To say the past year has been turbulent would be an understatement. I feel like it’s one bad thing after the next, and despite best efforts, nothing seems to make it stop.

It reminds me of when I came home from church to water spilling out of our ceiling onto our kitchen table. Not only was the water ruining the ceiling, but it was also destroying our Christmas cards, iPads, and school projects. We rushed to turn off the water, get towels, buckets, anything to stop the madness. Unfortunately, nothing helped. The water kept coming. There was so much that it somehow reached the smoke detector wires and caused each one of the alarms to go off.

At this point, water was falling, alarms were going off, our kids were crying, and our dogs were barking. It was madness. Since my husband was deployed at the time, I called every friend I knew to help, but no one was home. I felt helpless and completely out of control. I’m not sure how, but despite the chaos, I heard the doorbell. I was utterly embarrassed to open the door with my house in such disarray, but when I finally opened the door, I was filled with relief. It was a rescuer, a firefighter.

I didn’t call 911, I’m not sure who did, but I was so thankful he was there. With tears in my eyes, the only words that came out of my mouth were, “I don’t know how to make it stop.” He asked if he could go in, and within minutes he and his coworkers helped calm the chaos. The firefighters didn’t solve every little thing. Our ceiling and pipes still needed to be fixed, and it took time. Several things needed to be repaired, and believe me, there were still lots of tears.

The fact is, when I opened the door, despite my embarrassment, someone was there to help. Things weren’t solved instantly, but help was with me, and because of that, I was given the strength to do the next something in front of me.

That, my friend, is precisely what it’s like when you reach out for help. My hope for all of you today is that despite the chaos in the world right now, you open the door and receive support if you feel overwhelmed so you are given the strength to do whatever is in front of you.

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Jamie is married to her high school sweetheart and has three beautiful daughters. Through years of experience working with children, and raising her own, she knows how difficult parenting can be. She is an advocate for children's mental health and is best known for her creativity, optimism, and kind heart.

  1. You muted your microphone on a Zoom call but forgot to turn your camera off to yell at a child to get back on their kindergarten Google Meet. Your entire team is now terrified of making you mad.
  2. You made an unexpected appearance in said kindergarten Google Meet that you thought was muted but wasn’t. Now your child’s entire kindergarten class is also terrified of you.
  3. You pull on a sweater over your dirty t-shirt ten seconds before a meeting and pop in with a big smile and a bigger cup of coffee.
  4. People constantly tell you that you look tired. Mostly because you are tired. So tired. But you just smile and nod because responding would make more people scared of you.
  5. You have attended a meeting, paid attention, changed a diaper, unloaded the dishwasher, and fed the dog in the last three minutes.
  6. You have been hit in the head with a Nerf dart or some sort of ball during a video meeting.
  7. You don’t wear real pants anymore. Ever.
  8. You are stretched so thin that you think you might not be able to do this any longer.
  9. When you get the rare chance to go to the office, you cherish it. You can be alone and sit in silence and drink coffee and think without hearing crying or barking or the tv or a microwave or screaming YouTubers.
  10. You have had a meeting or important call while crouching in a closet or in the bathroom because it’s the only place your kids can’t find you.

This post originally appeared on HashtagMomFail.

 

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Cara Fries

I’m from Wisconsin, but I’ve lived in Chicago for 9 years. I love to travel, watch Netflix and am a huge foodie!

As a first-time mom, I was clueless about what to get for my baby girl before she arrived. I read through countless blogs trying to figure out the best products to register for but began to feel overwhelmed with all the new gadgets on the market. I wanted to make sure that we had some of the best products to hopefully help aid in getting our baby to sleep better, eat better and ultimately be as comfortable as possible. Did my baby really need a $1,200 bassinet or some device that she wore at night to register her vitals? Again, feeling so clueless, I decided to do some major research to find the best products so I could feel reassured bringing her home the first night.

After trying out tons of different baby products first hand, which I am hoping may help at least one new mama (or maybe even a second or third-time mama!), I am rounding up the top five products that were the holy grail of our household, and that I would suggest everyone with a newborn has in stock before bringing the baby home. These products succeeded in helping us feel like we knew what we were doing, even when we had no idea.



ChiccoDUO Bottles

While these bottles weren’t around (yet) when my baby was born, I sure wish they would have been! It took me a long time to find a bottle that both my baby loved, and that I felt good about giving to her and the ChiccoDuo bottles check both of those boxes. These bottles are the first-ever hybrid baby bottle that combines the purity of glass and the convenience of plastic. This means that the milk never touches the plastic, but the bottle can still be thrown in the dishwasher and won’t break or crack if dropped. The nipples also have a 9/10 acceptance rate and breast-like flow!

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Solly Baby Wrap

We used ours so much. And when I say so much, I mean pretty much every day. I really loved the Solly baby wrap over other ones because it’s really just a soft piece of fabric that ties around your body and holds the baby in place. Some of the other wraps I tried were so bulky and uncomfortable. My baby seemed to love this one best as well, as she’d always fall asleep when being carried in it.

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3

Nestled Bean Swaddle

Getting the baby to sleep and stay asleep can be a daunting (and exhausting!) task, so having a good swaddle is a must. This one is slightly weighted and rests against the baby’s chest, so they feel nice and secure, just like they did in the womb. They also can be used for baby’s up to 30” tall, meaning you can use them for a generous amount of time without having to invest in any other type of swaddle.

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4

Kyte Baby Pajamas

These bamboo pajamas are so incredibly soft and feel like butter on your skin. They’re especially perfect for babies who tend to get overheated or have sensitive skin, as they are hypoallergenic and actually good for the environment! It’s a win-win knowing that your baby is wearing something that’s not only good for their skin but good for the future of the planet as well! (P.S. They come in adult and toddler sizes too!)

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5

Hatch Baby Sound Machine

After having one of these in our bedroom when our baby was sleeping in the same room as us, we went out and bought the adult version because we couldn’t sleep without it! This machine is perfect for providing the baby (and adults!) with white noise (and blocking our other distractions such as dogs barking, traffic, etc.) for sleeping. We noticed our baby slept way longer and way better when we had the rain sound on.

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While many of us have been homebound the past few months due to COVID-19, pet parents have leaned on their dogs for support more than ever. From loyally staying by our sides, to encouraging us to get out of the house and even making special appearances as new “coworkers,” the time spent together has been equally beneficial for both pets and pet parents.

Which now presents a new challenge: As areas begin to re-open, how will our pets fare when we start leaving the house again each day?

Our dogs have likely become accustomed to constant belly rubs, multiple walks per day and constant attention, so they may experience separation anxiety as we resume our daily lives and spend less time at home. In pets, separation anxiety is a behavioral reaction triggered when dogs are separated from people they are attached to the most. Behavioral signs often include scratching at the door, crying or barking excessively, going to the bathroom in the house and/or chewing things whenever you or your family leaves. In extreme cases, dogs may try to escape, which can result in self-injury and household destruction.

Whether you’re already seeing signs of separation anxiety in your pup or want to prepare them for your absence in advance, there are some simple steps you can take to ease into spending more time apart:

1. Practice leaving the home for at least a couple hours per day to make sure your dog can be left alone without displaying severe signs of stress. Start off in short increments: 15 minutes to a half hour at a time, then gradually increase over the course of a few weeks.

2. Consider crate-training your dog. When used properly, crates can help your dog remain calm and, importantly, out of trouble. Start with just short periods while you are present to help them get used to it. For example, when you are watching television, put your dog in his crate, put the crate next to the sofa and gradually increase the time crated. You can reward quiet behavior with calm praise or with treats.

3. When you do leave, don’t make a fuss and try to do the same when you return. It may be difficult, but limiting the attention your dog gets shortly before leaving or after you arrive home lessens the shock and eases the moment of relief when you do return.

4. Leave out a few fun toys that you only bring out when you leave—these special toys will seem like a reward to your dog and signify that you leaving is a positive thing.

5. If your dog responds well in social situations, try daycare or social walks to keep them engaged and occupied while you’re gone. Pro tip: call your local daycare center and ask if you can bring your dog for an early drop-off. This ensures your dog has the chance to sniff around, get comfortable and greet the other “regulars” as they come in.

As a pet parent, you know your dog better than anyone else and are the best resource to decide what’s most helpful for them to adapt. If cases of separation anxiety persist or worsen, professionals like trainers and veterinarians are also always available for extra assistance. Overall, it’s important to know that new routines can be tricky for humans and animals alike, but rest assured that with patience and persistence, you and your pup can get through it together.

Dr. Danielle Bernal
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

Dr. Bernal has over a decade of experience in veterinary medicine, specializing in animal nutrition. In her role as on-staff veterinarian with Wellness Natural Pet Food, she educates pet parents on the importance of natural ingredients like wholesome meats and nutrient-rich superfoods and the highest quality standards. 

These are strange, and yes, occasionally trying times. Even if you’re “New York Tough,” you still need some help, support and possibly some pizza or toys delivered. We’ve been doing our best to find all of the above for New York City kids and families in the age of corona. As we head into an NYC summer the likes of which none of us have ever experienced, we’re rounding up all of our current resources in one place so you can have them at your fingertips. (More to come!) And don’t forget to check out our full and updated calendar of virtual events and online classes for kids here!

Where to Go For an Urban Hike in NYC

The Greenbelt Conservancy

Go for an urban hike with the kids. We found treks in along the Hudson, in historic cemeteries, through parks in northern Manhattan and beyond. Click here to find your NYC kid-friendly hike! 

To Host a Virtual Birthday Party

Magic Evan

Everybody's doing it! We found entertainers, kits delivered, cooking parties, magicians and more. Click here for NYC online birthday party planning! 

For Online Art Classes and Activities

Barking Cat Art Studio

Join a class, get a crafting kit delivered, tackle a project—these NYC businesses will help keep your kids engaged and creative! 

To Get Garden Supplies & Plants Delivered

Grow some veggies, plant a flower box, start some seeds. These NYC garden centers and hardware stores can help you! 

For a Special Remote Photo Shoot

Michelle Rose Photo

Yes, you CAN get a first birthday cake smash photo, have a maternity photo shoot or special birthday portrait during COVID-19. These professional photographers will capture your special moments via Zoom and FaceTime—at a reduced rate! Click here to find out how! 

To Practice or Learn a New Language With the Kids

Bilingual Birdies

For little ones or bigger kids, there are virtual singalongs, online classes in French, Spanish, Mandarin and more. Click here to see our favorite online foreign language classes and activities for kids from NYC folks! 

For NYC Pizza Delivered

Fornino

The pies are still coming out of the ovens, and many of the best pizzerias in the city! Click here to find yours! 

For NYC-themed Rainy Day Entertainment

IMDB

Too hot or too wet to get outside? Hit the couch and watch one of our favorite movies for kids featuring NYC. Click here for our recs! 

For Online Parenting Classes, Breastfeeding Support & More

Birth Day Presence

Expecting? Congrats! Didn't expect to prep for birth online but looking for some virtual birthing classes, or maybe some breastfeeding support or newborn care classes? These experienced providers are here to help! 

To Tour NYC Virtually

Giulia S. via Yelp

Check out Times Square, The Highline, the Manhattan skyline from near or far via these remote cameras. 

To Get Some Toys Delivered

Boomerang Toys

Whether you need to refresh your puzzle stash or LEGO kits, want some new outdoor toys for summer fun or are looking for a few good board games, these NYC toy stores are here to help! Click here to find toy stores delivering, offering curbside pickup or reduced shipping. 

For Online Activities, Events & Classes From NYC Providers

New Victory Theater

We rounded up some options for virtual classes and fun (much of it free) right here early on. Many of these peeps are still going strong, such as the New Victory Theater and its "Arts Break" (shown here), which has a new theme every week! Click here to explore more online fun for kids!

To Get Inspired By Your Neighbors

Alyson Vitticore

See how other NYC kids and families are passing the time and having fun—and steal some ideas for your own PAUSE routine. Click here to be inspired by your fellow New Yorkers! 

 

—Mimi O’Connor

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We have entered a new normal stage of self-isolation for the foreseeable future and this means that many will be working from home for an extended period. There are a lot of social media posts from people who are suddenly thrust into the world of working from home. My colleagues and I are work from home veterans, so we put together some tips, including some products we personally love, for staying productive from home. 

1. Find dedicated office space. Even if it is a desk in a closet or a tiny corner, having a dedicated workspace helps keep you focused during work hours and away during off-hours.

2. Play soothing music. I put on Alexa and say “Spa” music. It drowns out my kids in the background.

3. Find a quiet place for client calls. Walk-in closets work great (all of those clothes make a natural buffer to screaming kids!). In a pinch, you can also go sit in your car.

4. Get up and move and incorporate exercise into your day. I have a pull-up bar installed on my office door for getting in some pull ups in between periods of working. Another good all-body exercise is to hold a plank in 20-30 second increments, or if you live in a quiet neighborhood, take a walk around the block to get some fresh air and clear your head.

I’ve found that keeping my workspace clean of clutter with multi-purpose must-haves helps to keep me focused. For example, I use the T2W from LumiCharge which combines an LED Lamp, Bluetooth Speaker and Wireless Phone Charger all in one. I also recommend having a versatile water bottle you love on the desk at all times, but especially during this unusual time. Why? Keeping up with healthy routines during isolation is so important and hydration is top of the list as a simple thing everyone can and should do. My favorite is made by Fressko because I can enjoy plain water, or infuse tea or fruit and veggies for variety to help encourage hydration while reducing the urge to eat everything in the pantry out of boredom.

I’ve seen a few memes declaring dogs the winners of quarantine because they have their families at home with them now. But a lot of new work from home people are about to learn the fun of the conference call from home and what happens when you’re in the middle of one and Fido needs to go outside, or decides to start barking during your turn to talk. Wayzn is a smart device that gives you full control of your sliding glass door from wherever you are in the world, even if that’s only in your home office with the door shut. Pro Tip: Use that mute button whenever you aren’t actively speaking. Be well and stay healthy!

Allyson is a mom of two and has more than a decade of experience working in both television news and public relations. From national television shows to top newspapers, Allyson has worked around the world including a travel magazine in London, England, Phoenix TV and local hospital and healthcare association.

If your family includes a fur baby or two, chances are you’ve spent a good amount time and money gearing them up with their own toys, treats and accessories. Much like with your kids, pet owners do love to go all out to please their pets, but some items are a little more outside-the-box than others, like these weird pet products.

These are some of the most ridiculous pet products you can find:

Shed Defender

Amazon

If you love your pooch, but not all that fur that gets left behind on your furniture, then this dog leotard could be the answer. At the very least it will keep you in laughter, that is if you can convince your dog to wear it.

Available on Amazon, $39.99.

Dog Life Jacket with Mermaid Tail

Etsy

Keep your dog safe in the pool and make his mer-dog dreams come true with this mermaid dog life jacket.

Available on Etsy, $32.

Adjustable Pet Sling

Amazon

If you already wear your baby, why not wear your pets?

Available on Amazon, $22.99.

Bowser Beer

Amazon

At the end of a long day of barking and scratching what more could a dog ask for than an ice cold bottle of non-alcoholic dog beer. It comes in three delicious flavors: Beefy Brown Ale, Cock-a-Doodle Brew and Porky Pug Porter.

Available on Amazon, $26.99.

Meowsling Cat Wine

Amazon

You wouldn't want to leave your kitty out of the party. Pour your feline friend a glass of this catnip-infused, non-alcoholic "cat wine."

Available on Amazon, $11.98.

Pawdicure Polish Pen

Amazon

Every pet wants to look their best so help them put their best paw forward with a colorful pawdicure.

Available on Amazon, $7.99.

Cat Laptop

Amazon

Tired of your cat taking over your laptop? Give her one of her own.

Available on Amazon, $26.25.

Bubbletastic Bacon Bubble Machine

Amazon

Bacon-flavored bubbles, need we say more? The entire family can get behind this one.

Available on Amazon, $24.95.

Mattel's Puppy Tweets

Amazon

Is your dog a social media maven? Clip this device onto her collar and every time she barks those Twitter followers are in for a tweet. Whenever your dog moves or barks with this wifi enabled device on you'll get notified via Twitter with one of 500 preloaded phrases.

Available on Amazon, $16.95.

Snuggie for Dogs

Amazon

Your dog deserves a cozy night on the couch too. Wrap him up in this blanket with sleeves and curl up for some Netflix.

Available on Amazon, $8.15.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

 

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Children always clamor to have pets—be it a puppy, kitten or pony. Fish are great pets for children to have. There’s a soothing effect to watching fish swim inside an aquarium. Even better, fish tend to take up less room. Another advantage to having pet fish is they are far quieter than a barking dog. Fish don’t require any walking activities or regular visits to the pet spa for grooming. Pet fish also won’t destroy or soil furniture as four-legged pets might.

Of course, families still must learn how to properly care for their fish so that it can thrive as a pet. Fish make wonderful “starter pets” for children to learn about the responsibilities involved with pet ownership. So, if your family has made the decision to care for fish, here are some tips to get you started.

Learn as much as you can about keeping fish—before you go to the fish store.

Together, parents and children can read up on the topic of fishkeeping. Alternatively, your family can even seek out and ask more experienced fishkeepers for recommendations on how to get started. While pet store employees might at first glance seem knowledgeable about fish, it’s far better to ask information from seasoned fishkeeping hobbyists—particularly since employees and store owners might have ulterior motives such as fulfilling quotas or offloading inventory. Seasoned fishkeeping hobbyists are all experienced pet owners of fish. Sometimes your city or town has organizations like a fish society or a fish club where your family can meet up and speak with fishkeeping hobbyists to learn more about how to care for pet fish.

One fish, two fish, red fish, blue fish: Which fish make good pets?

Start with fish that have been bred in captivity rather than those that are wild-caught. Fish bred in captivity are already accustomed to aquarium environments, making it easier for your family to care for them.

The next thing to consider is how large a fish can grow into. Remember: If a fish grows too large, you’ll need to purchase another tank and relocate it to the larger-sized aquarium. Also consider whether you want a lone fish or several fish. Should you want a community of fish, you’ll need to research which fish are suitable companions with one another.

You can begin with hardy starter fish like a single male betta in a three-gallon tank, or five mollies in a ten-gallon tank. After you’ve gotten the knack of caring for a group of mollies, you and your children can advance to include guppies, platies and swordtails to your tank—just don’t overcrowd your tank.

If your family is successful with one tank, you can invest in a second 10-gallon tank or even go for a 29-gallon tank, if you think your family is ready. Your best bet is to start with one fish species then introduce additional species slowly. A 10-gallon tank can support up to 12 fish at once.

Just know that some species need a minimum number for the community of to thrive—some fish, for instance, school together to minimize stress. If you don’t have the minimum number for the species to school properly, it could lead to compromised health for those fish.

Heading to the pet store? Start small.

Freshwater fish are low-maintenance compared to saltwater fish, so it’s best to start with freshwater fish. A saltwater tank requires much more attention to water conditions and temperatures, making it a difficult for kids to take care of.

When you purchase an aquarium, a 10-gallon tank is ideal as a first tank, especially if you plan to have more than one fish. However, if your family prefers having one fish, a three-gallon or five-gallon tank works just fine.

Do you want fake or real plants in your aquarium? Each has their advantages. Fake plants are low-maintenance, but real plants can benefit the tank’s natural ecosystem.

Get to know all about healthy fish tank habits.

You will need to find out what kind of water you have that runs from your faucet tap—is it hard or soft? What’s the pH level? This is important info to have co you can monitor the water quality of your aquarium. Sometimes your community has a fish store that sells water for fish tanks to make it easier to maintain an aquarium’s water quality. Don’t forget to learn how to test the water quality of your tanks with the various test strips and kits available at your local fish store.

Setting up a tank requires having it “cycle” before adding your fish. Cycling a fish tank means that you allow the growth of necessary bacteria in your tank and filter to enable proper breakdown of fish waste. Otherwise, ammonia and other harmful substances can build up in your tank and even poison your fish. To avoid this, cycling your tank must be performed before fish can be introduced. Cycling a tank can take as little as one week or as long as one month.

You might also need filters, lighting or heaters to set up the right environment before you introduce your fish. When your family first sets up your fish tank, the welfare of your fish takes priority over the aesthetic appearance of a tank. In other words, create an aquarium environment that would make your pet fish happiest and healthiest. Preparation of the tank is key to setting the groundwork for a good beginner fish keeping experience.

Don’t neglect safety best practices.

Choose an impact-resistant, sturdy tank that is made of approved acrylic. If you prefer a different material, research it heavily. Similarly, secure all the electrical wiring to minimize any risks, especially if your children will be taking care of the fish, too.

Remind kids not to poke their fingers into the water—not only does it stress the fish, but your child can get sick if he or she has an open wound or scratch. The microscopic organisms (protozoans, bacteria, viruses, etc.) occurring naturally in the tank and water could enter the wound and harm your child’s health.

Healthy water makes for happy fish.

You’ll need to change the water often—more specifically, remove 35 percent of the water and replace it with clean, fresh water, making sure to condition it before pouring it into the tank. Use the test kits to monitor the water’s parameters closely. Sometimes city-treated water can create spikes of certain chemicals that can harm your pet fish. Be vigilant and purchase water from a fish store that has conditioned it appropriately.

What if you fish gets sick?

Watch your fish closely for any signs of disease—the quicker you catch signs of it, the sooner and better you can treat it. There are many online forums and Facebook groups that list all the warning signs that something’s wrong with your fish. Fish are living creatures: They, too, have illnesses to which they can succumb.

Showing the utmost care for your family’s fish goes a long way towards ensuring that they thrive wonderfully, which is ultimately what responsible pet stewardship is all about.

Featured Photo Courtesy: Mariecor Agravante
Mariecor Agravante
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

I am a daughter, wife, and mom.  Professionally I am a writer (poet, author, ghostwriter, blogger and editor), an artist (photography, digital design art, illustration and painting) and online educator. I've been published on USA Today, Medium and eHow, as well as other online publications. 

If your little one has been begging (and barking) for a pet, it might be time to consider welcoming a new furry friend into your family. Pets can not only teach your kiddo responsibility, they can also help build family bonds. With so many furry friends who need a home, consider the motto, “Adopt, Don’t Shop” as you begin the search for your family’s new best friend. Here are eight San Diego pet adoption centers filled with pets waiting for a family to call their own.

San Diego Humane Society

If you’re looking for a dog, cat, bunny, or other small critter, the San Diego Humane Society has locations in central San Diego, Escondido, and Oceanside. You can learn about the furry friends before you arrive by checking out the profiles of all of the available animals on their website. All adoption fees include spay/neuter, current vaccinations, microchip, 30 days of complimentary medical insurance, and a certificate for a free veterinary exam. The San Diego Humane Society also offers fun and affordable training classes and workshops to get your new pet on the right track. Drop by the San Diego or Oceanside campuses on Thursdays from 3 - 5 p.m. for Fur Fix Thursday where your little one can pet, play, and socialize with available kittens and puppies.

San Diego Campus
5500 Gaines St.
San Diego, CA 92110
619-299-7012

Escondido Campus
3450 E. Valley Pkwy.
Escondido, CA 92027
760-888-2275

Oceanside Campus
2905 San Luis Rey Rd. (dogs)
572 Airport Rd. (cats, small animals)
Oceanside, CA 92058
760-757-4357

Hours: Mon.-Fri., 11 a.m.-6 p.m.; Sat. & Sun., 11 a.m.-5 p.m.
Online: sdhumane.org

Photo credit: Diane via Flickr Creative Commons

Is your family ready to give a precious pet a new fur-ever home? Tell us all the shaggy details in a comment below.

— Kelly Powell