WalletHub’s annual report shows where working moms have the best access to childcare and professional opportunities

Women make up almost half of the U.S. workforce, and 73 percent of women with children under 18 were working in 2022. But despite the fact that being a working parent is the reality for the majority of moms in this country, it still isn’t an easy path. Working moms face discrimination, pay inequality, and other battles that should be a thing of the past, but sadly, still aren’t. Only 8.2 percent of S&P 500 companies’ chief executives are women, and women still only earn, on average, 82 percent of what men do (that’s white women, for the record—the gap is much larger for women of color). And even across the United States, the playing field isn’t equal for working moms—that’s where WalletHub’s new study comes in.

Each year, the finance site ranks U.S. states to determine which ones are the best (and worst) for working moms. Its 2023 rankings are in, and the results may surprise you. Ready to pack your bags? These 10 states are considered the best places to be a working mom:

1. Massachusetts
2. Rhode Island
3. Connecticut
4. District of Columbia
5. Wisconsin
6. Minnesota
7. Vermont
8. New Jersey
9. Maine
10. Delaware

On the flip side, these 10 states are considered the worst:

42. Arizona
43. Nevada
44. Oklahoma
45. New Mexico
46. Idaho
47. West Virginia
48. Mississippi
49. Alabama
50. South Carolina
51. Louisiana

To determine its rankings, WalletHub looks at three main factors that greatly impact the quality of life (and work) for working moms: child care, professional opportunities, and work-life balance. Each state is given scores based on things like the cost of daycare, how many pediatricians it has per capita, its gender pay gap, ratio of female-to-male executives, parental leave policies, and more.

“Working parents (not just mothers) need to be not only welcomed into, but really driving the conversations about how to rethink workplace culture, workforce expectations, and work-life negotiation,” said Jennifer L. Borda, a professor of communication at the University of New Hampshire and one of the experts consulted on the study. “There is a diverse population caring for children now, so being attuned to how different workers have different needs and how those needs may shift and evolve over time. For example, LGBTQ+ workers may have different needs than cisgender/heterosexual couples… Work should not be, can no longer be, one size fits all.”

In the rankings, a lower cost of living might be offset by a lack of access to good child-care services

When it comes to deciding where to raise a family, there are plenty of factors to consider: career opportunities, cost of living, school systems, housing, and health and safety being just a few. If you’re looking to make a move across state lines in the near future, you may want to check out WalletHub’s findings.

The personal finance website compared all 50 states across 51 key indicators of family-friendliness, including housing affordability, childcare costs, violent crime, annual family income, neighborhood support, and unemployment rates. These indicators were grouped into five main categories: family fun, health and safety, education and childcare, affordability, and socio-economics.

family incomes statistics in some of the worst and best states to raise a family
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WalletHub also coordinated with a panel of experts to discuss issues that include child development, how it's influenced by the state a family lives in, and what things to consider when putting down roots.

When asked what families should consider when choosing a place to raise kids, director of Barnard College Center for Toddler Development Tovah P. Klein, Ph.D. states, "Cost is essential: is this a community that the family can afford to buy or rent a home or apartment, and will they be able to move to a bigger place if or when their family grows? Can they afford the amenities they will want such as recreation, and the necessities, such as health care and child care, that this area offers?" 

child care costs statistics in a wallet hub study of the worst and best states to raise a family

But access to educational opportunities has a huge impact as well. "Starting early in life, access to high-quality affordable early childhood education has significant implications for children’s learning and social development, family well-being, and ultimately community and state economic development," adds Melissa A. Barnett, Ph.D., director of the Frances McClelland Institute for Children, Youth and Families. And a state's level of commitment to policies that support those opportunities is something parents should be aware of. 

So, what are the best states to raise a family?

According to the findings, the top 5 best states for families to live in are:

1. Massachusetts

2. Minnesota

3. New York

4. North Dakota

5. Vermont

And the worst?

On the flip side, WalletHub also determined the lowest-ranking states, which include:

50. Mississippi

49. New Mexico

48. West Virginia

47. Louisana

46. South Carolina

 

—with additional reporting by Gabby Cullen

 

For those moments when your sitter cancels or you’ve got a last-minute meeting try flexible, drop-in childcare near Portland

Life is busier than ever with more parents working from home. While it’s nice to have the kids in the house, sometimes you need a little peace and quiet so you can get work done, whatever that may be. Luckily there are plenty of places offering drop-in childcare near Portland that’s both flexible and affordable. Childcare that works around your schedule and is available when you’re in a pinch? We couldn’t think of a more useful tool for busy Portland parents.

WeVillage

This popular flexible childcare spot takes in kids in the morning, for an afternoon or an evening. It accepts kids ages 6 weeks to 12 years old. Parents with infants will love the beautifully and specially designed rooms that provide safe and stimulating programs for your little one. The play-based preschool curriculum is a win with local families looking to get their kiddos ready for Kindergarten. There's an über convenient online reservation form on their website, making their service even more simple to use.

Ages: 6 weeks-12 years

1901 N.E. Broadway
Portland
Onlinewevillage.com

Grandma’s Place

If you need flexible, part-time childcare on the east side or in North Portland, this favorite childcare spot has three centers to choose from. The staff is heavy on teaching language skills, including baby sign language and Spanish language programming for bigger kids. They also offer interest centers for children including math, science, imaginative play, and reading.

Ages: newborn-12 years

Clark Family Center
2740 S.E. Powell Blvd.

Clark Family Annex
2706 S.E. Powell Blvd.

Rose Quarter
1730 N. Flint St.
Online: gpelc.net

Little Vikings

Students, staff and faculty at PSU can leave little ones at this weekday drop-in center that's right on campus. They offer walk-in, reserved or occasional care for up to 5 hours a day, 20 hours per week. Ask about their activity kits for parents to check out to keep their little ones busy during meetings or study sessions.

Ages: 6 weeks-12 years

1136 S.W. Montgomery St., Ste. 101
Portland
Online: littlevikings.org

Peak Academy

Located in Lake Oswego, this awesome flexible daycare option offers a variety of licensed, academic early childhood programs for children ages 1 to 12 years-old. The options are flexible and quality educational experiences while being taught by trained professionals in an enriching environment. Parents can choose from school readiness programs, no-school day camps, and drop and go care.

Ages: 1-12 years

464 First St.
Lake Oswego, OR
Online: peakacademy.com

Baerly Big Drop In Day Care

Serving the west side, near Washington Square Mall, this drop-in center offers late night options for parents and construction toys, dress up duds and sometimes field trips for munchkins. Parents like the individual care given to each child, and the array of activities available for all ages and the flexible hours. Reservations are not required, but they are strongly recommended.

Ages: 2 ½-12 years

9225 S.W. Hall Blvd., Suite. B
Tigard, OR
Online: bbigwebsite.wixsite.com

And that doesn’t include college

New estimates show that inflation isn’t just jacking up the cost of groceries and gasoline, but childrearing, too. The cost to raise a child for a two-parent, married family with two kids on a middle income? Over $310,000.

The Brookings Institution‘s estimate addresses children born in 2015 and spans all the costs through the age of 17. And spoiler alert: it doesn’t include any costs for sending your kids to college.

That $310K price tag has jumped $80,000 from 2017, which equals out to be over $18K per year.  Expenses that fit into the increase are plentiful and include child care, healthcare, housing, food clothing, haircuts, diapers and other must-haves like sports and lessons.

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So how did experts arrive at that number? It came down to using an average inflation rate of 2.23% (2015-2020), plus another 1.77% for the last two years. Thank you, recession!

“The new estimate only crunches numbers for middle-income, married parents, and doesn’t include projections for single parent households, or consider how race factors into cost challenges” reports The Hill. The cost for those family dynamics are even more bleak.

“Rising expenses for raising a family could disproportionately affect lower-income families. For a single parent earning $20,000 or $30,000 a year, shelling out the extra funds for a child might be difficult,” says said Dr. Isabel Sawhill, a senior fellow at Brookings.

For Black families, the Opportunity & Inclusive Growth Institute found that “that Black households are more exposed to inflation fluctuations than White households.” The Wall Street Journals says that “can make it difficult for households to determine how much the money they earn will buy.”

At the end of the day, no one enters parenthood thinking they are going to get off cheap. But for the next generation, we’re betting they’ll think long and hard about opening the purse strings before having kids.

With the ebb and flow of the pandemic last year, you probably had the kiddos back in childcare more than 2020 which definitely made an impact on your wallet. Thanks to Covid, childcare costs increased by roughly 10% which means families are paying an average of $300 a week per child at care centers, not to mention higher costs for options like nannies or if you have an infant. Basically, your childcare is like another mortgage.

Thankfully, the Child and Dependent Care Tax Credit was expanded for 2021 which could mean savings for parents. Different from the Child Tax Credit, it helps parents cover childcare costs while looking for or attending work, for kids 13 and under and adult dependents. So how is it expanded?

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Normally the cap for eligible expenses is $3,000 for one child and $6,000 for two or more. For your 2021 tax return, you’ll be able to claim expenses for up to $8,000 for one child or $16,000 for two or more. That’s a huge jump!

You may also be able to write off up to 50% (up from 35%) of your childcare expenses if your income is $125,000 or lower. That credit starts to phase out the higher the income: 20% for $183,000 to $400,000 and nothing above $438,000.

There is a catch: if you already pay for childcare using a dependent care flexible spending account, you cannot use those expenses towards the tax credit because that money is pre-tax and you’re already getting a tax break. However, if your costs go above what you’ve used from your FSA, you might be able to claim the difference up to either $8,000 or $16,000, depending on your family situation.

Another bonus: the credit for 2021 is refundable! So even if you don’t have a tax liability, you could end up with cash in your pocket thanks to a refund.

The expanded credit is only for the 2021 tax credit, so use it while you can!

––Karly Wood

 

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The pandemic has reshaped the landscape of many aspect of our lives, and perhaps one of the biggest is the balancing act of parenting and work. In December 2021, Kuli Kuli, Sylvatex, and Uncommon Cacao (all mom-backed companies) performed a survey of over 1,000 working moms to get a better understanding of how the pandemic has altered their ability to juggle work and parenting.

The survey polled women in all 50 states, with single moms accounting for 45% of the respondents. Seventy-two percent had one or two children, 60% came from low income backgrounds and moms included those who identified as white, Black, Hispanic or Latina and as Asian, Middle Eastern or North African, or multiracial. All that to say: the survey covered a lot of diversity!

While there were many revelations from the survey as it demonstrated the lack of childcare, moms becoming a “default parent” at home, a large exit from the workforce and more, one key point stands out: Flexibility keeps moms working.

photo: Pexels

Out of necessity when the pandemic started, many moms made the choice to leave the workplace to provide some sense of normalcy and to balance domestic life because their employers didn’t provide enough flexibility. And while 55% of moms said that spending more time with their children was a bonus, moms actually benefit from having work that is flexible as it “significantly relieved some of the pressure points of parenting that were exacerbated by the pandemic.”

Of those surveyed, 79% of moms prefer remote work when it comes to the environment. When they have access to empathetic employers, flexible hours and paid time off they are more likely to stay with their current employer. Many moms found that their employers (especially those with leadership who were parents themselves) were willing to roll with the punches and make swift changes to allow their employees to work remotely.

Stephanie S. from the survey shares, “Going into the office is completely optional. It’s a mutual respect for priorities in both our world’s that has been missing for so long…I’m so glad to be part of a movement to a more equal future that provides respect and support in the most important work we will ever do, raising the next generation.”

While there is much work to be done to continue evolving the workplace to incorporate parenthood, many employers are well on their way to offering the flexibility that is key to keeping moms working.  You can read the rest of the survey findings here.

 

––Karly Wood

Feature photo: RODNAE Productions via Pexels

 

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Although getting away may be a challenge, finding time to plan a date night in Portland is as important as it is fun

The month of love is here. You’ve been parenting like a hero all year, and now it’s time to celebrate the love you have for your family and your partner. After you’ve hit the local candy shops and found your little sweets some sweets, it’s time to book a babysitter and some romantic time with your bae. After all, taking time to nurture your relationship is an important part of good parenting. If you are ready for a real date night (or day, or overnight) but aren’t sure what to do, we’ve put together a list of romantic spots for you to go. Whether you are dying for an afternoon out or a reason to get dressed up for an evening out, we’ve got some great date-night ideas for you.

Date night restaurants in Portland you won’t want to miss

via Produce Row

Dine on a Heated Patio

While the weather may be getting colder, you and your partner can stay warm and safe, dining on one of Portland Restaurants many heated patios. If there is one wonderful thing that has come out of  COVID, it is that local restaurants rose to the occasion and created gorgeous, date-worthy outdoor seating that includes an element of warmth. One of our favorite date spots is Produce Row, which features a giant outdoor patio area that stays toasty warm during the cold months. There's also plenty of indoor seating as well. Check out more heated patio dining options here.

Produce Row
204 SE Oak St
Online: producerowcafe.com

Enjoy Safe Indoor Dining

Many Portland restaurants have gone the extra mile to keep their patrons safe. You can expect properly spaced seating and responsible mask requirements at all of these locations. Many of them require a vaccination card or proof of a negative COVID test as well. There's no better way to celebrate you love and the return of indoor seating by supporting local restaurants this Valentine's Day. From casual spots that serve up a slice of pie to classy joints that offer farm-to-table meal, you have you pick of places to eat. And you can return to all of them later this year, even with kids in tow. Check them out here.

Hit the Zoo

Think a day at the zoo is just for kids? Think again! Taking a stroll together through the Oregon Zoo can be a great way to reconnect with your special someone. The zoo has reopened and you can now reserve timed-entry tickets 10 days in advance. There are guidelines in place to reduce crowds and ensure social distancing, so be sure to review the guidelines before making your reservation. Then, get ready for some outdoor fun with all the animals!

Oregon Zoo
4001 SW Canyon Rd.
Portland, OR
503-226-1561
Adult: $17.95
Daily 9 a.m.- 6 p.m.
Online: oregonzoo.org

 

Date night ideas Portland parents can agree on

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Scope the Art at Alberta Street Gallery

Do you and your partner love art? Visit this artist collective featuring work from local artists. With and open and airy gallery, you can safely spend an afternoon perusing their current showings. Commemorate the romantic experience by purchasing a special piece of art to enjoy at home! When you are done looking at art, checkout the neighborhood. Alberta is a beloved area of town that is full of places to bring the kiddos when date night is done.

Alberta Street Gallery
1829 NE Alberta St.
Portland, OR
503-954-3314
11-7 p. daily
Online: albertastreetgallery.com

Wander Through The Portland Art Museum

What is more romantic than an afternoon wandering through halls filled with breathtaking art. Portland Art Museum has an astounding array of art exhibits to peruse year-round, and even boasts family-friendly days. But, this Valentine's Day take some kid-free time to check out their current exhibits and their impressive collection of art. You can easily spend hours checking out the museum's  50,000 objects, displayed in 112,000 square feet of galleries. When you are done, you can wander through downtown and grab a meal at one of the downtown eateries.

1219 SW Park Avenue
Portland, OR 
503-226-2811
Wed.-Sun., 10 a.m.-5 p.m.
$25/person
Online: portlandartmuseum.org

Drive-in and Wine-Down Movies

Head out to the Dalles for a slight twist on the drive-in experience. The winery at the Sunshine Mill now offers drive-up movie nights! Enjoy classic concession stand goodies, or choose from a selection of appetizers and wine from the winery, while watching a film broadcast on the side of the building. Get cozy with your beloved and watch a feel-good or seasonal movie. You can even book a private screening if you you want to go big!

The Sunshine Mill
901 East 2nd St.
The Dalles, OR
541-298-8900
Tasting room open daily 12-6 p.m.; until 6 p.m. prior to movie nights
Drive-up Movies offered Thurs.-Sat. after Sunset
$20/car
Online: sunshinemill.com/drive-up-movies

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Get Away

Got a little more time (and childcare) and want to get away? Consider one of these options for extended day time adventures, full day trips, and quick overnights that are (relatively) safe during the pandemic.

Head to Hood River

Hood River offers families breathtaking views of the Columbia River and the Cascade Mountains. You have hiking trails, fascinating museums, and wine country surrounding you. Book your love nest at the  Hood River Hampton Inn & Suites right off I-84, in the Columbia River Gorge National Scenic Area. This hotel is just five minutes from central Hood River and within a mile of waterfront restaurants, bars and parks. You can spend your whole day, overnight, or weekend away strolling around the waterfront enjoying great bites and views, or you can head in town and do some shopping. For more ideas on what to do and where to go when you are in Hood River, read more here.

Visit Astoria

Enjoy an overnight or weekend filled with adventure, art, museums, and maritime fun in Astoria.  Located right on the river, The Bowline Hotel may very well be the most romantic spot to stay on the Oregon Coast. Don't let the industrial aesthetic fool you. This gorgeous spot is a sardine cannery that has been turned into a lux hotel that  is home to 40 rooms that feature plush king beds, luxury linens,  flickering fireplaces, tubs and French press coffee to start your mornings with. It's also home to a romantic bar and eatery called The Knot. The Knot Bar offers guests locally sourced menu items that are Scandinavian-inspired and pay homage to Astoria's seafood history. When you aren't snuggling in your plush room or enjoying next-level bites and sips, you can stroll through the town and enjoy shopping in one of the many eclectic shops. Or check out a museum or the Astoria column. To fill your romantic getaway itinerary, read more here.

Stay in a Tiny House with Getaway

Book a cabin for two in Mt. Adams with this new tiny-home vacation rental company. With hot showers, bathroom, heat and AC, a stove, and a comfy bed, it's the perfect mix of camping and comfort. The collection of 30 cabins (built on a shipping container base) is nestled in a quiet 80-acre park near trails in Glenwood, Washington, about a two-hour drive from Portland. Safety measures are in place to make your stay a healthy one.

Getaway Portland Outpost
From $119/night
Online: getaway.house/portland

—Annette Benedetti

 

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Raising kids isn’t easy on the pocketbook and escaping for a night away isn’t either. If you’ve been scratching your head wondering about the going rate for a sitter, Care.com has the answer.

The online mecca of childcare resources has a babysitting rates calculator that helps you pay a fair wage based on your location! The easy-to-use feature lets you input your zip code, years of experience you’d like your sitter to have, number of children and how often you’ll need help. Then, like magic it spits out the going rate in your area for childcare.

While parents don’t love forking over the dough for babysitting, there’s no denying that you can’t put a price on the safety of your kids. Knowing the cost of a sitter with the experience you want will go along way in finding the perfect person (not just anyone) who will become part of the fam.

Once you’ve nailed down the going rate for a local sitter or nanny, you can use Care.com‘s super helpful lists of the best sitters in your area with a quick click of the button, and you’re off to the races.

—Karly Wood

Feature photo: Care.com/Shutterstock

 

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Starting daycare is a daunting experience for any parent. When you add in the issue of food allergies the high anxiety experience can leave you worried for your child’s life. But for some of us, daycare is the only option we have. To get through it safely, here are a few tips for dealing with daycare and food allergies.

To deal with daycare and food allergies the best way to start is to take control of what you can. Get involved with food prep and give detailed instructions to those who you fear may not have food allergy training. Bring reminders and have paperwork for everyone involved, so you’re all literally on the same page.

Food Allergies in Daycares

Chances are your daycare will have at least one child that has food allergies already attending. Since 8% of children in the US have food allergies, about 1 in 13 children or 2 students per classroom are dealing with allergies.

Despite this growing number, you may find some schools are less prepared than others to deal with food allergies. Because food allergy education and training is different everywhere, you will have to be vocal about your safety concerns.

Get an idea of how prepared the school is during the first walkthrough or orientation. Explain how severe your child’s allergy is and ask if there are other children with food allergies.

Take a look at where the children eat and how food is handled. Be sure they understand that food allergy safety also means avoiding cross-contamination. Will children be eating allergenic foods and immediately playing with toys?

Ask every question you think of there’s no room for misunderstandings.

Food Allergies & How to Deal With Them in a Childcare Setting

To deal with food allergies in a childcare setting, all teachers and parents should be notified of a child with food allergies in a class. This means everyone knows, so no one from another class comes in and makes a mistake.

Parents share a lot of information from the start. To help with communication be ready with as much food allergy information as you can.

  • Having a doctor’s note always helps people understand the seriousness of the situation (if you’re dealing with a daycare that doesn’t understand, find another one).

  • Leave detailed instructions for the epi-pen.

  • Use food allergy cards and stickers as reminders.

  • Write out substitutes for allergies on the school’s menus so the daycare has options.

  • Have an emergency care plan.

  • Teach your child to be vocal about their food allergies.

This is no time for your child to be called picky—allow your little one to voice their opinion. Let the school know you taught your toddler about food allergies and let them question if a food is safe.

In some cases, the school may not have access to simple substitutes like soy milk for dairy. So you’ll take on the role of providing school lunch earlier than expected.

Learn to Meal Prep

With the hefty price tag of daycare, bringing your own lunch can be a problem, but with a few meal prep ideas, you can keep the cost down. The benefit of making your own lunch is you know what your child is eating each day.

Create meals for the week and take them to the school on Monday. No need to lug milk every day if the school has a full kitchen. Drop off the soymilk on Monday and have the daycare inform you when it’s all out.

This gives the providers the chance to serve the toddlers lunch with the other children. Labeling and prepping is a lot of work, but for some doing it once a week versus every day may help.

Of course, this option will require a lot of communication. This plan depends on the daycare’s st‌yle and how comfortable you are with the ability to avoid cross-contamination.

Take Advantage of Bento Boxes

Make lunch with your toddler’s favorite foods in a bento box. Add crackers, lunch meat, fruit, veggies, and their favorite dip. A bento box doesn’t have to mean big expensive lunches your toddler doesn’t want. Keep it simple and change up the ingredients and it’ll always be fresh.

Sometimes it’s best to choose options that don’t have to be heated so handling is kept to a minimum. However, when you want add a sandwich or dinner the day before and use your regular fruits and veggies as sides.

Skip Breakfast (If You Can)

My boys are allergic to eggs. I’m lucky enough to work from home, so when eggs are for breakfast at daycare, I drop them off a little later. They skip breakfasts they can’t eat at school and have breakfast at home.

If that’s not an option pack up breakfast on the go and always remind the daycare they already ate or they have their own.

When it comes to lunch, give in to your child’s demands. No point in creating beautiful nutritious meals they don’t want. If they want seed butter and jelly three days in a row, don’t feel bad for giving it to them. You still have dinnertime at home to fill the gaps.

While these tips may not get rid of all your fear, being prepared can help put your mind at ease. Making notes on the weekly or monthly menu will keep everyone stay up to date at every meal. Using eye-catching stickers and food allergy cards on bookbags and cubbies is a fun way to use reminders.

When substitutes aren’t an option, bring your own lunch. Meal prepping with bento boxes and skipping breakfast at school can keep costs low. Choose your child’s favorites to ensure they eat every bite.

Starting daycare is hard, but you can get through it, even with food allergies. Once you witness the fun your child has making friends and bringing home artwork, you’ll see why it’s worth it

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I'm Lydia, a mom of two boys with eczema and food allergies. After feeling lost, I created a blog to help with parenting a child with eczema. Writing about that journey led to my content creation and marketing business, where I am a small business freelance writer.

 

I was talking to a mom the other day—let’s call her Beth—who shared with me a daycare horror story. Beth put her daughter in a daycare near her home that looked quaint. As a new mom, she didn’t know any other parents who had sent their children there but she was in a crunch to find childcare before she returned to work and this place was affordable, convenient, and had an opening. Within a few weeks of her daughter starting at the daycare she saw some red flags—one day she picked her child up with a dirty diaper, other days her child seemed excessively hungry, and sometimes the childcare provider was not forthcoming with details about her daughter’s day.

Ultimately she decided to take a costly leave of absence from work and figure out a better childcare situation. She later found out that there had been complaints filed against the daycare and their license was in the process of being suspended. She felt fortunate she intervened when she did and had the means to take a leave from work. She asked me how parents prevent these situations from happening in the first place.

Finding high-quality childcare is top of mind for working parents and it’s not easy to figure out how to navigate the process, especially as a new parent. But you don’t have to leave the situation up to chance and prayer.

Here are five things you can do as a parent to empower yourself and ensure you’re placing your child in a safe and loving environment.

Get parental approval

If you don’t know parents first-hand that have sent their children to a daycare provider, then ask the provider for references and call them. The more information on a facility or individual, the more comfortable you will feel leaving your children in their care. My company, Winnie, recently compiled a free database of every daycare and preschool, starting with San Francisco where you can get information about the provider, reviews from parents and other critical safety info like the adult to child ratio. We did this because we want to equip parents with the information they need to ensure their child’s well-being and make life easier for working moms & dads.

Check the licensing database

Did you know that there’s a licensing database when you can find information about all licensed daycares and preschools in the United States? If it’s a daycare, even an in-home provider, look at the licensing database. All licensed daycares and preschools are inspected regularly and these inspections are public information. You can also see if any complaints have been filed against the school and even subscribe to updates in case their licensing status changes.

Visit and ask questions

Ask to visit the provider, ideally while children are present. This will give you a feel for their st‌yle and if it jibes with yours. Ask questions to understand how the provider communicates with parents, what the physical environment is like (e.g. is it childproofed? Is it clean?) and what children do as a day-to-day routine.

Check their safety procedures

One thing that’s very predictable about children is that they are unpredictable. Accidents and emergencies happen so you want to ensure your provider is trained and prepared for the worst. Check the basics like training in first aid and CPR but also understand their policies around illness, evacuation procedures, and vaccines. Finally, you’ll want to really understand their philosophy around discipline. The most important thing for a childcare provider is that they have lots of patience and never resort to harsh language or violence with your child.

Trust your gut

Even if everything looks great on paper and checks out, you have to trust your instincts. If something doesn’t feel right to you, you need to act like Beth did and pull your child out of the daycare until you sort the situation out. Beth didn’t have a lot of information to go on at the time, but she acted swiftly and prevented the situation from getting worse.

Short mom to tall kids. CEO and co-founder of Winnie, a leading marketplace for daycare and preschool helping millions of parents across the United States. Still getting the gist of this whole parenting thing.