A woman is asking the internet if she’s the one in the wrong for expecting her mother to babysit for free
Another day, another trip to the “Am I the A**hole” subreddit, where today’s viral story has a lot of parents up in arms. A new mom recently posted there, wondering if she’s the a**hole because she expected to get free babysitting from her mother once she went back to work—and boy does the internet have feelings about this one.
“I (29f) asked my mom to help me take care of my newborn so I could go back to work once my leave is up. Mind you, my mom is 64, has been a homemaker/stay-at-home-mom since 1992, and hasn’t been part of the workforce since then,” OP (original poster) wrote. “She refused, saying she’s too old and that she already raised her kids. She also added that if I really wanted this baby, then maybe I should have thought about staying home like she did to take care of it while my partner goes to work and provides for us like a “traditional” family, and that if she and my dad were able to work it out, so can we.”
OP outlines a lot of very relatable issues: she is the higher earner in her family; she and her husband both have debt from student loans, car loans, and credit cards; and they live in a small one-bedroom in a high-cost-of-living city and will need to save to move into an apartment with more space as their baby grows. Plus, you know, the entire childcare system is broken, and parents need universal support so they don’t have to rely on relatives to provide a ton of free labor for them. But anyway.
“When I explained all the above to my mom, she then proceeded to say that she will charge me $20/hr for each hour she takes care of the baby, plus late fees if we are late for pickup, and must provide her with a car seat, stroller, bottles, and pretty much double of everything we have at our home to compensate for taking the baby to her house. She will not step foot in my house for her own personal reasons (she’s come in once, and I’ve lived with my partner for 5 years; she’s a 15 min drive away),” OP wrote.
“I want to save money to bring down our debt, and don’t want to pay her as much nor invest as much in double of everything as it will spiral into more debt for me and my partner. I’m on the fence about enrolling my baby into an infant daycare instead as the cost will overall be lower and a little closer to our home. Due to our jobs, we cannot work from home so we are in desperate need of childcare. Everyone else in our family works full time so they cannot help us as they have a similar 9-5 schedule.”
So basically, OP was planning on using her own mother as free childcare—only she never asked her mom about that before the baby arrived. The internet was pretty swift in delivering its verdict.
One popular comment reads, “Your mother is under no obligation to babysit for you. Why are you having a child you don’t seem to know what to do with? And why have you not worked all this out before now?”
Yet another chimed in, “Holy entitlement, Batman. Your mom is in no way obligated to care for YOUR BABY. It’s generous of her to be willing to do it for pay, and you have the gall to be mad she won’t do it for free? She is entitled to spend her life and free time however the hell she wants. It’s not her fault you’re in debt and decided to have a baby you can’t afford.” Whew.
To be honest, her mother’s “traditional family” dig isn’t particularly helpful; plenty of women have become the breadwinners of their homes, and households where both parents work has become more of a necessity to stay economically afloat. That being said, simply assuming someone will become your go-to childcare provider (just because they’re retired) without so much as a conversation isn’t the move.
The lesson here? Figure out your childcare plans before your baby is born. And support politicians who want to make the system better for parents through universal healthcare, subsidized childcare, tax credits, and other means of easing the financial burden of raising kids.
Whether you’re looking to join a CSA, find a new favorite restaurant or buy science-inspired, kid-designed clothes for your crew, these local businesses are here to help
Seattle is one of those cities where people buy local whenever they can. And February is a great time to recommit to supporting local and small when you shop at some of the best Black-owned businesses in Seattle. From restaurants, CSAs and grocery delivery to fitness studios and beauty products, these enterprising companies have kids and families in mind.
These Black-Owned Businesses in Seattle Are Fun for Families
MsKariba Suite | Balloon Bar Boutique We’re crushing hard on this balloon bar and party supply store in West Seattle. Consider it your go-to spot for creative balloon installations that’ll really make your kiddo’s birthday party (or that baby shower you’re throwing next month) pop. Families can order balloon bundles and garlands, plus just about every individual balloon you can think of online. Or you can stop by the shop to talk inspired ideas with owner Kariba Jack. Orders should be placed two weeks in advance; delivery options are still in the works.
Orion Razat A different spin on Black-owned businesses in Seattle, we're all about celebrating and supporting the entrepreneurial spirit of Seattle's own Orion Razat, author of 101 STEM Jokes. Published when he was barely out of grade school, it’s a book of silly puns and one-liners Orion wrote to entertain his classmates (much to the chagrin of his teacher). With the help of his parents, he was able to bring them all together in this entertaining book. You can follow Orion on Instagram @rocketshipsquid to see what he's up to next (hint: he's working on a second book) and buy his science-inspired merch too.
Local Yokels When local farmer’s markets shut down due to the pandemic, ag-heads Amber and Damon had a brilliant idea, and another Black-owned business in Seattle was born. They would bridge the gap by working with local farms to deliver fresh produce and other products directly to doorsteps in Seattle. Voila! Local Yokels was born. With a focus on sustainability, be it environmental or economic, families can feel good about using this service to get groceries, meats, gift baskets, self-care products, and more delivered. Our suggestion? Their subscription boxes make it easy to always have the staples on hand so you can skip the store on those unavoidably busy days.
Clean Greens Farm & Market With spring and summer CSA season just around the corner, you might be on the lookout for a local farm to support. This year, order your fresh produce from Clean Greens Farm & Market, a non-profit founded in 2007 that's owned and operated by folks in the Central District. In addition to the weekly market, full and half produce shares, they also have a youth program that addresses food justice issues that affect BIPOC kids. As part of the Clean Greens Youth Program, kids ages 4-12 can learn about healthy living and sustainable farming with hands-on experiences.
Estelita's Library If you love books, people, and social justice, we’ve discovered the perfect hangout spot. Estelita’s Library is a justice-focused community library and bookstore. Its mission is to foster a community space for people to build and learn through thoughtful interactions with each other. This unique space features a curated community bookstore and library with titles focused on social justice, ethnic studies, and liberation movements. It adopts a community library model where members join and pay an annual fee to borrow books. Yearly memberships are available on a sliding scale. Bonus: The community library also hosts book talks, classes, meetings, history lessons, and more.
Uniquely Savvy Mom boss makeover, anyone? Kim at Uniquely Savvy can help. Her styling services save parents time and money by keeping them “tailored to the task.” Not sure what to wear for your body type or shape? Kim knows. And when it comes to your personal brand, she works with women to drill down and get to the heart of who they are, defining their strengths and talents so they’re seen and heard for the right reasons. It’s all about building confidence so you can look and do your best, no matter what professional (or personal) role you have.
Gresham Financial Gresham Financial owner and dad, Isaiah Gresham knows how important financial planning and peace of mind are to families, whether you're on your first or fourth (or beyond!) baby. And that's what families will find when they work with Gresham Financial to prepare annual taxes or plan for college tuition or private school fees. We think it's cool that Gresham even teaches financial best practices to kids and teens. It's never too early to learn.
Communion Restaurant & Bar This hot brick-and-mortar, serving up “Seattle Soul,” is the latest venture from That Brown Girl Cooks! duo Chef Kristi Brown and her son, Damon Bomar. You’ll find favorites from TBGC!’s menu, like the Black Eyed Pea Hummus at Communion, alongside new creations that blend American soul food with Pacific Northwest influences—the Catfish Po’Mi is a great example of this ingenious mashup.
Fat's Chicken & Waffles Craving something hearty, filling, and flavorful? You’re destined to find just what you’re looking for at Fat’s, a southern-style, New Orleans-influenced restaurant in the heart of the Central District. Using authentic and natural ingredients, Fat’s serves up soulful delights including their signature chicken & waffles, shrimp & grits, red beans & rice, and more. Breakfast, lunch, or dinner, there is something on the menu to tantalize your taste buds. Try the Fat’s Sampler and dive into a little bit of everything. You’ll enjoy the laid-back vibe and delicious food at this Seattle favorite.
Black Coffee Northwest Black Coffee Northwest’s motto is “grounded in excellence,” and their commitment to brewing up great coffee and being a community hub for Black youth is just that. Just look to Grounded, Black Coffee Northwest's Youth Leadership Development Space to get a feel for the programming that includes after-school study hours and internship opportunities. Plus, folks will find an array of Black-made products in their Black Marketplace any time you visit.
The Station Community Coffee House The Station Community Coffee House serves up more than just coffee and delicious food; it serves community. An icon in Seattle’s Beacon Hill neighborhood for many decades, The Station is home to artists, activists, advocates, and others in search of a good cup of coffee. Try a cup of locally-sourced coffee and pair it with a sandwich (psst... put the El Centro on your list, a sandwich loaded with chicken, avocado, spinach, pepper jack, jalapeno, and tomatoes). If you’re there for breakfast, don’t miss the homemade biscuits ‘n’ chorizo gravy.
1600 S. Roberto Maestas Festival St. Seattle Online: thestationbh.com
Ezell's Famous Chicken
Ezell's Famous Chicken Fresh, high-quality chicken and delicious, home-cooked side dishes, served with exceptional service are what sets Ezell’s Famous Chicken apart from its competition. Since 1984, this locally owned family business has grown and now serves the community in 17 Seattle-area locations. Ezell’s traditional recipe uses a proprietary battering process that seals in the flavor while locking out oils. If you prefer a little zing, try the spicy chicken which is marinated for 24 hours in a New Orleans-style seasoning, giving you full flavor in every bite. Ezell’s is committed to serving good food, while also giving back to the community and supporting local organizations that help neighbors in need.
Nana's Southern Kitchen Crush your Southern comfort food craving on a cold winter day when you head to Nana’s in Kent. Owned by the Minor family, the traditional Southern favorites you'll find on their simple but scrumptious menu pay homage to great-grandma, Myrtle Henderson's cooking. The Mains are fried to perfection and the Sides are everything you want them to be—whether you’re eating collard greens, picnic-perfect potato salad or simply sweet candied yams.
JuneBaby JuneBaby is a celebration of Southern food, sharing its delicious tastes, textures, and flavors through signature dishes like JuneBaby’s Fried Chicken and Red Beans & Rice with Hotlink Ragu. We also love their vegan menu favorites like Oven Roasted Beets with Walnuts, Ancient Grain Salad, and Smoked Carrots. In addition to spreading the love of Southern food throughout Seattle, JuneBaby shares the cuisine’s humble beginnings. Southern “soul food” originated during American slavery and represents the food as well as the period of oppression. Its culinary influences come from West Africa, Western Europe, and North America, resulting in tasty dishes paired with deep roots reflecting hard times and the resourcefulness and strength to overcome hardships. Order takeout when cooking isn't on your menu.
Plum Restaurants Good food feeds the soul and strengthens community. Chef Makini Howell’s Plum Restaurants, including Plum Bistro, Chopped, SugarPlum, and Plum Pantry, feature plant-based meals focused on organically-grown seasonal vegetables, non-GMO soy, and local fruits and herbs from family-owned organic farms. As a lifelong vegan, Howell believes that what is good for the individual will be good for the planet and this starts with our diet. Her fresh take on vegan cuisine inspires and delights diners, and we're loving the new greenhouse outdoor dining option too.
MOTSI Finding the time to "put your face on" isn't always in the cards for parents. But with MOTSI, the brainchild of Courtney LeMarco, a Bellevue-based entrepreneur and entertainment industry veteran, you can always have great skin. The thoughtful formulation behind this line delivers products that are cruelty-free, vegan, and void of things like parabens, silicone, and talc (to name a few). And while MOTSI's moisturizers, masks, mists, gels, and serums are definitely luxurious, it's not reflected in the price. Talk about a win for parents. The charcoal mask is one of our favorites, and for dad, try the cold brew beard oil.
Valerie Madison Fine Jewelry Whether you’re looking for a special gift for someone or a pick-me-up for yourself, you’ll find creative and responsibly-made necklaces, earrings, bracelets and more at this downtown shop. In addition to using recycled materials to make their inspired designs, Valerie Mason Jewelry is committed to sourcing conflict-free diamonds (usually) from Canada.
Compfit If getting fit is on your parent to-do list, Eric Wilson of Compfit can help. He brings his personal philosophy to each client's fitness journey, using his Comprehensive Lifestyle Plan (CLP) to help you achieve your specific fitness goals. Classes offered include a mix of exciting aerobics like Hoopnotica, Oula, and Capoeira with strength classes like Barre and Lean & Tone.
Maya Whole Health Studios As the name implies, Maya Whole Health Studio offers services that connect your mind, body, and spirit and work to bring health and energy to patrons and the community. Whether you’re looking for an innovative yoga class, a great Pilates workout, a restful massage, or an acupuncture session, you can find expert practitioners here.
The Ride Get ready for a 45-minute transformative cycling experience that will keep you coming back for more! From high-end cycle bikes to top-notch instructor-curated playlists, muted lighting to tiered seating, this cycle studio caters to all riders–from beginner to advanced. For more than 20 years, founder and master instructor, Aina Oyewole-Williams, has been bringing fitness-minded people together to heal, transform, and connect. Her teaching method and studio environment support personal change and growth on all levels. Bonus: Mix up your routine and improve your strength and mobility by trying a Body Camp class.
City Sweats Sweat your way to wellness at City Sweats, Seattle’s infrared sauna lounge. Come alone or bring a friend (hello, gal pal time!) and discover the healthy benefits of sweating it out. Explore other holistic detox treatments like a sauna wrap, lymphatic drainage, organic facial, or organic massage when you visit. It's a surefire way to treat yourself to a relaxing, quiet time that will refresh your mind and body. Since 2014, City Sweats has been a pioneer in Seattle’s infrared movement, committing to making infrared therapy more accessible and convenient.
Rainier Health & Fitness Rainier Health & Fitness is so much more than a gym. This South Seattle non-profit health organization makes exercise fun, accessible, and affordable. It encourages healthy lifestyles, strong bodies, and an authentic community through its high-quality fitness center. Founder Sili Kalepo, along with friends and non-profit Urban Impact, opened the first gym in 2005 inside a warehouse after recognizing that fitness centers were sparse in South Seattle neighborhoods. In October 2013, Kalepo opened the current location, continuing to serve the Rainier Beach community by offering comprehensive health and fitness services at reduced rates, aiming to remove obstacles that prevent people from making exercise a regular part of life. Rainier Health & Fitness offers a full spectrum of fitness classes including cardio/dance classes, senior classes, yoga, and personal training.
Satisfy Your Sweet Tooth at These Black-Owned Businesses in Seattle
KJ's Cakery Bakery Creative confections and cakes abound at KJ’s Cakery Bakery. This boutique bake shop offers custom desserts that meet every customer’s specific request. Founder, Kathy Jo Miller, has had a love for baking and an entrepreneurial spirit since she was a young girl. Her first foray into the bakery world was Taylor Made Pantry, a bakery focusing on cake pops. The business grew and evolved and KJ’s Cakery Bakery was born. Whether you're looking for a custom cake, cupcakes, popcorn, cotton candy, paint-your-own cookies, or hot cocoa bombs—you get the picture—this is the spot to find it.
Scoop Du Jour Ice Creamery Grab some of Scoop Du Jour’s delicious ice cream in a waffle cone and walk down to the park or waterfront in Madison Park. No frills and around forever, Scoop Du Jour is an unpretentious, beloved Seattle tradition. Don’t miss out on their kid-approved burgers or grilled cheese, either.
Jacob Willard Home If you’ve got your heart set on a new-to-you vintage or mid-century piece for your space, chances are you’ll find it at Jacob Willard Home. This family-owned furniture store located in Rainier Valley has been part of the Hillman City community for around a decade. Known for its record player and vintage vinyl collection, this is more than just a furniture spot.
Adorned Abode Whether you’re looking for that just-right gift, or you want to find something special for yourself, you’ll find what you need at Adorned Abode. Since its opening in 2016, shop owner, Benita Smith has sourced eye-catching locally-made, fair-trade products that support small businesses. The best part? Each month a portion of the sales is donated to a local service group in the community. Get good. Do good. It’s a win-win. Schedule your shopping appointment online.
Old Freighthouse Square 2501 E. D St., Suite 53 Tacoma Online: adornedabode.net
Sukie's Candle Co. Who doesn't love a good-scented candle? They make great gifts, but they’re also a little pick-me-up you can burn at home on a grey winter day. Treat yourself (or a friend) to a premium soy wax candle from this local company that also has an eye on sustainability. Each candle is hand-poured when it’s ordered and they come in intriguing scents like cinnamon chai and sea salt orchid.
Herbanfarm Pike Place Market’s Herbanfarm is kind of a big dill (pun intended). Founded by Ras Levy Peynado, the son of a market craftsperson and a Jamaican fourth-generation farmer, this urban farm grows all of its herbs and peppers by hand in North Seattle. Herbanfarm’s wide variety of herbs is incorporated into small-batch culinary spice blends, seasonings, sauces, salts, vinegars, mustards, teas, as well as health and beauty products. All ingredients are harvested using organic farming practices that have been passed down from farmer to farmer for generations. The commitment to these practices is what preserves the taste and smell of these flavorful and aromatic herbs and peppers.
Say it with us: families need support! Fortunately for families, the YMCA of Metro Chicago is committed to its community and has your back. As a nonprofit organization, their mission is to develop strong children, families and communities across the city of Chicago and suburbs through academic readiness, character development, violence prevention, and healthy living—impressive, right?
Much more than a fitness center, the YMCA may be what you need to navigate our new normal. Read on for four reasons why the Y is precisely where you want to be!
Ready to join today? Use code FAM15 when you join and receive $15 off the first month of a family membership (valid through 12/15/20). Or bring in your family to try out the Y by purchasing a family day pass at their front desks ($15 includes 2 adults, unlimited children) or by calling their Member Services team at 773-905-5115.
Family Values
For hundreds of years, parents have relied on the YMCA as a partner in helping to raise confident, healthy and community-minded citizens. Not just sports and after-school programs, the Y’s goal is to help kids create a positive identity, develop transferable life skills, healthy habits, and build career readiness.
The YMCA is here to help parents reach their wellness goals, too! Parents have the opportunity to get their sweat on with tons of classes to choose from while their kids are taking part in a class of their own. During regular operating, they even offer free childcare on-site with Kids Zone, offering a safe environment and trusted sitter for an hour or two.
(Accessible) Activities for All
The YMCA offers a wide variety of programs for the whole family, including early childhood education and care for children ages six weeks to six years, before and after school programs, daytime and overnight summer camp, swim lessons and premium fitness classes, to name a few.
We all know that the flexibility to squeeze in a workout around your day is crucial to keeping up with your health goals. A YMCA of Metro Chicago membership gives members access to 13 YMCA membership centers across the Chicagoland area, which means no more excuses—you can do it!
Community-Minded
The YMCA is committed to creating an inclusive environment and meeting all of today’s families’ needs. Their equally passionate staff prides itself on establishing a sense of community at their centers. The love is mutual—many of their members and program participants end up volunteering with Y programs.
The Y has long been a stronghold in communities across the country and the world. All are welcome at the Y regardless of race, religion, orientation, ability or socioeconomic background. The YMCA believes a family should never be denied access to their services because of an inability to pay and offers financial assistance to those in need.
COVID Response
As they’ve done for decades, the YMCA has rallied purposefully behind the city and the region to support families during difficult times. Even while locations were shut down, the Y continued its commitment to the community by sheltering the city’s homeless and displaced citizens, providing emergency child care for essential workers, and distributing food, diapers, and other critical supplies to residents in need.
Exciting news: They’ve reopened their centers with extensive precautionary measures, and are offering remote learning support programs. For more information on their reopening policies and procedures, as well as “Know Before You Go” information, please visit their Reopening Resource Center.
Ready to join today? Use code FAM15 when you join and receive $15 off the first month of a family membership (valid through 12/15/20). Or bring in your family to try out the Y by purchasing a family day pass at their front desks ($15 includes 2 adults, unlimited children) or by calling their Member Services team at 773-905-5115.
Learn more about their COVID response and support the YMCA as they work to strengthen families during the pandemic and beyond here.
Staying fit is important to you and bringing your kids along is, too. That’s why we’re excited to add Shred415 to the list of Seattle gyms with childcare. No matter what your fitness level or goals, you can find a great workout spot from our picks below.
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Say hello to Shred415, Seattle's newest boutique fitness studio that needs to be on every parent's radar. Not just because the circuit "empowers all bodies and fitness levels," but because they also offer childcare. During the 60-minute workout, "Shredders" (think: members) make their way through four, 15-minute intervals, moving from dynamic running drills to floor sessions, targeting both cardio and strength in an efficient HIIT workout that means you see results fast. Add in the sense of community that comes with small class sizes and you'll find out soon why Shred415's motto is "more than a workout." Drop-ins are just $28, but most folks buy the Original Shredder Membership to make the most of each round (psst... it's specially priced at $149/mo. right now).
Keep Score: Childcare will run you between $6-$8. They take kids ages 6 weeks-13 years in the playspace, where they'll find plenty of toys and gadgets to keep them busy and safe while you get your workout in.
Good to know: Here's the best part: parents will be able to try Shred415 free from March 14-22. Lucky you! They'll be hosting a celebratory launch that includes DJ's, food and giveaways you'll love. Sign up the stay in the know.
1823 Minor Ave., Suite 101 Seattle, WA 206-519-8011 Online: shred415.com
Named “Best Health Club/Fitness Practice” By Seattle Magazine in 2012 and voted “Best Gym in Seattle” in the Best of Citysearch 2013, Olympic Athletic Club in Ballard went through a major renovation a few years ago, with first class upgrades including a second pool, new locker rooms, more studio space for over 90 available fitness classes and tons of brand new equipment to get your heart rate up. And to entice you even more (besides being open 24 hours, five days a week), the gym features a fantastic Kids Korner, where childcare providers care for your tyke in a clean, fun environment. Childcare is available every day of the week to kids starting at four months and is open to both members and guests of members while using the facility, with 10 hours of free childcare given to Parent and Family membership holders each month. Additional childcare is available for $3/hour. Kids’ swimming lessons are also available, making this an ideal spot for you and your tot.
Keep Score: Reservations are required to hold a spot for each child and may be made one day in advance (for Tues-Sat. appointments) and two days in advance for Sun. & Mon. Babies use two spots in Kids Korner and require two complimentary hours of childcare per actual hour. Psst... make sure your kiddo has on a fresh diaper - parents of pre-potty trained Littles will be paged if a diaper needs to be changed. Now go spin your heart out!
Considered by some to be the Cadillac of local fitness clubs, PRO Sports Club has a kid-friendly location in Bellevue for those of us who want a little fancy with our fitness. Bellevue’s location includes multiple pools, tennis, racquetball, squash and basketball courts, a spa, salon, bistro and a women-only gym The hourly childcare provided there is for kids aged six weeks through five years. Bellevue’s Discovery Bay offers childcare options every day of the week for members and their guests, as well as non-members (once a month) who visit the spa, physical therapy or podiatry services. The Eastside facility even includes a daily schedule (including circle time, free choice time and snack time) and offers members an option for up to 10 hours of off-site childcare (meaning you can leave the building!) and a part-time preschool for kids.
Keep Score: Hourly childcare fees start at $9/hr. and go up to $11/hr., depending on age. Reservations are highly recommended and can be made 24-hours in advance. They are required on Saturdays for kids ages 2-5. So sign up your kiddos and get your sweat on.
PRO Club-Bellevue 4455 148th Ave N.E Bellevue, WA 98007 425-885-5566
Located inside the Arena Sports building in Magnuson Park, Magnuson Athletic Club offers a well-rounded selection of fitness and wellness offerings for you---from ZUMBA to Tabata, cycling to yoga, plus personal trainers, sport-specific training, massage therapists and nutritionists ready to help you meet your goals. But what to do with your mini-me while getting your body back? Never fear–MiniMAC Childcare is here! Available to kids ages 6 months to 12 years, MiniMAC provides a safe, interactive environment where kids can play, draw, read, catch up on homework, play basketball or soccer and even get their bounce on at the Fun Zone Inflatables.
Keep Score: Childcare is available for $6/hour while you are on the premises, for a maximum of 90 minutes. There are also punch cards for 10 & 20 hours of childcare at a discounted rate.
7751 63rd Ave. N.E. Seattle, WA 98115 206-452-1500 Online: macseattle.com
Located in the heart of downtown Seattle (just one block north of Pike Place Market), Seattle Athletic Club is a premier health and fitness destination for many Seattle families. The club offers a qualified professional fitness staff, excellent customer service, exciting fitness programs and ever-evolving and improving fitness facilities and equipment. Classes include group exercise, personal training, yoga, court sports, martial arts and more. Seattle Athletic Club also offers as much for its little members as they do for its parents, from swimming lessons to childcare at the Kids Club. Weekday childcare is available from 9 a.m.-2 p.m and 4-8 p.m. with weekend care available from 8:30 a.m.-2:30 p.m.
Keep Score: Ages 8 weeks to 7 years old are welcome. Infants 8 weeks to children 15 months of age are allowed in the Child Center up to 3 hours to accommodate their special needs.Reservations are required and can be made up to one week in advance by calling 206-443-1111. Reservations must be made 24 hours in advance to ensure the Center has appropriate coverage. Spots tend to fill up quickly, so plan in advance. Drop-ins may be turned away due to limited space. However, the Club will try to accommodate your child if space is available.
2020 Western Ave. Seattle, WA 98121 206-443-1111 Online: sacdt.com
For those of us located south of the city, Highline Athletic Club offers group classes in cycling, yoga, ZUMBA, Aqua Fit and more and has a full line of strength equipment, elliptical trainers and treadmills, to name a few, and their indoor track, pool, sauna, Jacuzzi and steam room will keep you busy until the pounds fall away. And they focus on family fitness partnering with local programs like B-Town Hoops, The British Swim School and the Northwest School of Karate so kids can stay active too.
Keep Score: Childcare is offered to all members for $5/hour per child, with a $25 monthly rate available to families who plan to be there often. Morning and evening hours are available, so get your gym bag packed – you have no more excuses!
Started in 2005 after founder Sili Kapelo noted the lack of gyms and fitness centers in South Seattle, Rainier Health and Fitness caters to anyone who is drawn to their original mission: To encourage healthy lifestyles, strong bodies and authentic community through an accessible and high quality fitness center. Memberships start at $30 per month (that's just a buck a day), kids of members are free and childcare is free for all members. Here you’ll find genuine staff in a low-key environment free of bodybuilding posters and wall-to-wall mirrors (seriously, there are no mirrors!); fun classes like ZUMBA, CrossFit, yoga and cycling; and an entire community truly dedicated to health and fitness of each one of their members.
Keep Score:Childcare is available for kids ages 1-10 years, Mon.–Thurs. from 5-8 p.m.
7722 Rainier Ave. S. Seattle, WA 98118 206-725-0279 Online: rainierhealth.com
Denali Fitness offers a variety of cardio and strength equipment, classes like BodyPump, Above the Barre, Tabata and Yoga, plus cycling, personal trainers, a sauna and more. With childcare available and a convenient location in Madison Valley, you have practically no excuse not to stop by and raise your heart rate for an hour or more.
Keep Score:Denali Kids’ Club is open Saturdays, from 9 a.m.-12:30 p.m. for kids ages three months to seven-years-old at a cost of $5/child per hour or $7.50 for 90 minutes. Members may make reservations up to one week in advance, via phone or in person.
3130 E. Madison St., #104 Seattle WA 98112 206-325-3300 Online: denalifitness.com
Are you a former dancer who misses her pointe shoes, or do you just yearn for the long, lean legs of a prima ballerina? Then classes at barre3 might be your ticket to fit and fabulous. A combination of ballet barre, yoga and Pilates, barre combines low impact movement, isometric holds and stretching through various postures to increase flexibility, gain strength and achieve gracefulness – something we moms sometimes feel has simply left the building. barre3 offers classes at 13 Washington locations, including Capitol Hill, Roosevelt, Ballard, West Seattle, Bellevue, Kirkland and the Issaquah Highlands.
Keep Score: barre3 childcare options vary by location, so be sure to check the one near you to see if it offers a Play Lounge. Usually, a single class costs between $5-$8/child, or parents can purchase a 10-pack series for $45-$55. Some locations offer a 20 pack too. Reservations can be made online when you schedule your class and are highly recommended.
More than one fit parent's workout center of choice, the YMCA is the epitome of family-friendly fitness. Conveniently located throughout Seattle and the Eastside, with locations serving downtown Seattle, West Seattle, Fauntleroy, Seatac, Auburn, Bellevue, Sammamish, Coal Creek, East Madison, University District and Bothell, the YMCA provides a variety of kid-tastic amenities, from swimming lessons and dance classes to Parents Nights Out and free childcare while parents get their workout on (or just take a breather in the lobby).
Keep Score: Childcare starts at six weeks old, and has a limit of 1.5 hours per day. Some locations even offer separate rooms for infants, toddlers and older kids. And for the price of your membership, you get access to all 13 locations.
Voted Best Big Box Gym Chain by Fitness Magazine, 24 Hour Fitness has locations conveniently located where you are – from West Seattle to Renton Highlands to downtown Bellevue to Issaquah and many, many more. Their membership dues include the latest in fun classes, from ZUMBA to Yoga-lates (and plain old Yoga) to Turbo Kick (fancy kick boxing) and their in-house Kids’ Club for kiddos six months to 11 years provides age appropriate games, toys, movies and seasonal activities overseen by trained attendants certified in CPR and first aid. So while you make your fitness goals, your kids can make new friends.
Keep Score: Not all locations have a Kids’ Club, so make sure to check before signing up. Costs vary per club (typically $4-5 for up to two hours) or you can add a Kids’ Club agreement to your membership for unlimited childcare.
Tips When Looking for a Gym
1. Decide whether you want to be anonymous on your elliptical or have a Cheers welcome with your workout (you know… where everyone knows your name). Most gyms worth their free weights will offer a free pass or trial membership (from one to 14 days), so you can check it out before you commit. Just how clean are the showers? Is there someone available to help me figure out this machine? Does my kiddo scream when I leave him or her in childcare?
2. Use your parent investigative skills to determine if the space and the staff fit your needs and health goals.
3. Find out what’s included in your membership before you buy. Do I need to bring my own towel? Will I get a tour of the facility? How about a free personal trainer session? Taking time to do your research will make it much more likely you’ll use that membership well past the first month, and ensure you enjoy every minute (OK, almost every minute) as you sweat, run, lift, dance and stretch your way to your ultimate fitness goals.
Travel and family can add up to memories of a lifetime. For added inspiration, we asked 12 of the savviest travel bloggers out there for their best places to travel for family fun on their own time and their own dime. Read on for places to visit in the USA (and a few abroad) that you’ll definitely want to add to your own bucket list!
1. Disney’s Aulani Resort & Spa - Oahu, HI
Amber Mamian of Global Munchkins
Travel is at the very heart of this family of seven, both in terms of growing closer and growing their family, with two of their children adopted. So it is with “five crazy munchkins” in tow that the So-Cal based Global Munchkins travel the world and report back with those great big hearts of theirs.
“Disney’s Aulani Resort & Spa has become like a second home to us and is easily our top favorite resort when it comes to our personal family vacations. Located on the gorgeous island of Oahu, this family-friendly resort is packed with incredible kids activities, amazing water slides, free childcare for kids 3-12 years old at Auntie's Beach house, plus a luxurious spa and delicious eateries the whole family will enjoy. To help us afford this luxe trip we use our DVC Membership, a points-based timeshare through Disney, but folks without a membership can easily rent points for substantial savings as well.”
When this family of six (plus two dogs) decided to downsize their lives to what could fit in an RV, a Crazy Family Adventure began. Their aim has always been to deepen and enrich their family bonds through travel. If you’re planning a U.S. road trip, especially, check them out!
“Glacier National Park is the perfect place to bring your family to experience unbelievable views and to search out wildlife. This National Park is filled with hikes that take you to hidden lakes, waterfalls, and glaciers. Yes, some can be long hikes, but you can also find shorter hikes that work for the whole family. Plus, there is nothing like seeing a moose or bear and her cubs in the wild! The experiences you have, the crystal clear blue water, and driving the sun road are things that no one in the family will ever forget.”
Rob and Chris Taylor wanted to give their two sons a “broad worldview.” So these 2 Travel Dads are seeing the world, experiencing different cultures, and heading outdoors at every turn in order to do exactly that.
"We’ve been back to St. Augustine, Florida several times with the kids. They love exploring the oldest city in the USA with its tiny streets and buildings that are straight out of a pirate story. The blend of history, nature and beaches is so seamless in St. Augustine that it makes it really easy to make flexible plans that will be a hit with any age group. We plan on returning again soon because we just can’t get enough Florida fun.”
When Europe-based Family Off Duty first turned to Instagram to document their travels, they found a community of “like-minded parents who love enjoying time with their children and sharing a passion for family travel.” As “citizens of the world,” these parents and young daughter have visited over 20 countries and counting with over 50,000 Instagrammers now following along.
“One of our absolute favorites is Barcelona, Spain. Friendly people, great cuisine, plenty of attractions in the city and many possible day trips, from sea to mountain. What she [their young daughter] loved the most was just enjoying the public outdoor spaces; the parks and green areas, playgrounds, and the beach. Barcelona has plenty of family-oriented attractions too such as the zoo, aquarium, interactive museums, and a theme park.”
Kids Are A Trip has the world covered, with posts from overseas as well as each corner of the U.S. They also have handy travel tips for packing, cruising, road tripping, and even safety-first tips about how to travel around food allergies.
“For a family-friendly vacation spot that ticks all the boxes, look no further than San Diego. The city has over 70 miles of coastline, so there are plenty of beaches. Families will love the soft golden sands of Coronado Beach and the long stretches of flat sand at La Jolla Shores. The city is home to the San Diego Zoo, Sea World, LEGOLAND, Safari Park, Scripps Aquarium, and the USS Midway. Balboa Park in the heart of the city has over 1,800 acres of museums, gardens, and walking trails. A top family favorite is the La Jolla Children’s Pool, where families can see seals sunning themselves on the rocks and search in the adjacent tide pools when the water is low.”
Most kids grow up hearing stories about their milestones… the first time they walked, their first word. For the Worldwide Webers, visiting over 30 countries before their first baby’s first birthday will also be on that list! Now they are a globetrotting family of four and not slowing down one bit.
“Washington D.C. is a great family destination, because what does every family love? Free stuff! Everything from the National Zoo to the museums in D.C. is free. So if your toddler has the attention span of a flea, you can spend as little time as you want before hopping to the next kid-friendly activity without damaging their college fund. Along the way, you can eat some great food from food trucks around the National Mall, take the Metro all around the city, and take in a destination that’s got something for everyone.”
No list would be complete without a tip from the world’s #1 travel blog. Since departing from Perth, Australia, Travel With Bender has covered over 65 countries with over 1,000 posts, including invaluable info on travel hacks and finding cheap flights. And all since the two Bender kids were just two and three years old! Now, over 120,000 Instagram followers also travel along.
“Picking one destination is like asking a parent to choose their favourite child! Each one has it’s own unique attributes and elicits different reactions. But if I had to pick one relaxing destination, it would the Greek Islands. The slow pace of life, beautiful beaches and delicious food make for an idyllic family getaway. I’d suggest stringing a few islands together into one vacation—Kythnos, Sifnos, Milos and Ios. It would suit someone looking for an experience that is as different from the U.S. as you can get, without being too far out of the comfort zone (a lot of people in the Greek Islands speak some English). My kids enjoyed playing on the beach (what kid doesn’t!), trying new foods, taking boat trips and swimming in hotel pools. I found the family time this place created was priceless.”
Founded by Oregon-based travel writer, editor, and mom Amy Whitley, Pit Stops for Kids offers just what its name implies, from farms and festivals to restaurants and roadside attractions. Its team of contributors has covered all 50 states and countries galore and dishes out awesome advice, itineraries, and reviews of cities, road trips, kid-friendly resorts and more.
“Zion National Park may burst with visitors in the peak summer season, but come during spring break or even in the heart of winter, and your family will have the park to themselves with plenty of wilderness and nature to explore! Take a walk through The Narrows in winter to see the frozen waterfalls and hike through the canyon to see the way the winter light plays off the rock!”
This family of three is based in Rhode Island and exploring the world. Their premise is that making the trip a family affair, from its planning stages to its ultimate execution, ensures a richer experience for all. The Grubers of We3Travel share their destination guides, tips, and reviews, and also offer trip-planning services.
“Central Oregon has so much to offer families that enjoy the outdoors. From the vacation resort community of Sunriver, you can go whitewater rafting, caving, hiking, boating, and even rock climbing. The landscape is diverse, from the barren lava fields to the high desert plains to the gorgeous mountain lakes and the wild Deschutes River. A visit to Crater Lake National Park is not to be missed as the brilliant blue of this massive lake simply cannot be fully appreciated until you see it in person.”
Poshbrood, born of the travels of these five Thorpes, operates on the motto: “Offspring. Don’t Leave Home Without Them.” With that guiding principle, they offer travel perspectives on city, country, and coastal destinations (cruises too!), including green travel and “budget queen” options as well.
"We love the Riviera Maya region for family travel for several reasons:
1. Direct flights to Cancun are available from all major US cities and are usually affordable.
2. It is on the Caribbean side of Mexico and has one of the most beautiful stretches of beach and the world’s second largest coral reef. There is no current and is very safe for swimming.
3. If the kids are ‘bored’ at the beach, there are plenty of activities including zip lines, waterfall tours, exploring denotes and Sian Ka'an, a designated biosphere reserve.
4. The Riviera Maya offers diverse landscapes—mangrove swamps, cenotes, soft white sand beaches and jungles.
5. Mayan history—there are several significant ancient archaeological sites in the Riviera Maya including Tulum ruins, Chichen-Itza, and the Coba Ruins.
6. There is lodging for every family budget (Our favorite spot is Amansala!) and vacation type, from eco-chic and family friendly to luxurious all-inclusive resorts to villa rentals to boutique hotels along with all the major chain hotels for those families saving up points.
Based outside Toronto, Gone With The Family has already logged 20 years of travel time since their eldest daughter was all of four months old. Their mission to show their kids the world “one trip at a time” now provides a bountiful travel archive of tips and reviews, with plenty in particular for Disney and Harry Potter travelers.
“My favourite family-friendly destination in the United States is New York City. We have visited nine times in the past eleven years, and a weekend in NYC has become our family’s annual back-to-school tradition. We are a theatre-loving family so Broadway shows are always top of our to-do list, but we love all of the other family-friendly attractions in the city as well—enjoying world-class museums, taking in the view from atop the Empire State Building or Rockefeller Center, spending hours in Central Park, visiting the Statue of Liberty and eating frozen hot chocolate at Serendipity!”
One of the main reasons we travel with our kids is to teach them something about another place or another culture. Wandering Educators and its “global community of educators, sharing travel experiences” is an ideal resource for travel guides and services as well as information about education abroad.
“Traverse City, Michigan is an excellent destination for families. Home to the most beautiful place in the USA, Sleeping Bear Dunes, this area is full of beautiful natural experiences. Hike up the dune (and down!), check out lighthouses, and swim in Lake Michigan at one of the area’s countless beaches. Grab some ice cream at MOOmers, crazy flavored popcorn at Popkies, or cherry pie from Grand Traverse Pie Company. Check out the Dennos Museum and the Great Lakes Children’s Museum, which have plenty to do inside. Any time of year, Traverse City is the perfect playground for families.
A good babysitter is hard to find (we know, we’re totally preaching to the choir). And sometimes, when you need him or her most, she’s downright elusive. If you have pressing errands to do and no childcare, or you just are overdue for a date night, these trusty drop-in childcare options provide a last minute solution for a nominal fee.
Photo: Community Church via flickr
Småland
Your wee ones will have an umlaut of fun at this Swedish outpost. Children must be between 37” and 54” tall and potty trained. At the College Park, Maryland location, children can play for up to an hour. At the Woodbridge, Virginia location, play is restricted to 30 minutes.
Family KidCare
Located at the Pottery Barn Court at the eastern end of the Westfield Annapolis mall, this play space offers supervised playtime for a nominal fee ($7 per child for two hours). For $50 a month, you can participate in their membership program which offers two hours of daily care for up to four children.
Child Watch
The YMCA offers a Child Watch program that is free with membership. Age restrictions vary by location. Centers offer care ranging from 90 minutes to 2 hours. Parents must remain in the building while enjoying this free service.
Ida Lee Park Recreation Center
If you don’t want to commit to a gym, but would enjoy a good stretch (and a dip in a pool), this Leesburg, Virginia facility offers childcare for children ranging from 3 months to 10 years of age for a rate of $5 for two and a half hours. Town residents pay $5.50 to use the facilities; non-residents pay $7.50
Community Church Date Night
Is it too early to plan for a February date? We don’t think so! This Ashburn, Virginia-based church offers free babysitting every Saturday during the month of February from 6 pm to 10 pm. Volunteers conduct camp-like activities to entertain your offspring while you enjoy four hours of kid-free bliss.
WKids Fun Center
Enjoy 90 minutes of free childcare at the Dulles Centre Wegman’s in Sterling, Virginia. Children must be between the ages of 3 and 8 and must be potty-trained. Wegman’s offers on-site dining as well as a cafe-style lounging area. Kick your feet up, enjoy an on-premise slice of pizza while your kids have a blast in the play area.
Your kids don’t want to stay cart-contained or they get a case of the gimmes once the rows of cookies and cupcakes are in sight. Tantrum in aisle three, anyone? Eliminate the hassle of shopping with your kiddos by visiting a shop with childcare. We’ve got the scoop on two great Bay Area spots that offer responsible adult supervision, games and cool toys for your kids all while you whiz down the aisles checking off your to-do list in record time.
Mollie Land
Mollie Land is located inside Mollie Stone’s Market. Known to many as the store with fabulous but costly items, it seems this high-end grocery should also be known as a shop ahead of the customer service curve. A couple of select locations offer free childcare for kids ages 2-12, with fun games, cool toys and awesome supervisors. Here’s the lowdown on how Mollie Land works.
First up, everyone gets an I.D. bracelet. Parents, be forewarned, don’t take off this stylish little bracelet before checking out, children are not released unless a matching ID number is presented. Second, and how cool is this, there are video screens of Mollie Land placed strategically throughout the store for your viewing pleasure. Finally, the staff in Mollie Land are not checkers, butchers or bakers but rather, certified child watch employees who only work in Mollie Land.
What are some of the no-no’s at Mollie Land? No sniffling, coughing kids, because germs are just too easy to share with others. No food either, it’s easier to keep watch without having to deal with snack time.
Mollie Land at Mollie Stone’s Market
San Bruno Location
22 Bayhill Shopping Center
San Bruno, Ca
Hours: Mon – Sat: 10:00am – 6:00pm, Sun: 11:00am – 6:00pm
Phone: 650-873-8075
Online: molliestones.com/services/pages/mollieland
San Mateo Location
49 West 42nd Avenue
San Mateo, Ca
Hours: Mon – Sat: 10:00am – 6:00pm, Sun: 11:00am – 6:00pm
Phone: 650-372-2828
Online: molliestones.com/services/pages/mollieland
SMÅLAND
While it’s not exactly a grocery store, Swedish mega-store IKEA has been offering child watch for years. Once your kiddos are cool with their own potty breaks and are measuring in anywhere between 37” and 54” they are allowed to party it up in age-appropriate active play areas. Set in a Swedish forest-like environment, kids can color, play games or watch a movie or cartoons in the theater. There’s no charge and parents can get up to one hour of shopping bliss (head straight for the meatballs!) Be assured your little ones will be watched over with care and are only released into the care of the parent or person who checks in the child, as a photo ID must be presented at drop off and pick up time. This incredibly handy service does get used, so be aware, weekends and holidays may see you waiting for a drop-off.
photo credit: Ella Novak via creative commons flickr
What are some of the no-no’s at SMÅLAND? Children must be fully potty-trained. No diapers or pull ups of any kind are allowed. Kids must also be fully clothed, and if wearing swimsuits, get em’ covered up!
Insider Tip: If you join the IKEA family (aka: member program,) you get an additional thirty minutes to shop.
SMÅLAND at IKEA
East Palo Alto Location
1700 East Bayshore Road
East Palo Alto, Ca
Hours: Mon – Sun: 10:00am – 9:00pm
Phone: 650-323-4532
Online: ikea.com/us/en/store/east_palo_alto/service
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It’s already looking a lot like fall in Seattle and now that the Northwest sun is hiding behind rain clouds, the forecast calls for lots of indoor play with a chance of stir-crazy kids. Don’t worry Seattle parents – we’ve got you covered! Check out this list of 50 things to do with kids in Seattle this fall – no need to thank us for saving your sanity!
1. Pick up yummy fall vegetables at the year-round Seattle farmer’s markets, such as the rain or shine outdoor market in Ballard.
2. Book tickets to the theater for a rainy fall day. The Seattle Children’s Theater is playing an all-ages favorite, Harold and the Purple Crayon.
3. Take your little LEGO-lover to BrickCon at the Seattle Center – the coolest thing since LEGOLand!
4. Go on a hot chocolate taste testing tour of Seattle.
5. Early snow this fall? Bundle up and head into the mountains to go tubing.
It’s not as if Northwest moms needed any more reason to love Nordstrom with their fabulous clothes, great shoe selection and their amazing anniversary sale. But now they’ve brought something to their Westfield Southcenter store that is so revolutionary that the adoration will go through the roof: Free Childcare. Yes, that’s right. Free! While you shop in peace on every floor of their lovely store, your child (ages 2 1/2 to 8) can play happily with their friendly staff for up to two hours in a safe and kid-friendly play room.
The childcare center is open Monday through Saturday from 10:00 am – 7:00 pm and Sundays from 11:00 am – 6:00 pm on the second floor. So, go ahead and try on that pair of Mahnolo Blahniks or linger a few minutes longer in the lingerie department without your wee one clinging to your ankles.
Thank you Nordstrom for knowing exactly what shopping moms need! More information about PLAY N can be found here.
