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18 Easy Ways to Kill 20 Minutes with Kids of Every Age

by Aimee Della Bitta

Ah, the ever-elusive concept of time. It’s like a ninja—stealthily slipping away when you’re not looking but stubbornly dragging on when you’re trying to entertain a restless toddler or engage an uninterested tween. Luckily, we’ve compiled a list of fun play ideas for kids of all ages that won’t take longer than a snack break. From magic tricks to a game of animal charades, these activities are guaranteed to make 20 minutes feel like a flash.  And who knows, the memories made during these mini-adventures might just become cherished family stories down the road.

Play Ideas for Kids Age 2-4

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Notoriously known for having zero attention span, toddlers can lose interest quickly, so filling 20 minutes with engaging activities isn’t always easy. These quick-fix ideas help turn any idle time into a burst of fun.

1. Play I-Spy. This classic game stands the test of time and helps toddlers better understand their surroundings. It’s also easily adaptable, requires no materials, and takes almost no time to complete. Put a twist on the same old game and set up your “I Spy” with a theme. Pick a letter (all things that begin with “B”), a color (only purple objects), or any other focus that your kiddo can dream up.

2. Stack Stuff. Watch your little one learn hand-eye coordination, spatial awareness, and problem-solving skills by just stacking stuff. Whether it’s cups or blocks, they’ll have a blast figuring out balance and stability.
3. Have a Dance Party. Throw on some music and dance it out. Choose from our roundup of the best Spotify playlists, and spike your heart rate to a family-friendly tune. It’s also a great way to shake things up when your little one is feeling grumpy.

4. Play Follow the Leader. Get creative with this old-school favorite. Choose a theme (such as acting like animals or moving like snowflakes), create super-silly walks, or explore outside with a follow-the-leader nature walk.

Ideas for Ages 4-6

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Preschoolers are curious, and their imagination is always running at warp speed. It’s a great time to introduce play ideas that activate their love of make-believe. Unchanged: Preschoolers are curious, and their imagination is always running at warp speed. It’s a great time to introduce play ideas that activate their love of make-believe.

4. Act out a book. While reading a book together is always a good idea, acting one out could be even more fun. If your toddler has a favorite book they’re obsessed with, dig into the dress-up box and have them try to act out a live-action version.

5. Have your little one stay in character when you play a quick game of animal charades. No prep is necessary for this easy guessing game. Just pick your favorite animal and go for it. With each successful guess, trade places and start again. Ee-i-ee-i-o!

6. Create a card for a loved one. Surprise a friend or relative with a homemade card from you and your toddler. They’ll have fun stamping, coloring, and creating a fun design, and the recipient will be thrilled with the surprise mail.

Play Ideas for Kids Ages 6-8

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It’s no surprise that recess is this group’s favorite time of day. Grade school kids need to run and unleash energy, so killing 20 minutes is easy when you have open space to move. Here are some fun activities to keep moving and even a few for when they need to sit still.

7. Play freeze tag. The person who is “it” tries to tag the others. Once you’ve been tagged, you have to stand (frozen in the position you were in when you were tagged) until another “untagged” person can tag you to free you.

8. Create a Scavenger Hunt. Whether you pull a pre-organized list off the internet or create your own, enjoy watching your grade-schooler expend some serious energy while hunting for one item after another.

9. Play a minute to win it game. This age set loves a timer and since every phone has one you can break out a minute to win it game just about anywhere. From ball drop to sponge run, we’ve got a full list of games that take 60 seconds or less and are sure to make time fly.

10. Have fun with jokes. Laughter really is the best medicine. Telling jokes is an instant mood booster, so whether you’re stuck in traffic or waiting in the orthodontist’s office, tap into some of our favorite belly-laughing jokes. We even have a best-of-summer roundup!

Play Ideas for Kids Ages 10-12

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Avoid the dreaded “I’m bored” phrase by suggesting one of these activities to your soon-to-be middle schoolers.

12. Conversation starters. Jumping into a good discussion with tweens isn’t always seamless, but these conversation starters can help. Try using this one right before dinner—If you could make any vegetable against the law, which would it be? Just be ready for their answer!

13. Play “Exquisite Corpse,” where you create a story together. Decide on a theme and have the first person write a phrase or sentence. The next person continues the story by writing the next sentence or phrase, using the last word or phrase from the previous person’s contribution. Continue taking turns until you have a complete story.

14. Learn a magic trick. Start with the simple paper-clip trick and keep moving through this entire list of tricks. 

15. Play Name that Tune—and let them pick the music! It’s a great way to get your kiddo to talk more about what they’re into and for you to add some variety to your playlist.

The Best Ideas for Teens

Trying to get your teen to put down their phone and engage in conversation is like trying to teach a cat to swim – it’s not impossible, but it sure feels like it sometimes! The good news is, once you do, they’re happy you did it and more likely to form healthy habits around screen usage.

15. Play a game of “20 Questions”. Get more insight into your teen’s mind and thought process with this classic game you can play anywhere, anytime. It also fosters strategic thinking and is a game of deduction and logic that will be very satisfying for your ever-growing tween.

16. Play Wordle or do a mini crossword. Want to engage and still use the phone? We suggest pairing up to solve everyone’s favorite word puzzles.

17. Boost their confidence. Sometimes just letting them know you’re proud of them can lead to the best discussions. Here are 30 positive things to say to your favorite almost-teen when they don’t feel like talking.

18. Trivia for Tweens and Teens. From who is the half-blooded prince to who is the oldest gamer on YouTube, we’ve rounded up some of the most intriguing trivia questions for teens (and tweens) that are guaranteed to keep them entertained.

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15 Signs You’re in a Relationship That Will Last

by Kipp Jarecke-Cheng

If you’ve ever been lucky in love, you’ve likely experienced first-hand the butterfly flutters in your stomach when you meet your perfect match. While that first rush of physical attraction may fade, relationships that ultimately stand the test of time often share similar qualities that outlast the initial spark. We asked several leading experts to weigh in on the most powerful predictors behind long-term relationship success, and boy, did they deliver.

1. You lead with laughter.

Let’s face it: Life is messy, and laughter is often the glue that keeps things from completely falling apart. If you can laugh so hard that you chuckle-snort and your partner still finds you irresistibly adorable, then your relationship likely is on solid ground. According to Dr. Sara Algoe, professor of psychology and neuroscience at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and director of The Love Consortium, shared laughter is critical in a successful, lasting relationship. “It signals that you see the world in the same way. We found that people who shared laughter felt more connected than those who did not share laughter,” she says.

2. You fight fair.

Think respectful disagreements, not WWE smackdowns. Dr. John Gottman, world-renowned researcher on marital stability and divorce prediction and co-founder of The Gottman Institute, says a couple’s ability to resolve conflict—or their repairing skills—is often the single greatest sign of a healthy relationship. “Our partners don’t always have to think like we think. That’s what makes life interesting—it would be boring to be married to yourself,” says Gottman. Bonus points if you can apologize without making it sound like you’re reciting the alphabet backward. Find out more about Gottman’s work on the 4 Horsemen of Relationships here.

3. You operate as a team.

The over-used aphorism “teamwork makes the dream work” has become something of a corporate cliché, but when it comes to tackling life’s curveballs, couples that operate as a unified team have a higher chance at success than those who only fend for themselves. Andreas Narum, certified psychologist, couples therapist, and founder of Remainly explains, “Good teamwork acknowledges that there are two separate sets of thoughts and feelings.” Whether co-navigating parenting duties or making shared decisions about finances, facing challenges side-by-side and high-fiving each other’s victories along the way make the relationship work.

4. You have fun together.

If everything feels like a chore with your partner, it’s probably a glaring red flag the relationship won’t work out in the long term. According to a study conducted by researchers at Utah State University, “Having fun together can help couples feel positive emotions, which can increase relationship satisfaction, help couples to unite to overcome differences, and give hope when working through difficult challenges.” At the most basic level, a relationship should be fun, and being together should spark joy, not anger or anxiety.

5. You celebrate each other’s wins—big or small.

While jealousy is undoubtedly a relationship red flag, authentic, caring support and encouragement are the love languages of many lasting relationships. “The quality of positive support—reassurance that a partner is loved and esteemed and is capable of taking control of his or her life—is the most crucial factor in the health of any relationship,” says Dr. Sue Johnson, clinical psychologist and founder of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy.

6. You make time for each other, even when life gets crazy.

It’s easy for many couples to fall into a rut, especially for those in long-term relationships. In a recently published study, Dr. Samantha Joel, relationship researcher and assistant professor at Western University in London, Ontario, found partners who regularly checked in with each other sustained better relationships in the long term. Think quality date nights, not just Netflix binges on the couch. “When it comes to a satisfying relationship, the partnership you build is more important than the partner you pick,” she says.

7. Honesty and trust are your relationship anthems.

“Trust is the first and perhaps most important predictor of long-term relational success,” says Preston Ni, communications coach and author of How to Communicate Effectively and Handle Difficult People. “Ask yourself the following questions: In general, is your partner reliable? Can you count on your partner as the ‘rock’ in your life? What about you for your partner?” The key is to be truthful, even when it’s tough. Trust is the bedrock of any lasting love story, and if you’ve got a partnership that’s founded on honesty, it’s a definite sign of a healthy relationship.

8. You forgive each other.

We all make mistakes, and the ability to forgive can turn a potentially toxic situation into a learning opportunity. “Admitting wrongdoing is a form of vulnerability, and vulnerability is an essential part of building a close relationship,” says Cindy Frantz, professor of psychology at Oberlin College. Instead of holding a grudge (I will never forget what you did in 2012!), let go and move forward.

9. You respect each other’s boundaries.

Instead of thinking of “me” time as selfishness, understand that healthy relationships respect (and even encourage) autonomy, giving each partner the space to breathe and be individuals. “Love rests on two pillars: surrender and autonomy,” says Esther Perel, clinical psychologist, and expert on human relationships. “Our need for togetherness exists alongside our need for separateness.”

10. You’re both willing to grow and change.

Much like relationship ruts, comfort zones are easy to fall into and get stuck. A sign of a healthy relationship is when couples understand that learning and evolving are essential components of their relationship journey together. Embracing personal growth and change—both individually and as a couple—ensures that one partner isn’t running far ahead while the other is left behind.

11. You share similar values.

While having different perspectives and opinions is natural in any relationship, sharing core values is essential to the success of a healthy long-term relationship. To navigate decisions big and small—from family planning to what’s for dinner and everything in between—coming to a consensus about what matters is fundamental to all successful relationships.

12. You appreciate the little things.

Whether making coffee in the morning or saying “I love you” more often, recognizing and appreciating small acts of kindness will keep the love tank full. “Successful long-term relationships are created through small words, small gestures, and small acts,” says The Gottman Institute’s Dr. John Gottman.

13. You can always be yourself.

Putting your best self forward early in a relationship may mean smoothing out some of the rough patches of your character. But partners in lasting, loving relationships accept each other as is, flaws and all. “If you’re true to yourself, it is easier to act in ways that build intimacy in relationships, and that’s going to make your relationship more fulfilling,” says Amy Brunell, professor of psychology at Ohio State University. Embrace your weird and wonderful self—as well as your partner’s unique quirks!

14. You dream about the future together.

Setting future goals and plans and working toward fulfilling them in the future is a powerful, connecting exercise for couples and a sign of a healthy relationship. According to research conducted by Utah State University, dreaming together as a couple can provide extra meaning and bring depth, closeness, and connection between partners. Shared goals and aspirations create a sense of purpose and excitement for what’s to come.

15. You feel safe, loved, and supported.

Research shows people in healthy long-term relationships are 50% less likely to die prematurely than those without them. In terms of life expectancy, living without strong, meaningful relationships is as unhealthy as smoking. Brené Brown, research professor at the University of Houston and author of Dare to Lead, explains, “A deep sense of love and belonging is an irreducible need of all men, women, and children. We are biologically, cognitively, physically, and spiritually wired to love, to be loved, and to belong.” Ultimately, a lasting relationship is a haven where you can be your true self and know you’re always loved unconditionally.

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13 Tips for Throwing a Successful First Birthday Party

by Aimee Della Bitta

These ideas will help your one-year-old’s birthday run smoothly

Even though your baby won’t remember their first birthday, it’s a major (and incredibly cute) milestone for parents—one that your kid will love to look back on when they’re older (be sure to save all the best pics in the Tinybeans app). You’ll probably choose the most adorable party outfit, soon to be covered in freshly baked (or bought!) smash cake. But with schedules to take into account and a lot of little personalities to cater to, how do you plan a party to remember that doesn’t end in disaster? Whether hosting a small gathering with family or a big blowout, these are the first birthday party ideas and tips that’ll ensure everyone has a great time—especially the birthday babe.

1. Respect the nap.

Happy, stress-free parties require a well-rested baby, so time the birthday bash around your baby’s naptime. While this may mean a different start time than Grandma expected, everybody (especially your child!) will have a better time if you work around the sleep schedule.

2. Create a quiet area.

Since parties with babies can mean tears and gleeful shrieks, setting up a secondary party area in another room or outside for guests to go to if they need a break from the festivities is a brilliant first birthday party idea. Set out non-electronic toys for babies who may feel overstimulated, and place chairs and snacks there for adults who want a spot for quiet conversation.

3. Designate photographers.

To ensure you capture the big moments and sweet snuggles with important folks, ask a few attendees to take charge of specific photo moments. That way you can focus on your child and guests—and end up in some of the photos, too! Take all the snapshots from the day and make them into a Tinybeans photo book to save your memories of the special day.

4. Choose a simple theme.

If planning a Pinterest-worthy party sounds too stressful, stick to a simple theme. Lifestyle guru and mother of two Camille Styles opted for a summer-themed party for her daughter’s first birthday and used hearts and the colors pink and orange to make the party look cohesive.

5. Or… skip the theme.

No, you don’t need a themed first birthday party. Promise. Instead, spend your money on fun first birthday activities your baby and guests will enjoy. Our favorite is the ball pit. Just buy an inexpensive kiddie pool and a lot of colorful plastic balls. Kids will love to play around in it, and you can set it up at home or in your backyard for your child to enjoy for years to come.

Related: Best Places to Hold a First Birthday Party

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6. Take photos before guests arrive.

One of our favorite ideas when planning parties for one-year-olds olds is to snap pictures before baby gets sleepy or cake-covered and when you and your family are more relaxed and focused. To ensure you get great photos, make or order a small smash cake before the big day and do a low-key photo shoot without any guests around. Baby will be all smiles, and no one flipping through the scrapbook will ever know that the picture was taken on a different day.

7. Weather permitting, opt for an outdoor venue.

A park or playground can be the perfect party spot; all you bring is the cake, balloons, favors, snacks, and a table. The mess will be minimal in the great outdoors, and younger guests will have lots of space to run around.

First birthday party tip: Arrive early to stake out a spot in the shade, and tell guests what color balloons or decorations you have so they know where to find you. If the weather isn’t cooperating and you need to move the party to your home, make extra room indoors by moving furniture out of the party room so little legs can crawl or walk around.

8. Put older kids in charge of games.

Delegate, delegate, delegate. Older kids, like cousins or friends’ children, usually love to be given responsibility at parties, and they’re really good at getting the younger ones’ attention. Put them in charge of party games, music-making, singing songs, and more. Chat with the older kids (and their parents) in advance to ask what they’re comfortable doing and create a plan.

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9. Use a cupcake for smashing.

Smash cakes are all the rage with the one-year-old crowd and their photo-taking families, and while we say smash away, a tiny confection or cupcake works just as well with much less mess. You may even be able to salvage your child’s outfit for future events if you go for a less messy, smaller cake.

10. Personalize the party.

Highlight a few of your baby’s favorite things over the past year (first word! favorite food! favorite stuffed animal!) and make a poster you display at the party. This first birthday party idea from Kara’s Party Ideas lets guests learn about your baby and is worth snapping a photo of for your child to revisit in a few years. Better yet, make it a yearly tradition.

11. Create a time capsule.

Asking your guests to write the guest of honor a short letter to be read years from now tops our list of sweet first birthday party ideas. To ward off writer’s block, offer suggestions for what to write, such as helpful advice, a memory of the party or first year, or wishes for the future. Store the letters in a marked container that reads “Do not open until you turn 21” (or whatever age you like). For guests who can’t make it, ask them to email your submissions—print them out, and file them away for a future date.

12. Make your party treats self-serve.

Set up everything from drinks to dessert in advance so you can tell guests to help themselves, leaving you to focus on your child and having fun. For younger guests, prep cut-up fruit, applesauce pouches, and cups of Cheerios or snack crackers. For adults, a charcuterie board, crudites, and antipasto are always popular nibbles.

13. Keep it short and sweet.

Little people get overstimulated quickly and can’t handle too much of a good thing. Limit your party to two hours or less so everyone can leave on a positive note.

Related: Celebrate Your Baby’s First Birthday Without a Party

Capture all the cutest (and messiest) moments from baby’s big day—and share them with your family and friends near and far—with the Tinybeans app. The secure platform puts parents in total control of who sees and interacts with photos and videos of their kids.

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11 Cool Ways to Add Some Joy to Your Family’s Every Day

by Elizabeth Broadbent

Do you, like me, seem to run on anxiety, caffeine, and your children’s leftovers? Are you perpetually in a rush and pretty sure you’ve forgotten… something? (What was it?!) What if, and stay with me here, you were able to set aside that feeling of chaos and actually find joy?

Yes, it sounds cheesy. But don’t roll your eyes just yet. It’ll only take a few minutes a day. OK, so that sounds like a late-night infomercial (remember those?), but it’s true. While you can’t move to a commune and cultivate free-range sunflowers, you can take a few minutes to hit the pause button. Here are some easy ways to switch things up and make the whole family happier.

1. Have a whatever-makes-you-happy hour or a “yes day.”

One mom changed her life (yes, really) with what she calls a “whatever-makes-you-happy hour.” You know that ferocious hour sometime around dinner when kids turn feral? Rather than fighting it, this mom runs with it. For those 60 minutes, her kids do whatever they’d like, barring cruelty or serious danger, while she and her husband kid back with the adult beverages of their choice. This sounds daringly 1970s-ish, but it works. Her kids experience the joy of running wild. She has time to kick back. When it’s over, they come together and eat dinner as a calm, reconnected family (and clean up before bed).

Alternatively, try a “yes day.” We spend our lives telling our kids no. Why not spend a day, an afternoon, an hour, saying yes? Yes to board games or jump-rope competitions or ice cream for dinner or fairy wings in public. Check all the ground rules in this post (note: No danger allowed and set a budget!), then go forth and make some incredible memories together.

2. Make time to play.

You can waste your whole life on your phone, so set it down. Actually, stuff it in a drawer because it’ll inevitably go off. Everyone, including kids, now gets to spend an electronic-free hour doing . . . well, whatever they love other than electronics (remember books? They’re made of paper). Before dinner is a great time for this, so is the hour before bed. Hang from the ceiling if you want, but do what you love.

3. Remember that absence makes the heart grow fonder.

You’ll love your children even more if they aren’t around all the time. I promise. Prioritize alone time—for them and you. You could go the cheesy self-care route and take a bubble bath. You could craft. You could watch a TV show that isn’t geared toward five-year-olds. You could also go on a date, which I hear is something adults do from time to time. Reconnecting with your partner will help you find some sanity. Leave your phone in your bag while you’re at it!

4. Show some love.

Snuggle with your kids—science says it’s good for you. Hugging makes us happier, healthier, and less anxious, which is something your whole family deserves. After cuddling with the younger set (so long as they’re game), set your sights on your significant other. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin shares that a nightly makeout session that doesn’t lead to anything more is a pretty solid idea and may even prevent those in long-term relationships from becoming “touch-avoidant.” Sounds like a fun thing to try. I mean, a therapist recommended it.

5. Surprise and delight.

Life can be a real grind. While we can’t permanently decamp to a tropical paradise, we can break up the mind-numbing routine with moments of unexpected fun. No, you don’t have to go all manic pixie to do it: Give your kids dessert for dinner. Surprise them with a night of mini golf. Announce an impromptu movie night or declare a pajama day.

6. Un-schedule from time to time.

No, you can’t drop everything, but you can pick and choose. You don’t have to do every single activity presented to you. Take a weekend off from planned fun. Part ways with that sport your kid doesn’t love. Skip the birthday party. There are so many demands on your time; prioritize a few and let the others go. After all, kids spend their lives hurrying up. Give them—and yourself—a chance to chill.

7. Dedicate 10 minutes a day to each kid.

The experts behind Big Little Feelings call it the “10-minute miracle.” No phones, no siblings, just dedicated parent-and-kid time with no correcting or criticizing. For those 10 minutes, go all in on whatever game/bonkers make-believe scenario/craft activity your kid wants. Doing so should help curtail acting out—after all, many kids get extra unruly when they’re in need of connection and attention. Spend a bit of time every day giving it to them.

8. Practice gratitude.

There are lots of ways to do this. You can sign up for volunteer opportunities, talk about the things you’re thankful for (on more than just Thanksgiving), make a good deed calendar—whatever works for your family. But make sure you insist on the importance of giving back to others and being grateful for what you’ve been given. Life can seem too big and too busy, so stop and count your blessings, then pass them on to someone else. It’s one of the most important things you can do for your kids.

9. Share the smallest moments for the biggest smiles.

Remember those family photo albums with the plastic sheets you’d peel apart to lay down your favorite printed pics? That ship has sailed. Now you can create the most amazing time capsule for your family on the Tinybeans App (your kids will thank you one day when they’ve stopped rolling their eyes) and share all of your sweetest and silliest moments with family and friends. They’ll delight in seeing that first waddle or goofy smile each time they get an alert, and you’ll get a solid dose of joy every time they comment or react.

10. Host an impromptu dance party.

Turn up that music and dance! Oh, and sing along. Toddlers will love it. Older kids might try to hide. Don’t let them. Instead, crank the volume louder. Dancing is good for you. So is joy. Give yourself room to feel it.

11. Always have something to look forward to.

Make sure there’s always something good on the way—a trip to the ice cream shop, a birthday party, a night with friends. This goes for your kid and you. Then when times get tough, there’s always a light at the end of the tunnel. We need this more than you’d think: If the slog seems endless, we’ll quit. But with our eyes on the prize, we’re all. gonna. make. it.

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The Best Places to See Fall Colors with Kids This Year

by Yuliya Geikhman

From the Catskills to the Colombia River Gorge, the leaves are changing

There’s something about the crisp, fresh air of fall that makes us ready for a road trip. If you’re itching to find some spots that really know how to do fall right from colorful drives to hikes full of fallen leaves, this list will get you started. Our travels have taken us to ski resort towns and lakeside villages, where you’ll find apple festivals, Oktoberfest celebrations, and tons of leaf piles for jumping in. We can’t wait to share our insider tips that will get you the autumnal experience you’ve been craving.

Best Places to See Fall Colors in Northeast US

Williamsburg, VA

Fall lingers a bit longer in Virginia than in the Northeast, and Williamsburg is a fantastic place to get your fall festivities on throughout the season. Visit the city for the gold, red, and orange hues, and stay for the historic and family-fun fall activities. Visit Busch Gardens for the annual Halloween event, check out Family Frights at Jamestown, hike or walk on the short trails of the coastal estuary at York River State Park, or just take a stroll along Colonial Williamsburg against the beautiful autumn backdrop.

If you’re looking for a spot to stay for a while, the Kingsmill Resort is a great spot to experience the area’s fall beauty. Rent a pontoon, paddleboard, kayak, or jet ski at Kingsmill’s marina to see the magnificent colors along the James River. If you prefer to explore by land, rent a bike and explore Kingsmill’s 2,900 acres of gorgeous fall-colored trees.

Online: visitwilliamsburg.com

Shenandoah National Park, VA

Shenandoah National Park, located in Virginia, offers stunning autumn landscapes characterized by vibrant foliage. The park’s diverse range of deciduous trees, including maple, oak, and hickory, create a breathtaking display of red, orange, and yellow hues during the fall season. Drive along Skyline Drive, hike to Old Rag Mountain, and enjoy panoramic views.

Plan ahead, as the area gets a bit crowded around this time of year, attracting crowds who come to witness the colorful transformation. To be on the safe side, you can pre-purchase an entrance pass—and keep in mind that many campgrounds and lodges get fully booked on September and October weekends.

You can track foliage conditions thanks to weekly photos on the website and social media. Can’t get out there for an in-person peek? You can visit virtually through live webcams!

Online: nps.gov/shen

Blue Ridge Parkway, VA & NC

Spanning from Virginia to Cherokee, North Carolina, the Blue Ridge Parkway is one of the most scenic drives in the entire U.S. Climb to the overlook where the iconic 100-foot-tall Roanoke Star stands and see the fall color panorama from above. Don’t miss the 215-foot tall Natural Bridge, a limestone gorge carved out by Cedar Creek that can be found on the National Register of Historic Places (It was once owned by President Thomas Jefferson!). Prime leaf-peeping this year starts from the end of September through early November. You can see a more specific forecast on the website, broken down by time frames and elevations.

Online: blueridgemountainlife.com

Litchfield Hills, CT

Feel the hint of fall in the air in this picture-postcard New England village. Follow the trail of leaves just bursting with color from the maple, aspen, beech, and birch trees dotting the landscape. Cross two of the state’s most picturesque covered bridges. Visit Kent, considered the #1 Fall Foliage Town in New England by Yankee Magazine and ooh and aah over Kent Falls, cascading into the river below. Stately mansions await you as well as the charming town green, perfect for a fall picnic. Head to the Litchfield Hills Ramble for a great place to see the Connecticut color changes. It’s also one of the first parts of the state to see color changes: Head up there in early October (estimated for October 3-8 this year) for peak viewing.

Online: discoverlitchfieldhills.com

The Catskill Mountains, NY

Colorful changing leaves turn the Catskill Mountains into a multi-color work of art. From hiking to camping, there are many family-friendly ways your clan can enjoy the area. The Catskills area is divided into four sub-regions, with each offering different highlights in the fall: Northern Catskills (Greene County) offers outdoor recreation like mountain biking, hiking, and paddling. It’s also known for historical landmarks and being the birthplace of American art. Eastern Catskills (Ulster County) has a popping culinary scene and over 350 miles of trails, including the famous Walkway Over the Hudson. Southern Catskills (Sullivan County) offers diverse activities such as fly fishing, cute local cafes and distilleries, and flea markets. Western Catskills (Delaware County) is ideal for small-town experiences and discovering local food.

Fall foliage typically peaks in early October, providing opportunities for leaf-peeping through outdoor adventures like hiking, camping, and ziplining. Scenic drives offer stunning views of the changing leaves, and cideries in the region provide delicious apple-based beverages. Don’t miss out on the fall festivities, including Oktoberfest!

Online: visitthecatskills.com/fall

White Mountains & Lake Winnipesaukee Loop, NH

New Hampshire’s White Mountains and Lake Winnipesaukee deliver flamboyant fall foliage every September and October. In the White Mountains, take a scenic drive along the Kancamagus Highway, between North Conway and Lincoln. The Kancamagus is more than 26 miles of roadway for leaf peepers to enjoy the beautiful scenes. In the Lakes region, crystal lakes add some blue to the view near Winnipesaukee and Squam Lakes. The Lake Winnipesaukee loop is about 75 miles long. New Hampshire’s largest lake presents beautiful views across the water as you roam through charming towns and villages like Laconia, Wolfeboro, and Moultonborough. For foliage updates, check the New Hampshire Statewide Foliage Report or call the state hotline.

Online: visitwhitemountains.com

Stowe, VT

Fall in Vermont is a sight to behold! The brightest dark reds, fire orange, and brilliant gold colors can typically be seen around the last week of September and the first two weeks of October. The color shift start in the higher, cooler areas of the Green Mountains, spreading down into the Lake Champlain Valley and Connecticut River Valley, and moving from north to south across the state.

Located at the foot of Mount Mansfield, Stowe offers the perfect destination for a fall getaway. Surrounded by renowned fall foliage, you can hike the woodland paths, stroll the historic village, and take in some local Fall Festivals! Stowe is, in fact, called “Fall’s Color Capital.” Stowe offers something for everyone in the family, including guided tours, mountain biking paths, disc golf, zip-lining, and more. Good to know: If you’re fans of “The Sound of Music,” you can stay at the Trapp Family Lodge in Stowe, which is owned and operated by the von Trapp family!

Online: gostowe.com

The Maine Highlands, ME

In mid-October, places like Bar Harbor become the center of activity for tourists who still want to take in some sea air while also seeing the gorgeous colors of autumn. There are beautiful family-friendly historic hotels to stay at in the area, and visitors can also enjoy everything from kayaking to whale watching at Acadia National Park.

For a total Maine fall foliage tour, head to The Maine Highlands. Start your journey in Bangor to explore Cascade Park and continue on to Maine’s largest lake, Moosehead, in Greenville. The Katahdin Woods and Waters Scenic Byway offers 89 miles of picturesque road, showcasing the East Branch Penobscot River and incredible vistas of Katahdin and the Appalachian chain. (Don’t miss out on some absolutely incredible waterfalls framed by the fall colors!) Leaf enthusiasts can visit the state’s official foliage website Maine Foliage to receive weekly reports, and see photos from throughout the state as the progression of color begins.

Online: themainehighlands.com

Acadia National Park, ME

Visit Acadia in the first few weeks of October for a stunning view of the fall foliage against the backdrop of the Atlantic Ocean. At 47,000 acres, Acadia has a wide range of wildlife and foliage to explore—plus, it doesn’t get quite as crowded as some other Northeastern fall destinations! This is a good option for the more outdoorsy families, perfect for hiking and picnicking. Hike Park Loop Road for stunning views from Cadillac Mountain, the tallest peak on the eastern coast of the United States. Plus, the Cadillac Summit Loop Trail is perfect for small feet: It’s paved and features restrooms and even a gift shop.

Online: nps.gov

The Tidal Basin, Washington, DC

This man-made inlet to the Potomac River is most famous for the springtime National Cherry Blossom Festival but it’s just as spectacular in the fall. The over 3,000 cherry trees look just as stunning in their autumnal colors, displaying vibrant reds and yellows along the water’s edge around October and November. Since the area is known for its springtime displays, it’s often overlooked in the fall, which means you get to avoid the crowds and still enjoy the cherry trees—just wearing a different color. Get started near the Jefferson Memorial for a great view.

Online: nps.gov

Boston, MA

If your family are city-slickers, there’s good news: You don’t have to head into the wilderness to experience the beauty of autumn. You can enjoy the season right from the middle of Boston, where the historic surroundings give the color change a completely different atmosphere from what you’d find in the surrounding forests and parks. The 44 acres of the Boston Commons is one of the best places to find fall foliage, where over 1,000 oak, beech, chestnut, maple, and elm trees make it possible to see the changing leaves for a longer time frame than typical.

For peak views, head up to the View Boston observatory. The location boasts breathtaking views of the city and the highest roof deck in Boston. It’s set to be the perfect destination for leaf peepers this Autumn, allowing guests to experience a gorgeous 3D fall foliage show, sip on seasonal cocktails, and even create your own digital fall itineraries using interactive touchscreens.

Online: meetboston.com

The Berkshires, MA

The Berkshires in Massachusetts are a delightful destination for experiencing the fall season. This region is known for its rolling hills, charming towns, and cultural attractions. Take a scenic drive on the Mohawk Trail, featuring the famous Hairpin Turn on Route 2—a lookout point on the western summit that offers incredible views at over 1,700 feet above sea level. You can also travel along Route 8 to Mount Greylock, Massachusetts’ highest peak, for stunning displays of golden yellow, blazing orange, and vivid scarlet leaves. Once you’re done exploring nature, make time to visit some of the local museums and explore the quaint nearby villages, like Great Barrington (known by many as “the Brooklyn of the Berkshires”) and the artsy North Adams.

Online: berkshires.org

Best Places to See Fall Colors in the Midwest

Chicago Botanic Garden, IL

Who says you have to leave the city limits to be wowed by autumn colors? The Chicago Botanic Garden features 385 acres of gardens, with brilliant colors (on trees great and small) in the autumn. You’ll also find family fall activities like the night of 10,000 Jack-o’-Lanterns in late October, the Fall Bulb Festival in early October, and much more, from children’s activities to classes and workshops for the adults. Kids can grab seasonal bingo cards to spot some fall favorites.

Online: chicagobotanic.org

Tunnel of Trees, MI

In the northwestern part of Lower Michigan, you’ll find the Tunnel of Trees—a 30-mile stretch of road that you can drive or bike. The trail starts in Harbor Springs and winds through charming towns and diverse landscapes before ending up in Cross Village. Along the way, you can also find attractions like Bear River Valley Recreation, Petoskey State Park with its unique Petoskey Stones, Bay Harbor’s beaches, and the quaint town of Good Hart.

Before you leave Harbor Springs, don’t miss the amazing farm/winery/cafe/brewery (yes, all of those things) right near the start of the famous Tunnel. Pond Hill Farm is open year-round and is a great place to stop for lunch or to pick up some fresh jams from the farm store. There are also trails to hike onsite.

Online: mackinawcity.com

Bloomington, IN

Experience breathtaking fall foliage from unique vantage points by climbing the fire towers in Monroe County. Four towers offer stunning views: Lilly Lookout at Brown County State Park, Hickory Ridge Tower at Hoosier National Forest, McCormick’s Creek Tower, and Mason Ridge Tower at Morgan-Monroe State Forest. Besides these spectacular views, Bloomington is home to fall football, hiking trails, boat rentals on the county’s three lakes, and even hot air balloon rides for fall views from above!

Online: visitbloomington.com

Door County, WI

Take a break from the bustle at Door County’s serene getaway. Explore Peninsula State Park, visit orchards, catch live concerts, and indulge in local cuisine—all while taking in the autumnal colors created by the area’s mix of maple and cherry trees. When you’re not enjoying the tranquil atmosphere of the area’s local shops and restaurants, take a scenic drive along Highway 42 for breathtaking views of the colorful landscape against the backdrop of Lake Michigan.

Online: doorcounty.com

Bayfield, WI

Bordering Lake Superior, this little town is the gateway to the Apostle Islands National Lakeshore with lighthouses, waiting-to-be-explored sea caves, and outstanding kayaking. Bayfield is most famous for its Apple Festival, which will be taking place October 6-8, 2023, but there’s plenty of other fall fun to be had, from cruises, hiking, biking, or just checking out the cozy local shops, eateries, and accommodations.

There are also plenty of nearby orchards and farms to visit, with fall colors typically peaking in mind-October, offering a breathtaking display against Lake Superior.

Online: bayfield.org

Milwaukee, WI

Milwaukee is a trending destination year-round, but fall is when the city comes alive. Pumpkin spice lovers, rejoice: The city is home to one of the only pumpkin lagers in the world, made with real pumpkin and pie spice. Visitors of age can sip on the brew while kids munch on a different Wisconsin staple: cheese curds! You can catch a fall sports game or take a spooky stroll through Milwaukee with the Third Ward Ghost Walk or Shadow of City Hall Ghost Walk. The city comes alive in the fall: Stop by for concerts and performances (the Milwaukee Symphony Orchestra will be putting on a Nightmare Before Christmas concert on October 28-29!), wander through corn mazes and apple picking spots, and more. Fall colors typically peak in late September and early October.

Online: city.milwaukee.gov

Best Places to See Fall Colors in the Southern US

Chickasaw National Recreation Area, OK

Chickasaw National Recreation Area in Sulphur, OK offers a magnificent display of fall color that stretches along the peaks of the Arbuckle Mountains. Visit Turner Falls, a breathtaking 77-foot waterfall that cascades into a natural pool below. Adrenaline junkies can take a zipline here, while adventurers can explore the trails and caves. Wind down after a day of fun at the Chickasaw National Recreation Area’s picnicking, fishing, and camping spots. Local farms and ranches have plenty of fall fun for families, from pumpkin patches to hay mazes. Prime leaf-peeping time is the last week of October and the first week of November.

Online: nps.gov

Great Smoky Mountains, TN & NC

The Great Smoky Mountains National Park, spanning Tennessee and North Carolina, is renowned for its captivating fall foliage. The vibrant mix of maples, oaks, and hickories paints the landscape in vivid reds, oranges, and yellows. For optimal seasonal leaf viewing, head to popular spots like Cades Cove or the The Roaring Fork Motor Nature Trail, which offer biking, driving, and walking paths (depending on what you’re in the mood for. If you missed the peak season, you may find that the Newfound Gap Road, which rises up through several elevation levels, has a prolonged autumn season. And for a panoramic view of the yellow and red blanket below, head up to the Clingmans Dome observation tower located on the highest point in the park. Keep in mind that you won’t be the ones out to enjoy the views—autumn is a popular time for visitors, and some attractions do get crowded so plan ahead and try to make reservations in advance wherever possible.

Online: visitsmokies.org

Ozark National Forest, AR

The Ozarks are stunning in the fall, with many trails and drives for you to enjoy whether you’re exploring on foot or from the comfort of the family car. Hike along the Ozark Highlands Trail, enjoy scenic byways, and explore Blanchard Springs Caverns if you’re heading out by foot, or check out the Pig Trail Scenic Byway if you’re driving by. To enjoy the colors of the Ozark Mountains, head down Arkansas Scenic 7 Byway, a route that’ll take you from the West Gulf Coastal Plain, through the Ouachita Mountains and Arkansas River Valley, and into the Ozark Mountains.

Colors typically peak in late October or early November for central and western Arkansas, and early to mid-November for the southern and eastern sections. You can plan your trip thanks to weekly updates from the Arkansas Tourism’s network of color spotters!

Online: fs.usda.gov

Taos & The Enchanted Circle, NM

The southwestern landscape of New Mexico is a must-see in the fall, especially when driving around one of America’s most scenic drives: The Enchanted Circle. The Enchanted Circle Scenic Byway is an 84-mile driving tour in Taos, New Mexico, encircling Wheeler Peak, the state’s highest point. The drive that connects the towns of Taos, Eagle Nest, Red River, and Questa—and you will find some truly spectacular views. Head down the Corrales Road Scenic Byway and breathe in the smell of roasting green chile in the fall. The Bosque’s 400 acres along ten miles of the river provide habitat for almost 200 species of migrating and nesting birds, making bird watching a favorite activity.

The fall foliage in the Taos Valley is stunning this time of year, featuring a mix of aspens and pine trees for a gold and green mountainscape. For some fun fall events, head down to Taos Ski Valley, where you’ll find activities for the whole family—even the family dogs! You can also participate in Oktoberfest and a marathon, or just enjoy the scenery with a chair lift and the Via Ferrata 100-foot skybridge.

Online: taos.org

Best Places to See Fall Colors in the Western US

Breckenridge, CO

Breckenridge, located just under two hours from Denver, sits at just over 9,000 feet elevation and that means the leaves change color here super early. Explore the gold rush history, take a guided mountain bike tour and breathe in the fresh mountain air.

Fall is a great time to visit as the ski and summer crowds aren’t there and you can enjoy special events like the annual Oktoberfest and the Breckenridge Film Festival.

The hiking and views can’t be beat, and there are a number of scenic drives, like the Top of the Rockies National Scenic Byway, and Boreas Pass, both of which offers sweeping vistas of the changing aspens. (You can learn more about the history of Boreas Pass at the free Highline Railroad Park and Museum, just past the turn.)

Don’t feel like driving, but aren’t up for walking? Take the free Breckenridge Gondola up from downtown Breckenridge to the base of Peak 8 for a 15-minute birds-eye view of the trees.

Online: gobreck.com

Aspen, CO

Aspen, Colorado, is renowned for its stunning fall foliage. The town is surrounded by groves of aspen trees, which turn vibrant shades of gold and yellow during autumn. Expect vibrant gold and orange hues as the aspen trees change color. Maroon Bells, one of the most photographed mountain scenes in North America, offers breathtaking fall vistas, while the drive along Independence Pass provides panoramic views of the changing leaves.

Unlike other mountain towns, which tend to become sleepy when they’re not in season, Aspen remains active with various restaurants, shops, and attractions open through October. Expect to wind down surrounded by the beautiful mountainscapes and catch a live concert or art event.

Online: aspen.gov

Columbia River Gorge, OR & WA

On the Washington side, you can get up close and personal with some stunning color without having to stray too far from your auto. You can also check out some waterfalls, try the gentle 2.4-mile hike around Latourell Falls, explore the grand dame of Multnomah Falls, and make a stop in Corbett, or at the historic Vista House.

On the Washington side, you’ll have fewer waterfalls but more sweeping views. Check out the Goldendale Observatory and surrounding park for an unforgettable autumnal site.

Either way, you’re in for a treat as the seasons change in the Pacific Northwest, generally around late September to mid-October.

Online: fs.usda.gov

Carson City, NV

Nevada’s capital city is a great place to watch nature put on a vibrant show. Coupled with cooler temperatures, it’s the perfect destination to hike, bike, kayak, or fish as the days start to get shorter. One fantastic spot where everyone can immerse themselves in fall colors is Carson River Park, which features walking paths, a fishing pier, and a river access area. You can hike up to the top of C-Hill to get an incredible leaf-peeping view from above town, or take on the longer Ash to Kings Canyon trail, whose smooth, twisting road makes it a popular choice among both hikers and bikers.

You can catch a seasonal event like the fall wagon ride at Silver Saddle Ranch, stop by one of the local museums like the Railroad Museum and Children’s Museum, or check out the spooky offerings of the Carson City Ghost Walk. Keep an eye on the website for more seasonal, cultural, and art events.

Online: visitcarsoncity.com

 

Additional reporting by Amber Guetebier and Kate Loweth

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Play With Your Food: 10 Restaurants That Keep Little Hands Busy

by Meghan Yudes Meyers

Dining out with kids can be exhausting, but at these DC-area restaurants, kids have plenty to keep them entertained

If you’re looking for a family-friendly restaurants to eat in the DMV where kids are easily entertained, read on. From Pinstripes in Georgetown to cookie decorating at Firefly in Dupont, these unique eateries in Washington, DC (and beyond) have taken the guesswork out of keeping little hands busy while you wait for your table—and your meal. Take a night (or two!) off from dinner prep at one of these eateries in the greater DMV area where little eaters are easily entertained.

 

Related: Yummy Kid-Friendly Restaurant Dives

Play with Your Food at These DMV Restaurants

Bartaco

Sure, most restaurants have little coloring sheets and a few waxy crayons on hand for kids to scribble on, but Bartaco takes things a step further. This neighborhood drop in with an airy feel lets kids pick out a full size (!) coloring book—from Dora to Paw Patrol—and a handful of Crayola crayons to work with while they wait for their sesame beef tacos and seasoned corn wheels. Other standouts off the kids menu include "not spicy" guacamole and chips and a large tray filled with enough food for three kids (for just $14!). 

Insider Tip: You can now order family packs to go ($49.50) and kids meals pre-packed in a Bartaco lunch box ($14). 

12021 Town Square St.
Reston, VA 

2920 District Ave.
Fairfax, VA

Online: bartaco.com

Cactus Cantina

A Mexican food spin on the pizza-dough-as-Play-Doh, Cactus Cantina offers hungry pint-sized customers a mound of tortilla dough for them to poke, squish, and roll until hangry mode passes—or until their delicious tacos, nachos, or the cheesiest of quesadillas arrive. Make sure you walk them over to the tortilla pressing machine so they can see how those chewy discs of masa goodness arrive on their plates.

Insider Tip: If your littles need to run off some energy pre or post-dining, Newark Park Playground featuring oversized flowers and log-shaped slides is a six-minute walk from the restaurant. 

3300 Wisconsin Ave.
Cleveland Park
Online: cactuscantina.com

Firefly

With vegan, vegetarian, and gluten-free options, everyone can eat happily at Firefly! The kids’ menu includes universal crowd-pleasers like PB&J, mac ‘n cheese, meatballs with buttered noodles, and chicken nuggets. And the piece de resistance? Every child gets a cookie to decorate—and eat after they’ve finished their dinner, of course.

1310 New Hampshire Ave. NW 
Dupont
Online: firefly-dc.com

Related: Batter Up with the Ultimate Guide to Pancakes in DC

Play Games (and Play with Toys!) at these DMV Restaurants

Pinstripes

Pinstripes is a unique dining and entertainment venue that provides “sophisticated fun” through their events areas for parties (birthday, wedding, anniversary, corporate), Italian American bistro cuisine, weekend live blues and jazz, wine dinners, clubs and leagues, and mom and tot play dates. They serve strikingly good food alongside ongoing bowling and bocce sessions during the day and at night.

Insider Tip: Dine outdoors and you'll have views of the C&O Canal. If you're feeling inspired to dig into the history of this vista, take a tour on a canal boat. This attraction operates Wed.-Sun. 

1064 Wisconsin Ave. NW
Georgetown
Online: pinstripes.com

Ted's Bulletin

Tots in the know (information is power in this town, even among the pint-sized) head to the Capitol Hill location and ask for a look in the toybox. They get their pick of one to borrow while parents wait for some comfort food and maybe one of the diner's famed adult milkshakes. Our source at the Ted's Bulletin location in Fairfax tells us they also have a worth-a-look toybox. At any of the restaurant's locations, drooling over the mouth-watering homemade poptarts and other tasty treats in the bakery cases up front is another way to easily kill five minutes of your wait time.

505 8th St. SE
Capitol Hill

1818 14th St. NW
U Street

2911 District Ave.
Fairfax, VA 

Online: tedsbulletincapitolhill.com

Franklin's

When your little ones bug you to go to Franklin's it's not usually because of the yummy grub (which it is). It's the general store-meets-toy store that's part of the restaurant. If you can withstand the barrage of "Please can I get this? Please can I get this?" there's no better way to pass the time than the toy store, which recently expanded, doubling in size to accommodate even more toys, games, candy, gifts, trinkets and other goodies. Neighborhood parents also know that the general store boasts a vast selection of beer and wine for carry-out sale, unusual in Maryland.

5121 Baltimore Ave.
Hyattsville, MD 
Online: franklinsbrewery.com

Sneak in Screen Time at these DMV Restaurants

The Diner

The 21-and-over crowd may rule 18th Street in Adams Morgan after dark, but come weekend mornings, it’s the stroller set that packs this neighborhood mainstay. And they know their audience. On Saturday and Sunday mornings, The Diner starts playing cartoons on the big screen around 6 a.m. and kids are welcome to come to breakfast in their pjs. Oh, and there's also the impromptu story times.

2453 18th St. NW 
Adams Morgan
Online: dinerdc.com

Related: 6 DC Restaurants with Outside-the-Box Kid Menus

Please Them with Pizza at these DMV Restaurants

Pizzeria Paradiso

You and your family have probably long loved the wood-fired pizzas at Pizzeria Paradiso’s three DMV locations. But did you know that they also have open kitchens where little ones can ooh and ahh at their pizzas being made. You might learn a thing or two yourself about pizza perfection.

3282 M St. NW
Georgetown

2003 P St. NW
Dupont Circle

124 King St.
Alexandria VA 

4800 Rhode Island Ave.
Hyattsville MD 

Online: eatyourpizza.com

Comet Ping Pong

The pizza is great at this neighborhood pie joint, but arguably the ping pong tables are even better—especially when they distract hangry toddlers! Older kids will like “searching” for the bathrooms, which are hidden behind secret panels. Everyone will love the pizza (with vegan and gluten-free options), and Mom and Dad (and adventurous tykes) should save room for the wood-roasted spaghetti squash, cauliflower, and beets. Or the Tin Roof Sundae. Or both—we won’t tell.

Insider Tip: Reservations are strongly recommended. 

5037 Connecticut Ave. NW
Friendship Heights
Online: cometpingpong.com

Uno Pizzeria and Grill

We know, we know—more pizza (but is that a bad thing?!). With craft beer for Mom and Dad and their Chicago-inspired deep dish for everyone, we always love us some Uno Pizzeria. Be sure to ask your waiter for some pizza dough for the kiddos to play with—just like Play-Doh, but not quite as eyebrow-raising if they “accidentally” eat some of that abstract dinosaur sculpture.

50 Mass. Ave. NE
Union Station

3058 Gatehouse Plz.
Falls Church, VA 

Online: unos.com

Additional reporting by Ayren Jackson-Cannady & Katie Brown

 

 

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Why Alone Time Matters & How to Encourage It for Your Toddler

by Melissa Heckscher

I have a video of my two-year-old daughter sitting quietly in the middle of a tornado. Not a real tornado, of course. Just the whirling, noisy storm of her two older brothers literally running in circles around her. In that moment, she is sitting on the floor rocking a baby doll while her brothers bounce around the room like pinballs. While they’re shrieking and giggling, jumping from couch to floor and back again, she is singing a lullaby nobody can hear—as if she and her doll are in a quiet place somewhere far, far away.

I watch it now and say a silent thank you. Because—while it may have taken me three kids to get there—it was in that moment that I knew I had a child who is happy just playing by herself.

And that matters. Experts say solo play or “independent play” not only helps children build confidence in themselves; it also helps inspire creativity, build focus, nurture problem-solving skills, and inspire trust—both in themselves and in their relationship with their parents.

Then of course there’s the (very important) fact that alone time for the child gives parents a little time to themselves, too. “It does give parents a break,” said Bryana Kappadakunnel, a Los Angeles-based LMFT and founder of Conscious Mommy, which offers coaching and workshops for parents of young children. “If a child knows how to play independently and doesn’t require the parent to engage or entertain them, it makes things like preparing dinner much easier.”

So where do you start? How can you turn your wiggly, codependent toddler into a self-sufficient kid who’s happy to play alone? I asked some experts and am sharing my own experiences to give you some suggestions.

 

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Start by doing solo time with your child

Sure, we all want to have children who can let us go to the bathroom without knocking incessantly at the door because they need us right now (just saying). But that doesn’t mean we can send our unsuspecting two-year-olds to their rooms and expect the magic to happen.

Start by setting up a space that invites them in: Put some paper and crayons on the kitchen table while you’re cooking dinner; set up a playdough station; put a box of Magna-Tiles on the living room floor. Or, says Amy Carney, author of Parent On Purpose: Raising Thoughtful Children in a Complicated World, set up a “boredom box” with age-appropriate items that spark creative play in your child. For this, Carney recommends small items like art supplies, trinkets, toys from birthday party bags, figurines, slime, or putty.

Related: 22 Genius Amazon Finds That’ll Keep the Kids Busy

“Narrate” your child’s play

Want to make your toddlers feel good about playing by themselves? Sit nearby and “narrate.” This means just acknowledging what your child is doing, i.e. “You are building a really high tower!” or “You’re really being caring to your baby doll.” Doing this builds children’s confidence about what they’re doing.

By the same token, avoid correcting your child or trying to make it a teaching moment—don’t quiz them about colors or ask them to count the blocks in their hands. After all, this is play; not school.

And, replace your instinct to correct with curiosity: for example, if your child is using stacking blocks for all-things-NOT stacking (hey, they make fun hats!), say something like, “Hmm you seem to have found a new way to play with that toy.”

Finally: Don’t ask questions, which Kappadakunnel said can be distracting to the child. Just watch and narrate. Imagine that you’re a nature photographer and just observe the child in her “natural habitat.” (They’re interesting creatures, those kiddos!)

Don’t overload the space

Apparently, your child doesn’t need a lot of toys. A 2017 study from the University of Toledo in Ohio suggested that an environment with fewer toys is better for toddlers and that too many toys actually decrease the “quality of play.” It becomes overwhelming for the child. For each play session, just a handful of toys is enough.

Start by putting out a few toys and telling your child that you’re going to watch them play and that they can show you how the toys work. Let your kid get busy, and just be there to watch (if they ask you to play, tell them it is their time to show you or to play on their own—but that you’re there to see all they can do!). Then, once they are used to playing without you as a playmate, you can try putting the toys down and walking to another room (or another part of the room where you can do something else independently of your child).

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The kind of toy matters

They say “the more a toy does, the less your child does.” So choose simple toys that inspire open-ended play. Some good examples are:

  • Magna-Tiles
  • Blocks
  • Pretend play items (a kitchen, tools, etc.)
  • Baby dolls or a dollhouse
  • Simple instruments
  • Sensory play (playdough, clay, slime, etc.)

And don’t tell your child how to use the toy. Let them explore it for themselves. There is no WRONG way to play with a toy (unless it puts the child is in danger, of course).

Note: Avoid toys with screens or sounds—and don’t use toys that are meant to “teach” (like toys that claim to teach ABCs or colors). Toys that teach have their place, experts say, but when it comes to solo play, open-ended toys are best because they inspire creativity and free thought, and allow the child to lead the way.

“If we can take the pressure off of play to be academic and instead see the learning in play associated with how a child learns to regulate their body, how a child learns to interact with others, how a child learns to occupy themselves—play then becomes this rich, wonderful work that is fascinating,” Kappadakunnel said.

Related: 11 Toys That Foster Independent Play (& Will Gift You a Few Minutes to Yourself)

If your child is resistant to solo play, ask, “Have I been available?”

Does your child fight you when you try to get them to “go play”? Kappadakunnel said maybe your child just needs more of you, first.

Ask yourself: Have you been available to your child lately? If the answer is no, then figure out how you can change that. It doesn’t have to be much: Even 10 to 15 minutes of scheduled “special time” a day does wonders for kids. Just set a timer and sit down on the floor with your child. It may seem like a blip to you, but those 10 minutes can really make a difference—for both of you.

Remember that screens don’t count as “alone time”

While an older child might prefer to spend every moment of her alone time on an iPad or video game console, kids need to make time for more productive time alone. That means, maybe, instead of turning on cartoons first thing in the morning, put down some novel toys and ask your child to make something of them. It may be a hard shift at first, but beginning the day with play is a good way to start!

a toddler dumping a bin of toy balls with help from their pregnant mom who is nurturing a love of alone time
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Now is as good a time as any

Whether you’ve got toddlers as clingy as koala bears or older kids who still consider you Playmate No. 1, it’s never too late to start encouraging a little solo time. For toddlers, having “Alone Time” bursts once or twice a week is a good place to start. You can also lead by example, scheduling time for yourself as often as you can and sharing your feelings about it with your kids.

And don’t forget about YOU. We all know you need some of that precious me-time, too. So make yourself a model: If they see how happy you are doing something for yourself, by yourself (arts & crafts, taking a walk, reading quietly), maybe they’ll start to crave those same sorts of experiences, too. Remember: You can lead the way.

Read books that celebrate being alone

Books are a good way to teach young children—especially when it means they get some quality time with you. Try reading these books to get your kiddos craving solo play:

Leave Me Alone by Vera Brosgol
My Very Own Space, by Pippa Goodhart
Charlotte The Scientist Is Squished, by Camille Andros

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Soak Up the Fun at These Splash Pads & San Diego Water Parks

by Jennifer O'Brien

Get ready to cool off at the best splash pads and water parks that San Diego has to offer

San Diego is one of the best cities in the country for families to while away those cherished summer days. Sure, there are great watering holes and some of the most stunning beaches around, but the city also features an incredible variety of splash pads, water parks, and aquatic centers that will thrill even the pickiest kiddos. We’ve put together a list of the absolute must-sees, must-dos, and must-splash spots so be sure to add them to your summer itinerary stat.

Waterfront Park

 

Open since 2014, Waterfront Park is the most significant recreational open space in downtown San Diego and a super special spot to hit up with your brood, especially during the toasty summer months. This 12-acre park is just a stone’s throw from the bay and is tailor made for a fun-filled family day with cool features like a large children’s play zone with great structures to climb and explore, as well as a giant interactive fountain that extends the length of green and has oodles of jets to spray littles. The fountain floor is rough and grippy so kids can romp around safely without worry of slipping.

Insider’s Tip: There’s also an expansive grassy area right by the fountain where you can lay towels, have picnics, and enjoy the breathtaking waterfront views. Additionally, if you you’d like to have a birthday party there, the picnic area near the children’s playground can be reserved.

Cost: Free
Jet Hours: Daily, 9 a.m. – 9 p.m.
North & South Fountain Reflecting Pool Hours: Daily, 8:30 a.m. – 9 p.m.

Waterfront Park
1600 Pacific Hwy.
San Diego
Online: sdparks.org

San Diego Safari Park

The San Diego Zoo Safari Park is one of our absolute favorite places to bring family. During summer though, there’s a good chance kids will get super hot exploring all day so head to the Savanna Cool Zone in the Lion Camp play area. You’ll find mist spraying from palm trees and a big slippery turtle, lion, and crocodile that spout water.

Insider’s Tip: If you feel like your kids really want to get wet here, be sure to pack a swimsuit for them to change into
Hours: May 26 – Aug. 12, Mon. – Sun., 9 a.m. – 7 p.m.
Cost: 1-Day Pass when purchased online is $69 per adult (ages 12+) and $59 per kid (ages 3-11)

San Diego Zoo Safari Park
15500 San Pasqual Valley Rd.
Escondido
Online: sdzsafaripark.org

 

Poway Community Swim Center

 

The splash pad at the Poway Community Swim Center is always a summer fave for families. With a wide selection of geysers, overhead buckets, a water tunnel and more, the only problem you’ll have is getting kiddos to leave at the end of the day.

We also recommend checking out Inflatable Days at the swim center as well. Every Fri. from June 16 – Aug. 4, the pool features gigantic inflatables like the Magneetor or Swing & Slide for everyone to enjoy! Three one-hour sessions are available for jumpers and a swim test and daily admission are required. Wristbands for inflatable participation go on sale 30 min. prior to each time slot and spaces are limited to 25 jumpers per session.

Splash Pad Hours & Cost: Mon. – Thurs., 9:15 a.m. – 7 p.m.; Fri., from 11 a.m. – 8 p.m; and Sat. & Sun. 10:30 a.m. – 5 p.m. Cost is $4 per adult and $3 per kid (for residents) and $8 per adult and $6 per kid (for non-residents)
Inflatable Hours & Cost: Fri., 4:30 p.m. – 5:30 p.m., 5:30 p.m. – 6:30 p.m., and 6:30 p.m. – 7:30 p.m. Cost is $5 for residents and $7 for non-residents
Insider’s Tip: There’s not a lot of shade at the swim center so be sure to bring hats, extra sunscreen, and lots of water

Poway Community Swim Center
13094 Civic Center Dr.
Poway
Online: poway.org/489/Swim-Center

 

Sweetwater Summit Regional Park

This 500-acre park has tons of fabulous features, but to cool off this summer, we highly recommend a visit to their splash pad. Whether your kiddos love the thrill of getting drenched by a bucket of water or prefer to whoop it up in the spray zone, this splash pad is tons of fun. Even more, there’s a 13-station exercise course if you want to squeeze in a quick workout, as well as rentable picnic areas and a campground if you want to make a whole night of it.

Hours: Daily, May 1 – Oct. 31, 9:30 a.m. – sunset
Cost for Splash Pad: $3 per person and parking is $3 per car

Sweetwater Summit Regional Park
3219 Summit Meadow Rd.
Bonita
Online: sdparks.org

 

Del Mar Highlands Town Center Fountain

 

Little guppies can splash about this popular fountain found on the lower level at Del Mar Highlands Town Center. Grab a cup of jo and a maple bacon donut from Sidecar Donuts or enjoy a delicious shaved snow at Iceskimo then kick back and relax at a table on the plaza while your kiddos play nearby. When you’re done, check out One Paseo across the street with lots of adorable shops and fab eateries and grab a bite for lunch.

Cost: Free
Note: At time of publication, the pop jet fountain is still closed but is set to reopen in June with a celebration including live music from Hullabaloo, a photo wall, giveaways, an activity station, ice cream for kids from Iceskimo, drinks from Happy Lemon and much more. Stay tuned to the website for the re-opening date.

Del Mar Highlands Town Center
12925 El Camino Real
Del Mar
Online: delmarhighlandstowncenter.com

 

Mountain Hawk Park

This is a hidden gem that’s fun for younger kids. The park’s free splash pad is the city’s only interactive water feature that’s open April 1 – Nov. 1  giving your family lots of time to enjoy a little water play long after summer has ended. The fun doesn’t stop there with a great playground, plenty of walking trails, a basketball court, and gazebos with stunning views of Otay Lake.

Mountain Hawk Park
1475 Lake Hawk Dr.
Chula Vista
Online: chulavistaca.gov/mountain-hawk-park

 

Alga Norte Aquatic Park

 

Beat the heat at the Alga Norte Park Aquatic Center. Not only is the 25-yard instructional pool good for half-pints, but there’s a swell splash pad as well. You’ll find plenty of life vests available and lifeguards on duty. Further, there are lots of changing rooms and warm showers, and you can sit in the lounge chairs under the shade while your little ones frolic about.

Cost: $5 per adult and $3 per youth
Hours: Mon.-Fri. 6 a.m. – 8 a.m. and 9 a.m. – 7 p.m.; Sat. 8 a.m.- 4 p.m. (closes at 5 p.m. June 10 – Sept. 3); Sun. 9:30 a.m. – 4 p.m. (closes at 5 p.m. June 10 – Sept. 3)

Alga Norte Aquatic Park
6565 Alicante Rd.
Carlsbad
Online: carlsbadca.gov

 

Wave Waterpark

Catch some waves at this rad water park in Vista. Whether your little swimmer prefers to casually float along the lazy river, ride the wave machine or plunge down the Riptide Slide, they’re sure to have a total blast. There’s even a splash pad area and a large pool as well. And if you need refuge from the sun, score a cabana day rental. Also, you can grab a bite at the Wave Shack and Surf Spot Grill when everyone gets hungry.

Hours: Mon. – Thurs., 10 a.m. – 4 p.m.; every other Fri., 4 p.m. – 8 p.m.; Sat., 11 a.m. – 5 p.m.; and Sun., 12 p.m. – 5 p.m.
Cost: Guests over 42″ are $24, guests under a 42″ are $19, and happy hour admission for the last two hours is $11

Click here for pricing information.

Wave Waterpark
101 Wave Dr.
Vista
Online: thewavewaterpark.com

 

Hilton Head County Park

Ahoy Matey! Let your pint-sized Captain Hooks romp around this pirate-themed splash pad on a hot summer day. The park has a large open grassy space and a fab playground with tons of swings – perfect for the entire crew. Pack a lunch and take advantage of the shaded picnic area and BBQs to make a day of it. We’ve also heard rumors about an ice cream truck stopping by on the weekends – so come prepared with a little extra cash on hand.

Cost: Splash pad is $3 per day, $30 per season, or $75 for a three-person family pack
Splash Pad Hours: May – Oct., daily, 11 a.m. – 4 p.m.

Hilton Head County Park
16005 Hilton Head Rd.
El Cajon
Online: sdcounty.ca.gov/hiltonhead

 

LEGOLAND®

 

If you’re heading to LEGOLAND®, a $20 upgrade gets you into LEGOLAND® Water Park and SEA LIFE® Aquarium using the 1-Day Resort Hopper Ticket. And honestly, it’s soooo worth it – especially when temps are on the rise. With seven slides, sandy beaches, a unique Build-A-Raft River, Pirate Reef, and a LEGO Legends of CHIMA Water Park, kiddos will stay entertained non-stop.

Insider’s Tip: If you you conquer both parks in one day, be sure to bring towels and a change of clothes for the rides.
Cost: LEGOLAND® admission starts at $104 with the LEGOLAND® Water Park and the SEA LIFE® Aquarium running an additional $20 per person. Find all pricing here.

LEGOLAND® Water Park
One LEGOLAND Dr.
Carlsbad
Online: california.legoland.com

 

Sunset Park

Take a leisurely drive to this North County park that’s perfect for toddlers and big kiddos alike. There are two playgrounds: one for younger tots and one for older kids. Half-pints can frolic around the splash pad next to the playground to cool off. You’ll also find a big field to run around and restrooms too. Plus, there’s a pretty amazing concrete snakehead for littles to climb on.

Insider’s Tip: If you feel like picnicking, there are a couple tables available and a place to dispose of hot coals.

Cost: Free
Hours: Open to the public, 7 a.m. – 9 p.m.

Sunset Park
909 Puesto Del Sol
San Marcos
Online: san-marcos.net

 

Las Posas Pool

 

The Las Posas Pool and splash pad is always a groovy time for the family. Wee ones can play in the funneled water play area without getting too soaked. The 25-yard recreational lap pool is heated all year long and offers swim lessons for kids. Shade is limited so arrive early to snag a spot. After your day of water play comes to end, let the kids work out any remaining energy at the large grassy park next door.

Insider’s Tip: The parking lot fills up quickly, so try to arrive earlier in the day
Hours for Open Recreation Swim: June 12 – Aug. 13, Mon. – Sun., 12 p.m. – 6 p.m.
Cost: $4 drop-in fee per person or you can purchase an Annual Splash Pass Membership that gives you access to unlimited recreational and lap swim – $60 for an Individual membership or $150 for  a family membership (up to 5 people)

Las Posas Pool
1387 W. Borden Rd.
San Marcos
Online: san-marcos.net/parks-recreation/aquatics

Great Wolf Lodge

Wanna give the kids a break from the blazing hot sun? Head indoors to Great Wolf Lodge for some slip sliding, wave-riding good times! Littles can climb the 4-story water tree house, Fort Mackenzie, or kick back and relax on the winding lazy river. For even more adventure, tackle slides together on the River Canyon Run and Howlin' Tornado. And for the tiny tots, the Cub Paw Pool is splash-tastic fun.

Insider's Tip: On check-out day, you may use the facilities all day, and there are locker rooms to change in before heading home.
Good to know: Great Wolf Lodge now offers day passes––so you can enjoy the water park without spending the night!

Great Wolf Lodge
12681 Harbor Blvd.
Garden Grove
Online: greatwolf.com/southern-california

Otay Ranch Town Center

Cool off outside the food court at this upscale mall in Chula Vista. Grab a bite from one of many delish restaurants, then stake out a spot on the grass to enjoy a meal in the sun. There are tons of swell shops to check out during your visit as well. Finish off the afternoon with a romp around the splash pad while parents kick back and relax nearby.

Insider Tip: The interactive splash pad is available to the public both days and evenings as a result of the inclusion of multi-colored LED lighting.

Otay Ranch Town Center
2015 Birch Rd.
Chula Vista
Online: otayranchtowncenter.com

Mission Bay

As the largest aquatic park of its kind in the country, Mission Bay Park features long stretches of shallow beach next to beautiful grassy fields and biking paths. Perfect for athletic families who love to swim, rollerblade, run, fly kites and explore the playgrounds. Have an adventurous school-ager at home who loves water sports? Try renting a tandem kayak, stand-up paddle board, jet skis, or water-trike at one of many rental facilities around Mission Bay. If your littles are more into sandcastle building and frolicking in the shallow water, stop by one of the eight park areas designated for swimming. At the end of the day, gather around the fire pits by the water’s edge to roast s’mores.

Insider's Tip: Although limited, parking is free if you find the right spot. To improve your chances, try to arrive earlier in the day

Mission Bay
2688 E Mission Bay Dr.
San Diego
Online: sandiego.gov

Additional reporting by Aimee Della Bitta & Nikki Walsh

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What an Awesome 3-Year-Old Birthday Party Looks Like

by Shelley Massey

So you’re about to have a threenager. Congratulations! The added excitement in your life—from exuberant gestures of love to devastating reactions to anything that causes sadness—means that you’ll want to celebrate this milestone. Keep reading for our take on throwing the most epic birthday party for three-year-olds ever.

To Theme or Not to Theme?

Three-year-olds are passionate people, which means they love the things they love. Surround them with those things and you can practically forget the rest of your to-do list.

Real Mom Advice: I threw a ninja-themed party for my son when he turned three, and he was more excited about the decorations than he was about his presents. He still has his banner—his name in Japanese surrounded by ninja images—hanging in his room.

How Many Kids Should I Invite to a Birthday Party for Three-Year-Olds?

By three, your daughter probably has her people. She knows what she likes, who shares toys well, and who doesn’t. However, you’re still in the middle of preschool life, which means smaller classes and moms who volunteer together and know each other well. At this point, unless you’re going to pull your invitation list from multiple places (the classroom, the neighborhood, the mommy-and-me music class), you might need to invite everyone in the class.

Real Mom Advice: I was working full-time when my daughter turned three, and her daycare class was pretty large. I didn’t have other groups to pull guests from, so to keep the numbers more manageable, I just invited the girls. We sent party favors and cupcakes to school on Monday to share with the whole class and the boys.

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Should I Limit Gifts?

This is a hot topic that fans somefeelings, so go with your gut. If you know your kid is getting a billion gifts from grandparents and you want to ease off, maybe going the no-gift route is right for you. Or perhaps your party is the extent of your favorite three-year-old’s birthday celebration. In that case, gifts could be great—especially if your party guest list is on the shorter side.

Real Mom Advice: At three, your little one’s shelves might be filling up. Now’s a good time to box up some of those rattles and rollers to save for the next one, or to donate.

How Long Should a Birthday Party for Three-Year-Olds Last?

Three-year-olds are not known for getting bored, so even if you go a little too long, they’ll be busy. A two-hour party seems like the sweet spot, but depending on your schedule, you could go a little shorter or longer.

Real Mom Advice: Have a plan on standby for when the party’s winding down, but parents haven’t yet packed their kiddos in the car seat. This is when things could get hairy. A pack of balloons will work woners, because all you have to do is blow up a few by mouth, throw them to the c,rowd and tell them to keep those bad boys from touching the ground. Then, start saying yourthank-yous and goodbyes.

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What Time of Day Works Best for a 3-Year-Old Birthday Party?

Since many three-year-olds have dropped their naps but still get a little cranky in the afternoons, planning your party for the morning—or no later than lunchtime, if you want to serve lunch—is pretty solid advice.

Real Mom Advice: If any of your guests are the oldest children, go ahead and set up the pack-and-play and baby swing in advance of the party. Your parent guests with wee ones who still nap in the mornings will thank you, and you won’t have to leave the party to pull the equipment out of the closet.

Where Should We Have It?

Pandemic partying has its own set of constraints, but your main consideration here will be safe. While everyone has their comfort level with who, where, and how you interact with those outside your regular circle, a three-year-old party is incredibly well-suited to pandemic gatherings: They’re small, they work best outside, and they’re relatively short.

Real Mom Advice: If you feel comfortable having a party in a jump house or trampoline park, these rock for three-year-old parties. However, a playground or a backyard works equally well.

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 What Do We Do?

Three-year-olds love accomplishments, and you can harness the power of this by having a pre-planned craft, art project, obstacle course, or game stations. Tie your activities into your theme, and you’ve just #won.

Real Mom Advice: My son loves trophies, and it was easy to order a box of them on Amazon before his big day. We incorporated an awards ceremony at the end of the party and gave each guest a trophy for something they did that was awesome. Not trying to brag, but it was kind of the best party ever.

Do I Bake a Cake?

Bake it or fake it, this isn’t going to be a three-year-old’s first rodeo. They’re going to be on the lookout for the sweet stuff.

Real Mom Advice: Tie the cake decoration into your theme, and it won’t matter if it’s filled with zucchini. (Don’t try this—we’re kidding.) But for real, decorate the cake and know that your local grocery store is an excellent option, too. You don’t have to go specialty bakery here. They’re three, so they’ll be psyched no matter how much you spend on it.

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Do I Feed People at a Birthday Party for Three-Year-Olds?

Three-year-old parties are generally not drop-off affairs, which means you’re also going to be hosting a handful of adults. Don’t go overboard with catering to the grown-ups, but it’s a nice gesture to fill a cooler with more adult-type beverages—sparkling waters, sodas, or beer and wine if you’re inclined—just to keep everyone hydrated. For the kids, set out bowls (or individual baggies) of their favorite fruit, veggie, or salty snacks, and juice boxes or containers of water. Steer clear of candy and sweets on the snack table, as you’ll be loading them up when it’s time to blow out the candles.

Real Mom Advice: At my daughter’s party, which was tea party-themed, I went overboard on sugary toppings for the cupcakes (the “craft” was to allow each guest to decorate their cupcake). Rookie move. Not a sprinkle was left on the table, and the guests spent the last hour growling at one another. Be sure you keep an eye on the sugar, is all I’m saying.

What about Favors for a 3-Year-Old Birthday Party?

Yes, favors for the win! Don’t go wild, but a festive-looking package at the exit gate will guarantee an easy send-off.

Real Mom Advice: Slap bracelets, bouncy balls, bubbles, and sticker books are always good. If you want to step it up a notch, personalized sippy cups are cute. At this stage, it’s less about what’s in the package than how fun it looks when you’re passing them out.

How Do I Make It Stop?

Cue the exit music, start a conga line, and head toward the party favor station (and the car door).

Real Mom Advice: Putting an end time on the invitation may seem weird, but it’ll make sure everyone is on the same page, and it will save you from the awkward goodbye.

What about the After-Party?

Don’t give in to the urge to have a private family party immediately after the party with guests ends. Shut. It. Down. Make time for maybe a book or possibly a cartoon, then nap time—if that works with your schedule. You and your three-year-old are going to need to chillax. Save the after-party for another day.

 

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