Sleepovers can be scary for both kids and parents the first time. Our guide will help you get through the night

There comes a time when camping in the living room with Mom and Dad will no longer cut it. If that’s the case, your kids might be ready for their first sleepover. But, like any new milestone, you may worry if it’s the right time to send them to a slumber party. There are no hard and fast rules about the right age for sleepovers: some 6-year-olds might be ready to sleep away from home, and some 11-year-olds might not be. So parents need to assess each opportunity individually. Read on for six signs your kids may be ready for sleepovers or an epic slumber party and 10 things to say that’ll reassure them that everything will be A-OK once they get there.

1. They Know What to Expect

Your kid’s first sleepover is a fun rite of passage, but make sure she knows exactly what she’s getting into before she heads out the door. Go over specifics, like navigating the bedtime routine at someone else’s house, and answer all the questions, like whether or not she can still bring her favorite stuffed animal.

2. You’ve Tested It Out

If you’re not quite sure your child is ready for a full-fledged slumber party away from home, try it at your house first. This way, you can see if the kids tire of one another or begin to fight with one another. Also, you can opt to throw a “mock sleepover” with a movie, popcorn, and PJs, but call it quits just before bedtime. Then you’ll know you’ve worked your way up to the real deal, but everyone can go home and sleep in their beds!

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3. They’re OK without You

Have you ever had to spend the night away from your child? Perhaps they’ve had a babysitter walk them through brushing and bedtime or stayed with grandparents while you were out of town? If they are OK being away from you overnight, or at least until they fall asleep, they may be ready for their first sleepover.

4. You’ve Asked Questions

Perhaps your little one is thrilled about the pint-sized pajama game, but you’re still a little uneasy. There is nothing wrong with calling up the other parent and asking questions until you feel more comfortable. Everything from “What time will they go to bed?” to “Do you have pets?” are all fair game to calm your nerves. You’ll also want to address any concerns about how the parents handle situations like arguments or kids being scared at night. And don’t overlook the BIG question: are there guns in your house, and are they kept in a safe, secure place where the children (ANY children) will not have access to them? 

5. They’re Planning One

When your kids come home from school begging for a sleepover with their BFF, it’s a good indication that they’re ready to give it a go. On the flip side, if they seem cautious about the idea or worried about who will tuck them in, they may need more time to warm up to sleep away from home.

6. You’ve Talked to Your Kids About Inappropriate Touching

Part of feeling safe is being safe and making sure your children understand good etiquette at the host family’s house, but also what is appropriate and inappropriate behavior from the adults and older siblings. While we encourage our children to be polite and on their best behavior, it is equally important to speak frankly with children in a way that will empower them to say “no” and know when something just isn’t right.

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Here are 10 statements you can make to help your little one feel secure at their first sleepover:

  • “You can call me to say goodnight before you go to bed.”
  • “I will pick you up first thing in the morning.”
  • “You can take a picture of us with you.”
  • “We are only a phone call away.”
  • “You will have so much fun with your friend and we’ll see you in the morning.”
  • “[Friend]’s parents will be there in case you need anything.”
  • “You can bring your pillow, blanket, and stuffed animal with you.”
  • “We’ll be home if you need us.”
  • “I’m so proud of you and I want you to have fun with [friend]!”
  • “I can’t wait to hear all about it when you get home.”

And if all does not go according to plan and you need to dash out to pick up your child early, a simple “maybe next time!” can help them to feel a little less embarrassed about feeling homesick. Happy slumbering!

 

No matter if you plan to spend your summer by the beach, lake or pool, here’s a quick guide to water safety for kids

As summer inches closer, you can almost hear your local watering hole calling your family’s name (on top of your little ones’ pleas for a refreshing dip!). While a day by the water calls for hours’ worth of games and play, it’s important to stress water safety to your children and everyone they’re with—adults included.

The unfortunate truth is drowning is the leading cause of death in children ages one to four, with an estimated 4,000 fatalities each year. That’s roughly 11 drownings per day. And drowning doesn’t always look like arms flailing and screams for help. Drowning can be fast, silent and can happen to anyone.

So, how do we stay safe? SwimWays and the USA Swimming Foundation are sharing their top tips for water safety for kids, plus recommendations for products that encourage safe swimming habits.

Tips to Keep Your Kids Safe While Swimming

1. Sign Your Children up for Swimming Lessons

During the pandemic, many kids missed out on the possibility of swimming lessons due to closures of community pools, seasonal camps and swimming centers. The good news is, it’s never too early or late to sign up your water baby. The AAP recommends all children learn to swim, with infants learning as early as age one, since it “may be the most important drowning prevention measure.” Find a local swim lesson program through the USA Swimming Foundation here.

2. Opt for Brightly-Colored Swimsuits

Bright, bold-colored swimwear can help you spot your swimmers from anywhere. A recent experiment from Alive Solutions revealed that light, bright and contrasting swimsuit colors passed the water visibility test, meaning you better see your kids no matter if you’re in a dark bottom-colored pool or lake. Alive Solutions also recommends the use of life jackets, reinforcing that visibility is always best on the surface of water.

3. Introduce Your Kids to a Swim Buddy

Whether your child is returning to camp, visiting family and friends, or going on a trip without you by their side, stress the importance of a swimming buddy. Their pal can help make sure they’re abiding by swimming rules, and in the event of an emergency, can call for help. Enforcing this buddy system is a secure way to ensure your child has a watchful eye on them at all times.

4. Learn CPR

Accidents happen and in case the unthinkable ever occurs, knowing CPR can help save a life. Look to the American Red Cross for nearby classes that’ll get you CPR certified ahead of summer.

5. Always Keep an Eye on Your Swimmers

No matter how competent your kids are with swimming, they should be monitored at all times and reminded to stay within a supervised area of the water. Be sure to connect with child-care providers that these measures are met when your child is swimming outside of your watchful eye.

 

4 Products That’ll Give Your Children Confidence in the Water

As your family implements these water safety rules, give your kids an added boost of comfort and confidence in the water with SwimWays’ safety-focused gear, floats and toys.

“SwimWays and the USA Swimming Foundation share a dedication to swim safety and learn-to-swim efforts,” said Elaine Calip, Senior Director of Development at the USA Swimming Foundation. “SwimWays’ high-quality, thoughtfully designed products were developed with expertise from professional swim instructors to help take children safely from supervised water introduction to swimming confidently.”


1. SwimWays Baby Spring Float

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Made for infants 9 to 24 months, SwimWays’ Baby Spring Float keeps your tiny tadpole balanced and stable, so they (and their parents!) are comfortable during their first introductions in the water. The detachable canopy offers 60 degrees of shade from the sun.


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With the option to choose from popular characters like PAW Patrol’s Chase, Gabby’s Dollhouse or The Little Mermaid, these life jackets will make safety fun. They’re U.S. Coast Guard certified, designed with mobility and child safety in mind, featuring a safety vest and arm floatie duo, and a child-safe back buckle that only parents can reach.

 


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Toddlers ages two to four will feel secure in the water with this comfortable meets durable life vest jacket. As a U.S. Coast Guard certified flotation device, they feature two waist straps, a leg strap and a sturdy built-in foam so your little one can splash and float with ease.

 


4. PAW Patrol Floatin' Figures

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Say goodbye to fetching toys at the bottom of the pool with SwimWay’s floatin’ figures that are designed to stay afloat and upright! With PAW Patrol’s Chase and Marshall by your kids’ side, they’ll be entertained for hours, no matter if you’re at the beach, lake or pool.

 

Discover more SwimWays products that support water safety all year round, so you can have peace of mind whenever your children are swimming!

One of my favorite Pixar movies is  “Up.” If you haven’t seen it, it’s a charming story about love, hardship, friendship, and adventure. The colorful scenes of floating houses, funny characters, and wild creatures keep the audience captivated until the sweet and unexpected ending.

One scene especially caught my attention early in the movie. It was when the two main characters, Carl and Russell, meet for the first time. Carl is a grumpy older man who lives alone in his house that wants to be left alone. Russell is an eager, optimistic young boy that wants to help Carl. Assisting Carl will help Russell earn the final badge on his sash to become a Senior Wilderness Explorer. In the scene, Russell knocks on Carl’s door repeatedly and relentlessly. This ends up really upsetting Carl, but Russell won’t give up until Carl is willing to accept his help.

I felt like I was watching a scene between my teenage daughter and me! However, in this case, the roles were reversed. My daughter was the grumpy one, and I was the one persistently offering help.

Let me explain. There was a time when my daughter wanted nothing to do with me. If you’re a parent of a teenager, you probably understand.

She would lock herself in her room, and the only time I saw her was when she was yelling at me or coming out to eat. Seeing a smile from her was rare, and every time I would hear her footsteps come down the hallway, I would be waiting with a hug and hoping for a smooth moment together. My hopes were usually dashed when instead of a hug, I was met with a glare. I felt helpless and rejected with every interaction.

It’s hard when a child that once attached to your hip is now hiding behind a slammed door.

In an article, Katie Malinski LCSW says, “Children who are acting in unloving ways are likely to themselves be feeling unloved, unwanted, not valuable, incapable, powerless, or hurt. The response those children need isn’t greater control or bigger punishments, they need understanding, compassion, and support for their growth. LOVE.” 

I wasn’t sure why she was acting the way she was, but I knew I wanted her to know I loved her unconditionally and that I would always be there for her.

Through the help of a parenting coach and a lot of research, I learned that her behavior had little to do with me, and it was most likely something she was going through. Dr. Cam Ph.D. is a popular Adolescent Psychologist and Family Success Coach. In one of her free resource guides, called 10 Secrets to Raising Teens she says, “It may be difficult to believe, but when your teen is giving you attitude, rolling her eyes at you, or asking you to drop her off a block away from her friend’s house, she still needs your support and approval more than ever.”

With that in mind, I decided not to take it personally, to put myself in her shoes, and to relentlessly pursue her.

I started putting encouraging notes on her bedroom door every morning. She tore them down. I would make her favorite foods and bring them to her room. I never got a thank you. I enlisted a trusted friend to drive her to her activities, so she had another adult to talk to. Sometimes she was silent. I always invited her to watch TV with me at the end of the day. She usually said no.

Like Russell in the movie “Up,” I often got a door slammed in my face, but much to my surprise, my relentless pursuit started to work. She eventually started coming out of her room and engaging with the family again. It took a while, but our relationship became even better than it was before her reclusive and grumpy behavior.

Now that we’re through that rough patch, I asked my daughter to help me understand what helped. This is what she told me.

1. Leaving notes on her door effectively spoke words of affirmation and love to her, which helped. According to her, it gave her space but also let her know I was there for her.

2. Having another trusted adult in my daughter’s life gave her space from me but gave her a safe person to talk to if she wanted to. My daughter felt safe enough to talk when she needed to.

3. When she did communicate with me, I would listen without judgment. According to her, this made her feel secure and comfortable.

4. She said by bringing food to her room instead of demanding, she come out of her room, it showed her that I respected her feelings. I met her where she was at instead of insisting on the opposite.

5. Inviting her on walks, to play family games, and watch TV, made her feel wanted even if she didn’t want to join.

Hearing these words from my daughter’s perspective made me feel like Russell did at the end of the movie.  During the heartwarming scene, Carl surprises Russell by showing up at the Wilderness Explorer ceremony and pinning Russell’s well-earned badge on his wilderness sash. The scene ends with a big hug and the two of them eating ice cream together. I know every parenting situation is not like the end of a Pixar movie, and I certainly haven’t earned any badges, but I do hope my story encourages you. If you’re experiencing similar issues, you’re not alone. I know how hard it is to raise a teenager. When your teenager is grumpy and wants to be left alone, be relentless and let your unconditional love shine through. The ending is worth it.

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Jamie is married to her high school sweetheart and has three beautiful daughters. Through years of experience working with children, and raising her own, she knows how difficult parenting can be. She is an advocate for children's mental health and is best known for her creativity, optimism, and kind heart.

In the Walt Disney movie Lady and the Tramp, there is a famous line from the scrappy and world-wise Tramp about what happens when babies arrive on the scene of a pet-friendly household: “When the baby moves in, the dog moves out.”

While this sentiment may have been true in another place and time, today pets are family. And studies keep proving families benefit from adding pets. Not only can your new baby bundle and fur babies coexist under the same roof, but they will likely become lifelong friends. And just like human friendships do best when started off on the right foot, the same goes for baby and your pet. Here are our five best tips for parents when creating a smooth transition for your new little love and four-legged friend.

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1. Go slow.
For pets that were previously used to a kid-free household, a new baby can be a (noisy!) surprise. Allowing your pet to ease into the relationship is best. If possible, introduce your pet to the baby’s scent with an item that has been around the baby in the hospital, such as a blanket or a onesie. Dogs, in particular, use scents to understand the world around them. Giving Fido the opportunity to “get to know” baby through scent will help put your pet at ease when baby comes home. 

2. Stay calm.
When you do bring baby home for the first time, it is best to allow a friend or family member to hold the baby so you can greet your pet fully. If they are particular energetic, play fetch for a few minutes or have someone take your pup on a walk to help them release some energy before meeting your baby. When it’s time to bring your pet near the baby, allow them to sniff carefully around the baby. Be sure to use calm but firm tones when speaking (high-pitched “baby” talk excites your pet, causing them to become rowdy). 

3. Set boundaries. It’s important to be clear about no-go spaces for your pet from the start, including your baby’s swing, crib or car seat. You may need to use a baby gate to create separation. Likewise, when baby becomes mobile, teach them to be respectful of your pet’s zones, such as their sleeping space and feeding area. Pets can become territorial of these spaces, so it may be best to move any bedding and feeding bowls to an area that is inaccessible to baby until your little one is older. This will not only keep baby safe and allow your pet a place to escape when needed, it will cut down on the inevitable mess of baby turning Fido’s food bowls into an impromptu snack or sensory experience.

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4. Keep watch.
While your four-legged friends may have been your first baby and a part of your family for years, it is important to remember they are being presented with a new situation and may act unpredictably. Never leave your baby unattended with a pet, and keep a close watch for signs of frustration in your animal, including, for dogs, crouching, shaking or a tail tucked between their legs, and, for a cat, an arched back, flattened ears and an erect tail. 

5. Enjoy each other.
In those first few weeks and months with baby, your pet will (understandably) take a backseat in your time and attention. Make your pet feel secure and relaxed by keeping a consistent routine with meals and walks. Once you’re feeling comfortable, cuddle up on the couch together with your two loves. Or, when energy allows, take walks with your pup and the stroller. By allowing your kids to grow up watching you enjoy your pet, you’re laying a solid foundation for them to follow in your animal-loving footsteps. 

 

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Little Tikes red and yellow Cozy Coupe is one of the most iconic toys of all time. Now your kiddos don’t have to stay tied to the concrete, they can take the fun to the pool (which is great because trying to grab a screaming toddler out of the classic red and yellow car can be a JOB).

Leslie’s Pool offers the funnest float of the summer: an inflatable Cozy Coupe! The makers of Pool Candy created this easy-to-inflate float that comes with a canopy, a moving steering wheel and a horn that really beeps.

The toddler-sized float also comes with leg holes so your littles feel secure while cruising around the pool. And more importantly, mama can snag a little relaxation while floating next to her babe in the pool.

If you need to keep the bigger kids happy too, there are tons of classic pool games that require no props so everyone is happy. Or better yet, snag a few inflatables for them, too!

You can find the Little Tikes Cozy Coupe at lesliespool.com for just $30.

––Karly Wood

 

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Thrill-seekers and nature-lovers: fasten your harness and get ready to explore the outdoors from a new perspectivethe treetops! Exhilarating views, physical and mental challenges and adrenaline-pumping excitement await. Afraid of heights? You can do this, too! Numerous safety features allow even the shakiest to feel secure on these awesome arbor adventures. (Fair warning: parents, you might actually love this more than your kids.)

Mount Hermon Adventures, Santa Cruz

Who doesn’t want to spend a day hanging out in the redwoods of the Santa Cruz mountains? Clip into the self-directed Sequoia Aerial Adventure which features 40 elements (with a maximum of 80 feet in height) and two zip lines, or opt for the Redwood Canopy Tour which includes two guides, six zip lines and two sky bridges at 150 feet in height. Either way, you’ll explore the redwoods in a way you never have before. Adults can celebrate with a “grand” margarita on the woodsy patio of the nearby Cowboy Bar and Grill

17 Conference Dr
Felton, CA 
Ages: 10 & up
Online: mounthermonadventures.com 

Tree Top Sac, Sacramento

Perfect for slightly younger kids and those who aren’t as accustomed to getting off the ground, Tree Top Sac offers adventures for adrenaline-seekers ages seven and older. Throughout five different parcours (courses), you’ll make your way across tight wires, bridges and slacklines 20 feet high. Each parcour ends with a zip line and a soft (but thrilling) landing. 

1300 Lake Washington Blvd.
West Sacramento, CA  
Ages: 7 & up
Online: treetopsac.com

Sonoma Zipline Adventures, Sonoma

Up high in the sweet-scented Sonoma redwoods, the Tree Tops Course at Sonoma Zipline Adventures will take you 250 feet above ground and up to 40 mph on seven zip lines and two sky bridges. The Forest Flight comes with a personal guide and seven zip lines including one that’s 800 feet long. On Fridays and Saturdays, try the Night Flighta bucolic escapade under the moon and stars! For a unique getaway, stay the night in a treehouse (dinner and breakfast included) and wake up next to the birds singing in the canopies. 

6250 Bohemian Highway
Occidental, CA
Ages: 10 & up 
Online: sonomacanopytours.com

Challenge Sonoma, Sonoma

A non-profit ropes course that’s been around for 30 years, Challenge Sonoma is located on Sonoma Mountain just four miles from the town of Sonoma. Open days for families and individuals are offered at least once a month. You and your kiddos will find ground-level cooperative games, low-challenge activities and several high-challenges, including the Vertical Playpen, the Burma Bridge and a scenic zip line along a creek. Rest up afterwards with a picnic at a nearby winery like B.R. Cohn Winery. You’ve earned it!

Eldridge Trail, 
Glen Ellen, CA
Ages: 10 & up
Online: challengesonoma.org

Quarry Park Adventures, Rocklin

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This unique setting is not exactly in the treetops, but you’ll still reach soaring heights and have spectacular views. Climb, twist and swing through this incredible 60-foot deep, 160-year old rock quarry. Along with aerial adventures, you’ll find rock climbing, paddle boats, rappelling and zip lines. Three levels of aerial challenges are available on Pinnacle Pete’s Aerial Adventure, including more than 60 elements and heights of up to three stories high. In fall and winter, adventures are available Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays and groups can book ahead of time throughout the week. Check the website for updates and current opening status.

5373 Pacific St
Rocklin, CA
Ages: Guests under 12 must weigh at least 45 lbs and be accompanied by someone 14 or older.
Online: quarrypark.www2.gmgstaging.com

Fort Miley (Pacific Leadership Institute), San Francisco

For an easily accessible adventure nestled in four acres of forest within the city, this is a great opportunity for locals to spend time outdoors while building confidence, leadership and trust. The course builds from low elements to high ones, including an awesome zip line. Community days are offered on the first Sunday of every month from 1-4p.m. Participants must be 10 or older.

Fort Miley Ropes Course
San Francisco, CA
Ages: 10 & up (on community days)
Online: pliprograms.org

McLaren Park (Outward Bound), San Francisco

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Consisting of nine high ropes challenges as well as some low elements, this newly built course in San Francisco’s John McLaren Park is another great opportunity for city kids to get outside and challenge themselves at the same time. The course is open one Saturday each month for community members from 9 a.m. to 12:30 pm, and tours are accompanied by an Outward Bound instructor. Check the website for availability as spaces fill up quickly. 

McLaren Park
San Francisco, CA
Ages: 12 & up (on community days)
Online: outwardboundcaliforina.org

Tahoe Treetop Adventure Parks, Tahoe

With a minimum age of five and three locations within the Tahoe region, families will find all kinds of adventure in the gorgeous canopies of the Tahoe National Forest. Most aerial courses involve anywhere from seven to twelve tree platforms. In between each one, you’ll navigate rope swings, bridges, swinging logs, tightropes, nets, horizontal climbing walls and more. Zip lines are interspersed throughout the courses, providing an exhilarating burst between challenging obstacles. 

Locations: Tahoe City, Squaw Valley, Tahoe Vista
Ages: 5 & up
Online: tahoetreetop.com

Margarita Adventures, Santa Margarita

Kate Loweth

If you’re heading to laidback Central Cal and you’re in the mood for more of a ride than a workout, check out Margarita Adventures where you can skip the ropes course and head straight to the zip lines. Hook up and fly down six zip lines over vineyards and rolling hills, and enjoy a stunning walk across a 300-foot suspension bridge. You can also join a nature and wildlife tour, either by Hummer or on foot, where a naturalist will point out native plants and wildlife in the area.

22719 El Camino Real
Santa Margarita, CA
Weight Requirements: Anyone between 30 and 275 lbs can ride (at least 36 inches tall)
Online: margarita-adventures.com

—Julie Honan Johnston
featured photo by Go Tahoe North

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For parents, raising confident kids means teaching them how to meet life’s many challenges and to succeed. According to experts, throughout their formative years, kids will look to their families, friends and peers to help develop their sense of self, but as they master skills, they become more secure in their abilities. And, with positive reinforcement, kids’ self-confidence and self-esteem will grow exponentially, which leads them to try new things, do their best and feel proud of their achievements. Keep reading to learn why it’s so important to raise kids with confidence. 

It Helps Them Be Successful

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Possessing self-confidence can help a child take on challenges and risks that may exceed their current abilities. By successfully pushing boundaries, a child’s confidence can create a virtuous circle where each win leads to the next win. Researchers at Stony Brook University wanted to see if there was truth in the adage “success breeds success,” and their study validated that early successes bestowed on individuals produced significant increases in subsequent rates of success.

Confidence has been shown to help children in education as well: Behavioral psychologist Stanley Coopersmith said, “In the critical childhood years, positive feelings of self-esteem have been shown to increase children’s confidence and success at school.”

It Super-Charges Their Creativity

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As parents, we know that children are innately creative and there are few things as precious as a child’s vivid imagination. But the wellspring of a kiddo’s creativity can diminish over time if she is discouraged from nurturing her creative confidence. A survey conducted by IBM found that creativity was the single most sought-after trait in leaders today. Children who are self-possessed and confident are more likely to retain their super-charged creativity.

According to Tom Kelley, co-author of Creative Confidence and partner at IDEO, a global design and innovation firm, “Creativity, far from requiring rare gifts and skills, depends on what you believe you can do with the talents and skills you already have.” Confidence is an oft-ignored but essential part of creativity. It’s the confidence that allows people to super-charge their creativity.

It Nurtures Their Mental and Physical Resilience

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Studies have shown that self-confidence isn’t just a feeling or emotional state of mind, but can have a direct impact on mental and physical health. A child with a strong foundation of confidence is better at coping with stress and more resilient against illnesses.

Numerous studies have demonstrated the protective nature of confidence and self-esteem, especially when it comes to the impact of stress and physical disease. In a study published in the National Library of Medicine, patients with a greater feeling of mastery and high self-esteem, in combination with having close relationships, were shown to be less prone to mental or physical illness. The study reported, “Positive self-esteem is associated with mental well-being, adjustment, happiness, success, and satisfaction.”

It Fosters Empathy

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Children’s confidence and self-esteem grow when they see what they do matters to others. Letting kids help around the house or do service projects at school can help them build their confidence as well as foster empathy for others. Encouraging kids to feel secure in themselves can help them see the world beyond themselves and understand that they are part of a larger community.

Parents can nurture a child’s confidence by modeling positive behavior and being thoughtful about praise, experts say. Rather than overpraising when it’s unwarranted, which can come across as hollow and insincere, help kids set goals, then recognize and praise their effort instead of the end results.

It Helps Them Find Happiness

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Last but certainly not least, according to this study, confidence inspires contentment, happiness, and pride in any kid. By encouraging play and being attentive during playtime, parents demonstrate to their kids the importance of having fun and understanding what brings joy to themselves. Showing love, embracing imperfections, and helping your kiddo find his passions can help build his confidence and self-esteem in myriad ways that will benefit him for a lifetime to come.

—Kipp Jarecke-Cheng

 

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As our kids begin their second consecutive pandemic-impacted school year, the Delta Variant is threatening the chances of a “normal” school experience, parenting can feel more stressful than ever. 

With all this uncertainty, it’s important that we continue to foster meaningful conversations with our kids to help them feel secure, grounded and connected, despite feelings of fear, anxiety and confusion. One topic families may be reluctant to discuss? Money. According to a recent survey by T. Rowe Price, 69% of parents are reluctant to talk with their kids about money, and only 23% of kids reported talking with their parents about money on a regular basis. It may seem like a strange time to talk about money with everything happening in the world, but this conversation can be an important part of daily interactions with your child to help build a strong foundation during times of uncertainty. 

Demystifying money, by making it a regular topic of discussion, is crucial to helping your kids develop smart money habits later in life. And its not just talking about money, but giving kids exposure to money decisions: what to buy, what not to buy and how to make those tradeoffs is an important muscle for them to start flexing while still at home. Without a solid financial foundation, based on conversations and experience, kids will be unprepared to function as successful economic actors when they leave the nest. 

The first step for empowering kids to be smarter spenders is collaboration. Encourage your kids to ask questions by including them in spending decisions. Shopping, whether for back to school supplies or for a hobby, is a great opportunity to give your kids a budget and allow them to buy items that will directly impact their daily experience. 

The next step: Make a plan around spending. Sit down with your kids and break down their expenses into different buckets: wants vs. needs, fixed vs. variable expenses. This is a great way to help kids visualize money and gain a firmer understanding of their financial situations. After making a plan, the final steps are to set goals and prioritize. Ask your kids what short and long term purchases they want to make and use the plan from earlier to evaluate how close they are to achieving their spending and saving goals. For example, do your kids want to save up for a new gaming console? If so, they might want to take fewer trips to the ice cream shop. 

While these steps are a great way to get kids thinking about smart money habits, tools like Till give kids hands-on spending experience by putting the power in their hands. Till is an app and debit card combo designed to encourage collaboration between parents and kids. Unlike other apps that focus on saving or investing, Till’s #1 priority is teaching kids to be smarter spenders. The reality is that we are living in a spending economy, and without developing the ability to spend effectively, kids will have a very difficult transition once they leave the nest. 

On average, each kid in the US influences family purchases of $6,000 a year. That equates to a lot of opportunities to teach them about how to spend wisely. Imagine if instead of putting some of those expenses on a credit card auto-pay, you use the opportunity to talk with your kid on a monthly basis about if it’s a worthwhile expense, and better yet, give them the exposure and the opportunity to pay the bill themselves (even if you subsidize it). Paying bills is a very real part of life that kids should have exposure to before they’re out on their own and potentially caught off guard. 

We all want our kids to grow up to be strong, educated financial actors. Taking the time to teach your kids smart money habits will benefit them for the rest of their lives. No one knows what this next year will bring, but one thing you can control is planting the seeds for your kids’ long-term financial success.

 

Taylor Burton is the co-founder of Till Financial, the first app and debit card that empowers the next generation of smarter spenders, helping families find teachable moments to learn financial literacy and demystify money management for kids. He is a proud father of two girls and lives in Brooklyn, NY with his wife.

Kids (and kids at heart) all look forward to staying up late and watching fireworks over the summer. But dogs? Not so much. Those loud booms, pops and crackles are enough to make them beeline it for a spot under the bed. Since animals don’t understand that the noise and bursts of light are for July 4th celebrations, fireworks can feel unexpected and downright terrifying for pets. Signs of distress may include shaking, pacing, panting, hiding, crawling into your lap (even when they’re 80 pounds!), or engaging in destructive behavior. Pro tip: Hide your favorite shoes! Here are some simple tips to ease your dog’s anxiety during fireworks:

Every family’s pet journey looks a little different, but one thing remains the same: We all want our furry friends to be healthy and happy. Hill’s provides science-backed nutrition for every age, size and need and makes it easier to support your pet’s needs. See how Hill’s science-backed nutrition can give your best friend their best life.

Stay Inside

The sounds from fireworks may feel like a threat, and your anxious pup doesn’t know where to flee if his natural “fight or flight” response is triggered. That’s why it’s important to keep dogs inside during fireworks, so you don’t risk him running away from home in an attempt to get away from the noise. Make sure his collar, with correct contact information, is on just in case you have an escape artist on your hands! Avoid bringing your dog to a firework show, especially if you don’t know how he’ll react when seeing fireworks among a crowd. 

Stay Close By

Your dog will feel better being close to you—a reassuring, familiar presence. If you won’t be home during a fireworks session, arrange for your pooch to stay with a trusted pet sitter or family member so he’s not alone during a stressful time.

Set Up a Safe, Cozy Space

Cuddle up on the couch with blankets and toys, guide him to his crate if that’s where he likes to curl up, or consider hanging out in a smaller room of the house (with the door closed) where the noise won’t feel so threatening. Keep windows and doors shut during fireworks. Closing the blinds also helps dim the startling lights.

Drown Out the Noise

Play calming music, an audiobook or other soothing ambient noise to help minimize the sensory overload from fireworks. There are tons of playlists online made just for dogs! Aside from fireworks, pup-approved music really comes in handy as a technique to handle other bouts of fear, including separation anxiety. 

Dress for Success

Some dogs (and cats!) respond really well to wearing a Thundershirt. This snug wrap works much like an infant swaddle by applying gentle pressure to calm anxiety from fireworks, thunderstorms, travel, vet visits and more. 

Every family’s pet journey looks a little different, but one thing remains the same: We all want our furry friends to be healthy and happy. Hill’s provides science-backed nutrition for every age, size and need and makes it easier to support your pet’s needs. See how Hill’s science-backed nutrition can give your best friend their best life.

Talk to Your Vet about Treatment

Some dogs benefit from medication during high-stress times. There are over-the-counter pheromone sprays, chews or prescription medications for severe cases. Ask your veterinarian about options for your dog if you’re concerned.

Keep Calm and Carry On!

Act normal around your pet during fireworks. Play together and provide treats for good behavior. Your dog will pick up on your mood cues and feel secure.

Every family’s pet journey looks a little different, but one thing remains the same: We all want our furry friends to be healthy and happy. Hill’s provides science-backed nutrition for every age, size and need and makes it easier to support your pet’s needs. See how Hill’s science-backed nutrition can give your best friend their best life.

 

If you want to roll down the road or up hills with the greatest of ease, consider a smooth riding electric bike to gently push you along. Electric bikes are great for many reasons including reducing fossil fuels, making it easier to ride long distances or up hills and effortlessly hauling extra weight.

Pretty much every kind of bike has been made into an electric version which makes the joy of electric cycling accessible to so many people in so many ways. Below you’ll find some of the most affordable and stylish electric bike options to cruise through town for errands, going to the park or even to take camping. Most of these will accommodate child seat add-ons or a tag along trailer to either a pannier, stem or a top tube. But make sure to identify where the battery pack is placed on the bike to ensure it won’t get in the way of your attachments.

If you want to take multiple kids out with you, here’s a good list of family cargo bikes to consider. Let’s pedal on to find the perfect electric bike for you, from electric beach cruisers to the best electric hybrid bikes.

 

The Best Electric City, Hybrid and Utility Bikes for Families 

These are great for running short errands around town, going to/from work or taking the kids to school or the playground. These are upright sitting bikes with a comfy seat, best for paved roads and pathways, but hybrids can handle some gravel and dirt for light off-roading.

Electra Townie Go! 5i Step Thru, from $2,599

Electra Bikes

This bike is too cute and you're going to love cruising around town on it. You can rely on the workmanship as it’s one of the best-selling bikes in the U.S. from a well-known brand. Electra was bought by Trek (one of the top 3 bike companies) from Benno Bikes, a well-respected bike company. The Townie Go! is a great option for beginners because it’s so easy to use, fun to ride and the step-thru styling makes it easy to get on and off in a flash.

PROS:
• Powered by the Bosch Active Line Plus System
• Wide handlebars and a plush saddle made for a comfortable ride
• Rear rack is included
• Flat-foot technology provides a more relaxed seating position
• Silent motor
• The PowerPack 400 battery and 4 AMP charger charges quickly to keep you going.
• Available in several fun colors

CONS:
• It doesn't come with a basket or a bell, but you can easily add those on yourself

Where to buy: trekbikes.com

Story Electric Step-Through Bike, from $1850

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Chosen as one of Oprah’s Favorite Things in 2018, it certainly has a lot of favorites going for it. Like an integrated rear rack, leather saddle and grips and an integrated USB port to charge your phone while you ride among others. Story Electric's Step-Through Bike has specialized indestructible ThickSlick tires tp provide optimal protection and a smoother ride. It’s well-priced for an electric bike with great styling and a philanthropic purpose. For every Story Bike purchased, they donate a regular bike to students in developing countries.

PROS:
• Easy assembly and easy to maintain
• Battery range: 45 miles

CONS:
• Low power range: 250-350W
• Limited accessories

What owners say:
“The rear rack is solid and easily accommodates a child’s Yepp seat. The upright design means I don't have any issues with kicking the foot trays. The front eyelets allowed for the addition of a pannier rack and a big bag for lugging gear. The disc breaks make me feel secure with slick roads.”

Where to buy: storybicycles.com

Huffy Everett 27.5” Electric Bike, from $999

Huffy Bikes

This is one of the most affordable electric bikes that you can find today. Huffy bikes have been around since 1934 so they know a thing or two about bikes. Huffy's entry into the electric bike world brings them up to speed with the times. Front and rear disc brakes deliver solid control and pedal-assist helps you handle small hills and longer distances. For the lowest cost on the market it’s a good option if you want to get up to speed with the times too.

PROS:
• Affordable price
• 2 year limited warranty
• 36v battery with lock

CONS:
• Battery range: 25 miles

What owners say:
“I bought this bike for my daughter a couple months ago and she would LOVE going bike riding with it. When she is going uphill, all she does is turns on electric mode and goes up quickly without a sweat.”

Where to buy: huffybikes.com

 

Trek Verve+ 3 Lowstep, from $2,999

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Trek is considered one of the top 3 bike brands in the U.S. and they have a solid reputation for quality, performance and service. With so many locations, you’ll likely be able to take your bike into a local shop for any repairs or adjustments you might need. The Verve+ is the 3rd generation and is equipped with more power and range in this model. Trek accessories are plentiful and seamlessly integrated for easy operation.

PROS:
• 2 year warranty
• Quiet motor
• Battery power: 500Wh
• Smooth and easy to ride

CONS:
• Bottle cages can get in the way from removing the battery
• The Purion display is the smallest offered by Bosch
• There is no front suspension

What owners say:
"Best bike ever! We were lucky enough to find this one in our local bike shop and LOVE IT. I pull our 4 year old twins in a trailer with total ease. I was not a bike rider prior but I AM NOW! only downfall about this model is that it doesn't come with fenders or matching fenders to purchase as an add on. Great bike for the money! It does all I need it to do to get us all around town and through the bike trails with ease!"

Where to buy: trekbikes.com

Cannondale Treadwell Neo EQ Remixte, from $2,650

Cannondale Bikes

Cannondale Treadwell Neo EQ Remixte is a lightweight electric bike that’s fun to ride and comes from a trusted top brand bike company. It has a lot of accessories like racks, front and rear lights and a plush comfortable suspension seat. The aluminum alloy chain guide reduces drops and protects your pants from getting greasy or snagged.

PROS:
• Battery range: 47mi
• Cannondale has a large dealer network, so repairs and adjustments can be easily accessed
• Wider tires are used to improve stability and comfort
• Easy-to-use hydraulic disc brakes

CONS:
• The display only has one button and takes extra time to figure out
• Integrated battery can’t be removed for charging separately

What owners say:
"Cannondale has put out a playful adult bike that makes it fun just going out for a bike ride. The handle bars have character, they’re not just a flat bar. The tires are nice and thick so hitting a bump is nothing dramatic. The seat is so stylish different then all others. The bike has fewer speeds it’s for a a playful ride...not an exact science. Ride and go have fun, even track yourself with the Cannondale App.”

Where to buy: cannondale.com

Benno RemiDemi 9D "Etility" Bike, from $3,399

Benno Bikes

This is an incredibly good bike from an incredible bike designer. Benno sold his famed Electra bike line to Trek and has been focusing on these "Etility" bikes. The quality is exceptional, the motor is very quiet and the battery pack can be removed from the bike for separate charging. It has a low stand over and saddle height; which makes it easier for those with more limited mobility to use. Best of all for parents, it comes with a rear rack that's compatible with child seats from Yepp!

PROS:
• Large 4.25″ wide fat tires and steel frame dampen vibrations and give stability
• Sold at various bike shops all around the U.S. so you’ll have good access to support
• Comfortable seat adjusts up/down and front/back
• Front basket can hold a staggering 65lbs
• Comes in 4 different colors

CONS:
• No suspension fork or seat post is included
• It’s heavy at 65.3 lbs

What owners say:
“It’s neat to see a product that captures the vintage style of a Vespa scooter with the clean quiet technology of electric assist.”

Where to buy: bennobikes.com

Serial 1 RUSH/CTY SPEED, from $4,999

Powered by Harley Davidson, the Serial 1 RUSH/CTY SPEED offers a sleek design for jetting around the city. Available for pre-order, this ebike is sure to turn heads.

PROS

  • integrated battery and mass-centralized motor position
  • brake lines and electrical wiring are routed through the frame for a clean look

CONS

  • high price tag

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The Best Electric Beach Cruisers for Families 

Electric beach cruisers are perfect for beginners looking for a casual ride on flat surfaces like boardwalks or sidewalks, to ride to the beach, a neighbor’s house or down the street to the park. These are usually single speed bikes with a backward peddle to brake and upright seating with a comfy seat. Tires are wide with low pressure and low maintenance made for a comfortable ride.

Blix Bike Sol Cruiser, from $1,499

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The Sol features a laid back riding position, wide handlebars and a comfortable seat with large tires for a smooth and easy ride. It has an upgraded 500W motor and 46v battery pack; which means you’ll get more power and more range out of it. There are lots of mounting points for accessories and add-ons, like the optional rear rack to fit a Yepp child seat.

PROS:
• They’re sold through dealers so you can see and test them in person and have access to support
• The chain guide prevents drops and will keep your pant legs from getting greasy or snagged

CONS:
• It has mechanical brakes (instead of easier hydraulic brakes)

What owners say:
“The Sol is one of their most popular bikes, and I can definitely see why. It’s beautiful but not overpriced, the components are all upgraded, and safety and strength have been taken into consideration. The step-thru frame is incredibly low and the battery is easy to remove for charging.”

Where to buy: blixbike.com

sixthreezero Around the Block New 500W, from $1,899

You'll love this electric cruiser bike with a 500-Watt rear hub drive motor. It has a classically-styled beach cruiser frame that provides maximum comfort and riding ease. You’ll love zipping around knowing nobody can tell your being powered by a disguised motor.

PROS

  • 20-40 hour battery life
  • upright, relaxed riding position
  • clear display gives your speeds
  • 90-day test ride

CONS

  • Frame only comes in one size

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Electric Bike Company Model S, from $2,099

Electric Bike Company

The Model S is a classic Step-through style electric cruiser, built to order, arrives fully built, and is 100% customizable to your heart’s content. It’s been awarded as one of the top rated E-Cruiser bikes in the USA and is less expensive than many other bikes that come with less features. Even though it’s considered a cruiser, it can qualify as a utility bike with all of the accessories available and it’s 380 pound weight capacity for carrying groceries or kids.

PROS:
• Extra battery range: 140 miles with extra battery pack
• LCD color display is very user friendly
• USB port for charging phones or speakers
• Available in 10 fun colors

CONS:
• These bikes are heavier at 60.5 lbs because they come with a sturdy welded-on rear rack
• They only come with one gear
• The frame only comes in one size, but with the step-thru and adjustable seat stem it should work for most

What owners say:
"Wow! The entire team knocked it out of the park!! After Many hours of research on the BEST built electric bikes I ordered 2 for my family and could not pass up the value."

Where to buy: electricbikecompany.com

 

Pedego Tandem, from $3,295

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Riding this comfortable tandem is twice as nice when you share the fun with a friend. This is the world’s first electric bicycle built for two and with its oversized seats, wide handlebars and large balloon tires it’ll be comfortable for whoever you bring along. It’s simple, tough and fairly powerful while still being quiet.

PROS:
• Battery range: 60 mi
• Battery pack is removable for easy charging
• Industry leading warranty

CONS:
• The back handlebars are lower so it’s best for an older kid or someone who’s shorter than you
• It has a basic display for battery, but doesn’t show speed or range
• It’s naturally heavier than most electric bikes so it’ll be tricky to transport

What owners say:
“Our tandem is the best purchase in a long time. We moved within 1 mile of the beach and enjoy our tandem to ride to dinner, happy hour or just a cool ride along the beach. The power is just right and have never had an issue with battery strength or range.”

Where to buy: pedegoelectricbikes.com

The Best Electric Folding Bikes for Families 

Ideal for those short on storage space in condos or apartments, for riding to work to inside your office, for taking up and down stairs, on public transportation, boats, planes, trains, motorhomes or minivans. These bikes fold in half making them perfect for taking with you literally anywhere.

Blix Bike Vika+, from $1,599

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This highly rated bike is one of the most sold electric folding bikes on the market that will take you on incredible adventures with its high powered 500W motor. It’s built with a unique design for a variety of riders and usage through any riding conditions. It comes standard with a rear rack, smart mounting points for accessories and front/rear/brake lights. It easily folds up in less than 20 seconds into 36”x21”x28”, making it easy to store, and easy to bring. One of the best features is the Kevlar technology for puncture resistant tires.

PROS:
• Battery range: 20 to 45 miles
• Motor power: 500W
• USB Charging port for phone or speakers
• Comes standard with a rear rack
• Fully charges in 2-3 hours
• LCD display that shows your speed, range, trip meter, and odometer

CONS:
• It’s one of the heavier folding bikes at 50 lbs
• The folding mechanism isn't as smooth as it could be

What owners say:
“It is so much fun to ride! It took me about a week to get used to the powerful motor but now I feel like a pro. The ride is smooth and sturdy even with my 2 year old on the back in her attached seat. It handles very well, even on bumps and filled potholes.”

Where to buy: blixbike.com

Lectric XP Step Thru, starting at $899

Lectric eBikes

This is one of the most affordable electric bikes available, and for a folding one at that. Given that it arrives fully assembled with all of the extras that are included like the upgraded 500W motor, standard rack and fenders, front/rear lights, LCD display, plush seating, adjustable handlebars and fat 4” tires. This is an excellent option to consider that even bikes that cost twice as much don’t have. 

PROS:
• Battery range: 45 miles
• Motor power: 500W
• Arrives fully assembled
• Adjustable Seat and Handlebars
• All-terrain fat tires allow for off-road trail riding

CONS:
• The welding work is not very smooth
• Some cables are exposed instead of nicely tucked away
• It has no suspension

What owners say:
“I’m gushing about this bike it’s that good…and I don’t say that lightly. This bike has touched something, it’s like it’s hit a long dormant nerve, that youthful fun when you got your first really good bike as a kid.”

Where to buy: lectricebikes.com

EVELO Dash, from $3,199

Evelo Electric Bicycles

The Dash is the best combination from all of their previous folding bike models put together. It’s the lightest mid-drive folding electric bike available with plenty of 350W power. It comes with a drive belt system that’s only found on the best quality bikes and gearing is handled by a reliable Shimano internally geared hub. This combination is the perfect system because it requires no maintenance, no lubrication, stays clean and can get bumped into and bounced around in transport without needing adjustment.

PROS:
• Battery range: 40 miles
• Motor power: 350W
• Arrives fully assembled
• 21 day at home trial
• Good for riders from 4’10” to 6’4”
• 4-year warranty

CONS:
• Higher price point

What owners say:
"The Dash is a great e-bike. It has plenty of power and outstanding range with pedal-assist. What really makes it a good buy is Evelo's outstanding customer service."

Where to buy: evelo.com

—Kate Loweth & Bonnie Taylor

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