Halloween is right around the corner! Whether you’ll be going door-to-door in your neighborhood, hitting a low-key Halloween happening around town or having a cozy family party at home, we’ve got the perfect costume for your SoCal trick-or-treater. From a ray of sunshine to a party on the beach we’ve got 11 costumes that pay homage to San Diego and will delight your little one.

Carmen Sandiego

Your little one instantly becomes everyone’s favorite red-coated, fedora-wearing super thief with this Carmen Sandiego costume! It's the perfect costume for any San Diego dweller. If your little pumpkins aren't familiar with this cool character, have them tune in to the popular Netflix animated series Carmen Sandiego to learn all about this "master thief who uses her skills for good."

Surfer, Shark, Jellyfish & Deep Sea Diver

Go to the beach, find your costume-inspo! The best thing about this family costume is you can customize based on your crew— it works just as well with a lifeguard and no jellyfish. San Diegan beach lovers can ride the wave of compliments this quadruple threat costume will bring. It's super cute and easy to pull together too!

San Diego Padres Friar

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The Padres may not make a run for the World Series this year but we still love them. Show your pride and for your home team this Halloween by grabbing this adorable Etsy find. The tutu back is crochet stretch and adjustable ribbon strap. The shop has plenty of other Padres gear if your team prefers. 

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Taco

Taco 'bout a costume that's almost good enough to eat. San Diego is famous for serving up some of the most delicious tacos in the country. Put your little cutie in a taco costume and watch the ensuing delight. No need to say gracias, we're happy to shell out this idea.

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Maverick from Top Gun

Top Gun 2's release date may be pushed back, but your little Maverick can still feel the need for speed this Halloween. Did you know Top Gun was filled right here in San Diego? Earn even more cred if you and your spouse make it a family affair and dress up as Goose and Charlie. Quick, go find that leather bomber jacket. 

LEGO Movie Characters

Everyone is awesome in these LEGO Movie character costumes. San Diego's beloved resort brings kiddos joy on the regular so show your love by dressing up your little one as their favorite colorful bricks. You can really rev up the fun factor of wearing these colorful costumes by donning them to attend LEGOLAND's Bricktacular Halloween event!

In-N-Out Burger Costumes

Order up! In-N-Out fans are diehard, and this adorable family Halloween costume goes above and beyond. Everyone will recognize those little fries in the iconic fast-food chain's palm-tree-lined container, of course, accompanied by a burger and waitstaff who undoubtedly know all the secret menu items. Make it animal style, please. 

Skateboarder

Beth Shea

As we saw in the Olympics this past summer, San Diego breeds professional skateboarders. From legendary Tony Hawk to Keegan Palmer, pro skaters live and practice right here in our hometown. The skate culture has a SoCal vibe through and through. Your little shredder can show their love of the sport by suiting up in Vans SK8-HI shoes, Killer 187 knee and elbow pads, a Bones Brigade or Santa Cruz T-shirt and a Bell or Pro-Tec helmet. Bonus: this gear will outfit them long past Halloween on all of their skating adventures through San Diego's many skateparks

Avocado Toast

Did you know that San Diego is the avocado capital of the U.S.? Give a nod to this popular green fruit by dressing up as avocado toast! Everyone loves this yummy, albeit pricey San Diego-inspired breakfast!

 

Dr. Seuss Characters

Dr. Seuss (Theodor Seuss Geisel) lived in La Jolla for several decades and signs of his wacky, wonderful work abound throughout town. The author's wildly imaginative characters make us all spoiled for choice for the perfect Halloween costumes. Whether you opt for The Cat in the Hat, The Lorax or The Grinch, oh the places you'll go will be filled with fun!

Sunshine

San Diego's love language is bright skies and sunshine so dressing your babe up as the star at the center of the Solar System seems fitting. This DYI costume is super easy to pull together, with this Etsy sunray headband, yellow leggings and a cozy bodysuit. 

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––Beth Shea & Aimee Della Bitta

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You’ve seen them marvel at a simple rock and squeal with delight over a dandelion, so the idea that children have a strong connection to nature is no news to parents. Having a family discussion about the human impact on the environment can be a powerful way for children to take the next step in understanding the importance of protecting Earth—especially when we arm them with solutions. Here’s why caring about the Earth matters for your kids and you.

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Mental & Physical Health Benefits 

One of the most tangible arguments for becoming stewards of Earth is the positive impact that nature has on our mental and physical well-being. Many children do not get enough time outdoors, which can make it challenging to draw the more obvious parallels between a healthy planet and healthy people. Jennifer Walsh, a nature connector for people and businesses, describes this as a “nature-deficit disorder.” 

With distance learning and parents trying to juggle work and life at home during a pandemic, outdoor play can take a backseat, especially if you don’t have a backyard of your own. As Walsh explains, “Unfortunately because of COVID, studies have shown that young children have spent less time outside, and this disconnection, or nature deficit disorder, is showing that children’s white matter in their brains is not developing properly. This causes delays in learning and even the ability to concentrate.”

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Research has been ongoing for years on the positive effects of nature education for children, with terms like forest bathing becoming part of our everyday vernacular. But what does that mean, exactly?

Spending time outside increases mental clarity and eases anxiety—but it’s not just the fresh air. Walsh describes phytoncides, a chemical released by certain trees, especially conifers like pines and cedars, “It’s an invisible aerosol that the trees emit that helps protect them from bacteria. When we are amongst these trees and inhale those aerosols, it releases something within us called our natural killer cells, which in turn help us ward off disease and illness. This has been studied since the early ’80s.” 

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An extensive study conducted by a team of research professionals from the Nippon Medical School in Tokyo, Japan found that exposure to the phytoncides over seven days increased anti-cancer proteins in their test subjects and that the increased level of those natural killer cells and proteins lasted for seven days after exposure. That means a walk in the woods has lasting benefits beyond the immediate. 

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That’s great news because even if you live in a more urban environment, a nature walk once a week can have big benefits. Taking the kids for a walk in the woods, a park, or a nature preserve is great exercise and good for everyone’s brains. While you are in a beautiful place, take the time to discuss the importance of such places and why we should protect them. Bring along an extra plastic bag to clean up litter, never leave your trash behind, and take lots of time to observe the animals and plants around you. And, of course, take some deep breaths while you are there.

photo: Tanguy Sauvin via Unsplash 

Consequences of Actions aka The Life Cycle of a Plastic Bag

Children love animals—real ones, stuffed toy ones, storybook characters, cartoon animals. Making the connection that something like a plastic bag can threaten animal health is a powerful way for children to understand the long-term repercussions of human actions.

For example, a plastic bag that ends up in the ocean can be mistaken for a jellyfish by a sea turtle. Sea turtles love to eat jellyfish, and so they eat plastic bags which wreaks havoc on their digestive systems. According to The Turtle Hospital, a sea turtle rescue and rehabilitation center in the Florida Keys, “Turtles are opportunistic feeders, meaning they will eat just about anything.” This includes plastic bags, plastic gloves, fishing lines and other errant trash.

photo: Jonathan Chng via Unsplash 

We can all help sea turtles—and other sea life—with simple, everyday action that involves recycling, reducing and reusing. This is as easy as using cloth bags, buying products with less packaging, shopping local, especially from local farms. The big one? Get a reusable water bottle. “A plastic water bottle is used for five minutes and is around for 500 years,” the Turtle Hospital writes. “A recent study found that on average our oceans are littered with 47,000 pieces of plastic per square mile!”

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Be mindful of scaring your children or causing increased anxiety by offering straightforward solutions to the problem that they can be part of: We don’t use plastic bags because they can be eaten by sea turtles; we bring reusable bags to the store; can you be in charge of remembering the bags today?

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The Reality of Cold Hard Cash

While it may not be the most altruistic of reasons to recycle, reduce and reuse, understanding the concept of “waste not, want not” is a pretty quick one for any kid to grasp. If a box of Ziploc bags costs $5, and you rinse and reuse them instead of needing to buy a new box (or better yet, use a more Earth-friendly option like these) you just saved $5. In a month that’s $20, which is a small fortune to a child. 

The Turtle Hospital reminds us that being a responsible consumer is key. “Know where your seafood was obtained and how it was caught.” Because unethical fishing and overharvesting can decimate protected species, not to mention add to the pollution in the ocean, be sure your seafood was caught sustainably. You can check out seafoodwatch.org to learn more.

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Making the connection that how we spend money impacts the environment is a critical stage to understanding why conscious consumerism matters. Factories have to produce more products, causing more by-products and waste; vehicles have to ship these products, which uses fuel and contributes pollution to the environment. These concepts are easy to explain and even easier to put into action when you do simple things like considering the source of your food and packaging.

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Be the Change

Remember, as Reena B. Patel, a well-known parenting expert, positive psychologist, and Licensed Educational Board Certified Behavior Analyst, puts it, “Children are also born with an altruistic approach. This helping behavior seems to be innate because it appears so early and before many parents start teaching children the rules of polite behavior. Young children are concrete learners and model what they see. Clean up toys and cleaning up trash from the ground is a concrete and generalized behavior. To them, it is the same thing. ”

Raising a child that is Earth-friendly, aware of the importance of the natural environment and able to make changes every day with their decisions is one of the most powerful tools parents have today in the face of climate change. But, just like brushing your teeth or trying not to cuss at your neighbors, it’s behavior that we need to model first. So put those cloth bags right by your door, ditch the plastic water bottles, and stop throwing away the old to-go containers you were too lazy to rinse, parents. We know you can do it!

—Amber Guetebier

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SpongeBob SquarePants fans rejoice! The beloved Bikini Bottom star is the subject of a MONOPOLY game—and it’s about to go viral.

MONOPOLY: SpongeBob SquarePants Meme Edition is available right now. Unlike the traditional MONOPOLY game, players don’t buy hotels, railroads or utilities in this version. Instead, it’s all about becoming Internet famous.

Photo: The Op Games 

The Meme Edition of this MONOPOLY game features six custom-sculpted tokens—Bubbles with Bubblewand, Mermaidman’s Belt Buckle, Squidward’s Clarinet, SpongeBob’s Spatula, a Krabby Patty and Jellyfish. To play the game you need to buy, sell and trade Internet famous images of SpongeBob and his BFFs from Bikini Bottom.

Forget about Houses and Hotels. In this edition, you’ll build Posts and create Collections! Keep playing to get Likes and bankrupt the other players. MONOPOLY: SpongeBob SquarePants Meme Edition also replaces the tried and true Community Chest cards with Comments and Shares.

This game is intended for two to six players ages eight-years and up. Find MONOPOLY: SpongeBob SquarePants Meme Edition here for $39.99.

—Erica Loop

 

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Week 40, Day 6 (Morning):
I feel SO huge and I’m so over being pregnant. I’ve been on maternity leave for two weeks, and I assumed by this point I’d be cuddling my baby. Instead, I’m lugging around a fully formed human in my body and I’m having a hard time getting comfortable.

Week 40, Day 6 (Afternoon):
I go to visit my OBGYN in the hopes that she will take one look at me and proclaim “THIS WOMAN IS IN ACTIVE LABOR!” Instead, it’s a routine appointment where she tells me that I’m showing no signs of labor.

BUT THEN, EXCITEMENT! She tells me that she is going to call the hospital to schedule my induction for tomorrow!

Week 41, Day 1 (8:00 AM): 
My husband Brendan and I arrive at the hospital and are shown to our room. A Labor and Delivery (L&D) nurse enters to get me set up and check my cervix for signs of dilation. If you’d never had your cervix checked, this is what happens:

1. With gloved hands a medical professional sticks two fingers into your vagina.

2. They get their fingers all the way up and back until they feel your cervix.

3. They check to see if your cervix is opened (or dilated) and do a measurement in centimeters on how open it is. Your cervix needs to go from ZERO to TEN centimeters wide in order for a baby to fit through.

The L&D nurse tells me to put the bottom of my feet together to make a froggy pose while she checks my cervix.

She tells me that I’m at maybe half a centimeter dilated. Then she gives me my first dose of misoprostol, a pill that will slowly make my cervix dilate and induce my labor (hopefully.)

Week 41, Day 1 (2:00 PM): 
My L&D nurse comes to check my cervix again and give me a second dose of misoprostol or “miso” as they call it. I am hopeful that my cervix is cooperating but I am still at a half centimeter dilated. She tells me that her shift is ending and introduces me to my new nurse.

This nurse is a lot older and definitely more seasoned.

One of the first things my new nurse says to me is this:

“When the time comes, you need to push. You need to push, push, push! So many people go through all of this dilating, they get all the way to ten, and then they can’t push. You need to push!”

I stare at her intently and swear to her that I will push when I am dilated to ten.

Week 41, Day 2 (2:00 AM): 
We’ve been at the hospital all day and into the night, and very little has happened.

Two L&D nurses come in to give me another dose of miso and to check my cervix. One of the nurses is training and is obviously nervous. She goes ahead and starts to check my cervix. I can feel her fingers shaking inside me.

While she is in there, she looks at her colleague and hesitantly says, “um…four?” to which I bolt up in total excitement.

Her trainer looks at her in disbelief and asks nicely, “Are you sure?” Then she checks my cervix. Turns out I’m still at one.

Week 41, Day 2 (8:00 AM):
A new, really great nurse comes in. Her name is Chris and she is definitely my favorite nurse! I’m now dilated to two!

Week 41, Day 2 (12:00 PM):
As I walk to the bathroom something falls out of me. It looks like a jellyfish blob. Chris is with me and she says, “Looks like you lost your mucus plug!” and then grab a paper towel and picks it up. I think about how grateful I am that people are willing to do this job.

Week 41, Day 2 (3:00 PM):
I am now dilated to four centimeters, and things are heating up. I’m starting to get cramps that feel like a really bad period. The nurses ask me what my pain management preferences are, and I say I prefer to not feel any pain! They call for the anesthesiologist to put in my epidural.

Week 41, Day 2 (9:00 PM):
Things are getting real. Here’s what’s happening:

  1. I am dilated near ten.
  2. To help speed everything along, the team has given me pitocin, and it makes me vomit. A lot.
  3. The intense older drill sergeant nurse is back! She gives me a look as if to say “Remember your training, do not disappoint me.”
  4. My OBGYN is having dinner at home with her family. What?!

Week 41, Day 2 (9:15 PM):
The nurses all agree that it’s time for me to start pushing. They are calling the doctor who is on her way.

The drill sergeant nurse takes over. She instructs Brendan to help me hold my knees back towards my ears.

The drill sergeant waits until my next contraction comes and tells me to hold my breath and push. They count to ten while I push and feel like my head is about to explode from the pressure.

Finally, my OBGYN comes running into the room.

Week 41, Day 2 (9:15 PM):
The doctor takes one look and says, “Oh! Hi baby! We can see the top of your head!”

The OBGYN tells me when my next contraction is and I push hard again. Each push is the most exhausting thing I’ve ever done, and I vomit after each one. But I hold my breath and bear down as they count each time.

I do one last, hard push and I feel the doctor pull what feels like a massive thing out of my body.

That thing is the most beautiful thing I’ve ever seen. My son is born!

Week 41, Day 2 (9:20 PM):
Amazingly I stop throwing up and suddenly feel 100% better. As I hold my little goo-covered miracle I am filled with a sense of accomplishment. The waiting was worth it!

This post originally appeared on The San Francisco Mama.
Sophie Campobasso Nolan
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

Sophie is a San Francisco based Mom of 2 young kids on a mission to find and share the best kid friendly local stuff! 

With a slate of family-friendly flicks at the newest pop-up drive-in and a dino-mite drive-thru experience coming to the Rose Bowl, we are so ready for 2021. And we’re hopeful that many of our favorite outdoor destinations (like the L.A. Zoo and Aquarium of the Pacific) will reopen in the coming weeks. Read on for all the fun things that we can’t wait to do in the year ahead, plus get tips for staying connected in the meantime.

See Dinosaurs at the Newest Drive-Thru

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While we're hopeful that many of our favorite annual LA events will be happening later on in the year, there are no guarantees. But we do at least know that the upcoming Jurassic Quest Drive-Thru is a go! The event will take place at Pasadena's Rose Bowl Stadium, from Jan. 15-Jan. 31. Tickets are already on sale for the hourlong experience, which features over 70 life-like, animatronic dinosaurs.

Online: jurassicquest.com

Park at a Drive-In

In January, The Little Mermaid, Cars, Toy Story 4 and more will be showing at LA's newest pop-up drive-in, Rooftop Cinemas at the Santa Monica Airport. If you haven't made it to a drive-in yet, don't miss this opportunity. Bring blankets and pillows, pop open your trunk and let the kids settle in for a throwback big-screen experience. 

Online: rooftopcinemaclub.com

 

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Meet the Newest Animals at the LA Zoo

On Dec.7, the Los Angeles Zoo closed due to the latest Stay at Home orders. (It had reopened back in October, with time entries, limited capacity and additional safety guidelines in place.) The Zoo announced that it would be closed for a minimum of three weeks. We're hopeful that it will open at some point later in January or February of 2021. And we can't wait to meet this little baby langur monkey who is giving us major Baby Yoda vibes. Also new to the zoo? An itty-bitty California Condor chick. 

To stay up to date on the L.A. Zoo's reopening plans, follow them on Instagram

 

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Dine Out (While Wearing Masks)

As Angelenos, we're fortunate enough to be able to enjoy outdoor dining pretty much year-round. Although even dining al fresco at our favorite restaurants is off-limits for now. But when it's once again safe to do so, we'll be visiting our favorite kid-friendly outdoor patios at these LA restaurants

Feed the Moon Jellyfish at Aquarium of the Pacific

Long Beach's Aquarium of the Pacific was one of the first destinations to reopen this summer. Even with the indoor areas of the Aquarium closed, there was still plenty to see outdoors, including a Moon Jelly Touch Lab is, Stingray Touch Pool and Lorikeet Forest. Like the L.A. Zoo, the Aquarium announced in early December that it would be closed for at least three weeks. Until it reopens, we'll be zoning out with the Aquarium's animal webcams—we dare you not to feel more relaxed after watching these jellyfish drifting in the water.  

Take a Staycation/Vacation/Any Kinda'cation

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Leisure travel is restricted for now, so even our jaunt to a nearby cabin rental had to be postponed. Once we get the green light, we can't wait to road trip it outta town.

Check out our favorite nearby rentals for families

Create with Cayton Creators

Cayton Children's Museum in Santa Monica put their weekly outdoor event, Cayton Creators, on pause at the beginning of December. But we're optimistic it will be back in the new year. Check here for updates. 

Online: caytonmuseum.org

And some day… (hopefully sooner rather than later)

Ride the Santa Monica Pier Carousel

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We're feeling nostalgic for the iconic merry-go-round, which hasn't seen any riders since pre-pandemic days. While all the rides on the pier are also closed, the pier itself is at least open if you want to take a stroll along the historic landmark.

Online: pacpark.com

Board the Trains in Travel Town

Old train cars to explore, lots of grass to run around, a mini locomotive to ride—this is toddler heaven and we can't wait for it to reopen. Until then, we'll be exploring the trails of Griffith Park (and beyond)

Make a Splash at Kidspace

One of our favorite museums for kids has been closed for way too long. As much as we love all the online content they're giving us, we can't wait to be there again IRL. 

Have a Ball at an Indoor Playground

Best Indoor Playgrounds in LA

Let's be honest: Ball pits were already a germaphobes worst nightmare, even if kids can't get enough of them. Maybe one day when the pandemic is behind us, we'll be able to watch our little ones slide into a mass of plastic balls and only cringe a little. 

–Shannan Rouss

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Bay Area families have gotten pretty creative with homeschool and stay-at-home activities. And while we’re all trying to keep our chin up, we’re not gonna lie: there are things we are starting to really, really miss. Here are 13 things we’re looking forward to being able to do again.

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Stand in line to get a Malted Vanilla ice cream at BiRite Creamery. Or maybe Mint Chip...or Salted Caramel. Make that all of the above. 

Amber Guetebier

Visit Yerba Buena gardens for a dash behind the waterfall at the MLK memorial before hitting the LeRoy King Carousel and riding it no less than twenty times. 

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Spend the afternoon listening to the constant din of a hundred happy children at the Koret Children's Playground, and zipping down the Cement Slide with the reckless abandon of a five-year-old. 

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Roam the crowded streets of Chinatown on a Saturday afternoon, letting the kids go in and out of stores seeking treasures like rice-paper fans and embroidered Mary Jane slippers. 

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Go to a library story time at our favorite neighborhood library, but especially Drag Queen Story Hour.

Chantal Lamers

Ride the Little Puffer at the SF Zoo more than once while the peacocks scream and the monkeys cackle, after posing for pictures at all the IG-worthy spots. 

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Wait patiently while someone else makes you a pour-over coffee. Like really, really patiently. 

Robin Eagan

Not cooking at home, but instead hitting up Off the Grid anywhere, but especially the Presidio Picnic, where we can all eat exactly what we want (hello inside-out samosa! hello mini donuts!) and dance to live music while we're doing it. 

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Get mopped at 826 Valencia after bartering for lard, followed by admiring the beautiful murals throughout the Mission. Followed by a visit to Dolores Park to enjoy the view, the playground and the weather, with ALL those other people. 

Kate Loweth

Drink out of a toilet at the Exploratorium. 

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Watch our kids make spontaneous friendships at a public gathering. Any public gathering. 

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Head to the Saturday Farmer's Market at the Ferry Building for the best peaches in the universe, which don't really transport, so you have to eat them right there by the Bay. 

Kathryn Whitney courtesy California Academy of Sciences

Take the kids to Golden Gate Park to see the jellyfish at the Cal Academy, followed by eating french fries at the deYoung's cafe, followed by a run through the SF Botanical Garden. Not necessarily in that order. 

—Amber Guetebier

featured image: Robin Eagen

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Tiger? Helicopter? Lawnmover? Jellyfish? Which parenting st‌yle best describes you? Popular culture has some creative categories for today’s parents. You may be familiar with the “tiger mom” label used to describe the caregiver who shows tough love and holds high expectations for achievement and success. Perhaps you have also heard of helicopter parents, who hover over their kids, becoming overinvolved, or the lawnmower or snowplow st‌yles, where parents “mow down” a path for their children by removing any potential obstacles or discomforts. Then there’s the jellyfish, or under parent, who opts for giving their kids the freedom to do what they want to promote self-reliance.

You may be wondering which parenting st‌yle is best for you and your teenage daughter.

It is without question that parenting a teenage girl is challenging and unpredictable. Just when you feel you have figured her out, she will change. Adolescence is by definition a time of intense and rapid changes and as girls grow up, we may want to consider tweaking our parenting approach. One of the most effective ways I have learned to “parent” girls, is to parent from the periphery.

Periphery parenting begins with empowering teen girls to stand in the center of their own circles where then can begin to make their own choices, and yes, even mistakes, with room to grow. Parents can step back to the periphery of this circle where they are still actively parenting by observing, guiding, assuring, and supporting in the ways she needs, helping, not hindering her growth. This st‌yle of parenting is not about checking out but rather creating the space she needs to learn how to become more independent.

Parenting from the periphery requires a new way of relating and a new approach. It means becoming comfortable with being the observer on the outskirts, the silent supporter, the cheerleader and champion, and ready when (and if) she needs you, not interfering or micromanaging, but nurturing her development.

Is it easy? No way. Especially when you can anticipate problems or pain. Is it worth it? Yes, absolutely. Parents I work with tell me all the time how hard it is to “let go” of their teens. The world is fast-paced, over-stimulating, and scary. We all want to protect our girls. Yet, we also want to prepare them. What steps can you take to step into your new role of periphery parent? I’d like to offer you five.

Notice Her. On the outside, you have a unique vantage point: you get to watch her grow. As you step back, you can see her in a new way. Look for the changes—to both celebrate her growth and help you decide if you need to step in. See her for who she is—her unique interests, hobbies, and passions. See her body morph into that of a woman’s and help her appreciate it by focusing on what she loves. See her as she begins to design day and her dreams. Watch for the choices she makes, the chances she takes. Observe her patterns, especially when it comes to eating, sleeping, screen time, scheduling, and stress. What do you notice? Who is she becoming?

Listen to Her. On the outside looking in, without stepping into to offer her your ideas or advice, it is likely she will talk more. As she speaks, simply listen to her words and beyond her words, listen for her feelings. Refrain from making connections and making it about you. Keep her conversation on her as she talks about what matters most. You can provide a safe space for her to sort out the day’s events. Being an active listener takes time and patience. As you listen, she is learning that as she speaks, and as you listen, she is better able to understand herself and what she needs to do.

Be Curious About Her. Girls fear our judgment: for their clothing st‌yles, their musical interests, and their friends. Instead of offering your criticism, shift instead to your curiosity. You may not agree with her choices, but you do owe it to her to find out more about her thinking. Ask her open-ended questions such as, “I am wondering why you decided to drop Biology this semester?” or “I’d love to hear more about your recent change in friend groups”. You may be confused, but once you understand the back-story (there is always a reason), you gain clarity. Through your non-judgmental questions, she may come to realize where she has faltered and learn from her mistakes. At the same time, she comes to trust that she can tell you anything and that you “get her”.

Affirm and Assure Her. As she becomes a little older, taller, and more mature, she needs you to reflect back what you see. It is no surprise that teenage girls lack the confidence and self-belief we hope for them. They struggle to see the amazingness inside of them, especially when their social media feeds are flooded with unrealistic standards of both beauty and success. They feel they can’t keep up. Be her mirror to reflect back what you see: her qualities, her bravery, and her effort. She needs to know who she is becoming and this can prevent her from searching outside of herself for attention and approval. She needs to know that no matter what you are there for her and she can keep going.

You may be a tiger or helicopter parent. She does need you; but now it’s in a new way, from the periphery, where you are better able to notice her, listen to her, be curious about her, affirm and assure her.

For more advice about parenting teenage girls, check out Growing Strong Girls: Practical Tools to Cultivate Connection in the Preteen Years and Rooted, Resilient, and Ready now available on Amazon and Audible

 

I am a girl advocate and girls champion; the founder of Bold New Girls, teaching and coaching for girls and their parents. As well, I am the author Growing Strong Girls and Rooted, Resilient, and Ready (available on Amazon and Audible). I am an international speaker and an instructor with Udemy. 

Though all of us are working overtime keeping our distance from one another, it doesn’t mean we’re completely confined to our own 4 walls. Why not go bananas with the monkeys at Brookfield Zoo? Swim along with the Shedd’s incredible jellyfish? Or set off on a safari led by the keepers of the Lincoln Park Zoo? Zoos across the country are setting up their cams and bringing their beloved critters right into our very homes! Start close to home with Chicago-area zoos, and then move on to offerings from zoos around the country with our round-up of virtual zoo visits! 

Brookfield Zoo brings over 2,000 animals direct to your home! And don’t worry, they won’t bite! Join in on the zoo’s fascinating Facebook broadcasts to make time home with kids entertaining and educational. See African painted dog puppies get their first physical exam, gorillas using tools to get food, and many more animal antics from the comfort of your sofa. Consider supporting the zoo by pre-purchasing tickets for the summertime! 

The Lincoln Park Zoo is helping supporters to ‘keep in touch’ with their favorite animals and spaces at the zoo during the Covid-19 crisis. Tune in to Facebook and Instagram for keeper chats, virtual habitat tours, Q&As, relaxing videos, and Facebook Lives with Zoo Director Megan Ross, Ph.D. Check out the zoo’s blog for an inside look at how Lincoln Park Zoo provides world-class care to nearly 200 species, as well as ways to connect young ones with nature and much more. Now is also a great time to adopt an animal, as you’ll be supporting the zoo, too!

Swim along with the fishes at Shedd Aquarium, home to 32,600 species of sea life. With the Shedd Aquarium’s Underwater Beauty live cam, you can dive right into the deep blue ocean, where jellies pulse, eels ribbon and a rainbow comes alive with reef fishes in the aquarium’s most diverse special exhibit ever. Underwater Beauty shows how every aquatic animal is beautifully adapted to thrive in its environment — and how this beauty is worth saving. Inspired? When you symbolically adopt a beluga, sea turtle, sea otter or penguin at Shedd, you support the aquarium’s mission and top-quality animal care. 

Set off on a home safari and meet the elephants, porcupines, sloths and other fascinating creatures that call the The Cincinnati Zoo home. The zoo hosts a live video every weekday of one of their animals and an activity on Home Safari at 3pm EDT. You can also watch previous day videos on their website.  

Expect to find yourself mesmerized by the penguins, sea otters, jellyfish and other creatures that live at the Monterey Bay Aquarium in California. Ten live cams bring free live streaming direct into your home. We can’t get enough of the moon jelly cam!

The San Diego Zoo has live and archived videos of animals of all kinds, from apes to tigers! (We love checking in on the polar bears!). The zoo’s family-friendly website is jam-packed with videos and information about animals, fun stories, hands-on activities, and games, perfect for at-home fun. 

— Amy Bizzarri

Featured photo: courtesy of Brookfield Zoo

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We’re not sure when it happened, but the typical Valentine’s Day card has upped its game. From references to hit television series to perfect puns, modern Valentine’s Day cards aim for your funny bone as well as your heart. From Valentine’s Day cards for kids to funny Valentine’s Day cards, see our favorites below.

Yoda One

Perfect for any recipient, this baby Yoda sums it up with typical cuteness.

Available on Amazon Homemade, $5 + shipping

You're an Eleven

Calling all fans of Stranger Things! Their love of this card will only match their love of the hit series. 

Available on Amazon Homemade, $5 + shipping

From the Dog: I'm So Sorry

Maybe we don't get a lot of correspondence from our pooch. But maybe we should. And if we did, wouldn't this be perfect?

Available from Amazon Homemade, $6.99

If You Were a Flower

Crimson and Clover Studio

Let's be honest. None of us are hearing that many pick up lines these days (the grocery store at 10 a.m. isn't the happening place it is at 10 p.m., after all). That's why this card will make any adult's day.

Available on Crimson and Clover Studio, $5

Just for Your Gal Pal: Behind Every Great Woman

Emily McDowell

"OMG is there a project due tomorrow?!?! He just told me. How long has Henry been working on it?" or perhaps, "V just barfed. There's no way I can get the kids to school in the morning. Can you pick the others up?" There are so. many. versions. of the late-night wing-mom text. Give this card to those on your favorites list.

Available at Emily Mcdowell, $4.99

Roses are Red

Finch and the Fallow via Etsy

We like their style. Whimsical, no-frills, solidly funny. Nicely done.

Available at Etsy, $4.80

If You Got Stung By a Jellyfish

Finch and the Fallow via Etsy

This card is guaranteed to get the giggles going on Valentine's Day morning. 

Available on Etsy, $4.53

Zombie Apocalypse

Cardd Cafe via Etsy

While it might not mean that much to your tiny tots, this card speaks to the very soul of your older elementary and middle school-aged kiddos.

Available on Etsy, $3.94

Just for Your Spouse: Pajama Promise

Genna and Cara via Minted

It can't be said that I never do anything romantic. This card is hard, cold evidence that you've. still. got. it. 

Available at Minted, $5.99

You A'Ight

Seas and Peas via Etsy

A'ight? A'ight. 

Available at Etsy, $4.50

I Willy Like You

Ice Pond Press via Etsy

If your kids get this, then congrats to you. Excellent parenting. For anyone else, this card is perfect for a teacher, friend, neighbor or mailman. It's a multi-tool of a Valentine's Day card.

Available on Etsy, $5.25

Llama Just Say

Orabella Prints via Zazzle

Oh, you know we did! We threw a llama in here, and it is hi-ll-arious. 

Available at Zazzle, $3.45

I Still Love You

Finch and the Fallow via Etsy

The picture that says it all. Despite the daily drudgery, it's pretty awesome to do life with our people, amiright? We just wish they'd put their dang dishes in the dishwasher. 

Available at Etsy, $4.53

I Think You're Grate

Lily and Tom via Etsy

If you have a fan of the pun, this card is really punny.

Available at Etsy, $4.10

 

If You Were a Bogey

Heidi Burton via Etsy

This one is for all those special pickers we have in our lives. Kids, we're talking to you! 

Available at Etsy, $4.19

 

––Shelley Massey

 

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Is your kiddo in full-on Halloween mode? With October right around the corner, Hanna Andersson is here to help—with its online Halloween store. Check out the PJ’s, costumes and other pint-sized picks the retailer has to offer.

Bat Long John Pajamas

Take flight in these bat-themed PJ's ($44).

Firefighter Helmet

Does your child dream of dressing up like a first responder? Check out this velour firefighter helmet ($24).

Bear Mask

Your wild child can play the role of bear with this magnificent mask ($16).

Jellyfish Tentacles

These shiny tentacles ($40) are ideal for your ocean creature enthusiast. 

Dino Claws

Roar! Your littles can dig like dinos with these cute claws ($24).

 

Long John Pajamas

These black cat PJ's ($44) are perfect for Halloween eve!

 

Big-Hearted Lion Headband

Your lion-lover will enjoy this animal awesomeness. Wear the headband ($24.99) as is or as part of a costume. 

—Erica Loop

Photos: Hanna Andersson

 

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