Over two years ago I gave birth to my daughter and like every new parent, I wanted to give her everything. I wanted to find the best pediatrician, the highest quality child care, the most enriching things to do with her on the weekend, and all the other information I needed to be a successful parent. But as a full-time working mom, I found it pretty challenging to even have time for the basics, like feeding her and giving her a bath. Forget having time to research anything else!

There isn’t one single place to get parenting information, and many recommendations are shared in private mother’s groups which I wasn’t a part of as a working mom. Mobile apps for parents are basically nonexistent. Navigating all this information can feel like a full-time job.

I had an epiphany one day when I was at work that maybe no one has built great technology for parents not because it’s so hard to build but because there aren’t enough moms starting companies. I have a technology background — I was a computer science major at MIT and I’ve worked at tech companies like Google and Twitter. I realized I had the right background and expertise to build an app for parents, and I knew based on being a parent and my discussions with other parents that access to information was a big pain point.

The only thing that was holding me back was myself. I was worried that starting a company would give me even less time with my daughter. Tech startups have the reputation for being grueling environments where young people work 24 hours a day and wear hoodies. I realized that if I was going to start a company, I’d need to do things differently and set up a work environment that would allow me to be the person I needed to be at home.

A lot of people thought I was crazy to start a company as a new mom but fast forward to today and Winnie is an app used by over 100,000 parents across the country. We’ve raised venture funding from some of the biggest names in the technology industry. Parents rely on Winnie to find high-quality affordable childcare, get answers to their parenting questions, and find things to do with their kids.

But more importantly, starting a company has also helped me find success in another aspect of my life: being a mom. I’m able to be a better mom to my daughter because I have control over my schedule. I have more time to spend with my family because I call the shots. I can come in late to work to take my daughter to a doctor’s appointment, or leave early to play with her in the afternoon. We all eat dinner together as a family every night and that’s something I would not have been able to do if I stayed in my old job and worked typical tech company hours. The time we spend together matters more to her than anything I’ll accomplish in my professional life so having that time is an accomplishment in and of itself.

Through this experience of starting a company I’ve learned that starting a business isn’t just for young guys in hoodies, it’s also a great career path for moms. When it’s your own company, you set the ground rules that work for you and you don’t have to compromise. Better yet, you get to build an environment that’s a great place for other people to work too. People who also desire work-life balance in their lives will seek you out and want to work for you.

Since I’ve started Winnie, I have spoken to countless other moms who are thinking about taking the leap. My advice to all of them is to go for it! You are your child’s biggest role model and when you take the leap into the unknown you’re showing them that one day they can too

Short mom to tall kids. CEO and co-founder of Winnie, a leading marketplace for daycare and preschool helping millions of parents across the United States. Still getting the gist of this whole parenting thing.

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I had a minor epiphany this week. It happened while watching footage from a Magical Creatures camp: Kids were taming an evil griffin, healing dragons with their magical unicorn horns, and having a sneaky-sprite dance party. They were riffing off each other about ways to save the day. Their play was at once primal and epic—even as it happened in little Zoom boxes. They were heroes on a quest and they were lit from within. As I lay on my bed, computer in lap, I wanted to reach through the screen and bottle that energy and drink it myself…They were escaping this time of inertia/chaos through play. And you know what the through-line was? Saving the day. 

I suppose it is the Empathy Advantage that Dr. Michele Borba speaks of, and it is something that I’m going to try to use to invigorate my parenting, starting…NOW! You can check out the article I wrote about Empathy Activities over on the blog but here are the highlights:

Why Empathy? Kindness is like a magic elixir. Our brain rewards us when we do kind things, and that means better mental and physical health. Empathy activities are also ones that can take up a good portion of our day and therefore banish the boredom! Finally, through acting on the kindness, you can dig into issues that matter to you and your family in this heightened time of essential activism. 

Emotional Literacy and How to Get It

1. Use Literature: Great books are an incredible way to step outside our own experience and have compassion for others. Watch a librarian speak about this and make awesome suggestions for middle-grade level literature. Here are my recommendations for books that help process feelings and support social-emotional learning. 

2. Play Emotion I Spy: Helping kids name and identify feelings is a powerful gateway into feeling for others. I got this fabulous game from Dr. Aliza Pressman of Raising Good Humans. The idea is that you simply sit on a park bench and observe people’s emotions like you would in “I Spy” and the guess who you are observing. This will help your child process their own feelings and also strengthens their empathetic muscles. 

3. Play Theater Games: Emotion Charades, Emotion Freeze Dance, Emotion Sculpture. 

4. Practice Perspective Taking: Play A Day in the Life which is a game where you go deep into a character so much that you imagine the nuances of their day/dreams/family/etc.

Empathy Activities that Connect Us: This is a partial list of activities that can grow our empathy. Thanks to my pal, Lauren Shenkman of Riley’s Way, for the extra inspiration! 

  • Compose an original song (for a favorite babysitter’s birthday!).
  • Write letters to seniors in isolation.
  • Research organizations that you want to donate to or start your own local fundraiser, clothing or food drive. 
  • Make a trailer on iMovie (for your teacher/schoolmates). 
  • Use Paperless Post to write notes (to friends you miss).
  • Find a cause you care about and sign petitions/write letters to politicians.
  • Make breakfast (for your parents!).
  • Find a few new chores you can do to pitch in around the house.
  • Drop off a goody bag and note to a friend’s stoop or front door to show your love. (tip: it’s all about the note!).

 

This post originally appeared on Child's Play In Action.

Jocelyn Greene is a Brooklyn based educator, director and mom.  With her company, Child's Play NY, she teaches hundreds of kids a year and is equally joyous adapting fairytales for 4s as she is staging Shakespaere with the teens. Check out http://www.childsplayinaction.com/ for video tutorials on game-based play to do at home! 

Actor Josh Gad, a.k.a. Olaf (or at least the voice behind him), recently shared a tear-jerkingly sweet video of his nine-year-old daughter on Instagram.

The clip, which was taken four years ago, shows the little girl crying as she muses, “But why will I never not be a kid anymore?” At the tender age of five, Gad’s daughter had just come to the realization she would grow up, and like her nanny Sara says in the video, “We’re not Peter Pan. Only Peter Pan is a kid forever.”

Along with the clip, Gad captioned the video, “Four years ago, during dinner one night our beautiful little girl had a huge epiphany that shook her to her core…we all have to grow up.” The Frozen 2 star continued, “This heartbreaking moment is something I never shared publicly before because it was so personal. Our Nanny at the time, Sara, did such a remarkable job helping guide her through this difficult “coming of age” moment and I constantly look back at it as a reminder of the fragility of youth and our struggle to make sense of our place in this rapid world.”

Gad went on to explain the impact his daughter’s realization had on his Frozen 2 character, “It just so happens that I shared this video with our brilliant Frozen 2 team at the time and said, I believe this should be Olaf’s journey in Frozen 2.” The actor opened up about how this moment (and the video clip) shaped Olaf’s journey, telling the Hollywood Reporter, “I showed it to [Frozen 2 directors] Chris and Jennifer, who both had smiles on their faces. I think that they both had the same instincts—that it was time for Olaf to grow up.”

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Disney’s Frozen 2 via Instagram 

 

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