With only 122 rooms at Sea Breeze Beach House, you may arrive a stranger, but the staff does a great job of making you feel like you are part of the family. The property feels more like a “Beach House” than a resort, which means it’s full of authentic Bajan charm, with no corporate veneer. This 4-star, boutique all-inclusive resort in Barbados is a great option for American families looking for a relaxing beach stay with great food, staff, and water play options.
The room at Sea Breeze Beach House delivered beyond our expectations, and we’ll never forget the sound of our giddily squealing children as they entered the room for the first time. We stayed in an Ocean View Room with 1 King and Sofa Bed, which offers plenty of space and comfort for two adults and two children. We enjoyed the design aesthetic of the room as it was a departure from the modern neutrals we are seeing as standard in a lot of bigger hotel chains these days. The room was chic, with contemporary coastal style and elegant pops of turquoise. We also enjoyed the walls being dressed with paintings by local Bajan artists. The room made us feel like we were in Barbados, which is exactly how we want to feel on vacation!
Sea Breeze Beach House/Anne Hatfield
As far as in-room amenities, we were greeted by a selection of cool drinks and snacks, which were refilled for us daily. Most notably, we enjoyed the bath robes and the private balcony overlooking the beach. As the kids took their afternoon naps, we slouched into the recliners on the balcony with our books. Then, come night, we slept like babies hearing the peaceful crashing of the waves outside our balcony.
The Amenities at Sea Breeze Beach House
Sea Breeze Beach House/Anne Hatfield
The property is set on 1,000 feet of powdery white-sand beach, and the beach is the #1 draw to stay at The Sea Breeze Beach House. The setting of the beach is calm and quiet, and there is loads of space to stretch out. For those looking for some activity, there are a few floating trampolines in the water, and snorkels, boogie boards, paddle boards, and kayaks to use at your heart’s content
For those who like to complement beach time with pool time, the pool area is relaxed and spacious, with both a family pool and an adult pool. There is food and drink service at both pools, and the staff is very attentive in ensuring needs are met. We enjoyed the ice cream bicycle cart that stopped by the pool mid-morning and mid-afternoon offering popsicles as a refreshment.
We didn’t get to experience the Spa, but it recently opened, so for parents looking to get some self-care scheduled while on holiday, Sea Breeze Beach House now offers some spa pampering.
Kids Club at Sea Breeze Beach House
Sea Breeze Beach House/Anne Hatfield
Families feel right at home at Sea Breeze Beach House, and the Kids Club and Games Lounge are programmed with indoor and outdoor activities for children 4+. For children under 4, parent supervision is required in the Kids Club. The Kids Club itself is a bit dark and tired, but the new General Manager assured us that the Kids Club was going to be given a modern refresh in the coming weeks.
Sea Breeze also offers in-room babysitting, which we took advantage of, and our children were happy as can be with the babysitters. We arrived back to the room to find them laughing and playing together like old pals. Most importantly, the babysitters made us feel safe, and like they genuinely enjoyed being with children.
The Food at Sea Breeze Beach House
Anne Hatfield
As for the food and drink, rest assured, there is a lot of it, and it’s quite good. The parents enjoyed made-to-order omelets for breakfast, and make-your-own salads for lunch, and the kids were happy with pancakes and pasta. Our most memorable meal was the seafood buffet at the Mahogany Lounge on the Saturday night of our arrival. We couldn’t believe our eyes. There was literally a boat filled with fresh fish! With children in tow, Mahogany Lounge is the best choice for dining; but admittingly, after eating there every day for breakfast, lunch and/or dinner, it starts to lose some of its initial appeal. We also tried Cerulean and Aqua Terra, and we were happier with the food at Mahogany.
Lastly, we’ll end with something interesting that we didn’t know before our visit. Brits make up the largest percentage of travelers to Barbados every year, and that was certainly the case at Sea Breeze Beach Hotel, too. So, a trip to Barbados can give American families a 2-for-1 value in terms of cultural immersion as you get immersed in both Bajan and British culture. And if you come back saying “Hello, mate,” don’t say we didn’t warn you!
If you’re looking for a more intimate destination to enjoy a family vacation, then we recommend booking a trip to Sea Breeze Beach Hotel in Barbados. And make sure you don’t miss the fresh fish buffet on Saturday evenings!
Editor’s note: This trip was paid for by the destination, but all opinions belong to the writer.
If the idea of swimsuit season makes you tense up, stick with us. We know it’s not always easy to fully embrace our bodies, but times are a-changin’! Social media, fashion websites, even store mannequins have gotten with the program and are showcasing a wide range of body types. Now more than ever, it’s much easier to find models and influencers that represent our own bodies. And although there’s definitely a lot of work still to be done as far as size inclusivity goes across the board, there’s progress in the air. The body positivity movement isn’t going anywhere, so the perfect mom swimsuit is out there. We promise.
Let’s remember, no matter how you feel about your body, every body is a beach body. Our kids just want us to put on the bathing suit and spend the season creating memories with them. Not only do they not care about your oh-so-human “imperfections”, they likely don’t even see them. We can guarantee that no one sees what you consider to be flaws the same way that you do. At the end of the day, we want to set an example for our children. Showing them that their own bodies are perfect just as they are starts with us learning to love our own. We aren’t saying it’s that simple; but we are saying that the first step in getting comfortable at the beach or pool is just doing it. Putting on the swimsuit and getting out there. And we’re here to help.
These mom swimsuits from Amazon are totally mom-friendly. They’re flattering, confidence-boosting, and downright cute. We’ve made sure that they’re also supportive, offer various levels of coverage, and include a wide range of sizes. These are some seriously adorable and wearable suits that we’re confident you’ll feel great in. Get ready to flaunt that hot (yes, hot!) bod this spring and summer in one of these mom swimsuits, all snaggable from Amazon!
SweatyRocks Monokini
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This little number is like a bikini without the commitment. It also comes in a ton of colors so you may want to pick up more than one!
Amazon Review: I have an athletic build (with a few extra winter pounds in this pic ;) but love the suit for the most part. I wish it was a little less cheeky / narrow cut in the back and the off shoulder side was a little higher for a little more chest coverage. Overall very happy with it. Quality fabric and stays in place. I returned L because it was too small and the XL fits well. I usually I'm somewhere between a medium and large both for top and bottom. —SavvyStagerAndHomeMaker
You've probably heard of CUPSHE, and with good reason. They're famous for creating cute and flattering swimsuits that are supportive and flattering, and this v-neck one is no exception! It comes in 19 colors and prints.
Amazon Review:First of all, I am just under 5’9” and it’s very difficult to find a one piece that not only fits correctly, but is also flattering. The color is beautiful and I can’t wait to wear this on my upcoming vacation. Buy the suit. It really does look good on everyone. —Scott Christensen
Our Shopping Editor actually owns this one in 3 colors. Yes, 3. It's incredibly flattering, a little flirty, and comes in a bunch of colors and patterns!
Amazon Review: All I can say is, oh my gosh!! I have a REALLY hard time finding one piece swim suits. I have a long torso and suits usually only reach my boobs. So frustrating. I took a chance with this one, hoping it would work. I’m going on a cruise on April and wanted something cute. This one is stunning! I got the white and the wine color. It makes me look good!! —Melissa
When retro-style swimsuits are this cute, we wonder why we ever changed them! This one also comes in lots of colors (are you spotting a trend here?).
Amazon Review: This suit is so flattering. I have a new baby and really wanted something cute that would make me feel confident even with my mom bod. Highly recommend —LauraWelcher220
If you like the retro silhouette but prefer a two-piece, this tankini will be right up your alley!
Amazon Review: I bought this for my 16 year old daughter. She is bustier on top and makes it hard to find a swimsuit that will hold those girls in. She absolutely loved this swimsuit and the shorts as well. Bought size 16 and fits her perfectly. She is 5’4” and weighs about 190lbs. —Sara
Yep, it's another CUPSHE suit, but we obviously couldn't resist these ruffles and flattering plunging neckline!
Amazon Review: After three babies, I’ve struggled to find something I’m comfortable in swimsuit-wise. This suit is perfect. I never write reviews, but felt a fellow momma needed to know this suit is great for covering the mommy tummy due to the ruching and good support. Buy it! I got a size large and am 5’6”, 175lbs. Fits perfect. —Jennifer B.
Although this one comes in a lot of colors and patterns, we're crushing on this nautically-inspired navy one.
Amazon Review: I needed a new swimsuit for a trip and took a chance on this one. I couldn't be happier with the pattern, fit and detail with the one-shoulder bandeau! I am 5'3 and 128 lbs. and the Large fit so well. It showed on chart that LARGE is a 10-12 and I am usually a size 8-10 but this fit perfectly. I chose the Red Leaf design and love it. —Amazon Customer
We're firm believers that ruching is really flattering and the Amazon reviews agree.
Amazon Reviews: LOVE THIS BATHING SUIT MORE THAN LIFE! I like many women have a hard time loving their body; I'm not a mother, but I'm 5'8" with a short torso, and super long legs (about 190lbs). This suit made me feel SO good and confident. It's super comfortable & flattering, and I felt completely tucked in and adorable. I really am so glad I purchased after buying suit after suit that made me hate looking in a mirror. —angelica
Another suit our Shopping Editors swear by! We love a high waist, too.
Amazon Review: Love this swimsuit! I am so glad I ordered this swimsuit. I had lost 50lbs so wasn’t sure what size to order. It fit perfectly and is true to size. It was comfortable and coverage was great. I can’t wait to order more in different designs —Amazon Customer
Strappy is so on-trend and the negative space at the waist creates an hourglass figure!
Amazon Review: I have a very long torso so finding one piece bathing suits are difficult. I’m 57, 125 LBS and the suit fits perfectly, very flattering. Looking for a suit that has a full coverage on the bottom is also a plus. —pickyshopper
Looking to soak up a little more sun? This bikini shows some skin while still keeping you feeling secure.
Amazon Review: This came today and I ran to try it on. I have to say it is quite flattering for a woman of my size. I am a mom of 4 , twins included. It is plus and of very good quality, but it is nice. I wear 2 pieces all the time but I make sure they cover me and cinch me and I have very large DD cups or may even go to specialty stores and go up to an F or G. I am impressed that it offers support for me. That said I’m ready to hit Cancun in this 2 piece! —MBakerpsych
Prefer some extra coverage? This set offers additional modesty while making it so easy to run or swim after your kiddos without having to adjust!
Amazon Review: Fit great and very comfortable on. As a plus size woman, I personally am uncomfortable wearing swimsuits in the public eye but I LOVE this suit. The shorts come down to just above the knee and are really comfortable. The top is not so low cut that I spill out, and the fit was GREAT. Not too tight anywhere. The top is long enough to cover my belly without riding up constantly and it dries fairly quickly. Definitely glad I bought it! —Aja Collins
The little cutout and bow add a little something extra to this classic style!
Amazon Review: BUY IT! I am curvy! I HATE buying suits! Nothing ever fits right from very expensive to cheap! This suit is absolutely amazing! Hitting all the right spots and you wrap the top as tight or as loose as you want!!! After this first purchase I literally bought three more! —Nikki Vidal
Cutouts are clearly having a moment, and if you prefer some extra hip coverage, this swimdress checks all the boxes!
Amazon Review: Just BUY it! You have to try this bathing suit. Now I have never, like ever, worn a bikini and typically not thrilled with my stomach exposed, but I tried this suit due to all the positive reviews and pics of women of all sizes wearing it. It is so comfortable and flattering. I also liked it because it was one piece vs. a bottom underneath a swim dress. Perfect! —Melissa
The ruffle sleeves really make this suit even cuter and really unique!
Amazon Review: I felt so confident in this bathing suit, and that doesn’t happen often. Beautiful color, fit great in all the right places. Obsessed with the ruffles!! —Laura Osofsky
The feminine bow in the back and adjustable straps mean that you can customize for the perfect fit.
Amazon Review: I LOVE this bathing suit, and it’s been a LONG time since I have felt good in a bathing suit! I’m 185lbs, 5’9”, where a 38 DD, don’t have much of a butt and I ordered an XL. By far a great buy! Probably will buy more soon! —Amazon Customer
We've very into bust support when it comes to our swimsuits, and this wrap top/high waist combo bikini is an easy fave.
Amazon Review: Bought for my 15yr old. Perfect color and fit. She's xl and larger on top. Held her well. Great suit, I was shocked to find one we both agreed on! Will buy more —Heather Joubert Bearb
Adjustable and removable straps, lots of colors—what more could you ask for?
Amazon Review: Often i have issues feeling comfortable in a bathing suit other than black. I am 5’2/ 165 lbs. I wear a size 36 DDD and i am on the curvy side. I would highly recommend this swimsuit. It makes me feel comfy & cute and covers up in the back. It is also hard to find a bathing suit that fits me correctly but this suit really holds the girls in. I am a size L for most stores and i ordered a large here. True to size- for me. —Kristina
This suit is pretty much the definition of "secure". You don't risk exposure from carrying kiddos or big waves, plus it's really comfortable!
Amazon Review: I ABSOLUTELY love this product and rave about it to everyone. It’s modest and chic. This swimsuit is easy to put on, unbelievably comfortable, lightweight, padding is so comfortable, beautiful pattern. —Patience
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If you’ve ever been lucky in love, you’ve likely experienced first-hand the butterfly flutters in your stomach when you meet your perfect match. While that first rush of physical attraction may fade, relationships that ultimately stand the test of time often share similar qualities that outlast the initial spark. We asked several leading experts to weigh in on the most powerful predictors behind long-term relationship success, and boy, did they deliver.
1. You lead with laughter.
Let’s face it: Life is messy, and laughter is often the glue that keeps things from completely falling apart. If you can laugh so hard that you chuckle-snort and your partner still finds you irresistibly adorable, then your relationship likely is on solid ground. According to Dr. Sara Algoe, professor of psychology and neuroscience at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and director of The Love Consortium, shared laughter is critical in a successful, lasting relationship. “It signals that you see the world in the same way. We found that people who shared laughter felt more connected than those who did not share laughter,” she says.
2. You fight fair.
Think respectful disagreements, not WWE smackdowns. Dr. John Gottman, world-renowned researcher on marital stability and divorce prediction and co-founder of The Gottman Institute, says a couple’s ability to resolve conflict—or their repairing skills—is often the single greatest sign of a healthy relationship. “Our partners don’t always have to think like we think. That’s what makes life interesting—it would be boring to be married to yourself,” says Gottman. Bonus points if you can apologize without making it sound like you’re reciting the alphabet backward. Find out more about Gottman’s work on the 4 Horsemen of Relationships here.
3. You operate as a team.
The over-used aphorism “teamwork makes the dream work” has become something of a corporate cliché, but when it comes to tackling life’s curveballs, couples that operate as a unified team have a higher chance at success than those who only fend for themselves. Andreas Narum, certified psychologist, couples therapist, and founder of Remainly explains, “Good teamwork acknowledges that there are two separate sets of thoughts and feelings.” Whether co-navigating parenting duties or making shared decisions about finances, facing challenges side-by-side and high-fiving each other’s victories along the way make the relationship work.
4. You have fun together.
If everything feels like a chore with your partner, it’s probably a glaring red flag the relationship won’t work out in the long term. According to a study conducted by researchers at Utah State University, “Having fun together can help couples feel positive emotions, which can increase relationship satisfaction, help couples to unite to overcome differences, and give hope when working through difficult challenges.” At the most basic level, a relationship should be fun, and being together should spark joy, not anger or anxiety.
5. You celebrate each other’s wins—big or small.
While jealousy is undoubtedly a relationship red flag, authentic, caring support and encouragement are the love languages of many lasting relationships. “The quality of positive support—reassurance that a partner is loved and esteemed and is capable of taking control of his or her life—is the most crucial factor in the health of any relationship,” says Dr. Sue Johnson, clinical psychologist and founder of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.
6. You make time for each other, even when life gets crazy.
It’s easy for many couples to fall into a rut, especially for those in long-term relationships. In a recently published study, Dr. Samantha Joel, relationship researcher and assistant professor at Western University in London, Ontario, found partners who regularly checked in with each other sustained better relationships in the long term. Think quality date nights, not just Netflix binges on the couch. “When it comes to a satisfying relationship, the partnership you build is more important than the partner you pick,” she says.
7. Honesty and trust are your relationship anthems.
“Trust is the first and perhaps most important predictor of long-term relational success,” says Preston Ni, communications coach and author of How to Communicate Effectively and Handle Difficult People. “Ask yourself the following questions: In general, is your partner reliable? Can you count on your partner as the ‘rock’ in your life? What about you for your partner?” The key is to be truthful, even when it’s tough. Trust is the bedrock of any lasting love story, and if you’ve got a partnership that’s founded on honesty, it’s a definite sign of a healthy relationship.
8. You forgive each other.
We all make mistakes, and the ability to forgive can turn a potentially toxic situation into a learning opportunity. “Admitting wrongdoing is a form of vulnerability, and vulnerability is an essential part of building a close relationship,” says Cindy Frantz, professor of psychology at Oberlin College. Instead of holding a grudge (I will never forget what you did in 2012!), let go and move forward.
9. You respect each other’s boundaries.
Instead of thinking of “me” time as selfishness, understand that healthy relationships respect (and even encourage) autonomy, giving each partner the space to breathe and be individuals. “Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy,” says Esther Perel, clinical psychologist, and expert on human relationships. “Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.”
10. You’re both willing to grow and change.
Much like relationship ruts, comfort zones are easy to fall into and get stuck. A sign of a healthy relationship is when couples understand that learning and evolving are essential components of their relationship journey together. Embracing personal growth and change—both individually and as a couple—ensures that one partner isn’t running far ahead while the other is left behind.
11. You share similar values.
While having different perspectives and opinions is natural in any relationship, sharing core values is essential to the success of a healthy long-term relationship. To navigate decisions big and small—from family planning to what’s for dinner and everything in between—coming to a consensus about what matters is fundamental to all successful relationships.
12. You appreciate the little things.
Whether making coffee in the morning or saying “I love you” more often, recognizing and appreciating small acts of kindness will keep the love tank full. “Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts,” says The Gottman Institute’s Dr. John Gottman.
13. You can always be yourself.
Putting your best self forward early in a relationship may mean smoothing out some of the rough patches of your character. But partners in lasting, loving relationships accept each other as is, flaws and all. “If you’re true to yourself, it is easier to act in ways that build intimacy in relationships, and that’s going to make your relationship more fulfilling,” says Amy Brunell, professor of psychology at Ohio State University. Embrace your weird and wonderful self—as well as your partner’s unique quirks!
14. You dream about the future together.
Setting future goals and plans and working toward fulfilling them in the future is a powerful, connecting exercise for couples and a sign of a healthy relationship. According to research conducted by Utah State University, dreaming together as a couple can provide extra meaning and bring depth, closeness, and connection between partners. Shared goals and aspirations create a sense of purpose and excitement for what’s to come.
15. You feel safe, loved, and supported.
Research shows people in healthy long-term relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely than those without them. In terms of life expectancy, living without strong, meaningful relationships is as unhealthy as smoking. Brené Brown, research professor at the University of Houston and author of Dare to Lead, explains, “A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all men, women, and children. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong.” Ultimately, a lasting relationship is a haven where you can be your true self and know you’re always loved unconditionally.
As your kid’s budding personality begins to reveal itself, you’re sure to get a kick out of all their quirks and preferences—and you can’t help but notice just how much of their own little person they really are. You might have loved a good impromptu dance party as a child, but your kid may be more content to revel in quiet time, read a picture book, or express themselves with watercolors. Or they’re super active and eager to sprint all over the park—or just about anywhere else you take them (sorry, fellow grocery store shoppers). To get an even better sense of your toddler’s favorite activities, you can look to their unique natal astrology, which offers valuable intel on their personality, perspective, and preferences.
As an astrologer and the author of Raising Baby by the Stars: A New Parent’s Guide to Astrology, I’m passionate about sharing the wisdom of astrology with parents to hopefully make life a little easier (and fun!). So let’s dive in and look at children’s astrology signs to better understand what your kid most likes to do.
Aries (March 21-April 20)
Aries is ruled by Mars, the planet of action and energy, so your little ram is one of the most on-the-go, physically active kids of the zodiac. Sitting still is not their forte, but bounding around and moving at lightning speed absolutely is, so this is a toddler who will not only love but need time outside at a playground or, on a rainy day, an indoor jungle gym. Even if they’re run-down, they may still want to do something fast and exciting, so zip them around your favorite park in a jogging stroller. Since they’re innately competitive and positively gleeful whenever they’re declared #1, competitive games are a must. Do a timed scavenger hunt or see who in the family can do the most jumping jacks in a minute. And because—as much as they may wish you were—you’re not an Energizer Bunny, when you do flip on a show or read them a book, your silly little Aries will love slapstick humor.
Taurus (April 21-May 20)
Born under Taurus, the fixed earth sign, your wee bull is perfectly happy moving through life at a slow and steady pace. For that reason, when in doubt, err on the side of activities that don’t need to be rushed to complete—like slowly chipping away at a longer book or a LEGO building project. Because Taurus is ruled by Venus, the planet of art and beauty, your toddler has a soft spot for creative endeavors of all kinds—whether that’s making music with kid-size instruments or crafting their favorite animal out of Play-Doh. The bull is also known for being uniquely in touch with all five senses, so sensory activities that allow your tot to engage through sight, smell, touch, taste, and sound are sure to be a winner. Think: heading to the nearest playground for a picnic and discussing all the elements of nature around you, from birds singing to flowers sprouting.
Gemini (May 21-June 21)
Gemini toddlers are among the most social and chatty kids of the zodiac thanks to their ruling planet Mercury, the information-gathering planet that oversees communication, transportation, and technology. The sign of the twins also happens to be associated with the Third House of Communication, so activities that involve other kids are sure to be a hit, whether that’s a group playdate or mommy and me class. Your twins child is also bound to be a bookworm who adores trips to the library or bookstore, especially if they involve storytime. Known to be as adept at listening as they are at sharing their many thoughts, you’ll do well to prioritize opportunities for them to flex their conversation skills, whether that’s by FaceTiming loved ones or just chatting through their routine. Games that incorporate wordplay (like “I Spy”) are also winners for Gemini toddlers. And given that Mercury rules transportation, they’ll love learning about trains, planes, or automobiles.
Your little crab is a heartfelt, intuitive, sentimental sweetheart who, even more than other toddlers, can let loose and have the most fun when they feel securely attached to you and other family members. These traits are owed, in great part, to the fact that Cancer is ruled by the moon, which oversees emotions, intuition, and maternal energy in astrology. So, put on a playlist of your favorite heart-soaring songs (“Let It Go,” anyone?) and encourage your crab cutie to sing along with you. Your little Cancer will also love a leisurely stroll by the nearest body of water (something that’s infinitely therapeutic for a water sign) while strapped to you or holding your hand. Speaking of water, they love playing with bath or pool toys, and as an innately nurturing sign you can tap into their desire to take care of others by playing veterinarian or preparing yummy snacks for their siblings.
Leo (July 22-August 22)
Outgoing, buoyant, confident, and eager to be the center of attention, your little lion owes their exuberance to their ruler, the vitality-bringing sun. They’re also natural-born leaders, so any activity that allows them to run the show (like Follow the Leader) will fire them up. Associated with the Fifth House of Fun and Self-Expression, Leo toddlers love to share what’s in their hearts and on their minds through big, showy creative outlets, like playing dress-up with brightly colored (ideally sparkly!) or otherwise vibrant costumes, putting on a play, or having an impromptu dance party—which you’ll be instructed by your budding star to capture on your phone. While Leo toddlers tend to be fairly extroverted and active, they’re more apt to sit still for books and movies that revolve around being a star or a leader, like Disney’s The Lion Guard. But no matter what they adore the most, as a result of being the fixed fire sign, don’t be surprised if once they’ve pinpointed an activity they love, they’ll want to do it again and again.
Virgo (August 23-September 22)
Born under the mutable earth sign, your maiden is thoughtful, helpful, and super-communicative, and you’ll want to look to their ruling planet Mercury, the messenger planet, for valuable clues on their favorite activities. Associated with the Sixth House of Daily Routine, they’ll love pitching in on any to-do you need to check off your list, whether that’s putting away laundry or feeding the family kitty. They’ll likely also be fans of games that involve organization or sorting. And from the time they’re tiny they’re bound to be intrigued by language, so you can’t miss with some dedicated storytime, ideally reading books that cover Virgoan themes like everyday routines, healthy habits, and nurturing your well-being and the world around you (think: The Curious Garden by Peter Brown). Also be sure to give your Virgo the opportunity to “write” their own books or share their own stories out loud, as their Mercurial influence means they’re natural storytellers.
Libra (September 23-October 22)
Your Libra kid is partnership-oriented, beauty-loving, and peace-seeking as a result of the scales’ ruler, Venus, the planet of relationships, art, and harmony. Associated with the Seventh House of Partnership, they’re most likely to enjoy one-on-one bonding activities with you, another caregiver, or your bestie’s kid (who is bound to be their BFF, too). Scales kids will love trips to an art museum, making up their very own song, or experimenting with new hairstyles or colorful outfits. They’re especially driven to hone their personal style, so they’ll have fun playing with their very own grooming kit or even keeping you company while you do your skincare or hair-styling routine. And although they shine best when they’re part of a pair, they’re also social butterflies at heart, meaning they’ll dive right into a dance or music class and instantly make friends.
Intense, emotionally intelligent, and dynamic, your Scorpio kid owes their innate magnetism and powerful vibe to their modern ruler Pluto, the planet of transformation, and their traditional ruler Mars, the planet of action and energy. And you’ll do well to look to the themes of both of these planets when brainstorming activities for your scorpion tot. For example, Pluto’s all about uncovering the shadow side of life, so your kiddo will be drawn to puzzles or games that involve a mystery they can solve. And given their Mars influence, they’ll enjoy pastimes that allow them to take charge—like picking out a Sunday night dinner or taking on the role of Simon in a game of Simon Says. As a water sign, Scorps also adore time spent at the beach or swimming, which they’re sure to find calming. It also bears noting that Scorpio is associated with the Eighth House of Emotional Bonds, so entertainment that sets the stage for conversations about deep-rooted emotions (like Inside Out) will resonate with your toddler.
Sagittarius (November 22-December 21)
Upbeat, independent, and outspoken, your toddler was born under the mutable fire sign ruled by fortunate Jupiter, the planet of abundance and expansion. To that end, wanderlust-filled Sag’s mantra is “bigger is better,” so you’ll always do well to prioritize activities that broaden your child’s horizon, whether that’s taking them on a walk through a thrilling nature trail, heading to the zoo to learn about animals from all over the globe, catching a train ride to the nearest city to go sightseeing, or actually doing some long-distance traveling with your future aspiring globe-trotter. But on homebody days, you can lean on books, games, and puzzles that allow your Sag’s mind to wander all over the planet (like Busy, Busy World by Richard Scarry). They’ll also be one of the first of the zodiac to enjoy learning a new language. And even in your own neighborhood, take them to the widest play area you can find, as your free-spirited tot will always love running and playing in big open spaces.
Capricorn (December 22-January 21)
Your Capricorn toddler is a driven smarty-pants with a penchant for rules and tradition, thanks to their ruling planet, taskmaster Saturn, which oversees commitment and boundaries. Kids born under the cardinal earth sign like to take the initiative and work step-by-step toward a goal, so you might find they really enjoy using a piggy bank to save up allowance or helping you tend to the family garden or household plants (an activity that also speaks to your little green thumb’s earthiness). Associated with the Tenth House of Career and Public Image, you could be surprised by just how much your toddler acts like a little CEO in training, which is also a sign that they’ll enjoy playing a game of make-believe revolving around being the boss. As an old soul at heart, your Cap toddler will enjoy listening to old-school tunes (you could be surprised just how much they love artists like Stevie Wonder or Ella Fitzgerald) and learning about history—specifically, game-changing leaders from the past.
Aquarius (January 22-February 18)
Your social, humanitarian, highly original toddler, born under the fixed air sign, owes their electrifyingly innovative MO to their modern ruling planet, Uranus, which oversees change, rebellion, and the desire to strike out against convention. In turn, know that your water-bearer kid will always want to march to the beat of their own drum. If all the other kids in the neighborhood are into an activity they saw on Ms. Rachel this week, your Aquarius might want to do anything but that. Instead, they may prefer to make up their own game—or better yet, science experiment or invention project. At the same time, because Aquarius is associated with the Eleventh House of Networking, they’re community-oriented, so they’ll like hanging out at the local pool or playground with a group of playmates or making new friends when you visit friends or family on a road trip. They also adore technology and science due to Uranus being the planet of electricity and innovation, so prioritize activities that make it possible for them to learn about these subjects—and maybe even make a cutting-edge discovery.
Pisces (February 19-March 20)
Your fish toddler, born under the mutable water sign, is deeply emotional, tenderhearted, sensitive, perceptive, empathic, and innately in tune with the mystical aspects of life. This is owed to their modern ruler, Neptune, the planet of spirituality, and the fact that Pisces is associated with the Twelfth House of Spirituality. That said, you’ll want to embrace Neptunian themes when planning activities for your Pisces, like keeping a dream journal, expressing emotions through art (whether that’s coloring or working with you to write a poem), learning about crystals, reading or making up whimsical, fantastical stories, or engaging in mind-body practices like meditation, deep breathing, or kid yoga. Because they’re so compassionate and apt to pick up on all the energy and emotions around them, you may find they enjoy and benefit from activities that teach self-soothing, like spending time in a calming corner or listening to their favorite mellow, soft music.
“You’re going to have to be a big boy now that you’re becoming a big brother.”
“Having a sibling is the best gift.”
These are just some of the things people might say to your toddler after a new baby brother or sister makes their debut. Heck, you’ve probably uttered more than a few of these common phrases to try and get your older child prepared for and excited about the new baby. But experts, like Dr. Michele Locke, a registered clinical psychologist specializing in child, adolescent, and parenting psychology in Toronto, say this kind of language can do more harm than good. So we asked the experts for more productive ways to speak to a toddler who’s suddenly becoming a big sibling, and these simple swaps can make all the difference in easing the transition.
1. Don’t Only Focus on Positives
It’s really important to prepare your toddler for what a new baby is actually like before their new sibling arrives. “We spend a lot of time talking about the exciting parts about having a baby, and we’re lying a little bit,” says Locke. “We say, ‘It’s going to be amazing, you’re going to have this playmate,’ and they picture a toddler coming out ready to run around. Instead, it’s a needy, crying baby that makes mama so tired that she has no patience.”
While newborn life is obviously not all bad, the way you talk about it can set up unrealistic expectations. Kids, especially toddlers, are pretty literal. The more you reinforce that there will be challenges and open up the opportunity for them to express themselves, the more it frees up your kid to find the good parts for themself, explains Locke.
2. Don’t Always Choose the Baby First
Try to temper how often you say “no” to the bigger kid by picking them first when possible, recommends Locke. Saying common phrases like “the baby needs me right now” is a surefire way to enrage your toddler because they probably feel the same way. Babies can be held by anyone, so if you can give your firstborn attention when they ask for it, do it. “It’s a huge loss for your bigger kid,” stresses Locke. Before the baby, they could hug you anytime they wanted, and now there’s a newborn on you all the time and they may feel rejected if they don’t get that same level of affection.
Your toddler is also totally dependent on you, says Dajana Yoakley, a peaceful parenting coach in Little Rock. They trust that you will meet their needs and take care of them. “And all of a sudden, the resources are shared. They used to get 100 percent and now they’re getting 50 percent,” explains Yoakley. This can lead to the well-known dynamic called sibling rivalry.
Toddlers are looking for your physical presence. If you can show up more often than not when the new baby is there, your child will feel safe and that will be reflected in their behavior, says Yoakley. “That responsiveness is really important.” If you leave your toddler waiting for five or ten minutes after they ask for help, they may start to feel like they are not important and that their needs are not going to be met. For example, when your two or three-year-old needs help in the bathroom, try and put the baby down so you can help them, or just come into the bathroom so you are physically there for them. Talk them through what they’re doing with phrases like “I see you’re on the potty, good job!” says Yoakley.
3. Don’t Ignore Their Feelings
Having a new sibling totally changes the family dynamic, so letting your child express themselves is key. If your toddler is starting to share some big feelings through their words or behavior, telling them to “calm down” or saying things like “be a big girl/boy” can make them feel like they’re being dismissed. “Validate and empathize with the yucky parts that they’re feeling,” recommends Locke. When a grandparent says “You’re so lucky,” you can lean down and say “It’s also super hard to be a big sibling.”
Yoakley also recommends flipping the conversation completely by talking to the baby about the toddler. “Tell the baby, ‘You’re so lucky to have the best big sister. She has the best dolls and she makes the best cookies in her play kitchen. When you’re older you’re going to get to play with your big sister,’” she says. During the newborn stage, you want to do your best to cater what you say to the older child, the one who understands what you’re saying.
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4. Don’t Blame the Baby
If your toddler is being demanding and you just need a minute, don’t say “I’m tired because the baby keeps me up all night,” says Locke. Your toddler will react by thinking who is this baby who is ruining my mom? Reframe it. You can say “I was awake a lot so I am feeling tired.”
Yoakley agrees. Try saying something like “My hands are busy right now” so your older child doesn’t see the baby as a threat. If you constantly blame your mood or inability to do things with your toddler on the baby, they may act out more towards their younger sibling, says Locke.
5. Don’t Assume the Worst in your Toddler
When your toddler tries a wrestling move on the newborn, don’t immediately assume they’re trying to murder them (even if it looks like it). In those heated moments, it’s important not to say things like “don’t hurt the baby,” because it can make your older child feel like they were doing something wrong and even more at odds with their new sibling. When they are too rough, make sure the baby is safe, and then talk to your toddler. Say something like “I know how much you love him and want to hug him, but he has a mushy brain,” recommends Locke. Be generous in your interpretation of their actions. When toddlers are too rough it usually comes from excitement and joy, and it’s not typically to harm them, says Locke.
If your toddler has been aggressive with the baby, talk to them to help them process their emotions and set limits on their reactions, says Yoakley. “Say, ‘I see you were upset with the baby. Can you tell me about that in words? We don’t hit the baby.’ And help them with their emotions.” Don’t just allow bad behavior because you feel guilty. It’s important to guide them through what’s appropriate and what’s not, she says, while understanding that their actions are the result of dealing with a major transition.
6. Don’t Compare Your Kids (Or Let Others)
It’s really easy to make your toddler feel like they’re not as cute and wonderful as the baby by the way you talk about them. When you run into other parents or friends, you might want to complain about your slightly deranged toddler but remember that they’re always listening. If they hear you say things like, “The baby is so much easier than my first,” or gush about some (obviously very cute) physical aspect of your newborn, your toddler can internalize the idea that they’re not as good as the baby and it can affect how they act going forward.
And it’s even more obvious when your friends and family gush over the new baby. It can be hard to manage those comments, like how different the baby is from their sibling.
Try Locke’s go-to statement when someone starts comparing your kids: “We have two different kids, and we’re so lucky! We would be bored if they were the same.”
7. Don’t Ignore Your Toddler Time
If your kid constantly hears “Not now,” “Hold on,” or “Wait a minute,” they won’t feel like they’re a priority anymore. When you can, spend some special one-on-one time with your toddler without the baby in the room. “Focus on how the relationship was before the baby,” recommends Yoakley.
It’s important to really pay attention to the new things your older child is doing to ensure you’re filling those attention and connection buckets, says Locke. Offer your toddler a compliment, noticing something they’re doing (or repeating what they said through active listening), and make it specific so they know they’re getting your attention.
Most of us remember our favorite stuffed animal from childhood—maybe a teddy bear, a soft bunny, or a plush dog that we snuggled so hard for so many years that it ended up tattered and worn. Parents tend to call these comfort items ‘loveys’—but in addition to being cute, they actually serve an important purpose for little kids. So how and when should your little one meet their new best friend? Here’s everything you need to know about introducing a lovey for baby.
What is a lovey and why do babies, well, love them?
“A lovey is usually a term that refers to an item a baby may hold or want while falling asleep, for comfort or self-soothing behaviors,” says Dr. Sara Siddiqui, a pediatrician at Hassenfeld Children’s Hospital in New York. This often includes stuffed animals, soft dolls, baby blankets, and other comfort items. Loveys aren’t just for bedtime, though—tots turn to them whenever they need a little comfort and soothing throughout the day. Think: in the stroller, on car rides, or just hanging out in your living room.
A lovey can help babies calm down during an episode of crying or irritability, Siddiqui says, and may offer comfort when mom and dad aren’t around. “[Loveys] assist in separation anxiety when the parent or loved one needs to leave the room.” After all, you can’t be within arm’s reach of your child all day, every day, so a lovey is a great tool to help them feel safe and secure when you’re out of sight. Research even shows that the act of stroking can signal the release of oxytocin, a hormone that helps calm and soothe the body, which is why you’ll sometimes see a toddler frantically petting their lovey when they’re feeling uneasy.
Because these items offer a sense of security, kids can develop an attachment to them at a young age. While many children bond with a soft toy or stuffed animal, others may form attachments to random household objects—even toothbrushes!—because they’re familiar and offer so much comfort. They may crave these objects when they’re feeling tired or sad, or processing other emotions. The image of a baby snuggled up with a comfort mop or hairbrush is hilarious, don’t get us wrong, but trust us—a stuffed toy is a lot more practical (and convenient) for most families.
When can I give my baby a lovey?
“The ideal age to introduce a comfort item would be around 9 months when the infant starts to experience separation anxiety,” Siddiqui explains. “Developmentally, babies [at that age] are forming object permanence and separation anxiety where they know who they are most comfortable with.”
Pro tip: choose a lovey that’s washable and relatively inexpensive, and grab a spare or two. This will come in handy if you need to wash the original, want to bring a beloved stuffed animal on a trip, or if the original lovey is lost, damaged, or discontinued.
How to introduce a lovey for baby
While introducing a comfort item to your baby may seem as simple as just handing it over, there are tips and tricks to help them form a bond. Some sleep experts recommend cuddling the lovey alongside your baby during storytime or while breastfeeding, while others suggest giving the lovey hugs and kisses in front of your infant before offering it to them. You can also tuck the lovey into your shirt or sleep with it yourself temporarily to help transfer your scent onto the material—a familiar and comforting sensation for your baby.
When can your baby sleep with their lovey?
While you may be tempted to throw your tot’s lovey into the crib at bedtime, sleep experts and medical professionals agree that no blankets, stuffed toys, or other loose objects should be added to an infant’s sleep space until they’re a year old. “Best practice is not to have [a lovey] during sleep as there may be a suffocation risk for infants,” Dr. Siddiqui agrees. “Always speak with your child’s pediatrician to discuss safe sleep practices.”
Once your babe is over a year old, feel free to give them a stuffed animal or favorite comfort object at bedtime. Over time, they may even come to associate the feel of the lovey with sleep and doze off more easily (fingers crossed). Just make sure it’s not a choking risk or a suffocation risk (skip the oversized or weighted stuffed animals, for example). You should also make sure it can’t be used to help them climb out of their crib. A large, firm stuffed animal that functions as a makeshift step stool in bed? No, thank you!
Can babies get too attached?
Generally speaking, this isn’t something parents need to be concerned about. Being emotionally attached to a comfort item (or ‘transitional item’) is a normal part of childhood development, and has known benefits for parents and kids alike. Self-soothing is a learned skill, and comfort is a good thing—people need it at every age and stage of life. So if your child seems obsessed with a certain soft toy or stuffed animal, know that it’s perfectly healthy and this phase will likely pass (or at least, the intensity of the attachment to that item will fade over time). If you have specific concerns, ask your family doctor for advice.
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Ever wonder how your sign and your child’s zodiac sign stack up? Similar to those classic partner astrology compatibility charts, this one takes a look at how you and your progeny likely get on. This particular version is based on sun signs—how you see yourself, the person you are becoming, and your general personality. Of course, nurture has plenty to do with your bond, but the stars have their own way of aligning things. (P.S. If you’re curious how the next year is going to play out for you and your little one, dig a bit deeper into the toddler zodiac).
Note: Chart is read as Child X Parent
The Aries Child
Aries X Aries: Lots of feisty energy in this combo! You can embrace your inner child together, but it is very important to work through aggression and impulsiveness. Be the model for your little one.
Aries X Taurus: Your job is to keep your impulsive Aries kiddo on track. Aries have lots of passionate beginnings, but often burn out their energy before seeing things through. You are the perfect guide to teach them how to do so.
Aries X Gemini: It will always be important for you two to keep an open line of communication. You guys are a fun pair who love to socialize. You will always have lots of friends and events to go to, keeping you busy.
Aries X Cancer: You are here to nurture your Aries kid's inner child (we know how that sounds). Let them play and enjoy life. Don’t forget to get in on the action—they’ll love to have you in the pretend play mix.
Aries X Leo: Such a lively parent and child pair! You guys are the life of the party wherever you go. Your challenge will be managing both of your fiery personalities and learning to keep your cool.
Aries X Virgo: You have a little firecracker on your hands, Virgo! You can keep calm and cool in most situations, and it’s your job to help your impulsive Aries child learn to do the same.
Aries X Libra: Your Aries child will be your BFF. While they love to do things independently, your gentle guidance and peace-keeping ability will come in handy when they get hot-tempered.
Aries X Scorpio: Your Aries child is here to remind you of your inner child—you are still a kid at heart, after all! Enjoy these times with them as they won’t stay this little forever.
Aries X Sagittarius: The “dynamic duo” of the parent and child world. Sagittarius loves to learn and teach, and Aries is the eternal child, always seeking some loving guidance. No better person to share your wisdom with!
Aries X Capricorn: Your Aries kid may struggle to complete or stay focused on tasks. Good thing you are skilled at helping them see the bigger picture and encouraging them to not give up to get there.
Aries X Aquarius: Talk about two people who love their freedom! You both need room to explore and be yourselves. You will always have each other to do this with.
Aries X Pisces: This little firecracker kiddie will spark something in you, Pisces! Teach them to get in touch with their creative side and express themselves.
The Taurus Child
Taurus X Taurus: You will fully understand each other but just cannot be rushed. You two can experience life together through your senses: good food, sensory play, nature time and lots of creating art.
Taurus X Gemini: As quick as you are, Gemini, you cannot rush your Taurus little. You have to respect not only their time, but that they truly only want to do things once and do them right. While you like lots of options, they do not. You must learn to work with that.
Taurus X Cancer: A very loving and affectionate duo you two are. You know just how to comfort your Taurus little, something they seek a lot. You are truly their caretaker, and they love every minute of it.
Taurus X Leo: Your Taurus kid will always be teaching you how to take your time and be more grounded. You both enjoy the finer things in life—this will be your foodie BFF for life.
Taurus X Virgo: You are both practical, hard-working and down-to-earth. And you both prefer life to be easygoing and chill. Together you can take adventures to push you out of your comfort zones.
Taurus X Libra: Both of your ruling planets are Venus. You will find your Taurus kid loving all the pretty and shiny things, just like you. Together you will see the world through rose-colored glasses.
Taurus X Scorpio: While the Scorpio parent can be a bit intense, your Taurus little will teach you how to ground your emotions! But be careful, you can both be on the stubborn side. Don’t let it get the best of you.
Taurus X Sagittarius: Your Taurus kid is here to teach you some patience. You will learn they will do everything on their own time and you cannot rush them.
Taurus X Capricorn: You are here to teach your Taurus tot a bit about flexibility as they can be a bit reluctant to move! No better person than you, a sign who can move mountains.
Taurus X Aquarius: Your Taurus kid tends to stay in their comfort zone, but you, the Aquarius parent, like to push limits. Teaching them to try new things (safely) will always be your job.
Taurus X Pisces: Your Taurus kid is very practical, while you are a bit more dreamy. They are meant to show you grounding and stability, things that you probably crave.
Taurus X Aries: Opposites attract: As an Aries parent, you are really good at getting things started, and your Taurus kid has the endurance to help you see things through. Don’t rush your little one, though. We know how fast you can be, Aries.
The Gemini Child
Gemini X Gemini: THE ACTUAL TWINS! You two will be the social host and hostesses with the mostesses. It is important to work through indecisiveness together as well as nurture their sharp wit.
Gemini X Cancer: Your Gemini babe needs to be out and about socializing to thrive, while you are more of a homebody. Always remember to give them choices and let them have lots of fun. It’s okay if they don't want to be at home much—you need to get out, too.
Gemini X Leo: There might be a little bit of drama associated with this duo. Leo is so outstanding, and the Gemini kiddo loves to initiate the fun. You two will never have a dull moment.
Gemini X Virgo: Both signs are ruled by Mercury, meaning you will be one very busy pair! Nobody will ever question your abilities to get stuff done. You live by lists and schedules and always support each other in completing your to-dos.
Gemini X Libra: Talk about a fashionable parent and child pair. You two are always on point in the fashion department and tend to set the trends.
Gemini X Scorpio: Your Gemini kid is going to show you how to be a bit lighter, Scorpio. They have a fun, lighthearted air that will do you some good.
Gemini X Sagittarius: Together you two are meant to explore the world and learn through experience. Your Gemini kid will be your favorite person to go on trips with, meet new people and even try new foods with. You’ll cherish the memories.
Gemini X Capricorn: Your Gemini child will teach you how to communicate in so many ways! Their openness and intelligence will inspire you, and their wit will keep you on your toes.
Gemini X Aquarius: This parent/child combo are the networking masters. They can befriend anyone. Put them on a playground, and they’ll come back with a whole new group of BFFs.
Gemini X Pisces: You two have very different modes of communication. Your Gemini’s quick intelligence and gift of gab will seriously impress you and inspire you to find your inner voice.
Gemini X Aries: The social butterflies! You two will make lots of friends and wow any crowd. Communication will be the foundation of your relationship.
Gemini X Taurus: It will be your job to ground your flighty little Gemini and help them make decisions, as they often struggle with indecisiveness. Always offer them a set of options: Making that choice helps them feel more secure.
The Cancer Child
Cancer X Cancer: The emotions run high with this pair. You are both sensitive and intuitive. It is your task to teach your little—and yourself—not to be scared to face things head on rather than side-stepping through life like the Cancer crab.
Cancer X Leo: The Leo parent is tasked with nurturing their little Moonchild is a very big way. Your child will appreciate you showering them with both attention and affection.
Cancer X Virgo: The Virgo parent will always be the one who helps, and the Cancer kid loves the extra attention and guidance. While the Virgo parent will teach them how to analyze everything, the Cancer child will teach them to feel the feels.
Cancer X Libra: One of the sweetest and most loving duos. Libras nurture in their own very special way, and the Cancer kid eats that up. Libra is probably the best to guide them through all their emotions.
Cancer X Scorpio: You two ride emotional waves as water signs. You are both empathic and sensitive and can pick up on each other's moods nonverbally. You have a very special, almost psychic connection.
Cancer X Sagittarius: The Sag parent will have to teach the Cancer child that it’s safe to leave home and explore. The Cancer child will show the Sag parent that being home is necessary, too, and can even be fun.
Cancer X Capricorn: The Capricorn parent is tasked with balancing both their career and home life, as Cap is associated with work life. No better kiddo than the family-oriented Cancer kid to show you how to be the CEO Soccer Mom/Dad.
Cancer X Aquarius: Your Cancer kid is sweet, kind and emotional, and it will melt your heart, Aquarius. You will be singing the tune: “I never knew there was a love like this before”.
Cancer X Pisces: You are both on the more sensitive side and enjoy the comfort of your home. Create a home that is like your castle, so you will both always feel safe and secure.
Cancer X Aries: You have a sensitive and emotional little one on your hands. Family is of the utmost importance to them. With your noble spirit, you provide them that comfort and safety they so crave.
Cancer X Taurus: You two thrive at home. Lots of family time, honoring your inner nurturers and snuggling up together. There isn’t a sweeter pair.
Cancer X Gemini: While you might like to be the social butterfly, your Cancer little is a bit more of a homebody. You two can balance each other out and find harmony in this. Make sure you get your Moonchild out of the house and they will make sure you enjoy restorative time at home.
Leo X Leo: Another feisty and fiery pair! Together you two know how to bring the sass and the fun—you’re always a good time to be around.
Leo X Virgo: You two will always motivate and encourage each other to be your very best. You are each other's biggest fans.
Leo X Libra: You two are a pair that catches the eye no matter where you go. The Leo child will always shine bright, and the Libra parent is always so put-together. We see you.
Leo X Scorpio: This is a pair that knows how to bring the intensity! Scorpio is quite fiery for a water sign, so the emotions and dramatics can run a bit high. Be wary of mood swings and work on staying level-headed together.
Leo X Sagittarius: Your Leo will be your loving little lion cub, Sag. They will always respect and admire your wisdom and want to learn from you. They are the best little protege.
Leo X Capricorn: While the Capricorn parent may seem on the conservative or classic side, the Leo kid is going to break that chain with their sass and golden auras. They are something else, and you will love it.
Leo X Aquarius: You both exude bravery and confidence. You will be okay with your Leo little testing limits because you were once that person, too. You’ve got this, Aquarius.
Leo X Pisces: Having a child that isn't scared of the limelight is kind of inditimating to you, Pisces. You can learn a thing or two from their fearlessness. Let them show you how to be brave.
Leo X Aries: Talk about a passionate pair! Your Leo child will love the spotlight, especially with your encouraging nature. Just watch the dramatics—two fire signs can be quite extra.
Leo X Taurus: Oh Taurus, your little Leo is going to give you a run for your money. You just gotta love ‘em, though—they will always be bold, brave and outstanding. Always try to nurture their inner performer and they will thrive.
Leo X Gemini: Your little Leo wants alllll of your attention. It is important you take the time to stop the millions of things you do and give them some undivided time. They thrive when they know they have their parents all to themselves.
Leo X Cancer: Your Leo child is going to get you out of your shell. You can learn a thing or two from them by watching them own the spotlight.
The Virgo Child
Virgo X Virgo: You two appear to be quiet and reserved, but you're both just taking in your environment and other people. You are here to remind one another that perfection does not exist and to take it easy once in a while.
Virgo X Libra: Both the Libra parent and the Virgo kid thrive when their spaces are clean, uncluttered and harmonious. It suits you both to be on the minimal and organized side as chaos is neither of your jams.
Virgo X Scorpio: You both really love learning and have a laser focus. (I see lots of time spent watching documentaries and going to museums in your future.) Your Virgo’s ability to break down information to better understand it will truly impress you.
Virgo X Sagittarius: While your Virgo kid is excellent at mastering the details and breaking down everything to understand it, you can show them the bigger picture so they aren't so fussy. Teach them to be more easygoing, as they can be a little uptight.
Virgo X Capricorn: A more serious pair, you two are here to learn how to have some fun together! Life needs to have some play mixed in with all the work, after all. Learn to let go.
Virgo X Aquarius: Your Virgo kid's mind works quite differently than yours, Aquarius. Observe them, guide them and ask yourself what you can learn from them.
Virgo X Pisces: The Pisces brain is imaginative, while the Virgo brain is analytical. You are the best person to teach them to see beyond the facts, as well as not to beat themselves up over perfection.
Virgo X Aries: You two have a knack for getting stuff done. You really know how to take initiative and your little Virgo loves to take things apart, analyze and perfect. The last thing anyone would call you two is lazy.
Virgo X Taurus: You are a pair of two very grounded, down-to-earth Earth signs. Teach your little Virgo not to be so hard on themselves and remember not to set unattainable standards or goals for them—they really beat themselves up.
Virgo X Gemini: Two Mercurial planets aligned. While the Gemini parent is one busy bee, having a solid schedule is what will help your Virgo little thrive. Setting routines and sticking to them (yes, Gemini) will be best for you both.
Virgo X Cancer: While you are very into your feelings, your Virgo kid is more analytical. You feel; they think. You can each teach each other something about one another.
Virgo X Leo: You two are both ambitious go-getters. While the Leo parent is here to teach the Virgo child not to be so hard on themselves, the Virgo kid will actually teach the Leo parent all about minimalism and structure.
The Libra Child
Libra X Libra: The Libra parent and Libra child are another pair of besties. Libra thrives in partnerships, and there is no bond stronger than that of parent and child.
Libra X Scorpio: The Scorpio parent can be a little impatient, but your Libra child’s even and peaceful temperament will help you learn to be more mindful. They will show you how to handle things with grace.
Libra X Sagittarius: Your Libra tot loves to do everything with you. While a Sagittarius prides themself on their independence, having your Libra along for the ride brightens your world.
Libra X Capricorn: Your Libra kid is literally going to show you the beauty of life. Because of them, you will find yourself noticing every flower, sparkle, seashell and color that you were probably letting pass by before. Soak it in.
Libra X Aquarius: A pair that enjoys intelligent conversation and are equally as charming. That little Libra will win your heart and be the best baby date you’ll ever have!
Libra X Pisces: This pair is another undercover super combo! You are two of the kindest and most loving of the signs—you will just get along famously.
Libra X Aries: This combo of sister signs is like yin and yang. Where you will always be teaching your Libra independence, they will teach you the importance of relying on others, too. You two will always balance each other out.
Libra X Taurus: Two Venus-ruled signs with a love of beautiful things. Whether it’s fashion, art, interior design or jewelry. . . together you two will make this world a more aesthetically pleasing place.
Libra X Gemini: Your Libra little is your BFF, your road dog, the child who will care for you when you are sick and not put you in a home when you are old. You’ve got each other for life.
Libra X Cancer: Such an ideal pair! Libra kids love nothing more than being with their parents, and there is nothing more that a Cancer parent loves than being a parent.
Libra X Leo: Both of these signs have a certain love for love. Your Libra offspring will be very attached to you the more you shower them with love. And let’s face it, you both love the attention.
Libra X Virgo: Virgo, you are being tasked with encouraging your Libra little to be a bit more independent. Show them by example—let them know they can do hard things alone.
The Scorpio Child
Scorpio X Scorpio: Whenever we see the same sign, we know you are meant to be each other’s mirror: the good, the bad, the ups, the downs and all that comes with it. You will always be this to each other.
Scorpio X Sagittarius: You both share a deep love of learning. You are tasked with showing them how to lighten up and let go a little. These little ones are intense, but your optimism is contagious.
Scorpio X Capricorn: The Capricorn parent can be very calm, which is something your intense Scorpio child will need from you. Show them how to manage their emotions, leading by example with your cool, collected ways.
Scorpio X Aquarius: Aquarius and Scorpio are two who will fight to the death for a good cause. There is no better parent than Aquarius to teach a Scorpio kid humanitarianism at such a young age.
Scorpio X Pisces: The funny thing about this combo is you both need a lot of rest! You pick up on each other’s emotions very easily, so it is important to conserve (and restore) your energy.
Scorpio X Aries: Now this is a case of true opposites, but both sprinkled with sass. While Aries is bold and outgoing; Scorpio is much more secretive and introverted. Learning to respect each other’s way of being will be to your highest good.
Scorpio X Taurus: Where you are grounded and stable, your Scorpio little is a bit of a mystery to you. Teaching them trust is the biggest thing you can do for them. Embrace their love for learning and they will teach you in return.
Scorpio X Gemini: The intensity of a Scorpio little might be a bit much for you as such an easygoing Gem, but you guys are meant to be each other’s mirror. You will show them how to be lighthearted, and they will teach you to have some depth.
Scorpio X Cancer: While you are both quite empathic and emotional, you must nurture their deep little souls and show them what love truly is. You earn love with these littles.
Scorpio X Leo: You two will be each other’s greatest lessons. The Leo parent will help the Scorpio child to be more extroverted, and the Scorpio little can teach the Leo parent a few things about privacy and spending time alone.
Scorpio X Virgo: Nothing gets by either one of you! A kid will NOT put up with white lies or bribes, a Virgo parent can analyze anything you say to them. We wouldn’t mess with this team.
Scorpio X Libra: Fairness will always be very important to you both. Keep that in mind when parenting your Scorpio kid, who might have a tendency to be a bit extreme.
The Sagittarius Child
Sagittarius X Sagittarius: You and your little Sag will want to have the spotlight so get ready to share. Teach them the wisdom of your years and get re-invigorated with their zest for life.
Sagittarius X Capricorn: You have a fun-loving and joyful little kiddo on your hands, though they can sometimes be a wild one. Where they are spirited, you are peaceful. Where they are extra, you are grounded. No better parent to teach them boundaries in these situations.
Sagittarius X Aquarius: You two are so similar yet so different. Your Sagittarius little will teach you how to enjoy life a bit more and not take everything so seriously.
Sagittarius X Pisces: The ideas are just endless with the Pisces parent and Sag child. Your Sag kid's ability to focus on the big picture will inspire your imagination. No limit to what you can create together.
Sagittarius X Aries: While both are fire signs, Sagittarius has that free spirit streak that might make a controlling Aries a little crazy. Encourage them to be who they are and let them be free.
Sagittarius X Taurus: Your little Sag is probably always on the go. They want to explore and, in the future, travel. While you are more of a homebody, it is important they always get to spread their wings with a loving home to return to.
Sagittarius X Gemini: Another profound set of sister signs. Together you will explore the world, learn about different cultures, be fearless in trying new things and grow through experience. You have a beautiful journey ahead.
Sagittarius X Cancer: While your Sag kid is the happiest baby on the block, they might not be as affectionate as you are. Doesn’t mean they don’t love you. They just need to be free to express their love in their own way.
Sagittarius X Leo: Meet your match, Leo! Your Sag kid will out-spunk you, outwit you and out-drama you. But you’ll have the best time together, as they are a tough kid to stay mad at.
Sagittarius X Virgo: Your Sagittarius little one will teach you to see the bigger picture, while it will always be your job to teach them to slow down and not overlook the details.
Sagittarius X Libra: You two are both such good-natured souls. Libra, you like to operate in a pair or partnership, while your Sag kiddo is quite independent. You have to give them that space they need to grow.
Sagittarius X Scorpio: You are the pair who is ready for an adventure. Your Sagittarius tot will happily lead you places you always wanted to go, but now you get to share these magical experiences through their joyous hearts.
Capricorn X Capricorn: A sure set of old souls who found each other. You will always be your Capricorn child's teacher, and they, the consummate overachievers—yep, even as little ones. They will continue to make you proud as they grow.
Capricorn X Aquarius: This duo will be each other’s greatest lesson. Your Capricorn child will teach you hard work and discipline and you will teach them how to let go and have fun.
Capricorn X Pisces: It might surprise you to have a child who seems like a little adult. Encourage them to play and be a kid through creative activities.
Capricorn X Aries: Strong-willed is the theme for you both. You’re hard workers and goal-oriented individuals—together you can take over the world.
Capricorn X Taurus: You are both extremely hard-working, so it’s important you remember to play and enjoy life. You share similar qualities of patience, calmness and loyalty. This babe will be your best friend for life.
Capricorn X Gemini: You are here to help your little old soul Cappy be less serious and somber and to have some fun. In return, they will teach you how to focus on your goals, see the bigger picture and be a bit less flaky.
Capricorn X Cancer: You are here to love on these little old souls. While they teach you the importance of hard work, you teach them how to love and nurture.
Capricorn X Leo: The Leo parent loves their role as the leader of the pack, and their Capricorn child is the perfect little cub. They appreciate a parent that will always protect and guide them.
Capricorn X Virgo: This is a pair that has success written all over them. Your Capricorn little is always the first to reach their milestones, and you couldn’t be prouder.
Capricorn X Libra: These two signs may seem quite different, but you’re both Cardinal signs, which means you are the pioneers. You’re the first to get things started and spark ideas. You are both natural-born leaders, and others will always turn to you.
Capricorn X Scorpio: The two old souls of the Zodiac! It must feel like you’ve known each other for lifetimes, and you probably do. You two are one of the most unlikely peas in a pod, but that you are.
Capricorn X Sagittarius: You two are another ambitious and motivated duo. No one can stop you guys from achieving your dreams. You both think big, but your Capricorn kid will help you keep things a little more realistic.
The Aquarius Child
Aquarius X Aquarius: A double Aquarius, you are meant to be innovative leaders. Together you will show the world a better way and to be more open-minded and kindhearted.
Aquarius X Pisces: Your Aquarius kid is a love, but it probably amazes you they aren't as emotional as you are. Aquarius are known to have a good grip on this. Perhaps they are here to teach you the same.
Aquarius X Aries: The Aquarius child is truly an individual. They have a secret superpower of staying calm in the tensest of situations, and this will come in handy with the passionate and impulsive Aries parent.
Aquarius X Taurus: Your Aquarius kid loves freedom—and loves to test you. Stay cool, Taurus. They do it because they love you. Patience is a virtue, especially in this duo.
Aquarius X Gemini: “Let’s get weird” should be this pairing's motto. The weirder, the better and certainly, the more fun. Embrace the odd and silly side of life together. You’ll have way more fun than conforming to the norm.
Aquarius X Cancer: Cancer parents, you have to love having an unconventional kiddo. You want to love all over them, but they just want to do their thing. Give them space—they’ll still always need your support.
Aquarius X Leo: A pair of rebels! You both love doing your own thing and not being told what to do. You two show the world it’s okay to march to the beat of your own drum.
Aquarius X Virgo: Your Aquarius kid is here to shake up your routine. While the Virgo parent likes schedules and order, the Aquarius child learns differently. Let them do their own thing.
Aquarius X Libra: The Libra parent is tasked with teaching the freedom-seeking Aquarius child some boundaries. It may seem the Aquarius little is fearless; encourage them to be brave while being cautious.
Aquarius X Scorpio: The Scorpio parent and Aquarius kid weren’t born to fit in. They were born to break molds and shock everyone. You are both humanitarians at heart, and we can’t wait to watch you make waves.
Aquarius X Sagittarius: Meet your mini-me, Sagittarius. Your Aquarius kid will walk your walk and talk your talk! It will always be a trip to see how much they remind you of yourself.
Aquarius X Capricorn: Your Aquarius kid may be quite the rebel. Where you relish control and order, they love to have their freedom. You two will always be figuring out this balance.
The Pisces Child
Pisces X Pisces: We can only imagine the creativity coming out of this Pisces/Pisces pair. You two inspire others and are the muses of this world.
Pisces X Aries: Encourage your dreamy Pisces babe through their creative streak. Show them to have courage and always stand tall. They will always lean on you for this kind of support.
Pisces X Taurus: What a creative pair you two are. It will be your job to help your emotional Pisces babe get a handle on those feelings and express them through art, music and other creative outlets.
Pisces X Gemini: Together you two will need to discover grounding. You’re both big dreamers, but you often drift from reality. Learn to use your imaginations but also come back to the real world.
Pisces X Cancer: You are the perfect parent to nurture the emotional needs of the Pisces little one. They crave your love, caring and attention. Lots of hugs and snuggles with this duo.
Pisces X Leo: You two share common ground in needing to express yourself through your creative side. Encourage your Pisces kid to explore the arts and watch them flourish.
Pisces X Virgo: You two are here to balance each other out. A Pisces kid will teach the structured, analytical Virgo parent how to go with the flow and be more creative.
Pisces X Libra: You will always be your Pisces kid’s safe space because you provide fairness and harmony in every environment. Pisces kiddos need lots of security and reassurance, and you are the perfect parent for that.
Pisces X Scorpio: Your Pisces little one is certainly a sweetheart. They will warm your heart with their loving and tender ways. You’ll be butter to their charm.
Pisces X Sagittarius: Your Pisces child will teach you how to express your creative side. While they may seem more geared toward the arts and you toward wisdom, you still love to learn, especially from them.
Pisces X Capricorn: You two may seem like the odd couple—the business-orientated Capricorn parent and the dreamy, imaginative Pisces child. But you are each here to teach the other your ways.
Pisces X Aquarius: A Pisces child views the world through rose-colored glasses, while the Aquarius parent is a bit more of a realist. They will teach you to use your imagination more than ever before.
Don’t let the cold weather keep you from making memories
Winter on the horizon doesn’t mean family fun needs to stop. In fact, the cold weather can be ideal for certain activities (don’t forget our list of 100 indoor activities for kids!) that’ll keep everyone from suffering any seasonal boredom. From going on a winter scavenger hunt to hosting an awesome hot cocoa bar, here are 32 winter activities for kids and families that’ll help you bond with your crew.
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1. Bake together. Whip up a batch of cookies, brownies, or cupcakes. Make a few extra batches, and bring them to your neighbors.
2. Take a hike. Whether you live in a cold or warm winter climate, get the family outside to explore the outdoors.
4. Volunteer as a family. Teach your kiddos some compassion by volunteering as a family. There are lots of community activities that welcome help, and not just around the holiday season.
5. Make paper snowflakes and decorate your house. Give your house some winter cheer with homemade decorations. Paper snowflakes are easy and unique, and make the house look like a winter wonderland.
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6. Game on! Break out the board games and cards and have a fun family night of board games.
7. Have a movie night. Light a fire, grab blankets, pop the popcorn, and find a few movies the entire family will love. Go with a classic must-see movie.
8. Make New Year's resolutions. Gather everyone together and talk about goals for 2023. Here are a few ideas if your family needs help with writing its resolutions.
9. Go to a play or concert. Try experiencing a musical, play, or local concert that you haven't seen before.
11. Break out the printables. Print out a few printable activities on a cold afternoon.
12. Write a holiday/year-end card or letter. Why should holiday cards be something only the parents do? Have the kiddos write their own year-end cards and mail them to friends and family.
14. Play in the snow. There's nothing that says winter more than making snow angels and having snowball fights together. If snow doesn't fall in your city, check out these snowflake science experiments.
15. Have the kids take one photo a day during the months of January and February. Then use your phone’s movie feature to create a film with music, and don't forget to upload your memories into the Tinybeans app!
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16. Go on a nature scavenger hunt. Have the kids pick up pinecones, and sticks and take photos of what you find on the trails.
17. Go to a museum. From children's museums to museums of natural history, there's bound to be something your family will love to visit. Be sure to check your local museum's hours and if there are specific restrictions in place (for example, many museums are open again but require timed reservations to keep crowds down).
18. Set up a dance party.Find a playlist, crank up the music, and let them wiggle, shake, and move to their heart's content.
19. Make a vision board. It's fun to visualize what the new year might bring!
21. Pick an indoor game to play. If you've got multiple kids at home, pick an indoor game for them to set up and play.
22. Have a video game night. If an arcade isn't in your near future, surprise your kids by telling them you're going to play video games with them! Get a brand new game or better yet, check your local library. Most public libraries have a variety of games available for systems including the Xbox and the Nintendo Switch, a great way to try a game without having to buy it.
23. Try a new restaurant. Splurge on dinner out as a family or if you prefer, to-go, from a restaurant no one has tried before.
24. Make friendship bracelets. Older kids can make fun accessories to give to their friends.
25. Treat the family to a hot cocoa bar. Make fancy hot chocolate (like with milk on the stove) and set up whipped cream, marshmallows, sprinkles, cherries, and everything else to make for a fun night of indoor sipping.
26. Embrace the world of pretend play. If you set up one of these ideas, it'll keep younger kids will be busy for an afternoon.
27. Brighten up a cold winter’s night by playing a glow-in-the-dark game. How about flashlight charades or sardines?
28. Host a fancy appetizer party. You don’t need the holidays as an excuse to have a party with these awesome recipes. Another idea is to surprise the kids and serve a variety of appetizers for dinner. You can even dress up and have a polite conversation.
29. Practice yoga together. Get your family's zen on with a kid-friendly yoga video and practice as a family.
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30. Build an indoor fort. Need ideas? We’ve got 13 awesome fort ideas your kids will want to make their permanent home.
31. Gather pinecones and make a craft. Try hanging them from your door or make a bird feeder.
32. Make breakfast for dinner. Shake things up and turn the most important meal into nighttime fun. Here are 30 super easy and tasty recipes your family will love.
Make sure to capture all the chilly fun—and share them with your family and friends near and far—with the Tinybeans app. The secure platform puts parents in total control of who sees and interacts with photos and videos of their kids.
From snarky retorts to replies that shut the conversation down completely, here are all the ways to deal with the comments you dread each holiday season
Gathering with family at the holidays can be wonderful, but for some, it can also be fraught with misunderstandings, insults, and worse. It’s not always intentional, of course. Cultural differences, varied life experiences, and a lack of exposure to outside ideas can all contribute to these clashes. But that doesn’t mean you can’t already have a prepared response to an insult that may come your way. You don’t have to sit silently when someone makes a snide remark about you grabbing a second helping of pie or when you’re finally going to get a “real” job. So what are some polite responses to rude comments you can have in your back pocket?
First, “Be realistic about what you’re walking into,” says Mariel Benjamin, LCSW and VP of Groups and Content for Cooper. “This includes not imagining that people have changed, that old fights are over, or that you’ll magically be a more patient person.”
Instead, Benjamin recommends reconsidering your boundaries (like spending less time by staying at a hotel), or even setting some ground rules in advance. She also suggests bringing items that might create a better atmosphere, “ like old photo albums to share in happy memories, or conversation cards for dinner talk that avoids politics.”
Dr. Glenn Doyle, licensed psychologist and trauma specialist at Insight Therapy Solutions, says it can also be helpful to “remind yourself that someone saying something does not make it true and that certain people are just projecting their issues or looking to get a reaction out of you.”
Modern-day etiquette expert and co-founder of Fresh Starts Registry Jenny Dreizen also reminds parents to prepare their children for these situations.
“Tell them that if they hear anything that makes them uneasy or someone says something to them that is uncomfortable, they are not compelled to answer and that they should come find you,” says Dreizen. She recommends moving with them to a private area to strategize together, whether that means interjecting into the original conversation, leaving the party, or just staying by your child’s side the rest of the evening.
“Making our kids feel safe, seen, and comfortable is always paramount,” says Dreizen.
Now here are some polite responses to rude comments to keep in your back pocket before your next gathering:
When someone tries to body shame you
“If there’s a comment about your body I would respond by saying, ‘I love my body for what it does for me rather than just focusing on what it looks like,’” says Jennifer Kelman, LCSW and therapist with JustAnswer. She says humor or self-deprecation is also usually helpful here.
Doyle agrees. “If you feel up to going the humorous route, you could respond by thanking them, stating you’ve been working out and you’re glad your body has caught their eye,” he says. “Otherwise, rolling your eyes, shrugging, and refusing to acknowledge their comment is my preferred route. Remember: the goal is to deny them the humiliated or disempowered reaction they’re after.”
When someone comments about what you’re eating
Dreizen recommends ignoring or deflecting the comment with humor by saying something such as, “Yes, thank you, it is a lot of food, and I am really looking forward to enjoying it. You enjoy yours!”
“My favorite response to any kind of shaming is somewhat sarcastic: pretending you’ve never heard that point of view before, thanking them profusely for their concern, and maybe asking them for more of their fascinating, helpful viewpoint,” adds Doyle.
For those who don’t enjoy sarcasm, he recommends shifting the attention to something or someone else, “the goal being to make the person who tried to shame you feel silly and petty.”
Bryana Kappadakunnel, LMFT and founder of Conscious Mommy, offers these quick conversation-ending responses: “I’m not open to discussing my diet. Let’s change the subject” or “I’m happy with my food choices and would appreciate it if you would please stop making comments. Thank you.”
When someone insults your parenting
“Most people hurl insults without any real awareness as to how they’ll land. Or, they want to return to a familiar pattern of engagement, usually one that starts with criticism, continues with defensiveness, and ends with someone wielding power over the other. Avoid that trap by staying clear, firm, and repetitive,” says Kappadakunnel. She offers the following scripts to ensure the listener understands that their feedback is not wanted:
“I feel good about our parenting choices. When I need your help, I’ll ask for it.”
“I understand I’m doing it differently from how you raised us. That is my personal choice, and I hope you can respect it.”
When someone insults your job or career
“This would be an incredible overstep and I would let the other person know that this is what interests you and this is where you feel happiest irrespective of how they feel about your career choice,” says Kelman.
Doyle meanwhile offers a therapy technique called “verbal judo.”
“If someone makes an insulting remark about your job or career, find something about their criticism to sort of agree with (‘You’re right, the money isn’t great,’ ‘You’re right, it’s not exactly what I wanted to do with my degree’), but then flip it on them with something you do like or is great about your current job (‘…but it gives me the flexibility I need now,’ ‘…but it’s a good placeholder while I look for my next job’),” says Doyle.
Dreizen offers a short and sweet response: “You know what, I am not looking for input on my career right now.”
When someone insults your relationship status or partner
“How to respond to negative comments about your relationship or partner might depend on several factors: whether your partner is with you at the event, how important your relationship is with whoever made the comment or whoever is hosting the event, and your personal tolerance for enduring or brushing off such comments,” says Doyle. He says he prefers to avoid responding to negative comments about a partner with humor as they may feel betrayed.
Kappadakunnel offers the following responses:
”I’m not okay with you speaking poorly about my partner. Excuse me.” (Then walk away.)
“I feel comfortable with my relationship status, even if being single isn’t something you would choose.”
“My relationship/relationship status is not something I’m willing to discuss with you.”
When someone makes bigoted remarks or wants to turn the conversation into a politically heated debate
“In the old movie War Games, there is a line, ‘The only winning move is not to play.’ While it’s tempting to address these comments in real-time, getting into an unwinnable, uncomfortable argument with someone you see once or twice a year might not be worth it in the long run,” says Benjamin. “A simple, ‘I don’t agree with you and I don’t think this will result in a productive conversation’ followed by a change in subject will set a tone.”
Benjamin says if they double down, it’s totally fine to exit the conversation.
“More important is that, if these topics come up in front of your children, that you have a discussion with them following this, letting them know that you don’t agree with these views and that your child understands why those views are objectionable,” she adds. “If it’s about something that is offensive, bigoted, or cruel, make it clear that you not only disagree but that it’s an unacceptable viewpoint to hold.” She says this is a good time to remind them that family can be complicated and that you don’t always automatically get along or even have to agree with them.
If things get especially offensive, Kapaddakunnel offers the following line to shut things down: “I will not engage in discussions that discriminate against others. Please stop, or we will need to get going.”
Your go-to guide for trick-or-treating in Los Angeles—plus where to go see spooky-fun yard haunts and over-the-top decor
Whether your littles will be parading the streets as Barbie and Ken or Taylor and Travis this Halloween, we’ve got the scoop on the most fang-tastic neighborhoods in town to take them trick-or-treating. These spooktacular spots have everything – oversized candy bars, animatronic monsters, homemade haunted houses, mazes, and more witches than you can shake a broomstick at. And, if you want to get an early jump on all the frightful festivities, we’ve included some tricked-out yard haunts to get you in the Halloween spirit.
The Best Places to Trick-or-Treat in Los Angeles
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Trick-or-Treating Near DTLA
1. Silverlake
The popular Silver Lake Halloween street party takes place along Armstrong Ave., and the best part is it’s closed to vehicle traffic, so you can feel safe gathering goodies. If you prefer a less crowded stroll, head to North Coronado St. between Sunset Blvd. and Scott Ave. Several houses level up the Halloween theatrics, yard haunts, and special effects. The rest of the neighbors also love to gussy up and greet the trick-or-treaters. Note: Parking is snug in the hills, so park on Sunset and walk up. Where: Sunset and Coronado.
2. Angelino Heights
Trick-or-treating on tree-lined streets filled with historic Victorian homes? Sign us up! Residents love getting into the fun while handing out impressive treats from their decked-out houses. It’s a parent’s photo op dream. You can also swing by the mansion used in the “Thriller” music video at 1345 Carroll Ave. And obviously, you have to do the zombie dance—we won’t judge. Where: Carroll Ave. and Douglas St.
Westside Trick-or-Treating
3. Santa Monica
Our fave spot for little goblins who tire quickly (read: complain endlessly) is Gillette’s Regents Square, where you can spare tiny feet a long trek and still load up on candy and costume compliments. Another swell spot (and another celeb haunted locale) in Santa Monica is 16th St.—north of Montana between Alta and Georgina. It can be a bit spooky for tots, so maybe save this one for older kids. Where: Gillette’s Regents Square
4. Pacific Palisades
This Palisades neighborhood is overflowing with parents, kids, and beautifully decorated Halloween houses. Some residents even get into the “spirit,” handing out wine and hot toddies to parents. We have your attention now—do we? The narrow Alphabet Streets north of Sunset (also known as North Village) are the most trick-or-treat friendly blocks, with street names that go in alphabetical order—perfect for remembering where you started and how many streets it will take to get back. Where: Monument and Bashford St.
5. Brentwood Glen
This pocket neighborhood just west of the 405 Fwy is ideal for toddlers enjoying their first trick-or-treat experience. The community is filled with lovely family homes located very close to one another, most of which have fab decorations. There are also several kid-friendly ‘haunted’ houses and very few cars. Plus, you can pop by the nearby Brentwood Country Mart for dinner before or after. Where: The ‘Alphabet’ Sts. between Church and Beloit.
6. Beverly Hills
One look at the famous Spadena House (the “Beverly Hills Witch House”) at 516 Walden Dr., and you’ll know you’ve come to the right place for Halloween. We highly recommend getting there 5-5:30 p.m. to beat the crowds. The flats of Beverly Hills make walking easy breezy, and big homes mean even bigger candy bars and smiles from your sugar-crazed brood. Where: Walden Dr.
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Where to Trick-or-Treat in Mid City
7. Hancock Park
This picturesque neighborhood is known for its over-the-top decorations and extraordinary candy hauls, so it usually draws busloads of trick-or-treaters. These homes are seriously spookified from top to bottom, with homeowners treating Halloween like an Olympic sport. You may even catch an occasional celeb handing out candy here as well. Where: North of Wilshire Blvd.
8. Melrose
This sidewalk-friendly neighborhood south of Third St. and west of Fairfax is bustling on Halloween with plenty of doorbell ringing, candy-giving, and oohing and aahing over yard décor. Have a friend in the neighborhood? Hang at their house for pre-party shenanigans, then gather your loot in big groups. And most importantly, don’t forget an extra Reese’s for your darling parents—seriously. Where: Sweetzer Ave. and Drexel Ave.
Where to go Trick-or-Treating in The Valley
9. Sherwood Forest in Northridge
Not only can you take your little Robin Hood trick-or-treating in a mythical-sounding place, but this neighborhood usually goes all out with unique features, including a front lawn haunted maze and a Hogwarts-esque castle, complete with gargoyles. Where: Near the Valley Performing Arts Center, south of Nordoff and west of Balboa.
10. Burbank
This quiet neighborhood is home to many Disney folks who take Halloween very seriously. The homeowners here tend to go all out with decorations worthy of a movie set, and a few even set up haunted houses and shows on their lawns. But most of all, the friendly folks and swell candy make for a wonderful Halloween. Where: Mariposa and Valleyheart.
11. Studio City
This modest neighborhood, just west of Laurel Canyon, is the go-to spot for families living in the surrounding hills. It’s like one big block party featuring homes decorated to the hilt with pumpkins galore, haunted scenes, and witches’ brews. Residents say that more than 700 little candy-gobbling goblins routinely make their way down these streets, so it’s a lively and fun atmosphere. Begin your pilgrimage on Mound View and fan out to the surrounding streets. Where: Laurel Terrace and Mound View.
12. Toluca Lake
Toluca Lake is the stuff of legends when it comes to trick-or-treating. Supposedly, Bob Hope used to personally give out full-sized candy bars at his home in the tiny neighborhood just off the 134 Fwy. We can’t vouch for the story’s authenticity, but Toluca Lake has jumped on the idea that they do Halloween better than anyone else. It’s hard to argue with that once you realize the neighborhood is closed to traffic, filled with tricked-out homes (loads of industry folk live here and love to show off their prop and set design skills), and there’s plenty of candy. Where: Toluca Estates Dr. and Valley Spring Lane.
13. Sierra Madre
We love this spot for its small-town vibe and gorgeous craftsman-style homes that always understand the assignment regarding elaborate Halloween décor. Also, being in the foothills of the San Gabriel Mountains means lots of trees and a chance for kids to scuffle through crunchy leaves as they make their way down the streets—providing a much-needed dose of nostalgia to East Coast and Mid-West parents. Where: Baldwin and Alegria.
Where to Trick-or-Treat in Pasadena
14. Old Pasadena
While the festivities in Old Pasadena can’t be topped with all the shops handing out candy, costume contests, and more, check out these two neighborhoods for some good old-fashioned trick-or-treating. Families are out in full force, pulling little ones in wagons while older tykes charge safely from house to house, filling their bags. Where: Monterey Rd. between Windsor Pl., Diamond Ave., Marengo Ave. and Fair Oaks.
Visit-Worthy Halloween Haunts in Los Angeles
If you’re looking for a little appetizer before the main course on Halloween, may we interest you in a deliciously sinister yard haunt? These homes and locales are tricked out to the nines when it comes to spooktacular decor and homemade haunted house fun. Whether you drive by or stroll through them, they’re worth the trip. Make sure to check them out online beforehand to gauge each location’s scare level—some are fab for all ages, while others have freaky clowns…and we’ll just leave it at that.
One word—clowns. Like waaaay too many of them. And man, do they have issues. This year’s Circus of Nightmares presents “Spectre,” which might be their creepiest event yet. Stop by this family-friendly(ish) display filled with evil clowns and other circus spookiness if you dare. Organizers promise to provide “extra frights” on weekend nights, so you’ve been warned.
Where: 113 S Brighton St., Burbank When: Oct. 18-31 with live shows on 20, 21, 27, 28 and Halloween, Sunset-10 p.m. Online: instagram.com/circus_of_nightmares
2. Rotten Apple 907 Haunt in Burbank
This private home Halloween attraction started as a child’s birthday party and has grown to become a destination that has drawn in thousands of visitors for the past 30 years. On average, over 4,000 people walk through the haunted house doors yearly! This year’s attraction, titled “Let’s Go to the Movies,” is bound to garner stark raving mad reviews. Admission is free, but donations are requested to support the Volunteers of Burbank Animal Shelter.
Where: 907 N. California St., Burbank When: Oct. 21, 22, 28, 29, 31 from 7 p.m.-10 p.m. Online:rottenapple907.com
3. Beverly Hills Witch House
If Real Housewitches of Beverly Hills was a thing, there’s only one place the gals would park their blinged-out broomsticks—the Spadena House, a.k.a. the “Beverly Hills Witch’s House.” The fabled Tudor-style house was built in 1920 as a set for silent films, including Hansel and Gretel. With its steepled brown rooftops, exposed stone, and ramshackle shutters, it doesn’t need decorations; it’s Halloween-ready year-round.
Where: 516 Walden Dr., Beverly Hills
4. Yard Haunts in the Venice Canals
This four-block area goes all out for Halloween with pumpkins and twinkle lights strung along the canals and even some boats sporting ghoulish displays. The narrow walkways get crowded come Halloween, so you may want to check it out during the week when there are fewer people.
How to Get to the Canals: Park in the parking lot at the end of Venice Blvd. and walk south on the boardwalk to 25th Ave. From there, you’ll see a sign and a walkway for the canals leading you into the area.
This mind-blowing Halloween walk-through display is run by multiple computers and control panels and features animatronics, atmosphere effects, and theater-grade light fixtures. Entry is free but donations are welcome. On Halloween, the house will be handing out candy.
Double, double toil and trouble; fire burn and cauldron bubble. Witches abound at Santa Clarita’s Witch City yard display. This year’s show is more extensive and spookier than ever, with 13 custom witches, loads of animatronics, and creepy props.
Where: 25420 Via Jardin, Santa Clarita When: Sept. – Nov. 1, 7 p.m. – 11 p.m. nightly Online:witchcityhaunt.com
7. Sombras Cemetery in Santa Clarita
The residents of this forgotten cemetery are restless and disturbed. They could use a little company and are waiting just for you. (cue Vincent Price’s laugh here). This family-friendly graveyard display features lights, sound, moving props, and fog.
Where: 26041 Sombras Ct., Santa Clarita When: Oct. 13, 14, 20, 21, 27, 28, 31. Weekdays and Sun. leading up to Halloween are lights only, while all other days feature full effects.
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