A morning routine for kids is easier to achieve than you might think

Even if you live in a house full of early birds, the chances of your morning running smoothly from waking up to getting out the door isn’t always guaranteed. Whether you need a refresher or are preparing for newly busy days, there are a few things you can do to create an easy morning routine for kids that will help prevent the wee hours from being a lesson in chaos.

1. Make sure the kids get enough sleep. Simple fact—kids who don’t get the right amount of sleep won’t be thrilled when the light pops on in the morning. Check out this handy chart from the Sleep Foundation to see how much shut-eye your little one needs on a nightly basis.

2. Prep backpacks the night before. Nothing beats the tried and true method of getting homework done and in the pack the night before. It means one less thing to do in the morning, and when everyone’s in high gear, it helps preserve the flow—and your sanity.

3. Wake up at the same time every day. Who isn’t tempted to hit the snooze button once (or twice)? The best morning people wake up at the same time every day, so your internal body clock knows when it’s time to rise and shine. Even if you love sleeping in on the weekends, your best chance for weekday morning success is rising at the same time every day.

4. Let the light shine in. Once the alarm goes off, open the window shades and welcome the morning sun. Our bodies wake faster in the light rather than in the dark. Have your kiddos open their blinds or curtains as soon as they wake up. If you’re awake before the sun comes up, hop out of bed and turn on the light.

5. Start with a power jam. There’s something inspirational about theme songs. Whether it’s their current fave or a classic like Eye of the Tiger, blast it at o-seven-early to rally the troops. Use the same song each day or make a playlist to rotate favorites throughout the week. Let’s get this a.m. party started!

Related: 13 Alarm Clocks to Kickstart Your Morning Routine

tween girl picking out clothes, a good thing to add to a morning routine for kids
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6. Set out clothes the night before. The last thing you need in the morning is your kid spending an enormous amount of time choosing between polka dots and stripes. Add this task to your bedtime checklist, and you’ll save yourself the style struggle in the a.m.

7. Take up a collection. Every parent is familiar with those last-minute necessities that always slow kids down when you’re trying to shuffle them out the door. Shoes, jackets, backpacks… the items that often take a search party to locate. Collect them all in cubbies, baskets, bins, or lockers kept right by the door. They’ll be the last things the kids grab before it’s time to go to school.

8. Eat in the car. Seriously. Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. But it can be hard always getting something nutritious in, especially if your kiddo is slow to rise or doesn’t have time to finish their breakfast before the bus arrives. The solution? An on-the-go snack with lots of staying power.

9. Have a posted morning routine and schedule. Kiddos (and adults) work best if they know what’s expected of them. Post a morning routine for the kids on the refrigerator, or hang a chore chart on the kitchen wall. Even if the routine contains simple steps like making your bed, brushing your teeth, and washing your face, checking the chart and crossing off the items helps every family member know what’s expected of them and keeps the morning on track.

10. Make morning time electronics-free. We all know phones and televisions are distracting. Keeping the diversions to a minimum will help everyone stay focused on the tasks at hand and keep the morning focused on getting ready and out the door. And yes, parents, we’re talking about you too! Put the phone away until the morning hours have come and gone.

11. Recruit the kids. Have you ever noticed how younger kids seem to be in awe of the big kids? Use that to your advantage. Find a responsible older child to be your kid’s morning buddy and hire them to wait with your child at the bus or walk them to school in the morning. It means more time for you, and your kid will be delighted. Big kids for the win!

12. Give them five. A familiar concept from elementary classrooms, Give Me Five takes five simple tasks and associates each with a finger. It’s as easy as turning Thumbkin into the “get dressed” reminder and Mr. Pointer into “eat breakfast.“ By the time it’s Little Pinky’s turn, your mini-me should be ready to board the bus. Carry on with a high five after each completed task, and it’ll be smooth sailing for everyone!

Related: 22 Super Easy (& Nutritious) Breakfasts for Hectic Mornings

 

If they can brush their teeth, they can also get out the door on time (We promise!)

School mornings can be a busy and sometimes stressful time when your kids are little. But as they get older, there’s a whole bunch of things they can be doing on their own to help out! Not only does it make your morning run a little smoother, but it also helps kids develop necessary life skills, gain confidence and become well-rounded, competent adults. Here’s our list that’ll help you set morning chores for kids—one they can definitely handle on their own each school day by the time they’re 10.

1. Get out of bed on their own. When they’re babies, going in to get your kids out of the crib and up for the day is a sweet moment. But if you’re still going in and waking up your kid long after the wee baby stage, you may want to pass that task over to them. They can—and should be able to—get themselves up for school independently. Every day. And if they’re late? It’s not your fault, mom.

2. Get dressed. This sounds pretty obvious, but getting dressed with zero micromanaging from you is key. It may be tempting to check and see if your kids remembered to put on underwear, or if their shirts and pants match, but this is another skill they can totally master on their own. Besides—letting them express themselves with their wardrobe is fun!

3. Make their breakfast. Again, it sounds like an easy morning chore. But encouraging your little scholars to make healthy choices and take control of their breakfast from a young age is the best way to help them eat well—plus it frees up your morning!

4. Make their own lunch—or at least help. Younger ones (like kindergarten-aged kids) may need some help with this. But for the most part, getting your kid involved in choosing and making their own lunch means they’ll likely eat the entire thing! It’s also a great opportunity to teach them about balanced diets.

5. Tidy up their own mess. So they’ve made breakfast and packed their lunch, and now there are dishes everywhere! Kids need to know they need to tidy up after themselves as well. This morning chore is great for helping them develop important life skills.

Related: 12 Ways to Help Your Kids Master the Morning Routine

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6. Pack their school bag. Kids will sometimes tell their teachers “Oh, my mom forgot to pack <insert various items here> in my backpack today.” And teachers generally respond with “Did your mom forget it? Or did you?” Gotcha, kid! If they need to remember something, they need to put it in their bag themselves.

7. Keep track of their library books/homework, etc. If it’s library day and suddenly your kid’s book is missing, it’s not your job to find it. They’re definitely old enough by now to keep track of all their own things—including where they left their homework.

8. Decide what outerwear they’ll need that day. Arguments over appropriate footwear and outerwear for all types of temperatures are never fun. Let your kids decide if they need that spare pair of mittens in the winter. One cold, wet, miserable day without them, and they’ll likely make good decisions!

9. Brush their teeth. Despite needing a billion and one reminders when they’re little, as they get older, kids should really be able to remember to brush their teeth—and do it properly—before each school day.

10. Get out the door on time. Getting out the door seems to be one of the toughest tasks when the kids are really young. But as they get older, this is another task they should be able to handle themselves. It’s really all about raising our kids to be competent adults one day—and that means that they’re going to have to arrive at places on time.

Related: 5 Simple Ways to Help Your Kid Establish a Morning Routine

Hippity hop! It’s time to Easter dress shop!

Easter is a little less than a month away (April 9th this year), but if there’s anything we’ve learned from the past years, it’s that it’s never too early to shop for girls Easter dresses. Similar to Halloween costumes and Christmas pajamas, the good stuff always goes first. Plus, with many families doing spring pictures or photos with the Easter Bunny, the time is now to get those spring duds ready to go.

The girls Easter dresses we’ve rounded up are designed for any kiddo! We’ve made sure to consider every kid’s personality, personal style, and comfort preference, so you’re sure to find the perfect look for your little one. From flouncy and frilly to simple and easy, there’s something for everyone. In fact, these looks are so cute that we bet that they’ll want to wear them all through the warm months. Depending on what you have planned this spring—egg hunts, school parties, family photos—you may want to grab more than one of these great looks!

Pink Chicken Rowan Dress in Chick Garden

Sammy and Nat

You can't have Easter without the chicks, and this sweet cotton dress has them all!

Pink Chicken Rowan Dress in Chick Garden ($94.00)—Buy Now!

Pink Chicken Ana Jumper in Paper Floral

Sammy and Nat

If they're not into traditional dresses, this adorable jumper is a great option!

Pink Chicken Ana Jumper in Paper Floral ($78.00)—Buy Now!

Antibes Cover Up Dress

The Sunday Collective

We love the uniqueness of this layering piece! For your little individual or budding fashionista, you can layer this over just about anything for Easter and beyond.

Antibes Cover Up Dress ($70.00)—Buy Now!

Catello Dress

The Sunday Collective

The vintage-inspired vibe of this A-line dress is ultra-adorable!

Catello Dress ($82.00)—Buy Now!

Floral Sleeveless Smocked Dress

francesca's/franki for Girls

This is giving us serious English garden vibes!

Floral Sleeveless Smocked Dress ($31.50)—Buy Now!

Floral Tie-Strap Dress

francesca's/franki for Girls

Tie straps made this dress even prettier!

Floral Tie-Strap Dress ($30.00)—Buy Now!

Embroidered Bunny Seersucker Jumper

Gymboree

It doesn't get anymore Easter-y than bunnies, and this sweet bunny face is one of the cutest we've ever seen!

Embroidered Bunny Seersucker Jumper ($19.98)—Buy Now!

Rosette Dress

Gymboree

Princess dresses will never go out of style, and this floaty peachy one will be something they won't want to take off!

Rosette Dress ($31.98)—Buy Now!

Easter Garden Margaret Dress

Ann and Reeves

An Easter garden is exactly what this little plaid dress reminds us of!

Easter Garden Margaret Dress ($58.00)—Buy Now!

Rose Goes Elizabeth Bubble Dress

Ann and Reeves

Your little one's sweet face surrounded by flower petals? It doesn't get much more spring-ready than that.

Rose Goes Elizabeth Bubble Dress ($58.00)—Buy Now!

Alice Dress in Blue Floret

NORALEE

The neck and waist ruffles are the perfect accent to this fairytale dress!

Alice Dress in Blue Floret ($78.00)—Buy Now!

Goldie Dress in Mauve

NORALEE

This darling pintuck and lace detailed dress comes in Mauve and Natural.

Goldie Dress in Mauve ($88.00)—Buy Now!

Quinn Dress in Honey

NORALEE

We can't get enough of this puffy-sleeved babydoll dress!

Quinn Dress in Honey ($82.00)—Buy Now!

Mariposa Dress in Zebra

Rylee and Cru

For your little animal lover, the Mariposa dress features butterfly sleeves and an A-line skirt!

Mariposa Dress in Zebra ($48.00)—Buy Now!

Checked Dress in Shell

Rylee and Cru

Checks are really having a moment this season, and this lightweight sundress isn't going out of style anytime soon.

Checked Dress in Shell ($62.00)—Buy Now!

Ruffle Tank Dress + Bloomers Set

QUINCY MAE

A floaty little number for little ones to still easily be able to move in!

Ruffle Tank Dress + Bloomers Set ($48.00)—Buy Now!

Gingham Pants & Jacket

Janie and Jack

For kiddos who are more comfortable in pants, this outfit from Janie and Jack is the perfect Easter look!

Gingham Puff Sleeve Jacket ($49.59)—Buy Now!

Embroidered Floral Sweater Top ($39.99)—Buy Now!

Gingham Canvas Pants ($34.39)—Buy Now!

Peony Party Dress

Janie and Jack

A trapeze dress is ultra comfortable and perfect for twirling!

Peony Party Dress ($55.99)—Buy Now!

Life's a Peach Dress

Janie and Jack

Eyelet is quintessential "spring" and oh my gosh, can you handle this stunning color??

Life's a Peach Dress ($71.20)—Buy Now!

Emily Plaid Smocked Sundress

Janie and Jack

This deep periwinkle blue frock is sure to pop in all your spring pictures!

Emily Plaid Smocked Sundress ($55.20)—Buy Now!

Let's Dance Dress in Wildflowers

A more casual option, this dress can go from the playground to the party in a snap.

Let's Dance Dress in Wildflowers ($36.00)—Buy Now!

Floral Burst Button-Back Dress

Tea Collection

This splashy spring dress is the perfect combination of playful and photo-ready!

Floral Burst Button-Back Dress ($65.00)—Buy Now!

Crochet Trim Ruffle Dress

Tea Collection

If there's any colorway we love, it's pink and red. A drop waist and crochet trim give it some retro charm, too!

Crochet Trim Ruffle Dress ($39.00)—Buy Now!

Woven Wrap Dress

Tea Collection

A woven wrap dress is a closet staple, and this gorgeous plaid one gets them started early.

Woven Wrap Dress ($55.00)—Buy Now!

Print Muslin Twirl Dress

Hanna Andersson

Twirling? That's pretty much the best part of dresses, right?

Print Muslin Twirl Dress ($64.00)—Buy Now!

Print Tulle Dress

Hanna Andersson

The tulle on this cute dress is recycled and so soft, so it's gentle on skin and the environment!

Print Tulle Dress ($64.00)—Buy Now!

Green Flutter Sleeve Dress

Target

Spring is all about the green and this dress is adorable with Mary Jane's, sneakers, or sandals! 

Green Flutter Sleeve Dress ($20.00)—Buy Now!

Purple Polka Dots Tulle Dress

Target

This shade of lilac is so pretty and the tulle adds some extra floaty vibes.

Purple Polka Dots Tulle Dress ($24.00)—Buy Now!

Linen-Cotton Puff Sleeve Dress

GAP

Another dress with a retro vibe, the straight silhouette offers an easy fit printed with vibrant colors!

Linen-Cotton Puff Sleeve Dress ($44.00)—Buy Now!

Shiny Smocked Midi Dress

GAP

Add a little sparkle with lurex thread and she'll be the belle of the egg hunt!

Shiny Smocked Midi Dress ($32.00)—Buy Now!

Knit to Woven Dress in Apricot Glow

The Children's Place

Apricot is such a stunning color and this dress gives the illusion of a skirt + top combo!

Knit to Woven Dress in Apricot Glow ($23.07)—Buy Now!

Purple Lace Shift

The Children's Place

A comfy shift fit with all over lace and scalloped hem!

Purple Lace Shift ($19.99)—Buy Now!

Tie-Front Ruffle Dress in Frosted Lime

Sugar and Jade

Obsessed with this bold lime hue? We are, too.

Tie-Front Ruffle Dress in Frosted Lime ($24.47)—Buy Now!

Long Sleeve Plaid Dress in Whirlwind

Sugar and Jade

The sheer sleeves make this dress ideal for kids who prefer a little more coverage, or for days that the spring hasn't quite warmed up yet.

Long Sleeve Plaid Dress in Whirlwind ($33.71)—Buy Now!

Plaid Sateen Dress

Carter's

Special occasion? Sateen is never the wrong way to go!

Plaid Sateen Dress ($22.00)—Buy Now!

Pastel Tank Dress

Carter's

Not every kid is into plaid or floral, so this 80's-vibey pastel splash dress is an excellent alternative!

Pastel Tank Dress ($19.00)—Buy Now!

Vintage Lace Pom Pom Dress

2Bunnies/Amazon

This comes in 21 colors, and they're all just as pretty as this Dusty Pink version!

Vintage Lace Pom Pom Dress ($20.88+)—Buy Now!

Bow Shoulder Swing Dress

Hope and Henry

This dress was made for dancing! The bow details are the perfect addition, too.

Bow Shoulder Swing Dress ($26.95)—Buy Now!

Backless Linen Dress

Amazon

Especially on warm spring days, the backless design of this dress will keep her feeling and looking cool!

Backless Linen Dress ($17.99+)—Buy Now!

Tie-Dye Flower Detail Chiffon Dress

Sunny Fashion/Amazon

Princess vibes + Barbiecore? Nailed it! 

Tie-Dye Flower Detail Chiffon Dress ($23.95)—Buy Now!

A-Line Dress with Crossbody Bag

Sunny Fashion/Amazon

You've got to accessorize, right?

A-Line Dress with Crossbody Bag ($21.95)—Buy Now!

Skater Dress in Bougainvillea

TEREZ

Perfect for twirling and inspired by spring flowers, this skater dress has it all!

Skater Dress in Bougainvillea ($97.00)—Buy Now!

Skater Dress in Floral Denim

TEREZ

For a more casual vibe, this skater dress is it! Wear it with dress shoes, sandals, or sneakers.

Skater Dress in Floral Denim ($97.00)—Buy Now!

Springtime Pullover Dress

Rockets of Awesome

An easy pullover style combined with a sweet floral pattern and pockets!

Springtime Pullover Dress ($50.00)—Buy Now!

Shift Shine Dress

Rockets of Awesome

For the kiddo who adores sparkles year-round, this is the one for them!

Shift Shine Dress ($60.00)—Buy Now!

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10 Times Your Daughter Shouldn’t Say Sorry

You’re raising your girl to be responsible for what she says and does and to know when and how to give a sincere apology when she messes up. But is she apologizing more than she needs to?

Studies show women are more likely than men to presume they were in the wrong or think their own actions might have upset someone, and those patterns start early. There could be many reasons for this, but some think girls and women are quick to apologize because they’re taught to “keep the peace” and be nurturers who put the emotional wellbeing and happiness of others first.

So often, girls and women start talking by saying, “I’m sorry, but I feel like [fill in the blank]”—and that sentence structure can literally become a habit. The problem? When your girl apologizes for something that wasn’t her fault, others might start to see her as someone who is at fault. Someone whose shortcomings inconvenience others, even if that’s far from the case.

Read this list from Girl Scouts with your girl, and remind her that although it’s important to make amends when she’s truly done something wrong, apologizing when she hasn’t can undermine how others see her and damage her self-worth.

There’s No Need to Say “Sorry”…

1. When someone bumps into her. She has just as much of a right to take up space in this world as anyone else.

2. When she tried her best. Maybe she didn’t win the science fair or make the basketball team, and that’s OK. Nobody’s perfect.

3. When she’s not feeling well, even if it messes up plans for others. It’s not like she went around looking for germs. Help her focus on getting better instead of apologizing.

4. For leaving when someone makes her feel uncomfortable or unsafe. One of the most important things to explain to your girl is that she doesn’t need to “be polite” or stay in the same vicinity as someone who makes her feel uncomfortable or unsafe. She just needs to get out of there and tell a caring adult as fast as possible.

5. For her feelings. Some might be uncomfortable with your girl’s anger, sadness, or disappointment, but that doesn’t mean those feelings are bad or wrong.

6. For sticking up for herself. It takes guts to take a stand and defend yourself or others against bullies. Doing the right thing is never something to apologize for.

7. For having high expectations. Expecting the people in her life to follow through and keep their word isn’t a crime.

8. For setting boundaries. Whether a friend wants to cheat off her homework or someone is invading her personal space, she has every right to say no.

9. For sharing knowledge. Knowing her stuff and using the information to help others is awesome. Someone else’s insecurity is not your girl’s problem.

10. For her appearance. Who does she get dressed for in the morning? Herself. If others don’t like it, that’s fine.

So what can she say instead of sorry? Tell your girl to start by saying how she’s feeling in short, declarative sentences. So instead of “I’m sorry, I have a question,” she could say, “I have a question.” Skipping the apology doesn’t make her rude—in fact, it puts apologies back in their rightful role as a way to make amends when she’s actually done something hurtful or wrong.

Stress to your girl the importance of speaking with intention. Apologizing for no reason or when she’s not at fault dilutes the sentiment. Have her save it for when it counts. When it’s heartfelt and for the right reasons, the power of “sorry” will be more meaningful both to her and to the person on the receiving end!

Want more tips on Raising Awesome Girls? We’ve got you covered.

Originally published December 2019. This post originally appeared on Raising Awesome Girls, powered by Girl Scouts.

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Looking for ways to show your Valentine/s some love? Whether you’re shopping for the perfect gift, looking for something to do together or need an idea for a special activity, we can help! Read on for gifts from local shops and makers, as well cooking and craft projects you can do together (or make as a surprise gift)! And if you’re looking to do some major candy purchases, we can help with our list of the best candy stores in NYC.

But First: Free Chocolate

GODIVA

Valentine’s Day is obviously a big deal at GODIVA. In celebration of the holiday the chocolatier will have two larger-than-life installations of its Gold Ballotin and Goldmark Heart boxes pop up in NYC on February 8 in Herald Square and February 9 in Flatiron Plaza. And yes, they will be giving away chocolate!

(We're guessing they'll be hard to miss but you can keep an eye on GODIVA’s official Instagram for the exact location.) 

See "Bloom" in Times Square

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Wander among fluctuating heart-shaped shadows cast by "Bloom", the winner of the 14th annual Love in Times Square Design Competition. From afar, Bloom resembles a pavilion — a circular roof supported by a series of interlocked red and white PVC pipes, but its appearance changes with your perspective, above, below, etc. Designed by architecture and urban design practice Habitat Workshop, "Bloom" is presented in partnership with The Museum of Arts and Design and will be on view in Duffy Square from February 9 to March 9.

Feb. 9 - Mar. 9
46th & Broadway
Times Square
Online: timessquarenyc.org

Get Cooking

Taste Buds Kitchen

Taste Buds Kitchen

Make an adorable Valentine's Love Shack with Taste Buds Kitchen, either in your home or at its culinary studio in Chelsea. The in-person workshop, recommended for kids ages 3 to 8 is on Feb. 13. Prices start at $79 for one child and caregiver. Click here to register. Another option: order up a Love Shack ($75) to pick up or be delivered for a $20 fee. Click here to buy.

Taste Buds is also offering an in-person class for kids and caregivers making Valentine's Day Pop-Tarts on Feb. 12. (Starting at $50)

Freshmade NYC

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Freshmade NYC is offering several Valentine's Day cooking projects to take part in live, via Zoom on Feb. 12 & 13. Make sweet or savory palmiers, heart-shaped bagels with berry cream cheese, or make an enjoy fondue together. Classes are $25.

Click here for class details, dates & times

Dig In!

Milk Bar Red Velvet Cake & More

Milk Bar

If the ones you love are red velvet fans, get thee to a Milk Bar, stat! The American-style bakery from chef Christina Tosi with bakery locations all over NYC is serving up some very serious RV treats for Valentine's Day. Choose from red velvet cake, red velvet truffles and even red velvet soft serve! 

Get a cake for $59, a dozen truffles for $29, or a combo pack for $84. 

Online: milkbarstore.com

Dylan's Candy Bar Valentine Variety Tackle Box

Dylan's Candy Bar

This 20th Anniversary Limited Edition Tackle Box ($28) is a chic collection that includes sour gummy triple hearts, cherry taffy, Valentine marshmallows, milk chocolate hearts and more. Pick it up at Dylan's Candy Bar in Hudson Yards, or order it online.

20 Hudson Yards. 4th fl.
34th St. between 10th and 11th Avenues 
Hudson Yards
Online: dylanscandybar.com

Get Creative

Make a Gift at The Painted Pot

Chastity M. via Yelp

Make a special something for mom or dad at The Painted Pot, where you can paint-your-own pottery or acrylic piece. (Pottery needs to be fired and picked up later, acrylic can be taken with you the day you craft.) 

Cost for pieces and studio time is usually about $20-$30. Space is limited due to Covid-19 protocols, and you must book time in advance. 

Still another option is The Painted Pot's art projects to go. 

229 Smith St. 
Cobble Hill
718-222-0334
Online: paintedpot.com

200 7th Ave. 
Park Slope 
718-768-8379

Family Art Project at Wave Hill: Love for Woodland Friends

Joshua Bright

Head to Wave Hill in the Bronx for crafting or birding. Family Art Project: Love for Woodland Friends 

The art project celebrates the ways we care for each other by creating woodland-creature sock puppets. Kids can give a puppet as a heartwarming gift, or keep it to remind them of our local woodland friends. 

For families with older kids, go on a guided birding excursion. Explore Wave Hill’s tranquil gardens and woodland with naturalist Gabriel Willow to observe birds in their winter habitat. Birders of all levels are welcome. Please (Bring your own binoculars. Ages 10 and older welcome with an adult.)

Art Project: Sat. Feb. 12 & Sun., Feb. 13, 10 a.m. - Noon
Free with admission to the grounds 
Wave Hill House
675 West 252nd St.
Bronx
Online:wavehill.org

Birding: Sun. Feb. 13, 9:30–11 a.m.
$15, including admission to the grounds.
Meet at Perkins Visitor Center

Get Moving

Zoom With Laurie Berkner

Laurie Berkner

Laurie Berkner is performing two special "Valentine's Day" LIVE Virtual Family Concerts on Sunday, February 13 at Noon and 5 p.m. Eastern Time. The shows will feature songs about love such as "A Hug From My Mama," "I Love You Daddy" and "My Family," along with some of her greatest hits, including "We Are The Dinosaurs," "Victor Vito," "Pig On Her Head" and "Rocketship Run."  A family ticket grants admission to one or both livestreams.

Tickets: $20
Online: live.laurieberkner.com

Get Comfy!

Love-ly Throw Pillows

Alexandra Ferguson

Sometimes you need to make a statement and have it live on your living room furniture every single day. Just ask Alexandra Ferguson, who is all about the love (we’re partial to her ‘Love Lives Here’ pillow for sure), and has been designing recycled felt pillows featuring fun and sassy phrases using die-cut letters sewn in her Brooklyn warehouse for the last 12 year. To order, visit her website or her Etsy shop. Prices start at $64.

Online: etsy.com/shop/alexandraferguson

Arranging Box DIY Flowers

Arranging Box

Anyone can grab roses from a corner bodega and arrive home with a smile and a stunning dozen, but Arranging Box curates fresh blooms and help you expertly style them. Make an arrangement for your beloved, or gift them the kit if that's up their alley. All kits come with fresh flowers, a flower recipe box and step-by-step designing tutorials created by the company’s founder, a savvy floral designer who pivoted to create this company during the pandemic. $59 and up.

Online: arrangingbox.com

Get Fancy 

Glitter Heart Slides From Annie's Blue Ribbon General Store

Annie's Blue Ribbon General Store

Maybe these are for your little valentine, maybe they are for you. Either way, they're fab. Pick some up ($14) at Annie's Blue Ribbon General Store in Brooklyn or online. 

Fifth Ave. 
Park Slope
232-522-9848
Online: blueribbongeneralstore.com

Get Zapped!

Forever Bracelets at Catbird

Catbird

Nothing says forever like...forever. Catbird will zap (i.e., weld) a dainty bracelet on a wrist to be a constant reminder of love. (Of course, you can take them off if you really need to.) Get one for someone special, get a matching pair, etc. Prices start at $98. Minimum age is 10. Weldings are by appointment only a the Soho location. 

253 Centre St. 
Soho
718-599-34576
Online: catbirdnyc.com

 

 

Get Weird!

Name a Bronx Zoo Cockroach

A little pinch of perfect

Can you love a cockroach? The Bronx Zoo says "yes!" and this Valentine’s Day you can name one of the Zoo’s Madagascar hissing cockroaches. The full package comes with roach beanie, a pair of roach socks, a printed certificate with your roach’s name and a very crawly Virtual Encounter with one—and a surprise animal guest too. From $15.

Online: bronxzoo.com

—Lambeth Hochwald & Mimi O’Connor

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Let’s face it online learning has been a struggle for everyone—kids, parents, and teachers. As the virtual classroom continues, many kids may be losing momentum and parents are certainly feeling drained (there are only so many times parents can yell “turn the mic on!”). With no end in sight anytime soon, I wanted to share some virtual learning tips to keep kids engaged and us parents sane.

1. Plan Ahead, Emotionally & Technologically. Kids can pick up on stress or pessimism quickly. It is going to be draining, and not everything is going to go perfectly, but make sure to keep in mind what NOT to say to them. Stay positive, share the joy with them that you would have shared every day when sending them off to school. Technical issues are also inevitable, so be sure to be proactive and have a back-up task to keep kids busy and engaged until the problem is resolved.

2. Set Expectations. Kids need to be reminded of what is expected of them. Just because the classroom is in the kitchen doesn’t mean it’s recess or lunchtime all day. When setting expectations upfront, your kids will have something to keep them accountable and present. Present these on a mental and physical basis—I expect you to pay attention, not to speak over other people, and to get dressed every morning as if you were going into the classroom. Even just getting them out of those pajamas and into actual clothes can make an incredible difference in their ability to concentrate! Even with clear expectations, you can bet things will be rough in the beginning. It took at least a week for my kindergartener’s meltdowns before each Zoom session to go away. Kids are built for routine, once you get them adjusted to the new routine things will be much better.

3. Environment Is Key. As virtual learning becomes more long-term, it’s important to set your child up in an area that is their own—just like in a classroom they have their own desk. Even if it’s a little desk in the corner, your kids will know that this is their space to learn and complete their assignments. I encouraged my kid to decorate their desk with their pictures he drew and school assignments he’s proud of. This helped him take ownership of his space and look forward to spending time there.

4. Help Them Minimize Distractions. Distractions are inevitable in the physical classroom, and now that the classroom is at home, everything can count as a distraction, especially when kids are surrounded by siblings, pets, and all of their toys! One of the hardest parts of virtual learning is that parents have to compete with the distractions around them. Kids can’t multitask, even if they claim that they can watch TV while doing homework or listen to a Zoom call while scrolling through social media, they aren’t multitasking. In fact, they are “task switching” which means their brains quickly switch back and forth between activities and leads to a decrease in performance, retention, and accuracy. A great way to keep your children focused is by engaging them in tasks completed off the computer.

Your little ones might need more time being taught, however, having them practice how to do simple things such as unmuting themselves or teaching them how to turn on their cameras is a good start. Take that time to actively practice these actions before the class starting to avoid a future stressful situation.

5. Maximize Face Time. No, not using their iPhones to communicate. Maximize the time that their main screen is their face, and make sure the teacher can see them most of the day. In the classroom, kids can easily switch focus from the board to the teacher’s face, but now the shared material takes up much of the screen and the teacher is very small. By having their cameras on, teachers can quickly engage them with a quick question or task.

6. Make the Most Out of Semi-Synchronous Learning. The vast majority of schools are providing semi-synchronous learning options for students. That means, they are not on the virtual call actively being taught the entirety of the day, but they also are not just given directions and expected to finish everything on their own, with no supervision. To me, this is the right way to do virtual learning.

It’s important in the virtual learning process to blend both synchronous and asynchronous learning. Asynchronous learning is learning that kids do on their own time. Synchronous learning is when students and the facilitator meet via Zoom. This is a critical part in not only keeping your kids engaged but in having them effectively understand the information they are being taught through a screen. This also allows us parents to have a little break from monitoring their Zoom calls–finally a little time to relax!

7. Use Different Ways to Increase Interaction. In-person learning built community and relationships, allowed for individual support, and was fun for the kids. So, now that we’ve transitioned to online school, it’s important to also adapt those qualities into virtual learning as well. To keep the sense of community going, parents should coordinate Zoom play dates with other classmates while they work on a project or even just for fun (kids need a break too!) this allows social interaction and for kids to show off their projects and help each other.

There are so many more tips and tricks when it comes to virtual learning that are worth sharing and learning from each other. None of us are going to be able to get through this with no mishaps or technical glitches, but with some of these tips, your little ones or even teens will have an engaged and effective learning experience. Most importantly, you should be proud of yourself and your kids for navigating the virtual classroom during such an uncertain time!

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Our family Christmases were idyllic, if simple. Each year on Christmas Day, we would all open our presents. My sister and I would get doll clothes (this was when you got outfits, not multiple Barbies) and plush animals, Spirograph and paint-by-numbers, and such.

Then we’d get dressed, jump in the car, and drive to Granny’s house, where we’d open more gifts of clothes and stationery and Avon cologne. We’d wreak havoc on a turkey and trimmings, before the adults went off for naps, after dropping us kids off at the movies.

Then came the year when my sister and I had to grow up fast.

My parents had always tried to keep any bad news away from us and carry on as normal, but there was no hiding this bad news. After being accidentally hit by the garage door, my father’s injured neck turned out to be something much worse than a sprain, strain, or contusion. It wasn’t the garage door that caused it. of course, but that was when my father was diagnosed with multiple myeloma.

It’s a horrible form of cancer that attacks the bones all throughout the body and destroys them. I hope the treatments have gotten better in the decades since, but for my father cancer meant radiation, chemotherapy, and an operation to fuse the bones of his neck using bone from his hip. He lived many years longer than the doctors predicted, which I attribute to his stubbornness. He certainly wasn’t a health aficionado.

Naturally, all those cancer treatments and hospitalizations were expensive. My parents had good insurance, but even that was nowhere near covering the costs. And my father’s illness was not something my parents could keep secret from us kids, much as they would have liked to. It affected every part of our lives.

When Christmas came that year, I was 15 and my sister was 16. My mother explained that because of the family’s medical expenses, we wouldn’t be able to have Christmas as usual. No driving from Ohio to Kentucky to see our relatives. And no Christmas presents.

Except one.

My mother said that all we could afford was a magazine subscription for each of us. Our choice of titles. She hoped we weren’t disappointed.

I wasn’t. To me, a magazine subscription was special, something that grown-ups got, and something that kept giving all year long. I chose Analog, a science fiction magazine, and my sister chose Sixteen. It was exciting to watch the mail for each month’s issue. (As kids, we didn’t usually get much mail, except cards on our birthdays.)

For the Christmases after that, my mother would renew our subscriptions, or let us change to a different title. When I started studying astronomy in high school, I switched to Sky and Telescope. When she turned 17, my sister switched to Seventeen.

Now I subscribe to the electronic versions of three magazines –Smithsonian, National Geographic, and Discover. I still get a little thrill each month when the new cover icon appears on my e-reader screen. It reminds me of the first time I ever got an actual, grown-up present – when I started becoming an adult, whether I wanted to or not.

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The Los Angeles County Department of Public Health hasn’t cancelled Halloween, but they are recommending that door-to-door trick or treating “not happen” and prohibiting most festivities—both inside and out—because of the pandemic. Fear not, though! LA’s top impresarios have come up with a solution: spooktacular drive-thru Halloween experiences. So get dressed in full costume, hop in the car, buckle up and get ready for a scary-good time!

Hauntoween

Courtesy of Hauntoween LA

What do you do when your daughter turns 5 on Halloween, but trick or treating and other in-person fun is off limits? If you're Jasen Smith, the COO of Experiential Supply, you create a massive drive-thru Halloween celebration that's fun for all ages. For three weeks, Experiential Supply will host the first ever Hauntoween, a 20-25-minute experience that includes pumpkin picking, "door-to-door" trick or treating (with plenty of candy, of course), costumed actors, musical performances and a jack-o-lantern tunnel—all to be enjoyed from the safety of your car. 

Cost: $70 per vehicle

Dates: Fri., Oct. 9- Sun., Oct. 31

6100 Topanga Canyon Blvd.
Woodland Hills
Online: hauntoweenla.com

Nights of the Jack Drive-Thru

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Discover a Halloween wonderland filled with larger-than-life pumpkin creations and gourd-geous depictions of your favorite movie stars, sports heroes and animated characters. You'll cruise by thousands of hand-carved Jack O’ Lanterns and have a chance to immerse yourself in what's sure to be one of the year's most Instagrammable Halloween experiences. 

Dates: Thurs.-Sun., Oct. 1-Oct. 25; daily, Oct. 26-Nov. 1

Cost: $69 per vehicle

King Gillette Ranch
26800 Mulholland Hwy.
Calabasas
Online: nightsofthejack.com

 

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A Gentle Halloween Drive-Thru

Little ones can get dressed up and head to the Gentle Barn for a behind-the-scenes tour of the animal sanctuary, that includes plenty of Halloween-themed decor, plus a chance to "trick or treat," drive-thru-style. 

Dates: Sundays, Sept. 27-Nov. 1

Cost: $28 per person (two person  minimum per car)

15825 Sierra Highway
Santa Clarita
Online: gentlebarn.org

Haunted Highway

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Hosted by the city of Santa Clarita, this free family-friendly experience (taking place just two days in October) allows you to celebrate all the tricks and treats of Halloween from the comfort and safety of your own vehicle. You will start with a drive through Scarecrow Alley before arriving at Haunted Highway. As you make your way down the spooky stretch, the story will come to life through set pieces, props, live actors, lighting, sound and visual effects. And for an extra treat? Each vehicle will receive a single goodie bag with candy, crafts, and more at the end of the drive-thru.

Cost: Free (tickets must be reserved in advance)

Dates: Thurs., Oct. 29 & Fri., Oct. 30 (Friday's event is currently sold-out)

George A. Caravalho Santa Clarita Sports Complex Gymnasium
20870 Centre Pointe Parkway
Santa Clarita
Online: eventbrite.com

Urban Legends of Southern California

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WARNING: This drive-thru is truly terrifying and not recommended for kids under 13. But if you have older children (or just love a good scare yourself), Urban Legends is a must. The 45-minute drive-thru haunt experience is taking over the parking lot of the OC Fair & Event Center in Costa Mesa. Be sure to roll up your windows and lock your doors... mwahahahaha!

Cost: starting at $60 per car

Dates: Wed.-Sun.; Oct. 1-Nov. 1.

88 Fair Dr.
Costa Mesa
Online: urbanlegendshaunt.com

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When this quarantine began, my family had absolutely no clue how upside-down our world was about to become. Nearly everything we used to fill our days with was off-limits or heavily discouraged and we quickly found ourselves scrambling to find things to keep us busy. I have always heard that creating and sticking to a routine is a great way to organize parenthood and the day to day goings-on. Unfortunately for me, the only lists I really like to organize are our grocery lists!

Nonetheless, I took to Pinterest to find clever ideas on how to break up the day and steer clear of the monotony that I was sure would come quickly. We ended up doing more of a loose routine-esque st‌yle thing instead of something more along the lines of a grid pinned up in the living room as a guide but here are some of the things we found that work for us.

1. No one sleeps in crazy late. Occasionally we let the kiddos stay up a bit late and have movie marathons and things like that. However, my husband and I decided to keep the structure of a relatively normal (for us) bedtime around 9 p.m. In doing so, we maintain the normalcy that doesn’t make you unsure what day it is or when you last showered.

2. Get dressed in daytime clothes every day. A few years ago, I struggled with motivation to do much most days and just dragged my feet in general. I found an article that said something along the lines of ‘if you get up and get yourself cleaned up and dressed, you are more likely to feel the motivation to actually do things and have a productive day.’ So, I tried it (begrudgingly at first…) Once I actually opened my mind to it, guess what happened! It worked! I figured if it worked for me, it could also help the kids. Every day since school shut down jammies are shed directly after breakfast and we power on into the day in our ‘daytime clothes.’

3. Mandatory outside time. This has helped us break up all the screen time they usually insist on. I’m not joking about the mandatory, and yes that word is exactly what I mean. My kids always find something to complain about or bring up as an attempt to skirt this one because they think it will land them with more time for video games or tv shows. Just yesterday, my 13-year-old whined and moaned the whole way out the door and then ended up getting tattled on for speaking in some highly disrespectful ways about our parenting once they got to the park nearby. I was actually surprised that I wasn’t more cross with him for acting so rudely. Instead, it made me laugh. I told him it was really silly that he was so mad about fresh air and a playground. The faces I made to poke fun at the lot of them didn’t succeed in making him any less irritated, though. So, that was a bummer. At least I think I’m funny.

4. We try to make every Friday something to look forward to. Recently, my husband moved to shift work at his job so we cycle back and forth between night shifts and day shifts. Before that, though, every Friday through Sunday was ours. We developed a tradition which made every Friday a movie night complete with pizza eaten in the living room, in front of the tv, of course, always accompanied by a little soda. (Only a little because let’s not make Mom too frazzled with all the hyper that comes after, ya know?) They brainstorm all day Friday on what movie they will choose this time and who sits where at the coffee table. That bit makes me giggle. Each seating option is quite literally three inches from the one next to it and all the same distance from the screen so… it’s pretty much sixes either way. The movie nights always stretch to after normal bedtime and my husband and I stay upstairs to allow them to crank the volume and provide intense commentary throughout. This particular part of the routine keeps the kids mentality leaning more towards feeling normal and excited instead of overwhelmed with cabin fever and confusion on why they can’t do all the normal things. It also keeps my morale up because uninterrupted Netflix time that isn’t filled with cartoons and kid shows is a win for me! Yay!

5. Encouraged understanding of what everyone is going through together. The last big point I want to share is something I didn’t think of myself but absolutely recommend so highly that I can’t even begin to convey its importance. Considering that our kids span from fairly young to definitely young, their comprehension as far as this virus and how the world is affected is pretty narrow. I have talked to them a bit about my understanding of it, but what really sealed the deal with helping them understand it for themselves was making them each a COVID time capsule. We included stuff like what your daily life is like during the quarantine, what are you most excited to be able to finally do once it is over, and all your general details of the moment like favorite activities or movies. I encouraged them to (under my helicopter mom supervision) to use the internet to learn more about how it has changed things beyond our little corner of the world. They learned a lot and felt empowered to grasp the facts for themselves.

Ultimately, my goal of sharing these ideas is to see all of us come out the other side of this as balanced and held together as possible. They say it takes a village to make it through raising tiny humans and right now, with all this chaos swirling around everything, I couldn’t agree more. We are all living a part of history. Someday we will look back and I, for one, hope to remember these good bits more than anything else.

I'm a Texan Mom always chasing after my crazy chaos bringer. When I'm not parenting, I run a personal artistry website and a small arts label. More than anything, though, I'm just biding my time until TACO TUESDAY.