We’ve all had those days when we don’t feel like picking up one more LEGO. Or when it would be nice if those little sprouts we popped out would, oh I don’t know, put the clothes they’ve tossed just outside the hamper into it. We can dream.
But seriously: When do our kids go from adorable little helpers who think the dustbuster is the coolest thing ever—to small roommates who won’t put in their share? And how do we change that?
So what’s a weary parent to do? How can we get kids to help without force, bribes, or threats? We chatted with experts and came up with 12 motivation tips for unhelpful kids.
1. Start early.
If you’re reading this and you still have kids of that emotionally pliable age (usually under five), now’s your chance to shape them into the helpful little people you want them to be. To do this, parent coach Abigail Wald recommends making the act of helping—which means doing things like doing dishes, cooking, folding laundry, etc.—a non-negotiable. They’re just something we do.
“From when your kids are very young, if you don’t make it a chore but you just make it what everyone does, that makes it easier as they grow up,” says Wald, whose workshops and podcasts aim to help parents of strong-willed kids.
Great, but what if you missed that particular memo, and you’re reading this with a brood of older kids who still balk at your simple requests to be helpful? What motivation tips do you use then?
2. Make it a habit.
Things come easier when they’re part of a routine. So start making some habits! For instance, pick a “Laundry Day” and have everyone pitch in.
“Make it play and do it all together so that it’s not like, ‘OK, you do this on your own,’ That builds the habit so that by the time the kid is older, maybe they can just do the laundry; they’ve built the habit and it’s been a fun pleasurable experience,” says Wald.
3. Don’t act like chores are “hard.”
If every time you set out to do the laundry you loudly lament the mountain of washing and folding ahead of you (literally, for this mom of 11!), it’s not going to make that particular chore very appealing to your future folders.
Our attitude toward chores rubs off on our kids, Wald explains. “If we act like we hate doing chores and then we say to our kids, ‘OK, now you’re old enough to do them,’ it feels like a negative thing and they’re not going to want to do them.”
Try to shift the way you look at helping, and they might, too. Have fun with it. Play dirty clothes basketball with the hamper! And be consistent: The more positive experiences kids have with helping, the more motivated they’ll be to keep it up.
Kids are more likely to do something when they’ve decided for themselves. “Say to them, ‘Obviously, I’m asking you to do things you don’t want to do. So why don’t you choose?’ Give them autonomy to choose how they want to help instead of defining it,” suggests Wald.
If your child chooses a task and doesn’t follow through, give them another chance. Wald explains that you can bring up the fact they didn’t follow through on the task and that you recognize there should be a system in place to support them. That’s when you see if they need help or want to pick something different.
5. Don’t fix what they do when they’re trying to be helpful.
So you asked your child to make their bed… and they did! They actually did! But when they proudly show you their work, you see that the sheets are still sagging to the floor and the comforter is draped diagonally across the bare mattress. It looks almost messier than when everything was just heaped on the ground.
This is an important motivation tip—resist the urge to fix it. “When our kids help, and then we fix what they have done—like, they fold their laundry and then we refold it in front of them—it makes them feel like, ‘Well, why am I going to do that?’ So it’s really important to focus on them doing it rather than them doing it right,” Wald says.
6. When it comes to helping siblings, use flattery to motivate.
You’ve got to be good at something to help someone else. So if you want your older child to help their younger sib with math homework, for instance, don’t make it feel like a job; make it feel like an opportunity for your older kid to strut their stuff. You can say something like: “I think your brother has a hard time grasping this—and I think this is one of those things you understand already—would you have a look at this?”
7. Make a “Circle of Kindness” to pay them back for their helpfulness.
After your kids have done something helpful, a good motivation tip is to show them you appreciate them by paying it forward. You can say ‘I noticed that you did something helpful for your brother, now I want to help you do something to thank you.” Wald says parents should remember to “make it a cycle” of kindness so that kids’ helpful actions trigger a circle of generosity within the family.
8. Use incentives (not bribes).
While you don’t want to flat-out bribe your kid, you can offer incentives. After all, doing chores or any work isn’t fun for everyone—especially tweens and teens, who would often rather be doing anything else. “When you have a job, you don’t necessarily love all parts of the job but you might like what it allows you to buy or the experiences it allows you to have. That’s OK,” Wald says.
9. Allowance helps.
For older kids (9+), try offering an allowance in exchange for completing chores or tasks. Sit down with your child and make a list of chores or tasks. Then, let that be the child’s “job” for the week.
Stixrud, whose academic work has centered on intrinsic motivation in children and young adults, explains it this way: “I like the logic of, ‘I want you to earn the money you spend,’ You can tell them, ‘I want to give you money. It makes you happy when I see you get the things you want. But I want you to earn those things.'”
10. Don’t force them to be helpful.
According to Stixrud, forcing an unwilling child to be helpful is like forcing an unwilling child to apologize: It gets the job done but doesn’t build the emotional IQ you want from the child. “When parents say, ‘How do I motivate my kid to do his homework or brush his teeth or mow the lawn, what they’re saying is, ‘How do I change my kid?’” he says.
Instead, try to work with your child by offering choices and incentives. You can set limits and consequences that make sense (such as, “You need to clean your room if you want friends to come over to play,” or “We have to do the dinner dishes before we can go out for ice cream”), but try to stay away from making your requests for help into forceful demands.
Simply taking force off the table may be motivating in itself. “Letting kids know you’re not going to force them is almost like a superpower,” Stixrud says.
11. Use natural consequences as motivation.
Did your teen not put their laundry in the hamper (again)? Let them run out of clothes! When they come to you, aghast, wondering why there’s no clean underwear in their drawer, tell them they can do it themselves next time. They’ll have to learn how to do the laundry and may think twice about tossing those dirty clothes on the floor next time.
12. Relax, and know your kids will turn out fine.
While it may feel like your child is acting selfish when they refuse to write a thank-you card to a grandparent or clean their rooms when you’ve asked them half a dozen times—don’t blame yourself or catastrophize their future. Their behavior regarding household chores and teen angst-ridden rants are NOT a reflection of you—or who they’re going to be.
Stixrud, stresses that—in the end—the most important thing is our relationship with our kids. “I promise, it doesn’t mean they will be lifelong slackers. It’s better if we let them slide occasionally than to be on them constantly and have it sour the relationship.”
New moms aren’t your average giftees. New schedules, new workday routines, and a whole new person make your usual go-to Mother’s Day gifts a little less reliable. Maybe a gift card for a night out is a little too soon, or a book might sit on the nightstand unread for months as their new family member gets acquainted. You’ll also want to skip any presents that are also kinda for the baby (a new breast pump is cool and appreciated, but not today). Simple, right? No worries. That’s why we’re here.
We’ve put together a guide that makes picking out the best gifts easy. Whether she’s your wife, friend, sister, daughter, coworker, or another loved one, these thoughtful and helpful presents are fantastic on their own, or combined with goodies for the new little one. Or, snag a few that she’ll love from this list and put together a sure-to-be-appreciated box or basket. Whatever you choose, these Mother’s Day gifts for new moms make sure they feel loved!
COS Oversized Crossbody
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For new moms, the days of tiny clutches and wristlets are on pause, but that doesn't mean style is out the window! This amazing oversized crossbody has room for everything mom needs and then some and it's perfectly lightweight. It's crafted from 100% recycled fabric in the signature pillowy texture and offered in a vibrant cobalt-blue shade along with several other great hues.
We're pretty sure we can thank Palm Royale for bringing back the caftan, and thank it we do. Caftans are the epitome of comfort and they're absolutely not just for around the house. Running errands, vacation, pool days, travel, after work, out of the shower...okay, maybe we'll buy two.
Official Bake Off illustrator, Tom Hovey (he does all the illustrations for the show itself!) created this 90 page coloring book that's ideal for any GBBO enthusiast. New moms think about more than enough; this is a great way for her to unwind.
Who has time to wash their hair every day? Not us, and definitely not new moms. Help her keep it out of the way on no-wash days with one of these adorable trucker hats from mother.hats.
Ideal for pregnancy, postpartum, and beyond, this serum set smells incredible: Damask rose and pear or peony, raspberry, and peach, and it nourishes and soothes mom's sensitive belly after all the good work it did. It absorbs fast, feels amazing, and the bottles are so pretty, too!
Although we're well-aware that the adjustment to new baby mode isn't always perfectly easy, this Y2K-vibey stretch bracelet is a great reminder to smile whenever the mood strikes your favorite new mom. Available in silver and gold finishes.
Whether she's returning to the office or managing her personal/professional life from home, this adorable cooler bag is a must. Encourage her to keep snacks, eye patches, breastfeeding supplies, and (of course) water all stocked up in this roomy bag that she can take with her to work or from room to room in her house as she goes about her day. She won't have to keep heading to the kitchen for provisions either way!
This viral style clog is popular for a reason; they're wildly comfortable. Of course, they're also versatile for year-round wear, are really lightweight, easy, and come in multiple colors. But the most important part? They're. So. Comfortable. They'll give the new mom in your life a go-to pair of shoes she can wear around the house and run errands in, plus they can easily accommodate any leftover foot swelling (we've been there!).
Our shopping editor swears Jeni's is the best ice cream on the planet, and we're pretty sure every woman deserves an ice cream subscription. Every month, they'll receive a curated selection of four flavors (often before they’re on sale to the public!) delivered directly to their doorstep. Guaranteed frozen delivery? Yep, that's included, too.
Jin Soon is known for her line of celebrity-loved and deeply-pigmented 21-free nail colors. She proves that nail polish can be free of the gross stuff and long-lasting. This trio includes 3 lucious shades that inspire calm, joy, and comfort (though there are multiple colors available). It's the little things that help new moms feel a little more like themselves.
With Mother's Day arriving as we head into the summer, this beach and picnic blanket makes a perfect gift! It'll help encourage her to take some time to relax when she can, and it also works really well as a play space for the baby at home or out.
Oh-so unique and easy to wear, this watch ring has a beautiful pink face and is surrounded by lab-grown gemstones for some extra glitter. Available in 3 different color combinations.
Keeping hydrated is important, but even more so when you're a new mom. We love a good tumbler, but the Era 40oz is totally leakproof, with a cup holder-friendly base, attached straw, and the ability to keep drinks cool up to 24 hours! Available in a ton of different oclors.
This couch cup holder tray is so genius, we're mad we didn't think of it first. With a versatile cup holder that keeps your beverages secure and the try prevents your remote and phone from slipping between the couch cushions. Available in 6 colors.
The Crossbody Phone Pocket from Leatherology is sleek and easy, making it ideal for travel, for throwing into a larger purse, and keeping her necessities together. Available in multiple color and customization options!
Giving mom chocolate isn't new, but these stunning ganaches and pralines from the andSons Signature Collection are more like edible art. Even the box features the work of LA artist, Matt Murphy. Available in boxes of 6-84 pieces (drool).
Otherland's toxin-free candles let you feel comfortable burning in your home (especially important to new moms), and they're so pretty! We're partial to their Rattan candle—a blend of sandalwood, golden amber, and warm musk.
Designer Ellen Van Dusen doubles down on her love of stripes with this cotton-terry robe that's the perfect example of dopamine dressing! Moms definitely need to start their day with some major comfort she can wear in all seasons. Available in two colorways, but this 'Sea Stripe' combo is really speaking to us right now.
If they're good enough for Jessica Alba and Leona Lewis, we're sold. And actually, grace & stella Eye Masks are a favorite of our group chat. They brighten, restore, and soothe fatigued under eyes and feel amazing. Keep them in the fridge for extra de-puffing!
Porto's Bakery pastry chefs create bake at home goodies that are super easy and beyond delicious. The Porto's Favorites bundle includes their Cheese Roll, Potato Ball, Chicken Empanada, and Refugiado (guava and cheese strudel) so mom can have fresh comfort food treats that taste like homemade.
Moms around the world know all about cold coffee. This 16oz vacuum-insulated stainless steel travel mug is designed to keep drinks cold up to 10 hours and hot for 5 hours. Car-friendly and completely leakproof, the handle includes a cork inlay that makes it comfortable to hold, too. Available in multiple colors.
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How many times have you wanted to just order takeout instead of cooking something on a busy weeknight? Probably more than a few. Rather than stress over preparing a meal from scratch, why not rely on some of the best Trader Joe’s frozen food? These meals, snacks, and sides are quick, simple, and easy on the wallet. Best of all, there’s something for everyone, even your pickiest eaters. (Check our top Trader Joe’s food for picky eaters, too!)
Trader Joe’s Frozen Kimbap
These newcomers took the freezer case by storm and were often on backorder, much to the chagrin of TJ’s shoppers. They pack an umami punch and are great to have on hand for quick lunches.
Mac and Cheese Bites
It's the best of both worlds with Trader Joe's Mac and Cheese bites: bite-size bites of cheesy goodness and a crispy crust. With seven types of cheese that include Cheddar, Havarti, Swiss, Gouda, Cream Cheese, Monterey Jack, and Pecorino Romano for good measure, the whole family will meet their dairy quota for the day, all while enjoying the updated panko-style breading.
Beef Bulgogi
This is one pound of seasoned beef, and you’ll love serving it up with some rice (see below) and potstickers.
Trader Joe’s Frozen Rice
You can have jasmine or brown rice on the table in three minutes with these microwaveable packets in the frozen section. They have literally saved so many dinners.
Hash Browns
These hash browns have addicting properties so consider yourself warned. We love them on weekends when you want something to go with your scrambled eggs.
Sublime Ice Cream Sandwiches
While these aren’t a meal per se (though no judgment if you disagree), we had to include them in this list of favorites. You won’t want to share these with the kids so find a safe spot for them behind the broccoli. They are that good.
Vegetable Fried Rice
This quickly cooks up in minutes on your stove and it’s as close to Chinese take-out as you could hope for.
Beef Birria
If you are craving those dippable tiny tacos that you see at all the taco stands, this is a great product to keep on hand. It packs a flavor punch and is great for Mexican rice bowls or burritos.
Spinach & Artichoke Dip
You’ll love having this dip in your freezer for last-minute visitors or it also works well baked with gnocchi and cherry tomatoes for an easy, cheesy dinner.
Spizzico di Pizza
Forget Bagel Bites, these tiny pizzas will please any picky eater. We guarantee it.
Dutch Griddle Cakes
These are a relatively new release and we love them as a quick option for school mornings. They are flavored with maple syrup (think McGriddle) so you don’t even need to add any messy syrup on top. Pop a sausage patty in between for an on-the-go option.
Potato Pancakes
These latkes are delicious any time of year and heat easily in your oven so you don’t have to worry about frying them.
Gyoza Pot Stickers
This bag of potstickers is your future dinner in a flash. We prefer tossing them in with a bag of frozen vegetables and some of Trader Joe's Gyoza sauce for the perfect one-pot dinner. You can also simmer them in some broth to warm you up on a cold night.
Great for breakfast, lunch, or dinner, this quiche—packed with Swiss cheese, spinach, and two kinds of mushrooms—just hit freezer shelves straight from France. The sweet flower shape of its real butter and wheat flour crust is pretty darling, too. Your tot can don the corresponding aluminum pan as a hat for some entertainment while this dish cooks—it needs 30 minutes in the oven. You’ll find it right next to their Broccoli and Cheddar Cheese and Quiche Lorraine mainstays.
Mini Beef Tacos
If the Shopkins sensation is any indication, kids absolutely love tiny things—so give mini foods a try. These tacos come in beef or chicken varieties and are also easy to load up with nutritious goodness like fresh tomatoes, shredded cheddar cheese, or Trader Joe’s reduced-guilt chunky guacamole!
We all have those nights when dinner needs to be fast and fun. Thankfully, our cries have been heard with this spin on the perennial kid favorite—the hot dog, but in a mini form. The kids will love watching these pups “puff” up in the oven. Then try widening culinary palates with a variety of dipping options, from ketchup to garlic aioli.
Gluten-Free Cheese Pizza
Food allergies are more common than ever these days it seems, and thankfully so are food options that everyone can enjoy, like this classic cheese pizza with a nutritious cauliflower crust. But the kids don’t have to be gluten-free to absolutely love this version of pizza night. It even made the list of 50 of the best Trader Joe’s products in store history.
Mini Vegetable Samosas
Trader Joe’s doesn’t rest on its food laurels. These vegetable samosas are chock full of peas, carrots, potatoes, lentils, onions, and Indian spices. So, yes, these do have a bit of a kick, perfect for kids who aren’t afraid to spice things up. These also pair deliciously with their Mango Ginger Chutney and other ready-to-heat side dishes.
Just when you think there isn’t anything to make for dinner, you'll remember there are meatballs in the freezer and a bag of pasta or a cup of rice ready to boil. With a stash of these minis on hand, it’s also easy to heat up a portion for a side of protein whenever a little diner needs it. Pair it with Trader Joe’s Island Soyaki for an easy dinner sensation. Toothpicks always make fun mealtime props for kids, too.
Mandarin Orange Chicken
Considering this is THE most popular Trader Joe’s frozen food item for the last several years, chances are you may already know and love this freezer favorite. You fortify it with broccoli, peas, and green peppers. Vegetarians and vegans can also rejoice because Chicken-Less Mandarin Orange Morsels are back in the freezer aisle as well.
Chocolate Croissants
Breakfast anyone? These flaky croissants will have you feeling major French vibes, with just the perfect amount of chocolate. Put out the night before to rise overnight, then toss in the oven before enjoying on the go. There's even an almond version if you prefer.
Gone Berry Crazy!
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Don’t forget about dessert! How do strawberry halves drenched in dark chocolate sound? These sweet treats are brand new and already a chilly craze for summer days. The best part may be that you can eat them straight from the freezer.
With over 400 National Parks in the United States, whether you’re into exploring hiking trails, camping, going on scavenger hunts, or even soaking in hot springs, there’s an open space out there that you’ll love. If you have a 4th grader in your crew, be sure to snag the free national parks pass that’s good for their whole 4th-grade year. Another way to get in free is to visit during free national park days or choose a park that’s always free.
With a huge increase in visitors to national parks in recent years, some have instituted a reservation system during peak weekends and summer months. Be sure to check for this before you visit! Keep reading to see our favorite family-friendly parks, along with insider tips to help you make the most of your visit.
What to See & Do: Located around 4 hours from both San Francisco and Los Angeles, Sequoia National Park is home to the famous General Sherman Tree (the world's largest tree by volume). Also not to be missed is The Congress Trail—a 2.7-mile paved hike that loops through the forest where you'll get up close and personal with other famous sequoias like The President, The House, and the Senate—jaw-droppingly beautiful trees that have called this micro-climate home for the past 2,500 years or so.
Tips & When to Go: Open year-round, there's no bad time of year to see these gentle giants. In the winter, you can snowshoe among the trees (some roads may be closed due to conditions) while in the summer, you can spend more time and camp inside the national park if you desire. Weekdays are less crowded than weekends. To help plan your trip, read our insider's guide to visiting Visalia and Sequoia National Park.
From the river bed of the Rio Grande to the peaks of the Chisos mountain range, this remote park runs along the Texas/Mexico border.
What to See & Do: Designated as one of the darkest places in the country, it’s one of the best places to stargaze with your kids. It’s also filled with fossils—be sure to take your dino enthusiast to the Fossil Discovery Exhibit. There are also plenty of hiking opportunities for families: some of the best trails for kids include the Window View, the Basin Loop, the Rio Grande Village Nature Trail, and for older kids, the Lost Mine Trail is worth the trek. One of the most popular things to do in Big Bend, however, is to float the Rio Grande. There are several outfitters that offer easy, half-day floats, like this Madera to Grassy Banks option from Big Bend River Tours, which are perfect for families with young children.
Tips & When to Go: Cell service can be spotty, but free, public WiFi is available at the Panther Junction Visitor Center, the Chisos Mountains Lodge, and the Rio Grande Village Store. The best time to go is Sept.-May, as it gets very hot in the summer.
Famed for its granite domes and ancient sequoia trees, Yosemite is a gold mine for families.
Things to See & Do: Filled with hundreds of miles of hiking trails, two favorites include the Tuolomne Grove Nature Trail because you are rewarded with some massive Giant Sequoias, including the one you can walk through, and the Mist Trail as you have the opportunity to see two waterfalls. Make sure you set aside some time to spend exploring Yosemite Village. Grab some lunch and souvenirs at the gift shop (it is huge—perfect to stock up on everything from hot cocoa to wine to grilling supplies). Take a break to watch the Spirit of Yosemite film at the visitor center to give the kids all the background info on Yosemite and how it came to be a national park.
The Yosemite Museum has hands-on exhibits where kids can learn all about the cultural history of Yosemite’s native Miwok and Paiute people from 1850 to the present. If you are lucky, you may even be able to see traditional skills presented by historians. Outside you can walk through a replica Miwok village to see how they lived.
Tips & When to Go: The park is open year-round, with seasonal activities, but May and Sep. are less crowded.
Sandstone cliffs, slot canyons, and animal wildlife are all part of the wonder of Zion National Park in Utah. You’ll want to give yourselves plenty of time at this scenic destination to take it all in.
Things to See & Do: Try a kid-friendly hike, like The Grotto Trail, Weeping Rock Trail, or the Emerald Pool Trail. While at the Emerald Pool trail, be sure to check out the gorgeous waterfall views. For a fun way for families to learn more about Zion together, head over to the Nature Center. Daily from Memorial Day weekend to Labor Day, youth programs specifically for children and families are offered, and last 30-45 minutes, so they're just the right length for your mini explorers.
Tips & When to Go: Zion National Park is open year-round. Some services or facilities may have limited hours at various times of the year.
Located in Maine, Acadia National Park offers trails along the granite shoreline that seem to rise from the sea. There are plenty of opportunities to learn about lobsters or search for harbor seals, the cool freshwater lakes, and frothy saltwater tidal invite exploring, and there are plenty of yummy lobster dinners within reach.
What to See & Do: Acadia offers families dozens of activities beyond hiking (though the hiking is both excellent and most often very family-friendly), which everyone will love. Pack your bikes for rides along the network of Carriage Roads, and blow their minds at Thunder Hole, a partially submerged cave that booms about an hour before high tide.
Tips & When to Go: While there is plenty to do for visitors of all ages and abilities, much of Acadia’s landscape is very rugged. If you’ve got wee ones in tow, a child’s backpack carrier just might save the trip. Late summer and early fall offer warm days, fewer crowds, and typically chilly evenings, making it the perfect time for a visit.
From mountain waterfalls to ice-cold streams running through rhododendron-laced valleys, the Smokies are full of crystal-clear swimming holes, easy and moderate hikes for all legs, and scenic drives. In addition to being a great national park for kids, this park offers free admission year-round.
What to See & Do: Getting to the Smokies is relatively easy from any place in the southeast, and it’s easily accessible from both Tennessee and North Carolina. Pigeon Forge and Sevierville are both mountain towns just outside of the park and offer plenty of lodging and entertainment options for families looking to neon-light their vacation. A true naturalist would be hard-pressed to find anything wrong with the Smokies, and it’s equally suited for families who prefer to balance their bouts with nature with outlet shopping, live entertainment, and restaurants (all available just outside the park).
Tips & When to Go: It’s rare to have a true off-peak season in the Smokies, so if you’re looking for isolation this isn’t the park for you. However, solitude can be found inside the boundaries of the park, and we recommend going in the early spring to catch the incredible display of ephemeral wildflowers in bloom. Or, go in the fall around the second or third weekend of October to see the brilliant fall leaves.
Explore the coastline and see wild horses on this island sanctuary.
What to See & Do: Since the park is located on a 37-mile-long barrier island, this spot is ideal for beach-loving families. Look for shells, kayak, play in the ocean, or visit one of the centers for a nature program and to experience the marine life touch tanks. Camping is a popular lodging option here, there are several sites, and reservations are required during portions of the year.
Tips & When to Go: Be sure to keep a distance of 40 feet from the wild horses. The park is open year-round, and visitors peak in July, to watch the horses swim the channel, but insects like mosquitos and gnats thrive in the humid summer months. Spring and fall are lovely times to visit.
The third-largest national park in the lower 48 states spans 2,400 miles and offers a respite from cold winter temps elsewhere in the country.
What to See & Do: The dry winter season here means more animals to spot (hello, alligators and manatees!), more ranger programs to attend (think: hikes, bikes, and talks), and way fewer mosquitos than you and the kiddos would find any other time of year. Ride bikes, take a boat tour (most of the park is only accessible by boat), or set up camp before the wet season hits.
The dramatic landscape of Badlands has an otherworldly feel that has to be seen to be believed. With a combination of impressive rock formations and beautiful grasslands, this South Dakota spot is worth a visit as it’s one of our top national parks for kids.
What to See & Do: Drive Badlands Loop Road and stop at a few of the overlooks for jaw-dropping views. Popular with kids, the quarter-mile Fossil Exhibit Trail winds along a boardwalk and features fossil replicas. Along with the Junior Ranger program in the Ben Reifel Visitor Center, kids can also check out the interactive exhibits and visit the theater to watch the film Land of Stone and Light. In the summertime, families can get a close-up view of the night sky through telescopes on Friday through Monday nights at the evening ranger program.
Tips & When to Go: Badlands is open year-round, although the visitor center is closed on Thanksgiving Day, Christmas Day, and New Year’s Day. Summertime offers additional programs such as the Night Sky program, evening ranger programs, guided hikes, and talks.
Although not as well known as some other parks, Cuyahoga Valley is an ideal spot to watch changing foliage, colorful wildflowers and wildlife. Nestled between Cleveland and Akron, Ohio, this midwestern park may become a new favorite.
Things to See & Do: To see a magical view of Blue Hen Falls, the Blue Hen Falls Trail is an easy hike that the whole family can do together. At half a mile and just under thirty minutes, it’s a great intro trail and leads to the peaceful waterfall. You can also try birdwatching, canoeing and a whole schedule of summer events including train rides on the Cuyahoga Valley Scenic Railroad, ranger-led hikes and wildlife walks.
Tips & When to Go: The park is open every day, although some areas close at dusk for the night. Wildflowers are in bloom in mid to late summer.
If you’ve got a dino lover in your house, then Dinosaur National Monument is a definite stop for your list. Inside the Quarry Hall, the kids can check out over 1,500 real preserved dinosaur fossils that are sure to fascinate them. Next, move on to see some petroglyphs and pictographs as you drive the 10-mile Tour of Tilted Rocks. You’ll also find hiking, river rafting, and ranger-guided programs.
Tips & When to Go: Dinosaur National Monument is open every day all year, but during the winter, some roads and facilities are closed. The Quarry Visitor Center and Quarry Exhibit Hall are only open at certain times, so check the website before heading on your trip. In the summertime, temperatures can easily climb over 100 degrees, so take plenty of water, sunscreen, and a hat.
Located only 75 miles outside of Washington, D.C., and with over 100 miles of scenic highway, this park is perfect for families who love a good road trip. Skyline Drive is the main (and only) drag through the park, and the 75 overlooks of the Shenandoah Valley are swoon-worthy.
What to See & Do: The Shenandoah National Park’s Scenic Drive ensures that you will see splendid views and have every opportunity to get out and explore the park since nearly all trailheads are located a short distance from the road. This is the perfect park for families with good car seat travelers!
Tips & When to Go: Because they leave the fields in the Shenandoah National Park unplowed to purposely propagate the wildflowers that bloom there, you are guaranteed to see an incredible show year-round.
Located in Hot Springs, Arkansas, the Hot Springs National Park is the only park that had a city grow up around it. Known for its bubbling mineral springs and their restorative and healing powers, you can still bathe in them today in one of the restored historic bathhouses.
What to See & Do: While the springs have been around for ages, the amenities have continued to improve. You can bathe in the mineral waters from the comfort of a modern-day spa after spending a morning hiking one of the park's 26 miles of trails. And did we mention that there’s a diamond mine only an hour away in Murfreesboro?
Tips & When to Go: We like the idea of a nice, hot mineral spring bath on a cool spring day, don’t you? The bathhouses are open year-round, but Arkansas heats up in the summer and we suggest going during one of the cooler months.
You can see beaches, rainforests, and mountains at this beautiful park in the Pacific Northwest. Olympic National Park holds a little something for everyone.
What to See & Do: On the coast, kids four and up can be “Ocean Stewards” and earn a badge for completing activities. You can also explore tide pools, try any number of family hiking trails or spend some time on Rialto Beach. For evening fun, join one of the Night Sky programs, such as stargazing or full moon hikes at Hurricane Ridge.
Tips & When to Go: June through September are the most popular times to visit. Although the park is most crowded during these times, the park also has the most facilities and programs available. The park is still a show-stopping sight in winter, but check the website for weather and road conditions first.
Lava Beds National Monument is a must-visit spot when you bring the family to Siskiyou County in Northern California. Here you can check out free flashlights from the visitor center and explore the many (VERY DARK) caves that were formed when lava flowed through the area thousands of years ago. For the youngest explorers, check out Mushpot Cave just a short walk from the visitor center. This is the only cave that has its own lighting in the tunnel.
What to See & Do: Skull Cave (pictured above) is a popular choice because of its massive size. A good lighting source will be needed if you want to venture all the way down to the cave's ice floor (the flashlights from the visitor center can be pretty dim so you might want to bring your own).
Tips & When to Go: Summer is a great time to visit Lava Beds. Remember that even though it might be in the 90s above ground that it will be very chilly when you head into the caves so long pants/long sleeves are recommended. There's no restaurant at the park so bring in lunch with you when you visit. Check out our guide to visiting Siskiyou County with kids for lots of other tips including where to visit the petroglyphs!
While not an official national park, Indiana Dunes still offers visitors over 15 miles of protected lakeshore and 48 miles of trails—some within sight of the Chicago skyline!
What to See & Do Lake Michigan’s sandy shoreline includes dunes that reach as high as 125 feet tall, and its National Lakeshore status has protected its natural beauty from development and commercialization. If you decide to explore the dunes, just be sure to stay on the marked trails to protect the natural habitat!
Tips & When to Go Indiana Dunes National Lakeshore is a perfect spot for a picnic, day hike or day at the beach from the moment the sun starts shining in the spring until the last leaves have fallen in autumn.
Located in central Kentucky, Mammoth Cave is the world’s longest-known cave system. Experience the underground adventure with cave tours, trails, and more.
What to See & Do: You’ll find over 84 miles of hiking trails suitable for all different levels, so find the one that works best for your family and get ready to explore. A variety of cave tours are also available so you can see Mammoth Cave up close and personal. The Frozen Niagara is a popular cave tour for families with young kids. Lasting an hour and 15 minutes, the tour is ideal for small hikers at just about a quarter of a mile. Reservations are strongly recommended, but not required.
Tips & When to Go: The cave is open year-round, and the Visitor Center’s hours vary by season.Cave temperatures are between the 50s and 60s but can become much colder in the winter. When touring the caves, flash photography is not permitted. Strollers and child backpack carriers are also not permitted on cave tours, so make sure young ones are up for the walk.
Mountain scenery, glacier-chiseled lakes, and tons of activities greet you at this stunning park in Montana.
What to See & Do: Visit the Apgar Nature Center so kids can play and learn with various interactive activities, ranger talks, and children’s programs. Take in the scenery and look for wildlife as you drive the 50-mile Going to the Sun road. As an alternative, you can use the free shuttle along Going to the Sun Road between the nature center and the St. Mary Visitor Center. You’ll also want to make sure to make time to explore the park with a hike. Plenty of trails are popular with children, such as Trail of the Cedars, Hidden Lake Nature Trail or the Oxbow Trail. After you’ve worked up an appetite, don’t forget to make a stop for a scoop of huckleberry ice cream! A Glacier must.
Tips & When to Go: Glacier is open every day of the year, although hours at visitor stations vary by season. Summer is the most popular season to visit. Weather-related events may affect Going to the Sun Road plowing and opening, so follow the park’s current road status to get the latest information.
Little fossil fans will love imagining past prehistoric days and dinosaurs as they explore the Painted Desert landscape of Petrified Forest National Park.
What to See & Do: Be sure to make a stop at the Rainbow Forest Museum where your kids will enjoy the interactive exhibits and skeleton displays. From the museum parking area, you can find the trailhead for the Agate House trail, a two-mile trek with a paved portion, leading to an old pueblo made of petrified wood. At the Painted Desert Visitor Center, you’ll find an orientation video, a restaurant, gift shop, and plenty of information about the park.
Tips & When to Go: Petrified Forest National Park is open year-round, with the exception of December 25th. However, visitor center hours and park road hours vary by season.
Visiting White Sands feels a little bit like running through a dream. Acres and acres of soft white gypsum sand dunes will have the kids running, rolling and sliding for hours.
What to See & Do: Hit the Visitor Center first to learn all about how White Sands formed, and then head out to experience it! The eight-mile ride down Dunes Drive will take you to the center of the dune field. Sleds can be purchased at the Visitor Center, and little ones (and adults!) will love the chance to take a slide down. Sledding is permitted in the loop area of Dunes Drive. The Visitor Center also has a Junior Rangers program, a gift shop and a native plant garden. Kids can also check out an Adventure Pack for the day, containing binoculars, field guides, a compass and other items to help them explore the dunes.
Tips & When to Go: White Sands is open daily all through the year, with the exception of December 25. The monument occasionally closes for inclement weather or unsafe road conditions. Hours vary depending on the season, so check the website for the latest times. Pack sunglasses and don’t forget the sunscreen, because the sun shining off of those white dunes is bright.
Be wowed by the active volcanoes of Kilauea and Mauna Loa on Hawaii’s Big Island!
Things to See & Do: Start at the Visitor Center and check out the video Born of Fire, Born of the Sea. You’ll want to cruise the main road of Crater Rim Drive, where you’ll find tons of scenic stops to admire, such as Kilauea Overlook for unbeatable views. Swing by the Jaggar Museum where you can learn all about lava, seismographs and everything volcano-related. Finally, take your flashlights and explore the magnitude of Nahuku, the Thurston Lava Tube.
Tips & When to Go: The park is open year-round, including all holidays. The park contains two active volcanoes, so safety is always a priority. Stay up to date on volcanic activity and air quality before visiting by checking the park’s website.
Joshua Tree’s beautiful desert landscapes, nature trails and Dr. Seuss-like trees make this park a consistent favorite for families. It’s definitely worth a stop on your next California journey.
What to See & Do: You’ll find plenty of short trails and nature walks that won’t be too strenuous for small hikers. The Bajada, Cap Rock, Hidden Valley, and Cholla Cactus Garden are loop trails that are all one mile long or shorter and take an hour or less to complete. Let the kids pose for a photo with the appropriately named Skull Rock, located along the main park road. If you’re there at night, don’t miss the chance to gaze up at some unbelievable stars.
Tips & When to Go: Joshua Tree can get extremely hot in the summer, so a spring visit might be more comfortable, weather-wise. You’re in the desert, so plenty of water is also a must!
Yellowstone is definitely one for your national parks list! With geysers, hiking trails, animals, and forests on display, this gorgeous park is a can’t-miss stop on your road trip.
What to See & Do: No trip to Yellowstone is complete without a visit to Old Faithful, the world’s most famous geyser. Take a stroll on the boardwalks around the geyser, and then stop by the Visitor Center to find out when the next eruption is scheduled to take place! You can get a great look and a photo op from the viewing area nearby. While you’re in the Visitor Center, kids can sign up for the Yellowstone Junior Ranger program, where they can earn a badge after completing a series of activities around the park.
Grand Prismatic is another stunning feature on your Yellowstone trip. The park’s largest hot spring boasts bright colors that almost seem unreal. The boardwalk surrounding Grand Prismatic does get crowded, so hold tight to little hands as you check out this amazing thermal feature.
Driving into Yellowstone, you’ll catch some great wildlife sightings, and maybe even a bison crossing, which is always a thrill for little ones.
Tips & When to Go: Summer offers a ton of available activities but is by far Yellowstone’s busiest season, so expect crowds and a slow drive into the park. Spring, summer and winter offer fewer crowds, but some roads and activities are not available depending on weather, so keep up to date on Yellowstone’s website and plan your trip well in advance. We also love visiting in the winter via snowcoach!
With over 2,000 natural stone arches, beautiful red rock formations, and hikes for all ages, Arches National Park is a treat for the whole family.
What to See & Do: Drive through the park to catch a glimpse of some of the famous arches, and stop for strolls and photos. Kids will love Balanced Rock, a gravity-defying structure with a short loop trail that is perfect for small hikers. Another great spot for your little road trippers is Sand Dune Arch. With a 0.3-mile hike and tons of soft sand to play in, kids will have a blast making a detour here.
Tips & When to Go: March through October is the park’s busiest season, so expect crowds and longer lines to drive into the park. Rangers programs are offered in spring, summer, and fall, and the Visitor Center is open daily, except for December 25.
Kids love volcanos, and they’ll love that this lake formed from a volcano is also the deepest one in America. But there’s more to Crater Lake National Park than just the lake, and you’ll want to hit the trails (and fishing holes, and swimming holes) before you wrap up your visit.
What to See & Do: Trying to spot the Phantom Ship (a rock formation along the rim) is worth the trip all by itself, and Crater Lake National Park also offers boat trips to Wizard Island. With its volcanic past, this park is perfect for littles with big imaginations.
Tips & When to Go: Accessible almost all year, Crater Lake is rarely overwhelmed by visitors, even in the summer. Go between July and September for the best weather (and best chance to get out and explore).
Located just off the coast of Ventura, California, Channel Islands National Park is the perfect family day trip. Accessible only by boat or plane, the Park includes five islands.
What to See & Do: Not only are the islands great to explore by foot or kayak, but the necessary boat ride to get there adds to the trip’s element of adventure. Since these islands are truly remote, don’t take anyone whose needs might exceed what you can carry in a backpack. Tiny tots and need-to-nappers might be better off going when they get a tad older.
Tips & When to Go: While the islands are open to visitors year-round, fall, with warmer water and animal migrations, is a sure bet for the WOW factor. Keep your eyes peeled for blue and humpback whales off the coast, and you’re sure to see dolphins as you make your way to the islands by boat.
Additional reporting by Anna Doogan & Shelley Massey
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Love the idea of camping but don’t feel like setting up a tent? Then glamping is for you! With the choice of cabins, yurts, tent cabins, Airstreams, yurts, and even treehouses, we’ve collected the Bay’s best glamping and cabin camping spots where your family can sleep outside all without setting up your own tent. Find your next glamping adventure today.
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Huttopia Wine Country | Lower Lake, CA
Huttopia
This property is about an hour from Napa and miles away from busy city life. Located on the Six Sigma Ranch property, Huttopia Wine Country is a kid-friendly oasis where parents can relax and read a book while kids ride their bikes around the property. You can expect movie nights under the stars, days spent hiking and swimming in the property's pool, and meeting other travelers while you're there. Huttopia's glamping tents are some of the most comfortable that we've seen, many with their own private bathroom. Read our full property review.
This spot is perfectly situated right on the Russian River and it's definitely going to be your next favorite glamping spot. Oversized glamping tents sleep up to six with a queen bed and two cots for the kids, a two-queen version, or the six-person bunk bed tent.
Bed linens, space heaters for cool nights, bedside lamps, and a covered six-foot deck are included. (Bring your own sleeping bags for the kid cots). Upgrade to a premium tent and add on a fire pit with a cooking grill, picnic table, and additional chairs for your front deck. The riverside tents have the best views, more privacy, and even your own hammock! Shared facilities include restrooms, a shower shed, and BBQs.
Six acres of land plus another four acres of river area are yours to explore at Wildhaven. Go tubing in the Russian River, explore local roads via bikes, rent a kayak or SUP for the day, and head to nearby Healdsburg for wine tasting and plentiful dining options.
Head up the 101 to Cloverdale for some serious Russian River time at this spot that offers all sorts of glamping and camping options for families. Primarily an RV park, families looking for a glamping experience can book a few nights at the cabins that offer A/C, beds (to sleep up to 6), a full-sized fridge, grilling equipment, and even WiFi if you need it. We found the accommodations to be very comfortable on our recent stay!
The property's highlight is definitely its access to the Russian River. Set up your gear at one of the rocky beach areas and spend the day floating down the river and rock-jumping into the deep pools. Kids can ride their scooters around the property and there's a playground for the little ones.
33655 Geyers Rd. Cloverdale, CA Online: rvonthego.com
If you want some extra space to spread out on your next visit to Mendocino, a kitchen to cook up some farm-fresh eggs in the morning, and a quaint cottage to call home, this is your spot. The Inn at Schoolhouse Creek offers cottages with different layouts to suit the needs of families of all sizes. On a recent visit, we stayed in the Pomo Cottage which had a full kitchen, a bedroom with a king-sized bed, pull-out couches that could sleep up to four people, and a private hot tub for soaks under the sun. The property also has a spa, BBQs for public use, and a gorgeous property and creek for exploring. Dogs are also welcome!
LOGE, the lifestyle hotel group which brings forgotten motels back to life, welcomes families to its Mt. Shasta property where they'll find family-sized rooms with bunk beds and storage for all your gear. Hotel rooms and covered camping sites all come with your very own hammock by Kammok for relaxing after a day on the trails. Other on-site partnerships include Traeger wood fire grills.
Life is easy at LOGE where you'll find an on-site cafe and bar, fire pits for making new friends, and plenty of outdoor recreation nearby. Even your dog is welcome to join in the fun!
1612 S Mt Shasta Blvd. Mt. Shasta, CA Online: logecamps.com
Mendocino Grove—Mendocino
Mendocino Grove
Mendocino Grove is a newcomer to the glamping scene and they know how to do it right. With 60 fully-outfitted tents with lavish beds, your family will not want to leave once you have arrived. Kids can spend the days enjoying the nearby hiking trails and on-site amenities like cornhole, bocce ball and other games. Campfires and gas barbecues make cooking easy. You can even rent cooking equipment so you don't have to lug your pans with you. Luxurious bathrooms and hot water stations make this a no-brainer for families. Relax on a hammock and enjoy the fresh air. At Mendocino Grove, it's R 'n R at its finest.
Railfans, this is the spot for you! Head north to Siskiyou County and 45 minutes past Redding will get you to Railroad Park Resort where you can glamp in the utmost style. Here families bed down in vintage railroad cabooses that sleep up to five people. You'll have a fridge, full bathroom, WiFi, and microwave as well as an on-site pool, a restaurant (serving breakfast and dinner in a rail car!), and a creek for exploring. They also have an RV and campground with access to the pool. The nearby area is full of waterfalls, fishing spots, and lakes for boating. The perfect family getaway awaits!
100 Railroad Park Rd. Dunsmuir, CA Online: rrpark.com
You'll definitely want to bring along some other families when you plan your trip to Lake Siskiyou. This idyllic spot will bring you back to your summer camp days with movies by the lake, a sandy beach with gorgeous mountain scenery, and even an arcade for when you need a little veg-out time. You can bring your RV or pop up a tent in one of the camping sites or glamp out at a cabin lakeside. Cabins come with fire rings for s'mores and kitchens for cooking. You can also dine at the on-site restaurant that serves pizza and other kid-friendly fare. Kids will especially love their time spent in the splash zone—the inflatable water park that offers slides, trampolines, and hours of entertainment (open seasonally).
Since 1900, guests have made their way to Drakesbad Guest Ranch for some time in nature. Drakesbad's prime location in Lassen Volcanic National Park is only five hours from the Bay Area but a million miles away from the craziness of everyday life. The property offers cabins and bungalows that are perfect for families and all have amazing views of the nearby mountains. There are horses to ride, swings for relaxing, a hot spring-fed pool, and nightly campfires. All rooms come with three meals served at the dining hall so you don't have to worry about cooking for the kids. If you are going to be hiking to Boiling Springs Lake to see the bubbling mud pots, you can opt to take a sack lunch with you.
14423 Chester Warner Valley Rd. Chester, CA Online: drakesbad.com
For a truly coastal experience, you can stay right at the Point Arena Lighthouse in one of their six vacation cottages. They come with a well-equipped kitchen, satellite TV, wood-burning fireplace, and the most gorgeous coastal views. Wake up to hear the waves crashing against the rocks and spend your days exploring the 23 acres of land adjacent to the lighthouse.
All lighthouse quarters include unlimited visits to the museum and climbs up the lighthouse tower (a surefire way to tire out the kiddos). Check for seasonal specials to grab yourself a free night or bucks to use at the lighthouse gift shop. Bonus: you can feel good knowing you are supporting this non-profit in its goal of keeping the light on for visitors for generations to come.
These cabins right near wine country are perfect for families looking to explore this area without having to shell out the big bucks for a hotel. This KOA offers tons of amenities for those with kids—fire pits, barbecues, swimming pool, ping pong table, and even a video arcade. Choose from one and two-bedroom cabins that sleep up to six. Grab a cup of coffee from the on-site coffee stand before you head out on your morning hike.
1166 Asti Ridge Rd. Cloverdale, CA Online: koa.com
Bothe-Napa Valley State Park—Calistoga
This beautiful 1,900-acre state park in the heart of Napa Valley boasts 10 trails that run through coastal redwoods, Douglas firs, big-leaf maples (gorgeous in the fall) and oaks; a spring-fed swimming pool for cooling off on steamy summer days; and an easy bike ride to award-winning wineries. And yurts! The year-round campground has three reservable yurts that sleep up to six people and seven smaller ones that can accommodate a family of four. You can also reserve one of the three cabins on site. All include skylights, lockable doors, an outdoor fire pit, and a picnic table, with bathrooms and showers nearby.
This off-the-grid spot on the Mendocino Coast offers tranquility like you've never had before. Cabins, yurts, and even geodesic domes are scattered around the property to give you privacy and also offer the option of gathering together with multiple families. Some offer kitchenettes for cooking and most are just a short walk to the river. Included in a cabin rental is access to the community house, which is a shared kitchen, living space, and bathhouse for all Oz Farm guests. This working farm also offers a variety of seasonal produce. Pack light as you'll need to walk a short distance from your car to your residence.
Come to Santa Rosa for the exotic animals and stay for the one-of-a-kind overnight glamping experience at the Safari West wildlife preserve. The heavy canvas tents—imported from Africa—have hardwood floors, and the sounds of wildlife give the feel of camping, while heaters and ceiling fans provide home comforts. While the luxurious bedding is nice, the highlight of the experience for all ages is the more than 800 animals that roam these acres. (Note that the tents are separated from the wildlife for safety reasons.)
3115 Porter Creek Rd. Santa Rosa, CA Online: safariwest.com
Windsong Guest Yurt—Point Reyes Station
This secluded glamping spot in Point Reyes Station comes with a California king bed and pull-out couch, a full kitchen, a wood-burning stove and electric heat, and Wi-Fi. With the gorgeous views, abundant nature, and nearby attractions, you won't even notice the cable TV. Start your day right with your complimentary welcome basket filled with fruit, muffins, and eggs before hiking around Point Reyes National Seashore. At night after the kiddos are off in dreamland, you can stargaze from the hot tub in your private garden. There is a two-night minimum stay, although one-night weekday stays can be arranged for special occasions. This place books fast, so check their calendar in advance.
Yosemite Bug Rustic Mountain Resort | Midpines, CA
Families looking for the perfect combination of rustic and convenient will love the Yosemite Bug. Located in Midpines on the road between Mariposa and the El Portal entrance, you'll be perfectly located for Yosemite adventures. The Yosemite Bug offers lots of different lodging options—cabins, rooms with private bathrooms, rooms with shared bathrooms, glamping tents, camping spots, and even hostel rooms. There's also an onsite spa.
Yosemite Bug has trails on the property that will lead you down to a waterfall and swimming hole (be careful as the trails are steep and difficult for little ones). You can rent out snowshoes in the winter (as available). The kids will love the outdoor ping pong and foosball tables and parents will love that the rooms do not have TVs (because, nature!).
Part glamping adventure and part cowboy getaway, Greenhorn Ranch offers the best of both worlds to families who come back year after year (and once you experience it, you'll know why). Horseback riding gets center stage at this ranch in the Lost Sierra that's just four hours from the Bay Area. Saturday night BBQs are a highlight so make sure you book your stay over the weekend. Families will love the rustic elegance of the creekside cabins that will sleep up to six people.
2116 Greenhorn Ranch Rd. Quincy, CA Online: tinybeans.com
Wylder Hotel Hope Valley
Kate Loweth
Tucked away on the eastern edge of Hope Valley in the mountain landscape of the Sierra Nevada, Wylder Hotel Hope Valley is an iconic, 165-acre all-season resort built with equal parts relaxation and adventure in mind. Only 25 minutes from South Lake Tahoe, Wylder Hope Valley celebrates the spirit of its natural surroundings, as the West Fork Carson River meanders through the ground’s expansive alpine meadows.
Wylder Hope Valley’s accommodations include 30 uniquely built cabins made across different decades for the past 100 years—ranging from riverfront cabins for two to homesteads for groups of up to eight people.
For the camping enthusiast, there are expansive campgrounds with various sites for tents and RVs. A wide range of onsite activities includes relaxing in a wood-fired sauna, enjoying wine or hot cocoa by the fire, hiking, mountain biking, and snowshoeing—while off-property adventures await such as hot springs, swimming, kayaking, fishing, skiing, and so much more.
14255 Highway 88 Hope Valley, CA Online: tinybeans.com
Evergreen Lodge at Yosemite
Kate Loweth
If you are looking for modern conveniences in a woodsy setting, pick Evergreen Lodge for your next stay when you visit Yosemite. Right now, Evergreen Lodge is celebrating 100 years of welcoming families to Yosemite and it's the perfect time to visit. The property is located about 10 minutes off highway 120 on the road that takes you to Hetch Hetchy Reservoir. You'll feel like you are totally away from it all when you visit.
Accommodations include cabins of every size including the two-bedroom family cabins that we definitely recommend for those visiting with little ones. You'll get a bedroom with a king-size bed, another with two twins, and a central living room with a pull-out couch. Custom camping is also available if you really want to get a taste of the outdoors.
You need to check out the brand-new Explorer Cabins at Tenaya Lodge as families love them. The picturesque cabin development combines the refined comforts of a modern cabin, personalized service, and the perks of a full-service resort—all in a pristine mountain setting. At 650 square feet, the “mountain modern” cabins sleep up to six guests and include a living room, kitchen area, two bedrooms, and a private deck from which to unwind after a day of adventure. The family cabins, outfitted with bunk beds in the second bedroom, are nestled in the interior areas and grouped for easy socialization and community gathering. Kids will especially love the Kids Adventure Course, archery, flashlight hikes, and mountain bikes available for rent.
1122 Highway 41 PO Box 159 Fish Camp, CA Online: tenayalodge.com
49er Village RV Resort—Plymouth
Nestled in the Sierra Foothills of Amador County, 49er Village RV Resort provides the perfect destination for you and your family. They offer a wide selection of accommodations with hundreds of full-hookup sites and charming cabin rentals. Take a dip in the beautiful swimming pools and hot tub. Enjoy a game of shuffleboard, horseshoes or billiards. Then, get in touch with nature at the fishing ponds.
Offsite, visit the over 35 award-winning wineries and numerous championship golf courses nearby. Or, breathe in the natural beauty of Amador Flower Farm in the Shenandoah Valley.
Are you a tent, trailer, or pillow-top mattress kind of family? Whatever your camping style, the new Inn Town Campground has an option for you, from woodsy tent sites, to spacious RV sites with full hook-ups to prime glamping sites. There are 15 glamping sites available, and each features a large canvas tent erected on an elevated platform and includes perks like private decks, electric lighting (and outlets), and of course, cozy, fully-made-up beds—configurations range from 1 (queen) to 4 (twin) beds. Each glamping tent is decorated with an individual theme and unique furnishings, and some are even designated dog friendly. The back decks feature camp chairs and electric lanterns. There are even extra cots available to accommodate bigger broods.
AutoCamp welcomes guests to their new Yosemite property that's perfect for families. Nestled on 35 acres in the Sierra Nevada Mountains, the Yosemite property features 80 deluxe Airstream trailers as well as 15 luxury tents and three cabins. Airstreams can accommodate up to two adults and two kids (queen bed + pull-out sofa) and the cabins sleep up to five. After a day of hiking, relax by the on-site (heated!) pool or canoe in the freshwater pond. Nights will definitely be spent roasting s'mores around the fire pit and making new friends.
Stargazing events and nature talks among other programming are available. YARTS shuttle service will take you from the property into Yosemite so that you don't have to worry about jockeying for a parking spot. Forgot something? Head to the AutoCamp Shop for all the essentials.
Venture up to Amador County for some glamping along the shore of Lake Camanche. With both cottages and vacation homes available to rent, there's something for families of all sizes. The cottages include fully-equipped kitchens and a large deck for enjoying the outdoors. The vacation homes can accommodate up to 12 people and include a kitchen, washer/dryer, outdoor dining area, and even a TV. Lake Camanche offers swimming, watersports, fishing, summer movie nights, and more.
Big Sur's heavenly mix of forested mountains, rugged coastline, and lack of cell service make it the ideal locale for getting away. But even if you wanted to sleep on the ground in a tent, scoring a summer spot in the popular Pfieffer Big Sur State Park can feel like trying to win the lottery. Just up the road, and with access to the same trees and beautiful coastal amenities, is the Fernwood Resort. Their tent cabins run alongside the Big Sur River and come with raised beds, picnic tables and fire pits, and access to the camp store and the Fernwood Bar & Grill, for when you don't feel like grilling.
The cabins are a great option for families who don't want the hassle of setting up a tent. Each cabin comes with a fire ring and an outdoor picnic table. The on-site general store has literally anything you'd need from ice cream to water shoes for the river.
If you have never brought the kids to a KOA for camping then you are in for a real treat. This spot near Manresa State Beach and the Santa Cruz Boardwalk offers Deluxe Cabins with bunk beds or a sleeping loft for the kids and brand-new Glamping Cabins that are perfect for a romantic getaway. The Santa Cruz/Monterey Bay KOA's activity park includes an outdoor ping pong table, climbing statues, KOA jumping pillow, and a pool.
Perhaps the best part of a KOA is that there are loads of activities for kids that are hosted by on-site counselors (translation: parents can relax). Get strapped in to climb the coconut palm trees, watch movies under the stars, and enjoy s'mores without the cleanup!
1186 San Andreas Rd. Watsonville, CA Online: koa.com
This hostel recently converted its rooms to private rentals and they are perfect for families. There are three units available and each sleeps up to 10 people. You'll have your own kitchen and an outdoor dining area with gorgeous views of the California coast. Walk just north of the lighthouse and there are some easily-accessible tide pools—perfect for exploring. Swing by downtown Pescadero or Pie Ranch for some tasty grub.
210 Pigeon Point Rd. Pescadero, CA Online: hiusa.org
Head south on the 101 and just past San Luis Obispo you'll be in the Santa Ynez Valley, a picturesque spot to plan a weekend getaway. Flying Flags RV Resort and Campground takes glamping to a whole other level with swimming pools, a splash park, a playground, an on-site restaurant, WiFi, and even a dog park for Fido. The family-friendly cottages with loft sleep up to six people and include a full kitchen so that you don't have to eat out for every meal. The property also has safari tents, Airstreams, and cabins, as well as tent and RV camping spots. Nearby attractions include OstrichLand, wine tasting galore, and the adorable town of Solvang.
With words like “spa” and “eco-adventure” in the description, you might think Costanoa was a retreat for grown-ups. And you'd be right, but this place understands that kids need a break from the daily grind, too. Drop your kids in a two-hour nature-themed camp on weekends and Wednesdays, then check into the spa for a massage, head out on the adjacent trails on bike or horse (rentals of both available on site), or just crawl back in bed with a good book (or iPad: even the tent cabins are equipped with free Wi-Fi). There are many levels of "roughing it" here. There's also a KOA campground on site, for tents and RVs. Shared Comfort Stations throughout the campground offer clean bathrooms, showers, and dry saunas.
2001 Rossi Road at Hwy 1 Pescadero, CA Online: costanoa.com
Treebones Resort—Big Sur
It's hard to top a stay in one of the fully furnished yurts at Big Sur's Treebones Resort. These circular fabric-covered structures with wood lattice frames offer private decks, breathtaking ocean and mountain vistas, and an ideal jumping-off point for coastal exploration, on foot or by kayak. The Wild Coast Restaurant and Sushi bar offers fresh, local, organic food. Yurts large enough to host a family are booked well in advance—weekends are especially scarce—so do plan ahead. Also, kids must be over age 6 to stay at Treebones.
If life in a treehouse is just what you need in your life, check out this list of 14 California treehouses that are available on Airbnb. California is full of whimsical treehouses where you can sleep closer to the stars from deep in the forest or right in the heart of a city.
Loads of Options on Glamping Hub
When searching for the perfect glamping sites to visit with your loved ones, be sure to check out Glamping Hub. With over 1,000 family-friendly accommodations in Northern California, glamping families are sure to find the best spot to spend their next adventure. Some must-visits include a stylish yurt nestled among the Redwoods, perfect for a family of four looking to disconnect in the heart of the forest, or these two stunning tree house cabins for four guests found tucked into the thick of Carmel. From yurts to tree houses, safari tents, and more, you and your family will be sure to have the most unique experience when booking a glamping getaway in California.
Fresh mountain air, history, the arts, outdoor adventure, and amazing food—you can expect this (and more) when you visit Breckenridge, CO with your kids. From paved biking trails to exhilarating mountainside fun, a children’s museum, and even an authentic gold mine, there’s no end to the fun at any time of year. We scoped out this lively mountain town and found the best things to do in Breckenridge with kids.
1. Enjoy historic Main Street and downtown Breckenridge.
This charming historic districts has plenty of modern-day perks and interests to keep the kids interested. Wander into Peek-a-Boo Toys, a speciality shop filled with toys and games, and stock up on sweets at Fuzzywigs Candy Factory. Rub the replica gold nugget for good luck at Prospector Park, check out the free history exhibit at the Welcome Center, blow off steam at the Blue River Lawn, and find the toddler sandbox and play area at the Blue River Plaza. Don’t leave without getting a cookie sandwich from Mountain Top Cookie Shop!
2. Experience Country Boy Mine.
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This now-shuttered gold mine is a short distance from the heart of Breckenridge, and it’s something you won’t forget. You’ll walk almost 1,000 feet into the heart of the mine and learn what it was like for miners in the 19th century. There is also a chance to pan for gold, pet the donkeys, go on a treasure hunt, and try the extreme sledding course in the winter. There’s also a fun gift store at Country Boy Mine filled with gems, fun toys, and historic books about the history of mining in Colorado.
3. Go hiking.
All those mountains you ski in the winter? There are trails all over them, and in the summer, it’s one of the best ways to soak in the mountain air, wildflowers, waterfalls, and lakes. Some of the best hikes for families include the Sallie Barber Mine Trail, Blue River Trail, and the Fairy Forest Sawmill Reservoir Trail.
There is no end to the options for dining in Breckenridge. One of our favorite spots is Tin Plate Pizza. Located in an old mining cabin in the historic district, this spot is steeped in history. Home to the town’s gold assayer, Tin Plate is where Colorado’s largest gold nugget, colloquially named “Tom’s Baby,” was cleaned and weighed at 13.5 pounds in 1887. Go for the meatballs to start and then choose from a dozen pizza options like our favorite, the elote pizza that’s topped with corn, roasted poblano peppers and goat cheese.
Downstairs at Eric’s has a great menu, 27 arcade games, and a laid-back vibe. Breckenridge Brewery has fantastic apps for kids (think giant pretzels), a relaxed space, and great beers for the parents. Crepes a la Cart is well worth the wait in line, The Blue Moose is your best bet for breakfasts, and the Kenosha Steak House has one of the best decks in town, cornhole, and room to run.
5. Stay at the Grand Colorado on Peak 8 for the ultimate vacation experience.
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Whether you’re there to ski or snowboard, or if you prefer the mountain town in the summer months, the Grand Colorado has everything you need, plus more. The resort has multi-bedroom suites with full kitchens, so you can opt to eat in (be sure to grab groceries at the store outside of town, as there aren’t many grocery options in town) your apartment. You can book your stay here.
The Grand Colorado on Peak 8 has an escape room, lawn games like giant chess, shuffleboard, Nintendo and Wii rentals, two indoor/outdoor pools, splash pads for little kids, an arcade room with everything from air hockey to pinball, a free little library, and five private movie theaters you can reserve at the front desk upon arrival. You’ll see kids having fun everywhere: the lobby, the water zone, and outside. When staying at the Grand Colorado, you’ll have direct access to Peak 8 and the BreckConnect gondola.
If you want to dine at The Grand Colorado at Peak 8, Robbie’s Tavern is perfect for burgers, sandwiches, a fantastic Philly cheesesteak, and other upscale pub fare. It’s also a great spot to watch snow enthusiasts in the winter and the outdoor fun of Epic Discovery in the summer months. Ullr Café is where you’ll find coffee, baked goods (try the sausage roll), and a fun happy hour at the end of the day.
6. Spend the day at Epic Discovery.
Epic Discovery is the place for summer guests to enjoy ropes courses, panning for gems, a bungee trampoline, a bounce house, an alpine slide, a rock climbing wall, mini golf, and much more. If you aren’t staying near Peak 8, you can ride the gondola from town up to the mountainside for a day of fun. Epic Discovery is open from late June to Labor Day daily from 10:00 am – 5:30 pm, and the BreckConnect gondola is open daily from 9:30 am – 5:00 pm.
7. Enjoy the art scene.
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From a downtown full of sculptures to live theater performances, Breckenridge is full of ways to explore the arts. We loved discovering these points of interest along Main Street as well astracking down the famed Breckenridge Troll in a nearby park. Named Isak Heartstone, this 15-foot tall wooden troll sculpture is located on the Trollstigen Trail next to Illinois Gulch Trailhead. You can walk here from Main Street to check out this massive sculpture by Danish artist Thomas Dambo, who is known worldwide for bringing awareness to recycling and upcycling by building great things out of trash.
Another one of the best things to do in Breckenridge with kids is to catch a show at the Riverwalk Center, where live music and other events happen weekly (most are all-ages appropriate!). In August, you can enjoy the Breckenridge International Festival of Arts, when dozens of art events are held in parks, on trails, and in cultural venues.
If you’re looking for a indoor things to do in Breckenridge with kids, then Mountain Top Explorium is the place! Kids will love the Mountain Top Medical Center exhibit, where they can check X-rays, rescue skiers stranded on a slope, review vitals, and be first responders! Another fun pretend play area is the Wonder Lab, where kids can write their names on a glow-in-the-dark board, their shadows, and create a design on a giant Lite Brite.
Other exhibits include the Rocky Mountain Wildlife exhibit, the Tot Spot, and the Kidstruction Zone. They offer a summer day camp and guided astronomy sessions are coming soon.
9. Ride bikes along the Blue River Bikeway.
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The Blue River Bikeway runs through the heart of town. The paved path is perfect for families who want to enjoy the mountain views. If you have toddlers or young kids, be aware that part of the path is on an incline, so you might benefit from renting a bike with a seat attachment. Don’t forget to pack lots of snacks and water and stopping at the playground at mile 3 is a must.
All throughout town, you can find ski shops that double as bike rental shops during the warm months like Elevation Cycles. Book a guided tour of the mountain bike trails with Colorado Adventure Guides to increase your skills or try something you’ve never done before. It’s a great way to view the area from a different vantage point and explore as a family.
Keep in mind that Breckenridge’s elevation can hit you hard when you arrive. Be sure to hydrate for a few days before you arrive, as well as while you are in Breckenridge. And, reapply sunscreen when you are out and about.
—with additional reporting by Kate Loweth
This trip was paid for by Grand Colorado, but all opinions here belong to the writer.
Toddlers and snacks go together like peanut butter and jelly. Nary a parent will leave the house without at least a few bags of crackers, fruit snacks, or fruit and veggie pouches stashed in their bag to avoid meltdowns. If your littles are getting tired of the same old nibbles, check out some of our favorite Trader Joe’s snacks for toddlers. They’re bound to keep them full, plus parents won’t mind scarfing down the leftovers.
Cheddar Rocket Crackers
If your toddler needs a break from regular Goldfish crackers, TJ’s Cheddar Rocket Crackers are a sure bet. They pack a cheesy punch and bring a new non-fishy shape that littles will love.
Sometimes toddlers have the appetite of a grown man, and sometimes they seem to survive on air. When you aren’t sure, these Bambino Pepperoni Pizzas come in handy. Each box comes with 4 pizzas roughly the circumference of a baseball. Slice into small pieces for a hearty snack or heat up a few pies for those inevitable growth spurts.
Any seasoned parent knows that sometimes you need to entice kids with a little something sweet to get their fruit servings in for the day. The Gone Bananas and Gone Strawberries at Trader Joe’s are chocolate-dipped treats that are flash-frozen, meaning you can pull out a handful for snack time and enjoy right away!
Animal Crackers
It’s just plain common sense to keep a bucket of TJ’s Animal Crackers on hand at all times. They are great for the munchies, can be dipped in yogurt for some added protein, and are also fun to mix together with a salty treat to keep things interesting.
This wouldn’t be a list of Trader Joe’s snacks for toddlers without mentioning the grocer’s fruit sauce crushers. They come in flavors that include Apple Banana, Apple Strawberry, Apple Mango, and just plain Apple. They’re great to pack for preschool or keep on hand at the bottom of your purse.
Tired of whipping up box after box of mac and cheese? It’s time to give your toddler a taste of Mac & Cheese Bites! The four-cheese, breaded macaroni balls are light and seasoned just enough to not deter your toddler from eating them. In the event that they don’t enjoy, they make the perfect lunch for mom or dad.
Freeze Dried Fruit
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We have to confess that while TJ’s bags of freeze-dried fruit are delicious, they can be messy! Think: blue fingers thanks to the blueberries coming into contact with sticky hands. But if you can get past that, we can pretty much guarantee your toddler will scarf down plenty of airy and crunchy fruit in the meantime.
Great for breakfast, brinner, or a snack, these Silver Dollar Pancakes are toddler approved. You can heat them in seconds by tossing them in the microwave and they fit perfectly in tiny hands. Enjoy with syrup, butter, peanut butter, or just a la carte!
Perfect for learning your ABC’s, Trader Joe’s Schoolhouse cookies make a great snack for toddlers. They are crunchy, cinnamon-flavored, and an entertaining activity to boot!
Fruit Leather Buttons
We love to bring these along in our mom-bag as they are a great quick snack that doesn’t make a mess. Plus, they come in kid-approved flavors like mango and grape.
Kids who can enjoy peanuts will love the crispy crunchy goodness that is the Bamba! The light, puffed snack has a peanutty flavor that is mild and contains a tiny amount of sugar. Oh, did we also mention it’s just $.99 a bag?
Yes, yogurt might be messy but no one can argue how much toddlers love a good batch. The great thing about TJ’s yogurt packs is that each pack has two flavors for your toddler’s ever-changing tastebuds, plus you can enjoy with a spoon or freeze (like the pic above) and turn them into a frozen treat. They’ll never know it’s not ice cream!
Organic Mini Cheese Sandwich Crackers
You may claim that these are for the kids, but we know that parents hide them behind the Raisin Bran to keep them for themselves. Who can blame them? These crackers are tiny, salty, and full of simple ingredients.
Trader Joe's Contemplates Inner Peas
Not only is this product a clever pun but it is a pretty tasty snack. Known in the toddler circle as "crunchy peas," these are fun for dipping in a personal-sized hummus.
I was at the zoo with a baby strapped to my chest, another in a stroller, and one getting uncomfortably close to Ozzie, the zoo’s dominant silverback gorilla when she caught my eye. The zookeeper stood off to the side, patiently chopping fruit, meat, and veggies into bite-sized pieces. Just like I do. Every. Single. Meal. Standing at the zoo, I realized that feeding toddlers (yep, even the picky eaters) really boils down to this: make it easy for them to feed themselves, make it pretty, and keep the risky food to a minimum, or you’ll end up tossing out the whole shebang. Below are my toddler dinner ideas cliff notes from my zoo, er, kitchen.
Toddler Dinner Ideas: Safe Bets
Mediterranean Snacking Board: hummus, pita slices, cucumbers, red pepper, halved cherry tomatoes, feta, and sliced almonds.
Pasta tossed with rotisserie chicken, parmesan, and peas (reserve a little of the pasta water and mix it in to make the cheese gooey)
Baked, sliced sweet potatoes brushed with olive oil, topped with sliced avocado and hard-boiled egg (scrambled eggs work too).
Tacos with finely shredded chicken, cheese, and black beans, and a side of corn on the cob.
Whole grain English muffins with marinara and mozzarella (toasted in the oven), with orange slices.
Pancakes (add cinnamon to the mix) smeared with peanut butter and topped with thin slices of apple.
Boiled eggs, halved and salted, with broccoli, carrots, and snap peas (with ranch for dipping).
Broccoli, finely chopped, with shredded carrots, sauteed with ground turkey, soy sauce, and an optional spoonful of brown sugar.
Cereal and smoothies (I know, but it’s okay every once in a while, and the smoothies are packed with nutrients).
Scrambled egg and cheese burritos with cucumbers and tiny tomatoes on the side.
Pesto alphabet pasta with peas.
Mac & Cheese with sneaky veggies (tiny-sized pieces of broccoli, peas, or kale).
Toddler Charcuterie: Turkey Pepperoni, boiled, halved eggs, cubes of cheddar cheese, veggies, and a dipping sauce.
Cheese quesadillas (add beans or ground beef or rotisserie chicken for extra protein) with tomatoes and sour cream.
Avocado toasts on whole grain with kosher salt and diced shrimp.
“Choose your own adventure” burrito bowls with seasoned ground turkey, diced tomatoes, avocados, sour cream, and shredded lettuce options.
Alphabet pasta with jar tomato sauce, food processed with a handful of spinach or cooked carrots.
Baked chicken tenders and cooked carrot coins (dredge tenders in flour, dip in egg, and roll in Panko, then bake at 350 degrees for about 20 minutes or until done).
Baked, diced sweet potatoes with cinnamon and rotisserie chicken with sour cream and honey dipping sauce.
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Garbanzo beans, diced avocado, and feta cheese tossed with a little lemon juice and salt.
Couscous with peas, mint, and halved mini tomatoes.
Quinoa muffins (use 1 cup of cooked quinoa for every 1 egg, plus mix-ins like ham and cheese cubes or spinach and diced tomato, baked in muffin cups for 20 minutes at 350 degrees).
Deconstructed meatloaf (add salt and pepper to ground meat, bake until done, and serve with a side of ketchup, mashed potatoes, and green beans).
Curried chicken salad (baked chicken, cream cheese, and a spoonful of mayo, creamed) on cucumber slices and whole-grain toast.
Banana ice cream (puree sliced frozen bananas; add things like peanut butter, cinnamon, or honey for a twist)
Fruit pizza: Roll out and bake refrigerated croissants, spread on cream cheese, top with sliced fruit; cinnamon sprinkle optional)
Berries and sugar-free whipped cream.
Chocolate-dipped (or chocolate chip-studded, if you don’t want to wash an extra dish) bananas.
Frozen grapes, halved.
Canned pumpkin puree with cinnamon and whipped cream.
Sometimes you just need a few toddler dinner ideas to get you started. I hope my go-to’s (after all my trial-and-error) will help you find something they’ll eat without coaxing.
Spring at Trader Joe’s brings the cutest plants and lemon everything
Warmer weather, beautiful blooms, tasty treats—that’s right, spring is almost springing! In typical fashion, there are tons of new Trader Joe’s items for the season that will have you more than ready to make a grocery run. With all the lemon products hitting the shelves, we can tell that TJ’s is all in. There are even a few products perfect for school lunches on the list.
Assorted Foliage in a Bunny
These cuties are a top pick for spring every year, and you’ll want to grab one before your store sells out for the season. They come with a variety of plant options so you might have to get yourself a colony.
Candy Coated Dark Chocolate Almonds
These babies are cute enough for Easter baskets but tasty enough to keep for yourself. They tend to sell out well before the holiday, so snag now before they hop away.
Gourmet Jelly Beans
Just in time for Easter basket stuffing, these big bags of gourmet jelly beans have hit the shelves. You’ll love that they have no artificial colors or flavors. The kids will just love them, period.
Peas & Carrots Sour Gummy Candies
You’ll definitely be able to get the kids to eat their peas and carrots when they come in gummy form. The peas are like sour Skittles and the carrots are a traditional sour gummy candy. Yes, we tried them so that we could report back (that’s the official story, at least).
Pastel Hyacinths
If you’re heading to a spring party this weekend, bring along one of these colorful hyacinths. They’ll dress up any doorstep!
Cheery Lemon Animal Crackers
We’ve never seen these cuties on the shelves before and we know that the kids will go wild to find them in their lunchbox this spring.
Raspberry Kringle
Either you love Kringles or you LOVE Kringles. There’s no in-between. The spring flavor is raspberry and it tops our list for sure. Perfect for breakfast or to share as an after-school snack.
Lemon Mini Sheet Cake
We don’t blame you if this is one of those treats that you don’t share with the kids. You can always find the vanilla version of this cake at Trader Joe’s but the lemon sheet cake is our favorite. It packs just the right amount of sour/sweet punch.
The spring version of this holiday snack mix is cute to have in a bowl for the next party you are planning. It is a mix of yogurt-coated pretzels, butter toffee peanuts, milk and dark chocolate peanut butter cups, broken pieces of dark chocolate Joe-Joe’s, and nonpareils.
Scented Candle Trio
We’re a sucker for all the candles at Trader Joe’s and this one instantly made its way into our cart. You’ll get tiny tins of raspberry/rose, rhubarb/bamboo, and lemon verbena. The lemon is our favorite, naturally.
Mini Succulents
Is it wrong to buy a succulent every time you visit Trader Joe’s? We think not. These cuties were looking extra spring-like with tiny flowers sprouting out of them. Just what you need to get you through the last dreary months before summer comes around.
Imagine if every time you took the garbage out or loaded the dishwasher someone offered helpful tips on how to do it more efficiently. Now imagine if, after every meal, someone in your family gave a critique of the food and made suggestions for the next meal.
How would you feel? Well, I know how I would feel: deflated, frustrated, and unmotivated.
Without realizing it, this is basically what some parents are doing to their children after every practice or game. As soon as the child leaves the field, Mom or Dad starts in.
Sometimes, it’s friendly tips that are meant to be helpful. Sometimes, it’s more commanding advice, like “Swing with more power” or “Pay more attention to the ball.” Other times, parents just ask so many questions they exhaust their children (who are already tired from the game).
I can tell you with confidence that all children—and I mean all children—hate the questions and constructive criticism. Young athletes start to dread the car ride home because they know they are held captive with nowhere to exit. The analysis of the game and the helpful hints completely suck the fun out of the game.
What’s worse, that fleeting car ride can have a lasting, if unintended, effect.
In my practice as a family coach, I see it time and time again. A child has loved sports for many years. Then all of a sudden, poof, he or she has no interest in ever playing again—and the parents are left scratching their heads.
It’s all too common. Up to 70 percent of youth athletes stop playing the game by age 13, according to a survey conducted by The National Alliance for Youth Sports. The reason? Heartbreakingly, because the game is no longer fun.
Even the most well-intentioned parent can ruin the fun by being overly invested in the outcome of a game or the growth of their player. (And it’s a shame because, besides being fun, playing a sport is shown to improve academic outcomes, lower the risk of alcohol and drug use, reduce unexpected pregnancies, and improve social relationships.)
I know it’s hard not to share what you see from the sidelines. I know parents are just trying to connect with their children. But, more often than not, it’s not working.
The good news? There’s an easy fix. Greet your player when the game is over in one of two ways, and you will revolutionize the way your child feels about being on the team.
By telling your child how much you enjoy seeing their effort, win or lose, you are conveying support and reinforcing the joy of the game. I see so many young players immediately looking into the stands to see a parent’s reaction to a goal or a great defensive move. They want—no, they crave—the positive affirmations from their parents.
So, give it to them.
(This also goes for those parents glued to their phones on the sidelines. Look up! You want to be there to catch their eye.)
The more you focus on the joy of watching them—not winning, not technique, not strategy—the more they’ll actually enjoy playing (and, not incidentally, the more likely they’ll actually improve).
Now, ice cream after a game isn’t always necessary. But, win or lose, it sure is nice.
Catherine Pearlman, Ph.D., LCSW, is a therapist, avid youth sports parent, and founder of The Family Coach. This post originally appeared on MOJO.
