Everyone is struggling to make sense of the challenges we are all facing due to the novel coronavirus. If you have young children, you may have even more stress as you struggle to keep them busy. There are numerous suggestions online for activities and games, as well as many resources offered by companies and publishers. Besides that, if you are looking for ideas that do not require a trip to the art store, the grocery store, or even opening your computer, check these out.

LISTEN. I found myself sitting in my back yard yesterday for no reason other than to get some fresh air and some sun. Suddenly I was noticing an amazing variety of bird songs. My five-minute outdoor break from work turned into thirty minutes of listening. Children almost never have the opportunity just to sit and listen, so use this time to make that happen. I’ll admit it did have me later going to my computer to try to identify an unusual orange bird, an oriole, I think; but, nothing wrong with sparking that kind of curiosity.

READ. Sometimes we only read to our children at bedtime (that’s great, don’t stop!) but mix it up and read anytime, even first thing in the morning. Choose favorites from your bookshelf and read aloud or have your child tell you the story in their own words. Or, branch out and choose a cookbook with lots of pictures. I remember my own young children frequently requesting a cake baking cookbook. They were enthralled with the photographs of cakes shaped like guitars and bunnies. Art or coffee table books can open up a whole new world as well. Peruse together, make observations, and ask questions. I recently shared a book about an environmental sculptor, Andy Goldsworthy with my three-year-old granddaughter, Alma. Her thoughts on his rock and twig structures were fascinating for both of us. Later we even collected some rocks and twigs of our own to build with.

SING. Be inspired by the Italians who have taken this opportunity to express themselves musically and lift up themselves and their neighbors. Schedule an after-dinner sing-a-long. Share tunes that you remember from your childhood. Children adore hearing about life when their parents were young. Plus, research shows us that singing releases chemicals and hormones that raise our feelings of pleasure and reduce our feelings of anxiety and stress.

DANCE. Have a dance party. Pick a theme…hats, scarfs, face paint, any crazy idea will do. If dancing isn’t your thing, start with something simple like the hokey pokey or the bunny hop, or just clapping along and take it from there. Besides the benefits of movement and exercise, dancing like singing can boost our mood. Model your kid’s inhibitions and have fun!

Stay safe and healthy.

I am a parent and grandparent with over four decades of experience in early childhood education. I share my passion, wisdom and experience, with parents and the people who care for and about children at Little Folks Big Questions, where we're out to answer the questions parents face in today's world.

In light of these parents getting exposed for paying their kids way into college, I feel as though we should discuss 2019 parenting.

First off, we know this stuff happens everywhere. People paying their kids way into things. I just think it’s hilarious that Auntie Becky got caught thinking she’s above the rules of decency and good parenting. Jesse and the Rippers are going to be so disappointed.

In my opinion, our generation of parenting is interesting and maybe we should stop to reflect for a moment.

A few decades ago: No seat belts, no baby gates, latch key kids.. You know the generation that always shrugs and says “We didn’t know.”

Well now we know.

We know how to keep our kids safe. We have great tools to do that.

Yet, just like everything else in humanity, we oversteer the ship.

This generation of parenting thinks that part of their job description is to protect their kids from all pain and failure.

That is indeed the wrong job description.

You are the coach, not their bodyguard.

When a boy from the neighborhood called me a “fat f*cking bag of fart cheese” while playing capture the flag one afternoon. It’s good my parents weren’t there to step in and solve that situation for me.

The stinging on my face with embarrassment. The lack of words to say. The twenty minutes of replaying that moment in my head while sulking on the swing. Coming up with a long lines of witty come backs.

Learning to stand up for myself did not come from my parents standing up for me. It came from the fact that they empowered me and that I did it for myself.

Every time you want to come into a situation and throw haymakers for your kid. Stop and take a breath. Say out loud, “us as parents are the problem.”

Your kid is not yours to control. It is not your job to stop them from ever feeling any pain or rejection.

YOU ARE THE COACH.

Get off the court. Get onto the sidelines and start clapping.

Call time out and have a conversation. Give advice. Talk about a plan.

Nope. Don’t go out onto the court. You can’t lift up your teenage kid to dunk the ball in the middle of the game.

Back to the bench for you. Start clapping.

You are the coach.

You are your kids biggest support! You make game plans. You watch film. You practice with them. You cheer for them louder than anyone in the stands.

But you don’t belong on the court.

If your kid bricks a lay up. You have to watch.

Then start clapping again. Build them up so they can see another opportunity will come.

Get off the court or you will get a technical foul.

My Dad got a lot of technical fouls while I was growing up, but good thing they were actual on the basketball court. Haha. Hi Dad!

You have to be your child’s biggest support, but know where to draw the line.

Don’t go onto the court.

You don’t belong there.

Getting rejected is powerful. Failing is powerful. Even though it’s hard to watch, you can’t steal those moments from your child’s development as a person.

You have to coach them on how to deal with it. How to move on. How to regroup. How to not let those moments crush you or define you.  How to be brave enough to ask for help.

The worst thing you can do is give your kid something they didn’t earn. They will never grow up to be the humans you hoped they’d be.

We are the generation of parents who thinks their job is to do things for their kids.

Please stop doing things for your kids.

Please stop setting up their environment so precisely they don’t get to experience the world.

Life is painful. Life is messy. Life sucks at times.

Watching your kid be in pain can be hard. But that’s where you get all the life lessons. That is where you learn to be resilient. That’s how you learn that this too shall pass.

Don’t worry, you will be right there to cheer for them when they stand back up and brush themselves off.

You will be the loudest person cheering for them.

But get off the court.

Love,

Britt

Britt Burbank is a Beach bum, Mom, Wife, Sister, Friend, Coach, Bikram Yoga Instructor, Special needs advocate, Library enthusiast,  Mom blogger. Britt lives in a barn on Cape Cod with her husband, two toddlers, and stinky black lab. You can read more of her adventures at You're Somebody's MOTHER.

What comes first? Goodnight Moon or This Is Us? Since we can’t definitively answer the question about the chicken or the egg, it’s doubtful we’ll get to the bottom of this question either. Regardless of our philosophical conclusions, after watching last night’s episode the real takeaway is: from this point forward, we will never be able to have one without the other in our heart space Thank you, brilliant This Is Us writers.

But the more compelling question is, “Whose soul-bound idea was it to write Goodnight Moon into the script anyway?” Weaving such a unique thread through an episode set out to prove the human collective has shared experiences across every spectrum is creative genius. Whoever you are, I’m still giving a standing O over here. Listen close and you’ll hear my robust display of hand clapping echoing through time and space.

Here’s the thing. Goodnight Moon is a simple book. No glitz, no glamour—just the story of a bunny saying goodnight to the world before going to sleep. And the simplicity is what turns this tiny classic into a family favorite. Goodnight Moon is a universal, feel-good, tuck-your-kids-into-bed staple for every parent. Who knew a make-believe book with 132 words could touch hearts across the globe? And who knew a T.V. show with pretend story lines could annihilate hearts across the same globe?

This Is Us reminded us we all walk through life with similar journeys in which we experience joy, face hardship, celebrate success, and fight demons. We aren’t alone in our own universe—all of us fall asleep under the same moon. And if we can remember everyone has a story, maybe we can muster up more compassion for our fellow man. The writers used another stroke of genius to help us hone in on this truth with the parallel of everyone has a story they read their child before bed. Just wow.

Because both the book and the show are forever classics, I thought we all could use a This Is Us version of Goodnight Moon.

Goodnight This Is Us

In the great Pearson room

There was a husband and wife

And the Big Three

And many pictures of-

Their family tree

And there were three little hearts stock full of love

And five plates

And a pair of soulmates

And a little yellow terrible towel

And a deep sense of wow

And a Buddhist necklace and a lunar pendant and a Pilgrim Rick descendent

And a quiet karma, warm and resplendent

Goodnight Pearson room

Goodnight family tree

Goodnight hearts beating with glee

Goodnight light

And the Big Three

Goodnight hearts

Goodnight love

Goodnight plates

And goodnight soulmates

Goodnight Bec

And goodnight Jack

Goodnight yellow terrible towel

And goodnight sense of wow

Goodnight Buddhist necklace

And goodnight lunar pendant

Goodnight nobody

Goodnight Pilgrim Rick descendent

And goodnight karma, warm and resplendent

Goodnight stars

Goodnight air

Good night beautiful memories everywhere

 

And, um, #ThisIsUs writers, this show can never end. Like never ever.

This post originally appeared on Shelby Spear.

Sappy soul whisperer, sarcasm aficionado and pro-LOVE Jesus-adoring mom of three Millennials writing stuff about motherhood and life, while hanging out with the hubs of 25 years. 

One too many trips to an arcade-filled pizza joint with a rat-turned-mouse mascot can make these child-centric establishments feel not-so-special come birthday time. To usher in your wee one’s next year of life, these places are the best of the best for kid-friendly celebrations even adults will love. 

Photo: shankar s. via Flickr

Best Birthday Songs

Alero Restaurant

It doesn’t get more festive than a Mariachi band belting out a birthday ditty; most days you’ll find sombrero-wearing guitar players strolling through this U street hot spot, but if you come here on an off- night, don’t worry! The restaurant staff will sing with the same gusto of its resident Latin band, shaking maracas and pounding (loudly) on drums. Your kids are sure to remember this birthday rendition for years to come.

1301 U St., NW (U Street Corridor)
Buca di Beppo
Yes, it’s a chain-restaurant. (Sigh). But the fun, kitschy atmosphere paired with its unique, upbeat hand-clapping birthday song make it a great place to cut cake with family. And the best part, the cake (with a festive, Italian flag) is free on your birthday! 
1825 Connecticut Ave., NW (Dupont Circle)

Best Birthday Desserts

Osteria Marzano

Skip the traditional birthday cake at this modern, brick-oven pizza joint where — in addition to classic Italian desserts — you can order a dessert pizza for your favorite pie-lover: instead of tomato sauce, this oven-fired dough is topped with Nutella and gooey, toasted marshmallows. And, yes!, it is a full-size pizza… if you can’t finish it, it heats up well in the microwave for a next-day celebration. 

6361 Walker Ln. (Alexandria, Va)

703-313-9700

Online: osteriamarzano.com

Co Co Sala

This chocolate-themed lounge has a very grown-up feel, but despite it’s swank-factor, it is kid-accommodating. Ask for a seat at the “Chocolate Bar”  — where artisanal chocolatiers handcraft sweets — and even the oldest members of your party will feel like kids again. Skip dinner all-together and opt for a three-course dessert experience for your little birthday boy or girl with each sweet dish bearing a special, chocolate birthday message. 

929 F St., NW (Federal Triangle)
202-347-4265
Online: coco.com

Best Overall Party Atmosphere

HalfSmoke

A meal at this Shaw output feels a lot like a day at a carnival with menu options like top-your-own personal sized funnel cake and milkshakes with fluffy cotton candy topping. Little ones will enjoy the giant Jenga (perfect for tiny fingers). And a day at the carnival wouldn’t be complete without one of those vintage-y photo strips — Halfsmoke offers a free photo booth to capture the birthday festivities. 

651 Florida Ave NW (Washington, DC)
H Street Country Club
On most nights, H Street is more bar than Mexican restaurant, but this game-themed cantina is not just for “big kid” parties.  Come here on family night (Tuesday) and indoor miniature golf is just $4 per person with the purchase of dinner. It is also family friendly between the hours of 11 a.m. and 4 p.m. on Saturday and Sunday. In addition to putt putt, this country club has other boardwalk games like shuffleboard, skeeball and giant Jenga. 
1335 H St., NE (H Street)

hstcountryclub.com

What restaurants do you visit to celebrate a birthday. Tell us in the comments section below.

 

–Meghan Meyers

From lullabies to clapping games, music is a big part growing up. Just the process of learning a new instrument builds lifelong skills like good work ethic and body-mind coordination. If your little karaoke partners are ready to take the next step and become “big” musicians, check out these 3 awesome music apps for kids. It’s a great way to gauge their interest before investing in the real thing.

Morton Subotnick’s Pitch Painter
Age: 3+

We might be in an era of musical producers with the electronic dance age, but classical musical composers are just as cool! Think Beethoven and Mozart, John Williams (Star Wars) and Randy Newman (Toy Story) – they’ve all created songs that warmed our hearts, even without us knowing it! Morton Subotnick’s Pitch Painter is a music app that lets kids play with music composition through the style of finger painting. Little fingers can create compositions, choose different instruments and create tracks just with a drag and drop. Read more about this app on Common Sense Media.

Juno’s Piano
Age: 5+

Before dropping several hundred dollars (or more than a grand) on a piano, try Juno’s Piano – Learn Songs, Play with Parents, and Free Play. This interactive and educational app is an electronic keyboard that budding pianists can use to learn simple songs and notes before moving onto the real thing. Read more about this app on Common Sense Media.

Other musical instruments to try: Drum Kit,

BandBlast: The Music Education Revolution
Age: 9+

At the end of the day, serious musicians will need to learn music theory to advance, and like all difficult lessons, maintaining interest boils down to enjoying the learning process.BandBlast makes music theory fun and engaging through a series of videos, short quizzes, games, and progress tracking components. Let’s just say we wish we had this growing up. Read more about this app on CommonSense Media.

What music apps do your kids absolutely love? Let us know in the comments below!

— Christal Yuen

So you’re stuck in traffic, day-dreaming of a place to get away from it all.  Perhaps a beautiful island.  An unpopulated, unspoiled little island – where traffic noises are unheard of (literally) and peace and serenity reigns supreme. Then – honk! – the light changes and you remember you live in LA: where traffic is a fact of life and an island like that would take at least a day (and a few thousand dollars) to fly to.  Right?  Wrong.

Take a trip to Anacapa Island the smallest–and closest–of the Channel Islands, eleven miles off the coast of Ventura. Cruise across the sunny sea through a shroud of fog to emerge on your own Galapagos-like sanctuary.  It’s a couple of hours, yet a whole world away.  It’s great for a relaxing girlfriend or romantic getaway, but it’s also a perfect place to explore with kids.

Clapping Seals, Flapping Birds
Step off the boat and be greeted by the lonely homing call of Anacapa’s lighthouse, happy barking seals and sea lions, and most notably, the occasional cries of hundreds of seagulls that would send Tippi Hedren running for cover. Fear not!  These are not the angry birds of a Hitchcockian nightmare; predator-free Anacapa is the proud birthplace of nearly every seagull in California, along with many other endemic species of wildlife and plants. If you visit in spring you’ll ascend Anacapa’s towering lava cliffs to a breathtaking forest of Giant Coreopsis that blanket the island in brilliant yellow.

Get Packing and Get Packers
No cries of  “Are we there yet” on this trip – getting there is half the fun.  Hop an Island Packers ferry in the morning and arrive at Anacapa in less than an hour.  Along the way, get up close and personal with sea lions lounging on buoys. Snap pictures of the dolphins, like, surfing in the wake of the ferry, dude. If you’re lucky you might even spot a few whales making their annual 10,000 mile journey between Baja and the Arctic waters. (And you thought getting across town from Silverlake to the Westside was hard.)  Boats leave daily from Ventura and Oxnard harbors. Check the schedule as time of departure changes with the day of week and season.

You’re On Island Time Now
After you dock plan to spend about four hours on Anacapa, which has a two mile loop trail that even the tiniest tyke-hikers can manage with ease.  Leave the stroller at home unless you fancy the idea of lugging it 157 steps up a steel rung ladder from the dock; Bjorn babies and Ergo-mamas will be much happier.

Once on top, volunteer rangers provide narrated tours of the island or you can strike out on your own to Inspiration Point, Cathedral Cove, and Pinniped Point for breathtaking views of kelp forests and cove dwelling sea creatures below.  (Take care to stay on paths and away from the soft dirt cliff edges at all times.)  Break for a leisurely lunch at the picnic tables, or at the small campground along the trail.  Stop off at the visitor center and discover the rich history of the Chumash people, and the underwater world of this island lost in time.

Key Things to Know Before You Go

What to bring: Anything and everything you want to eat! There is no place to buy food or drinks (not even water) on Anacapa Island, so stock up.  Make like a Boy Scout and “Be prepared”, or your kiddo just might make you “Be miserable”.

What to wear: One word: layers. The ferry ride gets chilly, especially as it makes it way through banks of fog that often surround Anacapa. Once on the island there are no trees or shade, so a floppy hat will be your best friend. Sunscreen is a necessity, too.  Keep a sweatshirt handy for the fog that rolls on and off the island throughout the day.

When to go: Spring is gorgeous and not too hot, but summer and fall adventures are lovely on the islands as well.  You can even come in the winter, as the parks are open year round, but to be frank, kids (and therefor YOU) won’t enjoy the boat ride here as much when the temp turns frigid.

Can you stay?  Well, yes, you can.  Camping is permitted (with a reservation and $15 fee), but as you have to tote every single thing you’ll need for your visit with you, it’s not a very kid-friendly camping experience.

Got big kids? We have to admit, while we love leisurely hikes with tots on this tiny refuge, if your family consists of more active tweeners and teens, they might prefer visiting Anacapa during a restoration day, held weekly throughout spring and summer.  Volunteers help rid Anacapa of non-native ice plant and work in the island nursery.  Ferry transportation is provided free of charge and students are always welcome.

Online: nps.gov/anacapa.htm

Have you taken an island trip to Anacapa? Do you have any tips for visiting this family-friendly destination with kids? Let us know in the comments below. 

–Jennifer Wolfe

Photos courtesy of Analise Dubner, Derek Lohuis via the National Park Service, and Infernal fox via Wikimedia Commons