Keeping a marriage strong and happy gets challenging as the years pass by. From career demands to the majestic chaos of kids, it can be easy to lose sight of why you fell in love in the first place. One viral Facebook post is a good reminder of why it is important to reflect what brought you together as a couple.

Mom and wife Nicole Johnson recently shared a sweet photo on her Facebook page. The pic shows a well-worn slip of paper with her name and phone number written on it. As she explains in the caption, it is the same piece of paper she gave her husband when they first met 16 years ago—and he’s kept it in his wallet ever since. “This piece of who we were and where we started remains with him. He carries us around wherever he goes.” Johnson writes in the post.

While the gesture itself is an adorably romantic one. Johnson says that not everything in their marriage has been hearts and roses. Recently the couple has struggled and, as she explains, it is little reminders like this one that have helped.

“And when it gets hard, like really hard–the sort where it seems easier to walk away than to stay–look for those things in your beginning. For us, this old receipt tape, worn and battered, is ours. It won’t do the work. It won’t keep our marriage going. But it’s a reminder and it’s a help.”

Relationships are full of ups and downs—and when you add kids to the mix it can sometimes be hard to find ways to reconnect as a couple. “If your marriage is in a rough patch,” writes Johnson. “Look for your beginning–that place where your US started–before the kids and mortgage and start there. Good luck. I’m rooting for all of us!”

—Shahrzad Warkentin

Featured photo: Charles Deluvio via Unsplash


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