From the moment you find out you’re pregnant, many moms-to-be start to notice changes in their bodies. Morning sickness, thicker hair, even varicose veins are among the list of culprits that can show up and disappear. But what if they don’t? It turns out, your baby isn’t the only thing you’ll get from those nine grueling months—there are lots of body changes after pregnancy, too. These not-so-cuddly gifts may stick around long after your baby bump goes away. From wider hips to bigger feet, vision changes to sudden (or disappearing) allergies, many new moms will find these changes are part of their postpartum body.

Your Feet Grow

Your baby’s not the only one who's going to need new shoes. Many new moms add half a shoe size—or more—after pregnancy. Blame the hormone relaxin, which loosens the ligaments in your body to help prepare for birth (that pelvis has to widen, after all), which also causes the bones to spread in the feet.

Doctors say there is a chance your feet will go back to their old size after several months, but if your feet still feel cramped in your favorite shoes, it may be time to go shopping (as if you needed a better excuse).

Note: Call your doctor if your feet have swelled up suddenly, as this may be a sign of potentially dangerous preeclampsia or blood pressure changes.

Your Hips Get Wider

You know those glorious hips that widened to let your baby squeeze out into the world? They may never go back to the way they were (even if you had a C-section). Same goes for your rib cage, which also had to open up to make room for your growing child. For most women, these enlarged bones go back to their original place by about 18 weeks postpartum, but some women keep the extra girth permanently.

"My hips stayed permanently wider which was great for me because I had no shape before," said a Reddit user. "I was built like a teenaged boy, lol."

"My hips? Wider yes and not back to normal," said another mom. "But I have embraced it and now have a more hourglass figure with larger bust, slim waist and wide hips." 

"I hope my hips get wider during pregnancy. Wide hips are beauty beautiful," said another.

Related: 10 Things I Didn't Know about Pregnancy, Until I Was Pregnant

Your Breasts Shrink

While pregnancy’s powerful hormones will likely bump your bosom up a few cup sizes, once your milk-making machines dry up, you may end up with smaller breasts than you had before you were pregnant. “You lose a lot of breast elasticity,” Los Angeles–based OB-GYN Pari Ghodsi told Health magazine. “They’re not as full as they once were.”

That said, some women report larger breasts after pregnancy (even after nursing), so it's anyone's guess where your post-baby bust will be.

I was a C pre-pregnancy, was a DD in my second trimester," said a Reddit user. "I never measured postpartum but they were pornographic while I was pumping, and then once I stopped pumping they vanished into thin air and I’ve got A’s now."

“After nursing 6+ years with four kids, they didn't shrink......just deflated,” said another. “I can go out braless bc I can tuck them into my damn waistband.”

"Once my son was eating adult food they went back down to one cup size larger than they were pre-pregnancy," said another.

Your Hair Changes Color, Curl, or Texture

Pregnancy packs a wallop on your hormones, with these changes wreaking havoc on your body all the way to the tips of your strands. Some steadfastly straight-haired mamas get suddenly wavy locks post-baby, while some women with curls may suddenly go straight. (And this is in addition to losing the lustrous hair you likely grew while your baby was cooking.)

Sometimes, the hair goes back to the way it was months later; some women have changed tresses forever. Whatever your look, embrace it as your new mom style.

"I'm Asian and had thick, pin-straight hair before pregnancy,” said one mom on Reddit. “After I gave birth, it went all frizzy/weird, curly but not actually curly; beachy waves, but not nice beachy waves. Like an insane lion that had a bomb go off next to his head.”

“Got my first grey eyebrow hair 7 months along,” said another mom. “Hair is def not the same.”

“My wife was blonde her entire life, and is now a brunette after giving birth to our son,” said another Reddit user. “It’s crazy!”

Your Periods Change

As if you didn’t endure enough down there, postpartum periods tend to be permanently heavier or more painful after pregnancy. According to the Cleveland Clinic, these changes may relate to a larger uterine cavity causing more endometrium (mucous lining the uterus) to shed.

But it’s not all bad news. Some women actually experience lighter, easier periods after childbirth.

“The bottom line is that periods can change after having a baby,” OB-GYN Diane Young said in this article. “If you are concerned about your periods, make an appointment with your OB-GYN. There are medical therapies to help.”

That Dark Line that Points to Your Nether-Regions May Not Go Away

Pregnancy doesn’t just change your shape; it also changes your skin. Take the linea nigra: It’s the dark line that appears during pregnancy and runs from the middle of your belly to your pubic bone. A common hyperpigmentation that develops mid-pregnancy, it usually fades about three months after childbirth, but it can stick around permanently (as can darkened areolas, which also happens during pregnancy).

If the line bothers you, talk to your doctor. While it can’t be removed completely, there are skin-lightening creams and laser treatments that could make it less noticeable.  

Related: Is This Normal? Your Pregnancy Decoded

Your Allergies Disappear… or You Suddenly Have New Ones

Do you suddenly have a perpetually runny nose? Did your lifelong allergy to celery suddenly cease? Hormones are to blame for that, too. In fact, pregnancy can cause all sorts of changes in your immune system, which can alter your sensitivity to allergens. Experts say the most common newly occurring post-pregnancy allergies include seasonal allergies, food sensitivities, and PUPPP rash, a skin condition characterized by small pink itchy bumps on the abdomen. 

"Hormonal fluctuations impact your allergies because estrogen and progesterone have an impact on your mast cells (allergy cells)," allergist and immunologist Purvi Parikh of the Allergy and Asthma Network said in this Parents magazine article. 

Pregnancy isn’t the only dramatic hormonal shift that can trigger allergies, he added. “New allergies can emerge during periods of significant hormonal shifts, including puberty, pregnancy, postpartum, perimenopause, and menopause.”  

You Have Stretch Marks…in Places You Never Thought You Would

Stretch marks on the belly are a veritable right of passage into mommyhood. But stretch marks on the thighs? Breasts? Buttox? Sorry, but it’s a thing. Stretch marks—which appear as red, pink, or black lines (their color depends on your skin)—are actually small scars that happen when sudden weight gain  (i.e. your little miracle) tears the fibers of the skin. Up to 90 percent of pregnant women get them, with most common areas affected being the belly, thighs, hips, butt, and breasts. They can even happen in the upper arms and back.

And while you can’t get rid of (or prevent) stretch marks completely, most fade significantly after several months. In addition, there are some treatments—including chemical peels, lasers, radiofrequency, microdermabrasion, and microneedling— that may make them less noticeable.

My stretch marks are all over my legs!” said one Reddit user on this thread. “Nobody talks about this...my calves, thighs and hips got ‘em for sure. Interesting how everybody’s different.”

“I got zero stretchmarks until after I gave birth,” said another. “And then suddenly they were everywhere! Even behind my knees, under my arms, and on my pubic bone!”

Your Pelvic Floor Muscles Weaken

Sorry, but sneezing may never be the same. The strain of pregnancy and childbirth can weaken your pelvic floor muscles (those are the muscles that support the bladder, uterus, and bowel). This can cause mild to severe urinary incontinence or other pelvic floor disorders including problems related to your bowel or sexual functioning.

The good news? There are exercises you can do to improve things, with daily Kegels being your best first step. If you’re noticing excessive leaking—more than just a little squirt with a sneeze or “Oops” on the trampoline—you may want to talk to your gynecologist about regular physical therapy to improve symptoms (Don’t worry; it’s less embarrassing than it sounds).

Related: The Best Hidden Exercise You Should Do Every Day

Your Vision Changes

Ah, hormones—Is there any part of the body you don’t control? Apparently not. If you’re not seeing your ABCs like you used to, you’re not alone. Up to 20 percent of women experience vision changes after pregnancy, Optometrist Dr. Arian Fartash said on her website. This is because pregnancy hormones cause water retention, which can cause swelling in the eyes. 

“Your feet don’t only swell, but your eyes can swell, too, and that makes your vision change,” Fartash said in her video blog, “Ask an Eye Doctor.” “These changes can stay until after you’re done breastfeeding—or it can stay until the rest of your life.” Consequently, Fartash recommends getting your eyes checked after pregnancy to see if you need a new prescription. 

You Have Phantom Baby Kicks

Yes, phantom kicks are a thing. Your tummy may not be growing a baby anymore, but it’s not uncommon to feel those familiar baby flutters even long after childbirth. According to Texas OB-GYN Tiffany Woodus, phantom kicks are the perception of fetal movement in the abdomen weeks, months, or years after pregnancy has ended. And it's experienced by more women than you'd think. 

Experts aren’t sure why women experience phantom kicks, but according to an online survey done in Australia, women who experience them do so for an average of 6.8 years postpartum, with one mom in the survey reporting phantom kicks up to 28 years later!

My daughter is 7 and I STILL get them!,” said a Mama in this thread.

It freaks me out every time. I'm so glad I saw this post, it's had me guessing a lot,” said another. “My son is nearly three and I've been getting them for the last 6 months. A part of me thinks it's my body teasing me because I do want a second now.”

“Same thing happens to me,” said another. “I even took a pregnancy test to confirm I'm not going crazy even though there was zero chance of pregnancy.”

Related: I Miss the Attention I Got When I Was Pregnant

Your Face Has Dark Spots All Over It

If your face looks splotchier than it did in your child-free days—or if you suddenly have a blanket of freckles all over your nose, you probably have melasma, a common condition caused by pregnancy hormones (it can also happen with the start of birth control pills). The condition, categorized by splotches or freckles of darker skin, usually occurs mainly on the cheeks, forehead, chin, and above the upper lip. 

For some women, it goes away a few months after their baby is born (or after they stop taking the pill); for others, the change is permanent. But don’t despair: There are several treatments that may help, including lightening creams and laser light therapy. 

A Final Note

While it may seem daunting to learn about all the uncomfortable or potentially permanent side effects of pregnancy, try to keep things in perspective: After all, you just added a human to the world. Those are battle scars you're earning!

And anyway—stretch marks, vision changes, and splotchy skin equals new baby, plus a lifetime of love and purpose. We'll take it.

The options seem limitless, with history-makers, magnates, and iconic figures from every era and discipline, all hailing from, or making their mark on the Big Apple. We rounded up some of the usual suspects and lots of classic baby names, and also looked for some fresh kids’ names that pay tribute to NYC.  No baby on deck? Maybe one of these New York names will hit the spot for that dog you are adopting from the Humane Society.

Anthony 
There are many famous Anthonys from NYC, but for now we’re going with Fauci, a hometown guy from Dyker Heights, Brooklyn.

Apollo
Sure, it’s a lot to live up to, what with the god of the sun thing and all—but aim high and pay tribute to this legendary Harlem theater at the same time.

Apple
With apologies to Gwyneth and Chris, we were the first Apple. Go big!

Astoria/Astor
One of several neighborhood-inspired names on this list, Astoria is named for John Jacob Astor, a wealthy early 19th-century investor in NYC real estate, but we think it sounds almost Disney-princess-like. Astor is also kind of royal.

Audrey
Yes, Hepburn is strongly associated with NYC thanks to her iconic role of Holly Golightly in Breakfast at Tiffany’s, but we’re thinking of Audrey Munson, model for scores of major statues around New York City, including the figure atop the Manhattan Municipal Building—second tallest in the city, after Lady Liberty.

Bill Cunningham
Have twins? Name one Bill, one Cunningham, and know that you are paying tribute to one of the most amazing New Yorkers ever to traverse, and document the city.

Baldwin
Inspired by this Black poet from Harlem, this is an alternative to his first name James.

Brighton
A name pegged to a famous Brooklyn beach and neighborhood with Russian and Eastern European roots.

Brooklyn
This New York name might have seemed unusual at some point is now in danger of being too common. Still, it’s a great borough and the name shows true Kings County pride!

Cab
In addition to the omnipresent vehicle, Cab Calloway was a major figure in the Harlem Renaissance. (We also like “Taxi” for a cute girl’s nickname, but it’s not as subtle.)

Carnegie
As in the Hall, named for steel magnate, businessman and philanthropist Andrew Carnegie.

Coney
Employ it as a nickname (for Cornelius?) or use it as a standalone, this one has lots of south Brooklyn spirit.

Dorothy
Ms. Parker, one of New York’s sharpest wits, would approve. (Parker works, too.)

Duke
While not an NYC native, Duke Ellington made the city his home and became a major cultural force during the Harlem Renaissance as bandleader of the Cotton Club. We like Ellington as well.

Ed
A name that seems ripe for a comeback, this one pays homage to one of the most iconic, recognizable, “New Yorkiest” mayors the city has ever had, Ed Koch.

Edith
Downtown doyenne (and first woman to win the Pulitzer Prize, thank you very much) Edith Wharton inspires this name from another era.

Eloise
Sure, she’s a fictional character, but she’s one of the most famous little New Yorkers out there! We love this New York name for a girl with a little spunk!

Emily
When her husband Washington, chief engineer of the Brooklyn Bridge succumbed to an illness, Emily Warren Roebling saw the project to its completion. (She was also one of the first people to cross it when it was done!)

Emory
While you may not be familiar with his name, architect Emory Roth designed so many of the iconic New York City buildings and hotels of the 1920s and 30s that you know and likely love. (Obviously, Roth could be a good choice as well.)

Fran/Frances/Francis
Fran Liebowitz has got to be one of the New Yorkiest New Yorkers out there.

Frederick (Law Olmsted)
Take your pick (and level of pretentiousness) with any part of the famed landscape architect’s name. (He’s one of the masterminds behind the designs for Central Park and Prospect Pack. For extra geek points and eyerolls, go for twins or siblings name Olmsted and Vaux, the name of his partnership with Calvert Vaux.)

George Gershwin
Either one! The groundbreaking composer was born in East New York, Brooklyn and became a major force on the legendary Tin Pan Alley, Broadway, and beyond.

Gracie
A nod to the official New York City mayoral residence, Gracie Mansion, named for early 19th-century businessman (and original owner of the house) Archibald Gracie.

Gray (Lady)
It’s the historic nickname of the paper that publishes “All the news that’s fit to print”—either could be the name of your New York City kid.

Greenwich
Inspired by the artsy downtown village, this name offers a nice mix of funky flair and subtle sophistication. (Like the neighborhood itself!)

Hamilton
You’ve heard of this guy. Founding father, first Treasurer of the United States of America, the man behind The U.S. Coast Guard, The New York Post, the Federalist party. And the blockbuster musical. He’s everywhere: Fort Hamilton Parkway, Fort Hamilton, etc.

Herald
A cheeky alternative to the more common spelling, “Harold”, this one references Herald Square, named for the long-gone newspaper, the New York Herald.

Herman
The author of Moby Dick (and other masterpieces) was born in New York, died in New York, and he’s buried in Woodlawn Cemetery in the Bronx. (For the record, we like Melville as a kid’s name, too.)

Hoyt
There’s Hoyt Street in Brooklyn, Hoyt Avenue in Queens. They take their name from Edwin Hoyt, a 19th-century NYC businessman.

Hudson
Already a popular moniker around these parts, this name pays tribute to a founder, the river named for the founder, etc. Plus, it’s got some gravitas.

Jackie
She wasn’t born here, but she made New York City her home. So much so that they named a reservoir after her.

Jane
Shame on us if we didn’t suggest one of the champions of preserving so many parts of the city we love, Jane Jacobs. Jane is a classic New York baby name and we love it as a first or middle name.

Jennifer
Big in the 70s, then abandoned for Brittany and Ashley, Jennifer—here inspired by Jenny (Lopez) from the Bronx blocks herself—is primed for a resurgence

Lenny/Leonard
One’s a ground-breaking legendary downtown comedian  (Bruce, which you could also borrow), the other is the longtime music director of the New York Philharmonic, a legendary composer, and more (Bernstein).

Lexington
Sounds fancy, can be shortened to “Lexy” or “Lex”. The famous NYC avenue gets its name from the Revolutionary War Battle of Lexington, which actually took place in Massachusetts, but it was a big one.

Liberty
An inspiring concept, a New York icon. It’s hard to go wrong with this one.

Lincoln
A name with some very strong historical associations, this is also the namesake of one of our city’s most revered and iconic cultural institutions. (Which, interestingly enough, did not definitely get its name from honest Abe.)

Lou/Louis
Two musical legends, of different genres. Go downtown cool and pay tribute to Lou Reed, or name-check jazz man Armstrong a New Orleans native who famously settled in Corona, Queens for decades. (You can still visit his house!)

Macy
It’s “The World’s Largest Store!” And what kid wouldn’t get a kick out of “Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade”, etc.?

Moses
It’s a heavy name, no matter how you slice it. Tap your inner urban planner (you have one, right?) and pay tribute to Robert Moses, who, love him or hate him, shaped the city we live in today.

Patti
Pay tribute to one of the coolest kids around, Patti Smith, with this one. Got twins? How about Patti and Smith? Patti and Robert? Patti and Maple?

Peggy
Art collector, patron, and socialite Peggy Guggenheim left her mark on the city and the world with her wealth and taste. While Guggenheim is quite the mouthful, Peggy is a New York name we can get on board with.

Rocky/Rockefeller
A builder and benefactor of the city, a center of midtown. However you slice this name—inspired by philanthropist John D. Rockefeller Jr., it’s got presence and gravitas.

Roe
A shortened version of Roebling, the surname of the chief engineer of the Brooklyn Bridge and his wife Emily, who played a key role in the completion of the span after her husband fell ill.

Roxy
Similar, but different. S.L. “Roxy” Rosenthal actually worked with Rockefeller—he’s the showman behind Radio City Music Hall, the grand theater a stone’s throw from John D’s “City Within a City.”

Ruth
Used to sound old-fashioned, but now it’s fierce as hell thanks to this Flatbush, Brooklyn native. #RGB.

Shirley
Just old-fashioned enough to be in style again, this name pays tribute to Shirley Chisholm, the first African American woman elected to Congress and the first woman and African American to seek the nomination for president of the United States of one of the two major political parties.

Smith
A well-known street in the Boerum Hill area of Brooklyn, the thoroughfare gets its name from one of the borough’s original mayors (back when it was its own city), Samuel Smith.

Teddy/Theo
Born here (Gramercy Park), Police Commissioner, Rough Rider, and President of the United States. Take your pick with Theodore Roosevelt: Theo, Teddy, Roosevelt, Theodore

Tiffany
Not the singer, the iconic jewelry store. (Maybe mix it up and name your child Tiffany Audrey.)

Walt, Whitman
Hero of Brooklyn and free, wild spirits everywhere, this poet offers plenty of inspiration and variation: Walt, Whit, Whitman. They all sound good to us.

Wharton
Another nod to novelist Edith, but for boys. (Possible downside: Nickname “Wart.”)

Make sure to capture all your little New Yorker’s biggest moments—and share them with your family and friends near and far—with the Tinybeans app. The secure platform puts parents in total control of who sees and interacts with photos and videos of their kids.

It’s hard to imagine how you’re going to juggle all the things when you go back to work after having a baby. On top of your actual job, there’s the laundry and cooking and grocery shopping, the emails from school, the playdates, and your bigger kid’s sweatpants suddenly having holes in every knee. It’s a lot. So we asked 25 working moms to share their best piece of advice, and boy did they deliver—with tips on everything from streamlining your home life to actually, realistically carving out time for yourself.

The Juggle Is Real

Plan the week out in person
“Every Sunday evening, my husband and I sit down and review the week ahead (logistics, upcoming events, to-dos, etc.) and create a one-page document that we print out and leave in an easy-to-see spot. We reference it all week! This exercise helps me get a hold of the ongoing mental list heading into the week.”

Do the small things first
“The best piece of advice I ever got was to live by the one-minute rule. Essentially, you do any task that takes a minute or less immediately. Don’t microwave your coffee, don’t call a friend, don’t pass go and collect $200—just do it now. All those little distractions add up to some aggressively long to-do lists and as working moms, we simply don’t have time for that. So if you bring in the mail, don’t plop it down to deal with later—just go through it right away and throw out the junk. If you get an email from the school that requires an easy response, get it over with. By getting all these little things out of the way ASAP you’re making more time for the big stuff, and we all need more time for the big stuff.”

Go ahead, take the shortcut
“Working full-time with young kids is hard, no doubt about it. Do what you have to do to get through the day, because some days are harder than others. Grilled cheese (for the fourth time this week)? Why not! A little extra screen time so you can complete a task that can no longer wait? Go for it. Sometimes, it’s about survival. These don’t have to be the moments that define you as a mom. These are the moments that let you keep the ship afloat so you can be the mom you really want to be.”

Prep the night before
“Whether you need to leave the house to go to work daily or once a week, make that morning as streamlined as possible. Shower the night before if you can. Plan your outfit and the kids’ clothes. Pack lunches. The easier it is for you to get ready, the easier it is to get out the door, and the smoother your day will be.”

Take allll the help
“My advice is to take any help you can get. Don’t try to be a hero. It literally takes a village. Know who you can count on for carpools and when you can share responsibilities with people you trust.”

Divide and conquer (and reevaluate regularly)
“I was the primary parent for many years, and even though I am now working full-time, I’m the primary parent in many ways. There are times when this becomes too much and the anger can build. Why do I need to still take care of the stuff I did before? The answer is, I don’t. This may mean our house is messier for longer, or the kids don’t get as many playdates, but inevitably, we started new routines and new schedules to balance out the division of labor. And if it feels like it’s not working again, it’s back to the drawing board to figure out a new routine. Don’t expect to have it all figured out right away. You need to try things out for a bit, sit with it, and adjust as needed.”

Switch up nighttime routines
“When it comes to the daily routine, try not to have one parent do bath time and bedtime every night. We have always had one parent clean up after dinner and the other handle the bedtime routine. And then the next night we switch, although it can be hard if mom is nursing. My husband would do everything to get the baby ready for bed, and I would nurse as the final step. Then your baby gets used to both parents, not only mom, at bedtime.”

Take the Zumba class
“A co-worker of mine once told me when my kids were really young how important it is for moms to have a life outside of their kids. At the time I would rush from work to pick them up from daycare when what I really wanted to do was attend the Zumba class that was held at our office. She encouraged me to do that and it really was life-changing. Now, I regularly leave them to travel and they have developed so many great life skills from me not always being home. Plus they see me following my dreams even as an adult which I think is so important.”

Work Life

Never apologize
“Do not apologize for saying ‘I need to go pick up my kids.’ Anything having to do with caring for your kids does not need an apology. To anyone. Ever. Be gracious and polite and tactful as the situation calls for, but don’t tell anyone you’re sorry you need to be a parent.”

Talk about your littles
“When I first had my daughter, I was reluctant to talk about parenting with clients and colleagues. I didn’t want anyone to assume that motherhood would get in the way of my performance. But I’ve come to realize that commiserating about potty training is actually a great way to break the ice and forge relationships with the parents I work with. These days, if I know a client or colleague has kids, I make a point of asking about them. This approach might not be right for every workplace, but it’s been effective for me.”

Seek out mother mentors
“Create a village at work to support you. Find mentors to help guide you as you make potentially new career decisions as a working mother. It’s great to engage women for your personal board of directors who are a few steps ahead of you in the working motherhood journey. That way they can share what they did in your shoes as you find new opportunities.”

Know your rights
“Know your rights as a mother and what the law says about maternity leave, time off to care for sick kids, time off for doctor visits, pumping and privacy, etc. No one can take advantage of you when you can back things up with the law.”

Dual Identities

Set work and socialization boundaries
“It can become awkward if your office environment is a more social one and you have to/want to/need to go home to your family. If you do feel tension around this, speak to your manager. Explain your boundaries – it’s better to be upfront and have everyone understand the expectations. Just be aware that you’ll have to stay and play sometimes (and that’s OK!).”

Work-life balance takes work
“Work-life balance isn’t a 50/50 daily split. It’s intentionally making the time for the things that you really care about, using boundaries, prioritizing, and planning your time over the long term. If you don’t have boundaries, everything is harder when it comes to finding time for what you care about. The easiest way to maintain boundaries after you define them is to use your calendar. Block off time to indicate when your work day ends. Put time on your calendar when you know you’ll be focused on family. Carve out time for things like exercise and self-care.”

Take time to switch from mom mode to work mode
“I usually feel a little frazzled from the adrenaline of the morning rush, so I give myself 25 minutes to shake it off and prepare myself to start my work day. I pop on a chatty, fun podcast (or put on some feel-good music if that’s more my mood), and do a quick sweep of the spaces I need to use. I remove all of the obvious kid debris and mess so that the space feels more calm and ordered. Then I change into an outfit I feel good in and do a two-minute glow-up to hide the tired eyes. I take a moment to make a coffee or eat something nourishing in my garden; just five minutes or so to myself outside in nature to reset. Then I head to my desk and get started–work mode activated!”

Focus on one thing at a time
“Avoid multitasking when it comes to childminding and working at the same time—it’s a poor result for everyone if you’re attempting to work while spending time with your children and vice-versa.”

Advancing In Your Career

Work advancements may mean less
“Once I had kids, I knew that work no longer took priority for me. And even though I went back to work eventually, I no longer felt like I needed the ‘cool’ job or the better title. I liked being able to work again, but also being able to shut my computer off and be with my family. I am a full-time project manager at home, I don’t need to be one at my job.”

Make deals on the playground
“You know the old cliché that business deals are made on the golf course? Well, they can be made on the playground too! I’ve found that parents, and moms in particular, are willing to help fellow parents reach career goals. Leveraging my network of fellow moms has led to valuable business relationships and even new clients.”

Work smarter and put yourself first
“Before kids I considered myself a hard worker, staying late at the office, taking on tasks for which I wasn’t recognized, agonizing over every word in an email. I no longer have that time as a working mom. Now I say no to tasks that don’t serve me, walk away from time-sucking clients, and yes, send a few emails with typos. I’ve dialed down my efforts at work and I’ve found that the work I produce is just as good.”

Put pumping on the cal
“If you’re planning to pump, put that time on your calendar so it doesn’t get eaten up by other meetings or requests. People will know that you’re unavailable.”

Mom Guilt and Expectations

No one has all the answers
“Don’t let anyone, especially social media influencers or experts, tell you what you can or can’t do. Don’t get hooked into the narrative of the burnt-out mom if it doesn’t serve you. We’ll all get overwhelmed, but it’s not written in the sky that you can’t have what you want in all aspects of your life. We’re just told, a lot, that, no, we can’t. And I don’t buy it.”

A little sorry goes a long way
“There may be moments when you lose your cool with your kid. Trying to get out the door in the morning when you’re already late for work is an opportune time for this. When you cool off later that day or even later that week, apologize and admit you made a mistake. Everyone will feel better for it.”

So does a little one-on-one time
“Try to carve out a little time each day to focus on your kids. Even just 10 minutes of ‘golden time’ as they call it. Makes me feel less guilty for the time I don’t get to spend with them and sometimes it actually helps their behavior.”

Making Time For Yourself (Really Though)

Rise and shine
“I like to get up as early as I can muster to have some alone time before the rest of my family wakes up. I make coffee, read a few chapters of my book, and just generally let myself bask in the quiet. I find that when my kids do get up I’m more calm and prepared for whatever they throw my way (tantrums, fights, breakfast disasters). Some people call it the 5 a.m. club, but mine’s more 6 a.m. or later because I’m not a morning person at all. But I do go to bed as early as I can to make this work.”

Fresh air is your friend
“I like to go for a walk before work, even when I work from home, and I call it my commute. Alone time, fresh air, and steps make me feel more ready for the day.”

A relaxing stay at a hotel sounds like the perfect vacation, but having a baby in a hotel means doing some pre-planning. The focus: potential hazards and figuring out how your child will eat, sleep, and have their diaper changed in your new space. Also, you’ll want to ask questions like: Do hotel rooms have cribs? Read on for 7 tips and hotel hacks so you can rock your room like a parenting pro.

hacks for hotel rooms with cribs
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1. Borrow the hotel's baby supplies.
Many parents have lots of questions when traveling with a baby like, "Do hotel rooms provide cribs?" Most offer cribs free of charge (bring your own sheets), and many lend out high chairs so you can leave the travel chair at home. Some chain hotels even supply bottle warmers, diaper pails, and sound machines. If you're staying at a hotel with minimal options, look online for local rental firms like BabyQuip that can outfit you with everything you need for your room, as well as a stroller for outings. 

2. Have necessities delivered.
Why waste suitcase space with extra diapers, wipes, and snacks when you can have them delivered to your hotel? First confirm that your hotel will accept deliveries prior to your arrival, and then put that Amazon Prime membership to good use, or use a local grocery-store delivery service. If you're staying at a higher-end hotel, they will often pre-stock the room with all of your parenting needs.

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3. Do an initial cleaning.
When you get into your room, plonk baby on the bed with a toy and give the room a quick cleaning. Bring disinfecting wipes to clean telephones, TV remotes, alarm clocks, door handles, and other objects your child might touch or put in their mouth. Move garbage cans up to countertops so your little one can't get into the trash. Then get on your hands and knees to assess the room from baby level. Are there any coins or small, sharp objects on the floor? Any sharp edges on furniture to watch out for? Did a previous tenant leave anything under the bed or couch that you don't want your child to play with?

Related: Ultimate Guide to Flying With Your Baby

4. Create a kitchen.
If your room doesn’t include a kitchen, one of the best hotel hacks is to set up a makeshift command center to handle everything from warming bottles to making oatmeal. The in-room coffee machine can sometimes even steam veggies or boil eggs for your little one. And if your room doesn't have a refrigerator, bring a collapsible cooler to keep your child's food fresh. You can also tote it along on your daily adventures (ice from the ice machine keeps things cool), so it's worth making room for it in your luggage.

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5. Don't forget the tape.
While your home may be decked out in safety locks, corner guards, and outlet covers, all you need to pack to baby-proof the hotel is duct tape. It can be used to secure drapery cords, seal electrical outlets, keep toilet lids and mini-fridges closed, and more. If your furniture has sharp edges, place a washcloth over the edge and tape it in place! Running low on tape? In a pinch, Band-Aids can cover outlets to keep curious fingers safe.

6. Create baby stations for daily tasks.
Since hotel rooms aren't set up for children, finding space to change diapers or heat bottles can be tricky. Designate the desk or dresser as your baby changing station and move other items to a different spot. Pack a small bag or portable changing station to keep diaper cream, wipes, and diapers organized. A hanging cosmetic case attached to a door can double as a bottle-making station.

7. Ensure a good night’s sleep.
Re-creating the soothing comforts of home can help your child, and you, sleep better. If your child falls asleep to music or a noise machine at home, bring them. (If you play them through your smartphone, placing it in a coffee cup can help amplify the volume.) If you’re using the hotel’s crib, bring your own sheets for a sanitized snooze that smells, feels, and looks like home. If your baby is used to sleeping in their own room, create a separate space by placing the crib in the bathroom or closet, or tucking the crib behind the couch or TV. And if your baby can’t get comfortable in an unfamiliar bed, make a baby nest by rolling extra-large hotel towels lengthwise on the mattress to form a pod and placing a spare fitted sheet (check the closets for extras) over the mattress to make a cozy sleeping space.

Make sure to capture all your best travel moments—and share them with your family and friends near and far—with the Tinybeans app. The secure platform puts parents in total control of who sees and interacts with photos and videos of their kids.

The way you speak to your firstborn about their new sibling has a huge impact on how well they handle the transition.

“You’re so lucky to have a new baby sister!”

“You’re going to have to be a big boy now that you’re becoming a big brother.”

“Having a sibling is the best gift.”

These are just some of the things people might say to your toddler after a new baby brother or sister makes their debut. Heck, you’ve probably uttered more than a few of these common phrases to try and get your older child prepared for and excited about the new baby. But experts, like Dr. Michele Locke, a registered clinical psychologist specializing in child, adolescent, and parenting psychology in Toronto, say this kind of language can do more harm than good. So we asked the experts for more productive ways to speak to a toddler who’s suddenly becoming a big sibling, and these simple swaps can make all the difference in easing the transition.

1. Don’t Only Focus on Positives

It’s really important to prepare your toddler for what a new baby is actually like before their new sibling arrives. “We spend a lot of time talking about the exciting parts about having a baby, and we’re lying a little bit,” says Locke. “We say, ‘It’s going to be amazing, you’re going to have this playmate,’ and they picture a toddler coming out ready to run around. Instead, it’s a needy, crying baby that makes mama so tired that she has no patience.”

While newborn life is obviously not all bad, the way you talk about it can set up unrealistic expectations. Kids, especially toddlers, are pretty literal. The more you reinforce that there will be challenges and open up the opportunity for them to express themselves, the more it frees up your kid to find the good parts for themself, explains Locke.

2. Don’t Always Choose the Baby First

Try to temper how often you say “no” to the bigger kid by picking them first when possible, recommends Locke. Saying common phrases like “the baby needs me right now” is a surefire way to enrage your toddler because they probably feel the same way. Babies can be held by anyone, so if you can give your firstborn attention when they ask for it, do it. “It’s a huge loss for your bigger kid,” stresses Locke. Before the baby, they could hug you anytime they wanted, and now there’s a newborn on you all the time and they may feel rejected if they don’t get that same level of affection.

Your toddler is also totally dependent on you, says Dajana Yoakley, a peaceful parenting coach in Little Rock. They trust that you will meet their needs and take care of them. “And all of a sudden, the resources are shared. They used to get 100 percent and now they’re getting 50 percent,” explains Yoakley. This can lead to the well-known dynamic called sibling rivalry.

Toddlers are looking for your physical presence. If you can show up more often than not when the new baby is there, your child will feel safe and that will be reflected in their behavior, says Yoakley. “That responsiveness is really important.” If you leave your toddler waiting for five or ten minutes after they ask for help, they may start to feel like they are not important and that their needs are not going to be met. For example, when your two or three-year-old needs help in the bathroom, try and put the baby down so you can help them, or just come into the bathroom so you are physically there for them. Talk them through what they’re doing with phrases like “I see you’re on the potty, good job!” says Yoakley.

3. Don’t Ignore Their Feelings

Having a new sibling totally changes the family dynamic, so letting your child express themselves is key. If your toddler is starting to share some big feelings through their words or behavior, telling them to “calm down” or saying things like “be a big girl/boy” can make them feel like they’re being dismissed. “Validate and empathize with the yucky parts that they’re feeling,” recommends Locke. When a grandparent says “You’re so lucky,” you can lean down and say “It’s also super hard to be a big sibling.”

Yoakley also recommends flipping the conversation completely by talking to the baby about the toddler. “Tell the baby, ‘You’re so lucky to have the best big sister. She has the best dolls and she makes the best cookies in her play kitchen. When you’re older you’re going to get to play with your big sister,’” she says. During the newborn stage, you want to do your best to cater what you say to the older child, the one who understands what you’re saying.

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4. Don’t Blame the Baby

If your toddler is being demanding and you just need a minute, don’t say “I’m tired because the baby keeps me up all night,” says Locke. Your toddler will react by thinking who is this baby who is ruining my mom? Reframe it. You can say “I was awake a lot so I am feeling tired.”

Yoakley agrees. Try saying something like “My hands are busy right now” so your older child doesn’t see the baby as a threat. If you constantly blame your mood or inability to do things with your toddler on the baby, they may act out more towards their younger sibling, says Locke.

5. Don’t Assume the Worst in your Toddler

When your toddler tries a wrestling move on the newborn, don’t immediately assume they’re trying to murder them (even if it looks like it). In those heated moments, it’s important not to say things like “don’t hurt the baby,” because it can make your older child feel like they were doing something wrong and even more at odds with their new sibling. When they are too rough, make sure the baby is safe, and then talk to your toddler. Say something like “I know how much you love him and want to hug him, but he has a mushy brain,” recommends Locke. Be generous in your interpretation of their actions. When toddlers are too rough it usually comes from excitement and joy, and it’s not typically to harm them, says Locke.

If your toddler has been aggressive with the baby, talk to them to help them process their emotions and set limits on their reactions, says Yoakley. “Say, ‘I see you were upset with the baby. Can you tell me about that in words? We don’t hit the baby.’ And help them with their emotions.” Don’t just allow bad behavior because you feel guilty. It’s important to guide them through what’s appropriate and what’s not, she says, while understanding that their actions are the result of dealing with a major transition.

6. Don’t Compare Your Kids (Or Let Others)

It’s really easy to make your toddler feel like they’re not as cute and wonderful as the baby by the way you talk about them. When you run into other parents or friends, you might want to complain about your slightly deranged toddler but remember that they’re always listening. If they hear you say things like, “The baby is so much easier than my first,” or gush about some (obviously very cute) physical aspect of your newborn, your toddler can internalize the idea that they’re not as good as the baby and it can affect how they act going forward.

And it’s even more obvious when your friends and family gush over the new baby. It can be hard to manage those comments, like how different the baby is from their sibling.

Try Locke’s go-to statement when someone starts comparing your kids: “We have two different kids, and we’re so lucky! We would be bored if they were the same.”

7. Don’t Ignore Your Toddler Time

If your kid constantly hears “Not now,” “Hold on,” or “Wait a minute,” they won’t feel like they’re a priority anymore. When you can, spend some special one-on-one time with your toddler without the baby in the room. “Focus on how the relationship was before the baby,” recommends Yoakley.

It’s important to really pay attention to the new things your older child is doing to ensure you’re filling those attention and connection buckets, says Locke. Offer your toddler a compliment, noticing something they’re doing (or repeating what they said through active listening), and make it specific so they know they’re getting your attention.

Being a mom is hard. Being a new mom is harder. Nothing prepares you for the joy and awe (shock and terror) of holding your baby for the first time, regardless of how they made their way into your arms. Perhaps you have not slept in more than 30 hours. Perhaps you ache. Perhaps you’re floaty. Perhaps you’re under the influence of heavy painkillers. Congratulations! At this low ebb of your existence, you will now assume care of another human being for the first time. You deserve that Hunger Games finger-kiss and a stiff drink. Neither is forthcoming.

People are going to tell you terrible things. You will never shower again! You will never poop alone! Sleep will become a distant memory in the hazy caffeine tides of your life! However, they have an ironclad solution to all this nonsense. You will listen as they share it with all the fervency of a newly minted cult member. This makes being a new mom even harder. Suddenly, there are rules. You must obey the rules—or you will break the baby.

Take a deep breath; you will not break the baby. At this moment of doubt and panic, you don’t need more parenting advice. You’ve sifted through a Google’s worth of parenting advice. What you need is to take it easy on yourself and to remember that you are allowed to…

1. Feel scared, sad, and angry.

Sappy cards will call your child a “bundle of joy.” Newsflash: Your baby is a small human, not a gift bag of premium coffee. People will say they never knew love before seeing their newborn. But some moms feel apathy instead. Some become overwhelmed by their sudden and irreversible life change. Some doubt they made the right decision about this whole parenting thing. Some feel all these things. None mean you love your baby less. You can love them desperately, want them desperately, and still wish you could run away. These are not mutually exclusive, and you are not a bad person. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you’re feeling—without the guilt trip. You don’t deserve that.

2. Ignore parenting gurus.

The world demands you pick a parenting philosophy as if you were writing a corporate mission statement instead of keeping a human happy. These philosophies come with rules. Did you sign up for a new religion? No? Then play cafeteria: Pick what seems good and leave the rest. Dr. Sears does not know your baby. I used to run a babywearing group, and some babies hated to be worn. Dr. Ferber also does not know your baby; my kids would’ve lost their minds if I left them to cry. Take what works. Ditch the rest.

3. Ignore absolutes.

One bottle will not give your baby nipple confusion. Crying for two minutes will not lead to attachment issues. Wearing your baby will not spoil them. Ignore the all-or-nothing stuff. Take a deep breath. Does it sound extreme? It probably is.

4. Trust your instincts.

You know your baby best. If something feels wrong, it’s probably wrong; if something feels right, it’s likely right. You have common sense. Listen to it and your gut. Does your baby kick and scream when they’re swaddled? Maybe you shouldn’t swaddle them, even if conventional wisdom says you should. Does your baby vomit and scream after every meal? Maybe you’re right about that infant reflux thing. Always pay attention to your intuition.

5. Go full mama bear.

If a stranger touches your baby, you don’t have to smile. You can say, “Don’t touch my child.” If your pediatrician won’t believe that your baby’s ill, you can say, “We need to reevaluate this.” If your mother insists on using a bottle and you prefer breast, you can say, “No, this is what works for us, thanks.” Having a baby gives you permission, more than ever before, to stand up for yourself—and it’s easier because you’re standing up for a person you love. Be rude if you need to. Your baby is more important than someone else’s feelings.

6. Do “nothing.”

Who decided we should bring home a squally, inscrutable human being without language capabilities… and then clean the house in our “downtime”? Were they male? Severe amnesiacs? Sadists? Mom, park yourself on the couch and do nothing. Watch those TV shows you’re ashamed of. Drink tea. Wear a fancy robe. Your job is momming: You do not clean the house.

You may find this difficult. Lean on the authority of your tea and fancy robe. Seriously—they project devil-may-care noblesse oblige. You’ll feel fancy, and you’ll feel powerful, and you’ll remember: All humans are not the same; therefore, all babies are not the same. What worked for one person may not work for you. All those you-shoulds and you-have-tos should come with big asterisks: I don’t know you, your baby, or your life situation. What I’m about to say is conditional on many things, and you should probably ignore most of it anyway.

You have permission to ignore all advice. You have permission to take a deep breath and chill out. You have permission to ugly-cry. You have permission to sleep and shower as you see fit. New parenting is hard enough. Don’t make it harder by stuffing down your feelings or obeying rules that feel wrong. Trust yourself. You’ve got this.

Lounge access will start your trip off on the right foot, we promise

Flying with kids is not something anyone looks forward to. There are so many things that could go wrong from blowouts to inconsolable toddlers to forgotten pacifiers and uncharged devices. As a travel editor, I’ve taken hundreds of flights with my kids, and some I would rather forget (like the flight with my can’t-sit-still-toddler when it felt like I was wrestling a 40 lb. carp for 4+ hours).

I recently flew on Alaska Airlines with my three kids and was pleasantly surprised by all the thoughtful elements the airline offers to make traveling with kids a little bit easier. Here is what I learned about flying Alaska Airlines with kids and my recommendations for making your travel experience even more comfortable for the whole family (hello, lounge access!).

What you need to know about flying with kids on Alaska Airlines:

  • Alaska Airlines guarantees that kids 13 and under will be seated with at least one accompanying adult as long as you book your reservation together (and subject to some additional terms).
  • Preboarding is offered for families traveling with little ones aged two and under. Lap infants (under the age of two) also fly free!
  • Car seats and strollers fly free, so you don’t have to worry about paying baggage fees for these items.

Meals for kids on Alaska Airlines

When your flight is long enough to offer meal service, you’ll definitely want to pre-order one of the Kid’s Choice Picnic Packs for your little travelers. Not only do they come with kid favorites like Pirate’s Booty, applesauce, and gummi bears, but you’ll get a retro-fabulous Wikki Stix Play Pack to keep them busy from takeoff to landing. I’ve known a few adults who might enjoy playing with these as well!

Additional Alaska Airlines offerings to make your journey easy

Lounge Access
Start your travel day off on the right foot by visiting an Alaska Lounge before your departure. Access to the lounge is included with certain ticket levels or you can purchase a day pass as available. I especially enjoy accessing an Alaska Lounge when traveling with my kids because they can fill up on snacks and have a quieter area of the airport to relax before boarding the plane. Be sure you look for the pancake machine as kids will get a huge kick out of it!

Elite Leave Program
There’s no denying it; having a baby can change you from a jet setter to a homebody in a flash. Alaska Airlines recognizes this and offers the Elite Leave Program to allow you to keep your Mileage Plan™ elite status for another year during your pregnancy or parental leave.

Fly for All app
Traveling with a nervous flyer or a neurodivergent child? I definitely recommend you check out Alaska Airlines’ Fly for All app as it provides a social story that will show you what is going to happen every step of the journey from the airport to the flight.

—photos courtesy of Alaska Airlines

Note: This trip was paid for by Alaska Airlines, but all opinions expressed here belong to the writer. 

Comedian Michelle Wolf’s hilarious comparison might just be a little too accurate

When you first become a mom, there’s a lot of advice flying at you from all directions. And a lot of that advice, while well-meaning, isn’t actually very good. The message that moms can “have it all,” especially in the U.S., is generally kind of garbage. (Even for those not in the U.S., there are plenty of challenges to go around.) Stand-up comic Michelle Wolf is here to shine a light on that ridiculous idea.

“I don’t wanna have a baby or a family. I want a career. That’s what I want,” she begins in the hilarious clip. “And I know there’s a lot of people out there that are like, ‘But Michelle, you don’t have to choose. You can have it all! Women can have it all!'”

She continues, “Yeah, stop saying that. You act like ‘all’ is good. ‘All’ does not mean good. You’ve never left an all-you-can-eat buffet and thought, ‘I feel really good about myself. I sure am glad I went back for spare ribs.'” All is not good. And even if we do try to have it all, even if a woman out there definitely wants it all, we’ve put up too many obstacles in your way to make it possible.”

This is where Wolf’s bit starts to get particularly real. She starts ticking off all the systemic challenges new moms face, and, well, it’s all true, and it’s all pretty disheartening.

“It’s like, ‘Oh, congratulations, you’re having a baby? Great! Couple things: we’re going to need you to get that car accident of a body back to work as soon as possible because this is America and we don’t think you need time to recover. Also, you should breastfeed—it’s what’s best for the baby. But don’t do it in public, you pig—do it in the old janitor’s closet underneath the bridge with the rest of the breastfeeding trolls. And don’t ask to take time off from work when your kids are sick! We’ll think you’re not dedicated. Also, why are you such a bad mom? By the way, your salary is just enough to cover the cost of childcare. And we know you’re exhausted and don’t really know who you are anymore and you’re trying to balance your old life and your new life, but quick! Go have sex with your husband—he’s about to leave! He doesn’t understand what you’re going through! Quick! Go now! And sweetie, smile!”

It hurts because it’s all so true.

Ugh. So new moms, feel free to disregard any notes from outside parties—because doing your best is just fine. And while you’re at it, vote for politicians who support policies that will provide much-needed support and funding for families and children.

From tea parlors to cozy spas, you’ll find the perfect way to celebrate your new arrival

Having a baby is cause for celebration, and NYC moms-to-be get festive in various ways. New Yorkers host baby showers in NYC tea parlors, restaurants and spas, but that’s just the beginning. Check out our favorite venues for baby showers in NYC, no matter what type of mom (and babe) are being feted! (Want something really out of the ordinary? Try these unique locations for NYC baby showers! In Queens? These are our top baby shower venues for your borough!) Need a gift? We recommend these experiences.

FOR A PROPER TEA PARTY BABY SHOWER IN NYC

Alice’s Tea Cup

A reasonably priced tea can be tough to find. At Alice’s Tea Cup, your crew can enjoy a full English tea service without running up a huge bill. This local chain has three locations for a baby shower in NYC: one on the Upper East Side, one on the Upper West and one in Brooklyn Heights. Depending on your party size and preferred location, you can reserve a spot in the main dining room or rent a private room. Guests will get their fill on sweets, savory sandwiches and teas from around the world. Make a morning reservation before 11:30 a.m. on weekdays or 3 p.m. on weekends to take advantage of their Mad Morning Tea and get the best price. It includes popular breakfast foods for just $32 for one person and $44 for two people.

Two locations in Manhattan, one in Brooklyn
Online: alicesteacup.com

Lady Mendl’s Tea Salon 

If your goal is an authentic high tea with the mom-to-be, try Lady Mendl’s. Up the street from Gramercy Park, located inside The Inn at Irving Place, you’ll find a beautiful room with Victorian-style architecture and finishings. The inn offers a five-course tea with freshly baked scones and classic finger sandwiches. There is just one downside: the experience is costly. Pricing for the main tea salon, which holds up to 50 people, starts at $5000 for four hours on weekends. A more reasonable, yet still pricey, option is hosting the party in their formal library, which holds up to 20 guests. You can rent it starting at $2000 for up to 2.5 hours.

Inn At Irving Place
56 Irving Pl.
Gramercy
Online: ladymendlsteasalon.com

Parisian Tea Room: For a Tea Party with a Twist

You can hold a proper high tea at the brand new Parisian Tea Room (opens September 10), the decor of which is inspired by owner Karen E. Lozner’s visits to tea rooms in the French capital. But Lozner’s other passion (fashion) means you can also hold a tea and sewing party! Three-hour events are for 8 to 12 people, with high teas including waitstaff, finger sandwiches, sweets and more. 

347 W. 36th St.
Garment District
Online: theparisiantearoom.com

FOR A BABY BRUNCH IN NYC

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SERRA by Birreria at Eataly

Escape to the Italian countryside on Eataly Flatiron’s rooftop. A dining space that changes with the seasons transitions from a “flowering greenhouse” resplendent in bright pink blooms in spring to a celebration of winter beauty dubbed “Serra Alpina.” (It’s not as traditionally “girly” as the spring/summer iteration, but it’s still gorgeous.) Look for the springtime iteration to return in mid-April or so. Reservations can be made for groups of up to 25 people for a baby shower in NYC. 

200 Fifth Avenue at 23rd St.
Flatiron
Online: eataly.com

Jane 

This Greenwich Village bistro is the spot to host a bridal or baby shower. Many happy customers leave, declaring it the best brunch in Manhattan. The Green Room, Jane’s private space, holds 40 guests for a seated, three-hour party. For $45 per person, everyone will get a starter, main course, family-style sides, coffee, tea, juice, & soda. The events coordinator will work with you to customize and personalize your menu. There is no shortage of delicious entrees; we recommend including the Farm House Popover, featuring scrambled eggs, smoked ham, Gruyère and caramelized onions or the Vanilla Bean French Toast on the menu. Note: There is no room rental for a weekend brunch event, but there is a $2,600 minimum to be met before taxes and fees.

100 West Houston St.
Greenwich Village
Online: janerestaurant.com

Maman

Suppose you want your baby shower in NYC to have that certain je ne sais quoi (in this case, effortlessly chic rustic French charm), head to Maman. The cafe/bakery has numerous NYC locations that host events. Its newest, Maman King (pictured above), is the largest Maman location yet! You’ll find others in Tribeca, Soho, Greenpoint, Nomad, Cobble Hill and the Upper East Side; Marche Maman on Centre Street has an intimate outdoor garden space. In addition to the romantically charming decor, you’ll dine on delectable French bites and pastries, which can be served family style or as finger foods. Brunch, lunch, and dinner are available. Events can be booked for 15 guests or more; brunch rates start at $35 per person, and lunch is $40 per person. More info on events here. (Look good? Get cracking! This place is popular!)

Online: mamannyc.com

The Crosby Street Hotel Sculpture Courtyard

Book The Crosby Street Hotel’s Sculpture Courtyard for a genuinely luxurious yet intimate experience with European flair. The Soho Hotel’s serene space features a tall organic tree sculpture, suspended pendant lights, and the greenery of a mix of small trees and shrubs, including magnolia, hydrangea and other native plantings. Private events, held from noon to 4 p.m., are capped at 25 guests, and there is a food and beverage minimum of $95/person. Rates are $6,000 for weekdays and $7,500 on weekends. Another stunning option at The Crosby Street Hotel is The Meadow Suite, which, as the name implies, has its very own garden terrace for a special celebration. 

79 Crosby St.
Soho
Online: firmdalehotels.com

The Bonnie

This Astoria restaurant is known for its delicious fare and unique cocktails. The restaurant’s layout includes multiple rooms and intimate spaces that can accommodate small and large groups. The three most popular areas for baby showers are The Snug Room, The Oak Room, and the outdoor Bar Garden. It has an extensive array of customizable food and drink packages, including various party platters and open bar options. Prices vary on the time and day of the party.

The Bonnie
29-12 23rd Ave.
Astoria
Online: thebonnie.com

Olmsted

This award-winning, popular Prospect Heights restaurant recently opened a chic private event space in the storefront next door. The room can host a seated affair or cocktail party for up to 30 people, featuring stylish floral wallpaper and a custom bookshelf stocked with cookbooks and collectibles. The restaurant also has a charming garden open year-round thanks to heat lamps (where some of its food is grown) that can be booked. The icing on the cake is the hallway that leads to the garden, which features an immersive, floor-to-ceiling installation of fragrant, preserved plants, moss, and lush greenery on every surface. Rates start at $95/person.

659 Vanderbilt Ave.
Prospect Heights
Online: olmstednyc.com

Sunday in Brooklyn

Home to some of our favorite pancakes (and a happening brunch scene), Sunday in Brooklyn also has several event spaces ranging from casual to refined funky, and you can host a party for as few as nine people and as many as 200. Choose from an intimate private dining room for 16 on the third floor, a second-floor sunroom (for 50 people, pictured), a second-floor rooftop covered garden (more casual) and more. Brunch is served family style, with creative takes on hearty classics, starting at $45 per person (unlimited drip coffee included); beverage packages are offered separately. And yes, you can add on the famous malted pancakes. 

348 Wythe Ave.
Williamsburg
Online: sundayinbrooklyn.com

FOR A FLORAL FUN BABY SHOWER IN NYC

Flower Girl NYC

This sweet Lower East Side flower shop will host your baby shower in NYC on-site or come to you. You can host a gathering of up to 24 people in the shop, with the option of catering from the equally chic cafe, Maman (see above). Add on an activity such as making floral crowns, terrariums, seasonal bouquets and more, as well as botanically-inspired favors and memorable decor. Showers include a staff member to assist with setup and lead the class. 

Showers are two hours, and if on-site, are $900 (outside of business hours) and $2,000 during business hours. Off-site showers are $1,250 with a 20 percent delivery fee. 

245 Eldridge St.
Lower East Side
Online: flowergirlnyc.com

FOR A SWEET ACTIVITY

Milk Bar

Moms-to-be with a sweet tooth will love learning to bake cakes and truffles at Momofuku Milk Bar. Guests learn all the steps for assembling Milk Bar’s most popular layer cake flavor combinations and will learn how to transform cake scraps into delectable bite-sized cake truffles. (This will be great practice for all the upcoming kids’ birthday parties!) Small group classes for 2-20 people last approximately 3 hours and start at $2,500.

55 Hope St.
Williamsburg
Online: milkbarstore.com

Sprinkles Cupcakes

At Sprinkles, $900 will get you two hours, four dozen full-sized cupcakes, or six dozen mini cupcakes, and you can choose to have them frosted or unfrosted. If you choose the unfrosted option, you can select up to three cakes and frostings and host a frosting party upstairs! If you’d like to add on any additional time, the rate is $100 per hour. Sprinkles doesn’t provide any food or beverages, but you can bring any outside food or drinks or even have them delivered to the store. The space holds about 35 people seated and 10-15 comfortably standing.

Sprinkles Cupcakes
780 Lexington Ave.
Upper East Side
Online: sprinkles.com

FOR SOME TIME AT THE SPA

Sundays

A salon that uses only 10-free, vegan, non-toxic, and cruelty-free products, Sundays is a logical choice for a shower event. Studios are in NoMad, Saks Fifth Avenue, and 49th Street; the newest is in Hudson Yards. Treat everyone to the 2 1 Guided Mediation Manicure, which includes a guided meditation from Inscape and an essential oil treatment. 

51 E. 25th St.
NoMad
Online: dearsundays.com

611 Fifth Ave., 2nd Fl.
Midtown
Online: dearsundays.com

SoHo Sanctuary

A little TLC might be what Mom needs before the baby arrives. This SoHo spa boasts extensive pre- and post-natal services and offers group party packages. Expecting moms will love the signature Mama Massage, which focuses on relaxing the lower back muscles and feet. The Body Buff is another blissful treatment with gentler alternatives to harsh scrubs. There are three party packages available. The Pamper and Primp program includes a group class in the fitness studio or treatment in the spa followed by mani/pedis and makeup application. If you have less time, opt for the Spa Splurge package, which includes a massage or body treatment. For larger parties, Beauty Blast is ideal: your group will get access to the lounge in the spa’s Beauty Loft and receive manicures, pedicures and makeup application — plus all the champagne they can drink.

119 Mercer St.
SoHo
Online: sohosanctuary.com

SPARTY!

This is a truly customizable experience that comes to you. Pick what spa services your guests will receive and add-ons that include monogrammed robes and slippers, tarot card readings, DJ, goodie bags and more.

Online: spa-party.com

TO GET COOKING

My Cooking Party

Want to throw a co-ed shower with an exciting twist? Get the group together for a cooking lesson at My Cooking Party. This culinary company, located in the Flatiron District and Chelsea, offers a selection of fun courses. It’s the perfect bonding experience for guests meeting for the first time. Their three-hour cooking class provides hands-on instruction and a three-course meal the staff serves. You can also make the event more competitive and split the guests into teams. Each team will invent and create hors d’oeuvres that are judged based on creativity and taste. Pricing starts at $119 per person, plus 20 percent gratuity, but varies greatly depending on your party size and package.

Online: mycookingparty.com

FOR WILLIAMSBURG CHIC

Fandi Mata

For the boho-chic baby shower of your dreams (in Williamsburg, no less), consider Fandi Mata, where “Brooklyn industrial meets the Mediterranean.” Choose to be seated on the main level, the mezzanine or in the outdoor heated pergola—you’ll be surrounded by plants, vibrant hues and maybe even some macrame. Parties can snack on creative brunch items, large and small plates like breads, pizzas and spreads (lots of varieties of hummus here), and the restaurant specializes in creative cocktails for those who wish to sip a little something. Rates for groups start at $1,000 for a party of 10. 

74 Bayard St.
Williamsburg
Online: fandimata.com

Brooklyn Winery

On first thought, wine tasting might not seem like the best activity for a baby shower. After all, the guest of honor can’t indulge in the house specialty! But before you poopoo the idea, check out Brooklyn Winery’s beautiful private space. This boutique urban winery in Williamsburg has a rustic setting decorated with antique glass candle holders and vintage china. The venue offers two packages: The Afternoon Bites menu, which is well-suited for a cocktail-style event, and the Afternoon Luncheon, which features a more traditional lunch service of salads and sandwiches. You’ll also enjoy some of Brooklyn Winery’s best reds and whites. The space holds anywhere from twenty to 160 people, and you can reserve it for up to three hours. Pricing will vary depending on the number of guests and package you choose.

213 North 8th St.
Williamsburg
Online: bkwinery.com

FOR AFFORDABLE OUTSIDE IDEAS

Throwing a baby shower doesn’t have to break the bank. These NYC spots are perfect if you want to host a casual, free outdoor event. 

Mad. Sq. Music

Is the mom-to-be a music fan? Get a small group together and spend an evening at Madison Square Park listening to some of the world’s top performers. The Oval Lawn Series is held on Wednesday evenings all summer and features a mix of genres. If you’re throwing a Fall shower, The Studio Series is held on Saturday afternoons all autumn and includes folk, blues and Americana acts. The concert is entirely free. Just make sure you arrive early so that you can snag a good spot.

Madison Ave. at 23rd St.
Online: madisonsquarepark.org/music

Hudson River Park Pier 63

This city has no shortage of parks; many are perfect for hosting a picnic lunch. This lush, grassy lawn with unique stone seating and a charming view of the Hudson is one of the best for a laid-back outdoor shower. It’s still not well-known, so it doesn’t get as crowded as the Sheep’s Meadow or other popular spots. Plus, it offers ample room for younger guests to run around. The dads will volunteer to take the kids next door to Chelsea Piers for adult-only events. If you need to create a menu, nearby Chelsea Market is full of gourmet eateries and bakeries.

C or E line to 23rd St.
Online: hudsonriverpark.org

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Postpartum hair loss can be helped. Really.

Having a baby means a million and one changes. Whether it’s your schedule, your body, and literally everything in between, everything is totally turned on its head. No pun intended, but your hair is definitely added to that list. Postpartum hair loss is a classic challenge for many, if not most, new moms, but until it’s actually happening to you, it’s hard to fully understand what the big deal is. But after having thick, luxurious hair during pregnancy (one of the bonuses), watching it thin back out, change texture or lose strength can be not-so-awesome.

But, rest assured you’re not alone. And, postpartum hair loss is such a common problem, there are definitely some solutions that are effective and accessible. No snake oil or empty promises here. These solutions are tried-and-true. Shampoos, styling products, concealers. They’re all here. We’ve gone through soooooo many options and have picked some of our favorites. They’re highly-rated, proven to work, and easy to get your hands on. Editor’s Note: Keep in mind, lots of good things take time. Don’t totally give up if you don’t see immediate improvement. Also, your results will vary. This is not intended to be considered medical advice. We encourage speaking to your healthcare provider about your hair loss concerns, especially if you’re noticing extreme shedding, sudden thinning, and/or irritation.

VEGAMOUR GRO Revitalizing Shampoo & Conditioner

Vegamour

The VEGAMOUR GRO Shampoo features a proprietary Karmatin b-SILK protein which smooths damaged hair, improves the appearance of damage caused by heat and coloring, absorbs dirt and oil, locks in hydration, and protects hair color. The moisturizing conditioner is ultra-rich and promotes visibly fuller hair. You'll start to notice a difference around month 3, with full effects around your 4th month of use when you follow the instructions.

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inala Triple Threat Tonic

inala

Rice water is a powerhouse ingredient for hair strength, and inala's Triple Threat Tonic uses it to formulate a priming, styling, refreshing treatment for all hair types. You'll reduce breakage, add light hold, and hydrate and freshen up your hair between washes. inala Triple Threat Tonic can be used on wet, damp, or dry hair.

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Luvme Hair

Luvme Hair

Okay, you caught us. We did say many of these products take time to see results, but if you're just not into waiting, Luvme Hair offers gorgeous wigs for immediate glam results. Of course, you can choose to rock them while you wait for other treatments to take effect, cover any thinning that makes you self-conscious, or just change up your look whenever you feel like it. Luvme Hair is all about the power to change. And with these options, you'll have lots of reasons to do just that.

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2% Minoxidil Spray with Biotin

Amazon

2% Minoxidil has been proven to restore thinning hair, reduce hair loss, and help keep your scalp healthy. There are a lot of Minoxidil options out there, but this one has great reviews at a wallet-friendly price.

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Editor's Note: This is not intended as medical advice. Speak to your healthcare provider before beginning treatment with Minoxidil or any other medicated product. Minoxidil is not for use by pregnant or nursing women, and those with other conditions outlined by your doctor.

OUAI Fine to Medium Hair Treatment Masque

OUAI

Don’t skip the conditioner even if you have fine or thin hair. It can still get damaged and coarse, and this hair masque from OUAI can be used as frequently as needed (though if you fall into the fine hair category, you'll likely use it less than you might otherwise). 

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Living Proof 5-in-1 Styling Treatment

Sephora

This cream is powered by Living Proof’s "healthy hair molecule" to smooth and protect by forming a weightless shield around each hair strand, while the "thickening molecule" creates space between strands for hair that looks and feels fuller. That sounds like a lot of science, but the customer ratings speak for themselves. The result? Smooth, strong, voluminous hair—and endless compliments (here for that).

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ANYA Scalp Serum

ANYA

Free of toxic chemicals, 100% vegan, and safe while breastfeeding, this serum from ANYA is formulated with powerful ingredients shown to stimulate hair follicles and promote fuller, thicker hair. Best results are seen after 90 days of use. so patience is a virtue here.

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A22 Biotin Boost Hair + Scalp Serum

Spoiled Child

Increase the appearance of thicker, fuller, healthier hair with this innovative blend of 100+ vitamins, minerals, amino acids, and essential oils that has been shown to support your natural healthy hair cycle and to combat signs of thinning & shedding. Caffeine, biotin, rosemary oil, and more are all safe for sensitive skin.

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The Complete Routine by Oh Hey Mama

Oh Hey Mama

This powerful hair bundle is specially formulated to help you fight the scalp issues that cause slow growth, breakage, and excessive shedding. Formulated with stimulating herbs and extracts for growth, nourishing oils that heal and protect, and DHT-blocking ingredients that help fight the most common hormonal reason for hair thinning and fall-out.

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Nutrafol Postpartum Hair Growth Supplements

Nutrafol

We typically don't recommend supplements, largely because they work differently from person to person. But everything we've read about Nurtrafol makes us confident in their Postpartum Hair Growth Supplements. Their ingredients are standardized to make sure each serving is the same, plus this formula is breastfeeding-friendly. You know what we're going to say, though. Make sure you speak with your healthcare provider before starting any supplement regimen.

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Bombay Clip-In Hair Extensions

Bombay Hair

Even if you've never used hair extensions before, or even considered them, they can make a huge difference. Bombay clip-in hair extensions are so, so user-friendly, and come in a ton of colors, lengths, and weights (yep, weight matters with hair extensions—if you have weaker or brittle hair, you'll want to go for lightweight extensions to avoid breakage). Bombay Hair also does a custom color match—just send in photos of your hair per their website instructions and they'll tell you your best match.

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Toppik Hair Filler Keratin Fiber

Toppik

Toppik is a well-known name in thinning hair solutions. These little fibers work like fibers in some mascara formulas—they conceal roots, fill in sparse areas, and add volume. It comes in several colors, and Toppik highly recommends finishing it with their FiberHold Spray.

Toppik Hair Filler Keratin Fiber ($24.95)—Buy Here!

Voloom Volumizing Iron

Voloom

This grid-patterned heated iron is designed to be used right at your roots, hidden by the rest of your hair, to provide immediate boost, volume, and texture. It's not a curling iron or a flat iron—it's created to lift your hair up and away from your scalp for volume that can last for days, depending on your hair type and products used.

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