Aww…Valentine’s Day is coming. As soon as February rolls around, Valentine’s Day creeps up on us like a high-grade fever. Love is in the air. The whole world is geared up to celebrate the season of love and romance with wine, chocolate, food and song. Couples are busy in planning the perfect date with pretty gifts, spa days and romantic meal offers. Oh! Isn’t it so exciting?
Unfortunately, it did not work for us. We have been married for long 13 years. We had a happy married life with commitment, mutual respect, a good dose of love and affection with two absolutely adorable kids. My husband loves us so much. He is a complete family man, with 100% devotion and faith. He works really hard to handle the financial responsibilities of our family. And I took the care of home and kids.
In spite of this love and care, we have never gone on Valentine’s Day date or exchange sweet notes of love, chocolate, or other expensive gifts. Personally, we are not crazy about Valentine’s Day celebration. I know it may sound terribly boring or you may have thought that we hate traditions or we want to prove ourselves as an extraordinary couple who did not like to follow things that rest of the world is following. But these reasons are not true. Please do not get us wrong. We are not cynical when it comes to celebrating the spirit of love and affection for our dear ones. Of course, we believed in the “celebration of love”. We believed in the concept of a soulmate and expressing your feelings to the person you love most. But not in the typical (and commercial??) way.
Here I am sharing the real reasons that “Why we do not celebrate Valentine’s Day?”
There is no need to show your care and love (extra love???) just on a single day
We personally believed that if you are happy and content as a family, if you love to share sweet tiny moment of togetherness with each other every day and if you stand by each other in every sad and happy moment, then it is all enough to get a complete sense of contentment and satisfaction as a family and as a couple too. There is no need to celebrate the “spirit of love” on just one day. If you are in love with someone than a single day celebration is not enough to prove your worth. Your feelings and sentiments cannot be celebrated in just one day. They require lifelong commitment to really admire its beauty and significance. For a loving family, being together is the most cherished moment that could be celebrated on each single day.
We hate to take pressure from commercials, advertisements and social media
We love to feel personally invested in symbols, love and traditions. We hate to take the stress “make something extravagant happen” on any special occasion. And in the case of Valentine’s Day, we are in essence commanded to be romantic. The pressure that comes from commercials, advertisements and social media make it sound like if you do not shower your love and care for your spouse with expensive gifts on valentine day then you are not a loving couple. Sometimes, this surrounding pressure compels the people to make the wild purchase that they really can’t afford.
Nearly all business inflates their prices on Valentine’s Day. And the craziest thing is that we all know that it is just a marketing stunt, it is a gimmick but still, we line up to get ripped off. But for us, it is not worthy. We believed it is not mandatory to show your love and affections through expensive gifts. We hate to follow a preconceive notion that gifts are the most important tool to obtain and receive love. There are so many other ways to shower your love and affection for your dear ones.
We did not like to compete with other couples
We believed that each couple is unique and so their love story and married life too. Each one has their different style of expressing love and care for each other. But with the changing time, this expression of love and care turned into a “couple contest”, especially on “valentine’s day”. Sometimes, it just becomes an occasion where everyone wants to show their celebration is so huge and magnificent from others. Couples blow their pictures on all over social media as if we need to prove to everyone that someone loves us. And ultimately the celebration of love just get remain as the act of frippery. It becomes a competitive race that could be won only by sharing the most exclusive detail of celebration. But sorry with due respect to other couples, we do not want to be a part of this contest. We don’t think the strength of a relationship should be measured by the level of efforts put into the celebration of the one day. We are happy with what are we? And we love to keep it likes the way we want.
We do not want to set a wrong concept of “Holiday or festival is just a game” for our girls
Of course, my dolls love to make handmade cards for their friends. They absolutely adore the display of valentine décor and gifts in shops. And that is sweet and heartening. But we do not want to set a concept of celebration that they just limit to take and give gifts and parties. Because as they grow up they may seem to know the fact that a whole celebration is just an act of all these external things. And only these are the true spirit and correct way to enjoy it. We want that they learn that true meaning of love and affection. We want that they understand that having an affectionate bond is more important in a family rather than just giving and taking gifts.
As a conclusion it is not that we shun romance, far from it but rather the commercialization of Valentine’s Day is the problem that ruins the sentiments and experience of celebration. We just hate all the hype that surrounds February. So, instead of spending dollars on expensive gifts and waiting for hours at outside the restaurants, we did love to spend some quality together by sharing some home baked cookies or just by watching a favourite movie. We did love to appreciate and express our feelings to each other by just saying “I am always with you” or “you are the best mom/dad of the world”.
So these are my thoughts on celebrating the season of love. Is it disappointing for you? Or you also feel the way that I do? Please share with us.