Many kids have a natural love of science, technology, engineering and math. Whether your little one loves trees or trestles, exposing them to STEM concepts early on can spark a life-long love of learning. From code-breaking to robotics to space exploration, we soused out the best immersive experiences for STEM-based fun. Read on for our top picks on where to take tots through tweens for adventures in STEM. 

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Nature Center and Planetarium
We are so fortunate to live an area rich with trails, parks and nature centers. Getting even the youngest children out and up close with critters and trees is a great way to foster a love of STEM. Find one near you or head to one of the most unique around. Rock Creek Nature Center and Planetarium is home to the only planetarium in a national park anywhere in the country. The nature center is full of hands-on activities. Pick up a map outside of the nature center to take a self-guided hike (long or short) through the park to learn about the native plants and species. While there be sure to seek out the horse stables and Capitol Stones.

Editor's Note: The nature center and planetarium are currently closed due to COVID.

5200 Glover Rd NW.
Chevy Chase DC
Online: nps.gov

KIDMusuem
A new STEM center is opening May 22. The KIDMuseum has rotating ideas for hands-on activities for kids in elementary school through middle school. At this flagship location, kids can explore coding, robotics, engineering design, and hands-on maker learning through open exploration every Sunday. During the week, this unique makerspace will be used for field trips, camps and other special events.

6400 Democracy Blvd.
Bethesda, MD
Online: kid-museum.org

 

Artechouse

Artechouse
Even kids who don't naturally love STEM will love seeing how art and technology intersect at Artechouse. Most exhibits are family-friendly and highly interactive. Once children experience the different ways technology can be used to create a fun and immersive experience they may start asking more questions about the role of technology in their own lives. Don's miss the XR bar where kids can enjoy themed mocktails with a techy-twist. Grown-up versions are available too.

1238 Maryland Ave. SW
L'Enfant Plaza
Online: artechouse.com

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The International Spy Museum
Small spies in the making will love learning about code-breaking, forensics, disguises and more at the Spy Museum. Even the youngest visitors will have fun trying their hand at catching a family member telling a lie, finding a secret drop location and marveling at the ingenious ways scientists throughout the years have helped spies get information that shaped history and catch the bad guys.

700 L'Enfant Plaza SW
Downtown
Online: spymuseum.org

Maryland Science Center

Maryland Science Center
With three stories of nothing but STEM exhibits, the Maryland Science Center is full of hands-on learning activities for toddlers through teens. Start with dinosaurs, move on to hoisting yourself up using ropes and pullies and then try a hands-on engineering activity in The Shed or science experiment in the SciLab. Younger visitors can explore the Kid's Room to learn about cause and effect and construct waterways. Don't miss the museum's planetarium and special events including Bubble Day.

601 Light St.
Baltimore, MD
Online: mdsci.org

The Art & Industries Building
The Arts & Industries Building, next to the Smithsonian Castle, recently reopened after being closed for 20 years. The FUTURES exhibit that the Smithsonian launched as part of the grand re-opening was worth the wait.  Even young children will marvel at an AI rover, a Planetary Society space sail designed for deep space travel, the first full-scale geodesic dome built in North America and more. Throughout FUTURES, kids will learn about how problems were solved using scientific concepts in the past and how the same might be done in years to come. Older children might want to spend hours problem-solving through video games. The exhibit runs through July 6, 2022.

900 Jefferson Dr. SW
Downtown
Online: si.edu/exhibitions/futures

National Air & Space Museum

Air & Space Museum
The DC area is lucky enough to be home to two incredible Air & Space Museum locations. Both teach kids of all ages STEM concepts using planes, rockets, space ships and more. Any child who loves space or things that fly will love exploring everything the museum offers. Look for hands-on activities, storytimes with books ranging from space exploration to the history of flight, planetarium shows featuring everything from the night sky to Big Bird on the moon and more. Can't make it in person? The museum hosts online events as well.

Editor's Note: The DC location of the Air & Space museum is temporarily closed through Fall 2022.

14390 Air and Space Museum Parkway
Chantilly, VA

600 Independence Ave. SW
Downtown
Online: airandspace.si.edu

National Children's Museum
It's never too early for kids to start learning about STEAM. The National Children's Museum features exhibits on data collection, engineering and tech. Think that's too complex for your little one? Not at all. All of these concepts are presented in extremely tot-friendly ways. Kids will learn hands-on in the Tinker Studio, by creating racing cars and getting pom-poms to float in the air. Check the museum's schedule for STEAM Storytime and other special events.

1300 Pennsylvania Ave. NW
Downtown
Online: nationalchildrensmuseum.org

Port Discovery Museum
Head to the massive Port Discovery Museum to get wet while learning about the wonders of water and explore basic math skills in the immersive on-site gas station and diner. Kids can also build to their heart's content in The Port, while also learning about how their toys and food travel around the world to make it to their home. There are also plenty of opportunities for kids to get active at the museum's indoor stadium and three-story climber.

35 Market Pl.
Baltimore, MD
Online: portdiscovery.org

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Our children’s natural sense of curiosity has lead many a parent to discover more about the world around us—especially when we don’t know the answer to that pressing “why” question! Foster that sense of wonder and discovery with these children’s books that encourage those questions, from books about space and opposites, to the language of the sky, learn some of those answers yourself, too.

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Out of This World: Star-Studded Haiku

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Explore space in a new way: through Haiku. Told in a simple and straightforward style, Sally Walker's journey through the galaxy is expertly told using Matthew Trueman's illustrations. Perfect for both kids and adults. Ages: 7-9


Bok's Giant Leap

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The only children's book by Neil Armstrong has arrived. Kids will delve deep into the story of Bok, a moon rock who traveled space and time until he was discovered by the first men to walk on the moon. With beautiful illustrations by Grahame Baker Smith, young explorers will be captivated by this story. Ages: 4-8


Opposites Abstract

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In this book by the beloved Mo Willems, best-selling author and illustrator and friend to all the pandemic children with his weekly drawing lessons, Willems uses colors, shapes, and textures to demonstrate the concepts of opposites—which are, to quote the Pigeon, "a matter of opinion." The book encourages discussion with children and those around them when the author asks questions like, "Is this soft?" and "Is this light?" in regards to the abstract art. An instant classic. Ages: Baby-2


The Seekers

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We're not sure what is the best part of this amazing book; the original story based on mythology from the artists' native Mombai or the stunning illustrations created by Hari & Deepti, two paper-cut artists who bring the words to life. Both elements combine to make hands-down one of the most beautiful and unique books, one that inspires curiosity and wonder with the artwork and narrative alike: our heroines are two children who will soon learn that Silver Fox and Fire Wolf are anything but myths. Ages: 4-8


What Do You Do with an Idea?

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The story of one small child and one big idea, that grows with the child’s confidence, until something amazing happens. This story is for all the dreamers, big thinkers, and inventors in our families, and encourages children to believe their idea is worthy and curiosity is a strength. Written by Kobi Yamada with illustrations by Mae Besom. Ages: 3-7


A Ray of Light

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Walter Wick is known for his photographic find-and-seek books, encouraging curious kids everywhere to look beyond their first impressions. In A Ray of Light, Wick's stunning images are combined with easy-to-understand text. Kids will learn all about the speed, color, the spectrum, and all the other complex secrets to light. Ages: 6-8


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She Stitched the Stars: The Story of Ellen Harding Baker's Solar System Quilt

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For any of those kids who look up in wonder at the night sky, this book is a beautiful bedtime addition and is sure to inspire. Discover the magical story behind Ellen Harding Baker's quilt, which she began stitching in 1876, and which is an accurate depiction of our solar system. Today, the quilt hangs in the Smithsonian National Museum of American History. Lovingly told by Jennifer Harris and illustrated beautifully by Louise Pigott. Ages: 4-8


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Astronaut Annie

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As Annie prepares for career day at her school, she talks to her family about their hopes for her future as she plans her future career as an astronaut. Suzanne Slade's book will satisfy your curious kiddos with bonus material about famous female astronauts and facts about the moon, all accompanied by enchanting illustrations by Nicole Tadgell. Ages: 4-7


Barefoot Books Children of the World

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Feed their brains with this beautiful compendium of children from around the world, with hand-painted illustrations by artist David Dean, discover countries and cultures across the globe. From holidays to hats, big ideas and little moments, this collection co-authored by Katie DePalma and Tessa Strickland will foster the global citizen in every child. Ages: 5-8


Britannica All New Kids Encyclopedia: What We Know & What We Don't

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This hardcover encyclopedia is the book every curious kid will devour for years to come. Teeming with fascinating facts from everything we know about the universe to history to renewable energy, all on 424 full-color, heavily illustrated pages. Editor Christopher Lloyd interviewed experts in their fields to bring the most factually accurate info right to your kiddo's curious minds. Ages: 7+


From an Idea to LEGO

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This awesome series, which includes other books like From an Idea to Google, and From an Idea to Disney, is basically like a "How I Built This" for kids, in book form. We learned so many amazing things about LEGO including the beginning concepts and hardships, fun facts and so much more. The perfect book for little LEGO lovers who want to go beyond sticking bricks. In short, Lowey Bundy Sichol's books are brilliant and inspiring for inventors and innovators everywhere. Ages: 8-12


How to Be a Coder

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Kiki Prottsman doesn't just know all about coding, she knows how to foster curiosity and creativity in kids by encouraging, teaching and getting kids excited about learning to code...by reading. No small feat, getting kids to learn about greats like computer science pioneers Katherine Johnson and Alan Turing along with gleaning new skills, this impressive (and very colorful) book from DK is sure to be a hit. Ages: 7-9


The Book of Ingeniously Daring Chemistry: 24 Experiments for Young Scientists

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Take a trip through the periodic table with the ultimate STEM book from Sean Connolly. With 24 hands-on experiments (which you can try again and again) and easy-to-follow instructions, kids can learn about chemistry by doing things like using ultraviolet light to locate bad cat smells, making “hot ice” by crystallizing vinegar and baking soda and so much more. Ages: 9 and up

 

—Amber Guetebier & Karly Wood

 

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For a long time, well-meaning conversations about the mythical left brain/right brain divide have skewed the way that many parents approached learning opportunities for their children. In truth, the common misconception that analytical skills and creative skills are mutually exclusive has been widely debunked by educators, and experts now say that instead of locking young students into rigid learning tracks, giving them access to a myriad of learning options yields many long-term benefits. Whether they show proficiency in the arts or lean towards all things technical, here are six reasons why an early introduction to science, technology, engineering, and math (STEM) education can help kids flourish.

STEM Fosters Curiosity and Critical Thinking

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Education in STEM subjects isn’t just about helping students prepare for future careers in STEM. When taught correctly, STEM subjects can help students hone their curiosity and problem-solving skills, allowing them to develop good mental habits that can be applied across other studies, disciplines and fields of interest. 

British science writer Robert Lewin, author of Complexity: Life at the Edge of Chaos, said, “Probably the most important skill that children learn is how to learn. Too often we give children answers to remember rather than problems to solve.”

When it comes to critical thinking, STEM subjects can help students focus on logical thought processes, “skills that can be used throughout life to help them get through tough times and take advantage of opportunities whenever they appear,” said Stephen DeAngelis, founder and CEO of Enterra Solutions, an artificial intelligence and advanced mathematics platform.

Early Exposure Can Help Close the STEM Gender Gap

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Despite some recent progress, many girls are still discouraged from pursuing their innate interests in math and science. The damaging “math is hard for girls” trope has long plagued education, leading many girls and women to be systematically tracked away from STEM education, thereby limiting their exposure and ability to pursue careers in these fields later as adults.

According to the American Association of University Women, women comprise only 28% of the STEM workforce and men vastly outnumber women majoring in most STEM fields in college. Gender stereotyping and lack of role models are just two reasons why the STEM gender gap exists—which has resulted in gender inequity among some of the fastest-growing and highest-paid jobs of the future, such as computer science and engineering. 

The good news is that women are starting to make gains, both in STEM education, earnings, and careers, especially in life sciences, according to the U.S. Census Bureau. Many organizations are working to close the STEM gender gap, including a program focused on girls in STEM from NASA, among others.

STEM Subjects Encourage Engagement and Opportunity

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In our quick-fix, short-attention-span culture, STEM subjects demand active learning, which in turn requires greater engagement, attention and focus. Research has shown that engaged students are motivated to practice higher-level critical thinking skills, and STEM education encourages engagement through project-based learning.

Before her passing in 2020, tech entrepreneur Leila Janah, founder and CEO of artificial intelligence data company Samasource, famously said, “Talent is equally distributed, opportunity is not.” STEM education can provide opportunities to students who may not otherwise have access to other educational breaks.

Collaboration Is Key to STEM

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While some students prefer working solo and others are naturally inclined toward team projects, STEM education gives students of all sensibilities the chance to balance these dual impulses—but it especially rewards those who seek to collaborate.

When it comes to STEM subjects, rarely does a single person possess all of the answers. In most cases, innovation is derived from teams of people collaborating. Early exposure to the collaborative environment required in STEM can help prepare young students for the collaborative workplaces of their future careers.

STEM Can Help Normalize Failure

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In a society that’s obsessed with winning, education in STEM allows students to confront and normalize occasional failure. The scientific method is rooted in experimentation, and any learning process that fosters thoughtful inquiry can sometimes result in a failed attempt. Resilience is built through the perseverance of trial and error, and STEM subjects allow students to test, learn, and grow.

In the words of philanthropist and Microsoft founder Bill Gates: “It’s fine to celebrate success, but it is more important to heed the lessons of failure.”

STEM Careers Are Leading the Future of the Global Economy

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Guiding kids into future careers in STEM isn’t the only (or even primary) reason to expose them early to science, technology, engineering and math. But future-proofing their job prospects may be a useful side effect. According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, STEM careers are among the 10 fastest-growing jobs over the next decade, and many opportunities will focus on categories including renewable energy, data, and health care. Regardless of what careers kids may want to pursue in the future, a robust STEM education invariably helps prepare them for any path they may choose to follow.

—Kipp Jarecke-Cheng

 

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We all know the importance of STEM education for kids—that’s Science, Technology, Engineering and Math for anyone scratching their heads. And yes, we need the next generation to harness the power of the sun and wind for energy, solve myriad health crises and save the planet. But exposure to the arts—be it music, theater or the visual and performing arts—is essential for kids’ development as well, and often enhances whatever science-leaning learning children are engaged in. Read on to learn the benefits of arts education for kids and why it matters.

It'll boost their school achievements.

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For the record, your child does not need to be a prodigy or virtuoso to reap the benefits of arts of all kinds. A recent Kinder Institute for Urban Research study of third to eighth graders showed arts-learning experiences in school reduced disciplinary infractions, increased compassion for others and boosted achievement in writing, while also improving school engagement and college aspirations.

They'll develop creative problem-solving skills.

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If there’s a superfood of artistic disciplines, it’s music. Just listening to music activates multiple areas of the brain, but learning how to play an instrument, and practicing it over time, is like a pro-level workout for our grey matter (Neuroscientists know this thanks to brain imaging technology like fMRIs and PET scanners, which enable us to see where in the brain activity is occurring.).

Playing an instrument engages the brain in its entirety, a phenomenon that is most significant because numerous parts of the brain are being stimulated at the same time. Playing an instrument engages the more analytical right hemisphere of your brain, as well as the more creative, left hemisphere. This combination, as well as the flow of information between the two sides of the brain, supports the development of higher-level executive functioning, such as creative problem-solving. 

It helps to prevent memory loss later in life.

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You know what they say: you can't stop the music. It’s not a stretch to say that receiving some kind of music education can help your child become a more well-adjusted individual and provide them with some valuable life skills. A Harris Poll of American adults found that 70% felt music education developed their ability to be effective team players in their careers, and two-thirds reported it helped them become disciplined problem solvers. 

But beyond all that, time and again, music education has been cited as aiding in language development and acquisition and spatial-temporal skills, the latter of which are key in the areas of math, engineering, architecture and computer science. Childhood music lessons have long-term benefits as well, helping to mitigate memory loss and cognitive decline in old age. 

They'll master social skills.

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Working as part of a large group is central to the theater arts, performing arts such as dance and even visual arts such as film. The experience helps develop an appreciation of the value of teamwork and how different people bring different skills to a task. Enjoying or participating in the arts also develops a person’s capacity for empathy and compassion. The New Victory Theater, dedicated to presenting and bringing diverse performing arts productions to young audiences, observed the impact of arts education in schools through its program called “New Victory SPARK.”

According to Lindsey Buller Maliekel, VP, Education and Public Engagement at New 42, early findings of the data reveal that kids’ access to and engagement with the performing arts supports kids’ impulses to try new things; the capacity for self-reflection and an appreciation of someone’s life that is different from their own, and an increased perspective and interpersonal skills that strengthen teamwork. Additional benefits included increased hope, optimism and resilience. “These benefits feel particularly relevant as kids negotiate in a world that has a lot of ambiguity!” she says. 

They'll experience increased engagement.

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Arts education is linked with high academic success, and a 2012 National Endowment for the Arts study found that arts education can be especially helpful in supporting students from socioeconomically disadvantaged backgrounds. At-risk youth with high arts participation had better attendance, standardized test scores and a significantly lower dropout rate than their counterparts with no arts education. Additionally, students of the arts were more likely to attend and graduate from college. 

They'll have better self-esteem.

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Yes, nailing that solo or soaking in applause during a curtain call is an effective way for your kid to get a self-esteem boost. But the even better news is that according to a 2019 study, just engaging in artistic pursuits such as music-making or listening, drawing or painting has a positive impact on a child’s self-esteem. (It’s even better if you play music with your kid; drawing is effective as a solo activity.)

 

—Mimi O’Connor

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Two words parents are all too familiar with: “I’m bored.” Two words that can instantly help: Google Families. This site helps parents navigate their family’s ever-evolving tech journey through educational—and really fun!—digital content to explore together. A go-to hub of interactive resources, families.google lets you take virtual field trips, travel to unexpected places, get creative and master new skills.

Here’s a snapshot of the cool content that will tap into your kiddo’s budding curiosity and creativity. (Be prepared to pick up some new hobbies and interests, too!)

Families.Google is packed with content to help families explore and grow. Learn more.

Computer Science for Kids

Introduce your kiddo to computer science by coding their own super hero. Through short, instructional videos, kids learn how to use Scratch for CS First, a block-based coding editor. Create the hero, make her move, fly and spin. Add background music, transform it into a game and even add another character. Keep exploring the many coding lessons available to hone those stellar computer science skills. Good news for parents, you don’t have to be an expert coder or even know how to code at all. The instructions are easy to follow and fun for everyone involved!  

Ready, Get STEM, Go!

Attention budding scientists, engineers, mathematicians, and tech stars… Explore Google Arts & Culture on the web or download the free app to open your eyes to our awe-inspiring world (and beyond!). Go on virtual reality tours of the Smithsonian’s National Air and Space Museum. With 100 interactive online exhibits, you’ll feel like you went to the museum, without having to find a parking spot. Other STEM activities give you the chance to climb inside a space shuttle, conduct an orchestra in your browser, build your own voice controlled object, and see a prehistoric “sea dragon” in 360 VR. Use Google Earth to go on an intergalactic space adventure with legendary explorers and travel to meet the most iconic women in science. Learn about everyday inventions (yep, even the toilet), incredible inventors, and so much more. Your littlest learners will love the Sesame Street science activities.

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Art Adventures

From touring art museums around the world to playing interactive games, there are countless ways to let your creativity flourish. Play “I spy” with the world’s most famous artwork or try a visual crossword puzzle. Use the art coloring book to add a fresh spin to famous paintings. See what’s happening at the Louvre or check out the most famous works of art around the world at any museum. Learn how to make an origami crane. And be sure to capture the family fun with an “art selfie.” This great content ties art, history and important icons together for a truly enriching experience.

Wonders of the World

Whether you want to go back in time or take a journey through Thailand, you don’t actually need to leave your home. Get immersed in cultures around the world, learn about trailblazers and pioneers, and important moments in history. Discover the ruins of the Colosseum, the Pyramids of Giza, the Versailles Hall of Mirrors, and many national parks. Join Mission Blue on the high seas and then scope out the fanciest rooms at the White House. Even better? You can do all of this without packing a suitcase. You’ll enjoy being part of this exploration with your children and opening their eyes to everything our world has to offer.

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Let’s Play!

Who doesn’t love games? From playing old school PAC-MAN to hosting a digital puzzle party, there are lots of quality games, playlists, and kids apps to check out. Your resident Rockstar will love the Chrome Music Lab for hands-on experiments that make learning about music even more fun. And in case you’re in need of a new emoji, it can be created here.

Over two years ago I gave birth to my daughter and like every new parent, I wanted to give her everything. I wanted to find the best pediatrician, the highest quality child care, the most enriching things to do with her on the weekend, and all the other information I needed to be a successful parent. But as a full-time working mom, I found it pretty challenging to even have time for the basics, like feeding her and giving her a bath. Forget having time to research anything else!

There isn’t one single place to get parenting information, and many recommendations are shared in private mother’s groups which I wasn’t a part of as a working mom. Mobile apps for parents are basically nonexistent. Navigating all this information can feel like a full-time job.

I had an epiphany one day when I was at work that maybe no one has built great technology for parents not because it’s so hard to build but because there aren’t enough moms starting companies. I have a technology background — I was a computer science major at MIT and I’ve worked at tech companies like Google and Twitter. I realized I had the right background and expertise to build an app for parents, and I knew based on being a parent and my discussions with other parents that access to information was a big pain point.

The only thing that was holding me back was myself. I was worried that starting a company would give me even less time with my daughter. Tech startups have the reputation for being grueling environments where young people work 24 hours a day and wear hoodies. I realized that if I was going to start a company, I’d need to do things differently and set up a work environment that would allow me to be the person I needed to be at home.

A lot of people thought I was crazy to start a company as a new mom but fast forward to today and Winnie is an app used by over 100,000 parents across the country. We’ve raised venture funding from some of the biggest names in the technology industry. Parents rely on Winnie to find high-quality affordable childcare, get answers to their parenting questions, and find things to do with their kids.

But more importantly, starting a company has also helped me find success in another aspect of my life: being a mom. I’m able to be a better mom to my daughter because I have control over my schedule. I have more time to spend with my family because I call the shots. I can come in late to work to take my daughter to a doctor’s appointment, or leave early to play with her in the afternoon. We all eat dinner together as a family every night and that’s something I would not have been able to do if I stayed in my old job and worked typical tech company hours. The time we spend together matters more to her than anything I’ll accomplish in my professional life so having that time is an accomplishment in and of itself.

Through this experience of starting a company I’ve learned that starting a business isn’t just for young guys in hoodies, it’s also a great career path for moms. When it’s your own company, you set the ground rules that work for you and you don’t have to compromise. Better yet, you get to build an environment that’s a great place for other people to work too. People who also desire work-life balance in their lives will seek you out and want to work for you.

Since I’ve started Winnie, I have spoken to countless other moms who are thinking about taking the leap. My advice to all of them is to go for it! You are your child’s biggest role model and when you take the leap into the unknown you’re showing them that one day they can too

Short mom to tall kids. CEO and co-founder of Winnie, a leading marketplace for daycare and preschool helping millions of parents across the United States. Still getting the gist of this whole parenting thing.