Photo: Dr. Cook

When learning to drive a car, one of the most important things they teach you is to always be aware of the blind spots, (you know, the areas around the car that you aren’t able to see). But, did you know our brains and eyes also have blind spots? And, as it turns out, these blind spots can have a big impact on our perception of the world around us, including how we think about race.

Before we can begin understanding the complex and overlapping interplay of how race impacts a person’s life, we must first understand how our brain processes information and how hidden biases influence unconscious decisions. This is arguably some of the most important work we can do in raising kids who understand and actively work against racism.

How Our Brains Process Information

Did you know that even the way our eyes relay information to the brain includes blind spots? We all have fields of vision where we can’t see but our brains fill in the missing information for us. If you’d like to see how this works, this test will show you. Take a moment to check it out and then rejoin us.

So what does this have to do with racism, or any -ism for that matter? Well, not only does your brain fill in visual blanks, but it also fills in unknown information about people we meet without us even being aware that it’s happening.  

Along with the physical blind spot in our eyes, humans also have psychological blind spots called hidden biases which factor into every decision we make. These channels include automatic, unconscious, and unintentional thoughts presented in a nice bundle that we perceive as our own intentional thought even though our brains filled in some of the information for us.

What Is a Hidden Bias?

Hidden biases are actually bits of information we’ve accumulated over the years about various social groups we’ve encountered or heard about from parents, friends, family, observations, TV, games, etc. Remember, more information is “caught than taught” in the form of observations and unintentional “lessons” learned by watching how people interact with one another. All of this is to say, we’ve formed some of our biases unconsciously and it takes conscious work to become aware of how these influence our thoughts. The field of psychology now generally accepts that some human behavior is driven unconsciously and that we can be influenced by hidden biases.

So What Can We Do about All of This?

So how do you change these unconscious thoughts about people you’ve never even met? Below is a list of things you can do which will begin rewiring your brain and help minimize hidden biases.

1. Find Out What Your Biases Are:  Two psychologists, Mahzarin Banaji and Anthony Greenwald, have spent their careers studying ways to assess hidden biases. They developed the Implicit Association Test (IAT) which is able to pull back our own curtain and peek into our “unconscious” mind. Be prepared though, because the results may surprise you. Click here to take a test or two.

2. Take Some Courses Focused on Overcoming Hidden Bias: The Kirwan Institute for the Study of Race and Ethnicity developed an online course to help people decrease hidden associations/biases by doing daily recommended activities. Click here to learn more.

3. Actively Seek Out Making Friends of a Different Race: Think about your 3 best friends. Studies have predicted they are all the same race as you. (Of course, there are always outliers). Hanging out with friends of the same race isn’t bad. However, limiting your exposure to people outside of your “in-group” (a term used in psychology to describe people who share certain characteristics) is said to perpetuate both positive and negative stereotypes about “others” and are maintained by a lack of connection to people outside of said “group.”  So, make some new friends. Start a local “Meet-Up” group in your neighborhood and model for your children how to reach out and connect to others. 

 4. Expose Yourself to Counter-stereotyping Imagery:  To change the narrative, you must change the imagery and associations. One way to do this is as simple as switching up your screensaver.  Have positive pictures of people of all colors and cultures rotate across the screen. Watch shows starring people of color in leading and heroic roles. Make sure the shows and cartoons your children watch offer a variety of ethnicity and culture which is accurately depicted. If a show you are watching starts playing into negative stereotypes shut it off.  Seek out new friends on your social media accounts that share common interests as you but come from a different culture. 

5. Learn about People You Admire from Underrepresented Groups: Researchers have proven that by simply admiring someone who is different from you can undo hidden biases. So order a book or two about someone you’ve always wanted to learn more about and start reading.  

It’s not easy facing our hidden biases. Personally, I was quite surprised at some of my results on the IAT test and have already ordered a bunch of books and am reaching out to make new friends in my neighborhood. For long-term positive changes in our society against racism, the change needs to begin at home, with you.  

And, if we want our children to grow up and embrace all the diversity the world has to offer, we must model the behaviors we wish to see. That means reading books, watching different shows, going out of your way to invite a family over for dinner and talking about tough issues like race and society. 

Our kids need to see us taking steps toward understanding. By becoming aware of our hidden biases we are able to work on changing our thoughts and actions towards those who are different from us.

This post originally appeared on Mable and Moxie.

I am a 42-year-old biological mother of two young children in a same-sex relationship, a clinical psychologist with a specialty in neuropsychological assessment, a music therapist, a trainer of therapy dogs and ex-communicated Mormon from Indiana with a wicked sense of humor. 

Bay Area families have gotten pretty creative with homeschool and stay-at-home activities. And while we’re all trying to keep our chin up, we’re not gonna lie: there are things we are starting to really, really miss. Here are 13 things we’re looking forward to being able to do again.

Wendy C via Yelp

Stand in line to get a Malted Vanilla ice cream at BiRite Creamery. Or maybe Mint Chip...or Salted Caramel. Make that all of the above. 

Amber Guetebier

Visit Yerba Buena gardens for a dash behind the waterfall at the MLK memorial before hitting the LeRoy King Carousel and riding it no less than twenty times. 

Francine B via Yelp

Spend the afternoon listening to the constant din of a hundred happy children at the Koret Children's Playground, and zipping down the Cement Slide with the reckless abandon of a five-year-old. 

John D. via Yelp

Roam the crowded streets of Chinatown on a Saturday afternoon, letting the kids go in and out of stores seeking treasures like rice-paper fans and embroidered Mary Jane slippers. 

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Go to a library story time at our favorite neighborhood library, but especially Drag Queen Story Hour.

Chantal Lamers

Ride the Little Puffer at the SF Zoo more than once while the peacocks scream and the monkeys cackle, after posing for pictures at all the IG-worthy spots. 

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Wait patiently while someone else makes you a pour-over coffee. Like really, really patiently. 

Robin Eagan

Not cooking at home, but instead hitting up Off the Grid anywhere, but especially the Presidio Picnic, where we can all eat exactly what we want (hello inside-out samosa! hello mini donuts!) and dance to live music while we're doing it. 

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Get mopped at 826 Valencia after bartering for lard, followed by admiring the beautiful murals throughout the Mission. Followed by a visit to Dolores Park to enjoy the view, the playground and the weather, with ALL those other people. 

Kate Loweth

Drink out of a toilet at the Exploratorium. 

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Watch our kids make spontaneous friendships at a public gathering. Any public gathering. 

Maria P via Yelp

Head to the Saturday Farmer's Market at the Ferry Building for the best peaches in the universe, which don't really transport, so you have to eat them right there by the Bay. 

Kathryn Whitney courtesy California Academy of Sciences

Take the kids to Golden Gate Park to see the jellyfish at the Cal Academy, followed by eating french fries at the deYoung's cafe, followed by a run through the SF Botanical Garden. Not necessarily in that order. 

—Amber Guetebier

featured image: Robin Eagen

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Kids break dancing against a laser-light backdrop, toddlers finger painting without making any mess at all and tiny artists admiring their sculptures displayed among blue chip masterpieces—all this and more happens inside the brand new de Youngsters Studio, an interactive (and always FREE) play space and gallery at the de Young Museum. Read on for all the details!

Designed to Spark Curiosity
The first thing kids see upon entering the new de Youngsters Studio is a large glowing pillar, alight with floating, glowing splotches of primary color. Instinct immediately kicks in and the kids slap their hands on the orbs. In response, they splatter and combine, creating new shapes and hues.

Each of the half dozen activities within the studio exhibit the same pull on kids—they are drawn to it and immediately start touching and creating, learning as they go how each activity works. There are also additional elements and explanations that inspire adults to engage and further explain concepts to the kids. This is by design. The de Young tapped the award-winning design firms fuseproject, headed by Yves Béhar and Tellart to design the space and activities. “We designed unique digital experiences that involve the kids physically: with their hands, body and mind they explore their own creative practice and understanding,” says Béhar. “To me this represents the possibilities of physical and digital learning at the service of future artists and designers.”

So Many Mediums
As they explore, visitors move through five interconnected cubes. Even passing from one space to the other is an adventure: Kids pass through colorful waterfalls of canvas strips or around glowing or semi-translucent panels. Each cube houses a unique creative activity, allowing kids to experiment with color, texture and sculpture. They learn about composition by arranging colored shapes on a light table and watching how the forms change in real time as they are projected on screens all around them.

In another space, the wall is laid with textured tiles. Those textures are replicated in a digital finger painting activity. Instead of selecting colors, kids choose which texture to draw with on large screens. Nearby, a wall flashes with colorful lasers that mimic the movement in front of it. Kids are inspired to dance, pose and spin to see how the colorful art will react.

Smart Screentime, Free For Everyone
For parents who might be wary of an art space dominated by so much digital, screen-based play, the museum emphasizes that the programs were designed in accordance with the recommendation of the American Academy of Pediatrics: The tech-based activities are carefully designed to create open-ended outcomes that are augmented when used with the help of an adult.

And while a visit to the studio is the perfect add-on to a day at the museum (we recommend checking it out in combination with Ranu Mukherjee: A Bright Stage, which blends tech, video, drawing, painting and choreography to stunning effect), because the de Youngsters Studio is located in the free, open-to-the-public part of the museum, you can always just drop in, no ticket required.

de Youngsters Studio
de Young Museum
50 Hagiwara Tea Garden Dr., San Francisco
415-750-3600.
Online: deyoung.famsf.org
Hours: Tues.-Sun., 9:30 a.m.-5:15 p.m. Opens to the public on Dec. 1
Cost: Admission to the deYoungsters Studio is free of charge

—photos and story by Erin Feher

If you’re looking for a cool alternative to the average art class, check out the Little Fish Comic Book Studio in Ocean Beach. Kids can unleash their inner superhero with a series of innovative classes that teach the basics of drawing, layout and page design. Get ready for creativity and imagination to run wild with some encouragement from instructors in this relaxed learning environment. Take a look at how students discover their passion for storytelling while learning new skills and abilities.


This cozy, one of a kind studio is nestled in a small beach community, and is the perfect place to get away and let your kiddo’s artistic juices flow. A variety of classes are offered year round. Kids can study topics like drawing, inking, character design, and digital creation.

Owner Alonso Nunez is approachable and embraces newcomers. He likens students to “little fish” (hence the name), that help each other succeed and overcome obstacles in order to make great comics. Each class emphasizes working together and inspiring others to pursue their goals. And the inspiration doesn’t stop with the classes; even the bathroom is lined with comics.

Little Fish also hosts a free, monthly Saturday Morning Cartooning class. This is a great way for future students to learn a little comic book history, and maybe even make a new friend or two. Be sure to check out the awesome studio library. The combination of images and words together are an incredible tool for beginning readers, and the library has titles accessible to everyone.

How do free donuts sound? Join Little Fish for one of their monthly Comic Book Savvy events and score some sweet treats, plus some awesome conversation with professionals, fans, students and media. The studio’s doors are open for browsing the library, admiring artwork from comic creators and students, and checking out the comic book scene. This is a casual, relaxing evening where there are no rules or guidelines, just mingling and having fun.

Don’t forget about summer camp! Kids can have fun this summer by creating their very own characters and learning how to pencil, ink and color a comic page. Little Fish provides all the materials. At the end of the week, campers will be proud of their very own comic story creation.

Little Fish Comic Book Studio
4837 Voltaire St.
San Diego, Ca 92107
619-356-1103
Online: lilfish.us

— Marissa Mullen

Everyone knows about the bigger, popular parks in Seattle’s family-friendly Queen Anne neighborhood, but we’ve found some hidden kid-friendly gems that are worth exploring. Next time you’re in Queen Anne, add one of these eight Queen Anne parks to your must-visit list!

12th West & West Howe Park
A tiny little neighborhood park that’s perfect for little ones, there isn’t much more than a sandpit and benches to sit on, but as parents know, sometimes that’s all you need for some outdoor fun! There is also a small patch of grass, so bring a blanket to sit on and a picnic lunch.
Located on West Howe Street at 12th Avenue West on the South West Slope of Queen Anne

Bayview-Kinnear Park (pictured)
Ever been admiring the view at Kerry Park and notice the little playground down below? This is Bayview-Kinnear Park! Not only does this playground have some of the coolest slides in Seattle, but the playground equipment is also very fun and innovative. Kids also love the rock climbing wall that’s built into the side of the park.
Located on W Prospect Street at Third Avenue West on the Counterbalance side of Queen Anne

Bhy Kracke Park
Jump in the car and head to this great park, tucked into the hillside of Queen Anne! Kids will love the playground area, and parents will love the seriously amazing views of downtown Seattle. There is also lots of grass for kids to run around in and a large undercover picnic area, perfect if it starts to drizzle.
Located at 1215 Fifth Avenue N, up the hill from the Seattle Center

Mayfair Park
What a sweet little park this is! Just a few blocks away from Queen Anne’s popular Rodgers Park, you’ll be surprised to find this play area tucked at the end of this block. A great place to escape a crowded playground.
Located at 2600 Second Avenue North, near Rodgers Park 

Parsons Garden
Looking for a new picnic spot? You’ll be amazed by this gorgeous piece of picnicking heaven on Queen Anne! Located just down the block from Seattle’s famous Kerry Park, the garden doesn’t have a playground, but it does have a lush piece of grass and pretty flowers to peek at.
Located at Seventh Avenue W and W Highland Drive

Soundview Terrace Park (Rachel’s Playground)
Rachel’s Playground is certainly a neighborhood favorite, but families who live outside of Queen Anne may not know about this great playground and park. This park holds special meaning for Queen Anne residents – it’s a memorial to a special Queen Anne family.
Located at 2500 – 11th Avenue W 

Trolley Hill Park
One of Queen Anne’s newer parks, Trolley Hill is another great spot to pack up a picnic lunch and enjoy some time outdoors. There isn’t a traditional playground here, but plenty of other fun things to keep little ones busy, including a P-Patch!
Located at Fifth Avenue N and Blaine Street

Ward Springs Park
With a super cool, big playground and fun grass hills to run up and down, Ward Springs is another one of Queen Anne’s newer parks that is still mostly used by people who live close by. Parents will especially love this playground because it’s set up off the road, so they don’t have to worry about little ones getting too close to cars.
Located on Ward Street at Fourth Avenue N

Queen Anne families – we’d love to know what your favorite park in the neighborhood is! Or, if you don’t live in Queen Anne, which park do you always make a stop at when you’re in the neighborhood?

— Katie Kavulla

 

Trains at Carkeek – Photo by Tim & Shannon Stauffer

Spotting Trains Around Seattle

Were your toddler’s first words “choo choo?” Are you up to your eyeballs in Thomas paraphernalia? Enough with the toys…sounds like a trip with the kids to see a real, live train is in order! From Downtown Seattle to the Snoqualmie Valley, we’ve got the scoop on the best train viewing spots around Seattle.

OLYMPIC SCULPTURE PARK
Take the kids to Belltown and head over to the Olympic Sculpture Park’s BNSF bridge, where you can view the trains from above (26 feet up!) while admiring Teresita Fernández’s laminated glass art installation atop the bridge.  While you’re there, make a day of it with a picnic lunch on the sculpture park lawn (pack your own or pick something up at the park’s sustainable-food focused TASTE Café), explore the park, then make your way down to Seattle’s Myrtle Edwards Park on the waterfront for some rock skipping into Elliott Bay.

CARKEEK PARK
Railroad tracks run the length of Carkeek Park in northwest Seattle, where you can view the trains from the beach or from the pedestrian bridge that crosses the railroad tracks, connecting the park to the beach. Have your kids wave to the conductor from the bridge, and you might get rewarded with a toot of the horn!

KIDS, TRAINS AND LUNCH
If it’s raining outside, or if you’re just up for some lunch with your train viewing, check out Wild Wheat Bakery Cafe and Restaurant in downtown Kent. Ask for a window booth, sit your kids down, and watch the trains go zooming by.

SEATTLE’S NORTHWEST RAILWAY MUSEUM
The Northwest Railway Museum in Snoqualmie is housed in a restored turn of the 1900s depot. Admission is free, and guests can wander through exhibits on railroad history in what were once train depot waiting rooms. From there, you can get your kids tickets for the Snoqualmie Valley Railroad – a five mile train ride aboard an antique railroad train. See the website for times and ticket prices.

—Heidi Unruh