Wedged between homework and fundraising forms in the kindergarten folder was a letter to parents: It advised us of an upcoming active shooter response drill. Words like armed intruder spread across sentences on school letterhead detailing the session for students. The following week, stuffed between readers, handwriting and math practice papers was a new note addressing the tragedy at the Tree of Life Synagogue, outlining activities the children would participate in to honor first responders and victims of the tragic event.

I found myself staring at the school papers, formulating a dialogue in my mind. A conversation difficult for adults alone, but now necessary to have with my daughter.

We cover things quickly—I’m lucky to get this five-year-old to sit and focus for just a few minutes. We discuss the ALICE acronym (alert, lockdown, inform, counter, evacuate), and she tells me what she’s responsible for during the event of an active shooting: “We run and hide, throw things at the bad guy and get out.” My stomach turns. Our local police officers equipped with firearms were unable to fully protect themselves from bullets sprayed by the shooter who injured and killed innocent people near Mr. Rogers’ real-life neighborhood—a tight-knit community located across a few steel bridges from us.

This talk is tough. I let her take the lead and let me know what she learned, chiming in with my own what would you do scenario. The most important element I ask my child to take away from our conversation is to always be aware of your surroundings. This message I will ingrain in her mind every time we arrive in a public place. “Look for exits and identify a quick and easy way out in case of emergency. Be aware of where you’re sitting, and if possible, never have your back to the main entrance.” Unsettling, right?

Our conversation isn’t long. She wants a snack and some crayons to color, bored by my big words and requests to repeat after me.

Hearts are heavy, and it’s hard not to notice the sadness surrounding the city of Pittsburgh. I’m shaken knowing my little girl is at school, bowing her head on the playground in a moment of silence. I’m unsure if she fully understands what is going on—reoccurring acts of gun violence are forcing her to grow up too soon.

Our children are being trained to defend themselves. The ALICE acronym is now as important as the ABCs. Our little ones are learning survival skills to run, hide and fight for their lives because dangerous people are hurting others with automatic weapons laws protect.

No matter how much we are divided on politics and personal rights, it’s small acts of kindness that cement us. Writing thank-you notes to first responders, delivering sympathy cards to family members grieving lost ones and donating blood to victims of gun violence show we love and support one another and the communities we live in. For those taking a stand against the evil of intolerance and hate growing around us at an alarming rate, I cannot help but think of Pat Benatar’s song “Invincible.” The battle cry chorus reminds me of every one of us echoing we are #StrongerThanHate.

“We can’t afford to be innocent / Stand up and face the enemy / It’s a do or die situation / We will be invincible.”

Originally published Nov. 2018.

As managing director of two children—19-months apart in age on purpose—Sara has hands-on experience in human development, specializing in potty pushing, breaking up baby fights and wrestling kids into car seats. When there's a moment to look away, she's writing for the web, blogging and building websites.

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Get a head start on holiday shopping by having your kids tell you—er, Santa (duh!), what they want this year. Here are simple ways to get them thinking while you get organized.

Don’t Wait until the Last Minute

Kids tend to think about Christmas year-round, so it’s never too early to ask them to start plotting out their wish list. Late October/early November is a good time to encourage your kids to start daydreaming about their dream presents. 

Set Boundaries and Limits

Your little ones can certainly write down a zillion ideas (Dollhouse! Skateboard! A Pet Pony! Smartwatch!). But let them know that the presents piled under the tree won’t be unlimited. Help them prioritize the most pined for, meaningful gifts and table some others for future special occasions.

Let Your Kids Get Creative with Their List

Sure, pen and paper get the job done (and help practice handwriting among the elementary school set!). But kids love to be creative when compiling their Christmas wish list. With the Tobi 2 Robot Smartwatch, kids can snap photos and videos of potential gifts or experiences with the two built-in cameras. Perhaps they spotted an awesome board game at a playdate (snap!). Or that visit to the zoo is a good reminder they’d love some animal books! (Selfie with a photo-bombing giraffe!) For serious wow-factor, kids can make a wish list with their Tobi 2 Robot Smartwatch, even customizing photos and videos with decorative stickers and borders. You can use the micro-USB cable to transfer those photos and videos to the computer to watch a presentation of their ideal Christmas morning. (Gotta love when kids go the extra mile!).

Overwhelmed? Guide Them to Think in Categories

When it comes to holiday gifts, kids can have a hard time narrowing down their list. Although some big-ticket items are a no-brainer, you may have to steer them to think in categories. What do they really want? (Shiny new bike.) What do they really need? (Sweaters that fit post-growth spurt!) What are they interested in? (Soccer, drama, arts and crafts, photography, singing, etc.) Is there an experience they’d be over the moon for? (Tickets to a play, great seats at a sporting event, a visit to a museum.) Whenever you can help fuel their hobbies or reflect their unique style, it’s a win!

Santa, Tell Me! (Or… Just Do Some Research Together.)

Take your kiddos to a toy store (if you dare!) to peruse the aisles and get a better idea of items they’re hoping to receive this year. It’s always good to get as specific as possible so the thing you buy is actually the exact thing they’ve been coveting. Look through catalogs and websites. Ask friends with similarly aged kids what’s on their holiday shopping agenda for inspiration, too.

It’s been seven weeks since school closed. Sometime during week one, I woke in the middle of the night and caught the teaching bug. You see, our son attends a completely play-based preschool, and therefore writing, not even letters were happening for him in the near future. So, I stepped up to the challenge and gave the whole homeschooling thing a shot. Welcome to “Mama School.”

It worked! I believe it’s still working because it dawned on me that as a parent teaching a young child, you need to have a happy medium. Our medium is “kid’s choice.” Every Friday I let my four and a half-year-old son choose every day’s subjects for the following week. Nothing is gawked at, or off-limits. We use a single black and white notebook to keep it old school, inexpensive, and most importantly, we’ll save it as our quarantine notebook and re-read it together when he’s older.

Each day’s subject is written at the top of the page in my neatest handwriting (which doesn’t say much for a leftie). We start our lesson with his re-writing of the topic just underneath mine. Poof! He’s writing and reading the letters back to me. All of the ABC songs since birth are making sense to him now, and are finally being put to work. On the first day, he chose Jupiter as our subject (you can guess what the next two week’s subjects consisted of). Today, it was sailboats! And there’s been everything in between, from sunflowers to sharks.

He sets up our “Mama School” corner with pride and I grab my laptop. We even wear special necklaces for school time—his is an acorn on a string and mine is a pinecone. They’re self-made of course. Anyway, I google the day’s subject, for example. ‘sailboats for kids’ or ‘sailboat facts for kids’ and I talk to him about the main points from the best three or four webpages. If a fact is a number, I write the number down and he re-writes it underneath. Now he’s learning more about numbers! If I need to lengthen a lesson on certain days (due to weather or my husband’s home-work schedule), I simply click on any highlighted sub-topics. It could go on forever, thanks Google!

Our lesson can fill up to two notebook pages and lasts thirty minutes to an hour. Homeschool is “scheduled” for 10 a.m. with a snack nearby for full energy and a pleasant mood (wink). It helps to break up the day and set goals surrounding it—like walking the dog together beforehand or a chore. To close our lessons he gets two rewards, one that includes a video of the subject (always a plethora of choices thanks to YouTube). And that’s how I incorporate entertainment for his only screen-time on weekdays. The other bonus is a printed coloring page of the subject. There are so many free coloring sheets and even activities for parents to choose from and print at home.

My favorite lesson to date was New York because he wanted to see where mama was from. Lots of images to show, and stories of course. He knows a bit about what’s happening in the world, so I shared some of the city’s heroic tales during this pandemic. After this week’s boat line-up, I’ve already been warned—next week we’re covering insects. Sigh!

I shared this idea with our friends and classmates in quarantine and it’s been a cool success. Some families with older siblings have even joined in on the lessons or were able to incorporate participation with their curriculum. The simplest ideas can show beautiful results. My son might remember “Mama School” forever so that potential is worth sharing on my favorite family tool, Red Tricycle.

Stay safe, healthy, and full of love!

Jenni Dawn lives just outside of Los Angeles with her husband, newly rescued dog, and four year old son. She has a background in everything Entertainment, so it makes perfect sense to cover how to entertain family at home. Jenni's also a Cancer survivor with a passion for spreading hope and prevention advocacy. 

Cursive is making a comeback! Even though the keyboard or touchscreen may dominate your kiddo’s homework time, some states are putting legislation into place, requiring children to learn cursive handwriting in elementary school.

Ohio and Texas are two of the growing number of states to require cursive handwriting as part of the public school curriculum. While both states have already passed cursive handwriting legislation, major curricular changes won’t go into full effect until the next school year.

photo: Pragyan Bezbaruah via Pexels

So what do these laws mean for children? According to Ohio’s new bill, “The instructional materials shall be designed to enable students to print letters and words legibly by grade three and create readable documents using legible cursive handwriting by the end of grade five.”

Students in Texas will start learning how to form cursive letters in second grade and will begin writing full words in third grade. In fourth grade, the state will require students to complete assignments in cursive.

Other states to introduce cursive handwriting legislation include Arkansas, Alabama, North Carolina, Virginia and Florida, according to CNN.

—Erica Loop

 

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One sunny fall morning, I watched my daughter tear open a birthday present, eager to unearth the mysterious goodies hidden inside.

“Here,” she said, tossing the card in my direction. “Could you read this to me?”

I paused for a moment. This exact scene had played out numerous times across birthdays, holidays, even reading penpal letters.

I shook my head. “No. Read it yourself.”

“I can‘t understand it,” she replied.

I studied the card once again. What? Was it written in Greek?

For years, like many parents do, I focused on making sure my daughter’s handwriting was straight, clean and as legible as possible. We perfected every descender and closed every ‘a’ so it wouldn’t resemble a ‘u’ and so on. After that we progressed to cursive but quickly gave our attention to typing skills. After all, schools across the country had started dropping cursive from their curriculums entirely.

Nearly every state in America has adopted the Common Core State Standards Initiative from 2010, which seeks to establish consistent educational standards across the U.S. and ensure high school graduates are prepared to enter college. The standards for English Language Arts include core topics of reading, writing and language and a modern section called “media and technology”. This component includes keyboard skills, but does not mandate cursive handwriting.

Spencerian script was the standard cursive writing st‌yle in the U.S. from the mid 1800s through the early 1900s. It was then simplified into the Palmer Method around the 1920s, followed by D’Nealian cursive, which students learn today. Yet the use of cursive declined overall as people first shifted to typewriters and then to personal computers. Public school instruction of cursive in the U.S. has steadily declined since the 1970s, but handwriting, penmanship and cursive continue to remain hot topics among educators and lawmakers across the nation.

Some applauded the Common Core’s move into modern times while others lamented the death of decorative penmanship. But recently, in 2016, Alabama and Louisiana passed laws mandating cursive proficiency in public schools. By doing so, they became the newest of over a dozen states now requiring cursive for 3rd graders and up.

What changed? Are parents and teachers growing sentimental about their own upbringing? Are we rebelling against the current digital shift in a grassroots back-to-basics swing to simpler, more analog times?  Even if nostalgia spurred the changes, science is there to back it up.

An article published in Psychology Today says “…learning cursive is an important tool for cognitive development.” Brain scans reveal activated neural circuitry when children print letters and then read them out loud, but the same effect does not occur when the letters are typed. The swoopy, connected st‌yle of cursive is even more demanding than printing and creates a greater neural response in both hemispheres of the brain due to it’s artistic nature.

“Cursive is also more likely to engage students by providing a sense of personal st‌yle and ownership,” the Psychology Today article explains. More and more often, today’s youngest generations struggle with hand writing correspondence and creating their own personalized signatures. As today’s youth grew up without writing in cursive, they lost the ability to read it as well. Could the decline of handwriting sever our ties to the past, to our history, to ourselves?

My daughter never had trouble reading typed materials, but if I put a handwritten document in front of her, her eyes would glaze over. The perfect schoolteacher handwriting from our cursive tracing books had done little to prepare her for real handwriting from real people.

I simply couldn’t fathom a future in which my daughter would be incapable of understanding Great Grandma Vi’s apple pie recipe, family genealogy or the Declaration of Independence. But what could we do?

A Google search for “cursive handwriting” gave dozens of search results for tracing workbooks. Another search for “cursive instruction” produced YouTube tutorials for calligraphy. Adding specific keywords such as “how to practice reading people’s handwriting” prompted solutions for ADHD kids and how to effectively teach writing skills. A proper resource didn’t seem to exist.

Thanks to the global community that is Facebook, I rallied friends, family and even strangers to contribute samples of their everyday handwriting for our cause. Using my daughter as a sounding board, we combed through nearly 200 writing images to select our favorite five dozen based on their legibility (or lack thereof), uniqueness and beauty. The short paragraphs came to us from all corners of the world, from Japan to Peru and from right- and left-handed writers, all genders and all ages.

These samples, along with a sprinkling of history and terminology, have been organized into Handwriting: A Study of Penmanship in the Digital Age, an easy-to-read, fact-filled supplement for classroom instruction and home-based reading practice. The content is entirely comprised of animal facts and is suitable for all ages.

Maggie lives with her husband and "old soul" tween daughter in the Pacific Northwest. She shares their travel adventures, field trips, and homeschool ideas from a city-based homestead. Maggie's first book, Handwriting: A Study of Penmenship in the Digital Age, is available on Amazon.

No, Thank You!

I rarely get excited when I go to the mailbox these days since it’s usually filled with mailers, bills and a seemingly friendly spider who’s taken up residence in the back corner! But some days I get lucky and amongst all that “junk” I spot a treasure–a small handwritten envelope. Who could it be from? Which of my friends would take the time to sit down amidst their own chaos with a pen in hand and share how grateful and appreciative they are. Once I make my mental list I gently retrieve the note to investigate. I feel the paper and check out the stamp, and yes the stamp matters. I look to see if I recognize the handwriting without peeking at the return address in the left-hand corner. It’s a moment for me…

Usually I wait some time before I open the note, sort of like waiting until after the birthday dinner to open up the presents. Other times I open the note when I need that little kick of happy during my day. For me, receiving a thank you note really feels just like I am being given a gift; wrapped in paper and tied with a zip code and a stamp on top!

As a young girl I recall thank you notes were a necessity. There were no ifs, ands or buts about it, my sister and I had to write thank you notes for every gift we received. So when I became a mom I played that “card” too. Of course I put my own spin on it–there was no playing, using or spending until a thank you note was in the mail. As you might have suspected with me being a teacher and writer, there were other rules as well. The thank you note had to be heartfelt, longer than three sentences and worthy of the reader’s time. It may surprise you but I never checked or corrected grammar, spelling or punctuation. I felt that helped keep the note authentic and endearing. Oh I know, my poor kids–but to this day, that is a mom rule I am still pretty proud of. 

Thanks to a lifetime of thank you notes our family is a bunch of thank you note snobs. I admit that we often times judge the notes that enter our home with our unspoken grading system. The ultimate goal of a thank you note is to make the recipient feel the writer’s gratitude. If the card produces tears–A+. Humor always raises the grade, as does referencing a shared personal moment. If there is never so much as a mention of what the actual gift was–D!  Seriously, don’t even waste a stamp on a note like that! 

Sadly, it seems thank you notes are becoming a thing of the past as younger generations are thanking with a text, snapchat, #thank you or email. I suppose it doesn’t really matter just so long as there is a proper thank you, right? Actually, some of my most memorable thank yous happened right on the spot! Many years ago my kids and I ordered six munchkins and when they opened the bag they found over a dozen. The note on the bag read, “Thanks for being so polite.” Or the time the Verizon phone person waived a fee for me saying, “That’s for being so patient and kind.” 

Being a children’s author my favorite thank you notes of all might be those received from children after I have visited their school. It might be their crayon artwork that adorns the front. It could be their sentiment filled with “invented” spelling words. Maybe I should be a little worried how their pictures depict me, but I’m not. I’m just tickled pink that they took time out of their jampacked school day to write a few heartfelt sentences that often bring about a tear or two! A+

Heartfelt thank you notes from the children at West Rock Authors Academy in New Haven, Connecticut

Moral: It doesn’t matter how you say thank you–just so long as you do!

 

Allison Jo Stoutland
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

When I'm not being a mom, daughter, sister, wife, teacher, published author, soup lover, dog & home owner, gardener, baker and crafter- I am a writer. The kind who writes from her heart using her daily life experiences. I also travel our country speaking to organizations and schools about being positive, kind and making the world a happier place. 

We know your kids probably have a million birthday parties to go to this year, but this one won’t require a last minute stop at the toy store and some recycled wrapping paper. In honor of William Shakespeare’s birthday, the Folger Theater is throwing the Bard an awesome bash on Sunday, and the entire family invited! Here’s a look at the kid-friendliest festivities (happening April 19) the fete has to offer, including the one thing no good shindig should be without…cake!

Photo: Teresa Wood via Folger Shakespeare Library

Challenge the Jugglers and Jesters
These talented entertainers will have your children mesmerized in seconds. From atop their throne (aka your lap), they can clap their approval just like Queen Elizabeth I would have during Shakespeare’s time.

Ohh and Ahh at the Sword Fighting Demos
On guard! Your kids will be enthralled by the practiced sword fighters and their handy work. They’ll love the difficult moves, so be sure to remind them that these techniques should not be attempted at home!

Photo: ChesterSimpson.com via Folger Shakespeare Library

Meet The Lady of the Hour (aka Queen Elizabeth I)
Speaking of Queen Elizabeth I, she and all of her finery will make an appearance as Shakespeare’s artistic patron. Don’t let her puffy sleeves and shiny crown fool you; Queen Elizabeth I was an incredibly strong historical figure, and played a very important role in theater during her reign.

Photo: ChesterSimpson.com via Folger Shakespeare Library

Pen Your John Hancock…with a Quill!
Even if kiddo is still struggling to spell his or her name, quill writing can be a great way to make handwriting fun. Afterwards, buy them their own quill to use at home, and you might have a little Shakespeare on your hands.

Nosh on Birthday Cake on the Folger Front Lawn
Shakespeare may not be present to blow out the candles, but he still gets an honorary birthday cake. Your kiddos might need a little sugar after all of the day’s excitement!

When: April 19, 10 am-5 pm
Folger Shakespeare Library
201 East Capitol St. SE. (Capitol South)
202-544-4600

Will you celebrate the bard’s birthday? Tell us n the comments section below. 

–Kelly Ann Jacobson