In the past, March 2nd, the birthday of Theodor Seuss Geisel, well known as a picture book author, Dr. Seuss, was a cause for celebration. During my years as the Director of the Little Folks Nursery School in Washington, DC, on this day, children were asked to bring in their favorite Dr. Seuss books for sharing and reading aloud. Children and teachers made red and white striped “Cat in the Hat” hats. And to add to the festivities, I took the opportunity to cook up some ham and eggs —I mean green eggs and ham—to everyone’s delight!

While many were shocked by the announcement yesterday to cease publication of six of Mr. Geisel’s books, I believe that we have even more to celebrate, with this decision by Dr. Seuss Enterprise, the keeper of his legacy. Some may cry “cancel culture” at the news of this choice. But, I, for one, applaud it and appreciate the greater awareness brought to his past instances of racial stereotyping.

How can we be more sensitive to this type of transgression if we don’t point it out when we see it? In Theodor Geisel’s case, racist and anti-semitic depictions can be found in drawings from his college days, his early cartoons, and long before he became a successful children’s book author. When delving into his early work, there is no mistaking his ugly and hateful depiction of Blacks, Asians, and Jews; it is indefensible. More subtle insulting imagery of non-whites in his children’s picture books resulted in the decision to discontinue their publication.

Like all humans, artists are flawed…and full of contradictions. Still, we can “call out” their harmful mistakes while acknowledging their positive contributions. And moving forward, we all can learn from and make a more significant effort to represent all book characters with dignity and respect while acknowledging when someone falls short.

In Mr. Geisel’s case, his later attempts to instill tolerance, diversity, and compromise in books such as The Sneetches and Other Stories, published in the late fifties, can be embraced and appreciated. In The Lorax, published in 1971, readers are introduced to environmentalism and the importance of taking care of our earth. So, like Dr. Seuss himself, who grew and changed with the times, our consciousness can be broadened as well, if we welcome an honest look at the expression of others. We can take the good, leave the bad, or at least acknowledge how wrong and damaging degrading representation can be.

As an educator, parent, grandparent, and human, I know that representation is important. When children do not see themselves in books or see depictions that are negative, no matter how subtle, true damage is done. When they see others represented in a negative way, those thoughts and feelings are internalized. We all have a responsibility to think critically and call out such representation.

While I approach the idea of censorship with caution and a genuine concern for free speech and the exchange of ideas, I don’t see how the discontinuation of these six books affects either free speech or an exchange of ideas; if anything, it encourages reflection and discussion.

I am not buying the notion that we must endure offensive imagery or language because of nostalgia or the risk of censorship gone too far. Lies, hateful and hurtful visuals can and should be named. Some are more worried about being called “PC” or politically correct, than undoing the damage caused by white supremacy and white privilege. If that is where the concern lies, there is more to worry about than a publishing decision by an organization that is, after years of consideration, trying to get it right for our future and the future of our children.

In my view, it is the past acceptance or obliviousness to the subtle and not-so-subtle racist messages in books, television, movies, and advertising that contribute to the disease of racism. It isn’t the only factor that feeds it, but it plays a role, and acknowledging it as such is a step in the right direction.

Like the Dr. Seuss Enterprise, I look forward to a new chapter.

I am a parent and grandparent with over four decades of experience in early childhood education. I share my passion, wisdom and experience, with parents and the people who care for and about children at Little Folks Big Questions, where we're out to answer the questions parents face in today's world.

It’s summer time and we’re looking for all the reasons to leave our house and be outdoors. With great weather comes exceptional views. From picture perfect patios to rooftop restaurants, we found the best places to enjoy summer dining while social distancing.

photo: Market Salamander

Virginia

Market Salamander

This unique restaurant and market reminds us why Middleburg is so adorable!  Market Salamander prides itself on fresh homegrown ingredients and exclusive recipes. The outdoor patio provides a charming experience for breakfast, lunch or dinner. After you’re done dining, the family should go and explore the Middleburg village.

200 W Washington St
Middleburg, VA 20118
(540) 687-8011
Online: marketsalamander.com

Jackson 20
This beautiful restaurant in Old Town Alexandria is actually located in The Alexandrian hotel. It has a beautiful courtyard that is currently featuring a special summer BBQ, albeit a bit sophisticated, but still with many summer classics. Its a must visit for the summer time to take in the twinkling of the stars with an old town feel.

480 King St,
Alexandria, VA 22314
703-549-6080
Online: jackson20.com

Barrel & Bushel
This Tyson’s rooftop spot, is perfect for taking in beautiful views of Tysons Corner ever changing skyline and giving the kiddos room to play and explore, as there’s plenty of space to roam and even a playground near by!

Tysons Corner Center Mall Rooftop
Tysons Corner, VA
703-848-6340
Online: barrelandbushel.com

Red’s Table

Overlooking Lake Thoreau in Reston, Red Table is casual outdoor dining at its best. The patio resembles sitting on the deck at home, but you don’t have to worry about doing the dishes when you’re done!

11150 South Lakes Drive
Reston, VA 20191
(571) 375-7755
Online: redstableva.com

photo: Alma R. via Yelp 

 

Maryland

Tagliata

An upscale Italian restaurant with a charming outdoor patio. Throw in an array of pastas to keep the kids bellies full and how can you go wrong? While adults must adhere to a dress code, accompanying children can come as they are.

1012 Fleet Street
Baltimore, MD 21202
410-244-5830
Online: tagliatarestaurant.com/

Pusser’s Caribbean Grill

Located along the Annapolis waterfront, Pusser’s is quintessential summer dining! Your family can’t help, but stay a while to watch the boats sail by and enjoy the lazy days of summer while taking in Caribbean delights!

80 Compromise Street
Annapolis, MD 21401
410-626-0004
Online: pussersannapolis.com

 

photo: Rick A. via Yelp

DC

Farmers Fishers & Bakers

Located in Georgetown along the Washington Harbour, this sister restaurant to Founding Farmers is surely to keep the little ones minds occupied with a view of the Potomac and the bustle of boats and people out on a stroll to enjoy the summer sun.

3000 K Street NW
Georgetown Waterfront
(202)-298–8783
Online: farmersfishersbakers.com/

 

—Veronica Hughes

featured photo: iStock

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A new apparel line has just been launched by Gerber Childrenswear to be sold exclusively at Walmart. Gerber Modern Moments offers moms a stylish and sophisticated brand that does not compromise on quality. Designed for comfort, the clothing is made with 97% organic cotton and 3% spandex. 

Gerber Modern Moments

“As an iconic brand with a deep heritage of providing the best essentials for babies, Gerber is constantly evolving to appeal to today’s consumer while providing great value,” said Donna DeBoer, Chief Merchandising Officer at Gerber Childrenswear. “We have built our apparel brand on providing parents with quality products that look, fit and feel great. Our Gerber Modern Moments line has a new color palette and modern silhouettes, all made from organic cotton.”

Gerber Modern Moments

The line features new designs and colors, including a variety of separates that can be combined to create multiple looks at a great value.

Gerber Childrensware - Walmart

“Our purpose is to be parents’ trusted partner on their parenting journey. We felt there was a need for a fashion-forward modern line of baby essentials from a brand parents can trust to bring high quality at an affordable price,” said Maria Montaño, President and CEO.

Gerber Modern Moments

Gerber Modern Moments is available exclusively at Walmart stores nationwide and on Walmart.com. Prices range from $2.84 – $12.84.

Gerber Modern Moments

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of Gerber

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How does one match expectations for grandparents with their adult children about frequency and duration of visits with their grandchildren?

Like all relationships, the dynamic between generations is complicated and only becomes more so as new members are added, i.e., sons-in-law, daughters-in-law and grandchildren. However, complicated doesn’t have to mean negative, but communication and healthy boundaries are a must. 

How much is the right amount will vary tremendously from family to family, but again communication is the key. Since couples rarely discuss how they intend to divide their time with extended families before the arrival of children they may find themselves in uncharted territory when this conflict arises. But when the time comes, parents need to have honest conversations with each other about extended family visits and what works best for them. Then, even more challenging at times, they must have frank discussions with in-laws about the conclusions reached after those conversations.

Next, and here comes the really hard part, they need to be willing to compromise so that everyone’s voice is heard and some attempt is made to share experiences throughout the year. Figuring out a happy medium will be the goal in all of these situations.

Knowing grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins is a great gift to children. Parents have a responsibility to their parents as well as an obligation to their children to work to foster healthy relationships with their extended family – if time, money and distance allow.

Finally, I would encourage grandparents to put their emphasis on the quality of time that is spent with their grandchildren rather than the quantity. With my own granddaughter, who lives for part of the year in Italy, I try to appreciate the times when we are together and be grateful for modern technology which allows us to connect regularly on Facetime when there is a great geographic distance between us. I also try not to get stuck on a vision of spending certain days of the year (holidays) together, but instead look forward to and enjoy the times we can be together.

As my mother used to say to me, “We are always together in spirit.”

I am a parent and grandparent with over four decades of experience in early childhood education. I share my passion, wisdom and experience, with parents and the people who care for and about children at Little Folks Big Questions, where we're out to answer the questions parents face in today's world.

Love donuts, but trying not to overeat? Krispy Kreme just announced the perfect compromise––mini doughnuts!

The newly launched Krispy Kreme Mini Doughnuts are the latest addition to the permanent menu at locations nationwide. At less than 100 calories each, the Original Glazed Mini Doughnuts are the solution you’ve been looking for to stick with your New Year’s diet and still keep your sweet tooth happy.

The new doughnut minis come in four flavors including Original Glazed, Chocolate Iced Glazed, Chocolate Iced with Sprinkles and Strawberry Iced with Sprinkles.

For the month of January, Krispy Kreme is giving fans a chance to try these new minis for free. Each Monday of the month Krispy Kreme will host “Mini Mondays.” Stop in at a participating location between 4 p.m. and 7 p.m. and you can try any mini flavor of your choice for free. You can find your nearest Krispy Kreme shop here.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

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Get ready for an all new IHOP experience. The iconic pancake eatery recently announced plans to launch a brand-new fast-casual restaurant called Flip’d!

The quick and casual chain will have a Build Your Own Pancake Bar, made-to-order breakfast burritos and bowls, Ultimate Sandwiches, grab-and-go salads, wraps, and so much more.

Jay Johns, President of IHOP said in a press release, “After talking extensively with consumers in large cities across the country, we designed Flip’d by IHOP to deliver on what folks told us they want and need from a trusted brand like IHOP in a fast-casual setting, putting an emphasis on quality ingredients, speed, to-go and delivery.”

Johns also added, “Today, millions of Americans are settling for sub-par breakfast foods that are either microwaved or have been sitting under a heat lamp because they’re forced to grab something while at their usual coffee spot. With Flip’d by IHOP, guests don’t have to compromise—now they can get freshly-made, all-day menu items like Pancake Bowls and Egg Sandwiches along with a hand-crafted espresso beverage for a good price and in a matter of minutes.”

Unlike traditional IHOPs, visitors to Flip’d eateries can either order from digital kiosks or staffed counters. You can also order online and either pick-up your items from a to-go area or get your pancakes, eggs and other meal-time goodies delivered.

The first Flip’d will open in Atlanta next April. Expect Flip’d to hit NYC, Washington, D.C., Denver and San Francisco markets in 2020.

—Erica Loop

Photos: Courtesy of Business Wire

 

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Making family memories this holiday season starts with choosing a real Christmas tree. From the scent to the search, a real Christmas tree is something your family will never forget, and an experience that an artificial tree can never replace. Plus, real trees are biodegradable and they can be recycled or used for mulch. Win-win! This article is in partnership with the Christmas Tree Promotion Board.

Once the Thanksgiving turkey is polished off it’s go time: the search for a perfect fresh Christmas tree is on! Our own Red Tricycle editors divulged their family’s most memorable Christmas tree moments, from the hilarious to the endearing. Read on for their heartwarming stories and find out why it’s important for them to keep it real and pick out a real tree together as a family every year.

Now through Christmas, share a photo of your family’s REAL Christmas tree memory-making experience for a chance to win $1,000!

Shelley Massey, Atlanta Editor
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As someone who grew up with a memorable tree tradition, finding the perfect real Christmas tree with her family is about so much more than a decoration.  Read her story here.

 

 

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The places she’s gotten her tree and the people she’s gotten it with have changed over the years, but a few of her most important traditions remain the same. Read her story here.

 

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The second a sibling arrives home, the family dynamics are forever changed. How these developing humans get along with each other significantly depends on several factors including genetics, the environment they are raised in, role modeling of parents, and the general likes and dislikes of the siblings.

Think of your family as a team. Each individual plays a unique and vital role in maintaining the family dynamics. Having siblings that get along with one another vastly improves the health of the family unit. On the other hand, siblings who bicker and fight constantly add additional and unnecessary stress to family dynamics.  

Building strong sibling relationships among your children not only brings peace of mind to parents, but it also yields adults who understand how to compromise and work as a team with almost anyone.

That being said, even the most proactive parents who work feverishly to create a nurturing environment for their children sometimes have kids who just don’t like each other. That’s life. Nevertheless, parents can provide their children with opportunities to learn and practice positive life skills such as being able to demonstrate respect for someone with a different point of view.  

So how can you be proactive in building team spirit between siblings?  

1. Even If You Do Have a Favorite, Do Not Be Obvious: It’s inevitable, sometimes a parent is lucky enough to have a child who (to them) feels easy and fun and who they connect with more often. It’s wonderful when that happens! Just make sure you are aware of any unconscious or conscious favoritism.  Kids can smell preferential treatment from a mile away. If you want siblings to be tight, don’t wedge yourself in between them with favoritism.  

2. Don’t Compare Apples to Oranges: Such an easy concept to grasp, but not so easy to implement. Even if your children share many similarities, don’t compare them. This will ultimately lead to unnecessary competition. Siblings need to know that home is a safe place where they can develop at their own pace without sibling comparisons.  

3. Facilitate Shared Experiences: When people who don’t usually get along are put into a situation where they share a common enemy, they are usually able to put their differences aside and work together to defeat this shared foe. Instead of sharing an enemy, offer your kids a shared positive experience (*Note: Sometimes during the teenage years siblings unite against their parents in order to be able to successfully break and push family rules). Ask your children to participate in an activity such as volunteering at an animal shelter together or offering to teach classes at their local recreation center.

For younger siblings, help them make cookies to give to neighbors or make a meal for a family in need. Remember, your main goal is to offer a shared experience they can talk about and relate to with one another. This provides a space outside of the home where the siblings may want or need to lean on each other for support without parental intervention. These types of activities also build the bond between siblings and tend to decrease bickering and fighting.

4. Model Respectful Behavior at Home: This one seems simple but it’s not easy to implement 24/7. Why? Because we are all human and fallible. However, we can’t use this as an excuse to not try our best, especially with family members. When you and your significant another start to argue be mindful of who’s around and possibly table that conversation (if possible) for another time if you think you may lose your temper. If you both are in control I encourage you to model for your children how to have a civil discussion wherein the parents remain calm and in control and model compromise and respect.  

5. Don’t Vent about Your Kids in Front of Siblings: Every parent needs to vent their frustrations once in a while, I get that. But try to do it out of earshot of the kids. You may think your words don’t have an impact on your son because you are speaking in front of your daughter. Wrong. Your daughter will hear how you talk about her brother and she may even take on some of your feelings toward him (i.e. She gets mad when he leaves dirty clothes on his bedroom floor because it makes you mad. This issue shouldn’t even concern her yet she’s taken on your feelings about it.)

6. Tell Them You Love Them Every Single Day: Children thrive in environments where they feel safe and loved. This “dugout” within the world provides them the space to build their confidence to explore their world, their emotions, their inner demons in a loving and supportive environment. Children need space to practice things like manners. They need to learn how to accept responsibility for their actions and apologize when they mess up without fear of retaliation or punishment. Making your children feel loved is one of the greatest gifts of emotional support. 

Sometimes all a family’s team players fit nicely into their specific role in the family. Other times family members have to work harder to build those strong bonds. Regardless of whether it’s easy or difficult, promoting positive relationships between siblings is important to the health of the family unit but also society as a whole.

This post originally appeared on mom.com.

I am a 42-year-old biological mother of two young children in a same-sex relationship, a clinical psychologist with a specialty in neuropsychological assessment, a music therapist, a trainer of therapy dogs and ex-communicated Mormon from Indiana with a wicked sense of humor. 

With Halloween on the horizon, it’s time to start thinking about this year’s decor scheme. The craft giant, JOANN, has you covered!

With plenty of decorative picks for every home, JOANN is the place to start shopping, and that’s why we’ve got some seriously spook-tacular ideas for you!

The Boneyard Mini Mermaid Skeleton Bones

Mermaids never go out of fashion, especially not at Halloween ($5.99) 

Halloween Mystical Unicorn Skull Head with Horn-Oil Slick

What's cooler than a mermaid skeleton? A unicorn skull with an oil-slick black coating, obvi. ($23.99)

Maker's Halloween 60''x22'' Mantle Scarf-Spiders

If you have a mantel, you absolutely need one of these spiderweb mantel scarves. Ask Martha Stewart! ($5.99)

Maker's Halloween Witch Legs Garland

Forget about the plain old garlands of yesterday. This playful pick ($19.99) is imaginative in an outrageously awesome way.

Maker's Halloween Short Novelty Pumpkin with Skeleton Hands

If you want a little something extra with your pumpkin display this year, or you don't want to go full skeleton, try this perfectly wicked compromise. ($14.99)

Maker's Halloween Mini Wall Decor

Are you a frequent flyer? That is, on a broomstick. This holiday decor ($9.99) is the perfect way to get a giggle on Halloween night. 

Maker's Halloween Natural Tuffed Coir Mat

With cute candy corn colors, this "Trick or Treat Yo' Self" mat ($19.99) is pure Halloween holiday happiness. 

Maker's Halloween Skull Wall Decor Halloween Skelefun

Celebrate Halloween with plenty of skele-fun! This holiday sign ($15) can greet Halloween party guests and trick-or-treaters.

Maker's Halloween Wall Decor Hocus-Pocus Co.

Witches are wanted—at least according to this sweet sign ($14.99). 

 

—Erica Loop

Photo: Joann Stores

 

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Many of today’s parents find it difficult to keep up with the ever-changing fashion preferences of their teenage children. This is particularly true for outfits that you feel are too revealing or anything else that you are not comfortable with.The best way to deal with a teen’s fashion choices is to talk to him or her and set certain guidelines around your expectations. Having said that, it is also important to accept the fashion choices of a teenager and help them build a healthy and confident self-image.

Talk to Your Teen: 

  • Find a quiet and comfortable place to sit down with your teen and discuss her or his fashion choices. Make sure that your child is in a comfortable space throughout the discussion. To make this discussion casual and natural, you may bring up the issue when he or she is getting dressed for school or an occasion. 

  • Please make sure that your tone during this discussion is neither defensive nor accusatory. It should not appear that you are providing an ultimatum to the youngster about what he or she should and should not wear. Start the conversation casually so that your teen doesn’t feel cornered and defensive right away. 

  • The tone of the conversation should not create an impression that you are giving orders to your teen. Instead, simply advise them about what you think they should wear at this stage of their lives. 

  • Be well aware of the fact that your teen may not be open to your suggestions with regards to their fashion choices. In these circumstances, being too authoritative will only lead to more anger and arguments. Instead, have the mindset to compromise with the choices of your teen. In this way, you may still be able to put across some of your points. Moreover, this will make your teen feel respected. 

Set Guidelines: 

  • One of the best ways to do this is to start guiding the fashion choices of your teen from a very young age when he or she is just getting into the world of fashion. Help them get dressed and encourage them to wear certain types of clothing and other items so that they get accustomed to these st‌yles. 

  • Even if your teen doesn’t want to listen, clearly explain your idea about what you consider to be decent and inappropriate as fashion choices. However, make sure that your expectations are clear and consistent.

  • As a parent, you can always set an example for your teen to follow by always dressing in the most appropriate manner. Teach your child that it is possible to look attractive even without being too loud with fashion preferences. 

  • Another great way to set guidelines is to go shopping with your teen. Always provide your input, but try not to control what they buy or where they shop. However, when absolutely necessary, do not hesitate to put your foot down. 

Accept Their Choices: 

  • Accept the reality that your sense of st‌yle can be entirely different from that of your teen. Unless something is really wrong about a certain st‌yle, try to accept their clothing and fashion choices. 

  • Don’t be extremely strict and never force your teen to wear things that they are not comfortable with. After all, we don’t want our children to be stifled by our opinion and lose the ability to express themselves freely. 

  • In general, the fashion choices of the teens have a lot to do with their search for self-image and identity. As parents, we can always remind our teen that dressing in certain ways may be completely against the self-image they intend to build.  

In a nutshell, be it a prom dress or the latest fashion jewelry, it is unlikely that our preferences will be the same as today’s teens. It is true that we should guide them towards making the right choices, but care should be taken that we don’t hurt their self-esteem and sense of freedom.  

 

I love RedTri authors, publishing, and talking incessantly about them. My passion is partnering with authors to bring worthwhile content to publication. I started blog as a way to create a community of writers, both published and seeking publication.