Despite the role of social media in openness about parenting and the experience of pregnancy, a taboo still remains when it comes to talking about miscarriage and pregnancy loss. When Hilaria Baldwin posted about her possible miscarriage last week, it served as an important reminder for that it’s okay for women to open up more about this difficult subject.

Baldwin shared a moving post to her Instagram feed explaining that although she is still technically pregnant, she is most likely experiencing a miscarriage. “I always promised myself that if I were to get pregnant again, I would share the news with you guys pretty early, even if that means suffering a public loss,” the mom of four and wife of Alec Baldwin shared.

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I want to share with you that I am most likely experiencing a miscarriage. I always promised myself that if I were to get pregnant again, I would share the news with you guys pretty early, even if that means suffering a public loss. I have always been so open with you all about my family, fitness, pregnancies…and I don’t want to keep this from you, just because it isn’t as positive and shiny as the rest. I think it’s important to show the truth…because my job is to help people by being real and open. Furthermore, I have no shame or embarrassment with this experience. I want to be a part of the effort to normalize miscarriage and remove the stigma from it. There is so much secrecy during the first trimester. This works for some, but I personally find it to be exhausting. I’m nauseous, tired, my body is changing. And I have to pretend that everything is just fine—and it truly isn’t. I don’t want to have to pretend anymore. I hope you understand. So, this is what is going on now: the embryo has a heartbeat, but it isn’t strong, and the baby isn’t growing very much. So we wait—and this is hard. So much uncertainty…but the chances are very, very small that this is a viable pregnancy. I have complete confidence that my family and I will get through this, even if the journey is difficult. I am so blessed with my amazing doctor, my dear friends, and my loving family…My husband and my four very healthy babies help me keep it together and have the perspective of how truly beautiful life is, even when it occasionally seems ugly. The luck and gratitude I feel that I am my babies’ mommy, is wonderfully overwhelming and comforting. In your comments, please be kind. I’m feeling a bit fragile and I need support. I’m hoping, that by sharing this, I can contribute to raising awareness about this sensitive topic.

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“I have always been so open with you all about my family, fitness, pregnancies…and I don’t want to keep this from you, just because it isn’t as positive and shiny as the rest,” she wrote in the lengthy post, explaining “the embryo has a heartbeat, but it isn’t strong, and the baby isn’t growing very much. So we wait—and this is hard. So much uncertainty…but the chances are very, very small that this is a viable pregnancy.”

Previous research indicates that anywhere from 15 to 20 percent of pregnancies end in miscarriage; the March of Dimes estimates that as many as half of all pregnancies end in miscarriage but happen so early, the pregnancy may not yet have been detected. Despite this, miscarriage is a topic many women find too painful to discuss, and understandably so. But as Baldwin’s post shows, being open about the experience can help other women going through the same experience realize they are not alone and miscarriage is a common experience that can happen to any expecting mom.

Baldwin wrote, “I’m hoping, that by sharing this, I can contribute to raising awareness about this sensitive topic.”

—Shahrzad Warkentin

Featured photo: Hilaria Baldwin via Instagram

 

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