From the moment you find out you’re pregnant, many moms-to-be start to notice changes in their bodies. Morning sickness, thicker hair, even varicose veins are among the list of culprits that can show up and disappear. But what if they don’t? It turns out, your baby isn’t the only thing you’ll get from those nine grueling months—there are lots of body changes after pregnancy, too. These not-so-cuddly gifts may stick around long after your baby bump goes away. From wider hips to bigger feet, vision changes to sudden (or disappearing) allergies, many new moms will find these changes are part of their postpartum body.

Your Feet Grow

Your baby’s not the only one who's going to need new shoes. Many new moms add half a shoe size—or more—after pregnancy. Blame the hormone relaxin, which loosens the ligaments in your body to help prepare for birth (that pelvis has to widen, after all), which also causes the bones to spread in the feet.

Doctors say there is a chance your feet will go back to their old size after several months, but if your feet still feel cramped in your favorite shoes, it may be time to go shopping (as if you needed a better excuse).

Note: Call your doctor if your feet have swelled up suddenly, as this may be a sign of potentially dangerous preeclampsia or blood pressure changes.

Your Hips Get Wider

You know those glorious hips that widened to let your baby squeeze out into the world? They may never go back to the way they were (even if you had a C-section). Same goes for your rib cage, which also had to open up to make room for your growing child. For most women, these enlarged bones go back to their original place by about 18 weeks postpartum, but some women keep the extra girth permanently.

"My hips stayed permanently wider which was great for me because I had no shape before," said a Reddit user. "I was built like a teenaged boy, lol."

"My hips? Wider yes and not back to normal," said another mom. "But I have embraced it and now have a more hourglass figure with larger bust, slim waist and wide hips." 

"I hope my hips get wider during pregnancy. Wide hips are beauty beautiful," said another.

Related: 10 Things I Didn't Know about Pregnancy, Until I Was Pregnant

Your Breasts Shrink

While pregnancy’s powerful hormones will likely bump your bosom up a few cup sizes, once your milk-making machines dry up, you may end up with smaller breasts than you had before you were pregnant. “You lose a lot of breast elasticity,” Los Angeles–based OB-GYN Pari Ghodsi told Health magazine. “They’re not as full as they once were.”

That said, some women report larger breasts after pregnancy (even after nursing), so it's anyone's guess where your post-baby bust will be.

I was a C pre-pregnancy, was a DD in my second trimester," said a Reddit user. "I never measured postpartum but they were pornographic while I was pumping, and then once I stopped pumping they vanished into thin air and I’ve got A’s now."

“After nursing 6+ years with four kids, they didn't shrink......just deflated,” said another. “I can go out braless bc I can tuck them into my damn waistband.”

"Once my son was eating adult food they went back down to one cup size larger than they were pre-pregnancy," said another.

Your Hair Changes Color, Curl, or Texture

Pregnancy packs a wallop on your hormones, with these changes wreaking havoc on your body all the way to the tips of your strands. Some steadfastly straight-haired mamas get suddenly wavy locks post-baby, while some women with curls may suddenly go straight. (And this is in addition to losing the lustrous hair you likely grew while your baby was cooking.)

Sometimes, the hair goes back to the way it was months later; some women have changed tresses forever. Whatever your look, embrace it as your new mom style.

"I'm Asian and had thick, pin-straight hair before pregnancy,” said one mom on Reddit. “After I gave birth, it went all frizzy/weird, curly but not actually curly; beachy waves, but not nice beachy waves. Like an insane lion that had a bomb go off next to his head.”

“Got my first grey eyebrow hair 7 months along,” said another mom. “Hair is def not the same.”

“My wife was blonde her entire life, and is now a brunette after giving birth to our son,” said another Reddit user. “It’s crazy!”

Your Periods Change

As if you didn’t endure enough down there, postpartum periods tend to be permanently heavier or more painful after pregnancy. According to the Cleveland Clinic, these changes may relate to a larger uterine cavity causing more endometrium (mucous lining the uterus) to shed.

But it’s not all bad news. Some women actually experience lighter, easier periods after childbirth.

“The bottom line is that periods can change after having a baby,” OB-GYN Diane Young said in this article. “If you are concerned about your periods, make an appointment with your OB-GYN. There are medical therapies to help.”

That Dark Line that Points to Your Nether-Regions May Not Go Away

Pregnancy doesn’t just change your shape; it also changes your skin. Take the linea nigra: It’s the dark line that appears during pregnancy and runs from the middle of your belly to your pubic bone. A common hyperpigmentation that develops mid-pregnancy, it usually fades about three months after childbirth, but it can stick around permanently (as can darkened areolas, which also happens during pregnancy).

If the line bothers you, talk to your doctor. While it can’t be removed completely, there are skin-lightening creams and laser treatments that could make it less noticeable.  

Related: Is This Normal? Your Pregnancy Decoded

Your Allergies Disappear… or You Suddenly Have New Ones

Do you suddenly have a perpetually runny nose? Did your lifelong allergy to celery suddenly cease? Hormones are to blame for that, too. In fact, pregnancy can cause all sorts of changes in your immune system, which can alter your sensitivity to allergens. Experts say the most common newly occurring post-pregnancy allergies include seasonal allergies, food sensitivities, and PUPPP rash, a skin condition characterized by small pink itchy bumps on the abdomen. 

"Hormonal fluctuations impact your allergies because estrogen and progesterone have an impact on your mast cells (allergy cells)," allergist and immunologist Purvi Parikh of the Allergy and Asthma Network said in this Parents magazine article. 

Pregnancy isn’t the only dramatic hormonal shift that can trigger allergies, he added. “New allergies can emerge during periods of significant hormonal shifts, including puberty, pregnancy, postpartum, perimenopause, and menopause.”  

You Have Stretch Marks…in Places You Never Thought You Would

Stretch marks on the belly are a veritable right of passage into mommyhood. But stretch marks on the thighs? Breasts? Buttox? Sorry, but it’s a thing. Stretch marks—which appear as red, pink, or black lines (their color depends on your skin)—are actually small scars that happen when sudden weight gain  (i.e. your little miracle) tears the fibers of the skin. Up to 90 percent of pregnant women get them, with most common areas affected being the belly, thighs, hips, butt, and breasts. They can even happen in the upper arms and back.

And while you can’t get rid of (or prevent) stretch marks completely, most fade significantly after several months. In addition, there are some treatments—including chemical peels, lasers, radiofrequency, microdermabrasion, and microneedling— that may make them less noticeable.

My stretch marks are all over my legs!” said one Reddit user on this thread. “Nobody talks about this...my calves, thighs and hips got ‘em for sure. Interesting how everybody’s different.”

“I got zero stretchmarks until after I gave birth,” said another. “And then suddenly they were everywhere! Even behind my knees, under my arms, and on my pubic bone!”

Your Pelvic Floor Muscles Weaken

Sorry, but sneezing may never be the same. The strain of pregnancy and childbirth can weaken your pelvic floor muscles (those are the muscles that support the bladder, uterus, and bowel). This can cause mild to severe urinary incontinence or other pelvic floor disorders including problems related to your bowel or sexual functioning.

The good news? There are exercises you can do to improve things, with daily Kegels being your best first step. If you’re noticing excessive leaking—more than just a little squirt with a sneeze or “Oops” on the trampoline—you may want to talk to your gynecologist about regular physical therapy to improve symptoms (Don’t worry; it’s less embarrassing than it sounds).

Related: The Best Hidden Exercise You Should Do Every Day

Your Vision Changes

Ah, hormones—Is there any part of the body you don’t control? Apparently not. If you’re not seeing your ABCs like you used to, you’re not alone. Up to 20 percent of women experience vision changes after pregnancy, Optometrist Dr. Arian Fartash said on her website. This is because pregnancy hormones cause water retention, which can cause swelling in the eyes. 

“Your feet don’t only swell, but your eyes can swell, too, and that makes your vision change,” Fartash said in her video blog, “Ask an Eye Doctor.” “These changes can stay until after you’re done breastfeeding—or it can stay until the rest of your life.” Consequently, Fartash recommends getting your eyes checked after pregnancy to see if you need a new prescription. 

You Have Phantom Baby Kicks

Yes, phantom kicks are a thing. Your tummy may not be growing a baby anymore, but it’s not uncommon to feel those familiar baby flutters even long after childbirth. According to Texas OB-GYN Tiffany Woodus, phantom kicks are the perception of fetal movement in the abdomen weeks, months, or years after pregnancy has ended. And it's experienced by more women than you'd think. 

Experts aren’t sure why women experience phantom kicks, but according to an online survey done in Australia, women who experience them do so for an average of 6.8 years postpartum, with one mom in the survey reporting phantom kicks up to 28 years later!

My daughter is 7 and I STILL get them!,” said a Mama in this thread.

It freaks me out every time. I'm so glad I saw this post, it's had me guessing a lot,” said another. “My son is nearly three and I've been getting them for the last 6 months. A part of me thinks it's my body teasing me because I do want a second now.”

“Same thing happens to me,” said another. “I even took a pregnancy test to confirm I'm not going crazy even though there was zero chance of pregnancy.”

Related: I Miss the Attention I Got When I Was Pregnant

Your Face Has Dark Spots All Over It

If your face looks splotchier than it did in your child-free days—or if you suddenly have a blanket of freckles all over your nose, you probably have melasma, a common condition caused by pregnancy hormones (it can also happen with the start of birth control pills). The condition, categorized by splotches or freckles of darker skin, usually occurs mainly on the cheeks, forehead, chin, and above the upper lip. 

For some women, it goes away a few months after their baby is born (or after they stop taking the pill); for others, the change is permanent. But don’t despair: There are several treatments that may help, including lightening creams and laser light therapy. 

A Final Note

While it may seem daunting to learn about all the uncomfortable or potentially permanent side effects of pregnancy, try to keep things in perspective: After all, you just added a human to the world. Those are battle scars you're earning!

And anyway—stretch marks, vision changes, and splotchy skin equals new baby, plus a lifetime of love and purpose. We'll take it.

Cute leggings = a better day. It’s common core mathematics. Being pregnant is an exciting time, but it also comes with its fair share of challenges. One of those challenges is finding comfortable, stylish clothes that fit your ever-growing bump. Especially when you’re looking for activewear and loungewear. That’s where maternity leggings come in. Even if you’re a leggings connoisseur when you’re not pregnant, rocking that beautiful belly changes everything—even your favorite, feel-like-they-were-made-for-you pair might feel, dare we say it?, uncomfortable.

While some may argue that leggings aren’t pants, we beg to differ—especially when you’re sporting a baby bump. We’ve rounded up the best maternity leggings on the market, so you can stay comfortable and stylish throughout your pregnancy. From buttery soft fabrics to supportive waistbands, these leggings will make you forget you’re even wearing pants (in the best way possible). Leggings that fit your growing bump (and post-baby bod) while making you look and and feel awesome are always an excellent motivator. Read on for our top picks for supportive and super comfortable maternity leggings.

Storq Signature Leggings

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Storq

Yesss, this is what we want to be rocking during and after pregnancy. Soft and stretchy leggings with a curve-hugging fit and a waist panel that falls mid-bump, is high-waisted when we're not bumping, and can be worn folded down whenever we want. Wear these to work out, when you're lounging or running errands, even if you're recovering from a C-section. Sizes: XS-4X. Buy these on their own or save money with an awesome bundle that includes a nursing sports bra and bike shorts.

Storq Signature Leggings ($74.00)—Buy Here!

Beyond Yoga Spacedye Love the Bump Midi Maternity Legging

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Beyond Yoga

Designed to be worn below or over the bump, these midi leggings let you choose the level of support and coverage you need that day. The fabric is quick-drying, moisture-wicking and offers UV protection, so it keeps you dry and comfortable in all weather and all sorts of workouts.

Beyond Yoga Spacedye Love the Bump Midi Maternity Legging ($108.00)—Buy Here!

Ingrid + Isabel The Performance Leggings

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Ingrid and Isabel

Worth the splurge if you plan to work out on a regular basis. These moisture-wicking, sustainable leggings come in a four-way stretch fabric to allow a full range of motion. They feature a contoured panel you can wear over your bump or folded down beneath it for maximum versatility, and they provide gentle support to the lower back. Sizes: XS-XL. Color: black.

Ingrid + Isabel The Performance Leggings ($88.00)—Buy Here!

Girlfriend Collective Seamless Maternity Leggings

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Girlfriend Collective

A super stretchy, seamless maternity legging made from recycled fishing nets that’s ultra-lightweight, versatile and perfect for all-day lounging, running errands, or postpartum. Available in 5 colors, 2 lengths, and sizes XXS-6XL.

Girlfriend Collective Seamless Maternity Leggings ($88.00)—Buy Here!

Skims Fits Everybody Maternity Leggings

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Skims

Skims' soft, second skin fabric that stretches with your growing belly—without losing its shape. They feature a 2-ply construction to prevent sheerness and a high-rise, elastic waist. Available in sizes XXS-4XL.

Skims Fits Everybody Maternity Leggings ($66.00)—Buy Here!

Zella Mamasana Studio Luxe High Waist Maternity Leggings

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Calling all Zella fans: The brand's maternity leggings have a stretchy, supportive panel to cover your bump and are made from a moisture-wicking fabric that keeps you cool and comfortable. Sizes: XXS-XXL.

Zella Mamasana Studio Luxe High Waist Maternity Leggings ($79.00)—Buy Here!

Lululemon Align High-Rise Leggings

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These aren’t technically maternity leggings, so why do moms-to-be love them so much? The fabric! The buttery soft Nulu fabric of these Lululemons is stretchy and doesn’t feel tight, even when your belly is busting out of all of your other clothes. Best of all, you’ll get lots of wear out of them after pregnancy too. Available in a ton of colors and sizes 0-20.

Lululemon Align High-Rise Leggings ($98.00-$118.00)—Buy Here!

 

Belly Bandit Maternity Bump Support Leggings

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Belly Bandit

The Belly Bandit Maternity Support Leggings feature a customizable waistband to give you the best fit. Not only are they super comfortable and super soft, but they also help give your baby bump some extra support with their underbelly ribbed paneling, smoothing you from the waist down, too. Available in 3 colors and sizes S-XL.

Belly Bandit Maternity Bump Support Leggings ($50.95)—Buy Here!

 

 

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There isn’t an entire book called The Womanly Art of Breastfeeding for nothing—it truly is an art. And for some of us artists, myself included, it just doesn’t come as naturally as we’d hoped. There are so many things I didn’t know before I started breastfeeding, from the cracked nipples to the awkwardness of doing it in public, but I was especially unaware that there are so many different breast and chestfeeding positions, not to mention the fact that you can pick and choose based on your unique needs.

Whether your breasts are large, you have twins, your baby won’t latch (same here), or you’re just really freaking tired (which you will be), rest assured that there’s a position for that. When feeds don’t go smoothly, or even when they do, it can be super empowering as a new parent to have a full menu of the best breastfeeding positions to pull from and know exactly how to maneuver them—and we’d bet you haven’t heard of a few of these. So stick with us. We’ve asked two lactation experts to explain how each position works and which to use for specific situations that may come up during your bodyfeeding journey.

The best breastfeeding positions start with a solid latch

Both experts agree that there’s no one-size-fits-all position when it comes to breastfeeding. Amy Peterson, IBCLC, a lactation consultant for Evenflo, says that while it can take great patience to get nursing going smoothly, the best breastfeeding position is one where the baby can latch effectively, the milk transfers well, and everyone is comfortable.

To get your baby latched and eating, the basic steps involve positioning yourself comfortably, positioning your baby close to you, supporting your breast, and attaching your baby to your breast, according to La Leche League International. Baby can be resting on a nursing pillow (a C-shaped pillow that often fastens around the parent’s waist), a regular pillow, or no pillow at all, depending on what works best for you. When attaching them, you want to start with their nose lined up to your nipple, then touch their chin to the lower part of your nipple, let them open their mouths, and pull them onto your nipple (it should be aimed at the roof of their mouth) with your hand forming a “second neck” to support them. Always be sure to bring the baby to your nipple height rather than leaning over them to avoid back and neck aches or sore nipples.

While the steps for getting into your breastfeeding position are pretty set, how you choose to hold your baby while nursing is totally up to you—and there are plenty of great options to try, practice, and perfect. The cradle hold is one of the most popular positions because parents so naturally hold their babies this way, says Molly Petersen, a certified lactation counselor with Lansinoh, but did you know you can nurse your baby like a koala, too? Petersen urges new parents to experiment and explore a number of styles that offer different benefits. Here are some of the best breastfeeding positions to try, from the tried and true to ones that probably aren’t on your radar.

First, the classics…

Cradle hold breastfeeding position

“The cradle hold is often very popular with new moms, as it is how we most often hold new babies and most people are comfortable with it,” Petersen says. “It works for all different breast sizes, and makes it easier to see if your baby is getting a good latch.”

Using a nursing pillow or regular pillow to support your baby, have them lie on their side facing your body with their hip and mouth level to your nipple. Baby’s head should be resting on your forearm with your inner arm and palm supporting their back and bum. To help your infant latch, try a “U” hold” or a “C” hold—meaning you can use your hand to support your breast underneath to make a U shape or hold it from the side like the letter C.

Cross-cradle hold breastfeeding position

For smaller newborns and preemies, or babies who aren’t yet experienced eaters, this position is a great choice because it provides ample support. Baby’s position is similar to the cradle hold, tummy to tummy across the width of your body, but they’re nursing on the breast opposite the arm you’re using to support them. So rather than supporting their head in the crook of your arm, you hold their lower body and bum in the crook of your arm and support their neck with your fingers (and your palm resting in between their shoulder blades). It’s helpful to have a comfy chair with armrests to support your elbows.

Football hold breastfeeding position

If you have twins and want to tandem breastfeed or are recovering from a c-section, you’ll want to get acquainted with the football hold. The only drawback, according to Peterson, is that you can’t see the baby’s bottom lip to evaluate the latch, so if you’re new to nursing or have had issues with latching you may want to have your partner, a friend, or a family member take a closer look while you’re feeding.

For this hold, find somewhere where you’re comfortable, supported, and upright, like a large chair or sitting against your headboard, Petersen explains. “Place a pillow on the side you will be feeding from or, if feeding twins, on both sides. Lay your baby on top of the pillow with their feet tucked between your elbow and your side and their head pointing toward your feet.” Just make sure the pillow is high enough to bring baby’s head to breast height so you aren’t hunching over. To support their head, use the arm on the same side they are lying to cradle their neck in your palm with your pinky and thumb curving towards their ears, Petersen says. Ensure that baby is tucked tightly next to your body and isn’t putting pressure on your tummy, adds Peterson.

…And the ones you probably don’t know about but should

Laid-back breastfeeding position

“Laid-back feeding has you sit in a reclined position supported by pillows, and your baby lays on your stomach with their head resting next to your breast,” says Petersen. “This position can be great for moms with a forceful let-down, as it allows the baby to better regulate milk flow.” The laid-back breastfeeding position is intuitive and comfortable, according to Peterson, which is why it’s so popular.

It also offers a number of benefits. “Laid-back positioning uses gravity to promote baby’s reflexes to kick in and help with latching,” she says. “It also takes advantage of gravity—baby is fully supported on mom’s body.” It can also be a form of tummy time for older babies who hold their necks up for part of the feed. Best of all, if your babe is suffering from a gassy tummy, this position can help offer some relief.

Related: Breastfeeding Essentials for Nursing Your Baby

Side-lying breastfeeding position

“Side-lying is a great position for babies who seem to pull away from the breast,” Peterson says. “It is also just an all-around relaxing position worth mastering.” If you’ve had a c-section, have larger breasts, or are doing nighttime feeds, the side-lying breastfeeding position may be the one for you, according to Petersen. This sometimes underutilized option is also just goals in general because you get to lie down, and honestly, that’s the dream when you have a baby.

So how do you do it? “In a side-lying position, you lay on your side with your head supported by a pillow,” Petersen explains. “Place your baby on their side facing you with their mouth lined up with your nipple.” You can then pull your bottom arm up under your pillow or head, whatever is most comfortable, and if you’re worried about your little one rolling away you can put a pillow or rolled-up towel behind their back. We have a feeling this will become a fast favorite.

Related: What If Breastfeeding Gear Was Actually Cool

Koala breastfeeding position

The koala breastfeeding position is a bit more acrobatic, but Peterson says just think of it like you’re sitting your baby up on a table. “Baby’s legs straddle mom’s thigh, and mom supports the baby for an upright feed. This can be beneficial if there are some oral motor weaknesses or oversupply issues,” she says. Petersen adds that “if your baby is smaller you can also use a small pillow or rolled-up towel on top of your leg to boost them higher and bring their mouth in line with your nipple.”

Koala is a great position for babies with reflux or chronic ear infections and parents with a forceful let-down because it better allows baby to control the flow of milk and the pace of the feed.

A cheat sheet for the best breastfeeding positions for any parent and baby

If you’re looking for the best breastfeeding positions for specific scenarios, here’s a list of common concerns and the nursing options to help you handle them.

Breastfeeding Positions for Newborns

With so much uncertainty in the newborn stage and while still trying to perfect that latch, it’s nice to lean on positions that feel extra secure for everyone. These positions provide a lot of support and optimal positioning to make it easy for your baby to latch.

  • Cradle Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Cross-Cradle Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Football Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Laid-Back Breastfeeding Position

Breastfeeding Positions for Reflux

If your baby has reflux you’re probably dealing with a lot of spit up. To reduce pressure in their tummy and for the milk to work with gravity instead of against it, breastfeeding positions where they’re sitting up with their head above their waist can help immensely.

  • Koala Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Laid-Back Breastfeeding Position

Positions for Breastfeeding Twins

Twins require some maneuvering where breastfeeding is concerned. If you’re feeding them in tandem, you need positions where they can fit on either side of you comfortably or be laid on top of one another in a parallel position. You can do one position at a time, or combine two (e.g. simultaneously using the football hold for one and cradle hold for the other).

  • Football Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Parallel Cradle Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Laid-Back Breastfeeding Position

Breastfeeding Positions for Gas

Similar to reflux, to help your gassy baby it’s best to keep their head above their waist. In feeding them while basically sitting up, there’s less potential for extra air to build up in their tummies.

  • Koala Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Laid-Back Breastfeeding Position
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Breastfeeding Positions After C-Section

These positions are all about comfort for parents while they heal after having major surgery, which means keeping babies away from their incision.

  • Football Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Side-Lying Breastfeeding Position

Breastfeeding Positions for Large Breasts

Those with large breasts may have a hard time breastfeeding because of visibility issues (not being able to see how the baby is latching) and a sore neck and back from certain breastfeeding positions.

  • Side-Lying Breastfeeding Position
  • Cradle Hold Breastfeeding Position
  • Laid-Back Breastfeeding Position

Picking the best breastfeeding position is super personal and will probably include some trial and error. If you’re having issues latching or finding the best position for you and your baby, you can always reach out to an IBCLC lactation consultant in your area to help with your journey.

Once baby is fed and happy, make sure to capture all their firsts—and share them with your family and friends near and far—with the Tinybeans app. The secure platform puts parents in total control of who sees and interacts with photos and videos of their kids.

After squeezing out a baby, your body feels like it’s been through the spin cycle of your washing machine. You’re exhausted and even the tips of your toes ache, but you still want to be there to look after your newborn. This means middle-of-the-night feedings, countless diaper changes, and basically doing all the things. But it’s important to remember to take care of yourself, too—and that includes knowing the things not to do after giving birth.

Elizabeth Quinkert, certified nurse-midwife and administrative director for the Tree of Life Birthing Center, says it’s a good idea to assemble your village before giving birth because as soon as the baby’s born, all focus moves to your newborn. “We’re so busy making sure the baby is taken care of, but birthing parents need time to recover as well,” Quinkert says, something that’s easy to forget when they jump into their caregiving role so quickly.

Whether you had a vaginal birth or a C-section, your body requires rest to rebuild. To help out your sleep-deprived brain, we’ve prepared an easy-to-follow list of the things you shouldn’t do after giving birth. If you have any questions about your postpartum recovery, don’t hesitate to contact your care provider.

1. Don’t drive.

Your brain might be telling you to get in the car and check some errands off your ever-growing list, but your body needs time to heal. Whether you’ve delivered vaginally or via cesarean section, one reason not to drive is blood loss. According to The March of Dimes, it’s normal to lose some blood after giving birth, but it can slow down your reaction time and impair your driving ability, Quinkert says.

So when is it safe for you to hop (or lightly step) behind the wheel again? Your healthcare provider can help you decide. Most experts suggest waiting two weeks before driving after you’ve had a baby. Since moving your foot from the gas to the break and turning your head to check your blind spots requires some ab work, Healthline suggests it can be longer if you had a C-section. If you’re taking opioid medication for pain management to assist in your recovery, discontinue use before you sit in the driver’s seat again.

2. Don’t ignore your pain or skip your checkups.

When you have a baby, stuff hurts. Your body is going to feel achy and exhausted from giving birth, and most of these feels are normal. Soreness, tiredness, and some emotional and hormonal changes are expected since your body has been through a major change, says the Cleveland Clinic. However, there are pain levels and symptoms you shouldn’t just “push through.” Quinkert says if the pain starts to become worse, you feel an unusual pressure, or notice an increase in swelling, these are symptoms to let your provider know about. If your overtired brain is wondering which aches and pains you shouldn’t ignore, the Cleveland Clinic lists the following as postpartum symptoms you don’t want to overlook:

  • Heavy bleeding
  • Significant pain or cramping
  • Severe headaches
  • Complications with tears or incisions
  • Incontinence
  • Frequent peeing or burning
  • Leg pain
  • Chest pain
  • Breast pain or burning

It’s also crucial to keep an eye on your mood and anxiety levels after bringing baby home—and this is where your postpartum checkups are particularly important. During these checkups, your doctor will do a physical exam to make sure your body is healing, but these appointments are also important mental health check-ins. Some sadness and worry are normal for a few weeks—you’ve probably heard of the “baby blues”—but if it remains or gets worse it could be a sign of postpartum depression (PPD), which Quinkert says doctors are always looking out for. Red flags include:

  • Feeling very weepy, guilty, or overwhelmed
  • Worrying that you are a bad mother
  • Losing interest in activities you used to enjoy
  • Not feeling a connection to your baby
  • Inability to take care of your baby
  • Lasting sadness or thoughts of hurting yourself or others (including your baby)
  • Changes in eating or sleeping patterns

If you are experiencing any of these symptoms, speak to your healthcare provider right away.

3. Don’t take a bath.

A nice warm bath to wash away your troubles might seem like just the thing after your labor and delivery and, well, this is partially true. Quinkert recommends a sitz bath to all her patients but not a wash with soap until you’ve healed up. This is especially true if you have episiotomy stitches (from an incision between the vagina and anus to help get your baby out).

“Put three to four inches of water in the tub with Epsom salts and then sit,” Quinkert explains. “That will help the healing process and the pain.” A typical postpartum sitz bath contains 1/2 cup of Epsom salt in 3 to 4 inches of water.

If you’re craving the healing (and cleaning) properties water offers, showering is totally fine, and Quinkert suggests showering first and then having a nice soak in a sitz bath afterward. According to the National Library of Medicine, wait three weeks to indulge in a long bath if you’ve had a C-section as immersing your incision could lead to an infection.

4. Don’t do all the things.

As if being on call for your newborn 24/7 isn’t enough, you may feel tempted to host tons of visitors who want to meet the baby or book a newborn photo shoot. “Women tend to overdo,” Quinkert explains. This is why she encourages her patients to take at least two weeks to heal and not push themselves. This means resting while your baby rests and allowing others to help out with household chores when possible. Quinkert reminds new mothers to eat and practice self-care. This slowing down will give your body time to regain its strength in the weeks following your delivery.

For those who delivered via C-section, you might need more time to take it easy in your baby bubble. While gentle walks and light housework can aid in your recovery, avoid heavy cleaning, jogging, and most exercises for 4-8 weeks to allow your body to heal after your surgery, per Mount Sinai Health System, and don’t lift anything heavier than your baby for 6-8 weeks. Give yourself permission to let the dirty dishes pile up or ask family and friends for help with your newborn while you recover. Also, don’t be shy to ask visitors to bring really useful items—like wipes, baby lotion, or nipple cream—instead of more baby blankets or tiny outfits.

Related: 6 Things New Moms Should Give Themselves Permission to Do

5. Don’t do the wrong kinds of exercise or overdo it.

You’ve had a baby, and you’re feeling ready to slowly start getting into your workout groove. It’s never a bad idea to see your healthcare provider and discuss when to start and what exercises are appropriate for your unique situation. If you’ve had an uncomplicated pregnancy and vaginal delivery, you could begin lightly exercising a few days after giving birth, according to the Mayo Clinic, or as soon as you feel ready.

When you’re first starting out, don’t jump into a hardcore baby boot camp! Low-impact activities like walking or a gentle postpartum exercise class are more your speed. Remember, your body is technically recovering from an injury, so it won’t be ready for planks, squats, or weight training. When it comes to the heavy lifting, Quinkert says if you’ve delivered vaginally, it’s recommended not to lift anything heavier than your baby for two weeks. If you’ve had a C-section, most experts suggest waiting 4-6 weeks. If you have any questions about your exercise plans, your doctor can help guide you.

6. Don’t forget to eat and drink.

While you were pregnant, you remembered to take your prenatal vitamins and avoid eating all the soft cheeses. Now you’re too engrossed in your newborn’s eating schedule to work in a sandwich of your own. But eating healthy meals will help your body heal, per The University of Rochester Medical Center.

Not skipping meals gives you the energy and strength that’s needed for those unpredictable sleepless nights, diaper explosions, and burping marathons with your newborn. To make this easier during postpartum, Quinkert says to be sure to eat foods like healthy proteins and vegetables that will help rebuild tissues. Proteins are the building blocks of the body, which help heal tears (like the tearing that can occur inside or around the vagina during labor), build strength in fatigued muscles, and give energy to the body. For those breastfeeding, the Mayo Clinic suggests this same healthy menu plus eating an additional 330 to 400 calories a day. Quinkert also encourages parents to ask family and friends to assist in meal prep and/or drop off lunches and dinners—especially for the first week.

And don’t forget your grandmother’s words of wisdom: drink plenty of water to stay hydrated, especially if you’re breastfeeding. “Much of the water in the mom’s body goes to the production of milk, so it can cause constipation for some,” Quinkert says. Drinking plenty and eating foods high in fiber can help keep things moving.

7. Don’t compare yourself to other moms.

While it might feel super good to comparison shop when strolling down the Target aisle, it doesn’t feel super good to compare yourself to other moms. “The comparisons start right away,” Quinkert observes. It’s super common for new moms to look outside themselves for validation that they’re doing their best.

However, when you start down the slippery slope of comparing parenting styles or your baby’s milestones with social media influencers or your next-door neighbor, this can lead to feelings of jealousy, frustration, and a loss of confidence. “You’re not going to parent the way your sister did, or your mom, or the way anyone else did,” Quinkert says. You do you and what works best for your newborn—she encourages you to stand strong in your parenting style.

8. Don’t rush into sex.

During postpartum, sex may very well be the last thing on your mind. Your body is hurting and all your energy goes to making sure your baby is healthy and happy. Still, let’s talk about sex. The Mayo Clinic says that while there’s no exact timeline for having sex after giving birth, most healthcare providers recommend waiting 4 to 6 weeks, regardless of how you delivered, to give your body time to heal.

Though some people wait less time and some wait longer, Quinkert emphasizes the importance of discussing pregnancy prevention. “Some people aren’t aware there’s a possibility you can get pregnant during this time,” she says. And feeling emotionally ready is also a consideration—for some moms, it can take months to want to get back in the saddle again. If you just need more time to heal or mentally prepare before you get into your sexy time, that’s alright, too.

9. Don’t hold back on asking for help.

The six weeks following your labor and delivery are full of every feel imaginable. One minute you giggle at the cuteness of your newborn, and the next you’re ugly crying because you can’t figure out how to soothe them. It’s easy to forget that there are people ready to support you through all these moments.

If friends or family offer to help, Quinkert says to accept it. She’s seen moms decline these offers because they believe that needing it makes them a “bad mother” or that it’s impolite to impose. Quinkert asks moms to reframe their viewpoint and “look at this as receiving instead of taking.” Changing your outlook here can help you accept the help you’re being offered. Postpartum can be difficult and lonely, and for those who have access to a strong support system, it can make all the difference.

10. Don’t forget to celebrate the little wins.

You made time to take a shower! You walked a block farther on your walk! You had a good feed! They may seem tiny, but when you’re in the thick of postpartum, even the smallest victories are actually huge. After all, having a baby is the only medical procedure where you’re expected to take care of another human while you’re also trying to take care of yourself, Quinkert reminds us. So be gentle with yourself throughout the process—and go ahead and pat yourself on the back for even the littlest of wins, because you’re ushering a new human into the world and that’s a feat if ever there was one.

Look at any book, scroll any website, and consult any friend, and you’ll get a million different ideas of what ‘postpartum essentials’ really means. But, since we’re all moms around here in different seasons of motherhood, we’ve got the real mom lowdown on the postpartum essentials we really couldn’t do without. And we’ve even included some prenatal favorites to keep you going as you head toward the next stage of your mom journey.

Of course, anything you see on this list (or any others, really) shouldn’t be taken as medical advice. Always run things by your healthcare provider if you have any questions. That said, these postpartum goodies are some of the most tried-and-true out there. From nursing camis that save you some laundry time to cooling pads that soothe your healing body and everything in between, we’ve put together our faves for keeping comfortable, managing pain, taking care of yourself, and even staying organized while you get to know your newest family member. (There are even some great gifts for new moms on this list, so if you’re looking for products to really help out the new mom in your life, we’ve got you covered!).

Postpartum Essentials

Frida Mom Instant Ice Maxi Pads

Frida Mom on Amazon

Looking for some major relief? These 2-in-1 cooling and absorbent maxi pads are made with witch hazel (no funky chemicals here) and instantly cool and soothe sensitive bodies following delivery. They're full-coverage, too, to minimize leaks!

Frida Mom Instant Ice Maxi Pads ($18.97)—Buy Here!

Ingrid & Isabel Cooling Nursing + Pumping Bra

woman wearing nursing and pumping bra and displaying functionality
Ingrid and Isabel

Ingrid & Isabel's seamless cooling bra features an innovative technical fabric with cooling minerals to wick away moisture and keep you feeling cool and dry. It includes drop-down cups and openings for pump flanges, plus it's compatible with wearable pumps. It's your 3-in-1 postpartum bra: support, nursing, and pumping-ready! Available in black and sand.

Ingrid & Isabel Cooling Nursing + Pumping Bra ($50.00)—Buy Here!

Beli Women Prenatal

bottle of Beli Women prenatal vitamins
Beli

Not all prenatals are created equal. The Beli Women Prenatal is designed for when you're hoping to conceive, during all three trimesters, and the early months of motherhood. It's gentle on your tummy, too. What other prenatal does it all? Beli also has a subscription option, so it's one less thing you have to think about every month.

Beli Women Prenatal ($50.00)—Buy Here!

Thena Sitz Bath Soak

Thena Natural Wellness on Amazon

Extra-soothing and can help speed up recovery, this sitz bath soak is extra-gentle. Made with organic coconut oil, organic sweet almond oil, therapeutic lavender, and grapefruit essential oils to deeply hydrate while the fine-grain salt dissolves extra fast so you don't have to wait to relax.

Thena Sitz Bath Soak ($26.95)—Buy Here!

Hydrating Mom Fuel Electrolyte Drink Mix

Mommy Knows Best on Amazon

Listen, new moms. It's vital that you stay hydrated. Of course, that's always true, but it's especially easy to forget when you're nursing, running on less sleep, and healing from labor and delivery. Mom Fuel is formulated for moms, it's caffiene-free and includes lactation support, all in an on-the-go packet. Mix it with a little extra water if you prefer a milder flavor.

Hydrating Mom Fuel Electrolyte Drink Mix ($14.99)—Buy Here!

Bodily C-Section Box

Bodily

Bodily really knocked it out of the park with this box. The kit contains 12 research-backed products, including goodies for hospital and home, so you can be covered from the big day to every moment of your healing journey. The Bodily Belly Band, nursing pads, cozy socks, nipple gel pads, mesh undies, and a lot more. There's also the Care for Birth Box if you don't need the Belly Band.

Bodily C-Section Box ($139.00)—Buy Here!

Lansinoh Pain Relief Spray

Lansinoh on Amazon

This 4% lidocaine spray works upside down (genius) and takes the edge off perineal pain. It also includes witch hazel and aloe vera.

Lansinoh Pain Relief Spray ($6.57)—Buy Here!

The Poppy Diaper Purse

Poppy

The Poppy Diaper Purse is a modern and minimalist take on the diaper bag. It replaces the bulky and big diaper bags that can be a huge pain and instead, includes a mini diaper bag with a dual-purpose design. Divided into two sections, the Poppy has a dedicated baby diaper compartment and a personal purse compartment, too. Multiple zippered and open pocket options, including an elastic pocket for baby wipes! Available in 4 colors, and fun straps (sold separately) to customize yours.

The Poppy Diaper Purse ($160.00)—Buy here!

Portable Bidet

Easy@Home on Amazon

If you want, or need, to leave the house during your postpartum recovery, your healing regimen still can't take a backseat. This handy little portable bidet doesn't look like one, but works to effectively keep your postpartum hygiene in check no matter where you are. They also made sure the design mitigates leaks, because that's pretty much the last thing you need right now.

Portable Bidet ($13.99)—Buy Here! 

Ingrid & Isabel Wrap Nursing Cardigan

Ingrid and Isabel

You'll want to live in this one. A cardigan that adjusts to your bump and can be worn long after. It pairs perfectly with a nursing cami, too!

Ingrid & Isabel Wrap Nursing Cardigan ($98.00)—Buy Here!

nyssa Fourthwear Postpartum Recovery Underwear

nyssa

Super soft, belly hugging (read: supportive!) underwear with a dual-layer, 360° pocket design to securely hold ice or heat therapy between the legs, at the site of c-section, and around the back where postpartum recovering bodies need it most. Available in multiple sizes and bundle options (remember what we said about laundry?).

nyssa Fourthwear Postpartum Recovery Underwear ($39.00+)—Buy Here!

Postpartum Wrap

Amazon

The name of the postpartum game is 'Support' (both physically and mentally), so having a compression wrap like this one on-hand is a great idea. You can adjust it to the level you prefer and wearing a wrap can help speed up your healing!

Postpartum Wrap ($19.98+)—Buy Here!

Charcoal Donut Pillow

H. on Amazon

Back relief, hemorrhoid relief, and reduced perineum pressure are all in the cards when you have a solid donut pillow.

Charcoal Donut Pillow ($39.99)—Buy Here! 

Frida Mom Witch Hazel Perineal Cooling Pad Liners

Frida Mom on Amazon

Witch hazel is the hero product of postpartum recovery, and these cooling liners cover most maxi pads to reduce swelling and speed up healing.

Frida Mom Witch Hazel Perineal Cooling Pad Liners ($11.97)—Buy Here!

Maternity Hospital Bag Bundle

Seraphine

A super-soft, easy-fit pajama top with lift up nursing access, a comfy over bump pajama bottoms with a tapered leg, a maternity and nursing nightie with snaps at the front for easy nursing and skin-to-skin snuggles, and a cozy matching robe to keep you warm, covered up when you want to be, and excellent for busy hospitals or at home when you have visitors. 

Maternity Hospital Bag Bundle ($159.00)—Buy Here!

 

Prenatal Must-Haves

Pregnancy Yoga Ball

Trideer on Amazon

A yoga ball specifically designed to offer relief from back, pelvic, pubic, and round ligament pain, and may promote optimal fetal positioning for a smoother delivery. It's sturdy (max weight of 440lbs.) and is extra-thick to make sure you're totally supported. It's also great for use during postpartum recovery.

Pregnancy Yoga Ball ($28.99)—Buy Here!

Everywear Tank Dress

Ingrid and Isabel

You can't beat this level of versatility! The ruched silhouette shows off your growing bump and can be worn all through pregnancy and postpartum. Add a denim jacket, sneakers, a blazer...with multiple colors to choose from, you might not want to wear anything else for a long time.

Everywear Tank Dress ($69.99)—Buy Here!

SNAP Supplements Prenatal Vitamins

bottle of SNAP prenatal vitamins
SNAP Supplements

If there's going to be a prenatal vitamin in our list, and of course there is, it better be the best. SNAP Supplements Prenatal Vitamins make it easy to take care of your growing babe and yourself. Along with 15 vitamins and minerals with 100% daily value, they included ingredients to help prevent and alleviate nausea, so you can actually handle taking them. If you've been dealing with upset belly from prenatals, SNAP has you covered.

SNAP Supplements Prenatal Vitamins ($14.95)—Buy Here!

Copper Compression Socks Set of 4

Aoliks on Amazon

Soft on the inside and excellent for helping swelling, achy feet and legs, this set of 4 pairs of socks are available in a ton of colors, too.

Copper Compression Socks Set of 4 ($14.99)—Buy Here!

Bio-Oil

Bio-Oil on Amazon

Bio-Oil is one of the most popular prenatal (and postpartum, and whenever...) products out there. Why? Because it's super effective at moisturizing, helping your skin stay elastic and not itchy as your bump grows, and soothes it after delivery.

Bio-Oil ($27.99)—Buy Here!

U-Shaped Pregnancy Pillow

Pharmedoc on Amazon

Whether you're struggling to sleep or just looking for some extra support, this pillow will be a major favorite. It's also awesome for sitting up in bed and reading, nursing, or even using a corner as a lap desk. Available in multiple colors and prints.

U-Shaped Pregnancy Pillow ($44.95)—Buy Here!

 

 

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You may want to celebrate your new addition with some new ink, but experts agree it’s best to wait

Tattoos are an important form of self-expression for so many people, and the itch to get some new ink doesn’t go away just because you’ve had a new baby. In fact, you might feel even more compelled to memorialize your tiny new addition. But parents quickly learn that lifestyle changes (no alcohol, different exercise, even giving up your beloved salmon sashimi) go hand in hand with pregnancy and life after baby, so where do tattoos fit into the picture? And more specifically, can you get a tattoo while breastfeeding? We spoke to three lactation consultants, a pediatrician, and a primary care doctor to find out everything you need to know before heading to the tattoo parlor.

Can you get a tattoo while breastfeeding or chestfeeding?

Generally speaking, it’s not recommended to get a tattoo while breastfeeding. Little research has been done on the effects of tattoos on breastfeeding parents, according to Ashley Georgakopoulos, IBCLC, certified lactation consultant and lactation director at Motif Medical. That being the case, many health care providers and organizations recommend waiting to get new ink until baby is at least 9-12 months old or until they finish breastfeeding.

“Most tattoo artists are unlikely to tattoo a pregnant or breastfeeding woman,” says Sheila Janakos, Healthy Horizons founder and CEO. “Their waiver for signed consent will likely ask about these conditions.”

What are the risks of getting a tattoo while breastfeeding?

Infection is one of the greatest risks. “Both local and systemic infections can occur with tattoos,” says Dr. Navya Mysore, a primary care doctor. “Local infection occurs when there is an infection at the site of the tattoo and can occur from non-sterile equipment or poor aftercare. Systemic infection can occur from contaminated equipment where infections can enter the bloodstream, such as HIV, hepatitis or tetanus.”

Aside from infection, Mysore raises concern over the possibility of having an allergic reaction, most commonly to the red inks used in tattoos. “Any kind of infection or potential allergic reaction can compromise your breast milk supply and certain medications that treat these infections are incompatible with breastfeeding.”

Additionally, the anxiety some people feel about getting a tattoo may actually affect their ability to lactate. “For some moms, just thinking about the soreness from a tattoo could impact her ability to feed,” says Nicole Peluso, IBCLC, and manager of lactation education at Aeroflow Breastpumps. This kind of stress can impair a person’s ability to “let down” their milk.

Related: 6 Breastfeeding Positions That Parents Swear By

Can tattoo ink affect your breastmilk?

According to Janakos, most experts agree that the actual ink itself is composed of molecules that are too large to enter into breast milk, though research from 2022 showed that the molecules in tattoo ink can be as tiny as 100 nanometers, which is small enough to pass through the cell membrane.

Additionally, the ink is typically made of lots of different components, some of which may contain heavy metals that could potentially pass into the bloodstream and enter the breast milk, says Janakos. Because it’s too risky to expose infants to these substances for the sake of research, the possible effects of tattoos on breast/chestfeeding aren’t studied or known.

With that in mind, Georgakopoulos says that it’s best to wait until the baby is weaned or is not 100% reliant on breastmilk to get a tattoo.

Is it less dangerous to get a tattoo when your baby is older?

Experts agree that it’s generally best to wait until your baby has weaned. In terms of the safety and well-being of the postpartum individual, Dr. Denise Scott, pediatrician and JustAnswer expert, recommends waiting at least seven to nine months before considering getting a tattoo.

“The adjustment of postpartum hormones may affect the speed at which the skin heals. Skin may heal slower when the body is prioritizing growing a baby, producing breast milk, or healing from a wound like a c-section,” explains Peluso. When the skin heals more slowly, it puts the person at a greater risk of infection as the tattooed skin is an open wound for longer.

Related: 3 Breastfeeding Snacks a Registered Dietitian Swears By

Is it safe to get a tattoo removed while breastfeeding?

Tattoo removal is most commonly done using lasers, and it typically involves multiple treatments. “During the removal process, tattoo pigment molecules are filtered through the liver. There’s no hard evidence that tattoo particles could pass to your baby through breast milk during the removal process but we cannot be 100% sure,” says Mysore. “For that reason, I would recommend holding off until you have stopped breastfeeding.”

Final Thoughts

At the end of the day, both doctors and lactation experts advise against getting a tattoo while breastfeeding. You’re better off waiting until your baby has outgrown breast milk and your body has recovered from the birthing process before thinking about getting some new ink. If you have any questions, chat with your OB/GYN or midwife.

This is our kind of pillow talk

Breastfeeding can be a beautiful and comfortable bonding experience between you and your baby, but it can also be a pain in the…well, several different places, actually. Especially if you’re just starting out, you may be battling some soreness, stiff arms, maybe an achy back. That’s all totally normal, for the record. And that’s where the miraculous invention of the nursing pillow comes in. These little (or bigger, if you prefer—whatever works best for you) wonders can make all the difference in comfort and ease during those long feeding sessions. Plus, they’re more supportive, comfortable, and convenient than a bed pillow or couch cushion. These are designed for breastfeeding, and once you try one, you’ll never look back.

Don’t know which of the multiple options in nursing pillows to chose? No sweat. We’re here to help you navigate the world of nursing pillows—where foam, fabric, and fluff collide to create the ultimate breastfeeding sidekick. With these pillows by your side (literally), you’ll be able to conquer any feeding challenge that comes your way. Meet the superhero companions of every breastfeeding superheroine (that’s you)—the best nursing pillows out there. Get ready to change your whole breastfeeding game with one of these beauties.

 

Boppy Anywhere Nursing Pillow

Boppy

You already know Boppy makes great nursing pillows. Here's why their latest is a game-changer. It's a smaller pillow with an open design and a yoga-inspired fabric belt to attach around you for a customized fit. That means it's comfortable for women of all shapes and sizes, even those recovering from a C-section. Take this smaller pillow with you on your travels, while running errands, anywhere you plan to be. It's also machine-washable and folds up compactly so you can fit it in a diaper bag. Boppy Anywhere Nursing Pillow ($30.00)—Buy Here!

My Brest Friend Super Deluxe Nursing Pillow

My Brest Friend/Amazon

A longtime mom favorite, the My Best Friend wraparound nursing pillow is celebrating over 25 years of helping moms and babies with breastfeeding with an upgraded pillow with even more thoughtful features. These include increased back and lumbar support to keep moms comfortable, increased height and thickness in the front cushion to help baby into more optimal positioning, an attached pouch for necessities like burp cloths and nipple cream, a waterproof inner cover, and a tracker to help you remember which side you last nursed on. Like the original and the inflatable travel pillow highlighted below, this pillow wraps around mom's body and fastens with an adjustable clasp to give moms back and arm support so they can focus on baby's latch and comfort. My Brest Friend Super Deluxe Nursing Pillow ($59.95)—Buy Here!

DockATot La Maman Wedge Nursing Pillow

DockATot

Finally! A nursing pillow that doesn't look like one. This gorgeous pillow curves around your body to support baby or mama's arms while nursing. When not in use, you'll be happy to leave it on display—and you can keep using it as an accent pillow when your nursing days are behind you. Available in four elegant patterns, this pillow is part of DockATot's collection that coordinates with its other products (bassinets, swaddle sets, and more). DockATot La Maman Wedge Nursing Pillow ($75.00)—Buy Here!

littlebeam Nursing Pillow

littlebeam

This breastfeeding pillow is small in size but big on added perks. In addition to positioning your baby at the right height for feeding in all nursing positions, it's also great for bottle feeding, as a tummy time support, or to give mom a little comfort as a head rest, lower back support, or between your legs for more comfortable sleep. Created by a family nurse practitioner and board-certified lactation consultant, the littlebeam nursing pillow is also the perfect companion for travel and daily outings, since it's small enough to fit in your diaper bag. littlebeam Nursing Pillow ($45.00)—Buy Here!

Boppy Classic Feeding and Nursing Support Pillow

Boppy

Trusted by moms for decades, the award-winning Boppy nursing pillow is a time-tested option. The firm but flexible U-shaped pillow allows for more ergonomic feeding positions and also works great for tummy time and supported sitting. The slipcover is removable and washable, and with the pillow at a reasonable price point, you can afford to have an extra cover (and there are a bunch to choose from). Boppy Classic Feeding and Nursing Support Pillow (From $45.00)—Buy Here!

Béaba Big Flopsy Maternity and Nursing Pillow

Beaba

For the expectant mother, the Big Flopsy doubles as a maternity body pillow. Although one of the largest nursing pillows on the market, the non-toxic micropearl fill keeps it lightweight and flexible. Both the cover and pillow are machine-washable. From helping pregnant moms find a comfortable sleeping position to providing support for nursing moms and supervised playtime with toddlers, the Big Flopsy is one you can use for years to come. Béaba Big Flopsy Maternity and Nursing Pillow ($109.95)—Buy Here!

The Nursie

Nursie

The Nursie was designed with portability in mind by wrapping around mom’s arm, much like swim floaties go around a child’s arm—no straps needed. It can be used for any nursing position, is small enough to fit in a carry-on bag while traveling, and is machine-washable. It props baby up to help reduce reflux and give mom the right position to avoid back and neck pain. The Nursie ($34.95)—Buy Here!

Nook Organic Niche Nursing Pillow

With its 100% organic, breathable and sustainable materials, the Niche Nursing Pillow is perfect for the environmentally conscious mom. The squared U-shape provides more surface area than the rounded options. The covers come in several colors and are machine-washable. In addition to being used for feedings, the pillow can serve as an armrest, a tummy-time support and a body pillow for ages 2 and up. Nook Organic Niche Nursing Pillow ($89.00)—Buy Here!

Leachco Cuddle-U Nursing Pillow

Keep your little wiggler in a reclined position for optimal post-feeding digestion with the patented seat wrap on the Cuddle-U Nursing Pillow. The wrap is adjustable and tucks away into a concealed pocket on the bottom of the pillow when it isn't needed. The pillow is generously sized for those moms who find it most comfortable when baby is boosted up a little. The pillow and cover are not washable, so you may want to splurge on the sham-style removable cover that’s not included. Leachco Cuddle-U Nursing Pillow ($34.95)—Buy Here!

Twin Z Pillow

For moms of twins, there’s no need to buy two nursing pillows when you have the Twin Z Pillow. This pillow was specifically designed for nursing or bottle-feeding two babies at one time. The dual holes where babies sit have buckles that make them smaller for newborns. It can also be used as a maternity pillow, at tummy time, and as an infant support pillow. Twin Z Pillow ($142.00)—Buy Here!

Infantino Elevate Adjustable Nursing Pillow

The innovative design of the Elevate Adjustable Nursing Pillow allows for three different elevation levels, which can help babies latch. Find the perfect height for you and baby, no matter the feeding position. It also supports upright feeding for babies with reflux. Fold it in half and secure it with the ribbon for easy storage. Oh, and it’s machine washable. Infantino Elevate Adjustable Nursing Pillow ($49.99)—Buy Here!

My Brest Friend Inflatable Travel Nursing Pillow

My Brest Friend

The Inflatable Travel Nursing Pillow is the same design as the original nursing pillow from My Brest Friend but ideal for moms on the go and for traveling with your little one. When deflated, it packs flat in a diaper bag or purse. The wraparound shape and straps secure the pillow in place, and the straps are release silently to avoid waking baby. It comes with a handy pocket on the side (for burp cloths, bottles, toys or your phone) and a price that's friendly on your wallet. My Brest Friend Inflatable Travel Nursing Pillow ($30.01)—Buy Here!

Blessed Nest Nesting Pillow

Snuggle baby into this pillow. Its buckwheat hull filling conforms to baby, instead of simply being underneath. The pyramid shape of the fill molds like a beanbag but holds its shape, so mom doesn’t have to provide as much support and can try out many different feeding positions. The pillow is also certified organic with a washable slipcover. Blessed Nest Nesting Pillow ($98.00)—Buy Here!

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If you’ve ever joined a Facebook mom group, you need to see these videos

We all know how hard it can be to find a village of friends and supporters when you’re raising kids—and especially when you’re a new mom. So if you’ve ever fallen for the allure of the Facebook mom group, you’re far from alone. It seems like it should be the perfect solution: A digital space that makes it easy and super convenient for moms to connect to offer advice, support, and a listening ear. In reality, well, it’s certainly not that. Those mom groups can be toxic AF.

That’s why Cecilia “Ceci” Kane’s viral TikTok videos are a must-watch. In them, she parodies Facebook mom groups by playing a naive mom asking an innocent question—and all the judgey, argumentative moms who immediately start dogpiling in the comments.

In one clip, Ceci plays a young mom who’s excited to announce to the group that she has a happy, healthy newborn at home.

https://www.tiktok.com/@kanececi/video/7211986506800581930?refer=embed

“I gave birth to my new son via C-section two days ago,” she says, holding a doll. “Just wanted to let everybody know that we’re happy and healthy.”

Ceci then acts out all the replies, with each different commenter having a different household object balanced on their head.

“Well, technically that’s not giving birth. But he’s very cute.”

“LOL — right? When she said she gave birth and had a C-section in the same sentence?”

“Congrats. I gave birth to all five of my children in the comfort of my own home.”

“I don’t know why so many people are so quick to jump to C-sections when natural births are just so much more rewarding.”

“Childbirth is the natural thing a woman can do.”

“It’s not childbirth unless you’re delivering vaginally.”

“What a shame that hospitals continue to push C-sections on women.”

Honestly, it’s a little overwhelming, but that’s kind of the point. Ceci plays the mom, all the commenters, and herself, an innocent bystander looking for drama while angrily eating snacks. It perfectly captures the whole vibe of mom groups.

In another version of the joke, a mom goes to the group for daycare recommendations. The comments are, as you can imagine, downright hostile.

@kanececi

Can we just agree that we’re all tired and we all work hard? @thebasementyard taught me the banana trick 🍌 #facebookgroup #momgroup #pov #skit #momsoftiktok #babiesoftiktok #funny

♬ original sound – Ceci

“Mom groups can be wonderful, supportive places, you just have to find the right one,” Kane told Today.com. “Just never post your kid eating, sitting in a car seat, or anything that has to do with sleep. If you do that, all hell is going to break loose.”

Amen to that.

It is officially summer here—and as a mom, I have had it! This summer, I am taking a stand and declaring that this summer is for every mom bod out there, and it will be the summer that we wear the DAMN bathing suit!

Rock that Mom Bod

I understand how self-conscious it is to be a mom—believe me!  I see young twenty-somethings at the beach that look like they stepped out of a photoshoot as opposed to our day at the beach that involved a million “necessities,” a toddler who threw a tantrum and not one moment to enjoy my beer since I’m not only mom, I’m doubling as a lifeguard, too.

I, too, was once a young twenty-something who arrived at the beach without a care in the world. In fact, if my college self saw me in a two-piece today, she would probably tell me to rock the one-piece instead. But my college self was so naive and thought that her body could take anything (honestly, it had survived way too many nights of tequila shots and Natty Light).

What my college self didn’t know were all the amazing things that my body would be capable of doing. I am still in awe that my body could create and carry a beautiful smart little girl in just 42 weeks. And then, after 22 hours of labor and an emergency c-section, it would bounce right back to take care of this small, delicate newborn. And still, throughout her first year of life, my mom bod could provide the sole form of nutrition to that little girl—and even a little extra to donate to babies in need. My body could survive off very little sleep, be drained to the point where I thought I had nothing left—and then give more.

Our bodies are truly amazing in what we can do, not only as moms but as women.

Wear the Damn Bathing Suit

I know that as a mom, I am guilty of trying to hide the stretch marks, baby weight and c-section scars and shelf when in all honesty, I should rock them as the battle scars they are. These marks and parts of our body that we deem are unsightly are actually signs of our body’s strength—proof that our body can do anything.

Moms deserve to wear the damn bathing suit—and feel as beautiful as our children see us. Rock the c-section scars, stretch marks and baby weight as you chase after your wonderful children in the ocean.

Wear the damn bathing suit so you don’t miss out on time with your family. Rather than sit on the side of the pool fully-clothed worrying about the size of your thighs, put on your bathing suit and play Marco Polo in the pool with your kids. Teach your littles how to do cannonballs. Make memories with your family rather than sit on the sidelines and watch memories being made around you.

The truth is, your kids won’t remember your stretch marks, baby weight or the c-section shelf. Your kids will remember the afternoon you spent building the largest sandcastle they have ever seen or those morning swims at the neighborhood pool.

Maybe if all of us moms got out this summer and wore our damn bathing suits, it would help encourage other moms to get out there and do the same.

We only get so many summers with our kids, let’s not waste them worrying about how we look—instead, let’s just wear the damn bathing suit.

 

Ashley Gillis is a mom to a beautiful, spunky little girl and is the Co-Founder of Hampton Roads Moms, a lifest‌yle blog and resource for Mom's in South East Virginia. She is a lover of the beach, margaritas, coffee, running and speaking her mind. You can get more of Ashley at www.hrvamoms.com.

John Legend and Chrissy Teigen welcomed their rainbow baby on January 13

The iconic singer was beaming while holding his daughter Esti, born earlier this month, in a picture posted to Instagram yesterday. Tucked into the crook of Legend’s arm, the newborn seems to be the spitting image of her famous father. “Our love,” wrote the famous hitmaker. His wife responded with ” eee, I love her.” Teigen also shared a closeup of Esti yesterday, and it’s an intimate look at the newborn snuggled up in a blanket with her mama. It’s pretty clear this sweet arrival has captured the entire family’s hearts from the start.

It’s clear that new big sister and brother Luna and Miles couldn’t be prouder! They got in on the action in a family photo taken by Teigen.

 

“She’s here! Esti Maxine Stephens – the house is bustling and our family could not be happier,” she wrote in the caption. “Daddy sheds nightly tears of joy seeing Luna and Miles so full of love, and I am learning you still need diapers with a c-section!? We are in bliss. Thank you for all the love and well wishes – we feel it all!”

John Legend shared the same photo on his Instagram account, saying, “On Friday, we welcomed Esti Maxine Stephens to our family, and our house is overflowing with love and joy. I’m in awe of Chrissy’s strength and resilience and I’m so thrilled to see how Luna and Miles embrace their baby sister. I’m so, so grateful, but that doesn’t seem like a big enough word…”

The couple suffered the loss of their third child, Jack, in 2020. They lost when Chrissy was 20 weeks pregnant, due to a partial placenta abruption. But after surviving such a shattering loss, they decided to try again. She started IVF treatments last year, and on August 3 took to Instagram to reveal she was pregnant.

“The last few years have been a blur of emotions to say the least, but joy has filled our home and hearts again,” she wrote. “1 billion shots later (in the leg lately, as u can see!) we have another on the way.”

Legend has mentioned “going for four.” Congratulations on a healthy, growing family.