Watching your little one’s face as they unwrap a new holiday gift is a moment all parents look forward to. This year take some of the pressure off yourself and shop Oddbods. This brand new toy line based on the popular (and incredibly hilarious) animated kid’s series is sure to bring squeals of delight and a happy dance or two.

The seven Oddbods characters represent a diverse array of emotions and personalities—from feisty Fuse to sweetie pie Newt—and promote a message of celebrating uniqueness and individuality. And the new toy line includes push vehicles, a playhouse and even snuggly companions. Read on to see our top picks for the hottest new toys of the season, sure to bring a smile for the holidays.

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Oddbods House Playset

This adorable little house is tricked out with all kinds of features in one compact playset: you’ll find four interior rooms, a backyard with a pool and a garden, and seven cute Oddbods figurines. The whole thing closes up with a carrying handle so it's easy to transport from playdate to porch and back again. Ages 3 and up.

$39.99 BUY NOW

Fuse’s Monster Truck

Let your little mischief-makers have fun with this push-and-play truck that launches missiles! It even comes with a little Fuse figurine that fits in the driver’s seat. Who will win the epic battle of missile vs. pizza vs. ice cream? Ages 3 and up.

$24.99 BUY NOW

Pogo’s Ice Cream Truck

We all scream for Pogo’s Ice Cream truck, or maybe we’ll scream with joy when it launches tiny ice cream blobs right from the top! Pair this with Fuse’s missile-launching Monster Truck and Zee’s Tractor for an epically adorable battle. Includes a Pogo figurine that fits in the vehicle. Ages 3 and up.

$24.99 BUY NOW

Zee’s Tractor

This toy vehicle is Green Oddbood Zee’s tractor, but it’s not just any tractor. It’s a pizza-launching tractor (because food fights are always fun!). Includes the Zee figurine that fits right in the driver’s seat. Ages 3 and up.

$24.99 BUY NOW

Oddbods Pogo Soft Stuffed Plush Toys

When it’s time to snuggle into bed, or maybe just cozy up on the couch to watch Oddbods episodes, the perfect companion is a plush Oddbodd. The loveable, unique stuffies double as a pillow, too. They stand around 12” tall and come in all seven characters: Bubbles, Jeff, Fuse, Newt, Pogo, Slick, and Zee.

$19.99 BUY NOW

Which Oddbod toy will you surprise the kids with this year? We love them all!

-Amber Guetebier

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We love surprises—why reserve them just for holidays and birthdays? L.O.L. Surprise! toys are a trend that’s here to stay, and we couldn’t be happier: They are cute (but fierce!), diverse, inclusive and so fun to unbox—there’s just nothing like em’! With hundreds of unique characters, no matter what your kids’ interests, style or personality are, there is a L.O.L. Surprise! doll to represent them.

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—Jamie Aderski

 

If there is one thing we have learned over the past few months, we have come to see the importance of raising our children to make the world a better place through their actions and reactions to what is going on around them. As their first teacher, there are many virtues parents look to model for their little ones. According to a new Parents survey, Kindness is the most important value parents want to instill in their children, topping intelligence and strong work ethic. 

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Parents today announced the results of its first-ever Parents Values Study which reveals that although parents believe raising kind children is the most important value they can instill, they  also believe that kids today are less kind than past generations. The study, which uncovers insights about American  parents’ biggest parenting challenges, concerns and priorities, as well as their views about their own parenting skills and parenting in the pandemic, is highlighted in Parents‘ second annual special November Kindness Issue and on parents.com/kindness.

Moms were asked to select the top three qualities they most hope to instill their children. The top selections are:

  1. Kindness (73%)
  2. Love of family (68%)
  3. Intelligence (51%)
  4. Strong work ethic (51%)
  5. Individuality (31%)

Julia Edelstein, Editor in Chief of Parents said, “As a mother, I care more about instilling kindness in my kids than any other trait, and it turns out that the vast majority of parents are on the exact same page. One of the many things that the pandemic has taught us is that kindness is a life-giving force, and we need more of it. With that said, one of the most disappointing findings from this study is that although our priorities are aligned when it comes to raising kind kids, most moms don’t see kindness reflected in kids’ behavior today. We have a lot of work to do, but we will get there. Parents‘ November issue—our second annual kindness issue–is a roadmap to prioritizing kindness in your family, and raising truly kind people.” 

To help parents in their effort to raise kind, compassionate people, the Parents special November Kindness issue has a collection of articles offering feel-good stories, profiles of inspiring families who stepped up in big ways and small during the pandemic, expert insights and creative ways that parents can take action.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

Featured photo: 🇸🇮 Janko Ferlič on Unsplash

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Editor’s Note: Since publication Nickelodeon has released the following statement, “Made by Maddie is a show we acquired several years ago from Silvergate Media, a renowned production company we have previously worked with on other series. Since announcing the show’s premiere date this week, we have been listening closely to the commentary, criticism and concern coming from both viewers and members of the creative community.  In response, and out of respect to all voices in the conversation, we are removing the show from our schedule as we garner further insight into the creative journey of the show. We are grateful to Silvergate Media for all of their work. And we hold Matthew A. Cherry and the wonderful and inspiring Hair Love in the highest regard.”

 

Preschoolers and families will fall in love with a new Nick Jr. show. The new animated series centers on Maddie, her close-knit, supportive family, her creative ways of looking at the world and her serious flair for fashion.Made by Maddie launches Sun. Sept. 13 at 11 a.m. ET/PT.

Made by Maddie

Both Maddie (Alyssa Cheatham, Collateral Beauty) and her mom, Dee (Tony-winner Patina Miller, Madam Secretary, The Hunger Games), a successful fashion designer, provide strong female role models for young viewers. Maddie’s musician dad, Rashad, is played by the Tony-winning James Monroe Iglehart (Aladdin, Hamilton). The inclusive series features diverse characters organically woven into the fabric of the show to help a broad range of young viewers see themselves represented on-screen. 

Made by Maddie

Made by Maddie follows 8-year-old Maddie in New York City, as she uses her imagination and design ingenuity to turn every problem into a positive with the perfect fashion fix. Maddie’s creative thinking and dazzling designs are a reflection of  the bustling, colorful city of New York and its residents. Maddie confidently embraces her own unique style, celebrates individuality, treats everyone with kindness, and encourages others to take risks and be themselves.

Made by Maddie

Made by Maddie will continue to air regularly Sundays at 11 a.m.(ET/PT) on the Nick Jr. channel. 

Throughout the season, Made by Maddie will feature guest voice appearances by: Karamo Brown (Queer Eye); Rhyon Nicole Brown (Empire); Danny Burstein (Broadway’s Moulin Rouge!); David Burtka (Professional Chef); Monét X Change (RuPaul’s Drag Race); Joey Fatone (*NSYNC); Griffin Robert Faulkner (Raising Dion); Nina Garcia (Project Runway); Joy Lynn Jacobs (The Blacklist); Claudia Morcate-Martin (Seneca); Wanya Morris (Boyz II Men); Christine Pedi (Steven Universe); Christiani Pitts (Broadway’s King Kong); Al Roker (TODAY); D’Angelo Russell (Minnesota Timberwolves); Horatio Sanz (Black Monday); and Nico Tortorella (Younger). 

In the series premiere, “If the Glue Fits/Mini Me DJ,” Maddie gets her hands stuck to a pair of shoes Dee designed. Once she finally gets the shoes unstuck, she has to come up with a redesign to save the day. Then, Maddie, Dee, and her assistant Dustin design an outfit for DJ Fierce, a famous DJ. They scour the city for the perfect materials, but when a misunderstanding leads to an outfit mix-up, Maddie will have to get creative with a fashion fix.  

Following the series premiere of Made by Maddie, NickJr.com and the Nick Jr. App will feature short-form content and full-length episodes. Episodes will also be available on Nick Jr. On Demand and Download-To-Own services. 

Production of Made by Maddie for Nickelodeon Animation Studio is overseen by Eryk Casemiro, Senior Vice President, Nickelodeon Preschool.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of Nickelodeon

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Photo: Drag Queen Story Time, photo used with permission from Jonathan Hamilt

Have you ever been to a children’s storytime? They are programs for kids that teach literacy using singing, talking, reading and playing. Occasionally, programs might be themed (everything tying into space travel, for instance) or a special guest (often police officers or firefighters). In this case, the special guest is a drag queen, and the theme might be diversity, uniqueness, or kindness.

We Need Diverse Books suggests that we “imagine a world in which all children can see themselves in the pages of a book.” It was a similar sentiment that inspired the creation of 2015’s first Drag Queen Story Hour, held in San Francisco. The program was dreamed up by author Michelle Tea, a queer icon due to her writing and as an organizer of queer literary art events (Sister Spit, RADAR Productions).

Bix Warden—the children’s librarian at the SFPL’s Eureka Valley/Harvey Milk Memorial Branch—explained the program’s origin story. “Michelle had recently given birth to a son, and realized that there was no programming for queer families with small children. The Artistic Director [of RADAR] at the time was Juliana Delgado Lopera, and they contacted me and asked if the Eureka Valley Branch Library would like to host a Drag Queen Story Hour Program. Of course, I said yes.”

There is now a Drag Queen Story Hour nonprofit, with chapters all over the U.S. Jonathan Hamilt, the Global Program Director, has described DQSH programs as “tool[s] to help children develop empathy, learn about gender diversity and difference, and tap into their own creativity.” Concepts like individuality and diversity are introduced using the regular story time tools of singing and dancing, but with the added bonus of sparkly outfits and brightly colored wigs.

Hamilt was the first drag queen to read for DQSH NYC. When asked why the program is important to fight for, he explained that it “can be life-changing for anyone who feels different because of their identity or interests, or who may not otherwise see themselves reflected in the broader culture.”

Catherine Bellamy of Surrey Public Library has co-hosted a number of drag queen storytimes in British Columbia, Canada. Bellamy explained that her desire to support these programs stemmed from “growing up [as] a Queer person in rural Kentucky in the late ’80s and ’90s. One thing that stands out in my mind is wanting validation that my experiences as a young person exploring my identity were totally normal and valid.” Bellamy’s experience was echoed by the response of the director of the Atlanta chapter of DGSH, Miss Terra Cotta Sugarbaker. Sugarbaker’s favorite aspect is the “interactions with parents and children.  I have had parents and children share very personal and moving stories. Drag Queen Story Hour is a safe space, and it is a reminder that for anyone who has ever felt like an outsider that they can find community—both in real time, and in the escape of literature.”

DQSH has met with lots of positive feedback, and has spread to countries such as Australia, Canada and the United Kingdom. About the San Francisco communities’ responses to the programs, Warden recounted that “[it’s] been overwhelming! We have had as many as 175 people attend, and every week patrons ask when the next one will happen.” Jennifer Minehardt, a children’s librarian at NYPL’s Roosevelt Island Branch, had a similar reply: “We’ve had huge success and really positive feedback from our patrons who love the inclusivity…As soon as the program is over, [they] start asking when the next one is.”

Things aren’t all sunshine and metaphorical rainbows in the library kingdom, there continues to be backlash by pro-family groups. Religious protestors have become common attendees at DQSH and a recent article in The New York Times mentioned that some have even been canceled due to “hostile threats.” Events are regularly picketed and protested. Edie Pasek, an organizer of DQSH programs in and around Milwaukee,  described the goal as teaching kindness and acceptance to children. So why would that be a cause to protest? Well, in “Three Queens: Perspectives on Drag Queen Story Hour”, author Alex Falck briefly relays an incident in Anchorage where the program was interrupted by an anti-LGBT activist protesting that “Transgenders do not exist.”

Often, protests are by conservative activists who worry that these programs will encourage children to become LGBTQ+ themselves. In response to that, the American Library Association has created a page of resources to support libraries that are offering the programs.

With all the potential negative backlash, why keep at it? Sugarbaker sums it up, replying, “We get a diverse group, and this generally comes from parents or older community supporters. I am often told by attendees that they wish they’d had an event like this when they were children. From children, I generally hear how much fun they think the events are—they love the costumes, glitter and fun atmosphere. The overarching response, however, is always that we need more spaces for people to feel safe to express who they are.  Learning that you can express that through books and characters is extremely empowering.”

DQSH wants to continue helping all their chapters and Hamilt is hopeful the organization can “provide more resources to rural and Red State communities that are on the front lines fighting for LGBTQ equality and social justice.” They also want to reach out to people who might just not entirely understand the program, connecting them with their local chapters of organizations like The American Civil Liberties Union (ACLU), Free Mom Hugs, or a LGBTQA+ Center.

Hamilt promises that 2020 will be a big year for DQSH. “We are starting 2020 with a clear vision: Reading is Fundamental!”

 

By Rachel Rosenberg, originally published on Book Riot

This post originally appeared on Book Riot.

Book Riot is the largest independent editorial book site in North America, and home to a host of media, from podcasts to newsletters to original content, all designed around diverse readers and across all genres.

Seeking an extraordinary education for your kid that’s anything but old school? Children’s Community School for grades K-6, is opening its doors for a tour you don’t want to miss. Go learn about this progressive LA elementary school’s ever-evolving, groundbreaking curriculum that will shape the future of your young leader––making him/her not only a great student, but able to reach their full potential.

A New School of Thought

Gone are the days of kids just sitting still in their seat and keeping quiet at their desk. Students of Children’s Community School are motivated and inspired instead of lectured and chastened. The school’s modern approach to teaching fosters engaged learners who “don’t just take notes, (they) take action.” Kids learn to think for themselves while collaborating with others in a safe and loving environment.

Children's Community School: Creativity from Kilter on Vimeo.

Individuality Is Celebrated

Children’s Community School is rewriting the story of elementary education, tailoring it to pique the wonder and curiosity of each and every student to inspire a lifelong love of learning. While teachers design their lesson plans to help kids reach their full academic potential, they also consider kids’ varying learning styles to create an atmosphere in which all are challenged to soar to new heights in their own unique way.

Live It, Learn It

Active learning makes kids eager to explore topics. Students don’t just learn the curriculum, they live it via experimentation, self-driven discovery, deep dives into their interests and by venturing into the world to accumulate knowledge and give their studies relevance. At every step, CCS relates study to life to prepare students to take part in shaping their own future, and the future of society.

In a Class of Its Own

A CCS education produces self-motivated students who develop the desire to gain knowledge and ask questions. Beyond academics, kids learn the value of friendship and the importance of being of service to others.

“Don’t Recite History, Reform It”

Children’s Community School’s ultimate goal is for youth to know themselves, show compassion to others and take responsibility for their own education. In a world in which young people’s voices and actions are being heard and recognized more than ever, and 16 year-old climate activist Greta Thunberg was just the youngest recipient of Time‘s 2019 Person of the Year accolade, a school that empowers kids with the mission “don’t recite history, reform it,” is exactly what’s needed to embolden youth to create a better tomorrow.

Schedule a Tour

Due to demand, Children’s Community School added one last tour for the new year, on January 29. Schedule a tour today. Hurry, space is filling up!

Children’s Community School
14702 Sylvan St.
Van Nuys, CA 91411
818-780-6226
Online: ccsteaches.org

––Beth Shea

photos: Children’s Community School

Dear Confessional,

Let’s face it, the highs and lows of parenting are inevitable. Oftentimes, we are tasked with on-the-spot decision-making that will surely test our character as a parent. Whether you choose to laugh during the awkward and unexpected moments or “stay in character” mid-lecture, there’s no wrong answer.

1. You’ve just spent so much time and effort in preparing a delicious family meal. When your kid sits down to eat it, however, he/she complains that it’s disgusting. After tasting it yourself, you realize that it’s really gross, but still edible. Do you…

A. make your kid eat it anyway because you don’t feel like preparing a new meal?

B. act shocked and disappointed, and then guilt your kid into eating it because your pride is too big?

C. agree that it stinks, make something else, or order a pizza?

D. None of the above.

2. Your kid gets ready for an important school event but the self-selected clothing/hairst‌yle is out of the norm and a bit laughable. Do you…

A. demand a wardrobe change, because there’s no way your kid is leaving the house like that?

B. give options to change elements of your kid’s unique st‌yle to avoid possible teasing?

C. say nothing and hope all goes well, because you don’t want to crush his/her individuality and spirit?

D. None of the above.

3. One last piece of your kid’s favorite treat remains in the pantry, and it’s been staring at you to eat it. Do you…

A. eat it and hope your kid doesn’t notice?

B. resist temptation and leave it because you know your kid will notice?

C. buy a new bunch of treats so that everyone’s happy?

D. None of the above.

4. After an overly long discussion with your kid about a naughty behavior, he/she responds with mind-blowing rationale that stops you in your tracks. Do you…

A. admit that your kid won the argument?

B. disregard your kid’s valid point and continue lecturing because you’ve already invested too much effort?

C. acknowledge the clever point and quickly end your tirade with some kind of lesson?

D. None of the above.

5. You pass terribly foul gas around a group of strangers, and it’s obvious. Do you…

A. laugh and apologize?

B. stay silent and don’t make eye-contact?

C. blame it on your kid to avoid embarrassment?

D. None of the above.

6. Your friend cuddles your baby right after drinking milk, and you then notice the cottage cheese dribble down the back of her shirt… and she doesn’t know it’s there. Do you…

A. tell her and help clean it up?

B. pretend you didn’t notice?

C. apologize and leave as quickly as possible?

D. None of the above.

7. Your child said a curse word, and its as shocking as it is adorable out of that little mouth. Do you…

A. laugh?

B. lecture?

C. ignore?

D. None of the above.

8. You commit the inevitable parenting sin and quickly wipe your kid’s slimy nose with your bare hand, without an available tissue, baby wipe, or carpeted material to smear it on. Do you…

A. attempt to flick it?

B. hold it until you find a proper tissue?

C. wipe it on your clothes?

D. secretly wipe it on the back of your kid’s clothes?

9. Your kid just called you out on being hypocritical in doing the opposite of what you lecture about. Do you…

A. admit your kid’s right and apologize?

B. explain that parents can do what they want?

C. stifle that good argument with a “don’t talk back” response?

D. None of the above.

10. Your kid unintentionally makes a loud and embarrassing comment about a stranger right in front of that person. Do you…

A. respond?

B. apologize?

C. ignore and look away quickly?

D. None of the above.

Enjoy, relate, and share—you may just be surprised how different your partner, family member, or friend may respond. Feel free to add your own pop quiz questions in the comments section below.

With Love,

Ruthi

Photo: Ruthi Davis

Ruthi Davis is a the Founder of Ruth Davis Consulting LLC with over two decades of success in advertising/marketing, media/publicity, business development, client relations, and organizational optimization for a variety of clients. Ruthi is a proud mom and influencer in the parenting and family market as founder of the Superfly Supermom brand.

In honor of the iconic children’s show 50th anniversary, Sesame Workshop recently announced a collab with designer Isaac Mizrahi—and the fab fashions are all for the kiddos!

The Isaac Mizrahi Loves Sesame Street collection features infant and toddler apparel, backpacks, outerwear, cold weather hats and plush toys. Look for fave characters such as Elmo, Abby Cadabby, Cookie Monster and other beloved Sesame Street friends.

Gabriela Arenas, Vice President of Licensing, North America, Sesame Workshop, said in a press release, “For our 50th anniversary, we knew we wanted to collaborate with a world-class designer whose work would reflect the exuberance and vitality of Sesame Street.” Arenas continued, “Isaac was the perfect choice. His instincts are spot-on, and we’re excited about the smart, happy and colorful collection that he will introduce.”

The epic designer, Isaac Mizrahi, also added, “Sesame Street is all about embracing your individuality and appreciating diversity in all its forms. Sesame Street is joy, and I’ve been so inspired by the characters and the messaging, and they’ve impacted my life and designs for this collection.”

The cute collab is available right now at Bloomingdale’s (online and in stores), Statebags.com, Macy’s and Zappos.com. Along with carrying the collection, Bloomingdale’s will host special launch events on Nov. 16 at the NYC 59th Street Flagship store as well as stores in Aventura, Florida and Century City, California.

—Erica Loop

Photos: Courtesy of Sesame Workshop/Isaac Mizrahi 

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Most days we are going through the motions, trying to get from point A to point B. We are thinking about what we have to do during the day or stewing about past events. The day rushes along as we hurry to school, work, activities, even running errands.

What happens when we get in to this busy, chaotic, fast-paced way of life? People begin to irritate us, we get annoyed faster, and our anger is at an all-time high. It’s not only the strangers we interact with in traffic jams or stores, it’s the people closest to us that get the really lashing out.

It all seems to stem from the mentality of “it’s my way or the highway.” When things aren’t acting out according to your plan, your loved ones pick up on that negative vibe and throw it right back at you.

Love and Gratitude Really Works.

Lately, I’ve been working on finding things I love about the people in my life, really feeling gratitude for everything and not letting the little things irritate me.

What I realized is that I was irritated a lot. I would always think of myself as a happy, go-lucky person, but man, those negative thoughts had their way of creeping in. What I used to think of as annoying still might come at me the same way initially, but then I remember to flip it to love. My eye rolls could compete with that of a teenager.

Once I paused to let go of the negativity I was projecting in my life and started focusing on everything I loved, it became easier to relax around my children. I no longer get irritated when they interrupt me while I am working because I know in their head they have something important to tell me. They want to share their revelation with me. Their enthusiasm for everything is one of the many things I love about them.

Let the Inner Control Freak Go.

I was (am/recovering) a control freak and got irritated, disappointed, and angry when things didn’t go as planned. I like to be punctual and when people are moving like sloths in my house, my anxiety rises. Schedules are my jam: bedtime, mealtime, getting to school on time, you name it I love to stick to it.

This is no way to live and it puts me on edge around my kids. You know the phrase, “Don’t cry over spilled milk?” Well, usually I scream and yell over a drop of water on the ground.

I let these little irritations get to me and then become frustrated with the people I love. Sure, people are going to do things differently than I would but that doesn’t necessarily mean they are doing it wrong.

The thing that really gets me is that I’m letting my emotions get the best of me. This isn’t the true me. It’s the one looking at the worst possible situation and worrying about what is going to happen. The real me is the happy, easy-going, loveable, grateful one who is trying her hardest to shine through a feeling of lack.

This Doesn’t Mean I’m A Pushover.

Relaxing a bit, focusing on what I love about the person in a moment of frustration, and living in a constant state of gratitude has helped me flip the switch. But this doesn’t mean I’ve let my kids off the hook.

They still have to have manners when asking for things. They have to clean up after themselves and will never walk all over me.

What I have seen in even a couple days of focusing on the good is that they react differently in situations. They have begun feeding off my positive energy and aren’t being snarky back to me. I even caught my youngest being helpful without having to ask him.

All people, even kids, pick up on your energy, good or bad and will throw it back at you with the same intensity. So if I want my kids to do something willingly then I need to come at them with appreciation and kindness, instead of demanding them to fulfill my request immediately.

This all sounds good in theory but what does this look like in real-time?

What Parenting With Intention Means to Me:

1. Less irritation among all members of my family
2. Less fighting with my kids
3. Letting go of controlling each situation
4. Really paying attention to my kids when they speak
5. Single-tasking, i.e. slowing down
6. Complete awareness that each child needs me to parent differently
7. Independent children want to do more when there is less nagging
8. Appreciating good deeds and acts of kindness
9. More hugs, kisses, and cuddles reminding myself of what I love about them
10. Mutual respect
11. Teachable moments in a calm manner
12. Spending more time together
13. Not forcing my methods on anyone
14. Embracing their individuality
15. Remembering to be mindful of the way I make requests. They are not demands.
16. Being in the present moment instead of worrying about future/past events
17. BREATHE before reacting (Is what happening right now the worst thing ever? No mess is worth the anger.)
18. Stay positive, think positive, feel positive. Love and gratitude towards everyone and everything will trump all negativity.

This post originally appeared on Medium.

Abbey Fatica was born and raised a Buckeye. She, her husband, four kids and their dog live near Columbus, Ohio. Her interest for writing started after she had kids when becoming a mother provided a lot of material she needed to extract out of her head.

 

Photo: Jamie Rector Photography

Think nail polish is just for girls? Think again! Because all kids should have fun, Alpha Kids set out to change the coversation around nail polish, offering the first-ever nail polish for girls and boys. All children are given the creative freedom to use their imagination, experiment with color so leave your stereotypes at the door because we focus on exploration, individuality, and artistry. It is important for girls and boys to be given equal opportunities to imagine, learn, and create.

With my M.A. degree in Early Childhood Development, I have worked for nearly 20 years as a child development specialist and currently run an educational website called Mama Bear Britt. I also work as a child development specialist for Los Angeles County. And as a mom of a girl and a boy, I know the importance of inspiring and encouraging the developing brain, soul, and spirit of her children, thus, The Alpha Kids was born.

Having a bold and fearless daughter first has paved the way for my two-year-old son—who aspires to do everything she does. Because of my educational and professional background, I have always made sure to create a more gender fluid environment, in terms of toys and stimuli. I know that there are more cognitive building skills to be had with open-ended toys, such as blocks, cars, balls, and dolls and that is where the focus is. My kids have had an environment to freely explore and create without all the typical gender biased verbiage, such as “that’s pink, it’s for girls.”

“My daughter enjoys painting her nails here and there, but it’s really my son who absolutely loves to color himself.” I didn’t think much of it until I began to see other little boys who also shared the same passion for color as my son.

Back in 2011 J.Crew posted an ad with Jenna Lyons, the creative director painting her son nails pink. The ad portrayed how she and her son enjoy their weekend quality time and how much fun they have painting their toenails neon pink. Today.com shared this ad titling it “J. Crew Ad Stirs Up Controversy with Pink Nail Polish.” How silly that the color pink for a boy or even nail polish on his toes would cause such a stir. To this little boy, he loved pink, and he loved the color on his toes. Plain and simple. Now more than ever parents today are much more mindful to how our actions, learned stereotypes and behaviors affect our children. It is much more important to encourage play, creativity, and exploration, rather than limit kids on color choices or who can paint their toes.

That is why Alpha Kids is a nail polish for everyone! Girls and boys should feel free to express their individuality in artistic, and colorful ways. Parents can rest assured that they are not harmful, toxic, or harsh for little nails. The Alpha Kid’s polishes are 10-Free, Vegan, & Cruelty-free; as well as handcrafted in small batches and made in the USA. Happy painting!

 

Hello! My name is Brittany and I am the creator of Mama Bear Britt! I am a child development specialist, former preschool director and mama of two littles. I am working hard to create a place for parents to gather, learn and share. Join my tribe!