Please stop judging me for leaving the office at exactly 5 p.m.; my kids are waiting to be picked up from the sitter.

I know I’m missing this meeting, but my kid’s preschool graduation is more important.

I know I was late today, but I can’t drop the baby off at daycare until 7:45 a.m.

I know that I seem distracted because I am distracted. I have a sick toddler and I am waiting to find out when I can get him into the pediatrician.

I don’t want to look exhausted when I show up at the office, but I have been awake since 4:30 a.m. with an inconsolable kid.

I know that my eyes look glazed over, but I spent the last twelve hours trying to soothe a baby to sleep.

I didn’t mean for my email to seem snippy, but I have a five-year-old that cried this morning because he didn’t want to go to school, and I am worried about him.

Yes, I just banged my head against my desk. I received a text message that my kid has pink eye and I have to leave to get him even though this report is almost due.

I know my eyes are very swollen right now. I spent last night crying because I am exhausted, never get to be alone and haven’t taken a hot shower in five years.

Sorry that I was short with you, but I spent the last hour arguing with a toddler over the necessity of wearing pants to the babysitter.

I know I am supposed to leave my personal life at the door when I come to the office, but when you are a mom to two small kids, that is hard to do.

So thank you to everyone that has given me grace over the last five years.

I could probably stand to give myself a little.

Being a full-time working mom with young kids is not easy.

Thank you to every boss that has let me leave for doctor’s appointments, unexpected sicknesses, preschool graduations, and school lunches.

Thank you to all the people that turned their heads when I was pregnant and had to run out of a meeting to go puke.

Thank you to everyone that has let me know they also had a hard time juggling their work/life/kid balance.

Thank you to the people that ignored my swollen eyes, exhausted face and the spit-up on my blouse.

Thank you to all the other moms that slay it each and every day and motivate me to keep going.

Thank you to the people that encourage me to keep going even though I can feel defeated at times.

Thank you to all the co-workers that have picked up slack for me because I had to make a quick exit to solve a kid emergency.

I know that I am not the only working mom in the world, but I am a working mom and I totally understand what you are going through.

I understand that you feel like you need to overcompensate because you get to work just on time and leave the minute the clock strikes five.

I understand when you eat your lunch at your desk because you have to leave early to get a kid from the sitter to the doctor then back to the sitter and then get yourself back to the office in time for your 2 p.m. meeting.

I understand that sometimes you show up to work looking like you were attacked by a flock of geese because the kids couldn’t find their shoes, you gave someone the wrong color bowl and then forgot to take Sleepy Bear to the babysitter.

I understand that you are tired. Exhausted probably.

But I also understand that you are capable and worthy of so much more than you realize sometimes.

You don’t have to choose between two worlds that you love. You can have them both. You can have a family and a career. It’s not easy, but it is possible.

Yes, the worlds might collide sometimes and make life much more complicated, but it’s worth it.

So don’t stop. Don’t give up. You’ve got this.

And P.S. Not everyone is going to understand. And that’s okay.

Until next time,

Jamie

This post originally appeared on Hashtag MomFail.
Featured image: iStock 

I am a full time working mom with two little boys, Henry and Simon. I write about real life and real life gets messy. Contributor for Motherly, HuffPost Parents, Scary Mommy, Today Parents, Love What Matters and Her View From Home. 

When it comes to inspiring women, there is no shortage of leading ladies who have made the world a better place. This month, the Barbie Inspiring Women series is getting a new doll, and she’s the perfect addition as the school year draws to a close.

The first deafblind person to earn a Bachelor of Arts degree, Helen Keller will serve as the newest collectible in the Barbie lineup. Keller’s achievements include being an educator, speaker, author and advocate during the early 1900’s.

photo: Courtesy of Mattel

The Inspiring Women series doll’s outfit is inspired by Keller herself, with a striped skirt and ruffled lace blouse. She comes with a braille book, complete with molded dots on the cover.

To ensure the new doll was authentic, Barbie paired up with the National Federation of the Blind (NFB), a membership and advocacy organization for blind Americans. The duo worked to make sure the doll mirrored Keller and that the packaging, which contains braille on the front, was accessible for the blind and low vision community.

The Helen Keller Inspiring Women doll is available now at Barbie.com and retailers nationwide for $29.99.

––Karly Wood

 

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It’s a New Year and we’re betting your closet needs a refresh. Maybe you’re working from home more and don’t use all those power suits, or maybe you just want to do some closet organization. No matter your reason, the solution is easy: create a capsule wardrobe of clothing that you can mix and match, wear any day, dress up or dress down and then ditch the rest! Here are the essentials any busy mom needs to start her own capsule wardrobe

What Is a Capsule Wardrobe?

Priscilla Du Preez via Unsplash

A capsule wardrobe is the idea that one should be able to pair her closet down to a few select, high-quality items that go with everything and never go out of style. It follows along with the minimalist trend we've been seeing everywhere, from Marie Kondo's de-cluttering mantra to the concept of Swedish death cleaning. For anyone who has a ton of cheap/trendy impulse buys hanging around (all of us), pairing a wardrobe down to just a few things can be daunting.

What Items Should You Buy?

A (Really) Good Pair of Shoes

Rothy's

Whether you work in an office or at home, there’s nothing like a good pair of shoes to make you feel like you can conquer the world. For busy moms, Rothy’s is the perfect fit. Designed by women, for women, the unbelievable comfort and fit of each shoe is the driving force behind their cult-favorite status. Available in three styles with dozens of colors and prints, choose a pair that best suits your lifestyle and career, whether you’re an FTWM, SAHM, WFHM or PTWM.

A Really Good Pair of Jeans

Measure & Made

Make it an investment to purchase one pair of really good, quality jeans. You’ll be wearing them almost every day so the price tag will be worth it. For a purchase that is sure to fit every time, we love Measure & Made. They're a size-inclusive brand that uses FITLOGIC to ensure you get the best fit and style for your body. Take a quick (less than a minute) quiz that takes your body size and shape into account, and then helps guide you to the right size for your body. There are several styles, but we especially love the skinny ankle jean.

Find your size and buy a pair here, $79 and up

A Classic T-Shirt or Two

American Giant

There’s no better addition to your closet than a classic t-shirt. Whether you like crewneck, scoop or v-neck, a basic t-shirt, especially in white, will go with EVERYTHING you own. We especially love the options from American Giant, because not only each item is made in the USA, but everything fits really well. Is white not your jam (because, well, kids)? Just opt for a simple black t-shirt and consider it neutral. 

A Striped T-Shirt

Everlane

Nautical stripes are a classic item everyone should have in their wardrobe. While any shirt style will work, the boatneck is flattering on almost everyone and pairs with almost every style of bottom. We love this one from Everlane. It comes in grey and white or blue and red.

A Denim Jacket

Levi's

If you don’t already have this staple in your closet, it’s a must. It works with everything from other denim to black, skirts, pants and dresses. And as far as classic goes, there’s nothing better than Levi’s Original Trucker Jacket. Avoid trending pieces that have fringe or specific colors to keep your style timeless. 

A Little Black Dress

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If you don’t already own a LBD, may we suggest going to grab one now? There’s something available for every shape and size, and you can wear it just about anywhere. Wondering where to look? Nordstrom Rack has a wide selection and array of styles that'll fit just about anyone and we love this simple, swing sleeveless style from Evereve (it has pockets!). 

A Black Blazer

Macy's

Boring, you say? We say timeless. You can dress this down for coffee with your pals, sport it for almost any day at work, or even wear it for a date night with your partner. This INC version is a great price and is a classic fit.

A Bow-Tie Neck Blouse

Hawes & Curtis

Kamala Harris helped revive this trend, but it's a closet staple because it can be dressed down with jeans and flats or fancied up with a pencil skirt. Also known as the tie-neck or the pussy bow, we love the silky version from UK retailer Hawes & Curtis

 

— Gabby Cullen & Amber Guetebier

 

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At Red Tricycle HQ we’ve been a solely remote team for a number of years. And while we miss our occasional happy hours and regular meeting room jokes, we’ve come up with a lot of ways to get the job done, even on those days when our kids are home with us. Whether you’ve found yourself unexpectedly working from home with a full house or making it a regular thing, here are nine tips that will help.

photo: iStock

Tip #1: Singletasking

We know, you’re a parent. Singletasking isn’t really in your nature. But trust us on this one: taking the time to do one task at a time is key to having a productive day. And that might mean stopping and playing with your kids for a bit. One trick we use is the 10-30 rule. Give your kids 10 minutes of uninterrupted time, then work for 30 uninterrupted minutes. With older kids you can stretch this time. The key it is to make sure during that 10 (or 15 or whatever amount you choose) is 100% with them. No checking your phone for messages or looking at the computer screen. Set a timer and stick to it. The kids will catch on faster than you think. We also recommend taking breaks to stretch and eat lunch like a real human being.

Tip #2: Know Your Audience

Got a co-worker that sends confusing emails? Or someone who never responds? It can take some getting used to but everyone communicates differently. And every topic may require different forms of communication. At our “office” we have tools like Slack for instant messaging, Google Hangouts when we need face-time, phone calls when we need to just hear each other out, or emails when something requires more words or is part of a chain we’re tracking. Sometimes a quick call can hash out something that would have taken ages to explain via email. Remember, tone and humor doesn’t always come across in messages. Use emojis.

photo: rawpixel 

Tip #3: Relax the Rules (At Home)

Are you one of those households that limits screen time for your kids? This might be time to relax those rules a little bit and give them more “veg” time to be distracted (so you can finish something up).

Tip #4 A Little Prep Goes a Long Way 

That screen-time we mentioned? Get prepped ahead and download a new game the kids will love. Here are our favorite online educational games to get you started. Find some new movies they’ll enjoy too. Take a visit to the library to stock up on books, and have a few activity books and kits on hand. Arrange long distance video chats with the grandparents and have them read a story. We also recommend packing a lunch for kids (and even yourself) like you do for weekdays, that way when lunch time rolls around you’ll save on prep time. Make a little healthy snack shelf or basket too for the in-between times if kids are old enough to grab themselves.

Tip #5: Ignore the Dishes

If you’re not used to working from home, you might find it impossible to not clean or organize something. While we’ve all thrown the occasional load of laundry in or “zen” out cleaning for a few minutes here or there, now is not the time to organize your closet or vacuum your house from top to bottom. Consider if you were gone for 8+ hours; what state would your house be in? Leave it. You’ll never be able to do it all and you’ll end up feeling stretched thin because of it. (See rule #1).

photo: laterjay via Pixabay

Tip #6:  Ask for Help

You are only human. Granted, you’re a working parent, so you’re kinda superhuman, too. But don’t even try to do it all. Think you can entertain your well-behaved kids while cranking out that report that was due yesterday? You probably can, to be honest, but your work quality will suffer, and your stress level and work life balance will pay the price. And you know who really pays the price? Your partner? Well, yeah. But also your kids. So ask for help if you can get it. Because of physical distancing with COVID-19, playdates aren’t an option. So try a virtual playdate with other parents. Ask the kids to help you, too. Tell them the situation is tricky and you’re all doing. your best. But don’t try to do it all: you can’t grocery shop, meal plan, do child care and get all your work done. If you need to and you can, take time off to run your necessary errands or do something outside with your kids. No help? See rules #3 and 4 above.

Tip #7: Be Respectful of Others’ Time, Including Your Own

Got a list of things to do for work and in your personal life? Consider how you plan your day and how it affects your coworkers. Keep your calendar up to date so that your colleagues know if they can expect you to get back to them or if you need a break.

Tip #8: Try to Laugh

The conference call where you could hear your boss’ kids singing in the background? The neighbors dogs that started to bark exactly when it was your turn to talk; we’ve all been there. We’ve taken calls from the shower, to keep our kids from interrupting us, we’ve had so many tabs open we couldn’t focus anymore, we’ve obliviously worked through reminders for meetings (that we requested). Working remotely has its challenges, but a little patience and humor goes a long way. (Something parents have in droves).

Tip #9: Get Dressed

It may be tempting to lounge around in your PJs while you work, or keep yourself ready-to-go so you can jam in a workout when the littlest one naps. And if you’re new to the remote working world, for the first couple of days this might be fine. But on the third day, by mid afternoon when your head hurts and your kids have interrupted you 75 times (in spite of rules #1-6) you’re going to want that self-esteem boost that only actual pants and a blouse or a button up can bring.

—Amber Guetebier

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Excited about adding to your spring wardrobe? You should be—because the brand new plus-size collection at Anthropologie just hit the shelves!

APlus by Anthropologie launched Mar. 15 online and in select store locations, featuring over 120 styles in sizes that range from 16W to 26W. The new line adds tons of diversity to the store that previously capped out at a size 14, while still maintaining the classy and feminine styles we’ve come to love about Anthro.

Keep scrolling to see some of our fave picks from the new collection.

Virginia Dress

Oh, hello spring! This chiffon Virginia Dress ($190) with a maxi silhouette and smocked waist is the perfect way to welcome warmer weather. The beautifully colored and elegantly detailed piece comes with adjustable straps and will more than carry your style into summer.

Imaginarium Jumpsuit

APlus' Imaginarium Jumpsuit ($140) has it all: stretchy, rayon fabric, an adorable gathered V-neck and side slant pockets. The navy essential transitions perfectly from day to night and is comfortable, too.

Oceanside Cropped Wide-Leg Pants

The Oceanside Cropped Wide-Leg ($120) have no limits. Perfect for spring, summer or fall, the linen bottoms are light and breezy, and come in cream, navy, dark olive and sunflower. Enjoy the wide-leg silhouette through all your warm weather outings!

Marrakech Draped Jacket

The draped front of the stylish Marrakech Jacket ($140) softens any look instantly. Choose between a dusty olive or stonewall color, and enjoy the artistic flair of this snap and zipper front jacket as you pair with pants, dresses or skirts.

Calais Top

Flowy and dainty, the Calais Top ($78) is a nice change from a boring T-shirt. The floral front is contrasted by a gray backing with ruched sides that make this a great blouse to pair with shorts, pants or skirts for sunny spring weather.

––Karly Wood

All photos courtesy of Anthropologie

 

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When you’ve been living in sweatpants and adjusting to your ever-changing new-mom body, it can be hard to re-find your fashion groove. Here are 10 outfit staples (from bras and tanks to pants and even a bag to complete your look) for new moms to help you feel like yourself againand like one hot mama.

Kut from the Kloth Jeans with FAB AB Technique

Kut from the Kloth

You may already know Kut from the Kloth for its figure-flattering jeans in stylish washes. The company has now introduced a new innovation, the FAB AB technique, that can give you a slimmer shape. Available in two stylesthe Diana relaxed fit skinny and the Mia slim fit skinny—this new style boasts flatter front pockets and soft, stretchy denim to show off your curves and flatten that postpartum belly. 

Available at kutfromthekloth.com, $98.

CozyChic Lite® Circle Cardigan from Barefoot Dreams

You may have seen the Barefoot Dreams circle cardigan all over Instagram fashion accounts, and for good reason. It's the softest, coziest cardigan out there, and it drapes well on any shape. Perfect for lounging around the house and a chic topper for running errands, the circle shape can be worn as open or closed you like. Available in neutrals and rich shades. 

Available at shop.nordstrom.com, $116.

Shefit Ultimate Sports Bra

Shefit

Zip. Cinch. Lift. That's how easy it is to get a perfect fit from the Shefit Ultimate Sports bra. This ingenious sports bra zips up the front so it's easy to get on and off (no more getting stuck while pulling a sweaty bra over your head!). You then cinch it in the back and lift the shoulder straps to where you want them. Great for new moms whose weight is changing, and super great for nursing moms, who can feed their littles and get back to their workout in a flash. Available in maximum, high and low impact versions and a rainbow of colors.

Available at shefit.com, $38-$69, depending on style.

Spanx Faux Leather Leggings

Faux leather leggings from Spanx made a big fashion splash last year, and they now come in flashy new colors such as bronze metal and crimson. The best way to get out of a fashion rut, they hit at your natural waist (no muffin top!) and feature a high, tummy-shaping waistband. Plus, they make your exits look as great as your entrances. Available in XS (size 0) to 3X (size 26-28) and petite sizes.

Available at spanx.com, $98-$102.

 

Dream Nursing Tank from Bravado

Nursing tanks offer benefits over nursing bras: They shape your belly and let you skip a layer when getting dressed. This cotton/spandex one from Bravado is nice enough to wear under an open cardigan or button-down shirt. It features a full-support bra with easy-open nursing clips and removable foam inserts for shaping or discretion. If you're not nursing, it's soft and comfortable enough to sleep in.

Available at bravadodesigns.com, $55.

Vintage Soft Joggers from the Gap

If leggings seem too revealing or uncomfortable, opt for looser-fitting joggers. Drawstring waistbands are forgiving, and this pair has an easy fit through the hips and thighs. They're made from soft brushed fleece and have on-seam pockets, which are super handy for holding pacifiers, bottles or your phone when you're carrying baby. In addition to black and gray, these come in blue, cream and a bright red, a welcome change from all of your black maternity pants.

Available at gap.com, $49.95.

Boden Drop Hem Blouse

A longer-line, loose-fitting, structured blouse like a tunic or this dandelion print top from Boden helps you look put-together with minimal effort. Look for a machine-washable fabric so you don't have to worry about dry-cleaning. Made from drapey, washable viscose, this top features gathers at the waist and buttons halfway down, which is handy if you're nursing. Pair it with jeans or leggings and cute flats.

Available at bodenusa.com, $98.

Behr Bras

Behr Bras

When it comes to bras after baby, we need all the support we can get. Literally. Behr Bras are made from nylon/spandex fabric with four-way stretch that supports your changing shape. They're also moisture-wicking, odor- and fade-resistant and sport one-handed nursing clips for easy on and off. Best of all, they break out of the usual nude, white and black color choices with bold, fun colors and prints, so you can dress your chest in something as cute as you'd choose for your baby. Available in nursing and non-nursing styles. 

Available at behrbras.com, $49.

Belly Bandit C-Section Recovery Briefs

Belly Bandit

Calling all C-section moms! Protect your incision area with these high-waisted briefs made from a moisture-wicking, breathable fabric with silver-infused fibers to help eliminate bacteria and odors. The compression fit and fabric can help reduce swelling and ease discomfort, and prevent clothes from rubbing against your scar. Available in nude and black, size small (4-6) through XL (16-18).

Available at bellybandit.com, $34.95.

Healthy Back Bag from Ameribag

Carrying a baby, and all the gear they require, can do a number on your back. So the body-hugging teardrop shape of the Healthy Back Bag is a big winner for new moms. It contours to the curve of your spine to distribute weight evenly and minimize strain in the back, neck and shoulders. And it has interior and exterior pockets for your stuff and baby's. Wear it cross-body or throw it over your shoulder. Available in a variety of colors, sizes and fabrics.

Available at ameribag.com, $60-$220.

 

Eva Ingvarson Cerise

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Reason # 1, 863,067 that we love living in LA: anything goes, and that goes double for fashion. Edgy, beachy casual, hipster haute, runway ready—kids rock it all at from the school to the playground and all points in between. Click through our album to check out our favorite styles from Old Navy’s Spring Collection that take everyone from tots to tweens everywhere they need to go with the perfect mix of comfort, ease and style.

Stylish Yet So Simple
Daphne is rocking the oh-so-comfy Drapey Pant in peach with the cool sailor-ready blue Linen-Blend Stripe Top, and is ready to take on the world (#LikeAGirl) in an outfit that she can climb and tumble in as well as looking runway ready.

Travel Town, Here He Comes
Wear what you love! If he loves choo-choos, he’ll be happy to get dressed in this Train Graphic tee that Jack is sporting. With Pin Striped Painter’s shorts just long enough to protect little knees and kicks made for climbing, he’s ready to take over Travel Town—or any town!

Footloose and Fancy Floral
Vogue tells us this spring is all about the floral print, so Elena is right on trend, yet set to stroll the Strand by the sand in her casual but comfortable and chic Floral Sleeveless Top. With the cross-pattern blouse, keeping it simple with matching navy Poplin Shorts is the perfect call.

We Wish They All Could Be California Boys
Fashion, smashion. He couldn’t care less. Luckily, in LA jeans are welcome anywhere, so Jamie can wear his fashionable yet functional Boys Skinny Jeans to Little League in the morning, to a birthday party in the afternoon and even throw on a blazer for a family celebration dinner at Spago. And the soft Heathered Gray t-shirt is a classic neutral that lets him feel rough and tumble but look casually chic.

Which outfit is your fave?

-Meghan Rose

What’s a simple way to update your look with hardly any effort?  Adding a pair of printed pants as a staple to your fall wardrobe. Printed pants are on trend this season coming in all shapes and sizes.  Skinny jeans, harem pants, trousers or anything in between – you’ll be seeing a lot of fun prints in  stores.

How do you wear them, do you ask? It’s simple, even for the most non-fashionista mom. Pair your printed pants with a solid colored blazer and shirt, or a cute sweater layered over a button up blouse underneath. Or better yet, a simple, stylish t-shirt. Don’t worry, you can find these cool pants at every price point so you don’t have to break the bank!

Urban Outfitters carries a lot of great printed jeans by BDG for $68. And they actually look great on curvy bottoms.

Velvet has the Bambi Native Pants in beautiful fall colors and priced at $109 they are not too expensive, and can be dressed up or dressed down.

Citizens of Humanity has a great pair of Paisley Thompson Cords for $229 that are subtle yet super cute! More of a casual pant, these are great for running around, chasing your little ones!

Rag & Bone has the Roni Print Drop Waist Pant – at $495 they are pricey, but incredibly stylish and cool looking.

What printed pant is your fave? Let us know in the comment section below! 

Leslie Newton, founder of timi & leslie diaper bags, created her company in 1999 when she realized there was a huge void in the marketplace for stylish, functional diaper bags. Besides creating fashionable diaper bags, Leslie loves doing crafts with her 4 year old daughter, and going on lots of family outings. Leslie loves anything vintage or mid-century modern – clothes, furniture, jewelry, fabric – all which have a big influence on the timi & leslie aesthetic.