Having a miscarriage is an incredibly difficult experience, both physically and emotionally, that many women often struggle to talk about. Singer Carrie Underwood recently opened up about how hard it was to handle three miscarriages before her current pregnancy—and many moms can relate.
Underwood recently revealed that she and her husband Mike Fisher are expecting baby number two, but it wasn’t an easy road getting there. The 35-year-old mom spoke with CBS News about her struggle with three miscarriages in the last two years. Underwood said she was frustrated, but at the same time she felt like she couldn’t vent those frustrations because she felt she was already blessed to have a three-year-old son.
“I had always been afraid to be angry because we’re so blessed. My son Isaiah is the sweetest thing and he is the best thing in the world. If we can never have any other kids, that’s okay because he’s amazing and I have this amazing life,” Carrie shared. “Really, what can I complain about? I can’t. I have an incredible husband, incredible friends, an incredible job, an incredible kid. Can I be mad? No…and I got mad.”
For many women and couples experiencing secondary infertility or recurrent pregnancy loss, these feelings are understandable and common, but the experience was still emotionally overwhelming for the singer. As Underwood eventually discovered, it’s perfectly normal and valid to have those emotions.
Underwood had a moment of clarity when she finally let her feelings out and wondered, “Why on earth do I keep getting pregnant if I can’t have a kid?” She explained, “For the first time, I feel like I actually told God how I felt.” Soon after, she learned that she was pregnant again and doctors have reassured her that the baby is healthy and thriving.
Much like James Van Der Beek’s recent Instagram discussing his wife’s miscarriage, having celebrities speak out about their experiences with pregnancy loss goes a long way in helping to erase the social stigma surrounding the issue.
Featured photo: Carrie Underwood via Instagram