You may or may not be ready for your baby to go to kindergarten—but when the time comes, when is the best age for your budding scholar to take the leap? For kids who have summer birthdays or tots who just aren’t ready for the social or (yes) academic constraints of kindergarten—waiting an extra year may be a good option. But does holding your kid back pay off? We got experts and parents like you to weigh in on the subject.

The PROS of Delaying Kindergarten

Your kid will (probably) be more willing to sit still if given an extra year.
Whether or not your five-year-old will sit still during circle time or stay on task at writing centers may actually depend on her age, since younger children generally have a harder time doing both. Studies have shown that kids are often misdiagnosed with behavior problems in kindergarten when in fact the behaviors were just a matter of being younger than classmates. And, according to this Standford University study, children who wait a year to enroll have significantly lower levels of inattention and hyperactivity—with results continuing even at age 11.

An older child will probably have an easier time saying goodbye to you.
Younger kids—especially those who haven’t already attended a preschool program—may have a tougher time saying goodbye in the morning (and we all know how hard it is to leave a tearful tot at drop-off). Giving your child more time to become independent may help her let go when it’s time for the school day to start.

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Her fine motor skills will be more developed.
Older kids usually have an easier time with fine motor activities (holding a pencil and using scissors, for instance). Being able to do these things can help build confidence and make a kid more excited about her accomplishments at school.

She’ll have better social-emotional skills.
Kids who delay kindergarten have better social and emotional skills than those who start school on the younger side of the spectrum, according to this study of U.S. kindergarteners. Basically, this means they were generally better at handling their emotions (=fewer tantrums) and were better at following directions and getting along with their peers.

They have more time to be kids … and you have more time with them!
Waiting to start formal schooling gives kids more time to be kids, to enjoy a more leisurely day, and to play freely (which, studies have suggested may be more valuable than academics for young children). Delaying kindergarten also gives you one more year with your child. If you’re lucky enough to be home with your kiddo, you’ll be glad you got that time.

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The CONS of Delaying Kindergarten

An older child may be taller than her classmates … which matters, especially in middle school 
You may not be thinking about the teen years yet, but let’s not forget: A child who is the oldest kid in kindergarten will also be the oldest in her middle school grade—and that’s no small thing, especially when puberty hits.

She may be bored (and consequently misbehave).
This study has suggested that kids who delayed kindergarten were twice as likely to drop out of high school. Researchers think this is because they reach adult age sooner, which is when kids are legally allowed to quit school on their own (most state laws require kids to stay in school until at least age 17).

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That extra year may be expensive.
If you’re a working parent, delaying kindergarten means another year of paying for a nanny or preschool.

It may not matter in the long run.
Despite conflicting research and strong opinions on both sides, it is still unclear whether “redshirting” makes any difference at all in the long run. Some studies even suggest that, whether your child starts school a year early or a year late, it all levels out by middle school.

She may not find peers on her level (initially).
A year can make a big difference when you’re only still in your first decade of life. This means that a calm, more introverted six-year-old may have trouble finding like-minded peers in a kindergarten class full of rowdy five-year-olds.

She may miss out on an early intervention or assistance.
If you’re thinking your child won’t fit into kindergarten because she may have special needs, you may actually be losing out, since public schools are required to provide special needs programs to kids who qualify.

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So… Now What?

With all that information,  you’re probably still wondering: What’s the right answer? The answer: Both. It really depends on the kid.

“Kids should be with developmental age peers as much as possible since kindergarten builds not just academics but social skills, too,” said Deanna Lapen, a Los Angeles-based school psychologist and former kindergarten teacher. “With that being said, every child is an individual. Parents should think about why they would consider redshirting.”

Lapen said parents should talk with their child’s preschool teacher (if applicable) as well as look at the kindergarten curriculum for whatever school your child might attend. Then ask: “Is the upcoming kindergarten class a place where the child will thrive socially and academically?”

If so, don’t delay. And, as always—trust your instincts.

— Melissa Heckscher

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