In case you hadn’t noticed, the past couple of years have marked the beginning of a brave new world in education—for students as well as parents. And while the case can be made for many things that have gone (horribly, painfully) wrong, one major winner from all of this emergency innovation in education (and increased delivery of classwork content on computers and learning pads) are the new fonts for kids (and adults) with dyslexia.

Both the Dyslexie Font and OpenDyslexic help readers with dyslexia by having letters and symbols that are thicker on the bottom than on the top, which forces the eye to focus. This not only encourages older children to read (because who wants to do something that’s hard, anyways?), but it helps keep early readers from falling behind their classmates by instilling confidence—a hard-earned attribute for children who can sometimes feel like they’re masters of none when it comes to reading and writing.

Dyslexie is available on Kindles and ebook readers, which gives your dyslexic reader access to every e-book you buy on Amazon. Read that again. Every. Book. On. Amazon. To use it on a handheld device, you must purchase an app.

You can download OpenDyslexic for free.

—Shelley Massey

 

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Raising confident kids isn’t something that happens overnight. As our kiddos age, they begin to absorb more from the world around them—and sometimes those messages are disheartening or even damaging. Put your kids in the right frame of mind to know they can do anything, be anything, and overcome anything with the inspiring messages behind these 15 books.

T. Rexes Can’t Tie Their Shoes

Random House

Learning new things can be hard, just ask a T-rex trying to reach down to tie his own shoes or a bee trying to ride a bicycle. The point is, no one is good at everything—but trying can be a lot more fun. This positive book by Anna Lazowski, with playful, classic illustrations by Steph Laberis teaches kids to think about all of the things they CAN do instead of all the things they can’t. Plus, it’s an alphabet teaching book, and one we think you will love reading out loud to your kids on repeat. Ages: 3-6 

Find your copy here, $18

Sassafras and Her Teeny Tiny Tail 

Maclaren-Cochrane Publishing

Sassafras the squirrel loves to scamper, but her teeny tiny tail makes it harder for her to balance—and it makes her the target of teasing. But it doesn’t take long for Sassafras and the rest of the squirrels to discover that being different is a good thing, especially when you end up saving the day. We love that this book is Dyslexic inclusive: it is printed in a font that everyone can read, including people with dyslexia.  Written by Candice Marley Conner with illustrations by Heath Gray. Ages: 3-7

Get yours here, $10-15

Nothing Stays the Same (but That's Okay)

Mighty and Bright

Every kid will face change: whether it's an illness, the pandemic, divorce, or moving schools. Author and child behavior expert Sara Olsher reminds kids (and their grown-ups) that it is actually okay. Facing our fears and the unknown is scary, but Olsher aims to give kids knowledge, the best defense against anxiety and fear. Whether it's a big change or something small, this book will help normalize the inevitability of change, giving kids the confidence that they can handle it. You can buy just the book or upgrade to a calendar set that gives children a visual aid for day-to-day schedules. Olsher has also written books about kids coping with divorce and illness. Ages: 4-10

Get yours here, from $3

Hey, Pretty Girl

Danielle Green

Let’s face it, little girls are told they are “pretty” all the time, but what does that value actually mean? In Danielle Green’s book, part of the Hey, Girl series, Green aims to help define that word for a new generation of children. In Hey, Pretty Girl a little girl named Myah is nervous about starting school at a new place. When her teacher introduces her to class, everyone learns a lesson about how beautiful we all are in our own way. Includes a word search and coloring pages at the end. Illustrated by Bea Jackson. Ages: 4-10

Find your copy, $15

Sulwe

Simon & Schuster

Written by Kenyan-born actress Lupita Nyong'o, this is as much her personal story as it is the story of young Sulwe, a girl whose skin is the color of midnight. The stunningly gorgeous illustrations by Vashti Harrison are reason enough alone to want this book in your library, but the story itself is beautifully told; it's about differences, acceptance of oneself no matter how we think others see us, it's about wanting to fit in and yet being unique. A vital message for every kid out there, regardless of race or gender. Read it today with your kids. Ages 4-8

Buy yours here, $10

I Am Every Good Thing

I Am Every Good Thing is a Back-to-School book
Nancy Paulsen Books

Author Derrick Barnes captures the young and confident Black narrator of this book perfectly, demonstrating the pure joy of childhood where each day brings challenges and adventures. The exuberant and beautifully done illustrations by Gordon C. James make this book one that will inspire your kids to embrace their own beauty even if things aren't always perfect or they make mistakes, and stay true to their truth, even when they are misunderstood or called things they are not. Ages: 3-7

Get yours here, $12

Always Anjali

Mango and Marigold Press

For any kid who can’t find their name on a mug or key chain at a souvenir shop, you’ll relate instantly to this beautifully written book by Sheetal Sheth, who tells the story of a little girl named Anjali. Anjali is excited to ride her bike with her friends to the fair but when she can’t find her name on the little toy license plate, it leads to taunting by some other kids. When she tells her mom she hates her name, her mom gives her reasons to love who she is. Jessica Blank’s enchanting illustrations support the message of this book: be proud of who you are, and be compassionate to those who are not like you (and who have totally boring names). Ages 3-7

Buy it now, $20

A Most Clever Girl

Bloomsbury Publishing

The thread that repeats itself in nearly every "success" story is that the drive to be or do something is greater than the obstacles put befo that arise. In this tale of girl power that kids of any gender will love, A. Stirling tells the story of how Jane Austen's obsession with words defined her life, and Vesper Stemper's beautiful images capture the era perfectly. The takeaway? Having confidence in your passions can change the world. Ages: 5-9

Get it here, $17

Rock What Ya Got

Kittle Brown

For any kid (or grownup) who doesn't feel like they're enough, who wishes they were a little bit taller or had different color hair, this book about body positivity will make a deep impression. Written from the perspective of a tiny version of the author and illustrator (Samantha Berger) it's a beautiful, rhythmic told story about learning to love who you are and rock it!  Ages: 4-7

Get it here. $16

Olivia's Red Hair

Sunshine Books

Olivia’s Red Hair

Olivia has very red hair and it stands out in a crowd, which she doesn’t mind until she gets to school and finds no one has hair quite like hers. So she embarks on a scavenger hunt around her home and around town, to find all of the things she loves that are red too. In the end, Olivia learns to love the thing that makes her so different from everyone else. Ages 3-6

Buy it now, $11

Tomorrow I'll Be Brave

Penguin Workshop

This picture book by award-winning lettering artist Jessica Hische became an instant classic. Inspired by the birth of her own daughter, Hische wanted to give kids an opportunity to reflect on their day, to understand that tomorrow is a new beginning and that self-forgiveness is the best gift you can give yourself. Filled with strong words like Brave, Confident, Creative, Smart, and Curious and complemented by gorgeous illustrations. Ages: 3-7

Get your copy now, $14

Beenz and Peace Find Their Happy Place

Courtney North

Space creatures might not be the first characters to come to mind in a book about instilling confidence, but the two loveable creatures—Beanz and his pet, Peace—in author Courtney North’s book do just that. Beanz does not look like everyone on Saturn, so he travels the universe looking for a place to fit it. When his differences are welcomed on Jupiter, Beanz takes up the challenge to bring that inclusive attitude back to his home planet: being different from one another is a strength. Cheerfully illustrated by Yevheniia Lisova. Ages: 4-10

Get your copy here, $15

We Got Game: 35 Female Athletes Who Changed the World 

Running Press

Aileen Weintraub’s collection, illustrated by Sarah Green, of dynamic and diverse athletes from around the globe—from Paralympian Tatanya McFadden to Simone Biles to Bille Jean King—will inspire kids of any gender to be confident and stay strong. Ages: 8-12

Get your copy here, $14

Pandemic 2020: A 9-Year-Old’s Perspective

BookBaby

This unique book's main theme isn’t about instilling confidence per se, but it’s written by a nine-year-old girl, Prisha Hedau, during the height of the 2020 lockdown and gives kids a voice of solidarity and familiarity of how things changed and what life is like. It also gives parents the perspective of what life is like for our kids, from a kid’s point of view. It will help kids feel less alone, and the fact that this little girl had the confidence to write a book at this age is a lesson in confidence we can all benefit from. We think parents and kids everywhere should give this one a read. Prisha donates a large portion of her book proceeds to support local pandemic charities. Ages: 7-12

Buy your copy here, $7

It Doesn’t Have to Be Awkward: Dealing with Relationships, Consent, and Other Hard-to-Talk-About Stuff

Clarion Books

We know first-hand just how awkward it can get for parents and their kids when it comes to talking about sex, but this book by Dr. Drew Pinsky and his daughter Paulina Pinsky makes it a little less so. Honest, entertaining, and frank this guide to sex, relationships, and consent is geared toward teens but valuable to parents and educators trying to navigate topics and teach children confidence and self-worth, especially when it comes to their bodies. Ages 12 and up. 

Pre-order here, $18

 

—Amber Guetebier

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Ever since video games first came out, parents have been given dire warnings about the effects of letting kids play them. There have been claims that they negatively impact child development and can increase violent behavior.

But is this really true? It depends on the game. While it’s true that your 5-year-old probably shouldn’t be playing Call of Duty, there are lots of kid-appropriate options that can actually be beneficial. Many modern video games designed for kids have a great deal of educational potential and can help children gain new skills.

Now that they’ve been around for a while, we know a lot more about why video games are so attractive to kids and about the potential they have for positive learning, development, and creativity. Here’s why some video games can be a great addition to any child’s learning plan.

The Developmental Benefits of Gaming

There are some great developmental benefits that go along with educational video games. Children can learn how to problem-solve in order to advance within some games while others allow them to express and build their creativity. Many of these games also offer strong and relatable characters who can help children develop important social skills.

The key to unlocking these developmental benefits is to choose your child’s games carefully and to stay involved in their experience. Don’t just choose games for their entertainment value, choose games that will teach kids educational content or help them build their skills and confidence.

Don’t just leave them alone at the computer for hours. To really get the developmental benefits out of the games, ask questions about what they’re doing and praise their effort. Another good interactive option is to play exercise-based video games together to boost mood and brain function and to build the foundations for lifelong fitness as a family.

Video Game Therapy for Kids

While research indicates that letting children play violent video games probably isn’t a good idea, other studies show that there are lots of opportunities for interactive games in helping children not just to develop, but to support their mental health needs as well. Some psychologists are beginning to see the benefits of using video games as a therapy tool. “Gamification,” (using the rules of games for practical applications) they claim, has the potential to help promote well-being and address mental health problems in young people.

The researchers dive into four main benefits that modern video games can provide: cognitive, motivational, emotional, and social. Using video games appropriately in therapy could be a great way to engage kids and cater to their specific needs.

While they acknowledge that there is still more research that needs to be done and more in terms of game design to create appropriate therapy tools, it shows promise. Many mental health professionals are very excited about the emerging use of gamification in counseling.

Video Game Therapy for Children with Learning Disabilities

It can be a challenge to engage with children who have learning disabilities or struggle with social and emotional skills. Some children have communication issues or struggle with basic learning concepts. For these children, sitting down and studying more isn’t always the right option.

Video games can be a great way to engage kids with learning disabilities. These activities are fun and exciting enough to encourage interactive learning and present information in a new way. Children who struggle to retain information might learn better through a game that’s designed for their disability, such as Fast ForWord, which is made specifically to help children with dyslexia learn language and reading skills.

VR Will Change the Way We Teach

During the pandemic, many students found out what it was like to learn virtually. Although we hope students will be able to continue in-person learning now that the pandemic is waning, we might continue to use virtual tools to enhance and change the way we teach children.

VR (virtual reality) is a tool that could really make a difference in students’ lives, especially when paired with video games that help children develop skills and cognitive abilities. Games with VR capabilities have come a long way in the last few years and could be merged with these interactive, educational games designed for kids to enhance interactivity and improve distance learning.

We’ve come a long way from the days when “experts” believed that video games would be society’s downfall. We know better now, and a more balanced view of video games is helping kids learn, grow, and thrive.

Sarah Daren has been a consultant for startups in industries including health and wellness, wearable technology, and education. She implements her health knowledge into every aspect of her life, including her position as a yoga instructor and raising her children. Sarah enjoys watching baseball and reading on the beach. 

COVID-19 has revealed many failings, including the uneven distribution of responsibilities in the family unit, overall public health vulnerabilities in school populations, and the government itself. Education policymakers have shown a refusal (or outright inability) to modernize and evolve. However, one positive that could emerge from this wreckage is that parents have no choice but to take command of their children’s education as the de facto classroom has relocated to the kitchen table. Perhaps no area is more primed for innovation and disruption than K-12 education, particularly the one-in-five children who have learning differences.

Enacted in 1975, the Individuals with Disabilities Act establishes a substantive right to a “free appropriate public education” for eligible children with disabilities in the public school system, which includes special education and related services. The law requires that schools offer students individualized education programs that are reasonably calculated to result in progress. These individualized and specialized plans are supposed to be prepared by the child’s teachers, school officials, and parents in order to measure academic and functional goals for the child. But be forewarned, the individualized plans are far from a panacea. Instead, they are the first step in a Kafka-esque journey for families fighting for their educational betterment that they are entitled to by law.

Why is it then that so many inconsistently performing students are overlooked and unexamined? Schools and teachers deliberately by-design refuse to label certain learning conditions by what they actually are because they know that they will then be responsible for trying to remediate them.  They recognize that they lack the resources, the expertise, and, frankly, the will to try to address these problems.  As a result, these problems often go unaddressed for far longer than they should and cause far more emotional and academic damage than would be the case with early intervention. The burden of child advocate rests entirely on the parents to cajole, nag, and become a well-versed education policy expert in order to eke out a suitable education support plan that is legally-owed the student. Unsurprisingly, many IEP plans are anemic and devoid of real remediation.  

Nine years ago, I distinctly remember meeting with my daughter’s first-grade public school teacher regarding her slight, but perceptible and growing, academic struggles relative to her peers. A no-nonsense veteran teacher leaned over and said in an unsettlingly hushed voice, “I think she may have a language issue.”  I did not realize it then, but even that level of candor is verboten in the education world. It was not until several years later after various assessments and many thousands of dollars that we confirmed my daughter was exhibiting signs of a language-based learning disorder dyslexia

Like similar learning disabilities, such as ADD and ADHD, dyslexia is known and unfamiliar at once, shrouded in misperceptions, and cloaked in mysterious-sounding euphemisms, like “processing issues.” Similar to other disabilities, it can wreak havoc on a young person’s life, affecting self-esteem both in and out of the classroom. For families of those with learning disorders, of course, there are also the economic costs of bringing one’s child to various specialists for examinations that do not come cheap. And those are the fortunate families who can afford to seek assistance. Many cannot. 

This is where the parent advocates can make a huge difference, particularly in the current environment where almost all students will suffer from not receiving needed attention in the classroom setting. Of course, in the time of COVID, the burden may lie squarely with the parents to support their child’s learning differences and get up to speed. Online communities can be a great place to start. The National Association of Dyslexia, Understood.org and Child Mind Institute will arm you with a much-needed new vocabulary. But buyer beware: simply hiring “tutors” is not likely to close the widening knowledge gap. Evidence-based literacy programs, very particular teacher training, and certifications are necessary. Objective benchmarks must be employed to measure and gauge where your child is progressing.  

COVID or not, our current education solutions for different learners are disgracefully two-tiered and malnourished. However, as society pivots, we have an opportunity to create break-the-mold solutions that leverage evidence-based programs and technology, along with the lessons of decades of failed public interventionist programs. It just so happens that this might be the perfect confluence of events to take these risks. Wouldn’t that be a teachable moment? 

After struggling with her child's Dyslexia diagnosis in 2014, Jen partnered with her former tutor to address and repair material deficiencies in the specialized learning marketplace.Braintrust seeks to remove traditional barriers between pupil and teacher while offering academic transparency, metric-driven results, and accountability for everyone in a scalable product.  

Even now, after 12 years, I still have difficulty connecting with my daughter and that terrifies me. She has grown into such a beautiful vibrant little girl with extraordinarily strong thoughts and a hyperdrive to succeed. Being a child with autism, ADHD and dyslexia has not slowed her down one bit. But it has run me over, broken me, and forced me to face the bitter truth about what kind of woman I was. I so admire her strength to continue to pursue life with great intensity despite the multiple hurdles she must overcome daily. But that was not always the case.

I remember watching her at the early age of one and thinking she is so ahead of the game. It caused me to reflect on my own childhood. I failed kindergarten and was called quote “a hopeless case” by my first kindergarten teacher. She told my mother this with great vigor at a parent-teacher conference as I sat directly beside her.

The first week of school, she pulled my desk away from my peers off into a corner all my own, where I spent the entire year. She held great disdain for me, and I was painfully aware of it. My second year of kindergarten was magnificent and although I struggled in math, I excelled in English and was a model student. I fell in love with my teacher who never stopped pushing me. I flourished under her and I cried when the year was over. When one teacher said there was no hope for me another teacher said I was bright and capable of excelling my peers. And so, I did.

While I had no diagnosable issues there was clearly a delay in the area of math and it followed me up until high school. It affected every area of my life and I’ve had to work five times harder to overcome the insecurity that came with it.

So when my daughter started to display severe insecurities in the area of sleep, I bulked at her. My answer to her intense fears of the dark was to force her to face the dark alone. Which is exactly what happened to me as a child.

The difference was she was not capable of stuffing her fears down and dealing with it like a neurotypical child. She was out of control. Wailing well into the wee hours of the night. Sobbing for hours on end and refusing to stay in her bed. Her fears of night rolled over into everyday life. It wasn’t just the night she was terrified of, it was now public places and strangers.

A once bossy independent toddler was suffering from sleep deprivation and on the days when her nights were decent she no longer enjoyed venturing out into the world she used to love to command.

After a year or so of trying to force my square-shaped daughter into a round hole, I had, had enough! Not of her but of myself. I was disgusted at how poorly I dealt with her pain. I was appalled and disappointed at how hard I worked to hide her anxieties with nighttime from friends and family.

I took a sharp left turn out of the land of “typical parenting” and into the land of “what can I do to help?” I left the world of “my way or no way” and entered a place of I will prefer my daughter’s needs above my need to present my family in a particular way.”

I was happy to be imperfect. I rebelled against the judgment and unsolicited advice from family and I did what I felt was best for my daughter. I embraced her and her pain. I laid in the bed with her at night instead of on the floor waiting for her to shut up. I talked to her tears and screams until I could reach her.

Our biggest breakthrough came in the form of a lullaby. It was the first time I really tried to connect with her. My hope was to help her to see the good parts of bedtime through music. She gravitated to the song. I would often hear her singing it throughout the day. It became our go-to first thing at night. It was our song. She found bravery in it and I found a way to connect and understand.

I was so fearful of being a failure to everyone around me. But I was failing my daughter as I pursued an impossible life of perfection. The very thing I was trying to hide has literally become an open book for all to see. I boldly chose to record the lullaby and self-publish a book about my daughter’s turmoil with bedtime titled: “Showdown at High Moon: Queen Takes a Stand.” She is so proud of the book/song and me, this does something to my heart that I cannot describe.

It is a travesty when we as mothers, women, parents, and humans refuse to engage in patience, love, and creativity when raising our children. To refuse to transform and grow on behalf of the one who was God-given because you have plans to force them into a vision all your own is the definition of evil.

It requires a great deal of fear, bitterness, and selfishness to withhold love. I was withholding love from my daughter. She has literally changed me. I am a better mom because of her. I am a better woman because of her. And I thank God our worlds collided, and she won.

Hello. Terah here. I am a proud wife and mommy of three kids, two of which are on the Autism spectrum. As a freelance writer, recording artist and author, I share life stories in hopes to inspire and encourage others to want better in life.

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Editor’s note: Any medical advice presented here is expressly the views of the writer and Red Tricycle cannot verify any claims made. Please consult with your healthcare provider about what works best for you.

It’s that time of year again.  The leaves are changing, and everything is pumpkin spice. Unfortunately, it’s also report card season.

Now, some of you may be those rare exceptions that look forward to report cards showing up. However, most of us are filled with an increasing sense of dread. 

Report card season can also mean neuropsychological evaluations. With the first report card comes the first inklings of teacher concern regarding a child’s learning abilities. When kids start to struggle academically, it is very common for teachers to make referrals for psychological testing.

The assumption is that when a child struggles academically, they likely have a learning disability. In fact, 20% of American school children are classified as learning disabled. Thus, one in five children are said to have something inherently wrong with their ability to learn. 

The problem with this assumption is that a majority of American schoolchildren struggle academically. In fact, 60% of American students graduate below proficiency and less than 10% graduate at the advanced level in any academic subject. Education actually doesn’t work for most kids.

In light of the abysmal state of our educational system, it should come as no surprise that when some students fail, it is attributed to a medical cause like a learning disability. This medicalization of academic deficits has become an epidemic, with more and more children being referred for neuropsychological evaluations each year.

With such an epidemic, I feel it is important for parents to understand what these kinds of tests really mean. Psychological testing is presented in a very misleading way to the public and, unfortunately, parents rarely have the opportunity to hear a different perspective. So, as a learning and behavioral scientist who has been dramatically accelerating student achievement for twenty years, I am here to offer you an alternative perspective. 

Children are diagnosed with learning disabilities based on their performance on a battery of tests. In other words, a psychologist administers a set of assessments to the child and then makes interpretations about test performance. These interpretations typically involve making an assumption about the existence of inherent neurological dysfunction, which results in a diagnosis of some sort being provided—like dyslexia. In this way, the assumed learning disability is provided as an explanation for the child’s poor test performance. 

Now, let’s break down what actually occurs when a child is tested. A child is given a variety of tests. These tests actually measure a child’s behavior, or what they do when presented with test items. The only thing that is directly measured throughout the entire process is the child’s behavior. From that behavior, a psychologist makes an assumption about why they behaved that way during the test. This assumption almost always entails reference to inherent neurological issues. However, the child’s neurology has not been directly observed or measured at all. The only thing that has been directly observed and measured is the child’s behavior. Everything else the psychologist says about it is an assumption. 

Said another way, the psychologist makes a guess about the cause for poor test performance. This guess is misrepresented as a fact in the form of a diagnosis. However, that diagnosis is not a fact at all. It is just a name that has been used to describe the child’s performance on a set of tests. The diagnosis is then misrepresented as an explanation for test performance. Unfortunately, this diagnosis offers no explanation at all and leads to a vicious cycle of circular reasoning with no possibility for effective action

There are many reasons for poor reading performance that have absolutely nothing to do with neurological problems inherent to a child. For example, many poor readers have failed to master essential reading skills like identifying phonics sounds and decoding words fluently. Moreover, many children are actually trained to guess words using the first letter or context clues. As such, they get really good at word guessing and never learn to properly decode words. It is these skills deficits that actually explain the poor reading performance and it is only by providing a child the opportunity to master effective reading skills that reading performance can be improved. 

The assessments psychologists use during neuropsychological evaluations actually measure skills—skills that children must acquire via effective instruction. If children perform poorly on these assessments, it is most likely a result of skills deficits and those skills deficits are most likely a result of ineffective instruction. 

The tradition in American education involves advancing students ahead academically based on age and the passage of time rather than on mastery of skills. As such, a majority of American students are pushed ahead through a sequence of skills before they should be. The tragic result of this practice is that a majority of American students fail to acquire proficiency in any academic subject and 20% of those failures are attributed to learning disabilities.  However, actual neurological dysfunction represents less than 1% of the population of American children (Coles, 1987). In other words, children are being classified as learning disabled 20 times more than they should be. 

The bottom line is that educational practices are widely ineffective. Without true mastery of prerequisite skills, children cannot successfully acquire more advanced skills. When these failures are attributed to disabilities inherent to students, ineffective teaching practices remain unexamined and our ineffective educational system remains unchanged. 

If your child is struggling academically or they are referred for a neuropsychological evaluation, it is important to know that there is likely nothing wrong with your child. What is wrong is the manner in which your child is being instructed and the fact that they are not truly mastering skills before being pushed ahead. A majority of struggling students simply require the opportunity to practice essential academic skills to mastery. Neuropsychological evaluations often only lead to labels that become a life sentence for a child and excuse away tragically ineffective teaching practices. 

 

Kimberly Berens, Ph.D. is the Founder of Fit Learning and Regional Director of Fit Learning Tri-State. For 20 years, Dr. Berens and her team have been developing and refining a powerful system of instruction based on the learning, behavioral and cognitive sciences. This system consistently produces over one year’s growth in 40 hours of instruction.

We know how it goes: late at night when you can’t sleep or when you’ve got 5 minutes (locked in the bathroom) to yourself you turn to the world wide web for answers to the questions you’re too tired, busy, embarrassed or unable to ask another parent (because it’s, say, 2 a.m.). We’ve all been there, and we’ll be there again.

We polled our team of moms and parent-readers to tell us (anonymously) what’s in their browser history. Read on to see the topics.

Oh, and sorry moms. The answer to #42 is definitely no. 

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1. What color should my baby’s poop be?

2. Is bladder leakage normal?

3. Will I poop during delivery?

4. How much will I poop during delivery?

5. Postpartum weight loss tips.

6. Can I drink while pregnant?

7. Can I drink while breastfeeding?

8. How much can I drink while pregnant/breastfeeding?

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9. How to keep your kid from getting in your bed.

10. How to have quiet sex.

11. What to do if your kids see you having sex.

12. Should I have another baby?

13. Best meal delivery near me. 

14. How the hell do you potty train?

15. Increase sex drive. 

16. Lower sex drive. 

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17. Do nipples change color when you’re pregnant? 

18. Will my toddler ever sleep?

19. Airplane hacks for one-year-old so passengers around you don't freak. 

20. Are crayons non-toxic?

21. My kid ate cat poop. What should I do? 

22. Early signs of dyslexia.

23. Early signs of autism.

24. Early signs of pregnancy. 

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25. How do I stop peeing when I sneeze?

26. How do I help my baby to sleep through the night?

27. Is sleep training good or bad?

28. Is stuttering normal? 

29. Is the oedipus thing real? 

30. How to tell my mother-in-law we aren’t going to church.

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31. Can I bring my kids to a wedding if they aren’t on the invite?

32. Should I bring my kids to a party?  

33. What if my dog/cat drank my breastmilk? 

34. Research on only children.

35. Do babies get erections?

36. Does my kid have ADHD? 

37. Does my husband have ADHD?

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38. What if my baby was born without teeth?

39. How many times can my baby hit his head in a day? 

40. Does my baby need a helmet? 

41. Will my kid always be clumsy?

42. Will my boobs ever look the same?

43. Will I always have an outie belly button after kids?

44. What do I do if my toddler eats a sticker/bug/soap/lotion/leaf/dirt?

45. How to get permanent marker off a toddler’s face.

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46. Are all toddlers this active?

47. Kid-friendly bars/kid-friendly breweries/where can I drink and bring my kids?

48. How do you wean your kid from a pacifier?

49. Can screentime hurt my kid?

50. What does labor feel like?

51. What’s the difference between labor and braxton hicks contractions?

52. Am I in labor? 

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53. Do kids grow out of food allergies?

54. Did I cause my kid's allergies?

55. Things to bring for show & tell.

56. Things to bring for show & tell that start with a W/X/Y/Z.

57. Why won't my [insert age of child] year-old listen to me? 

58. Can I send my kid to school sick?

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Getting out the door in the morning is hard enough—but it’s even harder if you’ve got a school-aged child who wants to be anywhere but the classroom. So what’s a parent to do? Whether your little student is struggling in the classroom or having trouble with bullying during recess, there are things you can do to help make the school day better. We had a few experts weigh in on the subject, keep reading to see what they had to say.

First: Figure Out Where the Problem Is

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Unless you've got that unicorn-of-a-child who actually tells you everything about her school day, getting kids to give you the lowdown on their weekday world usually takes prodding. So, instead of asking, "How was your day?" try asking more specific questions:   

- Who (and what) did you play with at recess

- Who did you sit next to at lunch?

- Who do you like the most in the classroom?

- What do you like best about your teacher? What are some of your teacher's rules

- Who was your best friend today? Who would you like to become friends with (and why)?

- What was the hardest thing about today? The easiest? 

- Did you raise your hand and answer any questions? Why or why not?

Then ask the counter-questions: Who don't you play with? Who don't you like? What don't you like about the teacher? Was there anything you didn't understand? 

Start to notice any patterns. Does your child seem to have a best friend? A lot of friends? No friends? Does your child seem comfortable speaking in class? Is she understanding the work? What is she liking (and not liking) about her school day? Once you understand a little more about what's happening during the school day, you can start to tackle any issues head-on. 

Understand How Your Child Learns

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Some kids who consistently struggle in school have what doctors call a "learning difference" (as opposed to a learning disability), according to this Spoke article. These kids are actually very smart, yet struggle to learn core subjects like reading, spelling and math simply because they learn in a different way—or at a different pace—than their peers.

"Unfortunately, their lack of success with learning makes them feel bad about themselves and can affect their desire to learn," write Dr. Deborah Ross-Swain and Dr. Elaine Fogel Schneider. "When children face daily tasks or situations in which they consistently fail, they will feel defeated, frustrated, sad and anxious. Constant academic struggles and lack of success are huge robbers of confidence and joy in bright children with learning differences."

The best thing a parent can do is to validate the child's learning process—and work with it. 

"Frequently they hear: “You need to try harder;” or “You need to listen better;” or “You have a bad attitude,” the doctors wrote. "Comments like these from parents and teachers only make them feel worse. They also act as confidence and joy robbers." 

For more tips on how to help kids who are learning different, see the Spoke article here

Develop a Relationship with Your Child's Teacher

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Not every parent can find time to volunteer weekly in the classroom or take on the role of Class Mom. But do what you can to get involved—whether it's joining the PTA, volunteering for special events or simply being there to help with homework or studying. And, most importantly, develop a relationship with your child's teacher. 

"You want to meet the teacher. You want to have them know who you are," says Janet Lehman, a Florida social worker, who is the co-creator of The Total Transformation program, an e-workshop that helps parents take control of their children's behavior. "Even if you’re not having any trouble at all, you want the teacher to know that school is important to you."   

Talk to the Teacher in Charge of Lunch and Recess
Your child's primary teacher isn't necessarily the same person who's overseeing lunch and recess (when the veritable jungle of social hierarchies will be established for your kids). Find out which teacher oversees these important social times and set up a time to chat. Then, ask them about how your child is doing. Does she sit with the same kids during lunch? Does she seem happy and involved during recess? If the teacher isn't sure, then ask them to keep an eye out and to report back with you.

Check with Your Pediatrician

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Sometimes, kids have trouble at school because they're having trouble seeing the whiteboard or hearing the teacher's directions. It's best to rule out any medical reasons your child might be struggling in the classroom. Your pediatrician can also guide you in the right direction if she thinks your child should be assessed for learning disabilities including ADHD or dyslexia. Just make sure you're honest with your doctor about your concerns so she knows what to look for when she examines your child.

Keep in mind, if any sort of learning disability is suspected, your child has a legal right to school-provided services and/or special accommodations. (Read this article from Understood.org to better understand how Individualized Education Plans (IEPs) and 504 Special Education Plans can help your child.) 

Have a Tranquil Space Set Up for Homework

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Don't expect your child to breeze through homework if the only place she has to study is the kitchen table (while you cook dinner and your other kids watch Wild Kratts.) Set up an inviting study space for your kids and they'll have an easier time settling into their work. Need some ideas? Check out our favorites here

But Be There to Help Out  
While it's easy to send your child to her room with the instructions of "Come out when her homework is finished," helping your kids with their homework—or at least being in the same room while they're working—shows your child that you care about her success at school. It also helps you see where your child might be struggling and where you might need to help even more. "I know, it's exhausting. You have no time for yourself," Lehman said. "But that's part of the sacrifice we go through as parents." See more tips on how to make homework fun here

Ease Up on After-School Activities

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Does your kid rush from school to baseball to piano lessons to swimming ... all before heading home for dinner, homework and family time? Then, Lehman says, it may be time to ease up on the recreational activities.

"Activities are terrific," she said. "But if there are academic problems, you don't want them falling so far behind or being so physically exhausted that they can’t focus on homework."

How do you know when it's too much? It's simple: If sleep, relationships, or schoolwork is suffering, your child may be overscheduled. "If you feel like, academically, your kids are having difficulties, then as a parent you have to be able to say, 'OK, we're not going to be doing swimming this year,'" Lehman said. 

Make a Time Management Chart 

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Organizational skills don't come naturally for most kids, even when it comes to the little things they have to do at home (dinner, homework, teeth-brushing, etc.) So teach your kids how to make a time management chart by visually mapping out every minute of your after-school schedule. This way, it's easier for them to set aside time for homework—and get it done! Some kids love a checklist, so try leaving boxes for them to X out when each task is completed. 

"Hang it on the back of their door, in their bedroom, in the kitchen," Lehman said. "It teaches them to have some patience. They have a schedule. They’re going to need to learn that, say, between 5 and 6 that is for free time and they need to do their homework first."

Not sure where to start? Check out this genius after-school time management hack to keep kids organized. 

Set Up Play Dates to Help Build Friendships

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So what if your kid is doing great in school but seems to have trouble making (or keeping) friends? Well, then, it's time to pull out the class directory and start setting up some play dates. Many kids are more comfortable in these sorts of one-on-one situations, Lehman said, and building friendships outside of school can carry those connections (and subsequent confidence!) into the classroom.

If your child is having trouble with her social skills, make sure he knows that this is a normal battle even grown-ups face. "Socializing is hard for everybody, not just children," Lehman said. "Adults have a hard time socializing with each other, too." If, however, socializing is causing severe anxiety for your child, it may be helpful to take your child to a counselor or social skills group to find ways to ease that anxiety.

If Your Child Is Being Bullied
Most schools take the issue of bullying very seriously, so the first inkling you have that your child may be getting bullied—even if you think it may just be a little playful teasing—bring the issue up with child's teacher. If the issues persist, take them to the principal. And remember that bullying doesn't always happen in the schoolyard. Online bullying can be equally traumatizing.

Read this article to learn some important warning signs that your child may be being bullied—and how you can help.

Don't Dismiss Your Child's  Anxieties

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Of course, a child who is having trouble in school often struggles at home, too. This means, for instance, homework sessions may come to explosive ends, with heated emotions or frustrated declarations of "I give up!" or "I can't do it!"  And while a parent's first instinct might be to reassure kids or push to them to get back on track, it's just as important to validate their frustrations and just let them vent.

"Parents are tired at the end of the day, sometimes they don’t feel like dealing with problems the kids are having and they kind of blame the kid, and say, ' Why can’t you do this?' But it’s really important to be as patient as you can." says Lehman.

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Encouraging kids with dyslexia to foster a love of reading can be challenging. Discovering the magical world of Harry Potter can be a great way to develop a passion for books. Thanks these dyslexia friendly Harry Potter books a whole new world is waiting.

Book publisher Bloomsbury is making the Wizarding World a little more accessible with three new dyslexia editions of books in the extended Potter-verse. Fantastic Beasts and Where to Find ThemQuidditch Through the Ages and The Tales of Beedle the Bard have each gotten new editions published with enlarged fonts on tinted paper for glare reduction and maximum contrast.

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All three books have won approval by the Royal National Institute of Blind People (RNIB). A spokesperson for RNIB said in a statement, “We hope that these projects will encourage other publishers to follow in their footsteps and expand the market of accessible and inclusive books.”

Bloomsbury plans to publish other Harry Potter titles in the same format soon. As of now, the books are only available in the United Kingdom, but here’s hoping they will be available in the United States soon, too.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

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Growing up with a learning disability—or parenting a child with one—can be very challenging. One young girl’s clever poem about dyslexia perfectly captures what it’s like.

Teacher Jane Broadis took to Twitter to share a poem written by her 10-year-old student diagnosed with dyslexia. The poem instantly gained praise for its powerful message and for the clever way it was written as a reverse poem meant to be read forwards and then backwards again, giving it new meaning.

The poem reads:

DYSLEXIA

I am stupid.

Nobody would ever say

I have a talent for words

I was meant to be great.

That is wrong.

I am a failure.

Nobody could ever convince me to think that

I can make it in life.

NOW READ UP ↑↑ 😁

Yeah, we need to go grab a tissue, too!

Many Twitter users also commended Broadis on being an excellent teacher and her humbling reply: “It is a privilege to help find, nurture and celebrate the talents of children” as proof the world needs more teachers—and kids—like these two.

—Shahrzad Warkentin

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