It’s hard to imagine how you’re going to juggle all the things when you go back to work after having a baby. On top of your actual job, there’s the laundry and cooking and grocery shopping, the emails from school, the playdates, and your bigger kid’s sweatpants suddenly having holes in every knee. It’s a lot. So we asked 25 working moms to share their best piece of advice, and boy did they deliver—with tips on everything from streamlining your home life to actually, realistically carving out time for yourself.

The Juggle Is Real

Plan the week out in person
“Every Sunday evening, my husband and I sit down and review the week ahead (logistics, upcoming events, to-dos, etc.) and create a one-page document that we print out and leave in an easy-to-see spot. We reference it all week! This exercise helps me get a hold of the ongoing mental list heading into the week.”

Do the small things first
“The best piece of advice I ever got was to live by the one-minute rule. Essentially, you do any task that takes a minute or less immediately. Don’t microwave your coffee, don’t call a friend, don’t pass go and collect $200—just do it now. All those little distractions add up to some aggressively long to-do lists and as working moms, we simply don’t have time for that. So if you bring in the mail, don’t plop it down to deal with later—just go through it right away and throw out the junk. If you get an email from the school that requires an easy response, get it over with. By getting all these little things out of the way ASAP you’re making more time for the big stuff, and we all need more time for the big stuff.”

Go ahead, take the shortcut
“Working full-time with young kids is hard, no doubt about it. Do what you have to do to get through the day, because some days are harder than others. Grilled cheese (for the fourth time this week)? Why not! A little extra screen time so you can complete a task that can no longer wait? Go for it. Sometimes, it’s about survival. These don’t have to be the moments that define you as a mom. These are the moments that let you keep the ship afloat so you can be the mom you really want to be.”

Prep the night before
“Whether you need to leave the house to go to work daily or once a week, make that morning as streamlined as possible. Shower the night before if you can. Plan your outfit and the kids’ clothes. Pack lunches. The easier it is for you to get ready, the easier it is to get out the door, and the smoother your day will be.”

Take allll the help
“My advice is to take any help you can get. Don’t try to be a hero. It literally takes a village. Know who you can count on for carpools and when you can share responsibilities with people you trust.”

Divide and conquer (and reevaluate regularly)
“I was the primary parent for many years, and even though I am now working full-time, I’m the primary parent in many ways. There are times when this becomes too much and the anger can build. Why do I need to still take care of the stuff I did before? The answer is, I don’t. This may mean our house is messier for longer, or the kids don’t get as many playdates, but inevitably, we started new routines and new schedules to balance out the division of labor. And if it feels like it’s not working again, it’s back to the drawing board to figure out a new routine. Don’t expect to have it all figured out right away. You need to try things out for a bit, sit with it, and adjust as needed.”

Switch up nighttime routines
“When it comes to the daily routine, try not to have one parent do bath time and bedtime every night. We have always had one parent clean up after dinner and the other handle the bedtime routine. And then the next night we switch, although it can be hard if mom is nursing. My husband would do everything to get the baby ready for bed, and I would nurse as the final step. Then your baby gets used to both parents, not only mom, at bedtime.”

Take the Zumba class
“A co-worker of mine once told me when my kids were really young how important it is for moms to have a life outside of their kids. At the time I would rush from work to pick them up from daycare when what I really wanted to do was attend the Zumba class that was held at our office. She encouraged me to do that and it really was life-changing. Now, I regularly leave them to travel and they have developed so many great life skills from me not always being home. Plus they see me following my dreams even as an adult which I think is so important.”

Work Life

Never apologize
“Do not apologize for saying ‘I need to go pick up my kids.’ Anything having to do with caring for your kids does not need an apology. To anyone. Ever. Be gracious and polite and tactful as the situation calls for, but don’t tell anyone you’re sorry you need to be a parent.”

Talk about your littles
“When I first had my daughter, I was reluctant to talk about parenting with clients and colleagues. I didn’t want anyone to assume that motherhood would get in the way of my performance. But I’ve come to realize that commiserating about potty training is actually a great way to break the ice and forge relationships with the parents I work with. These days, if I know a client or colleague has kids, I make a point of asking about them. This approach might not be right for every workplace, but it’s been effective for me.”

Seek out mother mentors
“Create a village at work to support you. Find mentors to help guide you as you make potentially new career decisions as a working mother. It’s great to engage women for your personal board of directors who are a few steps ahead of you in the working motherhood journey. That way they can share what they did in your shoes as you find new opportunities.”

Know your rights
“Know your rights as a mother and what the law says about maternity leave, time off to care for sick kids, time off for doctor visits, pumping and privacy, etc. No one can take advantage of you when you can back things up with the law.”

Dual Identities

Set work and socialization boundaries
“It can become awkward if your office environment is a more social one and you have to/want to/need to go home to your family. If you do feel tension around this, speak to your manager. Explain your boundaries – it’s better to be upfront and have everyone understand the expectations. Just be aware that you’ll have to stay and play sometimes (and that’s OK!).”

Work-life balance takes work
“Work-life balance isn’t a 50/50 daily split. It’s intentionally making the time for the things that you really care about, using boundaries, prioritizing, and planning your time over the long term. If you don’t have boundaries, everything is harder when it comes to finding time for what you care about. The easiest way to maintain boundaries after you define them is to use your calendar. Block off time to indicate when your work day ends. Put time on your calendar when you know you’ll be focused on family. Carve out time for things like exercise and self-care.”

Take time to switch from mom mode to work mode
“I usually feel a little frazzled from the adrenaline of the morning rush, so I give myself 25 minutes to shake it off and prepare myself to start my work day. I pop on a chatty, fun podcast (or put on some feel-good music if that’s more my mood), and do a quick sweep of the spaces I need to use. I remove all of the obvious kid debris and mess so that the space feels more calm and ordered. Then I change into an outfit I feel good in and do a two-minute glow-up to hide the tired eyes. I take a moment to make a coffee or eat something nourishing in my garden; just five minutes or so to myself outside in nature to reset. Then I head to my desk and get started–work mode activated!”

Focus on one thing at a time
“Avoid multitasking when it comes to childminding and working at the same time—it’s a poor result for everyone if you’re attempting to work while spending time with your children and vice-versa.”

Advancing In Your Career

Work advancements may mean less
“Once I had kids, I knew that work no longer took priority for me. And even though I went back to work eventually, I no longer felt like I needed the ‘cool’ job or the better title. I liked being able to work again, but also being able to shut my computer off and be with my family. I am a full-time project manager at home, I don’t need to be one at my job.”

Make deals on the playground
“You know the old cliché that business deals are made on the golf course? Well, they can be made on the playground too! I’ve found that parents, and moms in particular, are willing to help fellow parents reach career goals. Leveraging my network of fellow moms has led to valuable business relationships and even new clients.”

Work smarter and put yourself first
“Before kids I considered myself a hard worker, staying late at the office, taking on tasks for which I wasn’t recognized, agonizing over every word in an email. I no longer have that time as a working mom. Now I say no to tasks that don’t serve me, walk away from time-sucking clients, and yes, send a few emails with typos. I’ve dialed down my efforts at work and I’ve found that the work I produce is just as good.”

Put pumping on the cal
“If you’re planning to pump, put that time on your calendar so it doesn’t get eaten up by other meetings or requests. People will know that you’re unavailable.”

Mom Guilt and Expectations

No one has all the answers
“Don’t let anyone, especially social media influencers or experts, tell you what you can or can’t do. Don’t get hooked into the narrative of the burnt-out mom if it doesn’t serve you. We’ll all get overwhelmed, but it’s not written in the sky that you can’t have what you want in all aspects of your life. We’re just told, a lot, that, no, we can’t. And I don’t buy it.”

A little sorry goes a long way
“There may be moments when you lose your cool with your kid. Trying to get out the door in the morning when you’re already late for work is an opportune time for this. When you cool off later that day or even later that week, apologize and admit you made a mistake. Everyone will feel better for it.”

So does a little one-on-one time
“Try to carve out a little time each day to focus on your kids. Even just 10 minutes of ‘golden time’ as they call it. Makes me feel less guilty for the time I don’t get to spend with them and sometimes it actually helps their behavior.”

Making Time For Yourself (Really Though)

Rise and shine
“I like to get up as early as I can muster to have some alone time before the rest of my family wakes up. I make coffee, read a few chapters of my book, and just generally let myself bask in the quiet. I find that when my kids do get up I’m more calm and prepared for whatever they throw my way (tantrums, fights, breakfast disasters). Some people call it the 5 a.m. club, but mine’s more 6 a.m. or later because I’m not a morning person at all. But I do go to bed as early as I can to make this work.”

Fresh air is your friend
“I like to go for a walk before work, even when I work from home, and I call it my commute. Alone time, fresh air, and steps make me feel more ready for the day.”

So many of us are scrambling to parent small people and bring home a paycheck. Doing so without losing it is nearly impossible. It’s a constant struggle to meet competing demands in a world that asks women to do it all, be it all, and look flawless at the same time. Yet somehow, we make it work—from harried mornings and lunchtime errands to that sacred, late-night Grocery Shopping Alone Time. What we don’t have time for is nonsense. And when you don’t have time for nonsense, the world’s mists clear. Priorities take hold: family, well-being, work. The rest falls by the wayside, including these unnecessary tasks.

1. Making elaborate meals

Working moms simply don’t have time to cook for hours every day. And even if they did whip up an incredible feast, their kids would take one look at that painstakingly prepared leg of lamb and drop to the floor whining for frozen dino nuggies. In the end, they’ll eat what they want to eat. My kids are going to eat ramen for dinner again tonight because they genuinely like it; we throw in chopped veggies for nutritional value, and it takes approximately five minutes to cook. Call me lazy. I prefer “clever.”

2. Attending work happy hours or after-work drinks (unless they want to)

I’m sure you’d have fun at your office mixer. Really. I bet Bob from IT has fascinating stories about his collection of samurai movies and/or birdwatching jaunts. Personally, I’d rather not spend an extra two hours in forced proximity with the people I’m already communicating with eight hours a day, five days a week, when I have three children and a spouse at home. We have almost nothing in common other than a job. Let’s not pretend.

3. Guilting ourselves about not volunteering at school

It would be nice to sell cookies at the during-school-hours class bake sale or tickets for the school dance or . . . you get the idea. Unfortunately, mom’s gotta make money. I will not feel guilty for refusing to use my precious, precious vacation days to hawk goods or perform other tasks easily accomplished by a handful of gifted kids. Can’t you bribe a fifth grader for that?

4. Throwing over-the-top birthday parties

Some kids’ gift bags come with live goldfish. My kids’ party guests are lucky if their brown paper bags have the crunchy snack variety. I have time for birthday parties 1980s style: cakes and chaotic screaming. But there’s a huge secret to birthday parties that Martha Stewart won’t ever tell you—the cake and the screaming? That’s the really fun part, anyway.

5. Attending useless meetings

There’s only one thing worse than an office mixer: a meeting that should have been an email. Between kids and work, my time is more than money. My time is time. I could be making my kids’ dentist appointments, but I’m being lectured about the proper use of a new program for the… third time? Hand me the highlight reel. Better yet, let me attend virtually (so I can mute you and make those dentist appointments).

6. Keeping in touch with people who do not spark joy

Being a working mom means I have to Marie Kondo my life. Do you embrace toxicity? You’re gone. Do you drag me down or build me up? If it’s the former, you’re out. This is both a self-preservation mechanism and a time-saver. I don’t have the mental energy or spare minutes to waste on people who don’t bring something to the table. If you’re not adding value to my life in some way, it’s a hard pass. That means you, Jen from high school, who always works the conversation around your multi-level marketing scheme, and you, cousin Phil, who always ends up talking about “What The Real Crime Is.”

7. Getting involved in work/office drama

The office is not Game of Thrones, and I don’t have time to play Cersei Lannister. Your drama is not my drama. Moms go to work because we have to work, and maybe because we like to work, but we don’t have time for your petty machinations. Office drama sucks up energy, and I save mine for things that matter, like a child barfing all over my bathroom floor at 2 a.m.—you never know when that’ll happen, and you have to be ready. (It’s sort of like being a ninja. But in a low-grade way, with a mop, a lot of willpower, and a strong stomach.)

8. Making Pinterest crafts

They’re twee and cute. They require $200 worth of supplies from three different stores and two hours of DIY fun followed by an hour of cussing and a child meltdown. All that, and they end up looking lopsided anyway. Maybe you can get them picture-perfect. If so, you can pin them and I’ll admire them from afar. Deal?

9. Making ourselves available at all hours

I come home; the email gets ignored. Sorry, but I’m only available during business hours (hence the name). Email is not a magic summoning button, and last I checked, I wasn’t a genie caught in a lamp. These are the boundaries we all keep talking about with our kids, and unless working moms set them for themselves, we’re trapped. So we learn, or we’re miserable. If you’re in an industry where that’s impossible, I’m so sorry—I can only offer only hugs and condolences.

10. Apologizing when we have to stop working

I will not apologize for not working when I can hardly speak or rise from bed. I’ve seen women work while in labor, work five hours after giving birth, work through Covid, work a few days after a mastectomy . . . the list goes on. I will not be one of them. Work can go on without me.

And if my kids are the ones laid up with hand, foot, and mouth disease or pink eye or whatever it happens to be? Same deal. They will only be small once, and they will not look back on that smallness and think my mother wasn’t there. I don’t have to answer to my boss on my deathbed, and he won’t pick my nursing home (if I can ever afford one).

11. Trying to do it all on our own

Cold, hard fact: You need help. You need a village. You need a partner, friends, teachers, family—anyone. You need a team. And if you truly don’t have one, you need to find one, if only for the sake of your children. These are people who can pick up your slack, make you feel better after a bad day, keep your kids when you need a break, and make you laugh when you need some comedy. And you can do it right back for them when they’re in need. Moms can’t do it all. No one should expect us to. It was mean of them to think we could in the first place.

Ask yourself: Does it make your life better? Does it make your kids’ lives better? No? Then you don’t have time for it. Simple as that.

One thing I’ve learned as a parent is that getting through all the tantrums, the endless chauffeuring, and the rejected dinners is so much easier with a trip on the horizon to look forward to—even if it’s months down the road. If you’re thinking about your next adventure (spring break is just around the corner), might we put Puerto Vallarta on your radar, if it isn’t already? I recently flew down to Mexico’s Pacific coast for the first time and, from the beautiful beaches and lush mountains to adventure sports and incredible food, it’s fair to say that I’m hooked. The only issue is that I can’t decide whether to go back with my kids or just my husband (we’re long overdue for some alone time). So I’m going to give you the rundown on both options because there are so many things to do in Puerto Vallarta and there’s definitely something for everyone.

Puerto Vallarta for the littles

No family vacation is drama-free, from sibling brawls to stomach bugs, but hopefully your kids can pick up some of the beach town’s chilled vibes. I’ve spent a few trips with my two littles at all-inclusives in other parts of Mexico where we didn’t leave the resort at all, and even though we had a great time, by the end of the trip you start to feel the monotony of it all. So I loved having a safe and vibrant town to explore when you need to switch things up, and I know my kindergartener and first-grader would too.

What to do with kids

Visiting the Malecon is one of the best things to do in Puerto Vallarta
The Malecon in Puerto Vallarta

Wander the Malecon: Kiddies can live their best lives in PV, starting on the Malecon—an esplanade that runs along the beach in the heart of town where you’ll spot a cluster of giant rocking horses inviting tourists big and small to go for a ride. There’s plenty of colorful art and bronze sculpture to discover along the mile-long boardwalk, not to mention tub after tub of silky Mexican ice cream. You’ll find plenty of beaches, restaurants, and shops to explore and you can catch a free show at the open-air amphitheater, Los Arcos.

Get turnt at the TiLT Museum: You’ll love this mind-bending spot as much as your kids—just make sure your phone is fully charged because you’ll be taking a lot of pics as you wander through the different interactive 3D murals. Pose as if you’re painting a portrait of Frida Khalo, hop onto some scaffolding to pretend to make graffiti, and hang ten on a surfboard with dolphins diving overhead. Artist Tracy Lee Stum (whose other museum happens to be in New Jersey) will turn your world upside down.

Lush greenery and flowers at the Puerto Vallarta Botanical Gardens
Vallarta Botanical Gardens

Head to the gardens: Your kids are going to want to look out for Ping Pong, the cutest little dog who belongs to one of the guides (and has a hilarious tendency to growl at the gardeners). But you’ll be too distracted by the gorgeous growth on these 180 hectares of carefully conserved land at Vallarta Botanical Gardens (VBG), from the most spectacular orchids to vanilla bean plantations (the process to grow them is wild). I’d recommend having a guide take you through to better understand the plants and wildlife, take age-appropriate hikes, and have a cooling dip in the Los Horcones River. Oh, and don’t miss the pet cemetery where lots of locals have buried their beloved dogs, cats, and birds. When everyone starts getting hangry, grab some fish tacos and chips with guac on the premises at Hacienda de Oro (and reward yourself for being awesome parents with a Vanilla Bean Mojito).

Go for a snorkel: Call up Captain Dave of Ol’ Salty’s Ranch to charter a boat for the afternoon and head to Los Arcos de Mismaloya, a striking natural rock formation that gives Amalfi vibes and has some amazing snorkeling for all ages. Our in-water guide was Tatiana from Mexico Real Tours and she was so informative and so. much. fun. Lounge about on the boat snacking on seasonal fruit (with an optional sprinkle of Tajin) and stop by Playa Colomitos, Mexico’s teeny tiniest beach. Banderas Bay is also the spot for whale-watching (Humpbacks, in particular). Look into this if you happen to be in PV at the right time of year, from December to March and note that some tours only take kids ages 6 and up.

Set sail with some pirates: Are you the best parent ever? Now you arrrr! Take your crew on a six-hour adventure on the high seas aboard a real wooden pirate ship. You’ll get breakfast and lunch, plus a full-on pirate show with acrobatics, song, and dance. And don’t worry, you won’t have to deal with any cabin fever thanks to a stop at Majahuitas Island, a natural reserve where families can kayak, snorkel, play beach volleyball, and go on a treasure hunt.

A teen rappelling down a mountain, one of the coolest things to do in Puerto Vallarta
Visit Puerto Vallarta

Find some adventure: If you’ve got older kids who love being active there are so many outdoor activities to tackle, and a great tour operator is Canopy River. You can try a ziplining circuit through the mountains or ride a raft down river rapids, and there’s also rapelling, hiking, parasailing, and more.

Where to stay: Velas Vallarta

The lush grounds at Velas Vallarta, a great family friendly all-inclusive in puerto vallarta
Velas Vallarta

For an all-inclusive experience just 20 minutes from the center of town and a few minutes from the marina, head to Velas Vallarta. The family-friendly resort is big and bustling but with 345 suites it’s not overwhelming. Large rooms easily adapt to the size of your family thanks to connecting doors that add additional bedrooms when needed, and two-bedroom family suites include a kitchen (hello, early morning cereal), dining area, living room, and balcony. There are several pools to cool off and a kid’s club for ages 4-12 that runs from 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. each day (programming includes sports like tennis and soccer, board games, crafts, sand castle competitions, treasure hunts, and movie nights). Two restaurants, one of which is practically on the beach, serve up international fare, and snack stations with Mexican goodies and ice cream help keep between-meal mood swings at bay.

The inside of the kids club at Velas Vallarta in puerto vallarta
Velas Vallarta Kids Club

Puerto Vallarta for the bigs

Richard Burton fell for Puerto Vallarta after spending time there filming The Night of the Iguana. After buying his own casita, he surprised his then-lover Elizabeth Taylor with the house across the street, called Casa Kimberly (now a gorgeous boutique hotel). The pair built a bridge between the two homes, which the hot-headed couple probably used as much for storming out of each others’ houses as they did for secret rendezvous free from paparazzi. Let the spirit of Richard and Elizabeth’s steamy romance(s) reignite your passion on a parents-only trip to PV.  After a decade of marriage and two kids, my husband and I are due to get away and remember that despite the uncapped toothpaste and nagging and overall exhaustion, we really do love each other.

What to do with your partner

Explore the Cuale River Island: In the heart of downtown Puerto Vallarta is a narrow strip of land dividing the Centro and Zona Romantica districts and running alongside the Cuale River, perpendicular to the ocean. If you walk the Malecon you’ll find an entrance to the small island, where you’ll be greeted by the River Cafe (which I hear has riotous New Year’s Eve parties). Beyond the cafe is a treasure trove of art galleries, shops, restaurants, and market stalls with so many lovely ceramics, silver jewelry, straw hats, paintings, and all kinds of souvenirs for your kids. Be ready to snap some pics around the rubber trees, with their signature exposed roots, and possibly some iguanas hanging around.

restaurant staff serving tacos al pastor from a spit as part of a street taco tour, which is one of the yummiest things to do in puerto vallarta
Tacos el pastor

Take a street taco tour: When’s the last time you had four blissful hours to wander around eating tacos and churros and drinking beer? Prioritize this! The six-ish tacos we tried at various stalls, stands and small family-owned eateries were better than any I’ve ever tasted, from the smoky marlin with chipotle sauce and beef cheek to the crispiest fish tacos and al pastor cooked shawarma-style with a hunk of pineapple dripping down from the top of the spit. Mid-tour we watched a couple make from-scratch churros on the street (unreal) and capped off the night in a super-cool raicilla bar (the local distilled spirit).

Spend the night at the theatre: Consider this date night 3.0. Grab tickets to ALMA, by Rhythms of the Night, a dinner show only accessible by water. After a sunset cruise (with an open bar, if that floats your boat), you and your boo have a candlelit dinner before heading to the open-air amphitheater for a musical telling of the story of Alma. It’s all about the Mexican people’s connection to animals, nature, and the spiritual world told with some serious acrobatics and special effects.

luxury catamaran sailing is one of the best things to do in puerto vallarta

Sail through the bay: Hop aboard a large catamaran or sailboat for some quiet luxury with your other half. I swear the views will make you forget you even own a phone. You’ll anchor up at a secret cove for some snorkeling, paddleboarding, and swimming, then have lunch and a few drinks before heading back to the marina.

Eat your heart out: I couldn’t get enough of the food in PV, and I’m not just saying that because I generally subsist on leftover French toast and Xtreme Cheddar Goldfish. Looking out on the Cuale River, my 10-course tasting menu at Tintoque was easily one of the best meals of my life (the 36-hour tomato stuffed with goat cheese was a revelation). It showcased the best of Mexico in the most uniquely creative and sumptuous way. I also had an amazing meal at Makal Gastronomica, where my cocktail came in a test tube and combined raicilla, coffee (because mom), and a cocoa drink called chilate.

a street with brightly lit bars in the Zona Romantica, one of the fun things to do in Puerto Vallarta
Zona Romantica

Live it up in the Zona Romántica: The nightlife is popping in the romantic zone, also known as Old Vallarta, which is one of the top LGBTQ+ destinations in Mexico. You’ll find everything from drag shows to mezcal bars and loads of world-class restaurants so you can live it up like you did before your schedule filled up with soccer practices and toddler gymnastics.

a couple giving the thumbs up while driving an atv over jorullo bridge, one of the most fun things to do in puerto vallarta
ATV Tour on Jorullo Bridge

Go for a wild ride: If you’re looking for some couple’s adventure, join an ATV tour over what is said to be the world’s longest vehicular suspension bridge. Jorullo Bridge crosses the Cuale River at almost 500 feet, so it’s sure to get your adrenaline pumping. You can rip through the Sierra Madre Occidental on your own ATVs or cozy up on one and take turns driving. Tours often include a trip to the El Salto waterfall (bring bathers!) and a tequila tasting.

Where to stay: Casa Velas

The beautiful pool and Spanish facade at Casa Velas all-inclusive in Puerto Vallarta
Casa Velas

A sister resort to Velas Vallarta but without the little ones, Casa Velas is a luxe adults-only all-inclusive that’s a lot more intimate—and a whole lot quieter. From the moment you arrive and settle into a plush couch for the most relaxing check-in experience of your life (fruity tequila popsicles included), you can feel your entire body relax. Each of the boutique resort’s 80 suites is beautiful and spacious (mine had a personal plunge pool on the terrace) and I loved the overall Spanish Hacienda vibe. With just one main pool and one restaurant, it’s a slower lifestyle than your typical all-inclusive, perfect to unwind and reconnect. For a change of scenery, hop on the resort’s shuttle and it’s just a few minutes to Táu Beach Club with private ocean access and seaside eats, or book a round of golf at the Marina Vallarta golf course (you’ll save 25%). I’m more of a massage girl, and ABJA spa does not disappoint (be sure to take advantage of their hydrotherapy tub, sauna, and steam rooms).

The colorful suite at Casa Velas all-inclusive in puerto vallarta
Casa Velas

Editor’s Note: This trip was hosted by the Puerto Vallarta tourism board and all opinions are the editor’s own.

We know it’s so easy to get wrapped up in the day-to-day grind, and we’re right there with you. But we’ve also noticed that life moves a lot more smoothly when we feel especially connected with our partners. Problems get solved faster, stress is reduced, and that feeling of being supported just can’t be beat. And you know what? You’re both due for one of those little romantic getaways where PDA is highly encouraged (public and private displays of affection, that is), chicken nuggets aren’t on the menu, and remembering why you love each other is almost guaranteed. These romantic Airbnbs are just the place to do it.

Below are some of our favorite leave-the-kids-at-home-for-this-trip destinations around the U.S. Beaches, forests, cottages, and mansions are all included in these romantic getaways. You and your honey can start reconnecting just by picking one together (and isn’t that part of the fun?). Now, you two love birds, pick your pleasure (wink) and get ready for some well-deserved alone time.

Hygge Hus | Deming, WA

Airbnb

What Makes It Special: The Danish word ‘hygge’ means an overall vibe of coziness and comfort that leads to a feeling of contentment. So, yeah, Hygge Hus had us from the start. It’s the dreamiest mountain cabin that includes an outdoor 4′ cedar hot tub with views of the forest all around you. Talk about romance.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.99/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “5+ stars for property and for hosts! Everything about this stay was flawless start to finish. We will definitely be returning for future visits. Sharing this home with friends and coworkers as a great weekend escape!”—Andrea, December 2023

Sleeps: 4

Cost Per Night: $464.00

Book Hygge Hus on Airbnb Here!

 

Charming Cottage | Biscayne Park, FL

Airbnb

What Makes It Special: A guest house with a tropical garden and stunning pool? Perfection. Add a tiki hut and beach access and you have all the makings of a super memorable destination.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.94/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “A beautiful intimate oasis with privacy, peace and quiet. I will definitely stay here again on my next visit to Miami. Thank you for our stay in your lovely cottage.” Gena, October 2023

Sleeps: 2

Cost Per Night: $150.00

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Naturalist Boudoir | Lumberton, TX

romantic getaways

What Makes It Special: Two words: suspended. bed. Suspended bed! This property is extremely private, with an outdoor hot tub and shower, so you can reconnect with nature. And, more importantly, with your sweetheart.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.91/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “This place is UNBELIEVABLE! Peaceful hardly says enough. Alina also paid attention to my needs– I told her it was my husband’s birthday & she left a little surprise for him. I couldn’t be more happy & grateful.” Terri, December 2023

Sleeps: 2

Cost Per Night: $307.00

Book the Naturalist Boudoir on Airbnb Here!

 

Upper Casita | Sedona, AZ

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What Makes It Special: Spa access? That’s a clear ‘yes’, but there’s more. This apartment is located in one of the highest areas in Sedona, the view is outstanding, and the romantic kiva fireplace just adds to the romance. That’s why you’re going, right?

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Guest Rating: 4.97/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “Magical, Magnificent, Marvelous….need I say more? By far one of the most special Airbnb’s in Sedona. The views are amazing! Iona and Huib have transformed a very unique property into a tranquil, private and peaceful retreat for your Sedona stay. So many special touches to make you feel welcome and comfortable! A true gem! Can’t wait to return to Eagle Dancer!” Bridgette, November 2023

Sleeps: 2

Cost Per Night: $399.00

Book Upper Casita on Airbnb Here!

 

Suite Seven | Malibu, CA

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What Makes It Special: First of all, you absolutely can’t beat the view of beautiful Carbon Beach, especially with that daybed overlooking the ocean. And, of course, there’s beach access for those long walks together.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.97/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “We spent the weekend at Malibu Suites for my husband’s birthday. The photos do not give it the full feel of this beach front slice of heaven. If you love peace, golden sunsets, soft sand at your door step, walks/hikes and nightlife at your fingertips (Nobu bar and restaurant conveniently next door) this is the place. I have driven past Carbon Beach countless times and was so happy to finally have the chance to spend a weekend here. Thank you Malibu Suites staff for making this a trip of a lifetime!!” Toni, October 2023

Sleeps: 4

Cost Per Night: $450.00

Book Suite Seven on Airbnb Here!

 

L’Hermione Cottage | Orland, ME

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What Makes It Special: Remodeled from an old barn, this darling little guest house cottage in Orland, ME, is surrounded by 3.5 acres of wooded area and is set completely independently and away from the main house (a beautiful 18th century home!). It’s just a short walking distance from the Orland River, too. If you have Anne of Green Gables dreams, this is the place to live them out (and yes, we know that took place in the late 19th century, but we’re sticking with our Anne idea).

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Guest Rating: 4.99/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “We were blown away by this gorgeous place and the extra mile hospitality. It was very pretty with all the quintessential New England vibes and absolutely [spotlessly] clean. Everything you could need and wish for for a relaxing, cosy and peaceful stay in Maine.” Lucy, October 2023

Sleeps: 4

Cost Per Night: $100.00

Book L’Hermione Cottage on Airbnb Here!

 

The Nest | Hot Spring, AR

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What Makes It Special: Yes, that is indeed a luxury tent you’re looking at that essentially offers 5-star amenities. Hot tub. Heated outdoor shower. Deep soaking tub in a gorgeous bathroom. It’s surrounded by woods and definitely gives us lovey-dovey vibes.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.87/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “We booked the nest for our honeymoon and it was absolutely perfect! It was private and cozy, but close enough to town to get dinner or so fun nearby activities. All the amenities were amazing and we just could not have enjoyed our stay anymore!” Sidney, December 2023

Sleeps: 4

Cost Per Night: $279.00

Book the Nest on Airbnb Here!

 

ABODE³ at East Zion | Orderville, UT

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What Makes It Special: This fully customized tiny home feels anything but tiny when you’re surrounded by some of the most expansive views in the country! It sits on more than an acre of land and surrounded by alfalfa farms and the magnificent East Zion White Cliffs. The extra touches (including a hot tub!) make this one incredible space.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.93/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “The adobe provided a luxurious place to crash and relax after a long day of hiking in Zion! They thought of everything from provided coffee and creamer to a super comfy bed, an amazing hot tub, a fantastic and trendy shower/bathroom, and we even used the washer/drier! And the view was unreal! It was exactly the relaxing getaway that I needed. 10/10 will recommend to anyone traveling to Zion!” Melissa, June 2023

Sleeps: 2

Cost Per Night: $139.00

Book ABODE³ at East Zion on Airbnb Here!

 

Architectural Wonder in the Woods | Rhinebeck, NY

Airbnb

What Makes It Special: It goes without saying, but look at it. With an open floor plan and a property surrounded by the Hudson Valley woods, this stunner is heated geothermally and power comes from solar power. It’s secluded, but honestly, this house is a vacation in itself.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.91/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “10/10. Pictures do not do it enough justice. I was truly blown away by how amazing this place was. Such good energy inside we ended up cancelling some plans just to hangout in the house. [You] will not be disappointed if [you] stay here!” Joe, November 2023

Sleeps: 4

Cost Per Night: $468.00

Book the Architectural Wonder in the Woods on Airbnb Here!

 

The Rhino Room | Napa, CA

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What Makes It Special: The Rhino Room at Brookside Vineyard is bringing the romance (as vineyards tend to do). The property itself is secluded and situated on 3 acres and includes a semi-private patio with views of the vineyard and walking garden. It’s one of 2 guest suites, but the only shared space is the driveway, so you’ll still have plenty of privacy!

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.98/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “Our stay at the Rhino Room was wonderful! The location was absolutely stunning. Quiet, peaceful, beautiful, and almost made you want to just stay on property. It was a quick drive to everything you might need, and the room was spotless & cozy. We definitely plan on taking another trip and staying here again!!” Josephine, January 2024

Sleeps: 2

Cost Per Night: $195.00

Book the Rhino Room on Airbnb Here!

 

Dreamy Tropical Treehouse | Mountain View, HI

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What Makes It Special: Talk about luxury + seclusion. This jaw-dropping treehouse nestled on stilts 15′ up in the trees. The view is unmatched from the beautiful wraparound lanai, and even the bathroom makes you feel like you’re showering outdoors thanks to the floor-to-ceiling windows (don’t worry—it’s still private!). It’s a true level of paradise.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.85/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “This was the most uniquely beautiful Airbnb property I’ve ever stayed at. The treehouse was decorated incredibly and was squeaky clean. I recommend this Airbnb to couples looking for a romantic getaway. 5/5 stars for me. I would love to stay again! We really enjoyed our stay here.” Jamie, December 2023

Sleeps: 2

Cost Per Night: $250.00

Book the Dreamy Tropical Treehouse on Airbnb Here!

 

Sugarpoppy Cottage | Key West, FL

Airbnb

What Makes It Special: Quintessential Florida is all bundled into Sugarpoppy Cottage in Key West. A private pool, quiet street, and tropical hues make this one fabulous retreat.

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Guest Rating: No rating yet

What Guests Are Saying: “Loved our stay at Sugarpoppy! it was very clean and easy to find, and the check in and check out process was super simple. we had an issue with an AC unit and the Last Key team was there within an hour to take a look and they fixed it almost immediately, but also took our schedule into account and even sent us out to dinner while the work was done. loved the location super close to the action but really quiet. the backyard and pool felt like our very own private oasis and we spent a lot of time there! looking forward to staying with Last Key again when we come back to Key West!” Anna, June 2021

Sleeps: 6

Cost Per Night: $175.00

Book Sugarpoppy Cottage on Airbnb Here!

 

Dreamy Colorful Desert Oasis | Palm Springs, CA

Airbnb

What Makes It Special: The mountains. The huge pool. The mid-century modern atmosphere that Palm Spring is known for. We’re so in love with this space and how close it is to downtown Palm Springs, too.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.98/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “The Dream Home was an amazing place for me and my husband to sit back, relax, and enjoy Palm Springs. Everything was nice and clean, and was presented exactly as described and photographed. Steven and his team were friendly and quick, but thorough, on the walk through as we checked in. A few of my colleagues that have never been to Palm Springs want to book the Dream Home, too! Lovely little place.” Claire, November 2023

Sleeps: 2

Cost Per Night: $177.00

Book the Dreamy Colorful Desert Oasis on Airbnb Here!

 

French Quarter Mansion | New Orleans, LA

Airbnb

What Makes It Special: Located in the heart of the French Quarter, this historic mansion was built in 1820 and includes high ceilings, original wood floors, and a location that’s hard to beat in the Big Easy. The space has a balcony overlooking Dumaine street and Bourbon street and even includes a gorgeous common area courtyard.

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.58/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “Exceeded expectations. Host went above and beyond for us and the location was perfect. I would definitely stay again.” Makai, October 2023

Sleeps: 5

Cost Per Night: $223.00

Book the French Quarter Mansion on Airbnb Here!

 

Casita Benitez | Taos, NM

Airbnb

What Makes It Special: This boho New Mexican retreat is set in a 1950’s dance studio and includes original floors and beams. Including an interior hammock, an open space, and a clawfoot tub. It’s so whimsical (and Instagram-able!).

Airbnb

Guest Rating: 4.98/5 stars

What Guests Are Saying: “This casita and the whole Taos experience felt like pure magic. The casita is gorgeous and has the most beautiful energy and feel. It’s well-equipped, incredibly cozy and decorated in a boho style that flows impeccably with its history and the surroundings. We felt right at home here and can’t wait to return again.” Sanam, January 2024

Sleeps: 4

Cost Per Night: $132.oo

Book Casita Benitez on Airbnb Here!

 

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As parents, all too often, one day blurs right into the next. There are the endless to-dos, the steadfast routines, the mindless scrolling—and somehow, without noticing, joy just falls by the wayside. But we refuse to let that happen. 

Instead, we’re doubling down on the bright spots in your day: the silly smiles, ridiculous poses, and awestruck expressions of your favorite littles, which make it all worthwhile. Whether you’re revisiting those super-early days in calendar view, adding fun filters and stickers to your favorite memories, or kicking back and letting auto recaps and smart curation do the organizing for you, our private photo-sharing app allows you to re-live the magic. Helping parents capture and safely share those “blink-and-you’ll-miss-them” moments with friends and family near and far is the best job in the world, and it just so happens to be ours.

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More love, not likes

In our digital world, authentic connections matter more than ever. Our families should not be social currency; their experiences are not performances. Our kids are the reason we get out of bed (so, so early) in the morning, and the special memories we create together should be shared with the people who really know and love them.

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The truth is, every family is just a little bit weird. Lean into it, we say! It’s the quirky traditions, random nicknames, and inside jokes that make your crew who they are. Life is way less fun when you’re trying to fit the mold.

Privacy as a top priority

It’s almost instinctual to post, post, post for all the world to see. We’re rewarded with attention and dopamine bursts for our efforts. But who ends up accessing and owning our images and videos? That murkiness keeps us up at night, and it’s why we believe every parent should be able to protect their family’s privacy from the start.     

Giving you time back and extra reasons to smile

The less time you spend hunting down dinner recipes, parenting hacks, and holiday gifts, the more you can actually be present in the moment. That’s why we’re going to do the legwork for you, delivering expert advice on how to fast-forward through tantrums, easy meal ideas for when you’re feeling burned out, and activities and vacation destinations that won’t earn you an eye roll. We’re even gonna throw in some awesome alone-time recommendations (because parents are people, too!).

The bottom line? If there’s a way for us to make your day better and brighter, we’re going to make it happen.      

Just casually mention “water park” and your otherwise glacially paced kids are dressed in their swimsuits, primped, and ready to race out the door. So why not channel their enthusiasm into a family vacation destination? From giant slides with trap doors to steamy outdoor hot springs, there’s something for every water lover at one of these amazing family resorts with water parks in the U.S. and beyond. Fair warning: you may not be able to get the kids to leave.

West Coast Family Resorts with Epic Water Parks

Hyatt Regency Indian Wells | Indian Wells, CA

The waterpark at the Hyatt Regency Indian Wells Resort & Spa offers guests a 450-ft. lazy river, dueling waterslides, and seven expansive swimming pools. The four-star resort, set against the backdrop of palm trees and scenic mountain views, now features outdoor fun, under 300 days of sunshine for all the family at the waterpark including HyTides Plunge Waterpark, Desert Twist Lazy River, and a family splash area with interactive water features and a smaller slide for young children.

Related: Your Ultimate Guide to Palm Springs with Kids

Hyatt Regency Scottsdale Resort & Spa at Gainey Ranch | Scottsdale, AZ

Hyatt Regency Scottsdale Resort & Spa at Gainey Ranch | Scottsdale, AZ

Guests can enjoy the many recreational amenities this desert oasis has to offer including a 2.5-acre water extravaganza complete with 10 pools including a sand beach, 30-foot 3-story high-speed waterslide, poolside cabanas, and H2Oasis. If that is not enough, guests can play a game of water volleyball or basketball or relax in the Grecian-style water temple—a jetted tub that accommodates 25 people—surrounded by four plunge pools.

Terranea Resort | Rancho Palos Verde, CA

Terranea Resort

There's so much to love about this gorgeous property on the Palos Verdes Penninsula and one of our favorite amenities at Terranea Resort is the heated pool. And not just a smidge over the outside air temperature. Legit, heated to 80-degree pool (and handy glass-wall windbreakers). But that’s not all. There is a 140-foot waterslide at the pool and a splash pad for little ones. And hot tubs. And cabanas you can rent! And lawn games like ping pong, Connect Four, and foosball! The list goes on and on. 

Related: Terranea Resort — LA’s Best-Kept (Luxurious) Secret

Omni Rancho Las Palmas Resort & Spa | Rancho Mirage, CA

This Palm Springs resort is known for its world-class spa, but with 240 acres to wander, you’ll soon find the grounds feature a whole lot more. There are three pools including Splashtopia—a two-acre water playground that includes a lazy river, two giant water slides, a cliff-side Jacuzzi, a sandy beach, and a splash pad full of fountains and sprinklers. The resort also features a 27-hole golf course and five different restaurants so you really don’t need to leave.

Arizona Grand Resort & Spa | Phoenix, AZ

Your kids will probably spend most of the day trying to duck, dodge and ride the waves at the Oasis Water Park’s wave pool, but we think the eight-story-tall tower water slides are more your speed. Or would lounging side by side down the rolling Zuni River be your trip? Either way, families will find plenty of ways to get and stay wet in the sunshine at the Arizona Grand.

Arizona Biltmore, A Waldorf Astoria Resort | Phoenix, AZ

Take refuge from the desert heat at the Arizona Biltmore, A Waldorf Astoria Resort. The hotel offers seven sparkling pools, including a reimagined Paradise Pool with the new 65-foot triple “The Twist” water slide and fun children’s splash pad, as well as 15 luxury, air-conditioned private cabanas. The resort offers daily family yoga, lawn games, live music, and more.

Suncadia Resort | Cle Elum, WA

Allison Sutcliffe

The secret is out for Pacific Northwest families' favorite resort: Suncadia. Their indoor pool boasts two, two-story-high water slides so rain or shine, the fun is on! The outdoor pool’s backdrop is hard to beat: mountain views and poolside activities including arts and crafts and snacks from the resort’s own food truck. For water play of a different kind, rent a kayak, canoe, or paddleboard to try out on the on-site alpine lake. It’s perfect for kids and newbies thanks to the calm waters. Click here to read our family guide to all they offer.

Glenwood Hot Springs Resort | Glenwood, CO

Glenwood Resort

For something a little different, check into the Glenwood Hot Springs Resort. Located between Aspen and Vail, Colorado, people have been flocking to this hot spot since 1888 to soak in the fifteen mineral springs and take in the view of the surrounding mountains. Home to the World’s Largest Hot Springs Pool, you’ll find the pool open year-round and into the night so you can soak under the stars. There’s also a kiddie pool and two waterslides, a poolside grill, a renowned spa, and comfy rooms, although day passes are an option if you just want to head into the pool.

Hyatt Regency Maui Resort & Spa | Maui, HI

Hyatt Regency Maui Resort & Spa

Guests staying at Hyatt Regency Maui can embrace the stunning location and enjoy the resort’s six free-form pool areas with waterfalls, all surrounded by lush tropical plants at the edge of the Pacific Ocean. The resort’s water oasis includes a 150' lava tube waterslide, a whirlpool, a rope bridge, and an interactive children’s pool. 

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Midwest Resorts with Jaw-Dropping Water Features

Kalahari Resorts | Multiple U.S. Locations

Kalahari Resorts & Conventions

Whether you live in the Midwest or traveling there is on your summer adventure list, staying at a Kalahari Resort (in the Wisconsin Dells; Sandusky, Ohio, or Pocono Mountains) makes it worth the trip! Each resort is African Safari-themed, and in addition to eye-popping water features like Crocodile Cove’s water walk or the trap door that leads riders down the Extreme Rush water slide, there’s too much additional fun to be had. We’re talking escape rooms, virtual reality experiences, and traditional kid-tastic sports like bowling and mini golf. So whether your crew wants to don their swim gear and find adventure poolside or towel off and thunder through the resort, they’ll stay busy all week long.

Wilderness Resort | Wisconsin Dells, WI

Wilderness Resort

With four indoor and just as many outdoor water parks, you need a whole week to pack it all in at the Wilderness Resort. The only question is where to start. If adventure is what the kids are looking for, try Klondike Kavern where thrill slides like the Hurricane and Mine Shaft Drop will get their adrenaline pumping. For baby beach bums and their parents, the country’s largest indoor wave pool, Wild WaterDome, is the place to plant your beach towel. And everyone in the fam will find ways to get wet at Cubby’s Cove and the Wild West water parks that combine sports, rides and typical splash pad fun for the whole fam. 

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Southern Resorts with Jaw-Dropping Water Features

The Woodlands Resort, Curio Collection by Hilton | The Woodlands, TX

The Woodlands Resort, Curio Collection by Hilton water park
The Woodlands Resort, Curio Collection by Hilton

The Woodland Resort keeps guests and locals alike cool during summer’s heat with its Forest Oasis Waterpark & Lazy River. The year-round destination features a family-friendly activity pool, a 30-foot tower with waterfalls and a racing waterslide, a lazy river, a lagoon-style pool, a zero-entry kids’ pool with sprayground, and three whirlpools. 

Gaylord Opryland Resort Nashville, TN

Gaylord Opryland Resort

An exciting water experience awaits at Gaylord Opryland Resort in Music City. SoundWaves offers four acres of combined indoor and outdoor attractions and activities, so you can go from inside to outside and back again all day long. In addition to 11 water slides for all ages, indoor surfing, and an activity pool with rock climbing and basketball, there are rapid and lazy rivers depending on your mood. There's live music from country, pop, and classic rock artists too. Every. Single. Day.

Related: An Insider’s Guide to Nashville’s Gaylord Opryland Resort & SoundWaves

Schlitterbahn Waterpark & Resort | New Braunfels, TX

Schlitterbahn Waterparks and Resorts

Situated in the heart of Texas, Schlitterbahn’s New Braunfels location (the original!) sits on the banks of the Comal River and has over 51 attractions on 70 acres that include the original section’s famous black tubes (powered by the Comal’s current), as well as the Boogie Bahn and Sky Coaster, thrill rides guests can find in the Blastenhoff and Surfenburg sections. But you don’t have to be a daredevil to have fun here. The pace is just right for pint-sized pool goers too when you hit Kinderhaven, with its soft play structures and gentle waves or Han’s Hideout that turn your neighborhood spray park into a five-story funhouse experience. 

Related: Water Park Thrills Meet Nostalgic Fun in Texas Hill Country

JW Marriott San Antonio Hill Country Resort & Spa | San Antonio, TX

JW Marriott

If everything’s bigger in Texas, this resort is no exception, and we promise you won’t mind that one bit. Not only will you find a 36-hole golf course and an adults-only infinity pool, but you can also go wild with the kiddos at the on-site nine-acre water park that includes an 1100-foot long lazy river, water slides, a 650-foot rapid river ride, a children’s pool with toddler-sized slides, fountains, and splashy fun, a beach-entry swimming pool which includes a sandy spot to build sandcastles and play. When you’re tired out from playing all day, fill up on some Texas BBQ and make s’mores at the fire pit before passing out in your deluxe room and then waking up to do it all over again.

Grande Cayman Resort | Myrtle Beach, SC

Grande Cayman Resort

The oceanfront Grande Cayman Resort located on the north end of Myrtle Beach was totally renovated in 2020. Because of its location, it has a much less crowded and wider beach than most hotels on the Grand Strand, yet still just a short drive away from the iconic attractions. Squeals of laughter can be heard from the Silly Sub Water Park, as buckets randomly splash water onto tiny heads, a serpent hisses an endless spray to the enchantment of the young ones, and they can twist and turn down the three-story water slide. Climbing in and out of the submarine will provide hours of amusement for the children, as parents can choose to bask in the sun or recline from the shade while watching kids play.

Orlando World Center Marriott

Voted one of the "World's Coolest Hotel Pools" by Forbes, you may have a hard time peeling yourself away from it long enough to enjoy the 575-foot lazy river, private cabanas and daybeds, and all the other poolside fun the Orlando World Center Marriott has to offer.  The kid-friendly resort features a dedicated Kids' Splash Zone with fun aquatic pieces and a slide sized just for them. If there are any thrill seekers in your family (adults and kids who are at least 48” tall barefoot), you can enjoy 6 unique waterslides that range from "That was fun!" to "OH MY!" 

TradeWinds Island Resorts | St. Pete, FL

You want something beachy, but they never want to get out of the pool. TradeWinds Island Resorts, located on Florida’s Gulf of Mexico side, is calling your name. The property is 25 acres, with two resorts connected by the fine white sand of St. Pete Beach. Not only do you get pools with sweet features like Dive-In Movie Nights and a smaller pool just for smaller kids, but you’ll also have a chance to take on the High Tide Slide: a three-story inflatable waterslide. There’s an entire floating water park, too, with floating trampolines and climbing structures, a jungle gym, splash mats, runways, balance beams, and even floating cabanas for the parents to chill while the kids are all thrill. And if you happen to tire of this, you’ll find paddle boarding, diving, kayaking, pirate play, and more.

Grande Lakes Orlando | FL

Grande Lakes Orlando, the 500-acre luxury resort in the headwaters of the Florida Everglades, is a luxury oasis fit for families and guests of all ages. At the doorstep of some of Orlando’s most famed attractions and enveloped by lush greenery, the resort is anchored by two luxury hotels, The Ritz-Carlton Orlando, Grande Lakes, and JW Marriott Orlando, Grande Lakes.

Fresh off the heels of a multimillion-dollar renovation, JW Marriott Orlando, Grande Lakes unveiled its new Grande Lakes Waterpark. The redesigned aquatic experience features a variety of private, full-service cabanas, a transformed outdoor space with six distinct zones that include a signature lazy river, and Headwaters Slide Tower with three waterslides. With immersive outdoor activities available across the 500-acre resort including 11 onsite lakes and unique experiences such as falconry, mountain biking, and fishing, Executive Family Suites that offer spacious two- or three-bedroom accommodations and tailored in-room amenities for families, 

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Northeast Resorts with Jaw-Dropping Water Features

The Kartrite Resort & Indoor Waterpark | Monticello, New York

The Kartrite Resort

An easy drive from several major cities in the Northeast and minutes from the ski slopes, this indoor water park offers non-stop fun come rain, shine, or snow. The water park is covered by a transparent roof for year-round tanning, and the temperature stays at a balmy 84 degrees, so it feels more like the Caribbean than the Catskills. After you've zoomed down the Krakken or Nor'Easter, sit back, relax, and enjoy a ride along the lazy river. There's also a FlowRider surf simulator, toddler-friendly pools, several hot tubs, and a spa. If your crew has got any energy left, there are plenty of other exciting entertainment options at the Kartrite Resort including an arcade, bowling alley, and ropes course.

Camelback Lodge and Aquatopia Indoor Waterpark | Tannersville, PA

Camelback Resort

There’s a reason why Camelback Resort made our list of best water parks in America—it’s built for families who love to play! Because its two water parks, plus a whole lot more, will guarantee your kids go to bed worn out every day you stay. With 52 water slides, 12 pools, and two flow riders, they can enjoy water play all day long indoors (or out when the sun is shining). Then if they need a break from the water, simply book time on the zip lines, aerial obstacle course, or pottery painting studio. So if you want to add skiing, snowboarding, and tubing to your water-drenched adventures, think winter vaycay spot.

Hyatt Regency Grand Reserve Puerto Rico | Rio Grande, Puerto Rico  

Hyatt Regency Grand Reserve Puerto Rico

Puerto Rico is one of the most accessible destinations for travelers from the U.S. right now with the convenience of travel without a passport. Famed against the backdrop of the nation’s only tropical rainforest, Hyatt Regency Grand Reserve Puerto Rico is THE dreamy destination to stay in Puerto Rico with all-suite, bungalow-style accommodations ideal for larger families, which include private plunge pools, outdoor showers, an outdoor dining area and direct access to the beach. The property is home to Puerto Rico’s largest lagoon-style pool offering plenty of outdoor activities for the whole family. 

Related: Puerto Rico Is Calling & Here’s Why You Should Take the Kids

Great Wolf Lodge | Multiple U.S. Locations

Great Wolf Lodge

From wild rides like the Howlin’ Tornado and the epic Coyote Cannon water slide to toddler splash zones and lazy rivers, the Great Wolf Lodge offers something for everyone at their indoor water park. With over a dozen locations throughout the country including Boston, Atlanta, Kansas City, Wisconsin Dells, Colorado Springs, and Anaheim, the chances are there’s one driving distance from you. The resorts offer themed rooms like Wolf Dens and Kid’s Cabin Suites featuring a log-cabin-like sleep area just for your half-pints and upgraded deluxe rooms with fireplaces. 

Related: 18 Tips & Tricks to Make Your Great Wolf Lodge Visit EPIC

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International Resorts with Epic Water Parks

Royalton Splash Riviera Cancun

Royalton Splash is a resort with a great water park
Royalton Resorts

With 14 water slides, a splash park, two lazy rivers, and what seems like an endless infinity pool, this new resort in the Riviera Maya is a dream for kids. Take a drop off the stories-high slides, float the river that wanders through the resort, or hang by one of two infinity pools that seem to meet the ocean's edge.

There's other fun to be had in Game Up, the indoor play area with laser tag, trampolines, bowling, and more. Kids will also love the nightly entertainment in the auditorium located in the heart of the resort, as well as the wood-fired pizza, the gelato shop, the made-to-order quesadillas, and other snacks perfect for little palates.

Read more about the resort here.

Online: royaltonresorts.com 

Nickelodeon Hotel and Resorts Punta Cana | Dominican Republic

Nickelodeon Resorts Punta Cana

If you're looking for an all-inclusive resort that will wow even the most hard-to-please youngsters, Nickelodeon Hotel and Resorts Punta Cana is a dream come true. Along with swim-up suites and luxe villas inspired by Bikini Bottom, Spongebob's pineapple-shaped home, plus a rather gorgeous infinity pool, it has its very own water park, Aqua Nick offering all-out fun for all ages. Here you'll find winding slides, splash pads, and a lazy river. Add to this mass slimings, carnivals, a kids' club, and being able to hang out with Dora the Explorer or Paw Patrol, and your crew will think they're in heaven. When you feel like ditching them for some adult-only time at the spa or maybe the bar, there's a huge kids' club with an impressive activity program. 

Related: Sun, Sand & Slime: Everything We Love About Nickelodeon Resorts Punta Cana

Mangrove Beach Corendon Curacao All-Inclusive Resort, Curio Collection by Hilton, Curacao

Mangrove Beach Corendon Curacao All-Inclusive Resort, Curio Collection by Hilton
Mangrove Beach Corendon Curacao All-Inclusive Resort, Curio Collection by Hilton

Aquatic fun at Mangrove Beach feels almost endless with four pools, an on-property Aqua Park with six waterslides, and a splash playground. Mangrove Beach Corendon Curacao All-Inclusive Resort, Curio Collection by Hilton also offers loads of opportunities to get out in the ocean from Scuba diving to snorkeling. 

Lopesan Costa Bávaro Resort Spa & Casino | Punta Cana, Dominican Republic

Costa Bavaro resort is a family resort with a water park
Lopesan Costa Bávaro Resort Spa & Casino

With seven freshwater pools to choose from, you're definitely going to want to plan for lots of water play time at Lopesan Costa Bávaro Resort Spa & Casino. Situated along the award-winning white sand Bávaro Beach, the five-star all-inclusive resort offers families a luxurious vacation stay. In addition to a kids' pool with mini slides and sprayers, you can head to the property's onsite Splash Island waterpark, which touts multiple waterslides for kids and adults alike.

Hyatt Regency Aruba Resort Spa and Casino | Palm Beach, Aruba

Hyatt Regency Aruba

Located in the Lesser Antilles in the Caribbean Sea, Aruba may not have the name recognition the area’s more popular islands do, but there’s a reason it boasts the most return visitors of any Caribbean destination. Hyatt Regency Aruba Resort Spa and Casino is the perfect getaway for a family of all ages with amenities including a spectacular outdoor three-level pool complex with an exciting 8,000-square-foot recreational escape with a swim-up bar and grill, waterslide, waterfalls, pool volleyball, and private cabanas.

Related: Aruba’s Palm Beach Is Just the Family Vacation Destination You Need

The Ritz-Carlton, St. Thomas | St. Thomas, USVI

The Ritz-Carlton, St. Thomas

Embark on an idyllic retreat to the Ritz-Carlton St. Thomas at this jewel among hotels in the US Virgin Islands, where you will discover endless views over Great Bay, and a variety of water features like a remodeled infinity pool positioned to look as if it is flowing directly into the ocean, a new pool with a water slide for families and fun splash pad area, a luxury catamaran for sunset cruises, snorkeling tours and private events, and a Seaside Spa Cabana for those parents seeking outdoor pampering.

Grand Hyatt Baha Mar | Nassau, The Bahamas

Grand Hyatt Baha Mar

This 1,000-acre family-friendly oceanfront oasis, featuring 1,800 spacious rooms and 40+ international dining options, also has a wide range of water-centric amenities for families, including seven elaborate pools tailored to every interest—from waterfalls and cliff jumps to a little poolside rain—to snorkeling with marine life at the on-site Beach Sanctuary. You'll love the family-friendly luxury waterpark, Baha Bay, situated on 15 acres along the beachfront and offering families unlimited complimentary access to enjoy 24 water slides, interactive rides, and a variety of al fresco culinary experiences.

Atlantis Paradise Island | Nassau, Bahamas

Atlantis Paradise Island

Be prepared to be blown away at Aquaventure, a 141-acre water park at the Atlantis Bahamas that takes awesomeness to a new level. Twenty million gallons of water, extreme water slides, a mile-long river ride with swirling rapids, 11 swimming pools including three kids' pools, a kids' water-play fort and 20 swimming areas are just some of the incredible attractions that will provide non-stop fun for all ages. If that's not enough excitement, you'll find the largest open-air marine habitat in the world and there's also close encounters with dolphins, sea lions and even sharks. When you want some "me time", sign the kids into the kids' club and head to the spa for some pampering. 

Related: Atlantis Is the Paradise You’ve Been Looking For (Here’s Why!)

Waldorf Astoria Lusail Doha | Qatar

Waldorf Astoria Lusail Doha

The Waldorf Astoria Lusail Doha features an on-site water park, Wadi Lusail, that offers water fountains, an adventure trail, and water slides. Kids will especially enjoy stopping by the Aloha Surf Club to ride the waves and boogie board. The property has the only private beach in Lusail offering water sports like jet skis, wake boarding, and banana boat rides.

—additional reporting by Janine Clements, Allison Sutcliffe & Amber Guetebier

 

Do you, like me, seem to run on anxiety, caffeine, and your children’s leftovers? Are you perpetually in a rush and pretty sure you’ve forgotten… something? (What was it?!) What if, and stay with me here, you were able to set aside that feeling of chaos and actually find joy?

Yes, it sounds cheesy. But don’t roll your eyes just yet. It’ll only take a few minutes a day. OK, so that sounds like a late-night infomercial (remember those?), but it’s true. While you can’t move to a commune and cultivate free-range sunflowers, you can take a few minutes to hit the pause button. Here are some easy ways to switch things up and make the whole family happier.

1. Have a whatever-makes-you-happy hour or a “yes day.”

One mom changed her life (yes, really) with what she calls a “whatever-makes-you-happy hour.” You know that ferocious hour sometime around dinner when kids turn feral? Rather than fighting it, this mom runs with it. For those 60 minutes, her kids do whatever they’d like, barring cruelty or serious danger, while she and her husband kid back with the adult beverages of their choice. This sounds daringly 1970s-ish, but it works. Her kids experience the joy of running wild. She has time to kick back. When it’s over, they come together and eat dinner as a calm, reconnected family (and clean up before bed).

Alternatively, try a “yes day.” We spend our lives telling our kids no. Why not spend a day, an afternoon, an hour, saying yes? Yes to board games or jump-rope competitions or ice cream for dinner or fairy wings in public. Check all the ground rules in this post (note: No danger allowed and set a budget!), then go forth and make some incredible memories together.

2. Make time to play.

You can waste your whole life on your phone, so set it down. Actually, stuff it in a drawer because it’ll inevitably go off. Everyone, including kids, now gets to spend an electronic-free hour doing . . . well, whatever they love other than electronics (remember books? They’re made of paper). Before dinner is a great time for this, so is the hour before bed. Hang from the ceiling if you want, but do what you love.

3. Remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

You’ll love your children even more if they aren’t around all the time. I promise. Prioritize alone time—for them and you. You could go the cheesy self-care route and take a bubble bath. You could craft. You could watch a TV show that isn’t geared toward five-year-olds. You could also go on a date, which I hear is something adults do from time to time. Reconnecting with your partner will help you find some sanity. Leave your phone in your bag while you’re at it!

4. Show some love.

Snuggle with your kids—science says it’s good for you. Hugging makes us happier, healthier, and less anxious, which is something your whole family deserves. After cuddling with the younger set (so long as they’re game), set your sights on your significant other. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin shares that a nightly makeout session that doesn’t lead to anything more is a pretty solid idea and may even prevent those in long-term relationships from becoming “touch-avoidant.” Sounds like a fun thing to try. I mean, a therapist recommended it.

5. Surprise and delight.

Life can be a real grind. While we can’t permanently decamp to a tropical paradise, we can break up the mind-numbing routine with moments of unexpected fun. No, you don’t have to go all manic pixie to do it: Give your kids dessert for dinner. Surprise them with a night of mini golf. Announce an impromptu movie night or declare a pajama day.

6. Un-schedule from time to time.

No, you can’t drop everything, but you can pick and choose. You don’t have to do every single activity presented to you. Take a weekend off from planned fun. Part ways with that sport your kid doesn’t love. Skip the birthday party. There are so many demands on your time; prioritize a few and let the others go. After all, kids spend their lives hurrying up. Give them—and yourself—a chance to chill.

7. Dedicate 10 minutes a day to each kid.

The experts behind Big Little Feelings call it the “10-minute miracle.” No phones, no siblings, just dedicated parent-and-kid time with no correcting or criticizing. For those 10 minutes, go all in on whatever game/bonkers make-believe scenario/craft activity your kid wants. Doing so should help curtail acting out—after all, many kids get extra unruly when they’re in need of connection and attention. Spend a bit of time every day giving it to them.

8. Practice gratitude.

There are lots of ways to do this. You can sign up for volunteer opportunities, talk about the things you’re thankful for (on more than just Thanksgiving), make a good deed calendar—whatever works for your family. But make sure you insist on the importance of giving back to others and being grateful for what you’ve been given. Life can seem too big and too busy, so stop and count your blessings, then pass them on to someone else. It’s one of the most important things you can do for your kids.

9. Share the smallest moments for the biggest smiles.

Remember those family photo albums with the plastic sheets you’d peel apart to lay down your favorite printed pics? That ship has sailed. Now you can create the most amazing time capsule for your family on the Tinybeans App (your kids will thank you one day when they’ve stopped rolling their eyes) and share all of your sweetest and silliest moments with family and friends. They’ll delight in seeing that first waddle or goofy smile each time they get an alert, and you’ll get a solid dose of joy every time they comment or react.

10. Host an impromptu dance party.

Turn up that music and dance! Oh, and sing along. Toddlers will love it. Older kids might try to hide. Don’t let them. Instead, crank the volume louder. Dancing is good for you. So is joy. Give yourself room to feel it.

11. Always have something to look forward to.

Make sure there’s always something good on the way—a trip to the ice cream shop, a birthday party, a night with friends. This goes for your kid and you. Then when times get tough, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. We need this more than you’d think: If the slog seems endless, we’ll quit. But with our eyes on the prize, we’re all. gonna. make. it.

We’ve even got a few tips and tricks to help you make it work

Sibling room sharing can be great, and it can be… not so great. Putting two people in a room together is always a little complicated, even when, or maybe especially when, they’re related. Whether you’re thinking about having your kids share a room because you desperately need a dedicated home office with a door or you’re expecting a second child and staying put in your two-bedroom apartment, we’ve got wisdom to share. Here’s a list of the pros and cons of siblings sharing a bedroom, complete with advice from seasoned experts.

First, a few benefits of siblings sharing a room

You’ll save money.

When siblings share a room, you can squeeze your family into a smaller space. If you’re squirreling away dollars for a down payment on a house or your budget’s tight, two kids in one bedroom make sense. Many kids–as many as seventy percent in the US alone–share a room. Two of my kids shared for a decade out of necessity in a house with three bedrooms and five people, and we found benefits in addition to practical cost savings and making the most of a small space.

A dedicated space practically guarantees a good night’s sleep.

Some families decide to have their kids share a room so they can have one room set aside for sleep and another room used as a play space. That keeps distracting toys out of the sleep space, which can be especially helpful for younger children who find the siren song of their beloved wooden trains impossible to resist.

Sibling bonding gets a boost.

Whispering and giggling after lights out, knowing your sibling is there in the big dark, shared bedtime stories–sharing a bedroom gives brothers and sisters lots of opportunities to bond. Kids create memories. As one of my sons, who shared a room with his brother for years, said, “We got to hang out all the time in our room, and we talked every night.”

“Room sharing can allow for added closeness between siblings. They often become each other’s confidants. The relationship that develops can be very positive,” says Dr. Tish Taylor, child psychologist and the author of Fostering Connections: Building Social and Emotional Health in Children and Teens.

Kids learn to compromise.

In a shared bedroom, siblings have opportunities for pillow fights with their built-in buddy—if they’re both up for it. When they’re not, a shared room gives kids extra practice navigating disagreements and conflict. They learn what to do if one person wants a pillow fight and the other wants to play UNO. Learning to compromise, understanding someone else’s point of view, and taking turns–kids need these skills as they get older, and when kids share space with siblings, they get extra practice.

Related: How to Create a Shared Bedroom for Kids No Matter the Space

Here are the trickier parts of sibling room sharing

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Kids don’t have their own space.

Finding alone time is tricky when kids share a bedroom. Many older kids and tweens want to put up posters, scribble in their diaries in private, and keep their best stuff off-limits. Some families with kids in a shared bedroom find that letting kids have a say in what their side of the room looks like helps—things like picking out their bedding, hanging favorite pictures, or using a loft bed to make more private space. It’s also a good idea to make sure each child has designated storage that’s just for them, whether it’s a dresser or a closet.

Sibling conflict can be rough.

Often, especially at first, and when kids are tweens or teens, room sharing leads to more fighting, whether over room décor or just plain getting annoyed with each other. The little sister messes with her older sister’s LEGO, or a big brother takes a beloved t-shirt without permission: countless battles start over stuff. To reduce fights, establish ground rules together, or set them yourself if kids are too little to participate. Dr. Taylor suggests parents model and remind their children of their family’s core values: “You might say, ‘We love each other, and we respect each other. Even if it’s challenging and we’re in close quarters, we have to work things out respectfully.’”

Dr. Taylor also notes there may be other considerations depending on individual children. “Most children regulate really well. A small minority have challenges with that and amp up at night, which makes it difficult for the other sibling who wants to wind down, chill out, and go to sleep.” If that’s the case in your house, consider how you can give each child what they need. If one child needs extra time to settle in the bedroom, the other might go on a walk with a parent, do homework at the kitchen table, or relax on the couch with a story. Get creative, and while sibling conflict in a shared bedroom probably won’t disappear, you may be able to keep it to a minimum.

Different gender siblings.

As kids of different genders get older, they may crave more privacy. This often happens in later elementary school, at about age 10. Of course, this can also happen with kids of the same gender. Puberty is always a roller coaster. If older brothers and sisters are sharing a bedroom and space is limited, brainstorm ways to add privacy within a shared bedroom. A privacy wall, like this one with built-in storage, or a room divider can help!

Sleep disruptions will drive everyone bananas.

If a baby isn’t yet sleeping through the night, sharing a bedroom with their sibling will only make things worse. The last thing parents need is less sleep. Cara Dumaplin, a nurse and sleep expert from Taking Cara Babies, offers lots of wisdom for promoting sleep in a shared bedroom. She says, “The biggest mistake I see parents make when setting up a shared sibling room is putting little ones in the same room before they’re sleeping well.”

Luckily, there are ways around room-sharing sleep trouble. If you’re planning to have a baby and an older child share a room, wait to move the baby into the shared bedroom until your child is at least six months old and sleeping through the night. Cara also suggests staggering bedtimes, with the younger child going to bed before the older child, to support good sleep habits. Then, carefully arrange the shared room.

“Once you have two great little sleepers, you’ll want to set the room up for success. Arrange the furniture so that the crib and bed are on opposite sides of the room. Add a sound machine, ideally between the two of them. This can keep the sounds of one child from waking the other,” Dumaplin explains.

If room sharing is right for your family, don’t give up. “Expect that you may see some sleep hiccups right when your little ones move into the same room, especially around stalling at bedtime and early morning wakings. Don’t let that scare you. Be consistent, and remember that it takes time to adjust to any change. However, if you prepare your little ones, yourself, and the room ahead of time, most siblings do really well after a short adjustment period,” says Dumaplin.

Related: 7 Simple Ideas for Designing a Kids’ Room That Grows with Them

Say these things on the walk to the bus or during snack time. In fact, any time is a good time!

Whether they are in preschool, elementary school, or heading into middle school, offering encouraging words for students can make all the difference between a just-okay day and an amazing day. Whatever time of day, there’s always a moment to remind your kids how much you believe in them and how you can’t wait to hear all about it! We’ve found 22 simple phrases and prompts that can add a dose of positivity to your kids’ day; be sure to keep them in your back pocket—you’ll never know when they’ll come in handy. 

1. I can’t wait to see what your day brings. Put a positive spin on their daily morning routine when they fly out the door to catch the bus.

2. Do your best! Send them off with good vibes and encouraging words so they’ll be primed to achieve whatever they put their minds to.

3. Can I get a hug? Shh … this one’s really more about you than them, but they don’t need to know that. Hugs at the beginning of the day send a clear message of love to your little one.

4. I’ll think about you today! Just this one simple phrase lets your child know that he’ll be on your mind throughout the day, and sometimes that’s enough of a boost.

5. Do you have everything you need? It’s an easy question, but just asking it can assure both you and your child that she is prepared for her day. Lunch (or lunch money), homework, books, a special toy … whatever it is, taking a moment to ask and make sure she has what she needs to have a happy and successful day lets her know that you care.

6. You look great! Although this one can bring a smile to the young ones as well, these encouraging words are great to throw to the older kids as they trudge out the door into a social-media-driven world that can have seriously adverse effects on self-esteem.

7. You’ve got this! School is tough, much tougher than when we were kids, and the everyday pressures of homework, tests, quizzes, projects and more… well, it’s enough to make even the most self-assured kid second guess his or her abilities. Just giving your child one final boost of positivity with these words of encouragement as he scrambles out the door can be enough to boost that self-confidence for the rest of the day.

Related: 25 Things You Should Say to Your Kids Every Day

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8. I’ll be right here when you get back. There are hours that are going to pass between taking your child to school and picking him up, and in that time, a lot can happen. Let him know that you’re going to be right there when he’s finished with his day, whether good or bad. This tiny little assurance can help slightly younger nervous kids take often difficult steps towards school.

9. I can’t wait to hear about your day! Encourage your children to look for the positive in the day by letting them know you’ll be ready to hear all about it when you see each other again.

10. You roll with the punches like a champ. Busy families have ever-changing schedules where flexibility is key. Letting your little ones know that you recognize their ability to also be flexible is important.

11. Thanks for sharing your day with me. Nothing says, “I’m listening” after the day’s download quite like this one. Frasier Crane would be proud.

12. You are a good person. People of all ages need words of encouragement like this to let them know that their presence, personality, and decisions are noticed and appreciated.

13. Thanks for helping out! when they go above and beyond to keep your family’s groove grooving, let them know how proud you are!

14. Your thoughtfulness shines through. Save this one for the simple gestures they make throughout the day, like helping out a friend or sharing with a sibling.

15. I like how you handled that. Using encouraging words for students like this lets them know you approve of how they managed tough situations can put smiles back on their faces and give them the confidence to tackle future challenges.

 

Related: 10 Things That’ll Help You Raise Resilient Kids

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16. I’m so happy you’re home. I missed you. Because even though parents joke about alone time, we’re happiest when our kids are by our sides.

17. I was thinking about you today when … sharing your day with them lets kids know they’re loved, even when you’re not around to show it.

18. Your joy puts a smile on my face too. This one makes an impact when they come off the bus or through the door with big smiles.

19. I’ll bet your friends/teacher appreciated your ___________ today. Insert your favorite adjective here; no matter which one you choose, letting your kids know others see this same quality in them is super empowering.

20. It sounds like you worked hard today. Whether they took a tough test, ran a mile in P.E., or just tried their best, praise that perseverance. Go grit!

21. What do you want to do now? Set aside some time for when kids first come home from school to let them relax and unwind in their own way, whether that be stopping by the library or ice cream shop or just having free time to run around the yard. Their day has been stressful too, and letting them choose how to spend the first bit after school can be a powerful tone-setter for the rest of the evening.

22. You should be so proud of yourself. A phrase that’s important for kids (and adults!) of all ages—use it often, but especially at the end of a hard day at school.

—with additional reporting by Dhyana Levy

I have a video of my two-year-old daughter sitting quietly in the middle of a tornado. Not a real tornado, of course. Just the whirling, noisy storm of her two older brothers literally running in circles around her. In that moment, she is sitting on the floor rocking a baby doll while her brothers bounce around the room like pinballs. While they’re shrieking and giggling, jumping from couch to floor and back again, she is singing a lullaby nobody can hear—as if she and her doll are in a quiet place somewhere far, far away.

I watch it now and say a silent thank you. Because—while it may have taken me three kids to get there—it was in that moment that I knew I had a child who is happy just playing by herself.

And that matters. Experts say solo play or “independent play” not only helps children build confidence in themselves; it also helps inspire creativity, build focus, nurture problem-solving skills, and inspire trust—both in themselves and in their relationship with their parents.

Then of course there’s the (very important) fact that alone time for the child gives parents a little time to themselves, too. “It does give parents a break,” said Bryana Kappadakunnel, a Los Angeles-based LMFT and founder of Conscious Mommy, which offers coaching and workshops for parents of young children. “If a child knows how to play independently and doesn’t require the parent to engage or entertain them, it makes things like preparing dinner much easier.”

So where do you start? How can you turn your wiggly, codependent toddler into a self-sufficient kid who’s happy to play alone? I asked some experts and am sharing my own experiences to give you some suggestions.

 

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Start by doing solo time with your child

Sure, we all want to have children who can let us go to the bathroom without knocking incessantly at the door because they need us right now (just saying). But that doesn’t mean we can send our unsuspecting two-year-olds to their rooms and expect the magic to happen.

Start by setting up a space that invites them in: Put some paper and crayons on the kitchen table while you’re cooking dinner; set up a playdough station; put a box of Magna-Tiles on the living room floor. Or, says Amy Carney, author of Parent On Purpose: Raising Thoughtful Children in a Complicated World, set up a “boredom box” with age-appropriate items that spark creative play in your child. For this, Carney recommends small items like art supplies, trinkets, toys from birthday party bags, figurines, slime, or putty.

Related: 22 Genius Amazon Finds That’ll Keep the Kids Busy

“Narrate” your child’s play

Want to make your toddlers feel good about playing by themselves? Sit nearby and “narrate.” This means just acknowledging what your child is doing, i.e. “You are building a really high tower!” or “You’re really being caring to your baby doll.” Doing this builds children’s confidence about what they’re doing.

By the same token, avoid correcting your child or trying to make it a teaching moment—don’t quiz them about colors or ask them to count the blocks in their hands. After all, this is play; not school.

And, replace your instinct to correct with curiosity: for example, if your child is using stacking blocks for all-things-NOT stacking (hey, they make fun hats!), say something like, “Hmm you seem to have found a new way to play with that toy.”

Finally: Don’t ask questions, which Kappadakunnel said can be distracting to the child. Just watch and narrate. Imagine that you’re a nature photographer and just observe the child in her “natural habitat.” (They’re interesting creatures, those kiddos!)

Don’t overload the space

Apparently, your child doesn’t need a lot of toys. A 2017 study from the University of Toledo in Ohio suggested that an environment with fewer toys is better for toddlers and that too many toys actually decrease the “quality of play.” It becomes overwhelming for the child. For each play session, just a handful of toys is enough.

Start by putting out a few toys and telling your child that you’re going to watch them play and that they can show you how the toys work. Let your kid get busy, and just be there to watch (if they ask you to play, tell them it is their time to show you or to play on their own—but that you’re there to see all they can do!). Then, once they are used to playing without you as a playmate, you can try putting the toys down and walking to another room (or another part of the room where you can do something else independently of your child).

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The kind of toy matters

They say “the more a toy does, the less your child does.” So choose simple toys that inspire open-ended play. Some good examples are:

  • Magna-Tiles
  • Blocks
  • Pretend play items (a kitchen, tools, etc.)
  • Baby dolls or a dollhouse
  • Simple instruments
  • Sensory play (playdough, clay, slime, etc.)

And don’t tell your child how to use the toy. Let them explore it for themselves. There is no WRONG way to play with a toy (unless it puts the child is in danger, of course).

Note: Avoid toys with screens or sounds—and don’t use toys that are meant to “teach” (like toys that claim to teach ABCs or colors). Toys that teach have their place, experts say, but when it comes to solo play, open-ended toys are best because they inspire creativity and free thought, and allow the child to lead the way.

“If we can take the pressure off of play to be academic and instead see the learning in play associated with how a child learns to regulate their body, how a child learns to interact with others, how a child learns to occupy themselves—play then becomes this rich, wonderful work that is fascinating,” Kappadakunnel said.

Related: 11 Toys That Foster Independent Play (& Will Gift You a Few Minutes to Yourself)

If your child is resistant to solo play, ask, “Have I been available?”

Does your child fight you when you try to get them to “go play”? Kappadakunnel said maybe your child just needs more of you, first.

Ask yourself: Have you been available to your child lately? If the answer is no, then figure out how you can change that. It doesn’t have to be much: Even 10 to 15 minutes of scheduled “special time” a day does wonders for kids. Just set a timer and sit down on the floor with your child. It may seem like a blip to you, but those 10 minutes can really make a difference—for both of you.

Remember that screens don’t count as “alone time”

While an older child might prefer to spend every moment of her alone time on an iPad or video game console, kids need to make time for more productive time alone. That means, maybe, instead of turning on cartoons first thing in the morning, put down some novel toys and ask your child to make something of them. It may be a hard shift at first, but beginning the day with play is a good way to start!

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Now is as good a time as any

Whether you’ve got toddlers as clingy as koala bears or older kids who still consider you Playmate No. 1, it’s never too late to start encouraging a little solo time. For toddlers, having “Alone Time” bursts once or twice a week is a good place to start. You can also lead by example, scheduling time for yourself as often as you can and sharing your feelings about it with your kids.

And don’t forget about YOU. We all know you need some of that precious me-time, too. So make yourself a model: If they see how happy you are doing something for yourself, by yourself (arts & crafts, taking a walk, reading quietly), maybe they’ll start to crave those same sorts of experiences, too. Remember: You can lead the way.

Read books that celebrate being alone

Books are a good way to teach young children—especially when it means they get some quality time with you. Try reading these books to get your kiddos craving solo play:

Leave Me Alone by Vera Brosgol
My Very Own Space, by Pippa Goodhart
Charlotte The Scientist Is Squished, by Camille Andros