We know you want what’s best for your budding scholar, but when it comes to your relationship with your child’s teacher, there’s a fine line between a healthy parent-teacher partnership and an overly demanding one. So how do you best keep the communication channels open without offending anyone? We asked teachers to tell us about the common passive-aggressive, condescending, or straight-up rude comments they’ve gotten from parents.
Here are some things to avoid saying during a parent-teacher chat so you don’t (even inadvertently) offend your most important academic ally:
1. “I need… [insert thing here]” – Michael W., third-grade teacher, Los Angeles, CA
“I need an independent study.” “I need my child to do his homework.” “I need my kid to focus better in class.” We know you need things. But so does your teacher! Stop telling your teacher what you need and think more about the teacher’s (and the class’s) needs.
Instead: Say: “Do you have any time to discuss independent study/homework demands/etc.?”
2. “My child never had this problem/did this thing/struggled in the past.”
-Michael W., third-grade teacher, Los Angeles, CA
The past is the past! When you complain your child has never struggled in the past, what your teacher hears is you think it’s somehow their fault.
Instead: Focus on the present and discuss your child’s current needs without comparing them to years past (unless you have pre-existing strategies to offer your teacher that might help).
3. “But he was fine in preschool.” or “He never did that in preschool.”
-Marni N., kindergarten teacher, Los Angeles, CA
Kindergarten isn’t preschool. There are new rules, changing routines, and a schedule that allows for a little less play and a little more learning—so don’t be surprised if your kid flounders a bit! Telling your kindergarten teacher that your child “didn’t do that in preschool” comes across as a passive-aggressive way of saying it’s the teacher’s fault.
4. (When discussing seeking help with extra support staff such as psychologists, behavioral specialists, OT/PT): “So what expertise do they have that you don’t?”
– Zak R., kindergarten teacher, Philadelphia, PA.
This sort of comment is best unsaid. You know what expertise a psychologist, occupational or speech therapist has—so asking your teacher to list those credentials is just “incredibly insulting.”
5. “Where did you go to college?”
-Pete S., eighth-grade teacher, Los Angeles, CA
It’s natural to wonder about your kids’ teacher, but asking this question (especially in a public setting) makes your teacher feel like you’re questioning their intelligence.
Instead: Read up on your teacher’s qualifications at the back-to-school night (teachers usually give a handout with background information), or do your own research. No matter what, rest assured that your teacher knows what they’re doing.
6. Asking your teacher for the opinions of other teachers
-Michael W., third-grade teacher, Los Angeles
A close-knit staff doesn’t want to get into the nitty-gritty with parents. “We are all colleagues, and yes, most of us know each other’s strengths and weaknesses, but that doesn’t mean we want to share that.”
7. “I know you’re very busy, but…”
Michael W., third-grade teacher, Los Angeles
If you know they’re very busy, don’t ask unless it’s important.
8. “My child isn’t being challenged in math, reading, etc.
Michael W., third-grade teacher, Los Angeles
Many teachers have classes of 20 to 30 kids of varying abilities—while they try their best, they can’t always tend to the needs of particular children (especially in elementary schools where they teach ALL subjects).
Instead: Add extra at home or via extra-curricular activities/tutoring. “It’s not that we don’t care, we’re just really crunched for time. To prepare and implement 4-6 different levels is not reasonable.”
9. “I just don’t understand why my child is struggling in your class.”
-Anne V., second-grade teacher, Los Angeles, CA
This only makes teachers feel like you think they’re the reason your child is struggling.
Instead: Ask, “What do you think my child needs?” Then work with your teacher to help your child thrive.
10. “Do you have kids?”
-Madison S., fourth-grade teacher, Georgetown, SC
“In a normal conversation, I wouldn’t mind being asked if I have kids,” says Madison, “but if I’m trying to talk discipline with a parent and they ask that, then I’m offended as if they think I don’t know what I’m talking about.”
Instead: Just don’t.
11. “I’m not telling you how to do your job, but…”
-Amanda J., fifth-grade teacher, Georgetown, SC
But you just did.
Instead: Let your teacher do her job, and only offer to help if you think she needs it.
12. “Teaching is a noble profession.”
-Steve, fourth-grade teacher, Nassau County, New York.
“You’re saying the job sucks, and you make no money, and you get no respect from people,” he said.
Instead: Just say thanks.
13. ” I could never do what you do!”
-Melanie, high school teacher, Nassau County, NY
“That’s not really what they mean. They mean they’d never want to.”
Instead: Just say thanks.
14. “What did you want to do before you became a teacher?”
—Dan, high school teacher, Nassau County, NY
This suggests that being a teacher is a backup or that you think they should do something else.
Instead: Just don’t.
15.“My child said you didn’t teach the topics covered on the test.”
-Joe, high school teacher, Nassau County, NY
Give your teacher some credit and assume that everything on any test was taught at some point.
Instead: Ask the teacher how your child can better prepare for the next test.
16. “By the time my son gets all his work done for his important core classes, he’s too tired to do the work for yours. I’m sure you understand.”
-Kathryn, high school teacher, Nassau County, NY
You just called that teacher’s class “unimportant.”
Instead: Work with your child on figuring out how to get all the work done.
17. Talking about your child’s “giftedness” in front of other parents.
-Pete S., eighth-grade teacher, Los Angeles
If parents have questions about supporting their “gifted” child, they need to talk about it privately. “’My child is doing calculus in middle school; how will you make this class challenging for him/her/them?’ is an annoying and isolating question for other families in a group setting, and it also communicates to the teacher that parents don’t think the teacher is up to the challenge of teaching that student,” says Pete.
Instead: Address your concerns in an e-mail.
18. Going to the principal (or social media) before talking to the teacher about an issue.
-Amanda J., fifth-grade teacher, Georgetown, SC
“There are plenty of times when simply letting me know about something is all it takes to handle it. Similarly, if/when parents post complaints on social media without communicating directly with the teacher,” says Amanda.
Here are general phrases to avoid during a parent-teacher chat that can come off as critical, accusatory, or condescending:
“I’m not sure if you’re aware, but...” This is a backward way of saying that you think your teacher is slacking—or of making you feel better about being the whistleblower. Instead, be direct and express your concerns about the issue straight up. (I.e., My child said so-and-so bullied him in class. Can you help me get to the bottom of this?”)
“I’m sure you’re just having a bad day, but…” This automatically makes someone feel like you’re about to insult them because it’s usually followed by a negative comment.
“I’m not trying to be difficult, but…” This opening may put the teacher on guard (or make her think you are being difficult.). Just say what you want to say directly.
“Don’t take this the wrong way, but…” – Despite your warning, whatever you’re going to say will likely be taken the wrong way (or you wouldn’t preface it as such). So say it differently.
Here are examples of more direct and assertive phrases:
“I’m wondering if you could tell me how my child is doing.”
“I’d love to know how to support my child at home.”
“I’d like to schedule a meeting to discuss my child’s progress.”
There are so many parts of parenthood that no one can prepare you for: the first time your baby smiles at you, the first time your child rides a bike, the first time your tween rolls their eyes at you… Yes, the transition from child to tween can be tough, but there are ways to navigate these choppy waters.
There are things you can avoid saying and some things you should lean into. When the child who used to tell you everything no longer opens up, when the child who used to be glued to your side doesn’t want to hang out, and when the child who used to smile every day seems more introspective, here are some ways to try to break through.
“I hear you.”
Many times, all any of us really want is someone to actually listen to us, and our tweens are no different. “Try to understand their perspective before offering suggestions,” the American Psychological Association recommends. “Sometimes your own anxiety can prompt you to try to fix everything. But in many cases, the best help you can offer is to listen attentively.”
“Is there anything I can help with?”
This ties into listening better, but as parents, we can’t always assume that we know what’s wrong. Ask your child for insight instead of meeting them with assumptions. “Do not assume that you know what’s wrong,” the National Health Service advises. “Rather than asking ‘Are you being bullied?’ try saying, ‘I’ve been worried about you. You don’t seem like your usual self, and I’m wondering what’s going on with you at the moment. Is there anything I can help with?'”
“I’m so proud of you.”
This is something we remember to say when our child lands on the honor roll or has a similar amazing accomplishment—but do you remember to say it when your child is just being themselves? I’ve raised an empathetic child, and that’s something I’m very proud of. When I see him saving snacks for his sister or telling me a story about talking to a child who was sitting alone at lunch, I make sure to let him know how proud I am of him and of his character. Pride doesn’t always need to be saved for measurable achievements—like trophies or wins.
“I’m sorry.”
Parents are human, and as such, will make mistakes. We can’t expect that we are always going to model perfect behavior to our children, and when we mess up—we should own it. “Apologizing to your children shows them that you as a parent are willing to take responsibility when you lose your cool or do something hurtful,” advises Sarah Epstein, a licensed marriage and family therapist. “When parents refuse to apologize, it shows the child that their parent is never willing to take responsibility simply because they are the parent. It erodes trust.”
Make it about them.
This isn’t a specific phrase; it’s rather the absence of a very specific word from time to time—”I.” Remember to center your child in the conversation. “Business people are often trained to say, ‘I understand you feel…’ This phrase doesn’t work with kids because it shifts the attention to ‘I’ the adult rather than ‘you, the child, who wants and needs to feel heard,'” says Eileen Kennedy Moore, a psychologist who specializes in parenting, child development, mental health, and social emotional learning, and the author of Kid Confidence: Help Your Child Make Friends, Build Resilience, and Develop Real Self-Esteem. “Use the word ‘you’ and avoid ‘I’ to keep the focus of your empathic comments on your child.”
“Can you show me how you did that?”
The tween years are about the time you start to learn there are things your child knows more about than you. Give your child a reason to get excited about telling you about new interests by showing them you are invested in the idea that they are growing and learning—and probably know more about fifth-grade math than you.
“No.”
The ability to say “no” is something that we can all learn from, and saying “no” to your child teaches them the importance of boundaries. “It does [a child] no favor to be taught that ‘no’ is the opposite of ‘nice,’ to be raised and praised as someone who is always agreeable, never complains, pleases at all costs, goes along to get along, bows to disagreement, and suffers dissatisfaction in silence,” explains Psychology Today. Your child is going to be up against so many situations in life that challenge their beliefs and surface the need to make important decisions. Modeling “no” as a healthy, normal response is critical.
Here’s the truth about your big concerns from the early years all the way through high school
From the first goodbye in kindergarten to the last day of twelfth grade, sending our kids to school means letting go a little bit every day. And for many parents, that nudge out of the nest brings up ALL the parental concerns. Questions run the gamut, from “Will my kindergartener get lost on her way to the bathroom? ” to “What if my college-bound kid doesn’t get good grades?” But teachers say to take a deep breath!
“What does worry actually contribute? A lot of times parents feel that it’s their responsibility and role to worry, but we’re having an epidemic of anxiety among young people right now. A lot of people point to technology, but I would also point to this culture of worry that parents have picked up,” said former Los Angeles school principal Bruce Harlan, who currently teaches middle school science.
Worried now? Don’t be. Whether you’ve got a kid just starting their school journey or a teen almost at the end, we talked to teachers about common parental concerns—and why you can rest easy knowing that your kids will be fine.
Preschool/Kindergarten/First Grade
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The Worry: Your child will get lost on the way to or from the bathroom (or the cafeteria or any other place inside the school).
The Truth: They might. But someone will help them find their way. “This happens all the time. It’s always within the first week. It’s all hands on deck that first week. Parents need to remember that school is a very safe place. There are teachers and support staff everywhere, and everybody knows that in the first few weeks of school, you’re going to find a random kindergartener wandering the halls,” said Los Angeles elementary school teacher Anne Vanderpool.
If your child is worried about getting lost, you can help ease the jitters by practicing. Stick around after school and walk around the school with your child (especially the way to and from the bathroom and classroom). By the first week or two of the school year, even the youngest of students will find their way.
The Worry: Your child will have a potty accident.
The Truth: Many do.
It is common for preschoolers, kindergarteners—and even older kids— to have an occasional accident said Amanda Yuill, a longtime teacher and educational spokesperson, on her website. “For this reason, it is a good idea to ask parents to send a labeled bag with extra clothes you can keep in the classroom if you are teaching kindergarten.” “If there is a child in an older class who still has trouble with this, you can do the same thing with just that child and not the whole class.”
Experts say some kids are just too shy to use the bathroom—whether it’s because they are too embarrassed to raise their hand to ask or they’re worried another schoolmate might hear them going (this is mortifying for some kids!). To help ease these worries (and yours), have a conversation with your child about their concerns—and how the alternative (wetting their pants) may actually be more problematic than not going in the first place. If they keep holding it in, talk to the teacher about letting your child use a single-stall bathroom (for instance, in the nurse’s office), which may alleviate their shyness.
The Worry: You’re wondering if you should hold your child back from kindergarten.
The Truth: More time is usually a good thing
According to Vanderpool, one of the most common questions she gets from parents is whether they should hold their younger children (those with late summer birthdays) back for kindergarten. She said she almost always thinks it’s a good idea to do so. “It varies by child, but always my reaction was to ask them a question back. I’d ask them, ‘Tell me when you had too much time to do something, and tell me when that was a problem for you.”’
Holding kids back—mainly when they are on the younger side for kinder—usually helps them by giving them the time they need to mature into ready-to-learn students. When it comes to kids in the middle of the age net, Vanderpool says the answer isn’t always as clear. “It might be OK. But then I ask the question, ‘How do you want your senior year to go? They’re going to be 18 before they start their senior year. Do you want them to be closer to 20 in their freshman year of college?'”
The Worry: Your kindergartener/first grader isn’t reading as well as some of her peers.
The Truth: Some kids take longer than others—and that’s OK.
AnnMarie Sossong, a reading specialist in Florida, told US News and World Report,“Some children are ready to learn to read at age 3, and some take much longer. I have seen both, and by age 12 or 13, they are reading at the same level, which seems counter-intuitive, but it is not. When they are ready, they are ready, and everything clicks.” And while there seems to be a national push for kids to read earlier and earlier, literacy expert Timothy Shanahan said children only really need to master around 20 sight words by the end of kindergarten and 100 by the end of first grade.
The Worry: Your child has separation anxiety when you drop him off.
The truth: Your kids are (almost always) fine once you leave.
The trick to easing the separation and making your child realize that school is non-negotiable is to be confident at dropoff. “It’s a transition issue. Most of the time, the parent has the hardest time with this—the kids are completely fine. Your child is probably four or five, and you’ve fixed everything up to this point. This is the first time they’re going to do it themselves. The worst thing you can do is tell them they can’t do it. Just swallow the tears for a minute, give them your brave face, and say, ‘I’m so proud of you. You’re going to be great. I’ll see you in a few hours,’” says Vanderpool.
The Worry: Your kid isn’t learning how to spell correctly.
The Truth: Spelling doesn’t matter until later on (and some teachers say it is a nonissue even then).
There’s no denying that kiddified spelling is adorable, but at what point should you correct those cute little misspells and teach your kid the proper way to spell those tricky words?
Not in kindergarten or first grade, say teachers. “There’s a heavier focus on fluency and building confidence [in kinder and first grade], and then you circle back to the nitty gritty later in second and third grade,” said Vanderpool. Even later on, when they’re in upper grades, spelling isn’t the obstacle it used to be, with some teachers admitting that in the age of spell-check and voice type, spelling isn’t as important as it used to be. Dierdre Amey, a third and fourth-grade teacher in Philadelphia, PA, says, “Don’t sweat it if your students are not the best spellers in the upper grades. There are so many strategies and accommodations available for their children via computer.”
Elementary Years
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The Worry: Your child doesn’t seem to like school.
The Truth: How worried you should be depends on the reason.
This is a tricky one, teachers say, since some kids may legitimately be struggling while others don’t like school simply because they’d rather be elsewhere. “Ask your child, ‘Why?’ He might say, ‘Oh, it’s boring.’ Or, ‘I don’t have any friends.’ Or, ‘It’s too hard.’ All of these are great responses that should be explored. Sometimes it’s just a preference; there’s no real good reason; it’s just that your child would rather be home playing video games,” said Vanderpool.
For better or worse, not liking school is a common predicament—especially as kids get older. A 2020 survey of more than 21,000 American high schoolers showed that the top two feelings students said they experienced at school were “stressed” (79.8 percent) and “bored” (69.5 percent), with nearly 75 percent of their self-reported feelings about school being negative.
Friendships play a big part. According to a University of Illinois study, kids with “reciprocal friendships” were more likely to like school and be more academically successful. Similarly, a Gallup poll found that friendships were the biggest predictor of student engagement in both fifth grade and 11th. Talk to your child about whether they have friends at school; if not, try to set up some time with their peers to forge better relationships.
“If we are to help kids gain happiness from their education in the short and long term, we need to bring to bear more resources to facilitate friendship, which tends to solve both the loneliness and boredom problems.” Arthur C Brooks writes in The Atlantic.
The Worry: Your kids’ teachers don’t give enough homework—or your kid doesn’t want to do it.
The Truth: Homework isn’t how young kids learn best anyway.
Dierde Amey, who has been teaching elementary school for 19 years, says “It is the least effective method for learning at a young age.” In fact, a study from the University of Missouri found no academic advantage to doling out homework in elementary school. For middle schoolers, however, homework does help—but only if the work lasts between one to two hours per night (after that, achievement levels don’t change, experts say).
If your school does a “Student of the Month” certificate (or anything like that), it may be disappointing when you don’t see your little scholar standing in the spotlight. Try not to worry.
“Short of a Nobel or Pulitzer, most awards don’t really have a long-term effect on anyone’s life. How many adults can truly point to a childhood award making a deep impact on their future?” teacher Braden Bell told the Washington Post. Parents can use these moments to build empathy, as he did himself when his son didn’t get an award in kindergarten—but a good friend did. “I explained that feelings are like living things, whichever one he fed would get bigger. He realized that he had a choice: He could focus on his own unhappiness or be happy for his friend.”
The Worry: Your child didn’t get into the Gifted and Talented program.
The Truth: It doesn’t mean your child isn’t smart.
Parents often misunderstand the Gifted and Talented (GATE) program as a Smart Kids Club. But teachers say that’s not really the case. “The Gifted and Talented program is not for good students. It’s for kids who learn differently, who can excel in a program that offers a different style of learning,” said Vanderpool. Of course, this reality doesn’t stop parents from wondering how they can “get their child into” the program.
“Holy moly, I had so many parents want to have a personal conference with me about how they’re going to GATE test and their expectation for this child to pass. My greatest recommendation is for parents to be a little more informed and realize it might not be a good fit for your child,” she says.
If your child does get into the program, take that as a cue that maybe your child needs alternative types of teaching, and discuss how you can accommodate these needs at home and as your child grows.
The Worry: Your kid lost (or keeps losing) a game.
The Truth: Consider it a win.
You’re holding your breath as your child steps up to the plate. They swing… miss… and strike out. What do you do now? Cheer, of course! “They don’t have to win. All you really need to say to your kid after a game—win or lose—is ‘I love watching you play,'” said Bruce Harlan, who also worked as a swim coach before his experience teaching middle school.
Here’s the real win: Losing has been shown to help kids. A 2019 Brigham Young University study found that high school students who had participated in youth sports showed higher levels of resilience—as well as self-regulation and empathy—than students who didn’t participate.
“Learning to cope with loss is important because they’re not always going to win later in life. It’s an important skill to develop, to lose with grace, not to blame other people, and to take responsibility for the loss,” psychologist Dr. Kate Lund said in this article.
Parental Concerns About Middle & High School
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The Worry: Your child is dealing with social drama.
The Truth: Don’t get involved (unless you have to).
Harlan, who has been working with kids for 33 years, says “Adolescents ride an emotional roller coaster. The role of the parent is to be steady and calm and not ride that roller coaster with them. This is normal socialization. Kids are going to get feedback from their peers—and often not in a gentle way—about how to be. That is how they learn, and sometimes it is painful.”
That means if your daughter comes home complaining that a friend was mean to her in school, resist the urge to call that friend’s mom. “It sends a bad message to the kids that, ‘Wow, this thing that I brought home must be really important because now all the adults are getting involved,'” says Harlan.
The other unintended consequence is that kids might stop sharing their troubles with parents to avoid them stepping in (which can be embarrassing for most kids). “You want open communication, but sometimes kids will stop telling their parents because they don’t want their parents to overreact,” Harlan said.
The Worry: You’re putting too much pressure on grades.
The Truth: The grades aren’t what matters most.
Sure, you want your kids to do well in school—but how much pressure is too much? “Don’t care more than your kid cares. The teacher will reach out if concerned. And stay off the grading websites,” said Kate England, a 10th-grade civics teacher in Abington, PA.
Instead, focus on effort… and kindness. It sounds hokey, but experts say that if parents worry less about grades and more about teaching decency, good grades will follow naturally. A study done by Arizona State University found that teaching children kindness and compassion—instead of focusing solely on academic achievement and extracurricular activities—helped kids do better in school. Researchers looked at the school performance of 506 sixth-grade students, then asked what their parents valued the most about them. The kids that performed the best in school were the ones whose parents seemed to value kindness more than grades.
In this article, Suniya Luthar, a professor of psychology at ASU said, “When parents emphasize children’s achievement much more than their compassion and decency during the formative years, they are sowing the seeds of stress and poorer well-being. In order to foster well-being and academic success during the critical years surrounding early adolescence. . . parents should accentuate kindness and respect for others at least as much as (or more than) stellar academic performance and extracurricular accolades.”
The Worry: Your child wants to be/can’t get into AP classes?
The Truth: AP Classes aren’t always a good thing.
AP classes sound good. After all, they give your kid a chance to earn college credit while still in high school (Woohoo! No math class freshman year at university!). But many teachers advise against them—and some, like these eight private schools in Washington DC—are doing away with them altogether.
“The truth is that college courses, which demand critical thinking and rigorous analysis, look nothing like AP courses, which stress breadth over depth. Moving away from AP courses will allow us to offer courses that are foundational, allow for authentic engagement with the world and demonstrate respect for students’ intellectual curiosity and interests,” the schools said in a joint statement published by The Washington Post.
Instead of worrying about AP courses, let your kids enroll in interesting electives. “Let them take cooking, sewing, and art even though those classes don’t boost GPAs. They make for a well-rounded student who isn’t stressed beyond belief,” advises England, a teacher of 17 years.
Harlan echoed her thoughts. “There’s no joy in AP classes. It’s a drill-and-kill type of instructional style that is so old-fashioned and goes against everything we know. . . Even the colleges don’t like them because once you’ve gotten credit, you cant retake it in college… but you don’t get the same level of instruction you do in college.”
The Worry: Your child’s SAT scores aren’t great.
The Truth: SATs aren’t always required.
While SATs used to be the gold standard by which every student measured their college-bound worth, that has changed. Today more than 80 percent of US colleges have “test-optional” applications, meaning SAT scores are not required for admission. The California State University system went a step further when it announced in 2022 that it won’t accept SATs or ACTs in the application process for any of its 23 schools—so kids don’t have to worry about whether or not they should “option-in” their scores when applying.
“The era of standardized testing is starting to slide away,” Harlan said, adding that the same is true for tests kids take in elementary and middle school. “Most of the high schools in our area aren’t even accepting them anymore.”
The Worry: Your kid isn’t who you thought they’d be.
The truth: Love the kid you’ve got.
Parents often despair when their kids grow up to be a different person they’d imagined they would be—whether that means that you expected your kid to love sports and they only love computers; or whether you hoped for a cheerleader and got a bookworm. All this worry goes nowhere, experts say.
“Parents start to graph out the life of their kids, and they extrapolate all the way to graduate school. That is not fair to the kids. It’s their life, their ups, and downs,” Harlan said. Instead, he emphasized loving the kid you have. “You don’t order a fully-baked human being when you have a kid. Stop worrying about how you thought things would go for your kid.”
And don’t feel guilty about your feelings. Doctors say it’s normal to feel some loss when our children don’t grow up to be what we thought they’d be. But don’t let those expectations dictate how you treat your child. “When our fantasies about our children do not coincide with their interests, talents, and tendencies, our expectations can strike a debilitating blow to our children’s development. Accepting these losses and mourning them opens our eyes to what we can celebrate about our children.” psychotherapist David Braucher said in Psychology Today.
One blissful August day seven years ago, I drove my eldest son to his first day of school. He walked right in the door, excited. He didn’t even glance back in my direction, and honestly, I was grateful for that. I was just as enthusiastic as he was, and I felt proud to have a kid who had enough confidence and self-assurance not to need me to hold his hand through the whole process. At the time, it felt liberating and even boosted my mom-ego a bit. My kid is so chill he doesn’t even cry at drop-off! I told myself.
I was never the mom who cried at the thought of her baby being away for the day at preschool. I didn’t choke up on the first day of kindergarten because my baby was “growing up.” Instead, I was the mom who embraced the freedom and glorious change in our everyday schedules. I also welcomed their chance to be independent little beings who didn’t rely on me to make every decision, every meal, or deliver every snack. As years passed and my next two kids entered school, this remained true. Drop-off was breezy (for me). I rushed out the door gleefully, ready to attack all the things, now that I had one or two or three fewer little monkeys crawling up my leg, watching me pee, or making a huge mess just as I was about to tackle a task.
Looking back, I do still appreciate that I was the mom who never cried. I genuinely think it allowed my kids a sense of autonomy and confidence. Walking into a new place with so many kids and adults they had never met or even seen before can be scary! So never having to be the mom that stood outside the door listening to their child cry through the first week of school seemed a blessing.
I never thought the day would come when all of those seamless drop-offs where I joyously skipped to my car and ventured off into my day alone—and the tear-free preschool graduation ceremonies—would fill me with sadness and regret. I feel slighted. Now as my eldest is about to graduate elementary school, I feel like I missed out on having that connection or that “moment” when my kids needed and wanted me.
Fifth-grade graduation seemed so trivial to me as a kid. A non-important “milestone” that was more for my parents than for me. And honestly, I get it now. It is for the parents. Because as soon as our kids go off into middle school, everything about them will change. Their bodies, voices, attitudes… and a connection to us may or may not get lost in the mix. That uncertain, scary feeling our kids experienced going to school for the first time is the exact same fear we have as parents when our kids are inching closer and closer to actual independence.
So as much as I would like to say I have no regrets about being that mom who, at one time, never looked back, I’d be lying. I have a few. The main one is that I can’t get that time back no matter how I may try. That’s why this year, you won’t see the “cool” mom collected on the sidelines, watching all of the other moms cry and wondering why they are so upset—because it’s not just another day or another year of school.
It’s a moment that needs to be celebrated. That needs to be felt. Because these moments we get as parents are so rare, and before we know it, poof, they’re gone. No, this year I’ll be with the rest of the moms bawling their eyes out. Clapping and hollering and embarrassing the hell out of my kid so that he knows I am there—the whole time. That I am watching. And that he has made me so damn proud.
Your at-home summer entertainment lineup has arrived
While the no-school season is the perfect time to get outdoors and play, it is also a great time to be lazy with the family. With both new and classic films on every major streaming service, snuggling up in the living room on a rainy afternoon or setting up a backyard movie night sounds just about right. From modernized fairy tales to historical musicals, we found the best family movies streaming now (and a few more coming later this summer).
The Best Family Movies Streaming (& Later This Summer) on Netflix
Nimona
Netflix
Nimona is a shape-shifting teenager in this techno-medieval animated film is an adaption of the graphic novel. Lord Ballister Boldheart is a knight falsely accused of committing a crime. He must accept help from Nimona, someone he is supposed to destroy.
Why it made our list: This family movie streaming now blends action and humor perfectly. Nimona also discusses important themes about judgment and acceptance.
Recommended ages: 13+ due to crude humor and some violence PG
Release Date: June 30
Captain Underpants: The First Epic Movie
Dreamworks
Based on the humorous and popular book series by Dav Pilkey, the film follows two kids named Harold and George. They turn their grumpy principal, Mr. Krupp, into the comic book hero they created. When Mr. Krupp becomes Captain Underpants, misadventure ensues.
Why it made our list: Parents have been reading these wildly popular books to their children since 1997, and it is interesting to see the on-screen adaptation. While the humor can be simple-minded, it guarantees giggles and has a stellar cast including Ed Helms, Kevin Hart, and Jordan Peele.
Recommended ages: 6 and over, due to a bit of very mild language (stupid, weirdo)
PG
Release Date: July 10
Puss in Boots: The Last Wish
Dreamworks
Epic adventurer, Puss in Boots tries to reclaim his lost eight lives after realizing he is living his final life. He must go on his most important journey to find the magical star that can restore his lives, all while being hunted by The Big Bad Wolf.
Why it made our list: Puss in Boots was funny enough to find his way to the big screen in 2011 after playing a supporting character in Shrek 2. The latest installment in the series was nominated for an Oscar for Best Animated Feature Film and has themes of positive thinking and teamwork.
Recommended ages: 8+ for some perilous situations, violence, and mild language
PG
Release Date: July 13
Miraculous: Ladybug & Cat Noir, The Movie
Netflix
Based on the popular animated series, this movie is the backstory to how Ladybug became a superhero. Along with her male counterpart, Cat Noir, the teen protects the streets of Paris from evil.
Why it made our list: With a female and male superhero learning to work together, the film provides positive lessons on teamwork as well as two positive teenage role models.
Recommended ages: 7+ due to some action and peril
PG
Release Date: July 28
Despicable Me 1 & 2
Universal Studios
Join Gru and his crew for the first two films in the franchise. Despicable Me introduces villainous Gru plotting to steal the moon from his suburban lair alongside his merry band of minions, only to realize that the love of three orphans could upend everything. In the sequel, Gru must balance the demands of fatherhood with fighting crime as he helps the Anti-Villain League battle a formidable threat.
Why it made our list: These films are a delightful balance of humor and heart and feature the voice talents of A-list actors like Kristen Wiig, Steve Carell, and Will Arnett.
Recommended ages: 6+ for some mild violence and language
PG
Release Date: Aug. 1
The Monkey King
Netflix
Along with his magical fighting Stick, a Monkey battles dragons, demons, and ego on a comedic quest. Based on the Chinese legend, “Journey to the West,” the film is executive-produced by epic filmmaker and actor Stephen Chow.
Why it made our list: The film promises to provide humor and important lessons on casting aside one’s ego. Colorful animation also makes this action adventure a must-see.
Recommended ages: 7 and up for some violence
PG
Release Date: Aug. 18
The Best Family Movies Streaming on MAX
Coraline
LAIKA Studios
This 2009 film features a young girl named Coraline who stumbles upon an alternate reality where her world becomes a darker version of the one she normally inhabits. Based on the classic children’s book by Neil Gaiman, the film has become as popular as the novel.
Why it made our list:Coraline is a formidable female character who realizes that sometimes real life, while not perfect, is far better than fantasy. Even her parents learn important lessons about being engaged and involved in their daughter’s life.
Recommended ages: 10+ due to frightening themes and images
PG
Father of the Bride
In this 2022 remake of the classic film, Andy Garcia plays the father of the bride who does his best to get through his daughter’s wedding. Gloria Estefan is the mother of the bride in the comedic journey parents go through when their children grow up and get married.
Why it made our list: The film features a tight-knit Cuban-American family and modern ideals surrounding marriage. Positive messages also abound in the latest version of this well-loved film.
Recommended ages: 13 and over because the film features language and drinking
PG-13
Dune
Warner Bros.
A remake of the 1984 David Lynch film, based on the 1965 sci-fi novel by Frank Herbert, Dune tells the story of the noble Atreides family and their battle for control of a valuable resource that holds great potential for humanity.
Why it made our list: The film features an award-winning cast including, Timothée Chalamet, Zendaya, Jason Momoa, Javier Bardem, and Josh Brolin. If the cast isn’t reason enough to watch, Dune also won six Oscars.
Recommended ages: 13 and over due to intense violence and adult themes.
PG-13
8-Bit Christmas
It’s Christmas in July! In this family movie streaming on MAX, a father played by Neil Patrick Harris, returns home and relays the story of one amazing childhood Christmas in the late 1980s. All he wanted was a Nintendo entertainment system, and he was willing to do almost anything to get it.
Why it made our list: Parents may enough the nostalgic return to the yesteryear of late 1980-something featured in the film, which includes music and items from the era. Kids will love the camaraderie and comedy between the group of friends who share a love of video games.
Recommended ages: 8+ for some mild language and violence
PG
The Batman
The latest installment in the Batman film franchise features Batman, played by Robert Pattinson, investigating his own family and corruption in Gotham to catch a serial killer targeting important political figures.
Why it made our list: In addition to Robert Pattinson as the caped crusader, there’s a fantastic cast including Zoë Kravitz, Colin Farrell, John Turturro, and Peter Sarsgaard. The film was nominated for three Oscars and features a diverse representation of characters.
Recommended ages: 14 and up due to intense violence and mature themes including drugs and sex
Video game legends Mario Brothers (Mario and Luigi) must travel to an underground labyrinth and battle the villainous Bowser to save Princess Peach. Based on the popular video game, the film stars Chris Pratt, Charlie Day, Anya Taylor-Joy, and Jack Black.
Why it made our list: The film may appeal to parents who grew up playing the video game the film is based on. With realistic animation and nods to the Nintendo game around every turn, kids and parents will find reasons to watch.
Recommended ages: 7 and up for some mild violence
PG
Clifford the Big Red Dog
Based on the popular children’s book series by Norman Bridwell, the film adaptation finds Emily Elizabeth navigating life as a middle school kid in New York City. When her mom goes out of town, she stays with her uncle. Emily Elizabeth rescues a red puppy, Clifford, who continues to grow and grow.
Why it made our list: The movie is as sweet and heartwarming as the book series. Emily Elizabeth is kind and gentle toward Clifford, and the film offers positive messages about empathy and teamwork.
Recommended ages: 6+ for some very mild language and violence
PG
Hotel Transylvania 4: Transformia
Columbia Pictures/Sony Pictures Animation
In the fourth and what is believed to be the final installment in the Hotel Transylvania film franchise, an experiment makes human Johnny a monster, while the monsters become human. With roles reversed, will things ever get back to normal?
Why it made our list: This fun franchise is humorous and filled with positive messages and role models. It is also a ‘who’s who’ of comedic talent with a voice cast including Molly Shannon, Andy Samberg, and Steve Buscemi.
Recommended ages: 7 and over for some mildly inappropriate humor and cartoon nudity
PG
Cinderella
In this modern version of the timeless fairy tale, Cinderella proves that dreams can be about much more than snagging a prince. In this musical, Camila Cabello plays the title character, Ella, who wants to start her own business designing dresses.
Why it made our list: This postmodern take on Cinderella features an outstanding cast including Idina Menzel, Minnie Driver, Billy Porter, and Pierce Brosnan. Its feminist spin is refreshing and provides many positive female role models for young girls everywhere.
Recommended ages: 8+ for some suggestive humor
PG
Sonic The Hedgehog 2
Paramount Pictures
Based on the video game of the same name, this sequel to the first film sees the return of Dr. Robotnik, played by the hysterical Jim Carrey. This time, Sonic has a new friend who will help him fight against evil.
Why it made our list: With social and emotional life skills like working together as a team and being responsible as a focus in the film, kids might learn these lessons right along with the furry blue hedgehog. Parents may enjoy Jim Carrey’s outlandish portrayal of the villain, Dr. Robotnik.
Recommended ages: 8+ for some perilous and potentially scary situations
This science-fiction sequel returns audiences to Pandora where Jake Sully now lives. When threatened by the RDA, the Na’vi work with Jake and Neytiri to save the home they’ve worked hard to create and maintain.
Why it made our list: The long-awaited sequel took over a decade to make it to the big screen and filled with positive messages about acceptance and peace, this blockbuster lives up to the hype.
Recommended ages: 13+ due to some intense violence and language and partial nudity
PG-13
Indiana Jones Collection
Whether searching for a lost relic or fighting off the bad guys, Indiana Jones has been a staple in the action-film genre for four decades. The first film, Indiana Jones and the Raiders of the Lost Ark won four Oscars and was directed by legendary filmmaker Steven Spielberg.
Why it made our list: With the fifth in the series, Indiana Jones and the Dial of Destiny, coming to theaters this summer, it is a perfect opportunity to either rewatch the former films or to see them for the very first time. Filled with history, adventure, and some of the best action sequences on celluloid, this collection of family movies is a cinematic gem.
Recommended ages: 11 and over due to violence, some language, and peril
PG (for 1 & 2)
PG-13 (for 3 & 4)
Ant-Man and the Wasp: Quantumania
Walt Disney / Marvel Studios
It’s a family affair in the latest installment in the Ant-Man film franchise. Ant-Man Scott Lang and his daughter journey with Wasp Hope Van Dyne and her mother and father into the Quantum Realm, and while there, face Ant-Man’s adversary, Kang the Conqueror.
Why it made our list: Paul Rudd and Evangeline Lilly return as Ant-Man and Wasp, while screen legends Michael Douglas and Michelle Pfeiffer round out the cast as Wasp’s parents. The film also features positive themes about teamwork and forgiveness.
Recommended ages: 13+ due to some strong language and violence
PG-13
Peter Pan & Wendy
Based on the work of author J. M. Barrie, this film finds Wendy worried about growing up. Boy-child Peter Pan whisks her (and her siblings) off to adventure in Neverland where they meet the malicious Captain Hook.
Why it made our list: The latest version of the classic tale focuses more on Wendy. With big stars like comedian Jim Gaffigan and Jude Law starring Smee and Captain Hook, the film features an A-list cast.
Recommended ages: 10 and over due to some frightening scenes and violence
PG
Hamilton
Disney+
Featuring the original cast from the Broadway show captured at the Richard Rodgers Theater, the film focuses on the life of founding father and American historical great Alexander Hamilton. The musical features a magical blend of history and many genres of music including hip hop and jazz.
Why it made our list: This award-winning musical won a Tony and a Pulitzer, and the filmed version offers those who can’t make it to Broadway the opportunity to experience the cultural phenomenon from the comfort of their living room.
Recommended ages: 12 and over due to mature themes and strong language
PG-13
The Best Family Movies Streaming on Apple TV
Luck
Apple TV
When historically unlucky teenager Sam finds a lucky penny and then loses it, the world as she knows it will never be the same. She must figure out how to turn her bad luck around while learning valuable lessons.
Why it made our list: Some notable voices can be heard during the film including Jane Fonda and Whoopi Goldberg. The film is beautifully animated and filled with positive role models and messages about resiliency, family, and compassion.
Recommended ages: 5+ for some very mild danger
G
Wolf Walkers
This Apple Original film features a young girl, Robyn Goodfellowe, and her father heading to Ireland to hunt and wipe out the last pack of wolves. Things get interesting (and complicated) when she meets a girl who may be able to transition into a wolf when the moon rises.
Why it made our list: This Oscar-nominated film reveals some history connecting Ireland and England and is filled with themes about not judging by how people look or their background and accepting differing beliefs. It features a young, strong female lead who exhibits significant growth throughout the film.
Recommended ages: 8+ for some perilous moments
PG
The Elephant Queen
Apple TV
Released in 2019, this documentary focuses on a herd of elephants led by Elephant Queen (and mother) Athena as they leave their waterhole and journey to find a new home.
Why it made our list: With the beautiful scenery of the African savannah, this film is a fascinating tribute to mothers and their love for their families. It also spotlights one of the most loyal animals, elephants, who value family ties more than humans probably realize.
Recommended ages: 10+ due to the death of a baby elephant and some themes surrounding starvation and drought
PG
Blush
When an astronaut and horticulturist finds himself trapped on a dwarf planet, he meets a woman, and they create a future together. This 10-minute short film is an Apple Original with a lovely storyline surrounding love.
Why it made our list: This computer-animated film, though brief, tells the sweet story of a relationship that grows over many years. It’s perfect if you are short on time but want to watch something with the family.
An elementary school teacher in Florida is under investigation for alleged “indoctrination” after she showed her students a Disney movie with a gay character
Another day, another horror story out of Florida’s public education system. Amid the state’s highly controversial “Don’t Say Gay” law (which prohibits educators from saying anything about sexual orientation or gender identity at school), a fifth-grade teacher is now under investigation for showing a Disney movie in her class that happened to include a gay character.
Teacher Jenna Barbee was reported to the school board after she allowed her students to watch Strange World, a 2022 PG-rated Disney film. She told the school board it contained no inappropriate content, it tied into her earth science lesson, and she had permission slips from all her students’ parents allowing them to watch PG-rated movies in class.
But conservative school board member Shannon Rodriguez says Barbee violated district policy by not getting the movie approved by school administrators before showing it. She says a parent complained that the film wasn’t appropriate and that Barbee is now “playing the victim.”
“It is not a teacher’s job to impose their beliefs upon a child: religious, sexual orientation, gender identity, any of the above,” Rodriguez said. “But allowing movies such as this, assist teachers in opening a door, and please hear me, they assist teachers in opening the door for conversations that have no place in our classrooms.”
In a TikTok video, Barbee explained that she’s a first-year teacher, and the incident has left her wondering about her future in public education.
“I’ve had to learn so much this year,” Barbee told reporters. “I work with teachers who have taught for 20 years, 30 years, tell me every day it never used to be like this. Times have changed so much and they are so micromanaged, they’re not allowed to teach anymore. They’re basically a caregiver who has to teach the standards. Teachers stay for the children, but because of the laws and the fear of being let go for saying one wrong thing, they can’t connect to their students.”
Even if it’s true that a parent complained about their child seeing a movie with a gay character in it, you have to wonder what they’re trying to accomplish here. Do these parents think their children will go through life without ever encountering a gay person? What’s the end goal?
Kids deserve education that accurately reflects the world around them, and teachers deserve to be able to teach (and connect with their students) in safe environments where they aren’t at risk of losing their jobs for situations like this.
Lawmakers in Florida are moving forward with a bill that would ban girls from talking about their periods while at school
In their continued quest to legislate anyone who isn’t white, straight, male, and Christian into hiding, lawmakers in Florida have advanced a horrifying bill that would ban girls from talking about their periods while at school. As you can probably assume, the bill is supported by Republicans who are pushing it in the name of “personal freedom,” because limiting people’s speech is certainly a hallmark sign of a free society.
Florida Bill 1069 would severely restrict sex education across Florida to the point that even a young girl asking her teacher about menstruation would run afoul of the new legislation. During a Florida House Education Quality Subcommittee meeting last week, Republican state Rep. Stan McClain introduced the bill, which would require all instruction that Republicans have deemed sexual—including sexual health, sexually transmitted diseases, and human sexuality—to “only occur in grades 6 through 12.”
Democratic state Rep. Ashley Gantt posed the question during the subcommittee meeting: “So if little girls experience their menstrual cycle in fifth grade or fourth grade, will that prohibit conversations from them since they are in the grade lower than sixth grade?”
McCain responded, “It would.”
The average age for girls to start their period is 12, but it’s not uncommon for girls to start menstruating as early as eight years old. Medical professionals recommend talking to kids about things like puberty early and often, so they’ll be prepared when they start experiencing these changes in their bodies. Under McCain’s bill, if a girl started her period before sixth grade and asked anyone at school—her teacher, a friend, or even a counselor—for help, she’d be breaking the law. Personal freedom, amiright?
McCain later clarified that this “would not be the intent” of the bill and that he’s “amenable” to amendments. But the bill passed the subcommittee as-is, with a vote of 13-5 in a state legislature that’s controlled by a Republican supermajority.
The bill will now continue through the Florida legislature, where it’s not unlikely to pass—this is, remember, the state that made it a felony for teachers to have “unapproved” books in their classrooms. All in the name of freedom!
Diversity is a beautiful thing, and lucky for us, these days, more family movies are celebrating race and cultures from all over the world
Great family movies with diverse casts used to be few and far between. Lucky for kids (and parents) these days, there’s an increasing amount of quality films that star strong, plucky kids that might not look like you, live where you live, or experience things the way you do, but feel the same and love the same. From a determined speller to an unlikely superhero, keep reading to discover a collection of family movies with diverse characters that are perfect for your next movie night.
Coco Based on the Mexican holiday Dia de los Muertos (or Day of the Dead), Coco tells the tale of 12-year-old Miguel who finds himself in the Land of the Dead, and with the help of his musician great-great-grandfather dives deep into his family history (and their generations-old ban on music!). There are strong family vibes in this blockbuster, as well as a strong celebration of Mexican culture.
Rated PG
Recommended for ages 7+.
A note for parents—this movie deals with the concept of mortality and could be slightly upsetting for young kids.
Akeela and the Bee A little girl from a tough neighborhood in LA learns she's got a knack for spelling—and that she doesn't need to change herself to fit in. Lawrence Fishburne stars as the spelling tutor who coaches her to the Scripps National Spelling Bee while teaching her to believe in herself. Note: There is some mild profanity in the film, so parents who have a no-tolerance policy toward this may want to wait a few more years.
Rated PG
Recommended for ages 8+.
The Tale of the Princess Kaguya This animated film is the re-telling of a 10th-century Japanese fable about a princess who sprouts from a bamboo stalk. Not only does it give kids a glimpse of traditional Japanese culture, but it also has strong messages about the importance of love and encouragement.
PG
Recommended for ages 9+.
Wadjda The first movie to be directed by a Saudi Arabian woman, this story is of a spunky, independent 11-year-old girl who wants to ride a bike, wears Converse sneakers, and loves to compete against her (male) best friend. Beautifully done, the film explores topics such as religious traditions and laws, but it's also an incredible study of female empowerment. Follow along, and cheer for Wadjda as she fiercely makes a place for herself in the world.
Rated PG
Recommended for ages 8+.
Moana One of Disney's best works in recent years, this wonderful movie stars Moana, the chief's headstrong daughter, who has an affinity for the ocean. Kids will hear Hawaiian folk tales and myths and will see what life on the island was like years before western civilization arrived, and for girls especially, they'll see a strong female protagonist, zero love interests, and an incredible score and soundtrack. Every family should own this movie.
PG
Recommended for ages 6+.
Ponyo One of Hayao Miyazaki's films, this animated film introduces us to Sosuke who finds and saves a goldfish in the sea. He names the goldfish Ponyo and spends lots of time with her. After spending lots of time with Sosuke, Ponyo decides she wants to become human, meanwhile, her father comes to take her back to the sea, but she resists. Your kids will definitely enjoy this Hayao Miyazaki film.
G
Recommended for ages 6+.
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A Ballerina’s Tale This is the story of Misty Copeland, the first Black principal dancer at the American Ballet Theater. Not only is Copeland a powerful role model for young aspiring dancers, but she shines a light on the very white world of classical ballet and how people of color like her are breaking the glass ceiling.
Not Rated
Recommended for ages 9+.
Free To Be You And Me In a compilation of shorts that were edgy at the time of this film's release, Free To Be You And Me explores things like gender roles, working mothers, and racial stereotyping with the help of celebrities including Mel Brooks, Alan Alda, Marlo Thomas, and a young Michael Jackson.
Not rated.
Recommended for ages 5+.
Spelling the Dream This Netflix documentary follows four first-generation Indian American kids practicing for the prestigious Scripps Spelling Bee. All four kids shine with strong personalities and incredible levels of perseverance.
G
Recommended for ages 8+.
Spider-Man: Into the Spiderverse This Oscar-winning animated film is not just a thrilling superhero movie but also places a young Brooklyn teen named Miles Morales in the starring role. There is some violence, including the death of two important characters, but this movie is also a wonderfully vivid look at the cultural diversity in America today.
PG
Recommended for ages 9+.
The Revolutionary Optimists This documentary is about Indian slum kids who stand up for their rights. Viewers will see abject poverty that’s hard to believe exists and will be faced with discussions on topics such as hunger, education, and child labor.
Not Rated
Recommended ages: 11+.
Raya and the Last Dragon on Disney
Raya and the Last Dragon When monsters threaten the fantasy world of Kumandra after hundreds of years of peace, Raya must hunt down the last dragon to help save her world and stop the monsters for good. You'll find themes of teamwork, courage, and perseverance are strongly woven into the movie plot.
PG
Recommended for ages 8+.
Black Panther This inspiring movie broke box office records in more ways than one. It was the first movie in the Marvel Universe to focus on a superhero of color. It was directed by a Black director, includes a cast consisting almost entirely of people of color, and introduces viewers to Wakanda: a fictional African nation that is the most advanced nation on earth. Filled with set and costume designs that celebrate the rich cultures of Africa, this is a must-see film for older kids who love superheroes and action.
PG-13
Recommended for ages 12+.
Hidden Figures The inspiring true-life story of three brilliant African-American women who worked at NASA during the '50s and ‘60s and played a key role in the first manned spaceflight program. The film offers a stark but important view of the Civil Rights Era and segregation, strong female role models, and positive messaging.
PG
Recommended for ages 10+.
Liyana This award-winning documentary is like two stories in one. It centers on a group of Swazi orphans who create the story of a girl named Liyana as a form of therapy, and from there, the film goes back and forth between real footage and the animated story of Liyana. Parents should know that the movie includes topics such as abusive parents, child kidnappers, and AIDS, but is an excellent opportunity to show kids other perspectives and how to build empathy for others.
Not Rated
Recommended for ages 11+.
Soul on Disney
Soul Soul is focused on a jazz musician named Joe who lands the biggest gig of his career, but after he nearly dies and finds himself trapped somewhere between Earth and the afterlife, he befriends an old soul who needs him as much as he needs her. The inspiring soundtrack and heartfelt characters make this a diverse movie perfect for family time.
PG
Recommended for ages 8+.
42 This biopic about Jackie Robinson focuses on the two years (1946 and 1947) in which he broke the racial barrier in baseball. Parents need to know that offensive language is used, but it’s a good opportunity for kids to see exactly what life was like for Black Americans at that point in history. Chadwick Boseman gives a powerful performance as Robinson.
PG-13
Recommended for ages 11+.
Smoke Signals A rare film starring an almost entirely Native American cast, Smoke Signals follows the story of two completely different boys raised on a reservation together. One wears glasses and won’t stop talking. The other is stoic and a strong defender of his culture and tribe. When tragedy strikes, the boys set out on an epic road trip, where they’ll learn more about themselves, what it means to be a true friend, and how important it is to honor their culture. A wonderful peek into modern Native American culture.
PG-13
Recommended for ages 13+.
Encanto Encanto is the story of a girl named Mirabel living in Encanto, a magical place hidden in the mountains of Colombia. Mirabel struggles to find her place in her family when every child born gets magical powers except herself. She finds a way to help when the magic of the Encanto becomes endangered. This movie also has very catchy music!
PG
Recommended for ages 6+.
Wonder Based on the New York Times bestseller, this story is about Auggie Pullman, a boy with facial differences who begins fifth grade at a mainstream elementary school. This story is a journey of compassion and acceptance.
PG
Recommended for ages 10+.
The Boy Who Harnessed the Wind Based on a true story, a thirteen-year-old boy from Malawi discovers an abnormal way to save his village from famine and drought.
PG
Recommended for ages 11+.
Over the Moon Inspired by memories of her mother, Fei Fei builds a rocket so that she can fly to the moon and meet a legendary moon goddess.
Chicago has a rich literary history and is home to so many award-winning authors covering every genre under the sun. Introduce your little bookworm to Chicago’s brightest and best authors with our list of kid-approved, classic and contemporary children’s books. From a sweet new educational book about teeth to learning about Amelia Earhart, picture books to chapter books to graphic novels for advanced readers, these are the Chicago-authored tomes to add to your bookshelf ASAP.
The Truth About Tooth, Mistie Psaledas
The Truth About the Toothis written by Mistie Psaledas, a single Hinsdale mom of three after she created her own small tooth fairy company, Wiggle: Tooth Fairy Registry, while furloughed during the pandemic. In this delightful, educational book, tooth fairies reveal their secrets and share what happens to children's lost teeth around the world. The Truth About the Tooth is a story about diversity, creativity, and imagination of different tooth fairy legends—one from which the entire family can take inspiration.
Where the Sidewalk Ends, Shel Silverstein
Poet and author Shel Silverstein grew up in the Logan Square neighborhood of Chicago. Beloved for his children’s books, his collection of imaginative, humorous yet insightful poems, Where the Sidewalk Ends, belongs on every kid’s bookshelf.
Bronzeville Boys and Girls, Gwendolyn Brooks
Pulitzer Prize-winning poet Gwendolyn Brooks is a Chicago gem. Bronzeville Boys and Girls is a collection of thirty-four poems that celebrate the joy of childhood in Chicago’s Bronzeville neighborhood and beyond.
It's Her Story: Amelia Earhart: A Graphic Novel, Kim Moldofsky
Chicagoland author Kim Moldofsky debuts her first graphic novel with It's Her Story: Amelia Earhart: A Graphic Novel. Discover Earhart’s incredible achievements before she disappeared on her attempted flight around the world.
The House on Mango Street, Sandra Cisneros
The House on Mango Street is a Chicago children’s classic that has touched readers around the world. The story centers on Esperanza Cordero, a young Latina girl growing up in Chicago, who shares her hopes and fears in vignettes and poems. Fellow acclaimed Chicago author Gwendolyn Books said of Cisneros: “Sandra Cisneros is one of the most brilliant of today’s young writers. Her work is sensitive, alert, nuanced, and rich with music and pictures.”
A Thousand Feelings: An Anthology of Story Nuggets By Young Writers, K.B. Jensen
K.B. Jensen’s anthology of middle grade fiction stories is entirely written by tweens, many of whom are Chicago-born, as part of an online writing camp. A Thousand Feelings is a mix of adventure, horror, sci-fi, humor, and fantasy, with stories about a girl whose best friend is a stop sign, an intergalactic prison rescue, and a Martian bully who goes from breaking crayons to breaking bones.
Wolf in the Snow, Matthew Cordell
A little girl and a wolf cub find themselves lost in a snow-covered forest in Wolf in the Snow. How will they find their way home? Chicago author Matthew Cordell was awarded the 2018 Caldecott Medal for this heartwarming tale.
Dear Girl: A Celebration of Wonderful, Smart, Beautiful You!, Amy Krause Rosenthal
Amy Krause Rosenthal and her daughter Paris worked together to dream up the endearing Dear Girl, a love letter to the strong girl in your life: “Dear Girl, This book is for you. Wonderful, smart, beautiful you. If you ever need a reminder, just turn to any page in this book and know that you are special and you are loved.”
Thunder & Lightning: A Story for a Stormy Night, Tim Sheridan
When Oak Park-based writer Tim Sheridan’s daughter developed a fear of thunderstorms, he wrote Thunder & Lightning: A Story for a Stormy Night to teach her that thunder and lightning are our friends, not foes. This heartwarming tale of friendship is also available in a deluxe hardcover edition with downloadable songs by The Low Anthem.
Secondhand Dogs, Carolyn Crimi
What does it mean to be part of a family? In Secondhand Dogs, Author Carolyn Crim explores love and loyalty in this middle-grade novel.
The Wright Three, Blue Balliett
The Wright Threeshowcases Frank Lloyd Wright's Robie house via an exciting art mystery that two junior sleuths from the Lab School in Hyde Park set out to solve. Before becoming a full-time writer, Blue Balliet taught at the University of Chicago Laboratory Schools.
Maya and the Robot, Eve L. Ewing
Award-winning author Eve L. Ewing's adorably illustrated middle-grade novel Maya and the Robottells the story of fifth-grade scientist Maya who finds a friendly robot just when she needs help on her science fair project. Ewing also penned the acclaimed Ironheartand Champions series for Marvel Comics.
The Magic of Maxwell and His Tail, Maureen Stolar Kanefield
Chicago author and lifelong educator Maureen Kanefield wrote the charming The Magic of Maxwell and His Tail (her first!) to encourage kids to find acceptance and tolerance within themselves. Maxwell is a young, intelligent mouse dealing with a body image issue: his tail is growing much too long, and he’s suddenly the target of teasing from his classmates. Learn how Maxwell manages to love himself, ultra-long tail and all, in this sweet tale about a tail.
The Smallest Girl in the Smallest Grade, Justin Roberts
You might have seen Chicago-based, American singer-songwriter Justin Roberts on stage here in the Windy City. Now he’s appearing on your local library shelves with The Smallest Girl in the Smallest Grade. Follow along with Sally, the smallest girl in the smallest grade in her big school, as she stands up against bullying on the playground.
I Hope They Understand, Juleya Woodson
Juleya Woodson graduated from Evanston Township High School in 2009 and works today as a family support specialist with the Childcare Network of Evanston. Her first-ever children’s book, I Hope They Understand, recognizes and celebrates racial and cultural differences and was a response to the lack of diversity in media. “All children deserve to see themselves in the books they read,” Woodson said in a recent interview. “Too often Black boys and girls do not see themselves reflected in the media’s portrayal of beauty.”
I Wish You More, Amy Krouse Rosenthal and Tom Lichtenheld
Amy Krouse Rosenthal and Tom Lichtenheld teamed up to write and illustrate the delightful I Wish You More that affirms wishes for curiosity and wonder, friendship and strength, laughter and peace.
Thirteen Doorways, Wolves Behind Them All, Laura Ruby
Thirteen Doorways, Wolves Behind Them All is the story of two Chicago girls trying to survive in America in the throes of World War II. Ruby was a National Book Award 2019 Finalist for this compelling young adult novel about finding hope in darkness.
Mayor Good Boy, Dave Scheidt
Mayor Good Boy is here to help Greenwood become a town filled with kindness, but he’s facing foes around every corner. Scheidt, born and raised in Chicago, highlights the benefits of positive civic engagement in his latest graphic novel, Mayor Good Boy, co-created by L.A.-based cartoonist and story artist Miranda Harmon. This charming tale reminds readers that everyone can make the world a better place, whether you’re a human or a dog.
Let's Meet Chicago: Real Kids in the Windy City, Alina Dizik
Veteran journalist Alina Dizik interviewed school-aged children around Chicago to learn about their likes, dislikes, and what they are really thinking. Dizik also celebrates the diversity of our city with tips on how to explore different neighborhoods in Let's Meet Chicago: Real Kids in the Windy City.
S is for Story: A Writer's Alphabet, Esther Hershenhorn
Esther Hershenhorn is a Chicago-based author and writing coach. In S is for Story: A Writer's Alphabet, Hershenhorn playfully explains the tools, techniques, and strategies to budding writers of all ages, from "A is for the Alphabet" to "T stands for Tall Tales," to "Z? It's for masked Zorro./His Z-signed tales brought fame.”
Sahara Special, Esme Raji Codell
Author Esme Raji Codell documented her first year as a CPS teacher in Educating Esme. In Sahara Special, she chronicles the 5th-grade adventures of Sahara Jones, who struggles with school until she encounters a one-of-a-kind teacher. If you have a reluctant bookworm in your life, check out Raji Codell’s How to Get Your Child to Love Reading, a book designed to help parents get their kids excited about reading.
Eating out with the kids doesn’t have to be a drag. There are some amazing themed restaurants around Los Angeles and they’re as big a feast for the eyes as they are for the tummies (you won’t need an iPad here!). We’ve searched high and low for the best of the best from pirate themed dinner adventures to magic-filled brunches—it’s like a chose your own adventure, only you get to eat too. Check ‘em out below and don’t blame us if dining out becomes your family’s new favorite way to eat breakfast, lunch and dinner.
Best Themed Restaurants in LA for Kids: The Proud Bird Food Bazaar
If your kid is into planes, then look no further than the Proud Bird. Check out the fiberglass replicas of famous planes and the playground, then head inside to the self-serve food court featuring six kitchens dishing out around-the world fare. Try Asian inspired fried rice, a pulled pork sandwich, or a hot from the oven pizza. Sit inside, or enjoy the open air patio. Either one will give you great views of the replica planes and other aviation memorabilia. Don't forget to grab an Aviation Cocktail (or other adult-friendly drink) from The Mile High Bar and Lounge.
Insider Tip: If you’re not feeling a sit down meal, you can swing by the In-and-Out on Sepulveda. While it’s not airplane themed, you can eat car side and still see the planes flying overhead.
Best Themed Restaurants in LA for Kids: American Girl Cafe
Get ready to step into the land of dolls—American Girl dolls that is. Everyone that has or wants one of these dolls is going to want a chance to eat at this oh-so-cute cafe. Browse outfits and accessories downstairs, then head upstairs for brunch, lunch, tea, or dinner. But the tea is the true star. Eat dainty tea sandwiches and sip tea from real cups and saucers—pinkies up! Your doll is graciously invited as well. There will be a place set just for her with a high chair and mini place settings.
Insider Tip: Make reservations. While walk-ins are welcomed, this place can get packed with birthday parties and other special events. And for now, the cafe is only open Fri.-Sun.
Best Themed Restaurants in LA for Kids: Medieval Times
Melissa Heckscher
Hear ye, hear ye: There's a reason Medieval Times Dinner & Tournament has been around for over three decades. It's got everything kids love: Animals (horses!), competition (jousting!), and simple food (that you eat with your hands, no less!). New for this year, the king who has ruled over the tournament since the show's inception has been replaced by... A queen! In our opinion, this just makes the show better since it will woo young girls who may have been turned off by the otherwise completely-male cast.
Does your little one like horses? Swords? Screaming as loud as she can for the sake of fun? Perfect. The rollicking, two-hour "tournament" showcases knights on horseback competing in a variety of Medieval competitions, all of which will have your dining section proudly cheering on its assigned team. The sparsely intertwined dialogue is a little hard to understand at times—but who cares! There are knights on horseback! With weapons! That, and you'll be slightly distracted by the four-course meal served on metal plates, without utensils while you spectate. The food is better than you might expect, though when all is said and done, most rave reviews will still be for the knights.
Note: The tournament culminates in a final knight-against-knight battle that'll have your kids riveted. This means, of course, that there are tons of choreographed battle scenes involving swords, flails, and axes, so if you don't like the idea of your kids watching actors get knocked to the ground by props, you may want to give the show a pass. In our opinion, the final scenes were the most fun (and this writer's 6 and 8-year-old boys we unfazed by the battles).
Expect to be inundated with opportunities to open your wallet, because opportunity awaits from the get-go, whether they be photo ops and souvenir cups or light-up swords and dragon claw necklaces. There's even a Knights Templar suit of armor for $3,800 and a full armory of metal swords that cost upwards of $125, so, yeah: Everything is for sale. Our advice: Be ready to channel your inner "No" voice unless you're up for a full-on, spoil-the-kids "knight out." That said, the $5 Medieval Times flag is worth getting since your kids will be excitedly waving it nearly the entire show. And, as for whether you need the "VIP seating package," remember every spot in the 1,100-seat arena offers a fantastic view of the show.
If you're planning a trip to Medieval Times for dinner, why not make it a day trip and check out these other fun things to do in Buena Park!
Best Themed Restaurants in LA for Kids: Pirate's Dinner Adventure
In case you haven't noticed, Orange County has a thing for themed restaurants (and Buena Park itself has a surprisingly ton of fun things to do with kids). But located practically RIGHT NEXT DOOR to Medieval Times (because if you like one, you're bound to like the other, right?), is Pirate's Dinner Adventure. This restaurant sets out to entertain little seafarers with a swashbuckling dinner show that kids will love, especially if they're fans of Captain Hook, Jack Sparrow, or the Neverland Pirates. Your kids will be sold the moment they walk into the main arena and see the stage, a massive pirate ship set that makes the whole place feel small in comparison. Of course, the journey (and spending opportunities) begin way before the theater doors open. Get there 90 minutes early to enjoy a selection of free appetizers which include fried zucchini, fried corn cakes, and other fried stuff that kids will love and you'll love for the sake of it being free. Then, about 30 minutes before showtime, there's the Pirate's "Pre-Show," which gets everyone warmed up to the story (someone is kidnapped!) and ends with a pirate-led walk into the theater.
The show itself is a mixture of choreographed sword battles, short songs, silly pirate banter (including at least two cues for the audience to raise their mugs and "Drink! Drink!"), and circus-style performances including two aerial silk acts and a trampoline bit that'll make kids wish they could go up on stage and jump around. There's also a whole lot of fighting, though we found it harmless enough, and even kids will be able to see that the stage fights are, well, staged (many of the "hits" were noticeably a few inches off). The story is a bit hard to follow: The princess has been kidnapped! But wait, she's in love with a pirate! And oh, there's the Loch Ness Monster! It's, honestly, a bit all over the place, but your kids will be riveted just the same.
Like Medieval Times, everyone gets a pirate to root for, which gives kids a vested interest in paying attention (and makes the whole thing a lot more fun). So wear your team bandana proudly, Mom and Dad!. If your kids are lucky, they may even get a chance to go on stage; about 30 kids in total are called up at various parts throughout the show. Bring a zoom lens: Your little pirates might be taken backstage, dressed in adorable costumes, then brought back on stage far from where you're sitting. And you'll want pictures. Trust us.
As for the food, which (like Medieval Times) is included in the ticket price: It's good for what it is. Just keep in mind you're here to be wowed by the pirates; not the potatoes. Your meal starts with a choice of soup or salad; entrees include roasted chicken with shrimp and vegetable skewers, mashed potatoes and mixed veggies. Kids meals include chicken nuggets with mashed potatoes, macaroni and cheese, and fruit. Cake is the dessert (and our kids literally licked their plates). Vegetarian, vegan, and gluten-free meals are available.
Note: We think the show is appropriate for kids over 5, though sensitive kids or those who don't like loud noises may get scared at the cannon blasts and the appearance of a sea monster toward the end of the show.
When the moon hits your eye like a big pizza pie—not only is it amore, it's probably because you're at Micele's, one of Hollywood's oldest Italian joints. These guys serve up pipping hot pizzas, fresh made pastas, and gigantic melt in your mouth meatballs all on old school red and white checkered table clothes.
If you happen to order a bottle of chianti for the table, you'll get to sign it and have it hung up with the rest of them. Just look up to see the hundreds of bottles hanging along the ceiling. But the highlight has to be the entertainment. Be sure to get a seat near the piano player who not only takes requests but sings too. And don't be surprised if your waitress walks over to get in on the musical action.
Insider Tip: The servings are huge, so think about sharing and don't forget to save room for dessert like fresh baked cannoli and spumoni ice cream. Parking is free with validation, a big plus on a crowded night in Hollywood.
Best Themed Restaurants in LA for Kids: The Magic Castle
The Magic Castle c/o Vicki Greenleaf
Little magicians will love everything about this place, from their first steps inside (through a secret door behind the bookcase) to the roster of magical performances they can see during their visit (there's a show every 45 minutes!). The first trick? Getting in. Sadly, you have to be a member or be invited by a member, to be admitted into the castle. But, this is LA, where everyone knows someone who knows someone! And up-and-coming magicians are usually more than happy to fill the seats to their shows. So ask around and we bet you have a friend who has a magician's number in their phone. You can also make a weekend of it: Guests of the next-door Magic Castle Hotel get an automatic pass to the Castle.
Dinner at the Castle is offered nightly, but for the sake of your kids' bedtime, we recommend going for the Sunday brunch, which offers a slew of kid-friendly faves including chicken tenders, grilled cheese, waffles and French fries. Of course, no magic is needed to get the kids to finish dessert, a sugary buffet that includes a self-serve ice cream station and trays of sweets. Once you've eaten, you can head down for the show and/or explore the nooks and crannies of the place. Don't miss out on the ghostly piano player, which takes requests.
Note: Your meal includes a ticket to the main stage show, which is the biggest and most extravagant of the shows, but hang around for more; there are two other stages where smaller close-up magic acts take place. If your kids are lucky, they'll be chosen as magician's assistants (sitting in the first few rows helps). And FYI: The dress code is strictly enforced. If your attire is not up to snuff, you'll be asked to change.
Best Themed Restaurants in LA for Kids: Button Mash
Old school video games are at the center of entertainment at Button Mash. Think: PacMan, Street Fighter, Donkey Kong, Moon Walker, a dozen or so pinball machines. And yes, the adults might be just as excited as the kids to get their hands on these machines. Got shorty kids that can't reach the controls? There are step stools available for the vertically challenged.
The set up is easy—play the games via a provided card to swipe each game and the cost is put on your bill. No need for tokens or a bags of quarters. Don't forget to eat though! The asian fusion menu has must-haves like crispy tofu balls, spam fried rice, and dan dan noodles. And definitely save room for dessert because the five spice apple fritters and brick toast are not to be missed.
Insider Tip: Button Mash is all ages until 9 p.m., so go early to get your game on.
