If you’ve ever been lucky in love, you’ve likely experienced first-hand the butterfly flutters in your stomach when you meet your perfect match. While that first rush of physical attraction may fade, relationships that ultimately stand the test of time often share similar qualities that outlast the initial spark. We asked several leading experts to weigh in on the most powerful predictors behind long-term relationship success, and boy, did they deliver.

1. You lead with laughter.

Let’s face it: Life is messy, and laughter is often the glue that keeps things from completely falling apart. If you can laugh so hard that you chuckle-snort and your partner still finds you irresistibly adorable, then your relationship likely is on solid ground. According to Dr. Sara Algoe, professor of psychology and neuroscience at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and director of The Love Consortium, shared laughter is critical in a successful, lasting relationship. “It signals that you see the world in the same way. We found that people who shared laughter felt more connected than those who did not share laughter,” she says.

2. You fight fair.

Think respectful disagreements, not WWE smackdowns. Dr. John Gottman, world-renowned researcher on marital stability and divorce prediction and co-founder of The Gottman Institute, says a couple’s ability to resolve conflict—or their repairing skills—is often the single greatest sign of a healthy relationship. “Our partners don’t always have to think like we think. That’s what makes life interesting—it would be boring to be married to yourself,” says Gottman. Bonus points if you can apologize without making it sound like you’re reciting the alphabet backward. Find out more about Gottman’s work on the 4 Horsemen of Relationships here.

3. You operate as a team.

The over-used aphorism “teamwork makes the dream work” has become something of a corporate cliché, but when it comes to tackling life’s curveballs, couples that operate as a unified team have a higher chance at success than those who only fend for themselves. Andreas Narum, certified psychologist, couples therapist, and founder of Remainly explains, “Good teamwork acknowledges that there are two separate sets of thoughts and feelings.” Whether co-navigating parenting duties or making shared decisions about finances, facing challenges side-by-side and high-fiving each other’s victories along the way make the relationship work.

4. You have fun together.

If everything feels like a chore with your partner, it’s probably a glaring red flag the relationship won’t work out in the long term. According to a study conducted by researchers at Utah State University, “Having fun together can help couples feel positive emotions, which can increase relationship satisfaction, help couples to unite to overcome differences, and give hope when working through difficult challenges.” At the most basic level, a relationship should be fun, and being together should spark joy, not anger or anxiety.

5. You celebrate each other’s wins—big or small.

While jealousy is undoubtedly a relationship red flag, authentic, caring support and encouragement are the love languages of many lasting relationships. “The quality of positive support—reassurance that a partner is loved and esteemed and is capable of taking control of his or her life—is the most crucial factor in the health of any relationship,” says Dr. Sue Johnson, clinical psychologist and founder of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

6. You make time for each other, even when life gets crazy.

It’s easy for many couples to fall into a rut, especially for those in long-term relationships. In a recently published study, Dr. Samantha Joel, relationship researcher and assistant professor at Western University in London, Ontario, found partners who regularly checked in with each other sustained better relationships in the long term. Think quality date nights, not just Netflix binges on the couch. “When it comes to a satisfying relationship, the partnership you build is more important than the partner you pick,” she says.

7. Honesty and trust are your relationship anthems.

“Trust is the first and perhaps most important predictor of long-term relational success,” says Preston Ni, communications coach and author of How to Communicate Effectively and Handle Difficult People. “Ask yourself the following questions: In general, is your partner reliable? Can you count on your partner as the ‘rock’ in your life? What about you for your partner?” The key is to be truthful, even when it’s tough. Trust is the bedrock of any lasting love story, and if you’ve got a partnership that’s founded on honesty, it’s a definite sign of a healthy relationship.

8. You forgive each other.

We all make mistakes, and the ability to forgive can turn a potentially toxic situation into a learning opportunity. “Admitting wrongdoing is a form of vulnerability, and vulnerability is an essential part of building a close relationship,” says Cindy Frantz, professor of psychology at Oberlin College. Instead of holding a grudge (I will never forget what you did in 2012!), let go and move forward.

9. You respect each other’s boundaries.

Instead of thinking of “me” time as selfishness, understand that healthy relationships respect (and even encourage) autonomy, giving each partner the space to breathe and be individuals. “Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy,” says Esther Perel, clinical psychologist, and expert on human relationships. “Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.”

10. You’re both willing to grow and change.

Much like relationship ruts, comfort zones are easy to fall into and get stuck. A sign of a healthy relationship is when couples understand that learning and evolving are essential components of their relationship journey together. Embracing personal growth and change—both individually and as a couple—ensures that one partner isn’t running far ahead while the other is left behind.

11. You share similar values.

While having different perspectives and opinions is natural in any relationship, sharing core values is essential to the success of a healthy long-term relationship. To navigate decisions big and small—from family planning to what’s for dinner and everything in between—coming to a consensus about what matters is fundamental to all successful relationships.

12. You appreciate the little things.

Whether making coffee in the morning or saying “I love you” more often, recognizing and appreciating small acts of kindness will keep the love tank full. “Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts,” says The Gottman Institute’s Dr. John Gottman.

13. You can always be yourself.

Putting your best self forward early in a relationship may mean smoothing out some of the rough patches of your character. But partners in lasting, loving relationships accept each other as is, flaws and all. “If you’re true to yourself, it is easier to act in ways that build intimacy in relationships, and that’s going to make your relationship more fulfilling,” says Amy Brunell, professor of psychology at Ohio State University. Embrace your weird and wonderful self—as well as your partner’s unique quirks!

14. You dream about the future together.

Setting future goals and plans and working toward fulfilling them in the future is a powerful, connecting exercise for couples and a sign of a healthy relationship. According to research conducted by Utah State University, dreaming together as a couple can provide extra meaning and bring depth, closeness, and connection between partners. Shared goals and aspirations create a sense of purpose and excitement for what’s to come.

15. You feel safe, loved, and supported.

Research shows people in healthy long-term relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely than those without them. In terms of life expectancy, living without strong, meaningful relationships is as unhealthy as smoking. Brené Brown, research professor at the University of Houston and author of Dare to Lead, explains, “A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all men, women, and children. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong.” Ultimately, a lasting relationship is a haven where you can be your true self and know you’re always loved unconditionally.

Sending your kids to camp is a decision filled with anticipation, excitement, and a touch of parental anxiety. As a camp owner and mom of two campers, I try to remind other parents about the fantastic choices they’ve made that will contribute to years of joy and lasting memories.

Here are seven summer camp tips to ease the process and ensure both you and your child have a positive experience.

1. You’ve made a great choice

Your decision to send your child to camp is not just commendable; it’s a testament to your understanding of the benefits that come with the camp experience. Embrace the fact that they might be stepping out of their comfort zone, and that’s entirely okay. Trust your decision, knowing that the discomfort will likely transform into valuable life lessons and cherished memories.

2. Share your calm, not your chaos

If you’re feeling distressed, remind yourself that you are the adult in the situation—with your calm leadership, you are setting your kids up for an experience that will lead to a lifetime of great camp memories. Remember that there’s nothing to worry about, and whenever you are stressed and frazzled, try to stay composed, as your kids can feel the same, too! By calming down and approaching camp with a relaxed nature, you are guiding your campers toward a much more successful experience.

3. Embrace the discomfort

Part of being human is being uncomfortable. That means that being human at camp will also come with being uncomfortable. Encourage your child to embrace discomfort as an integral part of their growth. It’s normal for them to feel a bit uneasy initially, but this discomfort will lead to personal development, resilience, and increased self-confidence.

Keep in mind that moments of discomfort are stepping stones to a more confident and adaptable child. These uneasy feelings might come from social situations that stretch their interpersonal skills, or they might be physical discomforts. When you attend a traditional camp like Tumbleweed Day Camp, campers are outside (a.k.a sometimes hot in the sun!), in nature (a.k.a there will definitely be bugs!), playing all day (a.k.a getting dirty and sweaty!), and sometimes this is an occurrence for weeks on end (a.k.a. they will be hungry and tired!). Being uncomfortable is okay—it’s not something that needs to be solved.

4. Building friendships takes time

In a world obsessed with instant everything, it’s easy to forget that building solid friendships takes time…even at camp. Avoid putting unnecessary pressure on your child by constantly asking about their friendships, favorite activities, or eagerness to return to camp.

Skip the 20 questions about their new BFFs and let the friendships brew naturally. Instead, relish the experience with them, allowing friendships to naturally unfold. You can do this by joining the fun, soaking in their experiences, and trusting that these friendships will be the cherry on top of your kiddo’s camp adventure. Trust that these bonds will strengthen over time, contributing to your child’s social development.

5. Starting camp is like starting other experiences

You know your camper. If they have a hard time with separation at school, they probably will at camp, too. Remind yourself that even though camp is an awesome, magical place, things are still pretty predictable. If your camper normally comes home after school and doesn’t say much about their day, expect that from camp as well.

At Tumbleweed, it’s really helpful to know about these things ahead of time. We encourage parents to give us a call if they are worried about challenges their campers are having and we can come up with a plan together.

6. Communication is key

Feeling uncertain or having questions about your child’s camp experience is completely normal. One way to set yourself up for success is to make sure you read through any information that the camp sends out and review their values and practices. At Tumbleweed, we know that parents who read our emails and call to chat before camp have a much better experience than those who stumble into camp on day one.

Also, keep in mind that you can always reach out to camp staff. Whether you have concerns, expectations, or simply need clarification on certain aspects, don’t hesitate to contact the camp director or relevant personnel. Remember to not wait until after the camp session or the summer to bring something up; it’s harder for camp staff to help solve your problem weeks or months after something occurred.

7. Let camp be a no-parent zone

Camp offers a unique environment for kids to explore, discover, and cultivate independence. Remind yourself that this is a no-parent zone, a space where your child can grow, have fun, and explore without your direct involvement. Resist the urge to overly monitor their experiences. Trust the camp staff, the structured activities, and the learning opportunities that come with a little autonomy.

And lastly, remember that you’ve got this! Sending your kids to camp is an incredible gift—a chance for them to create lifelong memories, forge meaningful connections, and develop essential life skills. By reminding yourself of these key points, you’ll not only ease the transition for your child but also allow them to fully embrace the enriching experience that camp has to offer.

Happy camping!

Ever wonder how your sign and your child’s zodiac sign stack up? Similar to those classic partner astrology compatibility charts, this one takes a look at how you and your progeny likely get on. This particular version is based on sun signs—how you see yourself, the person you are becoming, and your general personality. Of course, nurture has plenty to do with your bond, but the stars have their own way of aligning things. (P.S. If you’re curious how the next year is going to play out for you and your little one, dig a bit deeper into the toddler zodiac).

Note: Chart is read as Child X Parent

The Aries Child

Aries X Aries: Lots of feisty energy in this combo! You can embrace your inner child together, but it is very important to work through aggression and impulsiveness. Be the model for your little one.

Aries X Taurus: Your job is to keep your impulsive Aries kiddo on track. Aries have lots of passionate beginnings, but often burn out their energy before seeing things through. You are the perfect guide to teach them how to do so.

Aries X Gemini: It will always be important for you two to keep an open line of communication. You guys are a fun pair who love to socialize. You will always have lots of friends and events to go to, keeping you busy.

Aries X Cancer: You are here to nurture your Aries kid's inner child (we know how that sounds). Let them play and enjoy life. Don’t forget to get in on the action—they’ll love to have you in the pretend play mix.

Aries X Leo: Such a lively parent and child pair! You guys are the life of the party wherever you go. Your challenge will be managing both of your fiery personalities and learning to keep your cool.

Aries X Virgo: You have a little firecracker on your hands, Virgo! You can keep calm and cool in most situations, and it’s your job to help your impulsive Aries child learn to do the same.

Aries X Libra: Your Aries child will be your BFF. While they love to do things independently, your gentle guidance and peace-keeping ability will come in handy when they get hot-tempered.

Aries X Scorpio: Your Aries child is here to remind you of your inner child—you are still a kid at heart, after all! Enjoy these times with them as they won’t stay this little forever.

Aries X Sagittarius: The “dynamic duo” of the parent and child world. Sagittarius loves to learn and teach, and Aries is the eternal child, always seeking some loving guidance. No better person to share your wisdom with!

Aries X Capricorn: Your Aries kid may struggle to complete or stay focused on tasks. Good thing you are skilled at helping them see the bigger picture and encouraging them to not give up to get there.

Aries X Aquarius: Talk about two people who love their freedom! You both need room to explore and be yourselves. You will always have each other to do this with.

Aries X Pisces: This little firecracker kiddie will spark something in you, Pisces! Teach them to get in touch with their creative side and express themselves.

 

The Taurus Child

Taurus X Taurus: You will fully understand each other but just cannot be rushed. You two can experience life together through your senses: good food, sensory play, nature time and lots of creating art.

Taurus X Gemini: As quick as you are, Gemini, you cannot rush your Taurus little. You have to respect not only their time, but that they truly only want to do things once and do them right. While you like lots of options, they do not. You must learn to work with that.

Taurus X Cancer: A very loving and affectionate duo you two are. You know just how to comfort your Taurus little, something they seek a lot. You are truly their caretaker, and they love every minute of it.

Taurus X Leo: Your Taurus kid will always be teaching you how to take your time and be more grounded. You both enjoy the finer things in life—this will be your foodie BFF for life.

Taurus X Virgo: You are both practical, hard-working and down-to-earth. And you both prefer life to be easygoing and chill. Together you can take adventures to push you out of your comfort zones.

Taurus X Libra: Both of your ruling planets are Venus. You will find your Taurus kid loving all the pretty and shiny things, just like you. Together you will see the world through rose-colored glasses.

Taurus X Scorpio: While the Scorpio parent can be a bit intense, your Taurus little will teach you how to ground your emotions! But be careful, you can both be on the stubborn side. Don’t let it get the best of you.

Taurus X Sagittarius: Your Taurus kid is here to teach you some patience. You will learn they will do everything on their own time and you cannot rush them.

Taurus X Capricorn: You are here to teach your Taurus tot a bit about flexibility as they can be a bit reluctant to move! No better person than you, a sign who can move mountains.

Taurus X Aquarius: Your Taurus kid tends to stay in their comfort zone, but you, the Aquarius parent, like to push limits. Teaching them to try new things (safely) will always be your job.

Taurus X Pisces: Your Taurus kid is very practical, while you are a bit more dreamy. They are meant to show you grounding and stability, things that you probably crave.

Taurus X Aries: Opposites attract: As an Aries parent, you are really good at getting things started, and your Taurus kid has the endurance to help you see things through. Don’t rush your little one, though. We know how fast you can be, Aries.

 

The Gemini Child

Gemini X Gemini: THE ACTUAL TWINS! You two will be the social host and hostesses with the mostesses. It is important to work through indecisiveness together as well as nurture their sharp wit.

Gemini X Cancer: Your Gemini babe needs to be out and about socializing to thrive, while you are more of a homebody. Always remember to give them choices and let them have lots of fun. It’s okay if they don't want to be at home much—you need to get out, too.

Gemini X Leo: There might be a little bit of drama associated with this duo. Leo is so outstanding, and the Gemini kiddo loves to initiate the fun. You two will never have a dull moment.

Gemini X Virgo: Both signs are ruled by Mercury, meaning you will be one very busy pair! Nobody will ever question your abilities to get stuff done. You live by lists and schedules and always support each other in completing your to-dos.

Gemini X Libra: Talk about a fashionable parent and child pair. You two are always on point in the fashion department and tend to set the trends.

Gemini X Scorpio: Your Gemini kid is going to show you how to be a bit lighter, Scorpio. They have a fun, lighthearted air that will do you some good.

Gemini X Sagittarius: Together you two are meant to explore the world and learn through experience. Your Gemini kid will be your favorite person to go on trips with, meet new people and even try new foods with. You’ll cherish the memories.

Gemini X Capricorn: Your Gemini child will teach you how to communicate in so many ways! Their openness and intelligence will inspire you, and their wit will keep you on your toes.

Gemini X Aquarius: This parent/child combo are the networking masters. They can befriend anyone. Put them on a playground, and they’ll come back with a whole new group of BFFs.

Gemini X Pisces: You two have very different modes of communication. Your Gemini’s quick intelligence and gift of gab will seriously impress you and inspire you to find your inner voice.

Gemini X Aries: The social butterflies! You two will make lots of friends and wow any crowd. Communication will be the foundation of your relationship.

Gemini X Taurus: It will be your job to ground your flighty little Gemini and help them make decisions, as they often struggle with indecisiveness. Always offer them a set of options: Making that choice helps them feel more secure.

The Cancer Child

Cancer X Cancer: The emotions run high with this pair. You are both sensitive and intuitive. It is your task to teach your little—and yourself—not to be scared to face things head on rather than side-stepping through life like the Cancer crab.

Cancer X Leo: The Leo parent is tasked with nurturing their little Moonchild is a very big way. Your child will appreciate you showering them with both attention and affection.

Cancer X Virgo: The Virgo parent will always be the one who helps, and the Cancer kid loves the extra attention and guidance. While the Virgo parent will teach them how to analyze everything, the Cancer child will teach them to feel the feels.

Cancer X Libra: One of the sweetest and most loving duos. Libras nurture in their own very special way, and the Cancer kid eats that up. Libra is probably the best to guide them through all their emotions.

Cancer X Scorpio: You two ride emotional waves as water signs. You are both empathic and sensitive and can pick up on each other's moods nonverbally. You have a very special, almost psychic connection.

Cancer X Sagittarius: The Sag parent will have to teach the Cancer child that it’s safe to leave home and explore. The Cancer child will show the Sag parent that being home is necessary, too, and can even be fun.

Cancer X Capricorn: The Capricorn parent is tasked with balancing both their career and home life, as Cap is associated with work life. No better kiddo than the family-oriented Cancer kid to show you how to be the CEO Soccer Mom/Dad.

Cancer X Aquarius: Your Cancer kid is sweet, kind and emotional, and it will melt your heart, Aquarius. You will be singing the tune: “I never knew there was a love like this before”.

Cancer X Pisces: You are both on the more sensitive side and enjoy the comfort of your home. Create a home that is like your castle, so you will both always feel safe and secure.

Cancer X Aries: You have a sensitive and emotional little one on your hands. Family is of the utmost importance to them. With your noble spirit, you provide them that comfort and safety they so crave.

Cancer X Taurus: You two thrive at home. Lots of family time, honoring your inner nurturers and snuggling up together. There isn’t a sweeter pair.

Cancer X Gemini: While you might like to be the social butterfly, your Cancer little is a bit more of a homebody. You two can balance each other out and find harmony in this. Make sure you get your Moonchild out of the house and they will make sure you enjoy restorative time at home.

Related: 50 Baby Names Based on Astrology & the Solar System

The Leo Child

Leo X Leo: Another feisty and fiery pair! Together you two know how to bring the sass and the fun—you’re always a good time to be around.

Leo X Virgo: You two will always motivate and encourage each other to be your very best. You are each other's biggest fans.

Leo X Libra: You two are a pair that catches the eye no matter where you go. The Leo child will always shine bright, and the Libra parent is always so put-together. We see you.

Leo X Scorpio: This is a pair that knows how to bring the intensity! Scorpio is quite fiery for a water sign, so the emotions and dramatics can run a bit high. Be wary of mood swings and work on staying level-headed together.

Leo X Sagittarius: Your Leo will be your loving little lion cub, Sag. They will always respect and admire your wisdom and want to learn from you. They are the best little protege.

Leo X Capricorn: While the Capricorn parent may seem on the conservative or classic side, the Leo kid is going to break that chain with their sass and golden auras. They are something else, and you will love it.

Leo X Aquarius: You both exude bravery and confidence. You will be okay with your Leo little testing limits because you were once that person, too. You’ve got this, Aquarius.

Leo X Pisces: Having a child that isn't scared of the limelight is kind of inditimating to you, Pisces. You can learn a thing or two from their fearlessness. Let them show you how to be brave.

Leo X Aries: Talk about a passionate pair! Your Leo child will love the spotlight, especially with your encouraging nature. Just watch the dramatics—two fire signs can be quite extra.

Leo X Taurus: Oh Taurus, your little Leo is going to give you a run for your money. You just gotta love ‘em, though—they will always be bold, brave and outstanding. Always try to nurture their inner performer and they will thrive.

Leo X Gemini: Your little Leo wants alllll of your attention. It is important you take the time to stop the millions of things you do and give them some undivided time. They thrive when they know they have their parents all to themselves.

Leo X Cancer: Your Leo child is going to get you out of your shell. You can learn a thing or two from them by watching them own the spotlight.

 

The Virgo Child

Virgo X Virgo: You two appear to be quiet and reserved, but you're both just taking in your environment and other people. You are here to remind one another that perfection does not exist and to take it easy once in a while.

Virgo X Libra: Both the Libra parent and the Virgo kid thrive when their spaces are clean, uncluttered and harmonious. It suits you both to be on the minimal and organized side as chaos is neither of your jams.

Virgo X Scorpio: You both really love learning and have a laser focus. (I see lots of time spent watching documentaries and going to museums in your future.) Your Virgo’s ability to break down information to better understand it will truly impress you.

Virgo X Sagittarius: While your Virgo kid is excellent at mastering the details and breaking down everything to understand it, you can show them the bigger picture so they aren't so fussy. Teach them to be more easygoing, as they can be a little uptight.

Virgo X Capricorn: A more serious pair, you two are here to learn how to have some fun together! Life needs to have some play mixed in with all the work, after all. Learn to let go.

Virgo X Aquarius: Your Virgo kid's mind works quite differently than yours, Aquarius. Observe them, guide them and ask yourself what you can learn from them.

Virgo X Pisces: The Pisces brain is imaginative, while the Virgo brain is analytical. You are the best person to teach them to see beyond the facts, as well as not to beat themselves up over perfection.

Virgo X Aries: You two have a knack for getting stuff done. You really know how to take initiative and your little Virgo loves to take things apart, analyze and perfect. The last thing anyone would call you two is lazy.

Virgo X Taurus: You are a pair of two very grounded, down-to-earth Earth signs. Teach your little Virgo not to be so hard on themselves and remember not to set unattainable standards or goals for them—they really beat themselves up.

Virgo X Gemini: Two Mercurial planets aligned. While the Gemini parent is one busy bee, having a solid schedule is what will help your Virgo little thrive. Setting routines and sticking to them (yes, Gemini) will be best for you both.

Virgo X Cancer: While you are very into your feelings, your Virgo kid is more analytical. You feel; they think. You can each teach each other something about one another.

Virgo X Leo: You two are both ambitious go-getters. While the Leo parent is here to teach the Virgo child not to be so hard on themselves, the Virgo kid will actually teach the Leo parent all about minimalism and structure.

 

The Libra Child

Libra X Libra: The Libra parent and Libra child are another pair of besties. Libra thrives in partnerships, and there is no bond stronger than that of parent and child.

Libra X Scorpio: The Scorpio parent can be a little impatient, but your Libra child’s even and peaceful temperament will help you learn to be more mindful. They will show you how to handle things with grace.

Libra X Sagittarius: Your Libra tot loves to do everything with you. While a Sagittarius prides themself on their independence, having your Libra along for the ride brightens your world.

Libra X Capricorn: Your Libra kid is literally going to show you the beauty of life. Because of them, you will find yourself noticing every flower, sparkle, seashell and color that you were probably letting pass by before. Soak it in.

Libra X Aquarius: A pair that enjoys intelligent conversation and are equally as charming. That little Libra will win your heart and be the best baby date you’ll ever have!

Libra X Pisces: This pair is another undercover super combo! You are two of the kindest and most loving of the signs—you will just get along famously.

Libra X Aries: This combo of sister signs is like yin and yang. Where you will always be teaching your Libra independence, they will teach you the importance of relying on others, too. You two will always balance each other out.

Libra X Taurus: Two Venus-ruled signs with a love of beautiful things. Whether it’s fashion, art, interior design or jewelry. . . together you two will make this world a more aesthetically pleasing place.

Libra X Gemini: Your Libra little is your BFF, your road dog, the child who will care for you when you are sick and not put you in a home when you are old. You’ve got each other for life.

Libra X Cancer: Such an ideal pair! Libra kids love nothing more than being with their parents, and there is nothing more that a Cancer parent loves than being a parent.

Libra X Leo: Both of these signs have a certain love for love. Your Libra offspring will be very attached to you the more you shower them with love. And let’s face it, you both love the attention.

Libra X Virgo: Virgo, you are being tasked with encouraging your Libra little to be a bit more independent. Show them by example—let them know they can do hard things alone.

The Scorpio Child

Scorpio X Scorpio: Whenever we see the same sign, we know you are meant to be each other’s mirror: the good, the bad, the ups, the downs and all that comes with it. You will always be this to each other.

Scorpio X Sagittarius: You both share a deep love of learning. You are tasked with showing them how to lighten up and let go a little. These little ones are intense, but your optimism is contagious.

Scorpio X Capricorn: The Capricorn parent can be very calm, which is something your intense Scorpio child will need from you. Show them how to manage their emotions, leading by example with your cool, collected ways.

Scorpio X Aquarius: Aquarius and Scorpio are two who will fight to the death for a good cause. There is no better parent than Aquarius to teach a Scorpio kid humanitarianism at such a young age.

Scorpio X Pisces: The funny thing about this combo is you both need a lot of rest! You pick up on each other’s emotions very easily, so it is important to conserve (and restore) your energy.

Scorpio X Aries: Now this is a case of true opposites, but both sprinkled with sass. While Aries is bold and outgoing; Scorpio is much more secretive and introverted. Learning to respect each other’s way of being will be to your highest good.

Scorpio X Taurus: Where you are grounded and stable, your Scorpio little is a bit of a mystery to you. Teaching them trust is the biggest thing you can do for them. Embrace their love for learning and they will teach you in return.

Scorpio X Gemini: The intensity of a Scorpio little might be a bit much for you as such an easygoing Gem, but you guys are meant to be each other’s mirror. You will show them how to be lighthearted, and they will teach you to have some depth.

Scorpio X Cancer: While you are both quite empathic and emotional, you must nurture their deep little souls and show them what love truly is. You earn love with these littles.

Scorpio X Leo: You two will be each other’s greatest lessons. The Leo parent will help the Scorpio child to be more extroverted, and the Scorpio little can teach the Leo parent a few things about privacy and spending time alone.

Scorpio X Virgo: Nothing gets by either one of you! A kid will NOT put up with white lies or bribes, a Virgo parent can analyze anything you say to them. We wouldn’t mess with this team.

Scorpio X Libra: Fairness will always be very important to you both. Keep that in mind when parenting your Scorpio kid, who might have a tendency to be a bit extreme.

 

The Sagittarius Child

Sagittarius X Sagittarius: You and your little Sag will want to have the spotlight so get ready to share. Teach them the wisdom of your years and get re-invigorated with their zest for life. 

Sagittarius X Capricorn: You have a fun-loving and joyful little kiddo on your hands, though they can sometimes be a wild one. Where they are spirited, you are peaceful. Where they are extra, you are grounded. No better parent to teach them boundaries in these situations.

Sagittarius X Aquarius: You two are so similar yet so different. Your Sagittarius little will teach you how to enjoy life a bit more and not take everything so seriously.

Sagittarius X Pisces: The ideas are just endless with the Pisces parent and Sag child. Your Sag kid's ability to focus on the big picture will inspire your imagination. No limit to what you can create together.

Sagittarius X Aries: While both are fire signs, Sagittarius has that free spirit streak that might make a controlling Aries a little crazy. Encourage them to be who they are and let them be free.

Sagittarius X Taurus: Your little Sag is probably always on the go. They want to explore and, in the future, travel. While you are more of a homebody, it is important they always get to spread their wings with a loving home to return to.

Sagittarius X Gemini: Another profound set of sister signs. Together you will explore the world, learn about different cultures, be fearless in trying new things and grow through experience. You have a beautiful journey ahead.

Sagittarius X Cancer: While your Sag kid is the happiest baby on the block, they might not be as affectionate as you are. Doesn’t mean they don’t love you. They just need to be free to express their love in their own way.

Sagittarius X Leo: Meet your match, Leo! Your Sag kid will out-spunk you, outwit you and out-drama you. But you’ll have the best time together, as they are a tough kid to stay mad at.

Sagittarius X Virgo: Your Sagittarius little one will teach you to see the bigger picture, while it will always be your job to teach them to slow down and not overlook the details.

Sagittarius X Libra: You two are both such good-natured souls. Libra, you like to operate in a pair or partnership, while your Sag kiddo is quite independent. You have to give them that space they need to grow.

Sagittarius X Scorpio: You are the pair who is ready for an adventure. Your Sagittarius tot will happily lead you places you always wanted to go, but now you get to share these magical experiences through their joyous hearts.

Related: Your Parenting Horoscope for 2023

The Capricorn Child

Capricorn X Capricorn: A sure set of old souls who found each other. You will always be your Capricorn child's teacher, and they, the consummate overachievers—yep, even as little ones. They will continue to make you proud as they grow.

Capricorn X Aquarius: This duo will be each other’s greatest lesson. Your Capricorn child will teach you hard work and discipline and you will teach them how to let go and have fun.

Capricorn X Pisces: It might surprise you to have a child who seems like a little adult. Encourage them to play and be a kid through creative activities.

Capricorn X Aries: Strong-willed is the theme for you both. You’re hard workers and goal-oriented individuals—together you can take over the world.

Capricorn X Taurus: You are both extremely hard-working, so it’s important you remember to play and enjoy life. You share similar qualities of patience, calmness and loyalty. This babe will be your best friend for life.

Capricorn X Gemini: You are here to help your little old soul Cappy be less serious and somber and to have some fun. In return, they will teach you how to focus on your goals, see the bigger picture and be a bit less flaky.

Capricorn X Cancer: You are here to love on these little old souls. While they teach you the importance of hard work, you teach them how to love and nurture.

Capricorn X Leo: The Leo parent loves their role as the leader of the pack, and their Capricorn child is the perfect little cub. They appreciate a parent that will always protect and guide them.

Capricorn X Virgo: This is a pair that has success written all over them. Your Capricorn little is always the first to reach their milestones, and you couldn’t be prouder.

Capricorn X Libra: These two signs may seem quite different, but you’re both Cardinal signs, which means you are the pioneers. You’re the first to get things started and spark ideas. You are both natural-born leaders, and others will always turn to you.

Capricorn X Scorpio: The two old souls of the Zodiac! It must feel like you’ve known each other for lifetimes, and you probably do. You two are one of the most unlikely peas in a pod, but that you are.

Capricorn X Sagittarius: You two are another ambitious and motivated duo. No one can stop you guys from achieving your dreams. You both think big, but your Capricorn kid will help you keep things a little more realistic.

 

The Aquarius Child

Aquarius X Aquarius: A double Aquarius, you are meant to be innovative leaders. Together you will show the world a better way and to be more open-minded and kindhearted.

Aquarius X Pisces: Your Aquarius kid is a love, but it probably amazes you they aren't as emotional as you are. Aquarius are known to have a good grip on this. Perhaps they are here to teach you the same.

Aquarius X Aries: The Aquarius child is truly an individual. They have a secret superpower of staying calm in the tensest of situations, and this will come in handy with the passionate and impulsive Aries parent.

Aquarius X Taurus: Your Aquarius kid loves freedom—and loves to test you. Stay cool, Taurus. They do it because they love you. Patience is a virtue, especially in this duo.

Aquarius X Gemini: “Let’s get weird” should be this pairing's motto. The weirder, the better and certainly, the more fun. Embrace the odd and silly side of life together. You’ll have way more fun than conforming to the norm.

Aquarius X Cancer: Cancer parents, you have to love having an unconventional kiddo. You want to love all over them, but they just want to do their thing. Give them space—they’ll still always need your support.

Aquarius X Leo: A pair of rebels! You both love doing your own thing and not being told what to do. You two show the world it’s okay to march to the beat of your own drum.

Aquarius X Virgo: Your Aquarius kid is here to shake up your routine. While the Virgo parent likes schedules and order, the Aquarius child learns differently. Let them do their own thing.

Aquarius X Libra: The Libra parent is tasked with teaching the freedom-seeking Aquarius child some boundaries. It may seem the Aquarius little is fearless; encourage them to be brave while being cautious.

Aquarius X Scorpio: The Scorpio parent and Aquarius kid weren’t born to fit in. They were born to break molds and shock everyone. You are both humanitarians at heart, and we can’t wait to watch you make waves.

Aquarius X Sagittarius: Meet your mini-me, Sagittarius. Your Aquarius kid will walk your walk and talk your talk! It will always be a trip to see how much they remind you of yourself.

Aquarius X Capricorn: Your Aquarius kid may be quite the rebel. Where you relish control and order, they love to have their freedom. You two will always be figuring out this balance.

 

The Pisces Child

Pisces X Pisces: We can only imagine the creativity coming out of this Pisces/Pisces pair. You two inspire others and are the muses of this world.

Pisces X Aries: Encourage your dreamy Pisces babe through their creative streak. Show them to have courage and always stand tall. They will always lean on you for this kind of support.

Pisces X Taurus: What a creative pair you two are. It will be your job to help your emotional Pisces babe get a handle on those feelings and express them through art, music and other creative outlets.

Pisces X Gemini: Together you two will need to discover grounding. You’re both big dreamers, but you often drift from reality. Learn to use your imaginations but also come back to the real world.

Pisces X Cancer: You are the perfect parent to nurture the emotional needs of the Pisces little one. They crave your love, caring and attention. Lots of hugs and snuggles with this duo.

Pisces X Leo: You two share common ground in needing to express yourself through your creative side. Encourage your Pisces kid to explore the arts and watch them flourish.

Pisces X Virgo: You two are here to balance each other out. A Pisces kid will teach the structured, analytical Virgo parent how to go with the flow and be more creative.

Pisces X Libra: You will always be your Pisces kid’s safe space because you provide fairness and harmony in every environment. Pisces kiddos need lots of security and reassurance, and you are the perfect parent for that.

Pisces X Scorpio: Your Pisces little one is certainly a sweetheart. They will warm your heart with their loving and tender ways. You’ll be butter to their charm.

Pisces X Sagittarius: Your Pisces child will teach you how to express your creative side. While they may seem more geared toward the arts and you toward wisdom, you still love to learn, especially from them.

Pisces X Capricorn: You two may seem like the odd couple—the business-orientated Capricorn parent and the dreamy, imaginative Pisces child. But you are each here to teach the other your ways.

Pisces X Aquarius: A Pisces child views the world through rose-colored glasses, while the Aquarius parent is a bit more of a realist. They will teach you to use your imagination more than ever before.

All illustrations via Shutterstock

 

In the midst of all the carpools and soccer practices and dance lessons and schoolwork and the constant swirl of activity with busy families, there are words. Conversations. Discussions. And lots and lots of opportunities for you to encourage and motivate your potential entrepreneur, budding CEO, or just all-around smart girl.

It can be easy to let the days slide on by without being intentional in our communication with our kids. But when you have a moment to slow down and focus, here are eight different ways you can tell your daughter how amazing she is, instill a measure of self-confidence, and cheer her on to become the best possible version of herself.

Catch her doing something good.

As parents, it’s natural to spend a lot of time correcting our kids or pointing out mistakes. Flip the switch and look for something positive.

“I really appreciate that you put the dishes in the dishwasher after school, and not just the sink.”

“Thanks for helping your brother with that math problem.”

“You only slept in five minutes past your alarm! Great job.”

Positive affirmation is contagious; she may start doing the same with you!

Point out something positive in a negative situation.

Failure is part of life, especially for people like pioneers or entrepreneurs who are stepping out on limbs, taking risks and forging new paths. If you want a daughter who’s not afraid to fail, begin now to assuage that fear by helping her see the upside of something that was less than successful.

“Well, we didn’t sell much lemonade, but your idea to sell those chewy brownies was brilliant. The one customer we did have needed two more cups of lemonade to wash it down!”

When children feel good about themselves and know that you’re okay with trying and failing (and, in fact, encourage it versus not trying new things at all), they’re more willing to persevere and take new risks.

“What are your roses, thorns, and buds today?”

At dinnertime or before bed, ask your daughter about one of her day’s successes (a rose), one problem or mistake (a thorn), and one thing she is looking forward to tomorrow (bud). You can share yours, too. It’ll help her see that there are peaks and valleys throughout life, and success isn’t about avoiding the downturns; it’s about how you handle them, bounce back, and move forward.

Show her the big picture.

If she wonders why she needs to take math even though she wants to write children’s books someday, or she complains about gym class and says she’s not a “natural athlete,” talk about why math skills and fitness are important in life, no matter what career path she chooses.

Sometimes kids can be a little myopic in their view of the world, but you can help encourage your daughter to see the bigger picture when you help her think outside her limited scope of vision. Sometimes the answer to “Why do I have to take this class?!” is simply, “in order to learn how to learn. Learning new things is something you’ll do for the rest of your life, and every single class you take can help you become a better learner.”

“What’s your plan?”

Ask her about how she plans on solving problems on her own. (The problems she’s capable of handling independently, anyway.)

“Mom, my soccer jersey is dirty, and I have a game tomorrow!” Instead of rifling through her hamper yourself, maybe answer, “That seems like something you’ll need to take care of in the next 12 to 24 hours then. What’s your plan?” Or, let’s say she’s promised the neighbors she’ll babysit for them on Saturday, but now she wants to back out because she got invited to a birthday party. “Hmm. How do you think it would be best to handle that?”

Problem-solving is an important and valuable skill for anyone, let alone a successful entrepreneur.

Help her identify her passions.

She might not know yet what it is that gets her pumped up or makes her heart beat fast (which is normal, of course), so helping her identify those things could be very helpful and supportive. “Hey, I noticed that you got a little choked up when we watched that video about the rescue dog. What would you think about volunteering at the Human Society once a month?” Or, “I love that you like to help me with dinner! Maybe we should take a cooking class together?”

“I’m proud of you.”

It’s one thing to praise or celebrate her accomplishments, but what about her character?

“You’re such a loyal friend, I’m so proud of how supportive and encouraging you are.”

“When you hugged your sister after her bad day at school yesterday, I was so proud of you. You have a big, compassionate heart.”

Most of us—kids especially—indulge in too much negative self-talk. When you tell your kids what’s great about them, you interrupt that internal negative loop and help build their self-confidence.

“I believe in you.”

Think about it for a second: Who was the last person who said that to you? A parent, your spouse, maybe a mentor? Those are four powerful words that probably aren’t spoken enough, and if you’ve ever heard them, they likely lifted your spirits, ignited a fire, re-fueled a waning determination, or simply gave you the chutzpah you needed to tackle a project or face an intimidating challenge.

Whether your daughter is risk-averse or a little daredevil, whether she’s innovative or prefers the status quo, whether she’s ready to take on the world or needs a nudge out of her comfort zone—she needs to hear this from you.

This post originally appeared on The Startup Squad.

I've always built businesses, from a childhood gummy bear business to adult gigs at IMAX and Coupons.com. I founded The Startup Squad to help girls reach their potential and my book series, The Startup Squad, is published by Macmillan. I live in Silicon Valley with my wife and two daughters.

I’m a professional ride-share driver. OK, not really—I just have the joy of whisking teenage daughters from one obligation or function to another like an unpaid cabbie. It’s the reality everyone warned me would happen.

Spoiler alert: They were right. Here’s the thing, though: It’s not all bad. It’s just very strange.

Again, I expected this experience of playing a taxi driver. But what I couldn’t prepare for was the unexpected upshot—time. With both of my girls involved in more activities at school and with friends, I’ve had more time to fill than ever before. And before you assume that I must be kicking my heels up for happiness, I must admit that undergoing this micro version of “empty nesting” has been unusually challenging.

I Found Myself with Too Much Time on My Hands

What’s so challenging about having broad chunks of time? They’re hard to fill, at least at first. For one thing, your parent friends with younger kids can’t get together on the weekends. They’re still knee-deep in full-time obligations. See, when you have little kids, you adjust to having no spare time. You barely have privacy, including in the bathroom. Then one day, your children graduate into adolescence, and you find yourself taking a backseat to Snapchat videos, a favorite song (that you can’t stand), and best friends.

As your kids retreat into their own lives, you’re confronted with returning to your own.

Suddenly, you don’t know yourself anymore, and you don’t know how you got to this new place. It occurs to you that your kids will likely leave in a few years for college. However, they need more than a modicum of independence right away. And when you allow them to have independence, you inevitably get time in exchange. It’s a peculiar trade-off.

Little by little, I’ve come to a realization faced by all parents: To my kids, I’m not that important anymore. Obviously, they haven’t read the Harvard University research indicating that adolescents do better academically, socially, and emotionally when their moms and dads stay involved as parents. This is why I continue to pay attention—even though they want me to be seen and not heard.

Making Use of the Time You’re Given

Ultimately, I’ve come to see my extra time as an opportunity for me to make changes that will be good for me and my children. It’s also a chance for reflection. As part of that reflection, I have advice if you’re in the same boat (or boarding it soon) and want to feel productive and fulfilled in your newfound free time:

1. Refuse some of the free time you’re being offered.
Your children think they don’t need you—but they do! Rather than allowing them to do what they want and scroll through TikTok all day, hold on to the reins a little longer. For instance, insist that you have at least one meal together each day. In our busy household, that can mean anything from eating breakfast as a family or setting aside time for a late dinner so we can reconnect. Even though your kids might act like this is a pain, they’ll benefit from the extra time to commune as a family.

2. Expect your newfound time to come in chunks.
Sometimes, your free time won’t feel so free. Case in point: When one of my children has to be at an event for a few hours, I don’t always have time to run back home after dropping them off. I have to make sure to plan ahead so I can make effective use of that interim time. I might run errands. I might exercise. I might listen to podcasts (Brené Brown is a favorite). The key is having options. If you’re a voracious reader, keep a couple of books in your car. You can grab one and catch up on self-education or even entertainment. Otherwise, you’ll remain bored and feel like you’re losing your “me” time.

3. Try something you never made time for before.
Pickleball: The mere thought of it used to send my nonsporty mind spinning. Yet I’ve taken it up and actually like it. Now, I’m in a league and pick up games with people outside the league. I’ll never become a pickleball champion, but taking up the sport has opened me up to a social realm I never knew before.

My older teenage daughter is mortified, but I bought an extra racket in case she decides to join me. (She plays a little tennis, so you never know what the future might hold.) The point is that you have no excuses for not stretching outside your comfort zone. Do something new, no matter what it is.

4. Add more individual ‘us’ time with your kids.
Let’s say you have one older and one younger child. Take some of the time you no longer spend with your older child and focus on the younger one. Maybe you take a walk together or just go shopping for school supplies. You never know what subjects of conversation might arise. After all, some deep talks spring from mundane, everyday discussions. Be open to listening and learning. Oh, and make excuses to be around your older child, too. My high schooler is driving and frequently surprises me by bringing up weighty topics when we’re on the open road. Keep some of your free time unoccupied so that you can be present when it matters.

Your kids need to fly. They need to fail. And they need to hand back all the time they used to take up in your week. It’s up to you to figure out the best way to get back to “play” after years spent hitting the pause button. Don’t fret, though. In no time, you’ll be complaining again that you have, well, no time.

Alison Gutterman is the president and CEO of Jelmar, the family-owned cleaning products manufacturer of CLR and Tarn-X products. She began her career at Jelmar in 1993 without a title or a desk, and she was named president in 2007. She balances work with parenthood as a single mother of two children.

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The Super Mario Bros. Movie isn’t the only film on the 2023 Illumination roster. The animation studio’s next action-packed comedy is about a family of ducks, coming this holiday season.

If you’ve watched Despicable Me on loop, gotten swept up in the Minion madness alongside your tots, jammed along to the Sing soundtrack (in the car…alone), and semi-successfully dodged, what felt like, never-ending requests for a puppy after The Secret Life of Pets, then you’re an Illumination household.

And if you thought this powerhouse was going to lay low after the smashing success of their recent The Super Mario Bros. Movie, think again. The trailer for their new family feature film, Migration, just dropped, and let’s just say, we’re in for a full flight of roaring laughs, wholesome feels and stunning animation that’ll fill our hearts with wanderlust this holiday season.

Parents, get excited. We’re seeing another blockbuster hit on the horizon.

Everything We Know About the Migration Plot So Far

Our first impression is relief and joy that we’re still getting what we’ve come to expect and love from Illumination: jokes that moms and dads will enjoy, relatable characters (that may even make us question our own behavior), and an entertaining storyline that’s packed with valuable lessons—which stray from the signature patriarchal plot of a damsel in distress we grew up seeing as kids ourselves.

Migration follows the Mallards, a family of ducks who are eager to take flight and explore new horizons. There’s only thing in the way of mom Pam, teenage son Dax and duckling daughter Gwen from seeing the whole wide world: their overprotective father Mack.

For Mack, nothing could be better and safer than his flock paddling around their New England pond forever (helicopter parent vibes, am I right?). But once Pam catches wind that a local duck family traveled to far-flung places and had an epic journey, FOMO sets in. She convinces Mack into going on a family vacation they’ll never forget, like moms do so effortlessly.

From their New England home to New York City and then down south to tropical Jamaica, the Mallards experience all that comes with your typical family roadtrip, including mapped-out plans quickly going sideways, stepping out of your comfort zone, good ol’ family bonding, meeting new friends, and everything else in between.

Migration is Voiced by Actors You Know & Adore

Think you recognized anyone in the trailer?

The film is led by Oscar® and Emmy nominee Kumail Nanjiani (The Big Sick, Eternals) as the Mallards’ worry-wort dad Mack and Emmy nominee Elizabeth Banks (Hunger Games and Pitch Perfect franchises) as Pam, the bold and sharp matriarch.

Iconic Danny DeVito, the voice behind legendary animated characters that have defined most millennials’ childhoods, co-stars as Mack’s grumpy, unimpressed Uncle Dan. Don’t we all have one of those?

There’s no guesswork needed to pinpoint Awkwafina, whose recognizably deep, raspy octave is behind the scrappy leader of a New York City pigeon gang. The remaining cast includes the talent of Keegan-Michael Key who plays a homesick Jamaican parrot locked up in a Manhattan restaurant, and David Mitchell (Peep Show) as the yogic leader of a mysterious duck farm.

The Impressive Team Behind Migration

The White Lotus fans—and those of us who wanted to join a rock band after School of Rock—will be pleased to discover that Migration’s screenplay is written by renowned screenwriter Mike White. If that wasn’t enough to win us over, the film is also directed by Benjamin Renner who recently received an Oscar nomination for directing the critically-acclaimed French animated features Ernest & Celestine and The Big Bad Fox and Other Tales.

Illumination founder and CEO Chris Meledandri rounds out the team as the movie’s producer, well-known for his creative role in the studio’s smash hits.

Mark your calendars now for a movie-going family date night when Migration hits theaters on December 22, 2023. Until then, we’ll join our kids in constantly chanting Peaches, Peaches, Peaches, Peaches, Peaches.

 

1. You don’t have to talk big to be cool.

Guys seem to have a dynamic of competition that is fun and playful but can lead to “big talk” or making yourself look and sound bigger than you are really are. Whether in sports, academics, girlfriends, stuff you have or stuff you can do, boys have no problem sharing all their amazing qualities with one another. This is awesome! Except that those qualities can sometimes be exaggerated and blown out of proportion.

Trust that you are an amazing kid without needing to promote yourself or exaggerate a single thing. People can see who you are without you having to tell them. Be yourself and you won’t need to talk yourself up.

2. Playing sports is not the most important thing in the world.

There is huge excitement and a rush that comes with watching someone who is great at a sport and everyone loves to be connected to a winning team. But sometimes the sports culture and our obsession with it can lead us to think sports are more important than everything else. It also creates the idea that kids who don’t play sports are second class citizens.

Your job as an awesome human being is to see everyone for their character above their performance. A lot of kids will be liked for what they do in a sport, not how they actually treat people. Avoid the trap of this particular type of group-think. And, if you are one of the athletes, be kinder and more inclusive of others because of it. Not the other way around.

3. You are in charge of your body—your body is not in charge of you.

You have a strong mind and a strong body. You are in charge of it, no one else. It is special to me and I hope it is special to you. It doesn’t matter what others are doing with their bodies, you decide what you’re comfortable with.

You may feel sometimes as if your body is the leader of your actions, but your brain is what drives your body. Always. You will have some pretty lit (as you kids say these days) relationships when you are older and wiser and you will experience everything in time. Don’t rush.

4. Your emotions are just as important as your grades, sports, friends or activities—actually, even more so!

Historically, boys and men have been taught to ignore their emotions, but trust that you have just as many feelings as every other human being (about 27 basic ones and even more complex ones!). Limiting your emotions or choosing to ignore them, limits your existence and your incredible awe-filled life experiences!

So, no matter how uncomfortable, embarrassing or difficult it may be at times, listen to yourself, pay attention to how you feel and learn talk about your emotions with the people you trust (i.e. your mom). They make you who you are and you are amazing.

5. Blame me for anything.

There will be times that you are faced with difficult decisions. When all your friends are doing something that you know is not okay, when your conscience is tugging at your, but your brain is confused because something sounds fun or you’re curious or you don’t want your friends to be mad at you for not joining in.

When you know you should say no, but that doesn’t seem like enough, when the pressure is there, blame me. Tell your friends your mom turns crazy and will ground you for life. Tell them I have superhuman powers and will find out everything so you just can’t do it. Of course, I trust you to make good decisions, but when you need an excuse, blame me.

6. I expect you to make mistakes and yes, even fail at a few things, too.

If you don’t know this by now, I will tell you again; it’s okay to make mistakes. In fact, I want you to, because that means you are trying new things and pushing yourself outside your comfort zone. This is the only way to actually grow as a human being and to find out all your incredible strengths.

How you handle failure is one of the best things to know about yourself, because there is little in this world more difficult than failure. It does not denote an end, but only a hurdle over which one must learn a new way to leap. And I know you are a great problem solver.

7. I am so proud of you.

Already I can see inside of you a huge heart and a strong mind. I can see your generous spirit and caring soul that looks out for the underdog. I love your cool hairdos and your insistence on needing to come to your own decisions on your own time, in your own way. You have a depth of character, persistence and a profound desire for the truth. You already know yourself well.

Trust yourself, love yourself. You have everything inside of you that you will ever need. And know that I am here, always, loving and trusting you, shining a light on you as you grow, stretch and run wildly and beautifully through life. I am so proud of you.

 

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Krissy Dieruf is a licensed marriage and family therapist. She lives in Minnesota with her husband and three children, loves to sing and dance around the house and has a soft spot for rebels and crazy hair. 

We’ll be supporting these AAPI & Asian-Owned brands all year!

May is AAPI Heritage Month! It’s a time when, according to asianpacificheritage.gov, “The Library of Congress, National Archives and Records Administration, National Endowment for the Humanities, National Gallery of Art, National Park Service, Smithsonian Institution and United States Holocaust Memorial Museum join in paying tribute to the generations of Asian and Pacific Islanders who have enriched America’s history and are instrumental in its future success.”

We’re celebrating by showcasing some of the best brands in the world that are owned and run by Asian American and Pacific Islander entrepreneurs. These brand represent the creativity and innovation of the community, and supporting them is a great way to honor this month of learning. Afterall, it means putting money directly into the hands of business owners. While we believe it’s extremely important to learn and educate ourselves this month (and throughout the year), supporting AAPI and Asian-owned brands is a tangible way to make a difference. From fashion to food, beauty to tech, we’ve got a little something for everyone on this list. Get ready to discover some amazing AAPI and Asian-owned brands that you’ll love just as much as we do!

Fly By Jing

Fly by Jing

Fly By Jing was founded in 2018 by Jing Gao, who creates products honoring the flavors of her hometown of Chengdu, China. She's drawn fans like Cate Blanchett and  Emma Chamberlain with a range of tingly, spicy, and savory goodies! Fly By Jing—Shop Here!

Maison Miru

Maison Miru

Creator of the viral Nap Earrings (flat-back earrings you can wear all the time!), Maison Miru creates size-inclusive jewelry is waterproof, sweatproof, and life-proof so you can wear it 24/7, transforming your look for whatever you’re doing. Also, for the month of May, Maison Miru has launched two limited-edition items (Heart of Dinner System Kit and Heart of Dinner Memory Palace Bracelet) in collaboration with and in support of Heart of Dinner, a nonprofit organization providing hot meals for the most vulnerable Asian elderly community around Manhattan's Chinatown area. Maison Miru—Shop Here!

Material Kitchen

Material Kitchen

Material Kitchen's co-founder and CEO Eunice Byun has created a line of kitchenware that blends sustainable sources with gorgeous design that's meant for everyday use. Material Kitchen—Shop Here!

IMMI

IMMI

Kevin Chan and Kevin Lee (known as KChan and KLee, or "The Kevins") grew up first-generation immigrants working alongside their families in the farms and markets of Thailand and Taiwan. Having similar childhood experiences, The Kevins came together to create the first low-carb, high-protein, plant-based instant ramen made with good-for-you ingredients without sacrificing flavor! IMMI—Shop Here!

Brightland

Brightland

Embracing sustainability and traceability, Brightland founder and CEO Aishwarya Iyer had a vision of creating fresh and pure pantry essentials. Brightland's olive oils, vinegars, and raw honey are produced on small family farms in the U.S! (As featured in Oprah's Favorite Things!) Brightland—Shop Here! 

Jason Wu Beauty

"I think Jason Wu Beauty is about revealing your inner icon—your inner beauty. I think there is a lot of heavy makeup on the marketplace right now, and our approach is kind of the opposite of that. It’s about a light hand. It’s about really showing yourself through the beauty products, not being covered up by them.”—Jason Wu for Harper's Bazaar Jason Wu Beauty—Shop Here!

Honua Skincare

Honua Skincare

Another fabulous brand straight from Hawaii, Honua Skincare was created by O'ahu native Kapua Browning, who uses the line to share her passion for Hawaiian culture, botanicals, and aesthetics. Honua Skincare—Shop Here!

Selfmade

Selfmade

Stephanie Lee set out to create a collection that focuses on "scientifically proven, therapeutic ingredients and allows our community to create transformational habits that support both their physical and emotional well-being." Selfmade—Shop Now!

Sanzo

Sanzo

Founder Sandro Roco was inspired by the recent rise of amazing blockbuster films directed by or starring AAPI and/or Asian people, the popularity of Korean pop music, and the influence of Asian pop culture around the globe. Sandro combines classic Asian flavors and a modern label to bring you Sanzo Sparkling Water! Sanzo—Shop Here!

Avya

Avya

Discover how great your skin can look with AAPI and women-owned skincare brand Avya! Formulated without yucky stuff and made to nourish and plump your skin. Avya—Shop Here!

Gunas New York

Gunas

Animal lover Sugandh G. Agrawal started Gunas New York in 2009 with the ultimate goal of creating amazing pieces that are vegan and cruelty-free! Gunas New York—Shop Here!

Kwohtations

Kwohtations

Letterpress-printed greeting cards and stationery designed by Janine Kwoh from Brooklyn, NY, Kwohtations is designed with diversity and inclusion in mind. Plus all the designs are adorable! Kwohtations—Shop Here!

My goal is to create products that encourage us to embrace the diversity, complexity, and kinship in our lived experiences. My hope is always that others will recognize some of themselves in what I create and feel a bit more seen, more connected, and less alone. —Janie Kwoh

LittleHippo

LittleHippo

The Mella Sleep Trainer, Alarm Clock, and Nightlight uses expressions and colors to teach toddlers when it's time to stay in bed! AAPI and women-owned brand "on a mission to create beautiful, modern children's products, minus the sky-high prices". LittleHippo—Shop Here!

Musely

Musely

You've probably seen Musely treatments on your social media, and there's a great reason why. Musely's board of a dozen top dermatologists have designed prescription skincare, haircare, and other treatments that are so effective, you have to check out all the before and after pictures from real patients. By delivering freshly compounded formulas that are uniquely catered to you and your concerns that’s delivered straight to your door in 2-4 business days, eliminating doctor visits, expensive prescription costs, expired prescriptions, & more, Musely is truly customized treatment. Musely—Get Started Here!

Country Archer Provisions

Country Archer Provisions

From meat sticks in mouthwatering flavors including Jalapeno Beef, or turkey and grass-fed beef jerky such as Sweet Chipotle Turkey or the new Zero Sugar Beef Jerky line in three delicious flavors—Classic, Spicy Sesame Garlic and Mustard BBQ—you’re sure to find a flavor from Country Archer Provisions that your taste buds will love. Country Archer Provisions—Shop Here!

Sundāri

Sundāri

Sundāri is a skincare brand based on yoga and wellness principles for a whole body experience. They're also a favorite of day spa pros! Sundāri—Shop Here!

Multitasky

Multitasky

Julia Xu started Multitasky with the idea that office supplies and gadgets should be functional and fun. From desk goodies to tech and travel supplies, Multitasky has such cute offerings! Multitasky—Shop Here!

Kreya

Kreya

Kreya is a South Asian, Woman, and Sikh owned business creating solutions to bulky totes and bags. Each of their bags functions as two—a tote/backpack and a crossbody/shoulder bag! Kreya—Shop Here!

Arrae

Arrae

Arrae creates 100% natural supplements with real results and zero "woo". With accurate dosing, Arrae’s alchemy capsules solve everyday problems that women constantly deal with. You know what we mean - bloat, anxiety, etc. This is the wellness product for the millennial woman, who has a lot on her plate but doesn’t want to compromise on how she feels. Arrae—Shop Here!

Kite Beauty

Kite Beauty

Kite offers on-the-go glowy concealer in a convenient business card-like package! That way, you can touch up anywhere and everywhere. Kite Beauty—Shop Here!

Cabinet Health

Cabinet Health

Co-founded by Chinese-American Russell Gong and Indian-American Achal Patel, Cabinet Health is a sustainable healthcare company that invented the world’s first refillable and compostable medicine system to offer an impactful solution to the 190B single-use plastic medicine bottles produced in the medicine industry every year! Plus they're oh-so-cute. Cabinet Health—Shop Here!

Cardon Skincare

Cardon

While Cardon's products aren't only for men, they're designed with men in mind! They feature multitasking power products that make it fast and easy for him to take care of his skin. Plus, their sleek packaging looks great on the vanity. Cardon Skincare—Shop Here!

Common Heir

Common Heir

Common Heir is plastic-free skincare that'll transform your skin with sustainable packaging and ingredients! Common Heir—Shop Here!

Le Mini Macaron

Le Mini Macaron

Salon manis at home?  Our dreams have come true! Le Mini Macaron is affordable and comes with a ton of color options. Le Mini Macaron—Shop Here!

Mila

Mila

MiLa brings restaurant-quality Chinese food (think dumplings, noodles, sauces, and even ice cream) right to your house (no greasy takeout containers included!). MiLa—Shop Here!

AMYO

AMYO

New York based, female founded and operated jewelry line that aims to be evergreen and affordable.  Their rings, earrings, necklaces, bracelets, and anklets are all under $300 and made from Vermeil, 14K Gold and Sterling Silver! AMYO—Shop Here!

Gimme Seaweed

Gimme Seaweed

Gimme Seaweed organic, non-GMO snacks are light, crunchy, and easy to add to any of your favorite recipes or just eat on their own! Plus, kiddos love them. Gimme Seaweed—Shop Here!

Redmint

Redmint

Redmint is focused on building the connection between skin and internal health to build the ultimate self-care rituals. The whole collection is grounded in three core TCM modalities: Yin for nourishing, Qi for uplifting and Yang for regenerating. All products are clean and made in California, filled with antioxidants, vitamins, and fatty acids to produce lasting results that improve over time. Redmint—Shop Here!

Laoban Dumplings

Laoban Dumplings

Laoban Dumplings are flavor-forward, chef-driven dumplings made from scratch using all-natural, premium ingredients! Laoban Dumplings—Shop Here!

Fotile Kitchen Appliances

Fotile

Ranked among Top 500 Asian brands for five consecutive years, Fotile offers a selection of range hoods, in-sink dishwashers, air-fryers/steam ovens, cooktops and more! Fotile Kitchen Appliances—Shop Here!

Partake Foods

Partake Foods

All Partake products are certified gluten-free, non-GMO, vegan, and are free of the top 9 allergens (wheat, tree nuts, peanuts, milk, eggs, soy, fish, sesame, and shellfish). And they're so, so good, too! Parake Foods—Shop Here!

Free AF Mocktails

Free AF

Each Free AF drink is powered by Afterglow, a 100% natural botanical extract that mimics the pleasant warmth of drinking alcohol—without the alcohol. It’s what helps their non-alcoholic cocktails taste as good as their alcoholic equivalent. These all-natural alcohol-free cocktails are low calorie, low sugar, gluten free and vegan. Free AF Mocktails—Shop Here!

Oh Beauty

Oh Beauty

Oh Beauty offers a curated selection of skincare, makeup, haircare, body care, fragrances, devices, and more from brands you know and love including Alastin, Elta MD, Phyto-C, Purelift, Paul & Joe, Living Proof, Olaplex, Philosophy, This Works, Elemis, Purelift, Tom Ford, and more. Oh Beauty—Shop Here!

Aviron

Aviron

Aviron incorporates gaming psychology to engage users mentally with games, competitions, guided programs, and scenic rows. Or if you prefer catching up on your favorite shows or sports games, Aviron provides streaming platforms including Netflix, Hulu, Disney+, Prime Video, Spotify and YouTube! Aviron—Shop Here!

Retold

Retold

Retold’s concept is to fill each Retold bag with your unwanted textile goods, drop it off with the prepaid label, and you're done! Together with Retold’s partners, all items sent are thoroughly sorted before going to charities, thrift stores, reuse partners, up-cyclers, and soon, next generation fabric houses. All Retold bags come pre-labeled with postage prepaid and are made plastic-free from biodegradable and compostable cornstarch! Retold—Join Here!

Komo's Kimchi

Komo's Kimchi

An authentic kimchi paste that ferments beautifully and can be used with all types of produce, from bok choy and napa cabbage to perilla leaves and radish! Komo's Kimchi—Shop Here!

M.M. LaFleur

M.M. LaFleur

Stylish and functional workwear pieces that are easy to mix and match and are sure to be worn for years! M.M. LaFleur—Shop Here!

Albion

Albion

Albion is a Japanese beauty brand that is fiercely devoted to providing consumers with luxury skincare infused with powerful botanical extracts grown on their own farm in Japan (without the use of pesticides). Albion—Shop Here!

Invity

Invity

Invity is based in Singapore and focuses on NAD, AMPK and Sirtuin pathway research to develop novel ingredients and proprietary formulations proven to support and protect your skin from the inside-out. Invity—Shop Here!

KA! Empathogenics

KA! Empathogenics

The first-ever brand bringing Kanna (a small succulent plant native to South Africa that’s clinically proven to lift mood and sharpen cognitive function) to the masses in chew form with Kanna Chews. KA! Empathogenics—Shop Here!

Mooncat

Mooncat

Mooncat is a line of 100% vegan, cruelty-free, and handcrafted nail polishes that serve as wearable art. Mooncat—Shop Here!

Unicorn Glow

Unicorn Glow

Unicorn Glow is a line of affordable makeup products that meet the needs of various make-up moods of expression so you can discover your best looks and bring out your signature individuality. Unicorn Glow—Shop Here!

BobaBam

BobaBam is the at-home kit that lets boba lovers make authentic Taiwanese boba drinks, with all the taste and texture of conventional boba shops, in the comfort of their own kitchens. Available in brown sugar, coffee, mango, strawberry, and milk tea. BobaBam—Shop Here!

Just Date

Just Date/Amazon

Just Date offers organic sugars and syrups made from real fruit so you can feel better about your sweeteners without leaning on chemical sugar substitutes. Just Date—Shop Here!

 

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Peter Pan warned us all as children: “Once you’re grown-up you can never come back. Never.”

While Peter may have been referencing Never Land, the magical island where kids stay young forever, we can now recognize the underlying implications of adulthood. As soon as we outgrew our playful and carefree years, we’d become practical grown ups that couldn’t dare leave time for lighthearted fun.

The truth of the matter is, our inner child—that happy, silly, awe-struck little boy or girl—is still deep within us and ready to step out from the shadows of adult life. They’re yearning to explore the world again with wondrous eyes, rather than being bogged down with work, household chores and bills.

Our younger selves want to be like Peter, and with Disney’s upcoming live-action reimagining of the boy who wouldn’t grow up, you can remember how.

The Disney+ Original movie, Peter Pan & Wendy, follows J.M. Barrie’s beloved novel and the 1953 animated classic film. Starring Jude Law as Captain Hook, Alexander Molong as Peter Pan, Ever Anderson as Wendy Darling, Yara Shahidi as Tinkerbell, and Jim Gaffigan as Smee, the movie will take your family on a nostalgic yet thrilling new journey to Never Land.

On April 28, stream Peter Pan & Wendy on Disney+ for a fresh, expanded storyline, reimagined characters and a much-needed reminder to be a kid once more. Here are six ways the new film can help you reconnect and release the child inside you.

Captain Hook's ship in the new Peter Pan & Wendy

1. Think Happy Thoughts

While thinking of the happiest things won’t actually make you fly like Peter promised, it can boost your mood and give you a more uplifting outlook on the world. Science also agrees.

A recent study found that mindfulness and positive thinking can reduce anxiety, provide an increased sense of purpose and help people live a happier and more fulfilled life. So when you’re feeling down or overwhelmed, focus on the memories that bring you joy.

2. Believe in the Magic of Pixie Dust

Although we may not have an in-house Tinker Bell that can help us fly around to rid our problems, we just need to remind ourselves that “All it takes is faith, trust, and a little pixie dust.” Simply put, we should spend more time trusting that situations can work out in our favor.

By once again believing that anything is possible, we can tap into the limitless perception we once held as children. We’ll start to feel that what we want and are striving for is attainable and within our reach. When in doubt, tell yourself that you can do anything you set your mind to.

3. Live Carefree

Peter Pan perfectly embodies the carefree innocence of childhood. Every day in Never Land, he does what he wants, when he wants without worry—whether that’s sword fighting with Captain Hook, listening to stories or playing with the Lost Boys. As adults, we experience quite the opposite; we’re easily stricken with concern and get caught up in the stressors of life, especially as we raise children of our own.

From time to time, it’s important to remind yourself to live in the happy moments and not take life too seriously. We’re all allowed to have days filled with fun, laughter and play, just like when we were kids.

Tigerlily from Peter Pan & Wendy

4. Embrace Your Sense of Adventure

Adventure is Peter Pan’s middle name. From venturing through mermaid lagoon and the Indian encampment to crocodile creek, Peter explored every inch of Never Land. As we get older and have a family, it’s easy to find reasons as to why we can’t explore someplace new—work schedules, after-school activities, play dates, the list goes on.

Instead, step outside of your regimented schedules and carve out time for traveling and visiting new destinations. Plan a weekend road trip with your kids to a city you’ve never been to before or make plans to check out a new venue that opened up in town. In the end, you’ll feel energized and ready to find your next adventure.

5. Let Your Imagination Run Wild

For Wendy’s father, Mr. Darling, pirates, mermaids and ticking crocodiles were nothing but silly stories, but to Wendy and her brothers, these tales allowed them to feel excited and create an imaginary realm of their own.

When you rekindle your own imagination, you can start to see the world through rose-colored glasses and break free from self-inflicted limits. Spend a few hours playing make-believe with your little ones or set aside time for daydreaming. You just might open yourself up to some well-needed inspiration.


6. Be Open to Trying Something New

Think back to your childhood and how exhilarating it felt when you accomplished something new, whether it was learning to ride a bike or helping your mom prepare dinner in the kitchen. Embrace that same openness to learn as an adult by picking up a new hobby or trying an activity outside of your comfort zone.

Looking to be more adventurous? Go on a ziplining excursion. Looking to be more creative? Take a pottery class. Keep an open mind and continuously challenge yourself by trying something you normally wouldn’t do.

 

Sign up for Disney+ to stream Peter Pan & Wendy on April 28. You must be 18 years of age or older to subscribe. Additional terms apply. To learn more, visit disneyplus.com.

Travel builds confidence, teaches us to be better environmental stewards, and shows us how to deal with things that don’t go exactly as planned

There is something about getting out of your familiar home environment that teaches all sorts of lessons, especially for kids. Road trips can show us the importance of planning ahead, while trips to foreign countries can help us tap into skills like negotiation and problem-solving. Traveling with kids at any age is super important as it lets them see the differences in the world outside of their home as well as how people are similar, even a continent away.

older child at airport on family vacation
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1. Patience 
There’s so much about travel that requires patience, from both adults and kids alike. The whole airport experience involves so much waiting in line that you are often drained before you even take off. Learning that often things are out of our control and we need to be patient is a skill we could all use a little more practice with.

2. Navigation
Even from a young age, kids can have fun helping you navigate. You can draw up a rudimentary map that has major landmarks on it for little ones, or give older kids an actual map with the destination marked to see if they can follow along. For tweens and teens, learning to navigate a subway system without an app is a skill that will serve them well.

3. How to make friends
Little kids have the amazing ability to make friends at the playground in two seconds and that can be true even when you are in another country. Seeking out playgrounds when you travel is a great way for kids to gain confidence in themselves when meeting kids they don’t know. You can search on your map app for playgrounds nearby or use an app like Playground Buddy that maps them all out for you.

Related: Life Skills! Here’s How to Teach Kids to Read a Map

A boy eats corn on the cob at San Francisco's Ferry building
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4. Trying new foods
If you have kids who are die-hard members of the chicken nuggets club, you might think that a trip to somewhere that (gasp!) might not offer chicken nuggets is a pretty terrifying thought. It’s often when we are faced with no other choice than to try something new that we find a new favorite. (But we support you if you need to keep those favorite snacks in the backpack, in case of emergency!)

5. Problem-solving
From packing your suitcase to determining what train you need to get on, there are so many opportunities to develop your problem-solving skills while traveling. You can even take it a step further by asking kids, “what would you do in this situation?” when you are faced with a tough question so that they can really think it through themselves before you take over. It’s also good to rehash a stressful situation after it is over and everyone has calmed down: “Well, that didn’t go as planned! What could we have done differently?” You are out of the stress of the moment but everyone learns from it.

6. There’s a world beyond our neighborhood
There’s so much learning that can be done when we leave the confines of our familiar neighborhood and visit somewhere else. Kids can be astounded by things as simple as how to people deal with snow on a daily basis (when coming from a warm climate) or why some countries don’t refrigerate their eggs in the grocery store.

7. Communication skills
It’s important when you visit another country to learn how to say simple phrases like, “please,” “thank you,” “how much does this cost,” “excuse me,” and “hello.” It demonstrates that you value the other culture and aren’t just “lazy Americans.” We can use apps like Google Translate as a crutch but often the gist of what you need to communicate can be provided even when you don’t share a common language.

girl snorkeling with fish
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8. Physical skills
A family vacation may push you to try activities beyond your comfort zones like ziplining, hiking, snorkeling, and mountain biking. These might not be activities you pursue in your everyday life, but just the experience of trying new things makes you more willing to try more new things in the future.

9. Memories above things
Suitcases have a limited size and you can’t bring home every trinket or stuffie you come across on your family vacation. But you know what can definitely be taken home with you? Memories of your time together. Memories of the night you stayed up late playing in a city fountain. Memories of when mom almost got left behind on the subway. These are what will last long after the stuffie has been donated.

10. How to protect our planet
Something like seeing the impact of sunscreen on our delicate coral reefs or learning about how species have become endangered due to the carelessness of humans can create a passion in kids to become better environmental stewards. Ultimately, travel can turn us away from the “me-me-me” attitude to a more external view.

Related: 50 Ways Families Can Help Save the Planet

11. Responsibility
Taking care of their luggage, managing spending money, and not leaving possessions behind in hotel rooms are just a few of the ways that kids can practice responsibility while traveling.

12. Self-confidence
Probably our favorite skill that kids learn while traveling is gaining confidence in themselves. Travel teaches you whether you like quiet, small towns or large, bustling cities. Are you more of a relaxing beach person, or an on-the-go history buff? The opportunities for self-discovery while traveling are endless!