No matter how rock-solid your marriage might be, the occasional spat is inevitable. But what happens when things boil over with an audience present? Kristen Bell shared the one thing you and your spouse should always do if you fight in front of your kids. Read on for her tip.

Even seemingly always-smiling couples like Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard are regular people who can get into arguments, like many married couples do. However, the parents of two have made a promise to each other to always do one very important thing if they happen to have an argument in front of their kids.

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To the man mocked me in our wedding photos because I cried too many tears of joy, Who wore a baby Bjorn for 2 straight years to show his girls how to be as adventurous as possible, Who held our dear little shakey mann pup for 8 hrs straight on the day we had to put him down, I know how much you loved using. I know how much it got in your way. And I know, because I saw, how hard you worked to live without it. I will forever be in awe of your dedication, and the level of fierce moral inventory you perform on yourself, like an emotional surgery, every single night. You never fail to make amends, or say sorry when its needed. You are always available to guide me, and all of our friends, with open ears and tough love when its needed most. You have become the fertilizer in the garden of our life, encouraging everyone to grow. I'm so proud that you have never been ashamed of your story, but instead shared it widely, with the hope it might inspire someone else to become the best version of themselves. You have certainly inspired me to do so. I love you more than I ever thought I could love anyone, and I want you to know, I see you. I see how hard you work. You set an excellent example of being human. Happy 14th year sobriety birthday, @daxshepard. Xoxo

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“One thing my husband invented—he said, ‘Let’s make a commitment to always make up in front of our kids,'” Kristen told POPSUGAR. “Parents can get testy with each other, and what children witness is the fight, and they never witness the resolution, so how on earth are they supposed to know how to make up with people?”

Not only does making up help the couple move on from their disagreement, but it acts as a life-lesson for their kids on the importance of apologizing. “I let them witness apologies a lot,” Bell said. “Don’t be scared of apologies!”

Even when they’re not quite feeling ready to kiss and make-up right away, Bell and Shepard always try to make a show of saying “I’m sorry” in front of their kids:

“So, even if we have a testy afternoon or a testy evening and we make up in the bedroom later and say, ‘Hey, I’m sorry; I had a long day at work,’ the next morning we come out of our bedroom and, in front of our children, I’ll say, ‘Hey, Daddy, last night at dinner, I felt that I was rude to you, and I don’t think you deserved that. I just wanted to apologize because I had a tough day at work and that made my feelings very frustrated, and I had a hard time being nice and that’s my fault. So I apologize because you don’t deserve that,’” Bell explained.

Once again, Bell and Shepard are total #MarriedLife #Goals.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

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