Keep your little one in good spirits right through New Year’s Eve with these relative wrangling, calendar managing, baby prioritizing tips

The holidays can be a magical time, especially when there’s a brand-new little one to share in all the sparkly joy. But when too many seasonal happenings pile up on top of baby duties, your stress levels can get dialed up to 11, making the magic feel more like madness. To help you pull off the perfect balancing act of keeping your sanity and making precious new memories, we came up with a list of do’s and don’ts for your baby’s first Christmas.

1. Do take lots of pictures. You’ll delight in looking back at the shots of your bundled-up little one exploring their first snow day or banging away with their first dreidel.

2. Don’t feel pressure to make a big holiday meal from scratch. Unless you adore cooking and wait months for the chance to roast a turkey, this may be the year to order a pre-made meal or host a festive potluck.

3. Do respect your baby’s schedule. If your little one has settled into a routine, staying up late for too many nights can lead to joy-smashing meltdowns. Whenever it’s possible, keep up with nap and bedtime routines, and you and your little one will be well-rested and ready for holiday adventures.

4. Do take advantage of all the relatives’ love. If Aunt Jeannie wants to hold the baby for a few hours, it’ll give you the perfect opportunity to shower or take a walk. For many modern parents living far away from extended family, the holidays are the only time to have a village of support, so make the most of it!

5. Don’t be afraid to say no. If you’re too tired to go to midnight mass or attend however many holiday parties, skip it. Feel free to make liberal use of your awesome excuse: I just had a baby. The holidays are no fun if nerves are frayed and little ones are wailing, so throw out the rules and preserve a little space for rest.

6. Do take time to fit in something special to you, whether it’s driving around to see holiday lights or devouring gingerbread men. If you have the energy, you can start a family tradition, like reading ‘Twas the Night Before Christmas by candlelight, but keep it low-key. You have many more holidays in your future to create new traditions with your wee one!

7. Do bring a carefully selected bunch of baby necessities along if you’re traveling, like a favorite blanket and beloved pacifier. Ask the grandparents to have all the other essentials ready when you arrive, like diapers in the right size, so you can settle right in and get to celebrating. As for how to handle flying with a baby, check out our helpful tips here.

8. Don’t feel compelled to take a long trip. If your little one is only a few weeks old, or you’re exhausted from balancing work and new mama-hood, celebrate your baby’s first Christmas at home. Keeping it low-key means instead of risking being snowed in at an airport with a newborn—you can schedule a family visit for another time with less pressure and less risk of airplane delays.

9. Don’t blow your budget on expensive gifts. Babies don’t need a ton of shiny new toys to unwrap–most are just as happy with an empty box and a classic wooden rattle. On the other hand, if you still need a few choice pieces of baby gear, like a jogging stroller, the holidays can be a perfect time to ask Santa to slip a little something under the tree for you both.

10. Do take walks in a winter wonderland. Bundle up and get outside. With a few extra layers, babies can marvel at the sparkling snow. Plus, a little fresh air keeps the cabin fever away.

11. Do remember that while this may be your baby’s first Christmas, it’s not the only holiday. You’ll have many years to introduce your kiddo to pumpkin pie and sleigh rides. Keep it simple and focus on what’s meaningful and what brings you and your family joy.

Make sure to capture all the memories—and share them with your family and friends near and far—with the Tinybeans app. The secure platform puts parents in total control of who sees and interacts with photos and videos of their kids.

LEGO is gearing up for the holiday season and after the last year and a half, we’re ok with that. The brick maker just launched another addition to its festive lineup, Santa’s Visit. It includes a light up Christmas tree and a chimney that Santa can slide right down!

Like the rest of the holiday sets, it will launch October 1 and it features tons of fun details. From the cozy table where the whole family enjoys a meal by candlelight, to Santa’s chair with milk and cookies by the fire, this set will definitely get you and your family in the Christmas spirit. Although it’s meant for adult builders, your kids will have a blast setting the scenes once it’s complete.

If you’re looking for something a bit smaller, you’ll have a hard time choosing between these cute  kits. The Polar Bear & Gift Pack ($9.99) is great for kids seven and up and comes with 142 pieces.

Mini builders will love constructing the adorable polar bear that comes with a scarf, gift box with movable ribbons and cute “with love to” sticker. Did we mention these make the perfect ornaments?

The LEGO Christmas Penguin ($14.99) is also bringing whimsy, with the ability to rotate, move its wings and stand next to a Christmas tree and three presents.

The penguin set is perfect for kids eight and older and comes with 244 pieces. Both sets will launch on Oct. 1 at LEGO.com and at LEGO stores.

––Karly Wood

All photos: Courtesy of LEGO

 

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When was your last romantic date with your significant other? Was it a night out on the town or a candlelight dinner? According to a survey of 2,000 parents of school-aged children conducted by OnePoll in conjunction with Groupon, it’s probably been a while. 

Valentine's Day Couple

The study examined the romantic lives of 2,000 parents of children aged 5-18 and uncovered seven in 10 reported that the romance in their relationship significantly decreased after having kids.

According to new research, the average parent hasn’t been on a romantic date in more than three years. 30% of the parents polled said it’s been so long, they don’t even remember when was the last time they went out, just the two of them.

The majority of the respondents say it’s something they want to change, as 81% say that they need to step things up and have more frequent date nights. More than half long for the freedom they had before they became parents. 

The most important thing parents miss about life pre-children is spending quality time with their partner. They are nostalgic about their lives before kids, wanting to have more sex, sleep in, travel, more, and simply having more alone time. 

Groupon Valentine's Day Inforgraphic

Though they may miss the lack of responsibility of their lives back before they had kids, 77% of those surveyed revealed they are happier and more fulfilled now that they have children. 

Working parents look forward to spending time with their kids and family at the end of a long day. With making dinner as the number one thing parents reported looking forward to after a busy day at work, followed by tucking the kids into bed, reading bedtime stories, and snuggles. 

In fact, even when it comes to how they spend their Valentine’s Day, 79% would rather spend the day as a family rather than one-on-one with their partner. 

“As parents, it’s great if we can pull off a romantic date night experience with our partner on Valentine’s Day. However, it’s also about celebrating our other loves, too,” said Groupon’s Head of Experiences Brian Fields. “And when it comes to finding the perfect gift for all of your loves, our research shows that experiences are remembered nearly 40% more than physical things and leave people feeling nearly 20% happier.”

Maybe this survey will serve as the catalyst to get more parents to spend more time going out and doing something special with the one they love. 

Looking to revive the romance? Check out out these easy date night ideas for busy parents. 

—Jennifer Swartvagher  

Photos courtesy of Jonathan Borba on Unsplash

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Nothing says Halloween quite like flickering candlelight and now, thanks to the return of Yankee Candle’s Halloween collection, you can make your candles even more spooktacular.

Featuring 40 new Halloween-themed accessories, the five collections include Boney Bunch, Halloween Friends, Bedazzled Skull, Spiderweb and Gold Ombré and have something for everyone. Here are a few of our favorite picks from the 2019 Yankee Candle Halloween collection.

Halloween Friends Collection Multi

These adorable Halloween pals are lined up and ready for some spooky fun.

$30

Halloween Friends Petey Pumpkin Jack O'Lantern

This mini jack o'lantern candle holder will light up your house all season long.

$22

Boney Bunch Circus Jar Candle Holder

This adorably creepy big top tent doubles as a holder for your favorite jar candle scent.

$35

Boney Bunch Ringmaster

This skeletal ringmaster will help your house smell cozy by doubling as an electric wax melt warmer.

$30

Bedazzled Skull Jar Candle Holder

Jazz up your jar candle with this sparkling skull.

$12

Bedazzled Skull Collection Hands

These bony fingers are happy to hold up your favorite scented candles.

$18

Spiderweb Jar Candle Holder

Accent your favorite candle jar with some spooky webbing.

$25

Gold Ombré Votive

This festive tea light holder is the perfect accent to take you from September all the way through Thanksgiving. 

$8

—Shahrzad Warkentin

All photos: Courtesy of Yankee Candle

 

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I’ll be the first to admit that I’ve always kind of eschewed Valentine’s Day when it comes to kid-friendly celebrations. That one has usually been reserved as a special date night for my husband and me, to be honest. It’s one of the rare occasions when we’re able to dress up, book a meal out somewhere fancy and leave the brood with my parents for a few hours, though we ironically end up talking over candlelight all about them.

As far as token mementos go, I’ve gone the cheap paper Valentines route for three years now. I’ve scanned the aisles for ones adorned with my kids’ favorite cartoon characters, slapped their classmates’ names on them and called it a day.

I was all prepared to do the same this year, but when I picked up my daughter from preschool today, that mindset changed. I buckled her in her car seat and started the car. Then, she said the sweetest words that I immediately rushed home and put in her memory book.

“Mama,” she began. “I know Valentine’s Day is coming up and I have something to say to you.”

A brief pause. “I love you. I love everything about you.”

I got out of the car right there in the parking lot and ran to give her a hug. Mondays can be pretty rough in general and this one was no different. That simple phrase turned it all around.

It also got me thinking that maybe there’s more to this day than simply being a lover’s holiday. What if we spent it freely lavishing love and appreciation on those we hold closest, much like my daughter did to me?

Here are a few ways I thought of to make Valentine’s Day special for even the littlest ones in our lives.

Start with the food.

Let’s face it: kids love to play with their food and it’s even more fun when their food looks different than usual! This Valentine’s Day, try starting the day with heart-shaped pancakes or waffles. Then, slip a few heart-shaped snacks into their lunch. Crispy rice treats work well for this one, as do sandwiches!

Want to make those meals even more special? Include a hand-written note that details something you love about them. From the simple (“I love the way you laugh”) to the more complex (“I love the way you always think about others before yourself”), you can tailor these notes to your child’s age and interests.

Make it a game.

Those hand-written notes above pack a powerful punch when they’re included with your lunches. To take it a step further, consider making lots of little love notes and placing them around the house for your kids to find. You can make it easy and tape all of them to their bedroom or bathroom door for them to find first thing when they wake up.

Or, you can send them on a Valentine’s Day scavenger hunt by placing the notes all around the house and giving them clues on where to find them. Either way, they’ll appreciate the effort and they’ll love opening their notes and reading your words of adoration.

Let them in on the action.

Baking a heart-shaped cake for that night’s dessert? Show your kids you love them (and trust them in the kitchen!) by letting them help out. Depending on their age, you can allow them to do a range of actions from helping stir the batter to measuring out ingredients and pouring them in.

Experts have found that incorporating kids into your meal-making endeavors is beneficial to their growth. From encouraging them to try new foods to introducing a dialogue about healthy choices, it’s a great parenting move that will also thrill even your oldest. Find some fun aprons and clear the counters and don’t be afraid to get a little messy!

End the day in a sweet way.

What would holiday traditions be without fun, matching pajamas? Don’t think that Christmas is the only time of year when these are seasonally appropriate!

Hop online or go to the store and find a set of family pjs covered in festive hearts or other Valentine’s Day decor. (Remember to grab some for you and your partner while you’re at it.)

After bathtime, don your new attire and send your loved ones off to sweet dreams. Close the day by going around the room and listing things that you love about each other.

Yes, this might be the fifth time today that you’ve done such an activity, but kids can’t hear it enough. Encourage them to share their thoughts and feelings too and remember to record anything especially sentimental so you can go back and reflect on it in years to come.

Make Valentine’s Day every day.

It’s true that Valentine’s Day should be celebrated every day, in theory. We shouldn’t wait for a designated holiday to remind our kids they’re special and that we adore everything about them, from the way they tie their shoes to the way they look before they fall asleep.

However, it’s a special thing to have an entire day dedicated to showcasing this devotion, so let’s use Valentine’s Day as a reason to jumpstart those conversations and carry them throughout the year. That way, when it’s a bleak day in November and the memory of February is long behind us, we’ll still be warm when we think back on those sweet memories that we made, and are still making, all rooted in love.

Featured Photo Courtesy: Bart LaRue via Unsplash

 

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Hi, y'all! I'm Courtney. I'm a mama of two, married to my high-school sweetheart and making a life in the little town I grew up in. I'm a writer by trade, but a mama by heart. I love chocolate and I love family. Let's navigate this crazy, messy, blessed journey together! 

Is your tiny tick-or-treater ready for a little spook? Half the fun of Halloween is getting a few goosebumps, but we know many haunted houses are the kind that nightmares (and sleepless nights for you) are made of. So with little pumpkins in mind, we’ve rounded up a list of six spots that are just a little bit scary (more Scooby Doo than Psycho), including local historic homes with architecture to die for.

Photo credit: Amber Guetebier

Winchester Mystery House
In spite of its eerie reputation, a tour of the Winchester Mystery House can prove surprisingly kid-friendly. They’ll laugh at the odd angled steps and doors that open to the wall. More marvel than monsterish, the kids may not take in all the info on the tour, but they will certainly enjoy the trek. There are October candlelight tours may be a bit creepier for the 5 and under crowd (but then again, a babe in arms might not know the difference so…) but scarier still is how fast the tickets sell out. This year, there’s a Halloween-themed Candlelight Tour (for ages 8 and up) on Oct. 13-15, 18-22 & 25-31. Book ’em now.

Good to know: Wear comfortable shoes because the house is pretty expansive. Do not, under any circumstances, bring a stroller.

525 South Winchester Blvd.
San Jose, Ca
408-247-2101

Cost: $20-49
Online: winchestermysteryhouse.com 

Mayhem Mansion in San Francisco
Now in its 5th year, you can walk the hallowed (and haunted) halls of The Haas-Lilienthal House, a spectacular Queen Anne style home and historic house museum built in 1886. The terrifying tour is led by a benevolent (and historically savvy) host who will lead you through the magnificent manse, where you will be surprised and spooked by otherworldly visitors. Guests can also visit the “Spookeasy”— serving beer, wine and a specialty cocktail—before and after the tour to calm their nerves. Suggested for kids 8 and up.

Good to know: No parking is available (except for limited street parking), so public transportation is highly encouraged. Muni stops are located at Jackson and Van Ness (47, 49) and at Clay/Sacramento and Franklin (1).

When: Oct. 20 & 21 and 27 & 28
2007 Franklin St. (between Washington and Jackson Sts.)
San Francisco, Ca
Online: eventbrite.com/mayhemmansion

Cost: $12-20

Ghost House in Williams Historical Park, Fremont
For the last two weeks of October, the 19th century Chadbourne Carriage House in Williams Historical Park becomes the Ghost House. A perfect spot for your little boos, it’s just the right amount of kooky and spooky. Sponsored by the Candle Lighters, the Ghost House also includes an accompanying midway and country store (games are $.50 a play). On October 22nd there’s a less-scary “lights on” tour from 1-2 p.m. and on Oct. 28, show up in costume and join in the kiddie parade at 1 p.m. This year’s theme is the Shadow of the Vampire.

Good to know:  Dates are Oct. 14–30. Start times vary, so check here for exact hours on the day you’d like to visit. 39169 Fremont Blvd.

39169 Fremont Blvd.
Fremont, Ca 

510-796-0595

Cost: $3
Online: candlelighters.com

 Photo courtesy: The Haunted Railroad

The Haunted Railroad at Ardenwood Farms
Ok, it’s technically not a house, but what train-loving kid is going to say no to a spooky ride on the rails? Buy your ticket and climb aboard the Haunted Halloween Train. which will take your family on a creepy ride through the dark forests of Ardenwood. The ride is geared toward the 12 and under crowd and run by The Railroad Museum at Ardenwood/Society for the Preservation of Carter Railroad Resources. The train traverses a dark forest with a number of illuminated character scenes that are separated by Halloween themed blowups. The ‘conductor’ provides a tongue-in-cheek narration linking the trip with historical events.  There is no explicit gore or violence.

Good to know: The train departs every 30 minutes starting at 7 p.m. on Oct. 20, 21, 22, 27, 28 & 29. Ends at 9:30 p.m. Fri. & Sat., and 9 p.m. Sun. 

34600 Ardenwood Blvd.
Fremont, Ca
510-544-2797

Cost: $7/ages 3 and up; children 2 and under are free
Online: spcrr.org

Photo courtesy: Bradley Wittke for Miramar Events 

Johnston Haunted Barn at the HMB Pumpkin Festival
Yes, there are pumpkins. Big ones, small ones, glass ones, fried ones…but the Half Moon Bay Pumpkin Art and Pumpkin Festival also features the Johnston Haunted Barn. Appropriate for kids 5 and up (all ages are allowed and kids 3 and under are free) it’s open during the festival, Oct. 14 & 15, from 9 a.m.–5 p.m. and features actors from the Coastside Young Actors Workshop. Lots of fun effects, lights, and sounds, this year the barn is infested with pirates. It’s scary, but not traumatizing. The first 100 visitors on Saturday will get a free pirate hat, and the on Sunday a free glow bracelet.

505 Johnston St.
Half Moon Bay, Ca
Cost: $8
Online: pumpkinfest.com

Know of a good spooky spot to take the little pumpkins? Let us know in the comments below! 

–Erin Feher, Renee Macalino Rutledge & Amber Guetebier


It’s Valentine’s Day again! That means its time to take off the jeans, get that sexy dress out of hiding and put some much needed spark back into your relationship. Just because you’ve got kids that doesn’t mean you can’t escape it all and be the two lovebirds you started out as all over again – if only for one special evening. Book a sitter, plan some fun Valentine’s Day activities to keep the kids happily occupied while you’re out with your mate taking your time and savoring a romantic meal for a change of pace. The conversation can actually be about something other than eating your veggies or what superhero has the best powers. Check out these suggestions for your perfect Valentine’s Day from our friends at Seattle Magazine.

Yes, there just happens to be a giant heart-infested holiday coming right around the corner that many consider to be the biggest date night of the year. In its honor I have rounded up a short list of restaurants where the ambience is such that couples mooning across the table at each other are as much a fixture as dimmer switches and candlelight.

I admit, I lean a little Italian-heavy on this subject—but hey, it’s not my fault. Those two dogs bumping muzzles from opposite ends of a spaghetti noodle are just way too convincing.

Regardless, these hot spots have some of the sexiest tables in town and each has its own way of turning up the heat. Some may be doing special Valentine’s Day menus and seatings—check in soon with individual restaurants for specials and reservations.

To discover all the best Valentine’s Day spots in Seattle read the full article here.

This is our weekly guest post from our friends at Seattle Magazine, which keeps readers on the pulse of restaurants, personalities, arts, entertainment and culture that reflect the tapestry of our dynamic landscape. We’ve teamed up for an exciting partnership to bring you a weekly dose of fantastic Date Night ideas throughout greater Seattle.