We promise you can put these into practice even when you have zero energy

If there’s one thing that’s true about being a parent, it’s that there will always be seasons of chaos—and exhaustion and tantrums and monotony and all kinds of other things that can make you feel disconnected from your partner. If you’re looking for a way to reinforce that bond, despite all the barriers of everyday life, Vanessa Marin, a sex therapist on TikTok, has some easy tips that you’ll want to try ASAP.

In one of her videos, Marin offers four ways parents can reconnect with their partner, even when they’re totally worn out from the daily rigors of raising a new generation of humans.

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As life brings seasons of chaos and inconsistency, it’s easy to let our relationships fall to the bottom of our priority list. The simplest acts can make the biggest difference! #connection #longtermrelationships #communication #ignitethespark #feelingloved #intimacy #creatememories #trysomethingnew #phonefree Tips for couples Feeling connected Relationship and Marriage 101

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“Here are four simple things you can do to feel more connected to your partner,” she begins her video. “I’ll give you a little two-for-one with the first tip.”

The first tip is this: a six-second kiss or a 30-second hug, your choice.

Non-sexual physical intimacy can be a game-changer, especially when you’re feeling disconnected, and research has shown that these two forms are especially effective.”

The second tip?

“Do something new together,” she says. “Our brains light up when we do new things and it creates that sense of closeness and bonding with our partner. It doesn’t need to be anything complicated, either. Go to a new park or a new coffee shop that you’ve never been to.”

Brace yourselves for this next tip: phone-free time.

“Let’s be honest,” Marin says. “Our phones are addicting and distracting.” Truth.

She concludes her video, “And finally, reminisce. Talk about some of your favorite memories together. Your first date, your engagement, your wedding. When life gets busy, it’s so easy to forget about those special moments that helped us feel connected in the first place.”

There you have it! Even after a long day chasing after kids, these practices are totally doable—and worth it.

Everyone becomes a nature lover in the fall, and with good reason! Not too hot, not too cold (yet), the leaves are putting on a show, and we’re more than a little obsessed with the smell of cozy fireplaces. While we’re all for a good old-fashioned walk around the block or trip to the park, we also love the idea of these goodies your favorite nature-loving littles will adore, while learning new ways to appreciate the great outdoors!


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Giddy Buggy Bug House

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Encourage your littles 3 years and up to explore the world around them with this super cute Giddy Buggy Bug House! Featuring the beloved Giddy Buggy, this well-ventilated bug house is perfect for gathering and observing safe insects before releasing them back outside. The easy access door fits tiny hands with ease and the mesh construction makes it easy for taking a closer look at creepy-crawlies and flappy-fliers!


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Patio Playhouse with Canopy

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This one takes the classic playhouse to the next level! The pavilion-style patio playhouse lets kiddos host their own outdoor party for multiple friends, thanks to the spacious interior. They'll get the full experience with the grilling and snacking stations, and the water and sand features give everyone something to do! (BONUS: When playtime is over, stash the included accessories in the mesh bag and add the cover to the sand and water table to keep it fresh for next time!)


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The Magic School Bus Explore the Wonders of Nature Kit

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This fully-packed nature kit was developed by a team of Harvard graduates, scientists, and educators! Join Ms. Frizzle's class on the Magic School Bus and cast an animal track, explore leaves, create a paper mache ant, and more. Kiddos will feel like real scientists as they create hypothesis and conduct experiments using the included STEM supplies and common household items!


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Natural Historian Wooden Camera

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Even if they're not quite ready for the real thing, little ones will learn to stop and enjoy nature's beauty with this Natural Historian Wood Camera Play Set! Just like the real thing, it comes with a carrying strap and three interchangeable lenses - green, clear, and kaleidoscope. Peek through the back of the camera to "capture" the subject unaltered, or use one of the lenses to add a fun effect. It's also durable, so it'll withstand a few bumps and bangs as they race up the trail to get the perfect shot!


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Cutie Pie Butterfly Binoculars

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Hone their observation skills with these cheerful butterfly binoculars! Easy to use and adjustable, they'll never want to leave the house without them. These cuties are also available in blue, so grab one of each so everyone can participate!


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Do It Yourself Space Immersion Kaleidoscope

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Engineering and nature come together with this DIY Space Kaleidoscope Kit! Young learners will use the included instructions to create their own space-themed kaleidoscope, polishing up those fine motor skills and fostering both independence and an appreciation of the cosmos!


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Grow a Milkweed Activity Kit

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We think gardening is a great way to for our littles to get their hands dirty and feel connected to the earth, so we had to include this Grow a Milkweed Tropical Asclepias Activity Kit! If you don't know what a Milkweed Tropical Asclepias is (don't worry; we didn't, either!), it's a gorgeous bright plant native to the Brazilian rainforest and this kit contains the seeds and supplies to grow their own. While they wait, they can study up on the included book to learn all about life in the jungle!


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Let's Explore Indoor/Outdoor Scavenger Hunt Play Set

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With 160 things to find, this scavenger hunt will keep them up and active while they lean into their curiosity! This kit also includes spacious totes for gathering their findings and a 10 minute timer, so you can snag everything you need and head to the park, the backyard, the nature trail, or the playground!

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What makes for good sibling names? Names you love, of course. And beyond that, the names should feel connected but still unique. Whether you’re choosing retro baby names, gender-neutral names or names inspired by your favorite songs, it’s helpful to think about how the names will work together. You may still end up calling your kids “Mi–, I mean Al–, whatever your name is!” But officially, they’ll have names that sound good together.

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Sibling Name Inspo

Name Origins
Whether you want to give your children names that reflect your Irish heritage (Aidan, Kiera) or refer back to your favorite books (Anaïs, Ellison), choosing a specific theme can cut way down on naming indecision. Other popular sources: Biblical names, historical names or nature-inspired names.

Similar Sounds
You don’t need to look further than the Kardashians for an example of sibling names that sound alike, thanks to sharing the same first letter. But that’s not the only way to choose complementary sounding names. Consider names that all end with the same letter (Ella, Ava) or have the same number of syllables (Max, Kirk).

Unisex Names
Choosing gender-neutral names like Jordan and Alex opens up naming possibilities when more kids come along. The names can be very different but will still have a common connecting theme.

Going Big with Middle Names
Pairing a traditional first name with a funkier middle name gives your child a cool gift without them having to spell or explain their first name to everyone they meet.

Maiden Names
Use a maiden name (yours or a beloved family member’s) as a child’s first name for a special way to honor your family heritage. These names naturally skew gender-neutral so they’ll be especially in style right now.

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Celebrity Children’s Names

Celebrities are known for choosing creative baby names, but some of them skew traditional as well. Read on for celeb sibling names to inspire you for your own family.

Jaden, Willow & Trey Smith
Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith’s two kids have names that are variations of their own names. Will’s eldest son was named after himself, Willard Carroll Smith III, but is called Trey, since he’s the third with that full name.

Nevada, Griffin, Xavier, Kai, Saxon, Damian, X & Exa Musk
Elon Musk’s kids (the first six with ex-wife Justine Wilson; the last two with Grimes) have names that span from the traditional to the unique.

Honor, Haven & Hayes Warren
Jessica Alba and husband Cash Warren chose names that start with the same letter and have the same number of syllables.

Story, Bella & River Jeter
Derek Jeter and wife Hannah Davis Jeter chose two-syllable names for their kids. Two have unisex names, while the third is more feminine.

Drake, Crew, Duke, Emmie & Ella Gaines
Chip and Joanna Gaines went with one-syllable names for their sons and two-syllable names for their daughters. They broke their tradition of D names for the boys with their last born, Crew, but single-syllable names still work well together.

Zoe Kravitz, Lola & Nakoa-Wolf Momoa
Lisa Bonet’s daughter with Lenny Kravitz and two kids with Jason Momoa share an “o” sound in their names that gives them unity.

Poppy, Petal, Daisy, River & Buddy Oliver
Famed British chef Jamie Oliver and wife Jules Norton chose whimsical two-syllable first names for their five kids.

Hazel & Violet Krasinski
Emily Blunt and John Krasinski picked old-fashioned names for their girls, giving them names with a similar retro vibe.

Delta & Lincoln Shepard
Kristen Bell and Dax Shepard chose less common names for their daughters, but they share two syllables. For a middle name, both girls share Kristen’s last name: Bell.

River & Remington Blackstock
Kelly Clarkson’s kids with Brandon Blackstock share the same first letter in their names.

Ireland, Carmen, Rafael, Leonardo, Romeo, Eduardo & Lucia Baldwin
Hilaria and Alec Baldwin’s kids all have Spanish-sounding names, while his oldest daughter, with Kim Basinger, is named for a different country.

Kingston, Zuma & Apollo Rossdale
Gwen Stefani and Gavin Rossdale chose rocker-chic names for their three boys. Two are place names, while the last is the name of a Greek god.

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Is there anything better than watching your favorite movies? Immersing yourself in those unique stories that make you double over with laughter, blubber like a baby, shriek in terror, or think of the world in a whole new way? The brand-new Academy Museum of Motion Pictures celebrates everything we love about cinema. With a dynamic array of exhibitions, interactive experiences, screenings and programs, the museum not only features an extensive look at the history of movies, but also hopes to inspire the next generation of filmmakers. Every exhibit is captivating in its own right, but here are some must-sees that will definitely excite kids at LA's newest museum.

Kids Will Love These Exhibits at the Academy Museum

Temporary Exhibit: Hayao Miyazaki

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The Hayao Miyazaki exhibition marks the first North American museum retrospective dedicated to this internationally beloved filmmaker whose animated movies have inspired all ages for over 50 years. The ethereal “Mother Tree” near the front of the exhibit instantly transports you into the magical mind of Miyazaki while "the retrospective incorporates all of Miyazaki’s animated feature films—like My Neighbor Totoro (1988) to the mystical, Academy Award®-winning Spirited Away (2001)—into a series of immersive environments that offer a journey both educational and experiential." The Hayao Miyazaki exhibition runs until Jun. 5, 2022.

The Pixar Toy Story 3D Zoetrope

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A must-stop for anyone with kids in tow is The Pixar Toy Story 3D Zoetrope. This thrilling installation features 214 maquettes, bringing your favorite Toy Story characters to life. Don't be surprised if your littles beg to watch the vibrant display over and over as Buzz Lightyear, Woody, Jessie and the rest of the gang whirl around, literally creating quite a show.

The Art of Moviemaking Gallery

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Wizard of Oz fans will fall in love with The Art of Moviemaking Gallery where Judy Garland’s famous ruby red slippers are on display (this is the actual pair she clicked together at the end of the film to return home to Kansas). This stunning exhibit also does a deep dive into the backstory and the craft of making the Wizard of Oz, featuring other prominent wardrobe pieces from the movie including Dorothy’s checkered dresses and the Cowardly Lion’s mane.

The Encounters Gallery

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The Encounters Gallery pays tribute to some of the most iconic characters in movie history. Parents and kiddos will undoubtedly geek out over getting to see R2-D2, C-3P0, E.T. and Okoye’s outfit from Black Panther up close, among other extra special items on display.

The Identity Gallery

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In the Identity Gallery, the Academy honors talented costume designers, hairstylists, and make-up artists. Guests have a rare opportunity to learn more about these intricate art forms that help transform actors into dazzling characters.

Dolby Family Terrace

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No visit to the museum would be complete without heading upstairs to the Dolby Family Terrace. This stunning glass dome features one of the best city views we’ve ever laid eyes upon–with completely unobstructed views of La La Land. So very meta.

 

Interactive Experiences & Programs for Kids

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The Oscars Experience simulates a thrilling walk onto the Dolby stage to accept an Oscar. It costs a little extra and requires a separate ticket, but we think it’s well worth it. Children are welcome to participate, but kids under 13 must be accompanied by an adult. Also, depending on their height, little ones may need an extra boost when accepting their Academy Award. A video captures your star-making moment and is then sent to your email to share with friends and family on social media.

Regarding future interactive experiences at the Academy Museum, Senior Director of Education and Public Engagement, Amy Homma says, “We will be offering programs where learners of all ages can feel connected to the art and history of film. Accessibility is at the heart of our efforts, and we want to make sure that little ones, caregivers, families, and folks of all abilities and interests have interactive ways to get connected to filmmaking.”

While the Academy Museum is starting small in to ensure best practices around their COVID-19 policies, Homma adds, “Our education studio is built to mirror a real working film artist’s studio and we will have plenty of interactive, skill-building workshops and classes in the future spanning all crafts, including production design, costume design and so much more.”

Family Matinees

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Every Sat. at 11 a.m., the Academy Museum hosts family matinees that are rated G or PG, unless otherwise noted. Certain months will have themes, for example  Oct. features are focused on Halloween, while November will highlight Indigenous stories by Indigenous and Native filmmakers. Homma says, “Bernardo Rondeau, Senior Director of Film Programs, is so thoughtfully curating the line-up of family matinees. I especially love that he is programming from an international lens, crossing genres, and including films from all decades of film history. These are a great way to start introducing little ones to films that might even be new to us.”

Where to Eat at the Academy Museum

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Fanny’s, named after Fanny Brice—the legendary movie, vaudeville, theater, and radio star portrayed by Barbra Streisand in her Oscar®-winning role in Funny Girl (1968)—is the Academy Museum’s restaurant and café and oozes old Hollywood vibes at every turn. With a lovely art deco bar and lounge, along with the restaurant and patio, Fanny’s serves up breakfast, lunch and dinner seven days a week. And during the day you can expect to find pastries and espresso for all those mid-morning and mid-afternoon pick-me-ups. In the coming months, they plan to expand their current menu to feature more kid-friendly offerings.

Academy Museum Store

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Before you head home for the day, pay a visit to the Academy Museum Store where an exclusive selection of movie merchandise and Academy Museum branded treasures are available for purchase. From Oscars memorabilia and t-shirts to movie books and toys, the shop is a great place to pick up a little something for yourself or maybe even a gift for the upcoming holiday season.

Tickets: Advanced timed tickets are required and must be booked online. Free general admission for guests aged 17 and under is provided by a grant in honor of Sid Ganis. Adults are $25, Seniors (aged 62 and up) are $19 and college students are $15. The Oscars Experience is an additional cost of $15 per person ages 13 and up.

Hours: Open 7 days per week, 365 days a year. Sun.-Thurs. 10 a.m.-6 p.m. and Fri.-Sat. 10 a.m.-8 p.m.

COVID Policy: Proof of vaccination or a negative COVID-19 PCR test taken up to 72 hours prior to arrival is required for guests aged 12 and up. Masks are required in all public spaces throughout the museum.

Also Worth Noting: Photos are welcome throughout the museum except where noted. All large backpacks and large purses (anything above 15 x 12 x 4 in.) must be checked at the coat check in the lower lobby.

Academy Museum of Motion Pictures
6067 Wilshire Blvd.
Los Angeles
Online: academymuseum.org

—Jennifer O’Brien

Pro Tip: If the kids still have energy—they can always run around the grounds outside the museum and LACMA which is right next door.

 

feature image: Joshua White via The Academy Museum Foundation

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If balancing kids, career and home has you wearing too many hats (or a superhero cape!), we feel you. When it comes to doing it all, there’s one thing Seattle parents need (no, not donuts)—more time. Enter Yohana, the new wellness company that’s helping Seattle parents lighten the load by doing some of the heavy lifting. Read on to find out more.

A Mom-Owned Wellness Company

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Yohana is the brainchild of Yoky Matsuoka, mom to four, former endowed UW professor and MacArthur Genius Grant winner (she won it while raising three kids under four!). Matsuoka left Seattle for the Silicon Valley where she worked at Google, Nest and Apple before taking on her current role as the Managing Executive Officer at Panasonic. In each step of her career, she’s had to juggle a young family, managing a household and a demanding career. And at each step along the way, Matsuoka’s had her eye on the way technology can help people be the best versions of themselves and live happier, healthier lives. Yohana is the reality of that vision. It’s her hope that for parents (moms especially) Yohana allows them to be present for the moments that matter most.

Yohana Membership

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The Yohana Membership launched in Seattle on September 9 and has been connecting parent users to Yo Assistants ever since. The Yohana Membership has three elements: the Yo Assistant, the Yohana App and the AI behind it all. It’s this trifecta that sets Yohana’s personal assistant services apart. While it’s run through an app, there’s a real person on the other end that helps parents get through that ever-growing to-do list.

Here’s How it Works

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Yo Assistants Tackle Your To-Do List
That always-expanding to-do list you’ve got on your phone or sitting on your counter (or maybe in your head)? Yohana lets parents finally take it on once you’re connected to your Yo Assistant. They can help you get your gutters cleaned, order snacks for soccer practice, find that just-right gift for your long-lost aunt, plan your kiddo’s upcoming birthday party, even coordinate a post-pandemic get together at Discovery Park. They can even help you find a babysitter or a nanny. And while we’re pretty sure they’re not sorcerers, one by one, you and your Yo Assistant will magically get things done. So rather than putting off researching Seattle gymnastics classes because you'd rather play games with the kids on a Friday night, you can do both. 

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Yo Assistants & the Tech at Their Fingertips
So who are these assistants ready to become your new right-hand people? Many are former personal assistants, executive admins, event planners and project managers. They’re also super tech savvy, and they go through an interview and training process before becoming part of the Yohana team. For each task they get from you, they’ve got tech-enabled resources that help them get things just the way you want them.

Let’s say you want your Yo Assistant to plan your kiddo’s birthday party. Using the AI-assisted tech, assistants can figure out not only what your family likes (and dislikes) but also what’s popular for parties, what kids of certain ages like, what’s trending in Seattle and more. As Matsuoka explains, this AI aspect is what really makes them unique; they’ve done this (literally) thousands of times. And working with your assistant is like chatting with a friend, so parents can still feel connected to the everyday without having to manage everything.

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Managing Your Workload
While some Yo Assistant tasks are simple, like coordinating snack for preschool next week, others can be more complicated, like planning a weekend getaway with the kids. In this case, Yo Assistants make proposals for parents. They’ll give you easy-to-understand options to choose from, with personal comments about why they're recommending something. From there, make your selection and voila, your once overwhelming task is done.

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The Yohana App
Most of your interaction with your Yo Assistant is through the Yohana App. And it makes things easy because you can assign out tasks from pretty much anywhere. So when you remember that you need to schedule doctors' appointments for the kids in the middle of the grocery store or during an online meeting, you can pull up the app and get it done. But don’t worry, if you’ve got more complex things on your list, it’s possible to connect over the phone.

Cost: $149/month, unlimited to-dos (Seattle-area members get the first two months of service for the price of one).

Online: yohana.com

—Allison Sutcliffe

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Even during a regular year, the end of summer and beginning of fall marks a big transition for a lot of families. Back to school is a big shift with routine changes and social-emotional adjustments. But this year, the back-to-school transition feels especially big. Our kids have been through so many wild changes, uncomfortable adjustments and uncharted territory—and so have we!

Given the inequities in access to education that surfaced over the past year and a half, many parents are also worried their children have fallen behind their peers. Whether your family has dealt with online learning from home, hybrid classes, a pod set up, going to school in a mask or all of the above, you’ve been through a seemingly constant stream of changes and adjustments. As fall approaches, we know they (and you!) may have some extra back-to-school jitters this year. We’re here to help!

We believe two of the biggest supports for creating back-to-school stress relief are connection and routine.

Building Connections

We can teach our little ones that they are always held in a wide net of loving community connection, even when their loved ones are far away. As our kids embark on a new school year, reminders that they are always loved and supported no matter where they are empowers them to feel excited about creating relationships with new peers and teachers. This can greatly help to ease separation anxiety.

Talking with kids about upcoming changes and giving them a chance to get the details and ask questions is a great way to feel connected and soothe back-to-school stress. In these conversations we can help them remember that their Heart Family, just like Otter’s, is always with them. As we talk with them and help them prepare their backpacks and other items for school, we can remind them that our love and connection travels with them, too.

Roleplaying scenarios like walking out the door, getting on the bus, and entering the school or classroom can be a great way for parents to help kids feel ready, and if they know they’re not just carrying their lunch and school supplies but also the love of their family and community, they’ll feel that much more courageous and secure.

Fostering Routines

Being prepared and establishing routines gives us another way to support our kids as they get ready for the back-to-school transition. We can support our kids through their big transitions by giving them predictability in their home routines, such as having dinner together, packing up their backpack for the next day, and preparing for bed. Having routines at home also supports our kids in understanding and practicing routines at school, as well.

We encourage you to come up with a unique way of sending off your little one before their big day. This special goodbye ritual can be another part of the routines that you create together. Is it a fist bump and a silly face? A big squeeze and a nose nuzzle? Get creative and make it yours, together!

Many teachers agree that school readiness is mostly based on social-emotional skills and less so on academic skills. When our kids have the emotional support and skills to cope with big feelings and big changes, they are well prepared to learn at school.

To help with building connections and routine, Slumberkins has two stories that can help kids: The first is about Otter who helps teach our little ones that they are always loved and supported no matter where they are. This reassurance helps to ease separation anxiety. The second is Sloth’s story that helps children practice routines to calm their bodies and minds. By embracing structure with Sloth, our kids learn to take on new challenges and cope with new experiences.

We hope Otter and Sloth can help your family create some back-to-school stress relief through the power of connection and routine! Whatever fall brings for you, we hope to support you through this upcoming transition.

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Kelly Oriard & Callie Christensen
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

Kelly Oriard and Callie Christensen are co-founders of Slumberkins, a children's brand supporting social-emotional learning for children. Kelly has a dual master's degree in family therapy and school counseling, and Callie has a master's degree in teaching. Both are passionate about teaching children social-emotional skills to thrive in our modern world. 

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We’ve all become experts at enjoying outside activities this past year. And Big Bear Lake has no shortage of incredible family adventures to be had in the great outdoors. From camping to hiking, biking to kayaking, families can easily find their niche in this beautiful Southern California mountain lake escape. Located in the San Bernardino National Forest, this four-season recreation hub is a must-visit spot for SoCal families (or anyone who is looking for a rejuvenating getaway out west!). Here’s why:

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1. It’s a Quick Trip from LA, But Feels Worlds Away

Peace out, traffic. Buh-bye, schedules. Big Bear Lake’s breathtaking mountains are a much-needed escape from the hustle and bustle of city and suburban life. In just 2-3 hours, you’ll be far from the LA metropolis. Whether you’re here for a weekend or a longer stay, there’s nothing better than packing up the car in the morning and officially being on vacation by lunchtime. Parents and kids will feel connected to nature and totally disconnected from the daily grind. 

2. There’s Snow in the Winter

Southern California residents love an occasional snow experience. At Big Bear, winter brings all the things you definitely don’t see every day—snowfall, skiing, snowboarding, tubing, and plenty more cold-weather fun. Get your lift tickets and hit the slopes all day. Explore the valley’s stunning landscape via a snowshoe tour with Action Tours or the Big Bear Discovery Center. Check out Big Bear Snow Play for fun family tubing (day or night!). And as Anna always asks, “Do you want to build a snowman?” Of course, your beach baby does! 

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3. You Can Truly Experience Lake Life with Watersports

Days spent on the lake are a must in summertime. Big Bear has six full-service marinas—perfect spots to head out on a pontoon boat, kayak, jet ski or stand-up paddleboard. Thrill-seekers will love the adrenaline rush of wakeboarding or tubing around the lake. And for fishing adventures, book a charter to reel in a variety of local fish. Stop at Big Bear Sporting Goods for everything you need to set out on the lake. And for a different viewpoint, discover the scene from ziplines or segways.

4. There’s One of the Only Alpine Zoos in the U.S.

The Big Bear Alpine Zoo is an incredible place to meet some of the area’s “wild” residents. This rehab facility brings injured, imprinted and orphaned animals into a safe haven to heal or stay permanently if they aren’t able to survive in their natural habitat. (FYI: 90% of the animals brought to the Zoo are successfully released!) Book a guided tour and be sure to catch an "Animal of the Day" or Behavioral Enrichment presentation. Kids and grownups alike will be fascinated by watching the zoo’s animal keepers encourage these resilient animals to thrive. 

5. It’s a Hiker’s Happy Place

From paved turf to rocky terrain—and everything in between—there are tons of hiking trails throughout the area. Get the lay of the land from the staff at the Big Bear Visitors Center. They’ll provide a map and great recommendations on choosing a trail. Take in all the surrounding beauty—rocks, towering trees, wildlife, and of course, the majestic mountain views. Hiking with littles? This is a great blog post on must-see spots from a local mom. For those who enjoy camping, there are awesome spots to pitch a tent and make s’mores, too. (And who can pass up a toasty marshmallow under the stars?) 

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—Jessica Solloway

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The pursuit of balance is a neverending one for all moms, but it’s especially tricky for working moms. As a working mom, you know all too well the struggles and pressure that come with succeeding at work and at home.

Since 81.2% of mothers with kids aged 6—17 work full-time, many women struggle to balance family and work. It’s no wonder that, between work and family duties, working moms actually clock 98 hours of work a week. Even if you try to carve out time to connect with your kids, emails from work and anxiety about the workweek make it tough to enjoy this limited time with your kiddos.

Your family is starved for connection, but in a world where you have to give so much of yourself at work, it’s tough finding the time to be present with your kids. Instead of beating yourself up or thinking you’re a bad mom (you’re a great mom!), remember that you’re human. Try these 5 tips to be more present with your kids, enjoy more quality time, and pursue a work-life balance.

1. Put the Devices Down
I know, I know. It feels physically painful to mute work notifications or place your phone in another room. But if you want to be present with your kids, you need time away from your devices.

Just set aside 1-2 hours in the evening where you aren’t checking your phone. You’ll be amazed at how much time you can recover without the constant distractions! Device-free time also shows your kids that you don’t need to be glued to your phone 24/7. If you want your kiddos to spend less time in front of a screen, this tip will help you lead by example.

2. Prioritize 
The word “priority” is singular—that means you can only have one “most important thing” on your plate at a time. Trying to juggle work priorities and home priorities is just setting you up for failure and mom guilt!

Do you really need to answer that work email at the dinner table? It feels easier to just deal with work emails immediately as they come in so you don’t have to worry about them all night. But are low-value tasks worth sacrificing precious time with your family? Try to prioritize what needs your immediate attention. Unless a catastrophe is happening at work, get back to your email during regular working hours. Show your kids how important they are by making them your priority when you’re at home.

3. Schedule Regular Family Time
Sure, a schedule might take some of the spontaneity out of family time, but if you’re struggling to spend time with your kids, a schedule is a must!

You don’t need to play Monopoly with your kids every night. Just try to carve out scheduled family time once a week. That might mean doing Saturday family movie nights or going to the park on Tuesdays after dinner. It doesn’t have to be anything big—as long as you and your kids are spending time together, that’s what matters.

4. Eat Together
Hey, sometimes you’re going to grab Happy Meals on the way to soccer practice, inhaling a burger while you’re stuck in traffic. It happens. But if you’re at home with the kids, make it a point to eat dinner together at the table.

Eating dinner as a family leads to more emotionally resilient children and can even improve your kids’ performance in school. Just 30 minutes at the table together gives everyone a chance to talk about their day; it’s the perfect way to stay on top of what’s going on in your kids’ lives. And guess what? You don’t need to put together a gourmet home-cooked meal, either. Feel free to keep dinner simple, involve kids in the cooking, or pick up dinner on your way home. What matters is the time you spend together.

5. Connect With Your Kids
Despite what your moody teenager might say, your kids want to feel connected to you. Even on your most hectic days, saying “I love you” or “You are so special to me” or “I am so proud of you” goes a long way.

Take a moment every day to give your children these positive emotional connections, no matter how small they are. This shows your kids they’re valuable, models healthy relationships, and builds parent-child trust.

Motherhood is a beautiful journey. But in the hustle and bustle of daily work, it can be hard to find the time to connect with your kids. You probably aren’t going to achieve all of your goals every day—that’s okay! These 5 tips will help you manage your focus outside of the board room, connect as a family, and be more present with your kids.

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As a former Emmy-Award Winning News Anchor and over 10 years of experience in the news industry, Kristen prides herself on being able to tell great stories. As an expert in communications and mother of two, Kristen gives her tips and tricks.

 

Your child is having a meltdown. You have tried rationalizing, distracting, even offering treats if your child will stop crying and screaming. Your emotions are boiling and you are at your wit’s end. This is the moment when parents, desperate and defeated, often resort to yelling. Unfortunately, the yelling makes the situation worse and you walk away feeling disappointed for having yelled again. 

As a parenting expert, educator, mindfulness and meditation teacher, and former elementary school teacher, I have devoted my professional life to helping families create more calm in their homes. In my personal life, as a mother of two, I have firsthand experience feeling remorseful after I have lost my cool with my own children. So if you find yourself yelling at your child, know that you are not alone in your struggle. This is an opportunity to practice self-compassion and know that starting today you can expand your parenting toolbox with these three calming tools. 

Tool #1: Understand Your Brain
When you understand what is going on in your brain and your child’s brain while angry, it helps bring compassion and awareness to the situation. Let’s look at two parts of the brain—the amygdala and the prefrontal cortex. 

The amygdala is almond-shaped and is in the center of the brain. It is primitive and when the amygdala is firing, you react quickly from a place of fight, flight or freeze. The prefrontal cortex is more evolved than the amygdala and it helps make decisions and problem solve. The prefrontal cortex takes a long time to develop (it will become fully developed around 25 years of age). When you have reached a breaking point you are no longer using your prefrontal cortex to make rational decisions (and neither is your child). Instead, the lower part of the brain where the amygdala lives is activated. Understanding how the brain works during a meltdown can help you appreciate the importance of pausing so that your prefrontal cortex can get back online. 

Tool #2: Have a Plan to Pause 
Don’t wait until the next time you are about to lose your temper. Now that you know your prefrontal cortex isn’t fully functioning when you are in the midst of a power struggle, you understand why you need a plan for pausing. When you and your child are in a calm state, sit down together and make a list of the things each of you can do the next time you are angry (one list for you and one for your child).

My list, for example, is: 
1. Go in the other room and take deep breaths 
2. Turn on my favorite song 
3. Go on a walk around my house or in my backyard 
4. Smell a flower, a piece of fruit, or an essential oil 
5. Play the game rock, paper, scissors with my child 
6. Lay on the floor and put a stuffed animal on my belly. Watch the stuffed animal go up and down with my breath 

Notice that my list are things that calm me down, but some also invite my child to participate with me. My daughter’s list is similar but also includes playing with her dolls, blowing bubbles in the backyard and taking a bath. 

Write both lists on chart paper, decorate it with your child, and hang it somewhere in your house. The next time you feel like yelling, go to your list and model this powerful tool of moving from the amygdala into a place of inner calm. 

Tool #3: Reconnect & Follow Up Later 
Now that you have avoided yelling and taken an opportunity to let you and your child calm down, it is time to reconnect for a moment. Reconnection includes being at eye level with your child, offering a hug and validating the feelings your child is experiencing. When your child feels connected to you, they are more likely to follow your limits and accept your rules. 

After you have reconnected with your child, you can follow up and find a solution for whatever instigated the power struggle, to begin with. You will be amazed by how much more cooperative your child is once they feel connected again! As you adopt these three tools, be patient with yourself as you go. If yelling has been part of your life for a while, know that it will take time to create new healthy habits. Your number one priority is to keep your child safe when you are angry! Keep practicing these tools and your yelling will decrease day by day. For more parenting tools and to subscribe to my free weekly Calming Newsletter.

 

Parenting Coach & Former Elementary School Teacher Laura Linn Knight specializes in helping parents and teachers create more calm at home and in the classroom. Laura is also Certified Mindfulness Meditation Teacher, a Certified Positive Discipline Educator, and a mother of two.

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When a grandparent, parent or older relative has Alzheimer’s disease, it affects everyone, including the kids. One second, they might recognize the children. The next, they’re calling them a stranger and blaming them for stealing the car keys. This emotional rollercoaster can easily confuse and frighten kids—just as it would an adult.

In those moments, you can provide comfort by helping them better understand Alzheimer’s and how the disease will change their relationship with the affected relative.

1. Explain the Disease
When you receive a diagnosis or your relative with Alzheimer’s moves in with you, you’ll want to explain the disease to your kids. Share the signs and symptoms and ask them if they’ve noticed these red flags in their loved one. Maybe the warning signs have been there for a while.

Explain that one in nine people age 65 and older has Alzheimer’s to reassure them they aren’t alone. There are kids just like them with affected family members who are experiencing similar emotions.

2. Anticipate & Encourage Questions
After sharing all of this new information, it’s only natural that your little ones would have questions, so do your research before having a conversation. Prepare to answer inquiries about the prognosis, the risk of other family members contracting the disease and how their symptoms might progress.

If your child shuts down and withdraws from the person with Alzheimer’s, gently begin a conversation about their response. Be an active listener and encourage them to share their emotions. Then, be a little vulnerable and share your feelings to encourage an open line of communication.

3. Be Honest & Concise
Of course, you may want to refrain from going into detail when explaining the disease and answering questions. Besides, there’s no reason to share a grim prognosis or startling new discoveries about your loved one’s health. These details will only scare younger kids and leave them with more questions than answers. Therefore, it’s best to keep your answers simple and concise. Be honest but don’t overshare. Your child could use some hope right now, not more reason to worry.

4. Prepare for Changes
Unfortunately, the symptoms of Alzheimer’s will progress and worsen over time. Even if a loved one seems completely normal today, they may be confused again tomorrow. If this relative is living with your family and the emotional rollercoaster becomes too much, you may choose to move them into an assisted living residence. There, they can enjoy therapy, sensory stimulation and other engaging activities.

These changes can happen more quickly than anyone can anticipate, so it’s best to prepare your kids before they occur. Talk about potential moves, developments and next steps ahead of time and answer any questions your children might have.

5. Validate Feelings
Another important part of helping kids and teens understand Alzheimer’s disease is validating their emotions. Your children could experience guilt, shame, sadness, anger, confusion and other emotions, and all of them are authentic and understandable. Get to the bottom of their feelings and normalize them by asking questions, stating facts and being genuine about your own feelings.

Most important, practice being present during these conversations. Get on your kid’s level, make eye contact and be with them at that moment. Once they express themselves, they’ll feel better and maybe even a little optimistic about the situation.

6. Plan Bonding Time
Sometimes, your little one will feel awkward around those with Alzheimer’s. In this case, it’s plan family activities to help them feel connected and comfortable. First, plan short outings or activities as an entire family so your child has time to adjust to being around the person with Alzheimer’s. Then, you can begin planning more one-on-one bonding time.

Plan a baking day and have your loved one teach the next generation how to make a special pastry or traditional family recipe. Get artsy and let the two paint together. You might even let them watch reruns of old shows or listen to old-timey music together. These activities will provide common ground for them to reconnect and make precious memories.

7. Teach Patience
It’s relatively common for kids to become impatient with grandparents or other relatives with Alzheimer’s disease. After all, frequently repeating yourself and keeping track of things for someone else can be a bit frustrating at times.

Show your kids a little grace when they react angrily or voice their displeasure. Then, teach them to be patient in future scenarios. Talk about what might happen or how they might feel if grandpa forgets where he put the remote again. Going through potential scenarios might help them respond more carefully next time.

Family Is Forever
The most heartbreaking question you might hear from your kids is “Will they forget about me?” Sadly, this is a very real possibility. However, in these moments, it’s best to remind your little one that, while their grandparent may not recognize them sometimes, they can certainly feel love. The two generations will always hold one another in their hearts because family is forever. When you’re all having a rough day, hold onto that truth.

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Kara Reynolds is the Editor-in-Chief and founder of Momish Magazine.  A mom of four and matriarch to her big blended family, Kara wants nothing more than to normalize differences in family structures.  She enjoys peeing alone, pancakes, and pinot noir - but not at the same time.