When babies suddenly turn into picky toddlers overnight, refusing their favorite maple-roasted carrots and tossing their butternut squash fries on the floor, the idea of hiding veggies in their food is super tempting. It’s almost too easy: mixing riced cauliflower into regular rice, blending mashed sweet potato into muffin batter, or baking black bean into brownies. But is sneaking vegetables into your kid’s food actually the best way forward?
We want our kids to like veggies because there are so many reasons to. They’re yummy, they can be prepared in so many different ways, and they’re packed with essential vitamins and minerals that do so many awesome things for our bodies. But hiding them without disclosure can be tricky, fostering a sense of distrust that can backfire in the long run. Instilling a love of vegetables (or, at times, a tolerance) involves understanding their ever-evolving preferences and establishing an appreciation for veggies as they are—not disguised in smoothies, mac and cheese, or cookies (though these are all totally fine if you tell your littles what they’re eating).
Instead of trying to pull a fast one on your children by slipping vegetables into their meals undetected, let’s explore some more effective strategies to increase the likelihood that your kiddo will eat them.
Variety is the spice of life
Regularly switch up the way you serve veggies. Roast cauliflower instead of steaming it or cut zucchini into half moons rather than thin spears. Your kiddo might be avoiding steamed cauliflower because it’s too mushy, and rejecting zucchini spears because, well, toddlers being toddlers! Another approach is to flavor your veggies differently. Maybe your little is bored of garlic-sesame green beans (how dare they?!), so experiment with new flavor profiles using zaatar, mild curry, soy sauce, or ghee. Lots of toddlers love the act of dipping, so throw some creamy ranch on the side of raw veggie sticks. The key here is to vary the texture, flavor, and presentation.
Serve vegetables alongside favorite foods
Create a sense of safety and comfort with the unknown by serving veggies alongside (not hidden in) their favorite dishes. Kids will often reject new foods because they feel overwhelmed by the novelty. If you plop a piece of roasted eggplant on their plate, it might make them feel uncomfortable and overwhelmed and they’ll likely turn it down. However, if you present the roasted eggplant alongside their favorite fruit or pasta, they may feel more comfortable at mealtime, increasing the likelihood that they’ll eat it. It’s not an instant magical solution, but your kiddo has a better chance of trying something new if they feel at ease at the table.
Ease into veggies by having some fun
Another way to make veggies less intimidating is to introduce them without the expectation that they be eaten right away. Make them fun by setting up creative art projects like crafting rainbow veggie kabobs or making smiley faces out of broccoli, tomatoes, and bell peppers. Build towers with carrots and cucumbers, explore gardening, or let them pick out a new vegetable at the grocery store. The key is to approach veggies in a laid-back manner—no pressure necessary!
Consider taking on a sous chef (or three)
Involving your kids in the kitchen allows them to experience food in a new, interactive way. Try kicking off your cooking adventures with a field trip to the grocery store to pick out ingredients. They can help you prep the grocery list and find the items at the store. Then, put your kids to work peeling, spinning the salad spinner, whirring the blender, or chopping (I love these kid-friendly knives!). They can also help keep track of when dishes are ready and assist in serving them when it’s time to eat. The whole experience gives them a glimpse into a food’s journey from the grocery shelves to the plate.
Try a little exposure therapy
The more opportunities your kiddo has to engage with veggies, the better, as it helps them become more familiar with the food. Regularly incorporate them into meals and snacks to increase exposure. Serve them family-style on a large plate in the center of the table so they can choose what looks tempting, or offer small portions with plated meals to keep it breezy. Funnily enough, some kids eat better in groups, so consider serving a veggie tray at your next play date and watch what happens.
Give them some autonomy
Offering kids choices is one of the best parenting hacks I’ve discovered. It empowers kids by giving them a sense of control over their options and boosts their confidence. When serving veggies, give your kids the opportunity to choose how they’re prepared, served, or plated. For instance, you could ask, “Would you like some ranch dressing or Thousand Island dressing with your carrots?” or “Would you prefer your cucumbers cut into circles or spears?”
Never resort to bribing or bargaining
While bribing your kids to eat veggies may seem like a good idea when you’re at your wit’s end, it’s actually not helpful (or beneficial) in the long run. When you use bribery or bargaining tactics, you’re sending the message that one food has more value than another. Plus, placing certain items on a pedestal isn’t the best approach to fostering a healthy relationship with food. Kids will be kids, and they’ll always want what they can’t have or what seems more special, which can turn into an unhealthy obsession. Ultimately, we want children to genuinely enjoy veggies, not just eat them as a means of getting dessert.
The 2023 guide to buying a Christmas tree in Los Angeles whether it’s a pre-cut tree, one that you cut down yourself, potted, flocked, or fake—it’s all inside
The first step in jumpstarting the Christmas spirit? Getting your tree of course! Most Christmas tree lots and farms open the day after Thanksgiving although there are a few that open a little earlier if you can’t wait to inhale that fresh-fir scent. Whether you’re looking to cut a Christmas tree yourself, wondering where to buy a Christmas tree nearby, or want to experience a whole holiday Christmas tree-buying adventure, there are plenty of options when it comes to finding the perfect Christmas tree in and around Los Angeles. From genuine tree farms to pop-up tree lots filled with live Christmas trees, these are the best spots to buy Christmas trees in LA, including some Christmas tree lots with a little extra Christmas spirit on the side.
Where to Buy Your Christmas Tree in Los Angeles & the Westside
All of the Mr. Jingles lots are staffed with friendly tree-huggers and have plenty of fresh-cut, sustainable trees at these Christmas tree lots. Trees are sourced from both Oregon’s Cascade Mountains and North Carolina. And if you want a 2' or a 17' Christmas tree, it's all here.
Holiday Trimmings: Online orders and delivery are available now. They also offer installation as well as tree removal services. Don't forget to shop their garlands, wreaths, ornaments, lights, and decor available at this spot. PS: Every tree comes with a stand but if you have your own Christmas tree stand, bring it so they can attach your tree to it (and will make sure it's straight before sending you on your way).
Various Locations: Hollywood, West LA, Original Farmers Market, Woodland Hills and Torrance Online:mrjingleschristmastrees.com
Shawn's Christmas Trees
With over 40 years of selling trees on LA’s Westside, these guys know their stuff and you’re all but guaranteed to come home with the tree of your dreams. And with a bigger and better tree lot than years past, you'll find fan-favorites like Silvertip Christmas trees, Nordmann, Grand, Noble and Douglas (these originate from Oregon) as well as crowd-pleasing Frasers (brought in from North Carolina because of their quality to stay fresh and last longer).
Holidays Trimmings:They also offer fire retardant and tree flocking treatments. If your door needs some love, Shawn’s also features 6 different size wreaths for more Christmas decor. They also offer delivery on the westside and Christmas tree removal service.
Choose from their sustainable selections of Nobles, Silvertip trees, Douglas Fir, and Nordmann trees (handpicked from family farms in Washington and Oregon), and add merry home accents like mistletoe, boughs, fresh greenery, plus wreaths and ornaments galore.
Holiday Trimmings: Mr. Greentrees also provides online and phone purchases, delivery and installation services, as well as custom orders. Rumor has it that celebs like to frequent this spot, so keep your peepers peeled if star sightings float your boat.
Delancey Street is one of the country's leading residential self-help organizations. Every year, Delancey Street runs Christmas tree lots in various locations across the county (LA location is in Manhattan Beach) between Thanksgiving and Christmas and is used as an important training school in the basics of sales, particularly for new residents.
Holiday Trimmings: Delancey Street Trees also carry mistletoe, indoor tree lights, decorated wreaths, living potted pines, tree removal bags, and water bowls for trees. Flame retardant is also available. Additionally, they offer commercial decorating services in LA.
Christmas trees at this local lot are hand-picked from Washington state—arriving weekly in batches to ensure the freshest of the fresh. Bonus points? Some of the nicest, friendliest staff in the city who are eager to help you pick out your perfect evergreen.
Holiday Trimmings: You can have your tree trimmed on-site for free and you can purchase lush boughs and wreaths here too.
Tina’s welcomes families with a warm, friendly atmosphere, and you can choose your perfect fresh-cut tree from their assortment of Noble, Douglas, Grand Firs, Frasiers and Silvertips. Wondering which tree is best for you and your family? Don’t hesitate to ask for Tina’s help in finding the perfect tree–she's been running a successful Christmas tree business since 1977 and is truly the matchmaker of trees. Describe what you need (size, smell, how long you want it to last, etc.) and she’ll match you with the perfect variety for you.
Holiday Trimmings:If you’ve got tall ceilings or big rooms to fill, this is the place for you. Tina's stocks an impressive selection of massive 14’ to 15’ trees, and offers custom flocking and fire retardant. They also have an assortment of wreaths and garlands.
How lovely are their branches? Very. All of the trees at Santa and Sons come from a family-run Oregon farm, using sustainable farming methods that have been certified by the Coalition of Environmentally Conscious Growers. Their trees come with a big price tag, but you’re getting a super fresh fire that’s environmentally conscious and stunning to boot. You and your tiny tree people can choose from an array of Douglas Fir, Nordmann Fir, and Noble Fir Christmas trees, ranging anywhere from 3’ to 11’ tall.
Holiday Trimmings:Not only do they offer home delivery but they also offer online ordering and their signature "U-Pick Webcam" Service. Simply call the lot, tell them what kind of tree you're looking for, and they'll livestream your options!
For something in between the neighborhood tree lot and a cut-your-own farm, consider a trip to Underwood Family Farms—a favorite spot for kids' birthday parties in LA and for kids born in Dec. this place is a no-brainer). While the farm doesn't grow its own trees, this one-stop shop stocks plenty of fresh-cut options (Noble, Grand, Fraser, Nordmann, Douglas Fir, and Silvertip trees are from Big Wave Dave’s Christmas Trees from Ventura), as well as mistletoe, wreaths, garlands and stands.
Wondering where you can cut your own Christmas tree in Los Angeles? Make the trip to this festive Somis farm early in the season for the best selection of choose-and-cut Monterey Pines. They've also got a large supply of pre-cut Noble and Nordmann Firs if you don't want to get your hands dirty. For even more holiday fun, visit during special weekends when there'll be pony rides, a petting zoo, and pics with Santa!
Pining to recreate childhood memories of tromping through the forest to cut your own tree? Frosty's Forest is the place for you. Additionally, they offer candy canes and festive Christmas music. If you don’t feel like chopping, they’ve also got living trees in containers.
Located just over 60 miles from DTLA, this Riverside farm offers an authentic tree-picking experience with a huge selection of cut-your-own pines (plus potted options, just in case).
Holiday Trimmings: Tree flocking is available and the staff on the farm will help you shake your tree (to shed any loose needles), wrap it, and add a stand. While there, kids can sneak in a visit with Santa (bring your camera!) and take advantage of the free bounce house, candy canes, and popcorn while parents can enjoy the free coffee.
This family-owned operation now runs two farms, one in Simi Valley (since 1971) and the other in Thousand Oaks (since 1972). Both destinations offer a variety of cut-your-own options, including Noble, Pine, Grand, Fraser, and Nordmann plus fragrant Monterey Pines, hardy Aleppo Pines and Leyland Cypress. As with other u-chop spots, there are also pre-cut trees, along with wreaths and more festive evergreen decor.
Holiday Trimmings: Flocking, garland and wreaths are available for purchase and for those that can't make it here in-person, online ordering and delivery is available as well.
Aldik Home: For more than 60 years, Aldik Home has provided home decor enthusiasts with high-quality silk flowers, silk foliage, floral arrangements, custom artificial trees, home decor, artificial Christmas trees and Holiday decor. Get inspired by their amazing Christmas displays in their Van Nuys showroom where you'll encounter thousands of ornaments, luxurious ribbon, LED lights and, quite possibly, some of best artificial Christmas trees in the country.
7651 Sepulveda Blvd. Van Nuys Online: aldikhome.com
Whether you like comedic classics, raw dramas, or films based on real-life father-daughter relationships, you’ll find something on our list to watch together
Relationships between dads and their daughters are exceptionally important. Fathers teach their daughters so many lessons and offer both comfort and protection. They also watch as their daughters become their own people and head into the world. For those times when quality time is an absolute must, we have created a list of movies that celebrates the unique dad/daughter dynamic and offers a chance for fathers and daughters to reconnect for a few hours in the comfort of their home.
This 1961 Disney classic finds two teenage twin girls meeting up at summer camp after leading separate lives. The twins, played by Hayley Mills, work together to reunite their parents, who separated just after they were born. Father-daughter audiences will enjoy the fantastic adventures of the twins as they scheme to bring happiness to their father by reuniting him with their mother and releasing him from the grip of his gold-digging fiance, Vicky. The 1998 remake of the film finds Lindsay Lohan taking over the role of the twins.
Where to stream: Disney+ Rating: G Age recommendation: 6+
Lawyer and single father Atticus Finch raises his two children in the Deep South in this film based on the book by Harper Lee. When Atticus takes on a case where he defends a Black man named Tom against a white woman, things go very wrong. While the movie won three Oscars and was nominated for several others, what makes it worth a watch for dads and their daughters is the relationship Finch has with his two children. He is a true role model for both, but especially his daughter, Scout, to whom he teaches lessons about prejudice and bravery. With mature themes surrounding race and rape, the film is best viewed by kids 12+.
Where to stream: Apple TV (Rent) Rating: Not rated Age recommendation: 12+
Father of the Bride (1991)
Touchstone Pictures
Steve Martin plays George Banks, a man living the typical American Dream alongside his wife and two kids. When his daughter, Annie, decides to get married, the chaos of planning a wedding leaves George feeling overwhelmed and left out. This sweet comedy is a perfect reminder to all fathers and daughters that while their relationships will change and grow with each major milestone, especially marriage, the father-daughter dynamic will always remain one of the most important. While there are some sexual references, the film should be fine for kids 9 and up.
Where to stream: Disney+ Rating: PG Age recommendation: 9+
Mrs. Doubtfire (1993)
20th Century Fox
The late Robin Williams plays Daniel Hillard, a father who takes on the acting role of a lifetime when he pretends to be Euphegenia Doubtfire, a British caregiver, in an attempt to gain employment as his children’s nanny. After his split from their mother, Daniel falls on hard times and must fight to show everyone, including his ex-wife, that he is a responsible parent. Daniel proves he is a loving father who is willing to learn some important lessons to be a part of his kids’ lives. The film won an Oscar for Best Makeup and scored Williams a Best Actor Golden Globe. Mrs. Doubtfire features some language and difficult themes such as divorce and separation.
Where to stream: Hulu Rating: PG-13 Age recommendation: 12+
Fly Away Home (1996)
Apple TV
A teenage girl, Amy, whose mother dies, moves to Canada to live with a father she barely knows. They learn lessons about what family means when they teach a group of geese to fly and migrate south using an ultralight plane in this heartwarming ’90s film starring Anna Paquin, Jeff Daniels, and Dana Delaney. This father-daughter movie, loosely based on the story of Bill Lishman, an inventor from Canada, offers powerful scenes between a grieving daughter and her estranged father as they work to find each other. Watching them bond over their love of the geese and flying may make fathers tear up right alongside their daughters. The car accident that claims the life of Amy’s mother may be difficult viewing for kids younger than eight.
Where to stream: Amazon (Rent) Rating: PG Age recommendation: 8+
Set in the bustling city of New Orleans during the 1920s, Tiana grows up dreaming that she and her father will one day own a restaurant together. While the journey is a much harder one than she anticipated, her father instilled a strong work ethic and sense of self in Tiana. When a prince comes to New Orleans and gets tricked by voodoo magic, he and Tiana are turned into frogs. Her father’s love and the lessons he taught her as a girl help her to chase after her dreams even when they seem impossible. With some violence and perilous situations, the film may be a bit frightening for very young viewers.
Where to stream: Disney+ Rating: G Age recommendation: 5+
A criminal mastermind named Gru does his best not to fall in love with the three little girls he uses to help him steal the moon. The three orphans have other ideas and want Gru for their dad. The heartwarming relationship that develops between Gru and the girls makes the first film in the franchise worthy of a father-daughter movie night. Gru’s relationship with his minions has given him the tools to care for others. Parents should be aware of some very mild language and cartoonish violence.
Where to stream: Netflix Rating: PG Age recommendation: 6+
When the planet undergoes horrible and catastrophic events due to climate change, Cooper, a former astronaut, must decide whether to head to space to find a new planet to sustain human life or remain with his son and daughter. Choosing the former, Cooper does his best to save humanity while maintaining a connection with his family. Cooper’s belief in his daughter, Murphy, his urge to share his love of science with her, and the unbreakable bond they share, which defies time and space, make this the perfect father-daughter movie. Some violent and intense scenes and language make the film best for kids over 12.
Where to stream: Prime Video Rating: PG-13 Age recommendation: 12+
Ben and Leslie Cash raise their children in the wilderness to avoid the chaos of the real world. When Leslie dies, Ben must bring the Cash kids into the world he worked so hard to protect them from. Fighting against relatives who claim his parenting methods are abusive, Ben must figure out a way to keep his kids together. Ben has forged a beautiful relationship with all his children, especially his daughters. It carries them through figuring out a way to remain in the world they’ve so carefully cultivated with their father and blaze a new path on the one he’s tried to keep them hidden from. Fathers and daughters will marvel at Ben’s strength of conviction and dedication to his family. With an R-rating and some graphic content, the film is best viewed by fathers and their teenage daughters 17 and over.
Where to stream: Prime Video Rating: R Age recommendation: 17+
Hearts Beat Loud (2018)
Gunpowder & Sky
Nick Offerman plays widowed father, Frank to teen daughter, Sam in this music-centric comedy. While Sam gets ready to leave for college in the fall, Sam encourages her to join him in forming a band. When things take an unexpected turn, Sam needs to figure out what her dream is. This film features a kid who acts more like an adult than her dad, but Frank is attentive to his daughter and reminds her that life is about enjoyment and not just hard work. The two balance each other out and Frank proves that fathers can be fun and inspire their daughters to take chances. With some mature content including drinking and kissing, Hearts Beat Loud is best for older tweens.
Where to stream: Kanopy, Apple TV (Rent) Rating: PG-13 Age recommendation: 12+
A teen daughter, Tom, and her father, Will, survive and thrive in a remote forest. When authorities discover them, they are forced to adapt to life in the real world. This harrowing story finds not only a father protecting his daughter but her protecting him as well. Tom and Will provide a safe place for each other, proving that often that home isn’t found in a place but in a person. Parents should note that the film features perilous moments and difficult topics like mental illness.
Where to stream: Kanopy, Apple TV (Rent) Rating: PG Age recommendation: 12+
This father-daughter movie focuses on teenager Kayla’s coming-of-age during middle school in a small town. Kayla does her best to vlog about being confident but struggles to be seen and heard in real life. Raised by her father, Mark, the two must navigate the murky depths of social media and middle school while trying to carve out a relationship. While Mark isn’t always the most communicative, he truly cares about her daughter, and the two forge a tight and enviable father-daughter bond. Eighth Grade received an R rating for tackling difficult themes such as teen sexuality and having some strong language.
Where to stream: Max Rating: R Age recommendation: 14+
King Richard (2021)
YouTube
Based on the lives of tennis greats Venus and Serena Williams, King Richard focuses on one of the most profound relationships in their lives. Their father, Richard, played by Will Smith, proves to be their constant cheerleader and advocate. The belief he has in his daughters makes this a standout film that garnered Will Smith an Oscar for Best Actor in 2021. Some violence and language make this best for teens 13 and over.
Where to stream: Max Rating: PG-13 Age recommendation: 13+
The Mitchells vs. the Machines (2021)
Netflix
When technology rises up to take over humanity, a suburban family on a road trip to drop their daughter at college must fight back. While the film is a comedic gem, what stands out is Rick Mitchell’s relationship with his daughter, Katie. Once extremely close, the father-daughter duo has grown apart. To gain back some of the closeness he thinks they’ve lost, Rick cancels Katie’s flight to college and decides to drive her instead. His genuine love for his daughter is evident throughout the film. Dads will enjoy the nostalgic nods to 1980s road trip movies, while daughters may be reminded of what true heroes fathers can be.
Where to stream: Netflix Rating: PG Age recommendation: 7+
While the relationship between mermaid Princess Ariel and her undersea king father Triton is a bit rocky, partly because Ariel is obsessed with all things human and partly because King Triton is a bit overprotective, it is still filled with love. When Ariel falls in love with Prince Eric and makes a bargain with the sea witch Ursula, King Triton does his best to help his daughter. His loyalty to all his daughters and his need to keep them safe in their under-the-sea home make this a perfect father-daughter flick. The film does have some moments of danger that may frighten viewers under the age of 8.
Where to stream: Available for purchase on Amazon and Apple TV Rating: PG Age recommendation: 8+
Simple things like “let’s count to 20 together” really work
While occasional anxiety and nervousness are perfectly normal feelings for many kids—especially in reaction to new or unfamiliar situations—some may experience persistent or extreme forms of fear or sadness. One in four children will experience anxiety disorders in their lifetime, according to the National Institute of Mental Health. Additionally, the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention has reported that anxiety and depression among kids ages three to 17 have increased over time. How can parents help? We can get them to express their worries by using phrases that’ll help calm an anxious child in various situations.
School-related anxiety is so common in children that it often masquerades as other ailments. Whether your child suddenly complains of a headache or an upset stomach just before going to school or starts to act out at the mention of homework, there’s a good chance they're likely experiencing school anxiety. Here’s what you can say to help:
“Remind me what your favorite subjects or activities at school are.” By redirecting your child’s attention to things that they care about at school—like favorite subjects and school activities—they can focus on the positives instead of worrying about the bad stuff.
“Let’s take a few deep breaths together.” Modeling calming behaviors will show your child that there are better ways to regulate their emotions than acting out.
“What are you most looking forward to learning at school?” Similar to asking about the things they enjoy at school, encouraging your child to anticipate all of the good things in their upcoming day can help to build new habits and associate new feelings about school.
“Have you gone through your checklist for the day?” It’s useful to develop a checklist to help your child gain a greater sense of control over her daily schedule and activities.
“How can I help you feel better?” By offering your support, your child will know that you recognize their school anxiety is real and that you are there to help.
Fear of the unknown can trigger anxiety in people of all ages, but for children especially, the experience of being in large unfamiliar crowds can be overwhelming. Whether it’s at an airport or a sports stadium, being little among a group of strangers can induce anxiety. Here are a few things to tell your crowd-nervous kid:
“I’m right here with you. You are safe.” Reassuring your anxious child that they are safe with you will go a long way to allay their fears, whether they are real or imagined.
“Let’s count to 20 together.” Offer up different coping skills to your child, such as taking a moment to calm down.
“Many things are going on, but focus only on what’s in front of you.” An overwhelmed child may experience sensory overload, so encouraging them to focus on something small may help to block out external distractions.
“I know this can feel scary.” Validating your nervous child’s concerns will let them know you care and are listening to them.
“Everything is OK, this moment will pass.” Remind your child that their feelings are real, but the scary moment is temporary and eventually will pass.
What to Say When They Have New Experiences Anxiety
“Tell me what you think will happen next.” Anxiety about new experiences is often correlated with feeling a loss of control. Encouraging your anxious child to think about what will happen next may help them imagine a situation in which they have greater control.
“Tell me what you’re looking forward to seeing.” Emphasizing the positive possibilities of a new experience can help your child discover something fun to look forward to.
“The scary part will pass.” Remind your frightened child that the scary parts of new experiences are temporary and will eventually pass.
“What can we explore together?” Tell your child that you are in this together.
“You are brave—you got this.” Offer words of encouragement to help your anxious child recognize the strength they already possess.
Whether it’s stage fright or the onset of nerves during sporting activities, kids can sometimes feel overwhelmed when they need to perform. Parents can help guide their children through this kind of anxiety with a few simple words of encouragement:
“It’s OK to be nervous.” Remind your child that nerves are natural stress responses, and it’s OK to rechannel feelings of nervousness into something that they can control.
“Tell yourself, ‘I can do this!’ ” Foster your child’s belief that they can do whatever they set their mind to doing.
Make a battle cry for yourself: “I am invincible!” Creating a battle cry can help to shore up your child’s confidence and encourage them to tap into their inner strengths.
“What’s the worst thing that could happen?” Encouraging your nervous child to imagine worst-case scenarios may seem counter-intuitive, but allowing them to think through all of the various situations that could occur may help them gain a better understanding of how they would respond in each case.
“Just do your best. I’m already proud of you.” Assure your anxious child that you support their efforts, regardless of the outcome.
Visiting relatives can be difficult for some kids, especially if it’s been a while since their last visit. Children like structure and routine, and when day-to-day routines are broken by visiting relatives, kids who are prone to anxiety may panic. Here’s what to say to them:
“Tell me about how you’re feeling.” Listen to what your nervous child has to say. Acknowledge their feelings and work with them to learn coping skills that will help them feel better.
“I get anxious sometimes, too.” Demonstrate that you are empathetic to your child’s feelings by talking about the things that make you anxious.
“What do you need from me?” Your child may need something as simple as a few words of support or a hug, but asking them what they need at the moment can help assure them that you are responsive to their needs.
“Let’s take a moment for ourselves.” Don’t be afraid to give your child and yourself a time out from whatever hecticness is occurring with family visits.
“I can’t wait until …” Talk to your anxious child about what you’re looking forward to, whether it’s spending time with grandma and grandpa or going on a family vacation.
Toddlers are hardwired to have a favorite parent, but love has nothing to do with it
My three-year-old won’t let my husband get her ready for bed. You know, that fun phase when your toddler prefers one parent? Only I will do. Cute, right? You may be imagining some mommy-and-me cuddles, footie pajamas snuggled into the crook of my arm while we read our favorite stories and sing silly bedtime songs. Not quite! Instead, picture this: I send her with her dad to get ready for bedtime, while I take a break to watch my favorite show. It’s called Washing the Dishes—I binge it every night. But about midway through, I have to go rescue them both and finish her bath (and her brother’s, who’s in the tub, too), get them dried and dressed, teeth brushed and jammied up, as only I’m permitted to do. When it’s all done, all I want to do is lie horizontally and stare at the ceiling.
Being the preferred parent for every task, every time, is hard, especially when you’ve worked or parented all day. And for single parents, it’s hard when you’re somehow managing to do it all nonstop (more on this further down). You’re depleted, and odds are good that you still have a day’s worth of work ahead of you when they finally go to sleep. It’s not your child’s fault. It’s not your partner’s fault. It’s just the way it is right now, and you’re torn between loving the honor and drowning in your child’s constant need for your help.
What is toddler favoritism?
Toddler or parental favoritism is when a little kid only wants to spend time with one parent and will mostly only allow that parent to take care of their needs. And they aren’t subtle. They can be so forceful in their preference that not getting mom or dad can lead to tantrums and physical resistance.
Why do toddlers have a parental preference?
For a number of reasons. Toddlers are constantly trying to assert their independence and this is one way to do so, much like how they choose a particular lovey as their favorite (and we hope you have at least three backups stashed away!). They also tend to develop a preference for the parent who more routinely does things for them, and this preferred parent can change over time—like when a new baby joins the family and your firstborn starts spending way more time with the non-birthing parent.
Favoritism is actually also a survival tactic for kids. “Children, especially ones under the age of 5, are reliant on their primary caregivers for survival and unconsciously act on this when they insist on only accepting help and nurturing from one parent,” says Sarah Alperin, a child behavior expert. “Of course, it’s not personal, though it can be really hard not to take it that way when you’re the parent who’s shut out.”
When a kid sees that one parent is more available than the other, they fight to keep it that way because connecting and having their needs met is so crucial, so they go where they get the most consistent results. This is called ‘hierarchies of attachment,’ in which kids unconsciously rank their caregivers based on who has been around the most. As their memories improve and they experience more with all caregivers, they become more comfortable with both parents and less rigid about who they want in their corner.
Should you be concerned if your toddler prefers one parent?
According to experts, this phenomenon isn’t necessarily a bad thing. It can be a sign of a healthy relationship between a child and both parents. “Favoring or excluding one parent is your child saying, ‘I can choose you right now because I know my other parent will be there for me regardless’,” says Lydia Mays, Ph.D., founder & CEO of See Beautiful. “Child favoritism and exclusion ebb and flow through not only the toddler years but also into childhood.” And guess what? It’s even expected during a time of uncertainty, anxiety, or stress. Toddler parents learned this all too well in 2020.
How to handle your kid only wanting mom or dad
So what do you do? How do you parent one, or even multiple kids, when you’re constantly being tapped to provide care and reassurance for your “barnacle child?” (We’re not being mean. We didn’t make up that term. It’s a thing.) First and foremost, the parent who is not preferred needs to play it cool. “When parents take it personally, children know and begin to sense parental insecurity,” Alperin explains. “Any insecurity a child senses in a parent will signal them to push them farther away in an attempt to seek a more competent and capable caregiver. What children seek and respond to the most is consistency, safety, acceptance, and connection.”
There are also ways to help foster connection between your kiddo and their less-preferred parent. Mays suggests the following ways to help the less-chosen parent swing the pendulum back toward shared parental choice—and avoid hurt feelings and total burnout:
For the “Barnacle Parent”:
Pass the fun baton: Divvy up roles and let the “less-chosen” parent tap in for the things your toddler loves to do most!
Be gone: When you’re physically away from your child, it provides opportunities for your toddler to have reconnecting and relationship-building time with the other parent.
Handoff: When your child is leaning heavily on you for support and the other parent is home, hand off the toddler’s need to the less-chosen one (e.g., “Mommy can’t right now, but Daddy can help you” or “Daddy’s busy right now, but Papa is free to do that with you.”)
High praise: Give compliments to the other parent in a way that your child can see the wonderful things that person is doing, too. For example, “Mommy makes up the best bedtime stories!” or “Daddy’s dinner is always my favorite. It’s so delicious.”
For the “Less-Chosen Parent”:
Have thick skin: It makes perfect sense that feeling snubbed by your toddler would be tough, but this action is only because you’re doing a great job and your child trusts you and knows you’ll be there for them. While hard, it’s a healthy phase for your child. Try not to get your feelings hurt. Be patient, understanding that withdrawing or showing frustration could further strengthen the attachment between your child and the “barnacle parent.”
One-on-one: Take some time to establish new one-on-one routines and traditions.
Love hard: Consistently affirm your love for your child and reassure him of your presence and the joy you experience being part of his life every day.
For parents navigating this alone:
Your goal will be to bolster your child’s independence and confidence. Atlanta psychologist Ellen Berman, Ph.D., notes that “single parents are in a unique relationship with their children, in that they must find ways to balance the family responsibilities in age and developmentally appropriate ways, often more so than dual-parent households.” To encourage your “barnacle baby’s” independence, focus on:
Routine: During the day, when kids know what to expect and when, they’re more likely to take on new responsibilities without feeling overwhelmed.
Advance planning: Odds are, you’re juggling a million tasks at once. When your child needs your attention, it might help to be prepared with a re-direct (if you’re unable to help right then) or with a set time during your day when you can help.
Prioritizing sleep: There’s no doubt that you’re burning the candle at both ends. Make sure you’re giving yourself time to recharge and remember that your child’s frustration at sometimes having to take a number is greatly magnified when they’re tired, too.
At the end of the day, this phase won’t last forever, and we promise you’ll get through it. Whether you’re constantly being chosen to do all the things, or never—or perhaps you have no choice and are the only option for doing all the things—you’re likely doing it very well, and we see you. Keep up the good work, and in the meantime, check out these children’s books, which might help spread the love.
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If you haven’t had a kid throw a toddler tantrum in public, are you even a parent?
When it comes to universal kid truths, the fact that toddlers have tantrums pretty much tops the list (just ask this news anchor mom). On the flip side is another truth—handling tantrums can be really tough for parents. The good news is parents and caregivers can help little ones deal with their very big feelings that show up as toddler tantrums, using specific strategies that can benefit everyone.
1. Acknowledge (and Name) Their Feelings
The Situation: My daughter and I have spent a lot of time at the playground recently. If it were up to her, she’d play all day. Eventually, we have to go pick up a sibling from school or have lunch or do something else. She’s disappointed we have to go and isn’t afraid to show it. Cue the toddler tantrum.
The Solution: Julietta Skoog, nationally certified school psychologist and co-founder of Sproutable, a company that supports parents in growing remarkable kids through classes, coaching, and video content, explains that tantrums are a form of communication—one that lets parents know their kids don’t feel understood. She suggests validating and acknowledging those feelings. Use simple phrases like “I can see you’re disappointed” or “I know you want to stay at the playground.” Neurologically speaking, when our kids are losing it, their feelings are on red alert. Naming their feeling triggers the amygdala (the part of our brain that processes emotions) and helps kids flip the switch to green. It reassures them, lets them regroup, and returns them to the rational side of their brain.
Bonus tip: If possible, let your kid have a situational do-over after they’ve recovered, like saying “bye-bye” to the playground.
2. Model Behavior
The Situation: I’ve had more than one night where I’m juggling making dinner while helping my big kids with homework when my toddler melts down. Whether she’s hungry, not getting enough attention, or just feels overwhelmed, she’s had enough and I’m feeling stretched.
The Strategy: Dr. Alison Scott, a Seattle-area pediatrician and founder of baby doc box, a curated subscription box for baby’s first year, offers a great reminder for situations like these. Toddlers don’t have the coping skills we do. Scott suggests parents show kids how it’s done by modeling appropriate behavior. Try saying something like, “I see you’re having a hard time. I’m having a hard time, too.” Then take a few deep breaths or find a quiet place to sit down. Basically, do what you do when you’re feeling overwhelmed. Your kids will notice and eventually follow suit.
The Situation: If you know a toddler, you know how wildly stubborn they are. When my daughter wants to play with her sister’s off-limits toys or insists on going barefoot in the middle of winter, she’s not interested in being told “no.”
The Strategy: For these moments, Skoog explains that framing the situation as a positive—one you can say yes to—is a way to be firm but kind. So when my toddler melts down because her sister won’t let her play with her doll, a simple re-frame is in order: “Yes, you want to play dolls. Let’s go get your dolls so you can.” Similarly, letting her know “we can go outside when you’ve put your shoes on,” helps her see what she can do, rather than what she can’t.
Bonus tip: Be selective about saying no and don’t give in to tantrums because it might reinforce unwanted behavior.
4. Remove Yourself or Your Audience
The Situation: If you haven’t had a toddler lose it in public, are you even a parent? For all the times I’ve been in the toy aisle at Target and my daughter spies a must-have toy I have no intention of buying, the tantrum potential is high. It’s hard not to give in when you know it would stop that toddler tantrum.
The Strategy: Scott recommends an “extract and distract” approach. Skoog expands, saying parents can remove themselves from the environment or ask those they’re with to give them a minute. Finding a more private place lets kids know that you’ve got time and space to deal with whatever is going on. Once you’re out of the situation, it’s time to redirect or offer comfort. The goal here is “connection before correction.” Try softening your approach and getting down on the same level as your kiddo for extra impact.
Bonus tip: It’s natural to view our tot’s tantrums as a reflection of our parenting. But tantrums are a natural part of development, and when we remove our feelings from the situation, we can be more responsive, attentive, and attuned to what’s really going on.
5. Be Consistent with Routines
The Situation: Like all kids, toddlers love routine. But with two much-older kids, there are days my two-year-old doesn’t get to follow hers. She misses naps or stays up past bedtime on the regular, thanks so the noisy tween and teen down the hall.
The Strategy: If you have to disrupt the routine, be prepared. Watch for your kid’s cues, Scott says, and try to prevent the outburst. Pack extra snacks, bring along a lovey, or try to distract toddlers on the verge. The bottom line is, there’s no “secret sauce” to prevention. In that case, ignoring the tantrum is an option. Make sure your tot is safe and let it take its course.
First of all, it’s hard. Parenting, I mean. Parenting is hard, no matter how you do it. Totally sober or drunk half the time, it’s not an easy job for anyone.
The hardest part of parenting for me is the anxiety. It’s more than just worries. It’s an embodied sensation, a tightening in my gut, a shallowness of breath that used to not go away until I had a drink or two.
Early on in my motherhood journey, I would use alcohol as a way to relax at the end of the day, to let go, to finally unwind after all that caregiving.
But after a while, I realized clearly that my seemingly harmless drinks at night had spiraled into a full-blown addiction. Even though I wasn’t drinking all day long, even though I was only having a drink or two every other night, I didn’t know how to unwind anymore without some wine or tequila—and I realized I had to stop.
My story is way more dramatic than that, but I won’t go into it here. That’s not the point. The point is what has happened on the other side of the drinking.
What I learned from being a sober mom is that sober parenting takes extra skills. When I stopped drinking, I had to learn how to achieve that calm and relaxed state that booze would give me, by myself. Meditation has been my number one tool. Also nature hikes, yoga, baths, reading, breathing, and singing all help. And, although these things are usually not as fun as a few margaritas, they do have their amazing and blissful moments.
Becoming a sober parent also meant I had to face all that emotional stuff I was trying to shove under the rug with my rosé. I found I actually still had a lot of trauma to heal around my experience of giving birth. I had a big pile of resentments I had to sort through. I uncovered wells of grief, rage, anger, sadness, guilt, and shame that needed to be sifted through and healed. None of that was accessible when I was drinking to self-soothe. I was suppressing my actual feelings. And the truth is, they really needed my attention.
Once I was able to give my attention to those neglected feelings in a real way through sobriety, things got a lot better. My stress levels went down. My anxiety became totally manageable. I experienced less depression. I felt less overwhelmed. I learned how to actually handle life.
But the best part was this: I became more present and loving with my kid. I didn’t feel like I needed to escape from her or numb out from motherhood anymore. I had actually processed and dealt with my emotional stuff; I had learned how to regulate my anxiety in a real way and I was able to be a way better parent than I was before.
Another truth about sober parenting, though, is that my social circles and activities changed. There was a while when I was pretty lonely and bored. But then I found other sober mom friends and started to fill my life with healthy activities.
I started waking up earlier and hiking. I started building a cool business that I love instead of feeling overwhelmed and unfocused. I started going out to dinner with whole tables of people who didn’t order drinks and we still had a lot of fun. I started going to meditation groups and finding new connections. I finished and published my book. My life got richer, fuller, and more diverse, and I got a lot healthier.
Being a sober parent has a lot of perks. I don’t have to worry about hangovers when my child wakes up at 6 a.m. and I have to be up with her. I don’t worry about being a little tipsy in the middle of the night when she needs me. I don’t have to worry about having a panic attack because I suppressed my anxiety and emotions with alcohol too many nights in a row. I don’t have to worry about not being able to drive her if there is an emergency.
All I have to worry about is the normal parenting stuff and how to best take care of all of us, including myself. And yeah, maybe I have to decline a few invitations to Mom’s Night Out to a bar. I have a few friends that I don’t hang out with much anymore because of how deep they are into drinking culture. I have to say no to the delicious-looking stout at the burger place and get a soda or some water instead. But those are all trade-offs I am happy to make.
Because the truth about sober parenting is that it actually is easier. Now that I have taken responsibility for my own emotions, now that I have learned how to calm down without external substances, now that I have enhanced my life with new hobbies and new friends, everything is better.
I have more energy, more happiness, better health, more interests, and a much better ability to be available and present for my child. And that is worth more than any drunken night out or calming nightcap in the evening. Being sober has made me a better parent and a better person, and that’s the truth.
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Successfully returning to work after maternity leave takes more than a little planning
One day you’re planning and anticipating your baby’s arrival and the next—bam!—you’re a parent. Arguably, one of life’s biggest adjustments is learning how to exist in the world after expanding your family. It’s totally natural to feel incredibly excited and incredibly overwhelmed all at once. You are now responsible for a little human, and it’s a huge transition.
Then just when you feel like you’ve found some sort of rhythm to your days (and nights), your maternity leave is almost done. Now it’s time to get ready for another big change—learning how to balance parenthood with work. Although the thought of leaving your cuddly bundle and interacting with adults might seem daunting, these tips can help make the transition back into the workforce less stressful.
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1. Aim for a Short First Week
For an easier transition, consider starting back on a Wednesday or Thursday. This will allow you to ease back into things as you adjust to pumping, childcare schedules, and all the other things you’ll have to consider when returning to work after maternity leave. Plus starting mid-week allows you to monitor your own energy and stress levels. Regroup with your partner over the weekend to discuss what worked and what didn’t then pivot accordingly. Finding your flow will take some time.
2. Establish a Routine
Planning out a routine that can set both you and your partner up for a successful day is a win-win for everyone. Before returning to work, sit down and come up with a detailed checklist. Who will do childcare drop-off and on what days? Do you need to prepare breastmilk or formula in the morning? What about pumping? Is the to-go diaper bag ready? Sure, things will come up (trust us, they will), but having an outline you can both reference is a good starting point when things start to feel overwhelming. If you don’t have a parenting partner, run through the routine with a friend or family member to double check your plan.
Before starting back up, do a few practice runs. Commuting? Map your route from home to childcare to your place of work. Note how much longer it may take and plan to leave earlier depending on what you discover. It’s also a good idea to run through your entire morning–take a shower, get yourself ready, and get the baby ready to see how long it might realistically take.
If your child is starting childcare–whether it’s daycare or with a nanny–consider starting them a week or two before you return to work after maternity leave. This will allow both of you to adjust as you get comfortable with them spending time with new people and a new routine as well. Remember, multiple transitions at once can overwhelm parents and baby.
4. Make a Meal Plan for You and Baby
Before returning to the workforce, it’s important to come up with a meal plan not only for the baby but for you, too. Are you breastfeeding? Pumping not only takes a lot of time, but can zap your energy. Make sure you schedule sessions around meetings and other commitments. Many offices have designated maternity rooms so familiarize yourself with yours when you first return. Opting for formula or a hybrid of formula and breast milk? Make sure your baby’s bottles and food are prepped and ready for their caregiver. When all is said and done, don’t forget to nourish yourself. Your body is working overtime right now as it regulates. Eat a well-balanced meal and take snack breaks for yourself.
One of the hardest parts of going back to work is leaving your baby for the first time. You’ve been bonding and getting to know each other 24/7; letting go can be tough. It’s crucial for your peace of mind to find a childcare plan that works for your family. That might look like daycare, a nanny or nanny share, or staying with a relative. It’s never too early to start touring locations to see what feels comfortable for you and your child. Don’t be afraid to ask questions!
6. Communicate with Your Co-workers
It feels like you’re been making 1,000 adjustments in your life, but for many of your coworkers it’s business as usual. While they may understand you just had a baby, they might not realize maternity leave isn’t a vacation. Keep lines of communication open with your boss and coworkers. Things happen–daycares close unexpectedly, kids get sick, doctor appointments need to be made—and talking to your manager about expectations and flexibility before you get back into things can also help make the transition all that much easier.
7. Set Boundaries
You might feel like you have to take as much on as you did pre-baby, but it’s okay to not take on too much too soon. Set boundaries for yourself. It can be a challenge to say “no,” but sometimes it’s the healthiest word you can use. Whether it’s a hard laptop cutoff time or not checking emails off-hours, it’s important to stick with what works for you and your family.
Sure, it’s a very exciting time, but it’s also a very exhausting one. Your sleep patterns are off, your mom brain fog is real, your emotions are up and down, and you want to get as much cuddle time with your little one as possible. With that being said–remember, it’s hard work and it’s totally okay and totally normal to feel overwhelmed, anxious, and unsure about what you’re doing. That’s parenthood! Allow yourself to feel those feelings, acknowledge them, take a deep breath, and move forward. Every day, every hour, every minute is different, and you’re doing the best you can in the moment. You got this!
There’s no better time to take a big swing and putt putt at one of Seattle’s family-friendly mini golf courses
Fantastic family activities abound in Seattle, but if it’s a sunny day and you’re looking for a quintessential experience to give your kiddos, there’s nothing quite as nostalgic as a round of mini golf. It’s truly the perfect way to spend those idyllic Seattle summer days that will soon be upon us, but if you’re just not willing to wait to kick-start summertime fun, you’re in luck. There are plenty of mini golf courses open for business right now. Whether all the miniature golf action is happening indoors or outdoors, or whether it’s 18 holes scattered throughout peaceful, wooded settings or in a bright, high-energy location, these primo putt-putt spots will surely be a hit with kids and adults alike. So, now’s the time to cash in on life’s simple pleasures when you swing into one of Seattle’s nearby miniature golf courses. Talk about a hole in one!
Interbay Golf Center
Located between Magnolia and Queen Anne, Interbay Golf Center is the perfect place for some serious mini golf. It doesn’t boast the traditional flair of windmills, clowns and other brightly colored props, so if you love the idea of a more authentic golfing experience, this place is perfect! They offer an 18-hole mini golf course that isn’t too challenging but will keep the kiddos (and you!) entertained. Psst! If your budding golfers are still feeling adventurous, take them up to the driving range to hit a bucket of balls when you’re done putting.
Insider Tip: Sometimes this course is closed to private parties. Visit the website before making your outing.
2501 15th Ave. W. Hours: Times vary per season. Check the times online. Cost: $12/adults; $8/juniors (17 & under) Online:premiergc.com
Don't let the name fool you. At this fun course, golfers are encouraged to take a journey through the wilderness where they might encounter an eagle, coyote, cougar, or bear while also trying to avoid a variety of hazards. Stay on the trail or you might get a scolding from a grouchy bear. Among all Seattle mini golf courses, this particular one—open from sunrise to sunset—is located in perhaps the most beautiful setting, so it will keep golfers of all ages engaged. Psst! Make sure to call ahead to ensure you can play as they often host private parties and corporate events.
Add a new soccer-themed indoor putt putt course to your reasons to visit Arena Sports in Mill Creek. Part of the bustling and always exciting Family Entertainment Center, kids can test their mini golf skill on this nine-hole course that's as colorful as it comes. The mini golf course is fun, but offers some challenges too, so even parents will want to play along. Drop in any time to play with the swipe of your arcade card. It's almost too easy.
Mini golf is just one of the many sports families can try at this Seattle complex that's south of the city. The 18-hole putt putt course is just outside the building and it's a great spot for families to go head-to-head as they make their way around the challenging course. Pitfalls abound, including an oversized waterfall and other exciting hazards. See if you can get through all the jumps, bumps, and turns as you try for the hole in one.
When the folks at Forum Social House say "this is not your grandmother's miniature golf," they're not kidding. Neon lights, rideable rainbow unicorns and a looming Game of Thrones-style throne await players at this indoor, nine-hole, putt putt spot on the Eastside. Add in a kid's menu they'll actually like and other gaming options, and you've got yourself an afternoon to remember. Reservations are required to play here, and although it's mostly open to all ages, it's 21+ on Fridays and Saturdays after 10 p.m.
Lincoln Square, North Tower 700 Bellevue Way N.E., Suite 300 Hours: Wed.-Thurs., 5-11 p.m.; Fri., 5 p.m.-2 a.m., Sat., noon.-2 a.m., Sun., noon-8 p.m. (21+ after 10 p.m.) Cost: $15/person Online:forumsocialhouse.com/par1
Family owned and operated for more than 50 years and long known for its rollerskating rink that burned down a few years earlier, King Mini Golf Park is the ultimate outdoor experience and a perfect way to show support for the King Family Fun Center. It's a beautiful course and one of the newest mini golf parks in the area. It comes with lots of putt-putt obstacles that add dimension to your playtime, including one hole that will send your ball down the river. Open for groups of 1 to 5 people.
Insider Tip: Glow Golf starts at dusk.
1113 N. Meridian Hours: Fri., 4-8 p.m.; Sat. & Sun., 11 a.m.-8 p.m. Cost: $10/person; Free, kids 3 & under Online:kingfamilyfuncenter.com
With a name like Family Fun Center, you know this Seattle spot is sure to be awesome. The mini golf courses were built with kids in mind, so you’re going to find lots of wild and wacky holes to keep your little golfers stimulated. There are two, 18-hole outdoor courses to explore (Memory Lane and Arctic Adventure). You can come for just the miniature golf or buy a package deal that runs on a point system where you can check out the other attractions like bumper boats, frog hopper, go karts and an arcade. Although the courses are designed for ages 5 and older, tiny tots will still enjoy chasing the ball around.
7300 Fun Center Way Hours: Tue.-Thurs., 12-8 p.m.; Fri. & Sat., 11 a.m.-10 p.m., Sun., 11 a.m.-9 p.m.; closed Mon. Cost: $10/person Online:fun-center.com
The Snohomish Valley Golf Center boasts an 18-hole championship mini golf course, but don’t feel overwhelmed, it’s just a game. Set within views of the Cascade Mountain Range, the golf center offers a course with a cascading waterfall and a meandering creek creating a peaceful and tranquil environment. Currently, groups of four (from the same household) can test their putt putt skills on the course. Come early for a meal at the Valley Grill (featuring a kids menu), which is open Monday through Friday from 11 a.m.-8 p.m. and on the weekends from 9 a.m.-8 p.m. If you plan to spend a lot of time at this range, note that members get reduced prices.
Flat Stick Pub now has four Western Washington locations and four very different mini golf courses to check out in Kirkland, Pioneer Square, South Lake Union and Bellingham. Each 9-hole indoor mini golf course includes various “water hazards” and obstacles, like beer kegs or whimsical creatures. While this might be better suited for a parent date night, kids are allowed until 7 p.m. except for the Pioneer Square location, which is 21+ only.
Multiple locations Hours: Varies by day and location Cost: $8/person Online:flatstickpub.com
It’s hard not to be happy when you’re playing mini golf, right? And a trip to play mini golf at this Puyallup location is sure to elicit giggles and smiles out of your little ones. There are two courses to choose from, so you can come again (and again) and be challenged each time. If, however, your mini golfers get tired of swinging their clubs around, this fun park has just about everything that kids could want: go karts, batting cages and concession stands. Come for the golf, stay all day for the family run attractions!
Insider Tip: Be sure to hit up the ATM before you arrive, as this is a cash-only course. Don’t worry, though, if you forget, as there is an ATM on site.
6326 114th Ave. Ct. E. Hours: Days and times vary Cost: $10 for one course; $14 for both; $5/kids under 48″; Free for kids under 40″ Online:mikenterrys.com
A family fave since the 60s, Parkland Putters in Tacoma is a real crowd-pleaser and one of the most inexpensive courses on our list! They offer four different courses ranging from easy to hard, all complete with hidden holes, sand traps and much more. You can play one, or if you are feeling really adventurous, play all four! (Just be sure to select one of their "multiple game" packages for major cost savings!). Although it's all in good fun, you might want to bring your A game as they award ribbons to the winners at the end of each course. Play fair, but remember: it’s OK to throw a few mulligans in there (wink, wink).
While mostly known for it amazing ropes course and ziplines, the High Trek Adventures park in Everett added an 18-hold miniature golf course for those who would prefer to stay grounded or would like to add a little more fun to their visit. The park is also one of the cheapest locations to visit among Seattle mini golf courses. Fun fact: we’ve been warned that holes 9 and 17 are real challenges to conquer.
Insider Tip: If you purchase a ropes course, your golf game is just $5. Also, be sure to download their golf scorecard app for easy scoring.
11928 Beverly Park Rd., Bldg. C Hours: Days and times vary Cost: $8/adults & kids (ages 4 & up); Free for kids 3 & under (with paying adult) Online:hightrekeverett.com
Getting everything done in time for the start of the school year is no easy task, and one a new survey found often lands squarely on moms’ shoulders.
Evernote, a productivity app, surveyed 1,083 adults who identify as a mother to see just how much this season—and it does feel like an entire season—stressed them out. Surprising no one, the bulk of back-to-school responsibilities, including haircuts, shopping, school supplies, and appointment scheduling, are tackled by (exhausted) moms.
A Thread on #BackToSchool Burnout 🚌 We recently uncovered compelling data on the impact of back-to-school on mothers—from the frequency they are managing these tasks to the numerous roles they must partake in. https://t.co/mMoLdOEi6B (1/6) pic.twitter.com/iEfUvMWlCL
More than a third (34%) said they handle everything related to preparing for the upcoming school year. Just over one-fifth (21%) of moms said they handled it by themselves “most” of the time, and just over one out of ten get equal help from a partner, which is sobering.
Over half (58%) of moms said that budgeting was one of the biggest concerns about back-to-school, spurred by the pandemic and inflation, and 57% reported that COVID safety concerns were also weighing on them.
Additional stressors included organizing drop-off/pickup schedules (54%), managing extracurricular activities (52%) managing school apps (44%), and finding/arranging childcare (35%). But we’re not done with the to-dos yet! More than half (58%) said they are solely responsible for meal-prep, including school lunches, and 39% are the sole support for homework.
Education and getting ready for school, like many things in our kid’s lives, seem to be ‘mom’s domain,’ regardless of whether we also have work outside the home. That, in addition to the always-present invisible mental load, means we often feel overwhelmed and in it alone.
More than 50% of survey takers reported that they handle the majority of back-to-school related tasks without help (3/6) #BackToSchoolpic.twitter.com/GWwkLiFpE4
Unfortunately, this often comes at the cost of our well-being. A quarter of moms surveyed said don’t have the time in a day to decompress. For those that do, 62% use it to have much-needed alone time, 52% spend time with friends and family, and 34% use it to enjoy their own activities. Let’s all tap our partners to get in the mix more, yeah? We all deserve less on our plates.
