The holiday season is coming up fast and furious, but this year won’t be like others. Out-of-town family won’t be able to join us as easily. The busiest travel day of the year will be much quieter at the airports. Even picking up our ingredients from the grocery store won’t be nearly as simple. For many families, this time of year is steeped in tradition, and traditions are very hard to change.

Kids anchor on rituals and traditions. For kids, time is an endless loop that compresses and stretches based on events, emotions, and experiences. My 5-year-old recently celebrated her birthday, and, two weeks after, she was busy picking out what color candle would be on her cake for her next birthday.

When I explained that a year is a long time, she responded, “Is a year longer than Coronavirus times?” What an important reminder for us adults: COVID-19 will eventually abate, but the events that happen during this pandemic will form the core of who our young kids are and will become.

As I begin to visualize the upcoming months, I’m finding myself looking for ways to keep things simple, but also festive. In that light, here are a few ideas that I am bouncing around in my head as we approach Thanksgiving:

Stories looking back are just as important as stories looking forward.

  • Read children’s books by Native American authors (We love Kamik: An Inuit Puppy Story, and there are so many other great books.)

  • Let’s learn about the practice of land acknowledgments as a family and do the research to learn more about the Indigenous People on whose land we live

  • Share the story of your own family’s identity and history. You can discuss it, draw it in pictures, write it in poetry form or use music...whatever works for your story.

Gratitude makes life happier.

  • Find ways to incorporate gratitude into your everyday life with your family. Maybe there is a gratitude jar in the kitchen that kids can put a note in at breakfast time or a nightly gratitude journal that you draw or write in with your child at bedtime.

  • Create a gratitude ritual that allows kids to share and discuss gratitude with others.

  • Make a gratitude mural with your family on butcher paper, drawing events, people, and ideas from the past year

Silly fun is a great way to let go of what is not possible and embrace the new.

  • Can your family create a "Great Debate" where each person is in charge of championing their favorite food from your holiday meal?

  • A holiday table decorating competition where each person decorates their place setting to help express a common them.

Our holidays may be different this year, but I wish you amazing experiences that make them bright and joyous.

This post originally appeared on Piedmont Post.
 

Nina Meehan is CEO and Founder Bay Area Children's Theatre and the host of the Creative Parenting Podcast. An internationally recognized expert in youth development through the arts, Nina nurtures innovation by fostering creative thinking. She is mom to Toby (13), Robby (10) and Meadow (5).  

   

It’s always ice cream season, even when the temperatures start to drop. Chilly temperatures are no match for DQ, thanks to a fun new fall roster of blizzards and a sweet new giveaway. Yes, there’s a sweater vest involved!

If you’ve always dreamed of owning an article of clothing that’s perfect for carrying a blizzard, you’re in luck. DQ is giving away a limited edition “Sweeter Vest” that includes a pocket for the treat and a separate smaller pocket for the accompanying spoon! Vests are first come, first served and totally free, so make sure to bookmark this page and enter starting at 9 a.m. ET on September 15.

What to carry in your new vest? A pie blizzard! You’ll no longer have to debate whether pumpkin or pecan is the best pie flavor, because you can buy both with a DQ spin. The new Pecan Pie blizzard features brown sugar pie pieces and caramel and the Pumpkin Pie blizzard has real pie pieces and is topped with whipped cream.

But if you’re not really a pie person, not to worry. Look for two more new blizzards on the seasonal menu: Reese’s Pieces Cookie Dough and Sea Salt Toffee Fudge. The first one includes chocolate chip cookie dough and Reese’s Pieces blended together and the second has real salted toffee pieces.

All of the treats are available now for a limited time. Head to your nearest DQ or place an online order to get your ice cream even faster! And with any luck, hopefully you can tote it around in your own Sweeter Vest very soon.

—Sarah Shebek

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Dear Family Members,

Hey, it’s me! I was looking at some old photos the other day and stumbled across our family reunion ones. Do you remember how awful we all looked? I mean it was the 80s and we all thought we were probably super cool with that hair and those clothes. I don’t know about you but looking back made me cringe. 

I know through the years we grew up and life happened. I kept up with the news on you through my folks. I wasn’t great about keeping in touch personally and take full responsibility for that. 

But then the era of social media dawned. I found you and “friended” you. I celebrated when you had great news and when the news wasn’t great, I mourned with you.  Because you are family and family means a lot to me I always wanted you to know I was there for you. 

Recently though I noticed something, that our relationship has been rather one-sided. I know you are super busy with your life and there are the algorithms of social media but I started to wonder something. Do I ever cross your mind? 

You may roll your eyes, but I’m being serious. I’m not saying you have to think about me 24/7 in some sort of weird stalker-like way, but honestly, do you ever scroll through the posts or talk to your folks about us? 

I know we choose a very different path. You have a great career and these amazing smart children who could be fashion models. We adopted two special needs kids. I’m a stay at home mom who likes to bake and read. 

Our differences may be glaring but at the heart of it, we both have a strong love for our children and lives. I’m no less proud of my son’s ability to get that B with his profound learning disabilities or my daughter’s learning to sit independently at nine years old than you are of your son’s making the debate team or your daughter making all-stars cheering. I’m just as excited that I am volunteering at our local hospital as I am about your big promotion. 

This last week was awful. My daughter ended up in the hospital. Her platelet count had gotten to dangerous levels, she had an infection and to top it off part of her lung had collapsed. I was dazed, scared, and cried at least 20 times a day. I have honestly never been so frightened in my life. We came very close to losing her. Even though we are home now she is still in the danger zone. I am up around the clock making sure she is still safe. 

One night while I was watching her oxygen I was scrolling through social media and saw you having a huge argument with another family member. It wasn’t even anything important. But it made me sad. You took a huge amount of time to argue a little point but couldn’t take 10 seconds to check in on us. Your silence was deafening.   

Now, we have support. I have an amazing group of friends and our parents. We are loved. But to hear from you would have meant something. It would make a scary and confusing time a little bit better. 

I would love to chalk this up to media algorithms, but this one-sided relationship has gone on for years now. I have been given all sorts of advice on how to handle it. Unfriend, pointed comments, the list was quite long. 

But I have a better idea. I’m going to keep on cheering for you. The world is so broken and hurting right now, we don’t need another reason to be divided.  I’ll be there for you. When you celebrate and when you mourn. My love for you is unconditional and though reciprocation is nice, it’s not necessary. You are family and family is everything to me.

Sincerely,

Your Family Member

I'm a momvocate with a dash of sass and a huge helping of grace.  When I'm not blogging I'm solving life's great mysteries, like do missing socks come back as Tupperwear lids?  

I first started thinking about a Tech Shabbat last year, after listening to Tiffany Shlain and her family describe how it had been transformative for her family on an NPR interview. In a nutshell, “Around 5:30 on Friday nights, we all shut down our screens, and we do not go back on them until 5 o’clock on Saturday night,” they said. Of course, this was pre-COVID.

When I first mentioned the idea to my husband he balked.

His idea of relaxing, like many people, is vegging out in front of the TV. We have an ongoing debate in our household as to who spends more time (nonwork-related) on screens. I won’t get you involved in this domestic debate, but it’s him!

After some discussion, we decided that we’d implement a weekly screen-free day after we moved back to our house. At that time, we were living with my parents while our house was being remodeled. Fast forward to March 2020, after nine months of remodeling, we moved back into our home! Two weeks later, we were in lockdown mode for the pandemic. Needless to say, implementing a screen-free day was the least of my concerns. I was too busy searching for toilet paper. After a couple of months of settling in to a new routine, we decided to implement a screen-free day. With everything being virtual, work, school, family Zoom visits, exercise classes, etc, We were all spending way too much time on screens.

Six months later, we still have Saturday screen-free days. Surprisingly, it’s gone better than expected. But I’ll be honest, there have been a few hiccups along the way. Instead of watching TV, we have implemented a family game night on Saturdays. I think all of us have really enjoyed spending this quality time together. As a matter of fact, I think the girls prefer game night over movie night. One particular Saturday, my husband and I were not in the mood to play yet another game of Monopoly, so we tried to bribe the children into watching a movie instead! To my pleasant surprise, they refused. 

Don’t get me wrong, the children do complain often that they are bored, or that they want to watch a movie. But the key is to not pay too much attention to the complaining. It also helps to have some suggestions ready for things they can do instead of watching TV or playing video games. I can’t help but feel a great deal of satisfaction and peace, when I find all of us curled up on the couch with our own books or laughing our heads off during family game night. 

We have not gone completely technology-free as Tiffany and her family have done. We use our Google speaker to play music. As a physician, I need to have my cell phone handy for emergencies. And I do make an exception for my weekly BollyX dance class. If it wasn’t for the pandemic I’d be attending the class live instead. Exercise helps me keep my mental sanity, which is important for the entire family! 

So, while we make occasional exceptions, the key has been to significantly reduce our screen time (at least for one day) and spend some quality time together as a family. I highly recommend that you give it a try. I guarantee that it will be transformative. 

Dr. Patel is an allergist in Pasadena California. She is board-certified in Allergy-Clinical Immunology and Pediatrics. She is the co-author of The Mommy MD guides to Twins Triplets and More! She understands that parenting is the hardest and most fulfilling job you can have. You can find her @TMommyMD.

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If you’re anything like me, you’re both excited and anxious when your kids ask about the 2020 US presidential election. But if you think, “My kids are so young, they don’t even think about these things,” then I’ve got news for you—they actually do!

Back in 2016 (when we were able to chaperone field trips), I had an interesting and awkward encounter with my four-year-old son’s field-trip partner. I naively thought I’d be the cool parent making conversation about the tall buildings and nice street art that we’d pass, but that anticipated casual chat became a debate about the election.

My son’s partner turned to me with her sweet smile and pigtails, and said, “Who’re you going to vote for?” Of course, as any parent might do when he or she doesn’t have an answer, I deflected and asked her the same question: “Who would you vote for?” Needless to say, that was probably the longest fifteen-minute walk I ever took, but it made me realize that kids are listening when adults talk, or when the news is on, and yes, kids have a lot of opinions about news topics, like the election.

That’s one of the reasons why I (along with my business partner and fellow mom Sapna Satagopan) started Xyza: News for Kids. We wanted to create a news source that kids can relate to, engage in, and that parents can trust.

Recently, Sapna and I have been approached by lots of parents who want to know how they can talk about the election with their kids. There’s no one perfect formula—every child is unique, after all—but we’ve found that our RESET approach works well in relaying the news to young children.

What Is the RESET Approach?
We’re encouraging you to consider how adults consume news versus what makes sense to young children. For example, we might be interested in long-form feature articles, but children are more engaged in quick tidbits of information that they can relate to. As the election approaches, there may be a million questions that arise at your dinner table, so we’re sharing five effective ways (R.E.S.E.T.) to help spark thoughtful political conversations at home.

#1: Relatable (Can My Child Relate to the Election?)
News is easier to consume when you can relate to the topic, and being able to relate to the democratic election process is important because kids can’t vote. So, why would they be invested in something that they can’t actually participate in? Ask yourself, “How can I make the elections resonate with what’s happening in my child’s life right now?” Ask your child how his or her class makes decisions. Do they take a vote? Relate that back to how US elections work and highlight the differences—e.g., popular versus electoral votes.

#2: Exciting (What Are Some Exciting Stories about the Election?)
Talking about the candidates and sharing their resumes verbatim may not be exciting for a ten-year-old, but there are SO many stories that provide age-appropriate context to the US election. For example, ever wonder why the donkey is the symbol of the Democratic Party and the elephant is the symbol of the Republican Party? How about why Americans vote on a Tuesday? Your kids might also be interested in the fact that Kamala Harris is the first female vice-presidential candidate of South Asian and African descent. Who are some other politicians who broke the gender ceiling? And if your conversation leads to the question of who can vote, you could share that even American astronauts stationed on the ISS can vote!

#3: Sides (There Are Many Sides to Every Election)
If you have more than one child, the concept of taking sides is nothing new. “He’s wrong, because” … “No, she’s wrong, because” … Yeah, we can relate, but we’ve found that nothing sparks a family discussion like a healthy debate. More often than not, debates reveal a lot about how kids and adults think, so why not use them as a way of talking about the election? For example, did you know that elections are a national holiday in many countries? Should the United States follow suit? How about the debate around lowering the voting age—is sixteen too young or just the right age to vote?

#4: Engagement (Engagement = Interest in the Election)
If anything can make a news topic come to life, it’s a fun game. While kids might feel like adults always (*eye roll*) know the answers, it’s almost certainly not the case when it comes to current affairs and relating trivia. So, put it to the test and have a family trivia night about the election. Which president served more than two terms? Which president won all of the electoral votes? Who was the first female to ever be elected as the presidential nominee of a major party? The winner gets major bragging rights!

#5: Two-Way Street (Learning about the Election Is More Than Just Reading about It)
When it comes to the election, thinking about what happens close to home can be easier to understand than looking at what’s happening further afar. Of course, we’ll be electing a president in the 2020 election, but local politicians are also vying for votes. Take those door tags and flyers you get delivered, and ask for your child’s opinion on who will serve your community well and why. Or simply create a mock vote at home. And if there’s a nearby socially-distanced rally or community roundtable hosted by a local candidate, attend the event together and have your child prepare questions about topics that matter to them to ask the candidate.

By asking for their opinions and inviting them into a local news story, your child will feel more invested in what’s happening in the world.

This post originally appeared on Xyza: News for Kids Blog.
Joann Suen & Sapna Satagopan
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

We're two perfectly imperfect moms who have five very different kids between the two of us. We believe that topics in news are a fantastic way to spark conversations in families. That's why we started the Dinner Table Conversation series here at Xyza: News for Kids. Won't you join us in the conversation? 

For the last 25 years, TIME for Kids has been a trusted source for millions of elementary students. Llast month the publication was made available digitally to students to access for free from their homes. Timed to Earth Day, TIME for Kids has released a special edition issue available for free in the TIME For Kids digital library.

Penguin

The cover story explores how scientists are taking a penguin census in Antarctica as part of a global penguin census to better understand the impact of climate change. Other stories in the issue include how the Netherlands is dealing with rising sea levels, a debate on if cars should be banned from cities, five Kid Heroes for the Planet, how classrooms in Africa are being built from recycled plastic garbage, the plants and animals of South America’s Amazon rain forest, a group in Pakistan is planting native trees and an interview with Bindi and Robert Irwin.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

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If there’s one debate that refuses to die in my house, it’s the one on social media—is it a good or a bad thing?

Like most parents, I’m concerned that teens spend too much time on social media. It’s too distracting. Every time my teens are home, they seem to have their faces glued on their screens: swiping, typing, liking and commenting on their favorite social media sites. They seem oblivious to the world around them and I often find myself berating them for not being present in the moment. Additionally, I’m guilty of bemoaning the fact that most of their interactions happen via social media and not face to face with their friends.

Other than its addictive nature, I also fret about my teens’ safety on social media sites. I find myself worrying about them being approached by online predators or becoming victims of cyberbullying. I mean, who really knows who is behind those screens and what their intentions are?

Plus, it’s hard to ignore all those studies telling us how bad social media is for our mental health. Sure, we know that what is on social media is heavily curated but that doesn’t stop us from making unhealthy comparisons with the perfectly filtered lives we’re bombarded with. If we adults constantly fall into that trap, how much more vulnerable are our teens, considering how impressionable they are?

Different Sides of the Same Coin

Being a concerned parent, I brought up the issue with my teens and their response surprised me. They not only opened my eyes to the upside of social media but also gave me insight into just how differently adults and teens view it.

As you can tell from my concerns above, we adults mostly view social media with suspicion, especially where our teens are concerned.

However, teens see social media as an outlet of self-expression and it allows them to experiment and explore various ways of expressing themselves.

My teen son, for example, tells me that if it wasn’t for social media, he’d never have discovered his love for drawing. He shares his art with his friends and this gives him a sense of identity. He feels seen and he gets a sense of belonging by connecting with others who share his love for drawing and animation.

My teen daughter, on the other hand, is a selfie queen. What I see as narcissistic behavior is her own form of self-expression. As Taylor Fang, winner of the MIT youth essay contest on “What Adults are Missing about Technology” says, selfies aren’t just pictures, they are self-portraits that represent teens’ ideas of self. They’re important and meaningful modes of self-representation.

My teens also pointed out that using social media and communicating with people from different countries and backgrounds raises their awareness of the world around them. It helps them understand how the world works and gives them a chance to carve their niche.

So while we adults are busy highlighting the negatives of social media, our teens are using those platforms to discover and nurture their passions, build their identities and search for their creative selves. They have created communities based on common interests and have found countless ways of expressing themselves.

Finding the Middle Ground

Ever since my teens’ revelations on social media, I challenged myself to look at things differently and I encouraged them to use social media platforms more meaningfully. Instead of passively consuming what they come across on different sites, I challenged them to become active participants by initiating deep conversations online.

Nowadays they create their own content as well as share and invite discussions on social media. This makes their social media time more useful, engaging and productive.

As parents, maybe we can learn from our teenagers and acknowledge that there is so much more to social media than the negatives. Used productively, social media can be a powerful tool for connection, self-discovery, and self-expression

Tyler Jacobson is a happy husband, father of three, writer and outreach specialist with experience with organizations that help troubled teens and parents. His areas of focus include: parenting, social media, addiction, mental illness, and issues facing teenagers today.

 

To rinse or not to rinse, that is the question. Your chicken, that is. The great foodie debate is raising concerns with the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention—putting iconic chef Julia Child’s position (to wash) on the back-burner.

Child famously “fought” (more of a friendly disagreement) with fellow chef Jacques Pepin on their PBS series Julia & Jacques Cooking at Home, insisting that poultry required a rinse before roasting. Pepin took the “hot oven kills the germs” stance, nixing the notion of washing chicken before cooking it.

So which position is the right one? Celeb chef Ina Garten sides with Pepin. But she’s not the only one. Like Pepin and Garten, the CDC is also an advocate for the not-washing stance.

Why shouldn’t you wash your chicken before cooking it? According to a recent tweet, the CDC says to not wash your poultry products. The reason being, “Washing can spread germs from the chicken to other food or utensils in the kitchen.”

There you have it! Rinse raw chicken and you run the risk of splashing germ-infused water onto your broccoli, cauliflower, spoons, forks and everything else that’s nearby. And that’s a major no-no. Instead of washing chicken, the CDC recommends cooking your poultry thoroughly to an internal temperature of at least 165 degrees Fahrenheit.

—Erica Loop

Feature photo: Wow Pho via Pixabay

 

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