s funny how we all arrange our travel. I came here for work, but on the off hours, I live for getting “local” and getting to know what a place is really like without the protection of the familiar. He has great tips and an even better philosophy. Take a moment to read his wisdom and style. It just might change your next life experience. #thailanddiaries
Along with “THE CALENDAR,” Barrymore makes sure that she doesn’t give her daughter a negative picture of working. She writes on IG, “I always explain to her that I love my Job. I don’t say, “I have to go to work” with a grimace on my face, because I fear it will make her feel negative about something a lot of moms must do to provide.”
We totally agree, Drew! And thanks for the awesome tips.
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Featured image: Drew Barrymore via Instagram