Autism Spectrum Disorder became a constant companion in our life one April day a few years back. I think back to that day and realize how naive I was and how unprepared for the journey I was. I wish I could go back to myself on that day with my tear-filled eyes and fill myself in on a little of what I’ve learned so far.

1. It is going to be OKAY.
It will be okay…whatever your version of okay looks like. It may be filled with therapies and mountains to climb and hard at times or it may be smoother with fewer interventions needed. However it looks, you will adapt and you will learn and you will grow. And you will be okay.

We’ve managed to find our stride and what works for us. And is it how I originally pictured life? No. But it is okay and we’re doing alright.

2. Self, please know that your child has not changed.
The world might look and feel a little different right now and that is okay, but your baby is still your baby. Both of my boys are on the spectrum and both of my boys are still the same happy, loving, and adventurous boys they were before a doctor ever uttered the diagnosis that felt like it changed everything. It really took me a minute or two to get that through my head, but it was a valuable lesson to grasp.

3. My child has autism, but it does not define him.
Autism is a part of my boys. It is simply one facet that makes up their whole. It doesn’t define them. They have autism. Autism does not have them. They are smart because they are smart. They are funny because they are funny. They are kind, loving, and stars in my universe because they are them and not because of or in spite of any diagnosis.

4. If you have met one person on the spectrum, you have truly only met one person on the spectrum.
Yes, there are some shared characteristics. Yes, there are common ways in which autism manifests itself in people. But, just like you or me or the person next door, all people on the spectrum are unique too. My two boys are very different and their autism looks very different as well. They are unique. Just because your cousin’s neighbor’s sister’s friend has a child with autism doesn’t mean you know my child or what they need.

5. Subject Matter Expert: My Kids
Just because I am a mother with two boys on the spectrum doesn’t mean I am a subject matter expert on autism. Shoot, I am far from it. What I am an expert on is my boys. I know what works for them. We’ve worked hard to make progress and to find the right diet of therapies. I know what makes my boys laugh or cry and I know when a situation is too much for them. Generally, I can see a meltdown coming from a mile away.

Autism looks different in both of my boys. What works for one doesn’t necessarily work for the other. We’re figuring it all out as we go. But you know what, we’re all going to be okay.

“Don’t give up! I believe in you all. A person’s a person, no matter how small!” — Dr. Seuss

This post originally appeared on How Many Monkeys Are Jumping On the Bed?.

Marisa McLeod lives in Waterville, Ohio, with her husband and four kids. She's a Golden Girls, Disney, and organizational junkie. She can usually be found sipping coffee (or wine), watching reality television, or Pinterest-dreaming her next adventure. You can follow along with her on her blog How Many Monkeys Jumping on the Bed, Facebook, or on Instagram.

“Welcome to our home—what’s left of it.” National Lampoon fans need to add this set to their Christmas décor! The Griswold Holiday House looks just like the original in the beloved movie with plenty of flashing lights to spread cheer.

Grab this house on Amazon for $160 and get it in time to decorate. LED lights illuminate using an AC adaptor and the lights can be steady or changed to blinking. It’s hand-crafted and hand-painted so it will last for years to come. With 713 five star reviews, the house is obviously a hit!

You’ll want to buy the accompanying figurines to complete the scene. “Fire it Up Dad” depicts Clark in his iconic holiday pose. “Cousin Eddie” is clad in his familiar bathrobe and fur hat. And the “Griswold Family Tree” is so big it droops over the station wagon, root system still attached.

Department 56 makes these pieces and has plenty of other festive sets to choose from. Whether you’re looking for a Hogwarts Hall or a North Pole village, your living space is about to get a fun upgrade!

—Sarah Shebek

Featured image courtesy of Amazon

 

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Bah duh duh dum…snap snap. There’s another Addams Family movie coming out this fall and the new poster just dropped! “Unhappy to see you again” colorfully captures the crew as they prepare for one last family vacation.

In The Addams Family 2, Morticia and Gomez are struggling with the fact that their children are growing up and skipping family time. The solution? Cramming the fam into the haunted camper and hitting the road! As they adventure across America, they’ll have laughable run-ins with Cousin It and a host of kooky new characters.

The cast is packed with star power, featuring Oscar Isaac, Charlize Theron, Chloë Grace Moretz, Snoop Dogg, Bettle Midler and Bill Hader! It’s directed by Greg Tiernan and Conrad Vernon and is scheduled to premiere in theaters on October 1. Just in time for spooky season!

Sarah Shebek

Featured image courtesy of METRO-GOLDWYN-MAYER PICTURES INC.

 

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A very special animal just made her grand debut! After a 14-month pregnancy (yes, 14 long, long, long months) new mom K’tusha the okapi gave birth to a baby girl at the Chester Zoo in the United Kingdom.

If you’re not familiar with the okapi, that’s okay. The okapi is an unusual animal that lives in the rainforest regions of Central Africa. The only living relative of the giraffe, the okapi has the large, upright ears of its long-necked cousin—but white and black zebra-like stripes on its hindquarters.

The zoo’s staff names the young okapi Nia Nia, after the village at the center of the Okapi Wildlife Reserve. This area, located in the Democratic Republic of Congo, is the only place where this awesome animal lives naturally.

The new member of the Chester Zoo family took her first steps for the world to see recently. The zoo’s CCTV cameras caught Nia Nia in action, as she strolled outside with her doting mama.

Nick Davis, Deputy Curator of Mammals at the zoo, said of the okapi, in a press release, “These gentle creatures have been heavily targeted by poachers in recent years, mainly as a result of the illegal bushmeat trade, which is growing across nearly all of its natural range – making conservation efforts to protect these animals really difficult…so not only is Nia Nia’s arrival an important moment for us, it’s an important moment for the species.”

Visit the Chester Zoo’s website here for more info on this amazing okapi.

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Brian McGowan via Unsplash

 

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The pandemic has been hard on parents, there’s no doubt about that. But it’s also been really hard on kids: not only have they had to adjust to unique school experiences, they’ve also lost a lot of the freedoms they’ve had to just…well…play. I never thought an Apple Watch would be a way to give my kid some of that freedom and independence back but I recently tried one out and I’m here to say: this thing is the bomb. Let me explain…


Three main things have changed dramatically in our lifestyle in the last year:

1) After nearly a year of school closures, our district reopened elementary schools.

School hours and how and where parents pick kids up is quite different than non-COVID times. In addition to school changes, this year my son is a Crossing Guard/Patrol, which means that every two weeks his afterschool schedule changes. I work full time (I’m the Managing Editor for Red Tricycle, obtw) and have a lot on my plate, so his schedule changing can throw things off for me, like meeting times and deadlines.

Plus, parents are essentially not allowed in the school unless it’s an absolute emergency. Running late? Your kid is waiting for you outside (they will bring the kids in if it’s super cold). And with the added responsibility of Patrol, his pickup time changes slightly depending on how many kids are crossing, how fast he checks in his equipment, etc. In short, the time is a little different EVERY. DAY.

2) We live in Minnesota, so “afterschool/outside school activities” means hockey. The “no parents” rule is similar for hockey practices and even most games. Parents are only allowed in the rinks if you need to help your kid get his gear on (my son is a goalie, so he still needs a little assist sometimes). You just drop them off outside or come in at the very last minute if they need help. This is very different than years past, where hockey culture frequently includes parents hanging out and helping out at practice (at least at this younger age).

3) Grandma moved into town.

I don’t believe my son is old enough to have a phone (he’s in 4th grade) but increasingly we found that we wanted him to be able to let us know when he was ready to go. He also started asking if he could walk to (his now fully vaccinated) Grandma’s house after school sometimes.

WALK?? ALONE??? I don’t consider myself to be a helicopter parent, and we live in a pretty safe community, but I also listen to a lot of true crime podcasts and occasionally panic about horrible potential scenarios. How do you balance that line between fear and teaching your kids fear, between safety and independence?

As it happened, right around this time of internal, moral debate, Apple Watch reached out to me to see if I could try the Family Setup feature. So they sent a (loaner) Apple Watch for us to try and, honestly, it really was transformative.

Features I Love the Most

Schooltime: From my phone I can set Schooltime hours, which makes the Apple Watch essentially only functional as time-piece during those hours. It does still track activity, but the majority of the features on the Watch go dormant. They can be accessed only temporarily during schooltime, for such things as emergency text or updates, but overall are “disabled” allowing for fewer distractions.

I was hesitant to send him to school with this watch on, but was actually thrilled to hear that my son’s teacher didn’t even notice he was wearing an Apple Watch: this meant it was not a distraction in class for him or anyone else.

Texting & Calls: As the parent, you control the contact list entirely. This is critical. With Family Setup your child cannot add any contacts to their list on their own. It is all controlled by the parent. I added friends and relatives we trust, not just for emergencies but so he could keep in touch on his own. He’s an only child, so having a cousin to “chat” with now and again is a lifeline.

He can also text via WiFi, but we found calls didn’t work great on WiFi to non-Apple numbers. You’ll want to add the Apple Watch to your cellular plan, which typically sets you back about $10/month when tacked onto an existing plan.

Emergency contacts are also an option: whomever you put on for emergency contacts can be contacted and called for under one minute without requiring a cellular plan.

Handwashing: There is actually a tracking device that shows if the kids have washed their hands long enough! WUT!

So, for the first time in his life, my son walked a few blocks on his own to his Grandma’s apartment after school. And, yes, I was using the tracking feature to see where he was.

Features My Son Loved the Most

I asked my son what his favorite parts of the watch are, beyond having more independence and he, like the kid he is, said:

I like the activity tracker. It’s fun to try to have a goal to reach for activity and get rewards when you complete certain things. There’s a cool planetary alignment feature where you can track the movement of the planets. And I like the easy communication with my family. Today, my dad was late picking me up and I was able to text both my parents, “Where are you?” Also, Memojis are cool. You can even have your Memoji wear a mask.

Calls and texts with family and friends: My mom put people like my grandma, aunts and uncles and even my cousins in California, on my contact list so I can check in with them sometimes without having to make a call on. my mom’s phone.

Conclusion

We’ll reluctantly send back this trial Apple Watch and I have to say, we’re putting it on the birthday wishlist now. Just a few weeks giving this new Family Setup a try and we are happy to see how much it’s allowed us to stay in touch, but not too in touch with a device that doesn’t distract with lots of screen-time. Unlike a phone, this watch isn’t heavy on the screen/game features (there are some) which for us is a win. Yes, the price-tag is higher than what you’d consider for a kid, but I do think it’s actually worth paying for, and the cost to add it to our plan is way more affordable than adding an additional line. Definitely worth considering for any parent who wants the right balance between freedom and worry.

Family Setup is supported in Apple Watch Series 4 or later with cellular, including the new Apple SE

Learn more at apple.com/watch

Special thanks to Apple for loaning us a watch to try out! All opinions expressed here are my own. 

—photos and words by Amber Guetebier

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While Sesame Street’s Big Bird is definitely one of a kind, it turns out he’s got plenty of cousins! In a recent post on Twitter, the beloved character reminisced about his fellow feathered family members––and he shared pics!

“I heard my friends on Twitter were asking about my cousins around the world! It’s true, I have a lot of bird cousins in different countries. Here’s a little bit about them,” shares Big Bird.

Big Bird shared photos from relatives in Mexico, the Netherlands, Turkey, Portgual and Brazil. While not every cousin made the lineup, fans from all over the world have weighed in with their childhood memories from episodes over the years.

Big Bird’s post has been shared more than 12,000 times and continue to garner replies with potential new additions to the cousin clan.

––Karly Wood

Feature photo: Courtesy of Sesame Street

 

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Can you believe that Maisy the Mouse was published three decades ago? Lucy Cousin’s iconic children’s book character is ready to turn the big 3-0 and Candlewick Press has plans to celebrate.

Cousin’s books have long entertained children, parents and educators with simple stories and visual humor. With over 45 million books in print, including a variety of formats, Maisy continues to encourage a love of reading.

Candlewick Press’s celebration of Maisy includes activities that include a robust activity kit, updated First Experience brochure for educators, downloadable sheets and expanded resources for educators. Parents can also find tons of free Maisy and friends activities on maisyfunclub.com.

The 2021 publishing program includes a robust list of titles which exemplify the breadth and variety of Maisy, designed to keep preschoolers engaged and excited. Titles include:

You can introduce your young readers to Maisy with the newly published Happy Birthday, Maisy to celebrate on her actual big day––Feb. 10. Don’t forget to pick up Maisy’s Chinese New Year and Maisy’s Moon Mission, as the adorable mouse learns abut Chinese New year objects and learns about space in her interactive board format.

––Karly Wood

 

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As a child, did you ever wake early with anticipation? Were you one of the children who rushed to see exactly what was under the tree? I was. Patience was never a strong suit and surprises are something I am still not a fan of. In fact, Christmas memories are some of my favorite from my childhood.

My mom, her sisters, sometimes her brothers, their spouses, and up to 11 kids crammed into one home for up to a week celebrating not only the magic of Christmas but the blessing of life, of family. We had some crazy times, from almost losing a child in the snow to my all-time favorite memory waking early to meet my cousin face to face crawling around long before we were “allowed” to be up. As we faced off under a pile of gifts we both startled and then gulped in as much air as possible to keep from blowing our cover. The belly laughs and joy we held within continues to resonate in my mind nearly 30 years later.   

The excitement of Christmas and preparing our hearts and mind for the holiday season could be compared to the preparation for parenthood, for the dreams you create for the children you expect. Sometimes, however, you receive the unexpected. In those moments, emotions swell. Perhaps you’re weighed down by disappointment, fear, anxiety, pain, sadness. Perhaps you wonder how you will feel strength or find a way to be thankful for a life you didn’t anticipate? In those moments, however, if you take a deep breath and step back you may begin to see it, to feel it, and to understand the gift is so much more than what you actually wanted it was in fact what you actually needed.   

Autism is like that. The last five years have changed almost everything in our lives. While it has taken so much, in the end, I choose to look at what it has given me. Today, I reflect and see how much I have grown, how much this wasn’t supposed to be a journey but my destiny to challenge, change myself and walk beside a child who was intended for me.   

In dark moments, I have found what matters. People who care have come out of places I never expected. True friends have stuck around and I have been blessed to meet people in my life I never would have encountered if it weren’t for autism. Autism has taught me patience. It taught me to be present, to acknowledge the small moments of growth. It has taught me that unwrapping the most precious gift may not look like what I wanted or expected but in the end, it’s better than I could have ever imagined.   

As this holiday season is upon us, I could choose to be sad, to be mad, to be angry for what could have been or what I wanted—I spent too many years like that. Instead, I can choose to seek the joy in what is, in the moments that matter, and cherish what we have because reality is, there is a gift when you choose to unwrap it.                         

I'm a mom of many who is living her best life navigating a busy world full of ups and downs. Managing five kids and one with additional needs I enjoy learning through living and sharing what I know. I can't wait to share our Messy World with you.

This year has demonstrated the importance of having open and honest discussions with our children about topics like racism, and Sesame Street is here to help.

The nonprofit educational organization behind Sesame Street, Sesame Workshop has created a brand new special that will discuss racism and help empower kids to stand up to it. The Power of We: A Sesame Street Special is designed so children and families can watch together and will air on HBO Max, PBS KIDS and PBS stations starting Thur., Oct. 15 and will also re-air throughout October and November on PBS stations and the PBS KIDS 24/7 channel.

The special will feature Elmo Abby Cadabby, 6-year-old Muppet Gabrielle and her cousin, 8-year-old Tamir. The characters will learn how to become “upstanders” to unfair treatment based on skin color.

Human cast members will include Alan, Charlie, Chris, and Gordon and celebrity and musical guests Yara Shahidi, Christopher Jackson, and Andra Day. Families will learn two new songs in the special, including “How Do You Know?” and “Listen, Act, Unite!”

For parents wanting additional help, Sesame Workshop has created a companion guide they can use to talk about the special with their children. The guide can be found at SesameStreet.org/PowerofWe.

––Karly Wood

All photos: Courtesy of Sesame Street

 

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Peacock is monkeying around! An all-new original film Curious George: Go West, Go Wild is coming to the streaming service on Sept. 8. The first nine seasons of the beloved series several films and television specials will also be available.

In Curious George: Go West, Go Wild George and Ted travel to cousin Ginny’s farm for a relaxing outdoor weekend, but plans take a turn when her farm animals escape into the wild blue yonder. With the help of Emmett, a friendly farmhand, the group sets out to track the herd. Featuring a spirited new score and original songs, this unforgettable story proves that anything is possible when you believe in yourself.

Curious George: Go West, Go Wild

The music from the film features “The Other Side” by global recording artist Yuna. This is the first time in the history of Curious George films that a song is performed by a female vocalist. Other highlights include original songs written by Michele Brourman & Amanda McBroom and score by Germaine Franco. The soundtrack will be released day and date with the film release on Peacock.

Curious George: Go West, Go Wild

Curious George: Go West, Go Wild will also be available on Digital & DVD via Universal Pictures Home Entertainment winter 2020.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

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