You might think “mean girls,” shifting friendships, and popularity contests are a rite of passage reserved for teenagers—but the truth is, this brand of schoolyard drama starts in elementary school.
And it’s not just girls. In fact, according to a study by the University of Illinois, kids of both genders are aware of popularity issues as early as third grade. And while this survey of 12,000 elementary and middle school kids found that 41 to 48 percent of girls reported experiencing relational aggression (teasing, social exclusion, and rumor-spreading), another study actually found that it is boys who use this sort of aggression more.
So get ready, because there will likely be a day when your otherwise confident child will come home from school and tell you something that’ll make your heart sink. And while you may want to swoop in and come to the rescue (or stomp right up to the mean kid himself), experts say parents should navigate this territory carefully.
“The child is looking to us not just to solve the problem, but to know how to feel about the problem,” said Abigail Wald, a parent coach whose nontraditional coaching program, Mother Flipping Awesome, has helped more than 10,000 families, “And if we are thinking, ‘This is the worst thing to ever happen,’ that sets off alarm bells for the child and makes a mountain out of a molehill very quickly.”
And remember: the drama your kids face now can help build the resilience they’ll need later.
“One thing we can do is change our perception of these things and realize that yes they are annoying for us—and sometimes they can feel downright heartbreaking—but essentially these things are really good,” Wald said. “These are good training wheels dramas for everything that our children are going to have to deal with throughout their lives.”
Here are some scenarios to consider:
When a classmate (or friend) is mean
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Before you jump to conclusions, try to help your child see the other side: maybe the “mean kid” felt hurt by something your child said to her. Maybe the child is dealing with something difficult in her own life. Or maybe you just need to teach your child to rise above the conflict. So listen—and ask questions.
“This is a beautiful opportunity for us to help our child learn values and coping skills,” Wald said. “Discuss with the child what choices the other person is making and what that child might be needing, or consider that their friend might be hurt and taking it out in these ways.”
You can also try to role-play future interactions to outfit your child for future encounters. Ask your child to play their part, while you play the part of the friend and play out different scenarios to see what options your child may have to handle the problem.
The advantage to this sort of approach, Wald said, is that even tight-lipped kids may end up showing you a lot more about what’s going on than if you had just asked them, “What happened?”
“We can also discuss whether that is somebody they really want in their life or not,” she added.
If you suspect your child may be the victim of bullying, that’s one of those times when you should definitely get involved—by more than just empathizing. (Here’s how to recognize the emotional and physical signs that your kid is being bullied, according to the National Center Against Bullying.)
Immediately reach out to the school—first your child’s teacher, then the principal—to make them aware of the situation. Most schools have strict anti-bullying policies and should attend to any suspicions immediately and respond to complaints quickly.
“If you sense that your child is having feelings of self-harm or that there is actual bullying going on—physical or emotional—that is truly unsafe, that is a time to step in to engage other adults and figure out what the options are,” Wald said.
When a good friend moves to a different “group”
While your heart might break along with your child’s, you want to resist the urge to “fix it,” just be there with your child’s feelings.
According to Sacramento psychologist Dawn Huebner, parents often rush to make things all better, but this doesn’t help kids—and can even make things worse.
“You do not want to continue to try to set up playdates if it’s clear to you that the friendship isn’t working anymore,” said Huebner, who has written several books, including Outsmarting Worry: An Older Kid’s Guide to Managing Anxiety. “Parents are quick to try to make things OK for them by solving problems or by making it seem like this thing that’s happening isn’t that bad, but when your friend doesn’t want to be your friend anymore, that’s sad. It’s normal to feel sad.”
Consequently, a parent’s first job in this situation is to empathize. Huebner urged parents to think about the sort of support they’d want. For instance, grown-ups don’t like other people solving their problems; most of the time, neither do children.
“The most helpful thing is when another person says, ‘Oh that’s hard. I’m sorry that happened,'” she said. “It’s the same for children.”
When your child isn’t picked for a team/invited to a party
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It’s hard for anyone to feel left out—and there’s nothing a parent can really do to make this feeling go away (at least not right away). But instead of trying to distract your child, experts say parents should simply sit with their children and let them feel all their feelings. Empathize, but don’t solve. This helps build coping skills for the future.
“You don’t want to distract the child to compensate; that’s a mistake,” Huebner said. “You want to start with, ‘That’s hard.’ Because sometimes we don’t have the answers. You can say, ‘I don’t know why your friend didn’t invite you. It’s hard to be left out. You’re just kind of commiserating.”
When your child doesn’t want your advice
The hardest part about watching our kids unravel over a seemingly small drama is resisting the urge to tell them what to do. After all, we may know a quick fix. Why can’t we just give them the directions?
Because, most likely, your kids don’t want your input unless they’ve actually asked you for it. So tread lightly.
“You want to hear them and be compassionate about it, but that’s different than agreeing with them,” Huebner said. “Then you can say something like, ‘Do you want to hear my ideas?’ Or, ‘Do you want some help sorting this out?'”
We want our kids to be liked, so when they’re not picked for a team or their BFF suddenly switches to another friend group, it’s almost (but not) harder for us than for our littles. After all, we want to help them build self-confidence and self-esteem, and when our kids feel left out, we’re stuck trying to figure out what to do.
That’s right, Mom and Dad. Our kids have got this—at least, most of the time. Read on to learn how to build self-confidence and self-esteem in kids when they feel left out and when you should (and shouldn’t) get involved.
First of all: Don’t tell your kids, “It’s not a big deal.”
Even at the most “inclusive” schools, your child’s school day holds a veritable minefield of opportunities to be excluded. A friend is sitting at a different lunch table? That’s a blow! A BFF chooses to play kickball instead of the usual recess chat session? Ouch! These moments might seem trivial to you, but these everyday moments are loaded with meaning for kids.
“Lunch is always a hard time because sometimes lunch tables change without warning. If your child is used to sitting with a certain group of kids one day and then someone suddenly switches to another table, it can feel really hurtful,” says Hurley. So resist the urge to tell your kid not to worry, and just empathize.
Empathize—and resist the urge to fix it.
If hearing that another child ignored your kid on the playground makes you want to go full Mama Bear, hold up. Letting your kids deal with their dramas may not be so bad. Hurley, who also wrote The Happy Kid Handbook: How to Raise Joyful Children in a Stressful World, explains, “You don’t become resilient if you don’t go through hard things. Building distress tolerance is important.” Some things you can say:
It’s hard to feel left out.
I get it.
It looks like that really hurts.
I would feel lonely, too.
That sounds really hard.
Don’t try to rationalize (at least, not yet).
If your kid just found out they weren’t invited to a sleepover, now’s not the time to tell them how most parents can’t handle a soccer team-sized gaggle of kids on their living room floor. Let your child feel all the feelings and save the rationalizing for later.
“The child is feeling hurt and rejected, so your rationalizing and making it better is not addressing their hurt. Respecting where they are with feeling hurt is a top priority,” explains Jennifer Miller, founder of Confident Parents Confident Kids, a website based on Miller’s book of the same name.
Once your child has expressed their feelings and seems out of the red zone, that’s when you can try to give them an explanation.
Then, shift into problem-solving.
Once your child has felt all the big feelings and seems calm, try to shift the conversation to the future. If the problem is not having someone to play with at recess, for instance, talk about some easy ways they can learn to approach a group (this LifeHacker article has some good tips) or what other options there may be during that time frame (some schools allow kids to go to the library).
Talk about “Friendship Seasons.”
If your child’s best friend seems to be suddenly pulling away, remind your child that it doesn’t mean it’s forever. Parents should tell their kids that friendships may come and go like “seasons.”
“Sometimes friendships feel like summer all the time—you’re playing every day and everything is great—and then all of a sudden it’s winter,” Hurley said. “You can say something like, ‘It sounds like it’s time for a pause on this friendship.’”
Make a friendship map.
Hurley suggests that parents have kids draw a map of all the places they go–including sports teams, religious school, and extracurricular classes—and name all the kids who are their friends in those places. This helps them realize that while they may have their core besties at school, they’ve got buddies in other places, too.
Don’t make the other person the bad guy.
While it may offer consolation to say things like, “He’s just jealous” or to dismiss the offender as being “mean” or a “bully,” putting down the person who is doing the excluding only teaches your kid how to exclude, too! It also zaps any opportunity for your child to come up with solutions to the problem.
If the issue is one person dictating the games at recess, for instance, calling that friend “bossy” doesn’t make it better; but teaching your child how to develop—and enact—a turn-taking system does.
Don’t compliment our kids to make them feel better.
We’re parents; it’s natural to look for a way to build kids’ self-confidence and self-esteem when they’re down. But while our first reaction may be to praise them (“But you were the best one there!” “You’ll get it next time!” “I still love you!”), this may not always work when our kids are feeling left out.
“When we say something back to them to make them feel better . . . it actually lowers their self-confidence,” clinical psychologist Dr. Becky Kennedy said in this viral TikTok video. “Confidence isn’t feeling good about yourself; confidence is self-trust.” Instead, she said parents should say things like:
“I’m so glad you’re sharing that with me.”
“Tell me more.”
“Keep going.”
Kennedy said, “When we show our kids that we’re not scared of their experiences, they learn not to be scared of those same experiences.”
Know when it’s FOMO.
Nobody can go to every event, party, and sports game happening on any given Saturday—despite how some kids may feel. So if your kid breaks down when they find out something is happening without them, try to remind them of all the activities and events they are doing.
Talk about inclusion.
Now that your child knows what it feels like to be left out, you’ve got the perfect opportunity to talk to them about how it may feel for others. Don’t do this when your child is upset; instead, keep it in your back pocket to bring up later. “Kids should know that sometimes they will be excluded and sometimes they will be the excluder. That can begin to open up conversations about being inclusive,” says Hurley.
Realize that there’s a silver lining.
Sometimes, being left out can be a powerful motivator. Not making the soccer team may push an aspiring soccer player to practice more; conversely, not getting a part in the school play may make a child realize they don’t like acting that much anyway.
Even more importantly, feeling left out is a perfect opportunity to build empathy. “It really hurts to be left out, to feel rejected, but it allows kids to begin to empathize and have compassion for others who are marginalized and to learn how to be an inclusive child which is not automatic,” states Miller.
Know when something more is going on.
If your child is perpetually feeling left out, you might want to do a little digging to figure out what might be going on. “A lot of times the kids who are always left out are the ones who keep to themselves or who hang back and wait to be asked,” Miller says. Those kids may need a little more coaching to step into things on their own. If you know they want to be in the talent show, for instance, help them find a group long before the week of the show.
Of course, if the issue is bullying or a child feeling excluded from all social events, you may want to talk to a teacher or the school psychologist or find a therapist to help your child. “Deliberately being left out because kids are being unkind, that’s never a good experience. That’s a different conversation,” Hurley says.
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If it were up to Hollywood, high school would be a place where popular kids never get zits, every student is a professional dancer, and geeks are one makeover away from becoming prom queen. Yeah, not so much. IRL, the halls of high school harbor angst, absurdities, and awkwardness. Oh, and hormones. Gobs of hormones. Luckily, there are those films that do get the experience right. Ahead are 21 high school movies you’ll want to watch with your tweens and teens. And who knows? Maybe they’ll open up about a thing or two.
Olivia Wilde’s directorial debut perfectly portrays the experience of overcoming misconceptions. Seniors Molly and Amy are closing out high school with Ivy Leagues on the horizon. When they learn the social crowd is also headed to equally esteemed schools, they decide to indulge in a little teenage debauchery the night before graduation. A familiar narrative, maybe, but Wilde’s injection of female friendship and a cast that flies the rainbow flag freely make this high school movie so very special.
Ayo Edebiri (The Bear) and Rachel Sennott (Bodies Bodies Bodies) team up for a queer comedy about two best friends who start an after-school fight club to attract the attention of their dream girls and lose their virginity before graduation. Warped and exaggerated, yet authentic and relatable, Emma Seligman’s satirical take on the awkward high school experience is grade-A hilarity and exactly the knockout crowd-pleaser we are coming to expect from the darkly comedic director on the rise.
Ruby has a lot on her plate. The only hearing person in her family, she helps run her father’s fishing boat, acts as her family’s interpreter, and haggles with fish buyers—and that’s before she even gets to school. But Ruby, a senior, has a secret: She loves to sing and wants to attend the Berklee College of Music. Cue the clash with her parents. A three-time Oscar winner, Sian Heder’s tearjerker isn’t without its stereotypes, but above all, it’s a genuine, relatable, and thoughtful representation of deaf culture.
Set in the Pacific Northwest, The Half of It unfolds through Ellie Chu, a 17-year-old wordsmith recruited by an athlete to help him write a love letter to the girl they are both crushing on. Sound familiar? That’s because Alice Wu’s near-perfect rom-com is a modern take on Cyrano de Bergerac. Here, Wu subverts teen movie tropes and instead focuses on connections made outside of messy hormonal drama. But where the film really gets it right is right there in its tagline: “Not every love story is a romance.”
We could list 10 things we love about this 1999 rom-com, but to save time and space, we’ll just say Karen McCullah and Kirsten Smith’s screenplay is a feminist take on Shakespeare’s Taming of the Shrew, and that’s reason enough to hit play. If you need more, this high school movie about two sisters and the boys trying to court them is also bolstered by strong performances from its core cast (Heath Ledger, Julia Stiles), while offering fresh takes on themes of sibling rivalry, ruined reputations, and self-identity.
Greta Gerwig takes a drive down her own memory lane (or nightmare alley, depending on how you look at it) for the narrative in Lady Bird. Written and directed by the Sacramento native, the film was inspired by her own coming-of-age, capturing teenage angst like no other. Beyond accurately representing the all-encompassing, overly dramatic flirtatious moments with boys and the spirited bond between two best friends, Gerwig’s depiction of the nuances of the mother/teen-daughter relationship gets an A+.
Amy Poehler steps behind the lens to direct the film adaptation of Jennifer Mathieu’s same-name novel. Though a work of fiction, Moxie pulls from the author’s own experiences with the Riot Grrrl movement of the ’90s to tell a coming-of-age story about a shy 16-year-old who fights the patriarchy in her school by publishing a feminist zine. Sexism, antiquated traditions, toxic masculinity: Poehler takes care to highlight today’s seemingly benign behaviors and offers a master class on how to dispel them.
Shameik Moore will steal your heart as Malcolm, a straight-A student navigating street crime, peer ridicule, and, of course, the SATs. He and his best friends live in a neighborhood of Inglewood called the Bottoms, but if Malcolm and his Harvard aspirations are any indication, he’s headed straight for the top. That is until a run-in with a drug dealer threatens to derail everything. Blending hood drama with teen comedy, Dope is a highly entertaining take on being young, Black, and othered in today’s America.
Author Jenny Han’s beloved To All the Boys trilogy got the Netflix treatment, with the streamer adapting each book for the screen over three years. But, it’s the first installment, introducing Lara Jean and Peter, that deserves all the X’s and O’s. A reinvented rom-com that revamps tired tropes, celebrates diversity, and speaks to anyone who’s ever had a crush, TATBILB begins with Lara Jean’s love letters being mysteriously mailed to their recipients and ends by giving rise to one of the best YA couples of all time.
Two tropes that often mosey their way into high school comedies? Proms and pacts. Usually, both intertwined with another coming-of-age trope: S-E-X. But director Anya Adams breaks the formulaic mold with Prom Pact, a rom-com about a feminist firebrand in the making, her plucky best friend, and their agreement to go to prom as long there’s no slow dancing. A sleeper hit of 2023, this send-up of seminal ’80s classics like Pretty in Pink subverts expectations, offering instead a thoughtful charmer full of surprises.
Starr Carter is living a double life. During the week, she attends a predominantly white prep school. But on the weekends, she lets loose in Garden Heights, the lower-income neighborhood where she grew up. It’s only after one fateful night, when her best friend is killed by a police officer, that her two paths converge and she finds her singular voice. An important film, George Tillman Jr.’s hefty crime drama might be the conversation starter you need to talk with your kids about race and police brutality.
Based on the real-life events surrounding Coach Herman Boone and the integration of his high school football team, Remember the Titans is a Disney classic that delivers all the chill bumps. Not only does it offer a glorious sports story, but the film’s depiction of a divided Southern town that eventually unites is inspiration gold. Of course, this is the House of Mouse, where saccharine flourishes always win out, but, hey, when a film recruits Ryan Gosling, Marvin Gaye, and Denzel Washington, it simply can’t lose.
You know those movies that are so easy to watch you don’t want them to end? This is one of those movies. Set during the fall season, this gem from writer/director Kelly Fremon Craig stars Hailee Steinfeld as Nadine, a 17-year-old tortured by her own emotions and hormones. When her best friend, Krista, starts dating her older brother, well, life gets worse. A candid coming-of-age tale told with refreshing wit and charming zing, Seventeen is a welcome addition to the teen drama canon.
High school: where kids can recite the quadratic equation and evaluate limits, but get stumped when it comes to figuring out girl rules. This is why we can’t forget about Mean Girls, a fun romp about a naive teen (Lindsay Lohan) who upends the social hierarchy at her new school. Though it might be a bit exaggerated, thanks to the hilarious contributions of writer Tina Fey, this Mark Waters classic high school movie tackles the harsh reality of bullying and the consequences of trying to fit in with the wrong crowd.
Sure, Do Revenge takes up residence in the privileged lives of high schoolers who go to tennis camp, throw lavish parties, and frequent ritzy country clubs, but there are elements of this Gen Z prize that ring true. Namely navigating bullies, female friendships, and the consequences of digital living. A contemporary watch, Do Revenge is also an homage to the teen-coms that defined yesteryear (Heathers, Clueless, Easy A). Not to mention, it has a truly stellar soundtrack both parents and their teens will enjoy.
Sex happens. So, thank goodness there are filmmakers like Gina Prince-Bythewood who pay special attention when depicting the act on the screen. Starring Sanaa Lathan and Omar Epps, Love & Basketball tracks one couple’s relationship over the decades, with most of their narrative set during high school. Beyond authentically portraying the aforementioned “first time” (with a particularly memorable needle drop, we might add), the movie explores gender equality in sports, celebrating women’s basketball with the shout-out it deserves.
It’s the beginning of his sophomore year and Chang, a 16-year-old NBA buff whose other interests include band and the new girl named Christy, has only one goal: Prove to the entire school he can slam dunk. His aspiration to fly through the air like a swag god is the result of some alpha-male rivalry, part of what first-time director Jingyi Shao gets right about the hormone headquarters also called high school. Beyond the courtside machismo, Shao weaves in the immigrant experience and delivers a winning coming-of-ager the whole family will love.
The quintessential scribe of ’80s teen angst, John Hughes is responsible for several iconic films. Perhaps the most heralded? The Breakfast Club. Capturing the essence of cliques and the pressure to conform, the film spends a Saturday in detention bonding with a group of archetyped students. Although some scenes don’t hold up today (an observation made by Molly Ringwald herself), this cult classic reminds us that no matter how different we may seem on the surface, we are all the same insecure youths on the inside.
Directed by Greg Mottola and written by real-life best friends Seth Rogen and Evan Goldberg, Superbad turns the raunch dial way up for an essential high school movie comedy that really nails the teen experience, the idea of the bromance, and the awkwardness that infiltrates the halls of every high school. About two social outcasts who throw a house party to impress some girls, the 2007 film also changed the genre at the time, openly hurling penis jokes and packing its reel with as much coital chatter as its R rating would allow.
Richard Linklater always gets slice-of-life filmmaking right. From Boyhood to Everybody Wants Some to this retro delight, the Texas director is a master of nostalgia, essentially making the viewer feel like a tourist in a series of Polaroids snapped during personal milestones. Set in 1976 on the last day of school, Dazed and Confused does just that as it tags along with a group of teens maneuvering spilled beers, bong clouds, and unruly upperclassmen. Familiar faces include Matthew McConaughey and Ben Affleck.
Bond with your tweens and teens when you watch these must-see films
Everyone can relate to a good coming-of-age movie. Parents watch them and get nostalgic for the ups and downs of their youth. Tweens and teens look to them for guidance, advice, or at the very least, some sign that they’re not alone in what they’re going through. Better still, they’re great for helping grown-ups and their kids bond over laughs, adolescent cringe, and real-life lessons. Whether you’re looking for a film that might help you broach a difficult topic with your child or simply want to share some of the films that guided you into adulthood, here are 14 coming-of-age movies you’ll definitely want to bring up during the next family movie night.
Turning Red
This Academy Award-nominated animated film about an adolescent girl who suddenly finds herself being magically transformed into a giant red panda has quickly become a family favorite, and it’s a great one to watch, especially with tweens. Tackling the (taboo for some) topic of menstruation head-on through the lens of an Asian American family is refreshing in terms of subject matter and representation. It’s currently streaming on DisneyPlus.
Stand By Me
Rob Reiner’s film based on a Stephen King novella is a major coming-of-age classic. It follows a group of best friends on their journey to find the body of a missing child, and the challenges they face along the way that alter their lives forever. It touches on difficult topics like bullying, grief, and trauma. Starring Wil Wheaton, River Phoenix, Kiefer Sutherland, Corey Feldman, and Jerry O’Connell, watch it now on Paramount+.
Crooklyn
A semi-autobiographical dramedy co-written by Spike Lee and his siblings Joie and Cinqué, Crooklyn is a heartfelt and hilarious look at black girlhood through the eyes of a nine-year-old girl living in Brooklyn’s Bed-Stuy neighborhood one summer in the 1970s. Starring Alfre Woodard, Delroy Lindo, Isaiah Washington, and Zelda Harris, watch it now on Peacock.
Real Women Have Curves
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Starring Superstore’s America Ferrera, this film about a young Mexican-American woman caught between her desire to move away for college and her sense of obligation to stay home and help provide for her family brings the first-generation, coming-of-age experience to life. Watch it now on HBO Max.
The Edge of Seventeen
When high school junior Nadine (Hailee Steinfeld) finds out her brother is dating her best friend, her life begins to spin out. But when a new friend comes alone, she realizes not all is lost—a great lesson for every teen struggling with unwelcome changes. Also starring Blake Jenner, Woody Harrelson, and Haley Lu Richardson, it’s now streaming on Hulu Premium.
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While the circumstances and details change, many teens understand what it’s like to be caught between your family’s needs and your own desires. In this Academy Award-winning film, 17-year-old Ruby (Emilia Jones) is stuck between helping her deaf family with their fishing business and pursuing her newfound love of singing. Also starring Troy Kotsur (who won an Oscar for Best Supporting Actor), Marlee Maitlin, and Daniel Durant, you can stream it with your family on Apple TV.
Although we remember this as more of a sci-fi story, A Wrinkle In Time is also the coming-of-age story of Meg Murray, who travels through space and time in search of her father while making friends and growing into herself along the way. Directed by Ava DuVernay, this lovely adaptation stars Storm Reid, Oprah Winfrey, Reese Witherspoon, Mindy Kaling, and Chris Pine, and is available to watch on Disney+.
But I’m A Cheerleader
This black comedy from 1999 stars a young Natasha Lyonne as Megan, a high school cheerleader who gets sent to a conversion camp by her homophobic parents. It’s not as depressing as it sounds—instead, the film highlights why these camps don’t work and helps LGBTQ+ youth feel seen (plus RuPaul is one of the counselors!) Also starring Clea DuVall, it’s now streaming on Paramount Plus and Showtime.
Morris from America
When Morris, a young American teen with dreams of becoming a hip-hop star, moves to Germany with his widowed father, he’s quickly faced with the reality that he’s essentially a fish out of water. It’s a comedy that delicately but still hilariously touches on everything from romance and drug experimentation to racism, grief, and living as an ex-pat. Starring Craig Robinson and Markees Christmas, stream it on HBO Max.
Little Women
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Louisa May Alcott’s tale about the trials and tribulations of four sisters growing up during and after the Civil War remains a timeless treasure. Despite being a period piece, the themes of family, love, rejection, loss, and forgiveness continue to make fans hundreds of years later. Starring Saoirse Ronan, Emma Watson, and Florence Pugh, stream it with the kids on Starz.
Mean Girls
This hilarious coming-of-age movie is a must-watch for any femme tween or teen dealing with the inevitable mean girl at their own school. When Cady finds herself in a new school dividing her time between the it-crowd and her “nerdier” best friends, she quickly finds out popularity comes with a price. Stream on Paramount+ or Pluto TV.
Ferris Bueller’s Day Off
The quintessential movie about skipping school with your best friends and trying to have the best time of your life was one many of us grew up with and can now share with our kiddos. There are art museums, parades, fancy cars, mistakes, regrets, and epic chases throughout this John Hughes classic. Watch it now on Showtime or Paramount+.
Loosely based on Cyrano de Bergerac, this story about a quiet Chinese-American girl—who helps a local jock write the love letters she wishes she were brave enough to write for a girl named Aster—is chock full of heart. It’s a wonderful film that can be especially helpful for young tweens and teens starting to navigate the world of unrequited love. Watch now on Netflix.
Almost Famous
Directed by Cameron Crowe, this film follows a 15-year-old aspiring music journalist named William (Patrick Fugit) who lands a dream assignment profiling a rising rock band Stillwater for Rolling Stone Magazine. While his mother reluctantly allows him to go on tour with them, it’s William who eventually recognizes he’s got a lot more growing up to do. A solid coming-of-age movie with a stellar ’70s rock soundtrack, this one is best left for teens. Catch it on Paramount+.
These new Netflix kids’ shows and movies coming in October are perfect for when the kids need downtime
Fall is officially here, which means chillier days and many excuses to relax on the sofa. Netflix’s October lineup is jam-packed with new releases and family favorites. No matter what you like to watch, there are plenty of new Netflix kids’ shows and movies this month. Family favorite Kung Fu Panda is back and there are a few new additions for Halloween, too. All that’s left is to decide what they want to watch first.
New Netflix Kids’ Shows and Movies Coming in October
Oct. 1
The Adventures of Tintin
This animated film is based on the comics of the same name. When young journalist TinTin buys a miniature version of a legendary pirate ship, he is unknowingly thrust into an adventure that involves traveling the world, looking for sunken treasure, and avoiding some nasty pirates. And he does it all with the help of his trusty sidekick Snowy.
The Amazing Spider-Man, The Amazing Spider-Man 2
While the Andrew Garfield version of New York’s favorite superhero might not be the favorite of the comic book film adaptations, these movies are still action-packed fun for the whole family.
Casper
This modern take on a classic cartoon character spins the story of an afterlife therapist and his daughter becoming friends with a friendly spirit after they move into a crumbling mansion.
Drake & Josh: Season 1-3
In this classic Nickelodeon series, two stepbrothers learn to live together and navigate high school even though they’re very different people.
Kung Fu Panda
Go back to where it all began for Po and his ninja master friends. Enjoy the discovery of the dragon warrior all over again with this animated classic.
The Little Rascals
Based on the classic “Our Gang” movie shorts from the ’20s and ’30s, Little Rascals follows the adventures of Alfalfa, Darla, Stymie, Spanky, Waldo, and more.
Megamind
This hilarious animated film about an overly smart reformed super-villain alien is back on Netflix. Starring the voice talents of Will Ferrell, Ben Stiller, Tina Fey, Brad Pitt, and many more, this is a perfect choice for family movie night.
Oct. 2
Strawberry Shortcake and the Beast of Berry Bog
In an all-new special, the Berry Scary Fright Night Carnival has arrived in Big Apple City and Strawberry Shortcake must solve the mystery of who is trying to spoil the fun.
Oct. 10
Blippi’s Big Dino Adventure
If you didn’t catch Blippi’s feature film debut this summer, here’s your chance. In this 60-minute length film, Blippi and Meekah set out on their biggest and best dinosaur adventure yet. They’ll meet up with friends like Park Ranger Asher and help to find some missing dino eggs before they hatch.
Oct. 12
LEGO Ninjago: Dragons Rising: Season 1: Part 2
The key to stopping the MergeQuakes from reaching their tipping point lies in the Dragon Cores. Can the Ninja find all three before it’s too late?
Oct. 13
Spy Kids, Spy Kids 2: The Island of Lost Dreams, Spy Kids 3: Game Over
Now that you’ve seen the remake, how about going back to the beginning with the original trilogy? Follow Juni and Carmen as they follow in their super spy parents’ footsteps and help save the world with the help of some super cool spy gear.
Oct. 16
Oggy Oggy: Season 3
Kind and curious kitty Oggy Oggy wants to spread joy to all his friends and neighbors. But sometimes, he gets into playful mischief instead. Miaow!
Oct. 17
I Woke Up A Vampire
On her 13th birthday, Carmie discovers that she’s half vampire—and she must learn to navigate middle school while learning to control mythical powers like strength, super speed, and power blast. A fun new TV show for tweens.
Oct. 23
Princess Power: Season 2
When there’s trouble in the Fruitdoms, these princess pals join forces to help each other—because sometimes problems are too big for just one princess!
Oct. 24
Minions
Gru’s sidekicks get their own feature-length film with this spin-off of the Despicable Me franchise. Find out where the minions came from and why they are obsessed with bananas.
Oct. 25
Life on Our Planet
Life as we know it has fought an epic battle to conquer and survive on Planet Earth. There are 20 million species on our planet in 2023, but that number is just a snapshot in time—99% of Earth’s inhabitants are lost to our deep past. The story of what happened to these dynasties—their rise and their fall–is truly remarkable.
A dad banned his 18-year-old daughter from social media, homecoming, and prom after learning she bullied a classmate. Now he’s asking the internet: did he go too far?
When a parent does their best to raise a kid to be kind and empathetic—just a good human—there may be nothing more heartbreaking than learning that they’ve chosen to engage in behavior that’s cruel toward others. That’s what one dad who’s taken to Reddit’s “Am I the A**hole” forum is dealing with; he asked if he went too far in punishing his teenage daughter after learning she was a bully to one of her classmates.
“Yesterday I was informed that my daughter Sam was a part of a group of students who bullied another girl to the point that she had to switch schools. There was a racial aspect to the bullying, which came as a complete shock since my wife and I truly did our best to raise our 3 kids to be kind and honest individuals,” he wrote. “I don’t believe that a grounding and a confiscation of electronics is harsh enough for what Sam did, so I told Sam that she won’t be allowed to participate in homecoming or attend senior prom. I also told her that she won’t be getting a car for her 18th birthday either. Finally, I told her that she’ll have to delete all of her social media accounts with either me or her mother watching.”
The dad continued, “Sam begged me to allow her to go to senior prom because it’s a once-in-a-lifetime event, and keep just her Instagram account because it had pictures going back years that weren’t saved anywhere else. I told her that she shouldn’t have been a racist bully. My parents are temporarily staying with us while their house is undergoing renovations. They agree that what Sam did was completely out of line and must be punished, but they think that making my daughter miss homecoming and senior prom and forcing her to delete her social media is far far too harsh.”
Ugh. This is such a tough read.
The top comment delivers the verdict that Dad is not the a**hole, along with some advice.
“This seems appropriate to the level of offense here, especially the deletion of social media accounts,” it reads. “That said, there’s a chance to teach the idea of repentance and redemption. Assuming you are in the US or Canada (I don’t think homecoming is a thing elsewhere so I feel good about that assumption), the school year is just about to start and prom isn’t until late April/early May. Create a plan of restorative actions she can take to earn back prom. These actions can include volunteer service, cultural sensitivity classes, and (if possible) something that can positively impact the girl she bullied. Also, giving her something to earn back like that lets her have a positive focus for the year. What she did was very wrong, and needs to have consequences, but it can be an important learning opportunity too. Good luck.”
Another popular comment supports the Dad’s decision and adds, “The person she bullied has also missed lifetime events – having a trauma-free school life for one. That trumps going to prom or homecoming for me.”
The final verdict, after voting by commenters, was that Dad is not the jerk in this situation, and we have to agree. His daughter is 18 and about to start making her own way in the world. This could be her last chance to learn a hard lesson about her racist actions, and it’s not the time for him to take it easy on her.
The Saturn app is exploding in popularity among high schoolers, but parents are raising the alarm about serious privacy issues for kids
The new school year is starting, and that means kids’ social calendars are exploding with orientations, sports events, and club meet-ups, among other things. But gone are the days of paper calendars and invites. Now, kids are flocking to alternatives like the Saturn app, which has seen huge growth after being marketed as a way for high schoolers to find their classmates, sync their schedules, and keep up with social events at their schools.
Saturn allows students to register with their school and graduation year, then see who is in all of their classes, post and view bulletins of school events, and exchange direct messages with other students. The app is billed as a “social calendar,” acting as a planner where students can keep up with school and social events, homework deadlines, and class schedules, but also chat with their friends. So while many are claiming it’s an app to replace paper planners, it’s really a form of social media.
But what’s worse is the Saturn app is facing scrutiny from parents who are concerned about the privacy features (or lack thereof) for the teens who download and use it. One dad, Chris Cullum, posted on Facebook about how he was able to create an account, posing as an eighth grader, and gain access to 350 kids’ class schedules and profile pictures. The app claims it verifies kids’ identities by requiring them to register with a school email address, but Cullum said he was able to easily circumvent that requirement by using his phone number and a fake graduation year. He was able to lie about who his teacher was to see any class roster (even accessing girls’ athletic team rosters) and view the location, date, time, and list of student attendees of an upcoming football game. Cullum even received friend requests (which he didn’t accept) from multiple students.
“The app indicates you would need to verify you are a student (using a school email) to see the schedules of the other students. But this is not exactly true. I was able to input a bogus schedule (choosing from a list of teachers the app provided) and see who was in any class. I was even able to see a girls athletic team roster. It then told me who all had joined my classes. And then, simply by changing the teachers on my own schedule, I was able to see who was in ANY class. So, it’s not unreasonable to think that a predator or intruder could compile a full schedule for any student in the app without ever having to fully log in,” Cullum wrote. “But the reality is, even if the app did require an official login, it’s still allowing anyone in the school to see my daughter’s schedule- a bully, a stalker, an unwanted admirer, a mean girl, etc.”
He continued, “But the app doesn’t stop there. Each student’s profile allows them to upload a photo, a description of themselves (which some did) and add links to their Instagram, TikTok, Snapchat, Venmo, or any website they choose. I was able to click the student’s links and watch some reels right there in the Saturn app- thus gaining more information about them. There is also a Direct Message feature available for private discussions, which is unlocked once you verify yourself using a school email address. So, anyone who has logged in, can now DM your student. Taking this a step further, I realized I could change my profile name, even if it matched another student in the app. What would stop me from cyber-bullying using another student’s name?”
Protect Young Eyes, an organization that investigates internet safety for kids, also reviewed the Saturn app, and raised similar concerns. In testing the app, they were able to create an account and join a school, then post a message that was viewable by 800 students in that school—all without verifying anything about their identity. What’s worse is that they were also able to access a list of the names and ages of all the students at that school, along with links to many of their Snapchat accounts.
The bottom line? The Saturn app is a privacy nightmare, and unless the creators behind it make serious changes that require all users to verify their identities before they can join school groups and communicate with other students, no kid should be using this app.
Privacy is more important to parents than ever, regardless of their kids’ ages. For those who want to share special moments with friends and family without making it a public display, there’s the Tinybeans app (you can learn more and download here!). The secure platform puts parents in total control of who sees and interacts with photos and videos of their kids.
When I was in middle school, the popularity board of directors chose me as their new target. They created an online poll and sent it around to everyone in our school. The poll was titled, “Who’s Uglier: Lilly Holland or Sarah Johnson’s Leg Hair?”
Poor Sarah Johnson, who was endlessly mocked because she wasn’t allowed to shave her legs. As I sobbed into my mom’s lap, she stroked my hair and assured me that the girls who created that poll were mean girls, and mean girls are not people you want to be friends with, now or ever. Of course, she ended up being right. One of the girls continued being malicious right through college. I’m sure to this day she’s still a mean girl.
Mean girls aren’t born; they’re created. They’re empowered by other kids and their parents, often inadvertently. As a teacher, I watched this happen in my classroom every year. There was always a mean girl. The girl who put others down to make herself feel better because she lacked confidence and control in her life. She had her band of loyal followers and would gain power every time she did something unkind. Every year there was a different version of the same girl. And every year, the old adage would ring true: the apple never falls far from the tree.
Nine times out of ten, the mean girl had a mean-girl mom. The mean-girl mom disguised it better than her second-grade daughter, but it was still obvious from her interactions with others. The power structure doesn’t really change from elementary school, it just becomes more complex.
Today at our library, I saw exactly how mean girls are made. My daughter, who is 18 months old, was enamored by the two five-year-olds that were playing with LEGO bricks. The two girls and their mothers were the only other people in the library. My daughter inched closer and closer until she was within reach of the girls. Not yet able to really communicate, she gave her own kind of greeting. Beaming, she reached out to give one of the girls a pat on the arm.
The girl pushed my daughter’s hand away, stomped over to her mom, and loudly complained right in front of me, “There’s a baby over there, and I do not like it!” If my child had said that, I would have been mortified. This mother rolled her eyes and suggested her daughter ignore “the baby.” My baby, whose mother was sitting ten feet away from this dynamic duo.
I gave the mom the benefit of the doubt. Maybe she was embarrassed and didn’t know how to handle it. Clearly, the girls were not going to give my daughter the time of day. Knowing how tough it can be for older kids to play with younger kids, I took Penny’s hand and led her to play in another area. The little girl came back, unprovoked, and said, “You can’t stand up like we can,” jabbing her finger in the air, “because you are a baby.”
The mother was nowhere to be found, so in my best teacher voice I said, “You know, kiddo, you were exactly the same age and size not too long ago.” She ran away.
We play a huge role in our children’s lives. The mother was probably tired of hearing her daughter’s complaints. Since she was enjoying having a conversation with her friend, she told her daughter to ignore the baby who was “bothering” her. What about explaining to her that little kids look up to big kids? Or asking her how the baby was “bothering” her and then trying to figure out a solution?
Every decision we make sends a message to our children. That little girl learned that it’s okay to act unkindly towards another child just because she’s younger. If Penny had come up to me and complained about a smaller child annoying her, I would have explained to her that in our family we are friendly to everyone and that she should be especially friendly to younger kids who admire her.
When I walked into the play area initially, I sat by the two moms because they were the only other adults in the library. I thought it was odd that neither acknowledged me. Of course, I didn’t expect to be brought into a private conversation, but a simple hello would have been nice. It was inconvenient for those moms to say hi to another mom, just like it was inconvenient for one of their daughters to be kind to another child. It was inconvenient for the mom to take advantage of a simple teachable moment.
I’d like to think this was an isolated incident. I know through many interactions with children that this is not the norm. Most kids see babies toddling around the library, remark how cute they are, and bring them into their game—at least temporarily. Obviously, we can’t—and shouldn’t— monitor everything our children say and do. However, it seemed this child has already learned, whether through inconvenience or blissful ignorance, that it’s okay to be unkind to someone else.
I wish I had had the courage to speak with the mother myself and try to figure out why she responded this way. Instead, I’m writing about it now. Hopefully, someone can learn from it, no matter which mother you are in this story.
I'm a former New Yorker turned suburbanite. I'm incredibly lucky to be a professional writer and stay-at-home mom to Penny: my sassy, mischievous toddler. When I'm not pulling play-doh out of Penny's mouth, I write about parenting and my former career as a teacher in an elite NYC private school.
Supplement your summer reading list with a few prizewinners that hit every age and stage
Whether you’ve got a tween who can’t get enough reading or you’re telling tales to your baby bump, every bookshelf deserves a few award winners. Sweet picture books, lyrical stories, and middle school graphic novels are just a few prizewinners you’ll find bearing the coveted winning seal. From the Caldecott Medal to the Coretta Scott King Medal, here are our top picks for award-winning children’s books.
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Newbery Medal
It’s not if you’ve read a Newbury Medal winner, but rather how many. Starting in 1922, this award is given annually to the author “of the most distinguished contribution to American literature for children.” It’s named after 18th-century English children’s book publisher John Newbury, and it’s where you’ll find some of the best award-winning children’s books for upper elementary-grade and middle school kiddos. Read these, and then grab more from the complete winner’s list.
1. When You Trap a Tiger by Tae Keller This award-winning children's book takes us into the world of Korean folklore. Lilly and her family move in with her sick grandma, and soon, a magical tiger appears and Lilly learns of a secret family history. Will she trade what her Halmoni stole from the tigers for Halmoni's health, or is the deal too good to be true? Ages 8-12
2. New Kid by Jerry Craft In this new graphic novel, middle schooler Jordan Banks starts out at a prestigious new day school rather than the art school he longs to attend. Caught between two worlds and one of the few students of color at Riverdale Academy Day School, will Jordan find a balance between his school and home life and find a place to fit in? Ages 8-12
3. Last Stop on Market Street by Matt de la Pena It all starts with a question—“Nana, how come we don’t got a car?”—and the story of young C.J. and the wisdom his grandma imparts is off and running, just like the bus they ride down Market Street after church on Sundays. This simple story about the perspective only grandparents can give their grandkids won the Caldecott Honor Award in 2016. Ages 3-5.
4. The Tale of Despereaux by Kate DiCamillo Follow the tale of the brave mouse, Despereaux Tilling—who is in love with Princess Pea—Roscuro the rat, and Miggery Sow, a serving girl, as they come together to face the odds. Castles, dungeons, and soup are the backbones of this exciting story. Ages 7-10.
5. Shiloh by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor Young Marty Preston is out for a walk when a shy beagle approaches him. The two bond instantly, and Marty takes the dog he dubbed Shiloh home, hiding him from his family and friends. Trouble ensues when Marty realizes this beautiful dog belongs to Judd Travers, a drinker who is cruel to all his hunting dogs. Will Marty be able to do the right thing and still keep Shiloh? Ages 7-10
6. Hello, Universe by Erin Entrada Kelly The story of a bully, a prank, and a group of kid neighbors coming together to save one of their own is at the heart of this poignant and humorous story. If you’ve ever felt like a misfit or wanted to encourage your inner hero, this is the story for you. Ages 8-12.
7. Walk Two Moonsby Sharon Creech On a road trip from Ohio to Idaho, Salamanca Tree Hiddle entertains her grandparents with the story of Phoebe Winterbottom. As Phoebe’s larger-than-life story unfolds, so does Salamanca’s, which revolves around her missing mother. Ages 8-12.
8. The One and Only Ivan by Katherine Applegate This engaging story about a gorilla in captivity and his friendship with a baby elephant is unique in so many ways. Not only is it told from Ivan the gorilla’s perspective, but it draws readers in with humor and the touching friendship between two unforgettable characters. Ages 8-12.
9. The Westing Gameby Ellen Raskin Eccentric millionaire, Sam Westing, has been murdered and the residents of the newly constructed Sunset Towers are invited to solve the mystery… with the possibility of winning big money. Follow the clues in the story to see if you can solve the mystery first. It’ll keep you guessing till the last page! Ages 8-12.
10. Merci Suarez Changes Gears by Meg Medina The most recent Newbery recipient chronicles the middle school life of Merci Suarez, a scholarship student at a private school in Florida. She takes on jealous mean girls and tries to navigate her home life too. It’s a quintessential sixth-grade journey that will ring true for many kids who’ve been there. Ages 9-12
11. The Crossover by Kwame Alexander Written in fast-moving verse that mirrors the pace of bouncing balls on the basketball court, this novel follows the life of two brothers, Josh and Jordan Bell as they navigate life both on and off the court. Ages 10-12.
12. The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman This award-winner is a fanciful tale about a boy named Bod, who was raised in a graveyard by the ghoulies and ghosts who live there. Caught between two worlds, the living and the dead, he’s got challenges to face. Will he be up to the task? Ages 10 & up.
13. Kira-Kira by Cynthia Kadohata Katie Takeshima’s world is upended when her family moves from a Japanese community in Iowa to the rural south, in Georgia. It’s there that she starts to notice differences that weren’t there before. Then her beloved sister, who helps her navigate the world, falls ill. Katie works to find the kira-kira (glittering light) in her newfound challenges. Ages 10 & up.
14. Number the Stars by Lois Lowry An important work of historical fiction, Lois Lowry’s Newberry Award winner offers young readers a glimpse into the Holocaust. Centered around two families living in Copenhagen during WWII, one Jewish, and one not, the story chronicles the way a family helped rescue their Danish Jewish neighbors from being sent to a Concentration Camp. Ages 10-12.
You’ve probably noticed the gold embossed Caldecott emblem on your kids’ books before. One of the most-recognizable ALA awards, it has honored the illustrator of the “most distinguished American picture book for children” since 1937. If picture books are your kid’s jam, this list highlights the best of the best. Check out the complete list of winners here.
1. We Are Water Protectors by Carole Lindstrom and Michaela Goade Inspired by Native-led movements to protect the environment, this beautiful book by an Indigenous-author-illustrator team is an urgent cry to protect the Earth's water from pollution and harm. Ages 3-6
2. The Undefeatedby Kwame Alexander and Kadir Nelson A poem about the reality of slavery and all of its trauma, the power of the civil rights movement, and the determination of some of our country's greatest heroes, this historical book is a must for your bookshelf. Kids will not only get a deeper insight into an integral period of our nation's history but learn the words of change makers like Martin Luther King, Jr. and Gwendolyn Brooks. Ages 6-9
3. A Ball for Daisy by Chris Raschka Whether your kiddo loves dogs or balls, they’ll find a special place in their heart for this book. Dear Daisy has a ball, a wonderful ball she loves to play with. But something happens to the ball, and Daisy has to deal with the loss that goes with it. Ages 3-7.
4. The Adventures of Beekle:The Unimaginary Friend by Dan Santant If you’ve ever wondered where imaginary friends come from, this is the adventure for you. Much like babies, they’re born on an island; then chosen by a child who needs one. But what happens when an imaginary friend doesn’t get selected? Find out in this award-winning book. Ages 4-7.
5. Grandfather’s Journey by Allen Say Centered around a worn family album, the sweeping watercolors of this book bring to life the longing for home that is at the heart of this story. The story of a grandfather who left Japan and wants to return, but feels out of place, is one many families can relate to. Ages 4-7.
6. The Polar Express by Chris Van Allsburg The wildly popular tale of a young boy who boards the Polar Express, bound for the North Pole on Christmas Eve. His adventure aboard the train is almost as exciting as his chance to meet Santa and choose the first gift of Christmas. But a hole in the boy’s pocket may leave him giftless in the end. Ages 4-7.
7. Flotsam by David Weisner A young boy’s trip to the ocean to beach comb, where he finds a barnacle-encrusted underwater camera, leads him on this beautifully illustrated adventure. A picture book that makes the usual magical, it’s a must-view. Ages 4-7.
8. This is Not My Hat by Jon Klassen What happens when a little fish steals a hat from a big one? Find out in this illustrated tale that begs the age-old question, “will I get caught?” Ages 4-8.
9. Finding Winnie: The True Story of the World’s Most Famous Bear by Lindsay Mattick If you ever wondered about the origins of Winnie the Pooh, this children’s book will clue you in. It all started when a vet, on his way to tend wounded horses in WWI, adopted a baby bear and named him Winnie. The story follows Winnie around the world until he finally lands in the London Zoo where he meets… you guessed it—Christopher Robin. Ages 5-6.
10. Hello, Lighthouse by Sophie Blackall This Caldecott winner details the life of a lighthouse. From the boats that pass by in the night, to the family that lives inside. The illustrations are a centerpiece of this engaging tale. Ages 5-8.
11. The Man Who Walked Between the Towers by Mordicai Gerstein File the action in this book under “don’t try this at home.” Then marvel at the tale of French aerialist, Philippe Petit, who walked, danced, and generally delighted on a tightrope he strung between the Twin Towers. Ages 5-8.
12. Radiant Child: The Story of Young Artist, Jean-Michel Basquiat by Javaca Steptoe Artist Javaca Steptoe tells the story of break-out artistic sensation Jean-Michel Basquiat, growing up in New York City. Bold, colorful pictures bring the poetry of the story to life, and Basquiat’s vision jumps off the page. Ages 6-9.
13. The Invention of Hugo Cabaret by Brian Selznick A young orphan, Hugo, lives in the clock tower of a busy Paris train station. There, he goes unnoticed, until an odd girl and the old man who runs the toy store in the station collide with Hugo’s world. There are mysteries to solve in this beautifully illustrated book for older kids. Ages 9-12.
14. Golem by David Wisniewski Cut paper pictures illustrate this story of legend. A Jewish Rabbi creates a golem from clay to protect his people in the ghettos of 16th-century Prague. As the story unfolds, ideas of good and evil and the responsibility of creation emerge. Ages 10-12.
Starting in 1969, the Coretta Scott King Award has been given to African American authors and illustrators who “demonstrate an appreciation of African American culture and universal human values” in their books for children and young adults. You can get the full list of winners here, including the John Steptoe Award for New Talent author and illustrator winners.
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1. Before the Ever After by Jaqueline Woodson This is Woodson's second Coretta Scott King Award; Before the Ever After is a thoughtful novel that examines what happens to a family after the glory days are gone and what exactly professional sports due to Black bodies. Ages 10-12
2. One Crazy Summer by Rita Williams-Garcia One Crazy Summer is the story of three young sisters who set out from New York to spend a month in California with their poet mother. The year is 1968, and they soon find out the summer they have envisioned is far from the one they experience during their stay. This award-winning book is a fantastic snapshot of a moment in America’s history. Ages 8-12.
3. P.S. Be Eleven by Rita Williams-Garcia The second book in the series is about the Gaither sisters, this one takes place after the girls arrive home from their summer. And thanks to their newly found independence, and some other big changes, things back at home aren’t running smoothly. Ages 8-12.
4. Gone Crazy in Alabama by Rita Williams-Garcia Centered around the Gaither sisters, Delphine, Vonetta, and Fern, this stand-alone book can be read on its own or as a companion to the original two (mentioned above). This time the girls are off to Alabama to visit family, but when they get there they realize Ma Charles (their great-grandmother) and her half-sister, Miss Trotter, aren’t on speaking terms. The girls work to bring the two together in this heartwarming tale about the importance of family. Ages 8-12.
6. Bud, Not Buddy by Christopher Paul Curtis This Newbery Award winner is set in Flint, Michigan in 1936 and centers on the story of Bud Caldwell, a 10-year-old orphan. After escaping an untenable foster situation, Bud and his friend Bugs head West in search of his father, Herman E. Calloway, a musician. What Bud learns and who he finds, in the end, will keep you turning the pages of this novel. Ages 8-12.
7. brown girl dreaming, by Jacqueline Woodson Jacqueline Woodson’s novel, written in verse, chronicles her life growing up in the Civil Rights era. Caught between two worlds, one black and one white, one New York and one South Carolina, each of the book’s poems weaves in another strand of her life’s history as she tries to both find and define her place in the world. Ages 10 & up.
8. Piecing Me Together by Renee Watson The story of Jade, a young African American girl who is taking advantage of every opportunity that comes her way so she can make it out of her poor neighborhood and find success. But an invitation to join a program for “at-risk” girls leaves Jade to wonder how she’s viewed in this world. Ages 12 & up.
9. March: Book 3 by John Lewis & Andrew Aydin The final book in a graphic novel trilogy that follows then civil rights activist (now Congressman) John Lewis as he creates innovative campaigns to bring about a non-violent revolution in 1963, In this book, it’s time to march in Selma. Ages 12 & up.
1. New Kid by Jerry Craft In this new graphic novel, middle schooler Jordan Banks starts out at a prestigious new day school rather than the art school he longs to attend. Caught between two worlds and one of the few students of color at Riverdale Academy Day School, will Jordan find a balance between his school and home life and find a place to fit in? Ages 8-12
2. The Stuff of Stars by Marion Dane Bauer Follow the development of our world from its first BANG into creation to the intricate lives of individuals now. Vivid illustrations help to bridge science and art in this award-winning book. Ages 4-8.
3. Trombone Shortyby Troy Andrews Follow the life of trombone prodigy, Troy Andrews, from leading his own band at the age of six to earning numerous Grammy nominations now. You don’t have to be a music lover to be inspired by this biographical tale. Ages 4-8.
4. I, too, Am America by Langston Hughes The pictures that illustrate this Langston Hughes poem remind all Americans that we are one united country, despite our differences. Ages 4-8.
5. Underground: Finding the Light to Freedom by Shane W. Evans See through the eyes of escaping slaves and the lengths they went to in order to find freedom. A poignant introduction to the difficult but uplifting topic of the Underground Railroad, it’s a great read for little kids. Ages 4-8.
6. Rosa by Nikki Giovanni Cut paper images are used to retell the iconic story of Rosa Parks, the civil rights activist who refused to give up her seat on a city bus over 50 years ago. The images bring this story to life for young readers. Ages 4-8.
7. Firebird by Misty Copeland Written by famous ballerina—Misty Copeland—the book shares Copeland’s time-tested formula for success: hard work, perseverance, and believing in oneself. With stunningly fluid illustrations that make the characters dance off the pages, this inspirational story will get young readers motivated to try whatever piques their interest. Ages 5-8.
8. Out of Wonder by Kwame Alexander Poetry that pays homage to famous poets who came before—that’s the gist of this brilliantly illustrated book. Introduce your kids to greats, both new and old with this read. Ages 8-12.
First awarded in 1996, this medal is named after the first Latina librarian at the New York Public Library, Pura Belpré. It honors Latino/Latina authors and illustrators whose work best portrays, affirms, and celebrates the Latino cultural experience in literature for children and youth. Originally awarded every two years, it’s now awarded annually. The full list is a great resource.
1. Efrén Divided by Ernesto Cisneros The story of a young boy and his family, when American-born Efrén's mother fails to return home one day, he must find the courage to care for his siblings and reunite his family. A stark but important glance at the tragic effects deportation has on a family. Ages 8-12
2. Sal and Gabi Break the Universe by Carlos Hernandez Sal and Gabi didn't meet under the best circumstances, but that doesn't stop them from high adventure. When Gabi discovers Sal can reach through time, she wonders—can it bring back her mother who's passed away? This Cuban-inspired sci-fi story is just what your middle schooler ordered. Ages: 8-12
3. Drum Dream Girl by Margarita Engle This story is based on the life of real-life girl drummer, Millo Castro Zaldarriaga, who broke gender norms in Cuba. Bright pictures and words that could be lyrics themselves make this an engaging read for all music-loving kids. Ages 4-7.
4. Dreamers by Yuyi Morales The newest winner by celebrated children’s author, Yuyi Morales, tells the tale of her own migration, leaving home with nothing but her passion, skills, and knowledge and embarking on an overwhelming adventure in a new land with her young son. Ages 4-8.
5. Chato’s Kitchen by Gary Soto East L.A.’s coolest cat, Chato is in luck! A plump family of mice has moved in next door, and he can’t wait to have them over for dinner … as the main course. But these mice have a few tricks up their sleeve yet. Find out what happens when you read this colorful picture book with your kids. Ages 4-8.
6. Grandma’s Gift by Eric Velasquez It’s Christmas time, and young Eric is visiting his grandmother for the holiday. After prepping for the celebration, the two head to the MET, where an artist who shares his last name inspires Eric. Grandma takes note and finds a special gift for him to put under the tree. Ages 4-8.
7. Juana & Lucas by Juana Medina Get to know Juana, a spitfire character living in Bogota, Columbia, and her sidekick Lucas in this charming easy reader. Juana is learning how to speak English in school, but she’s not sold until her grandparents allude to a special trip she’ll be taking and why speaking a second language might come in handy. Find out what she learns in the first of a series about Juana. Ages 7-9.
8. The Dreamer by Pam Munoz Ryan What would you do if you heard a voice calling to you from the forest? This is a question young Neftali answers in The Dreamer. Does he listen to his critics or follow the voice on an adventure that takes him on a “journey of self-discovery”? Ages 8-12.
9. Lucky Broken Girl by Ruth Behar A compelling coming-of-age story, Lucky Broken Girl remembers the author’s early years, her immigration to New York from Cuba, and the devastating car crash that left her confined to bed in a body cast. A powerful read about the strength of the human spirit. Ages 10-12.
10. I Lived on Butterfly Hill by Marjorie Agosin This work of historical fiction chronicles the life of Celeste Marconi who is sent to America after her parents have to go into hiding in Chile. Always dreaming of home, she wonders what will happen to her mother and father after democracy is restored in her homeland. Ages 10-14.
11. Poet X by Elizabeth Acevedo The lyrical language of this novel makes reading Xiomara’s story easy, although her life was not. She’s a scrapper, who came into this world fighting, even though her mother would prefer she didn’t. She’s got poetry in her veins, so it’s no wonder she’s invited to join her school’s slam poetry club. But will Mami let her? Ages 12 & up.
Originally established in 1985 to encourage new talent in the field of children’s literature, the EJK award now honors both illustrators and writers. It’s a curated list of picture books that tell compelling, diverse stories with pictures to match. You can find all the winning titles here.
Author
1. Small in the City by Sydney Smith A sweet picture book from first-time author Smith that sees a big, busy city through the eyes of a small child. Ages 4-8.
2. Tea Party Rules by Ame Dyckman We’ve all been there—invited to a tea party but not quite sure about the rules. Your tot will love sussing it out alongside Bear as he tries his best to be a team player and get cookies at the tea party. Ages 3-5.
3. Crown: An Ode to the Fresh Cut by Derrick Barnes As many kids can tell you, having a fresh haircut makes you feel like a king (or queen). And that’s what this beautifully illustrated story is all about. Hop into the barber chair for a fresh perspective! Ages 3-8.
4. And Then It’s Spring by Julie Fogliano Winter is over, and a young boy decides he’s ready for spring! So he plants a garden and waits … and waits … through all the brown, looking for signs of the green to come. A good lesson in taking care of things and practicing patience, this sweet story is a joyful one. Ages 4-7.
5. Kitten and the Night Watchman by John Sullivan One of the newer recipients of this award, it’s a sweet story based on the author’s real-life watchman experience, with his stray sidekick cat, Bebee. But what happens when the watchman’s new friend goes missing? A feel-good, good-night read. Ages 4-8.
You might think it silly to sign up to play the violin at a talent show after just three lessons; Hana’s older brothers do. But Hana signs up anyway and practices her little heart out getting ready for the big day. Inspired by her grandfather’s playing and wise advice, she can’t wait for her debut! Ages 4-8.
Navigating friendship can be tough. And so it is for Lily when she spends time at the pool over the summer. While she’s declared Tamkia to be her new best friend, Tamika isn’t available—she’s already got a best friend. Who will be Lily’s friend now? Ages 4-8.
8. A Piece of Home by Jeri Watts Moving from Korea to West Virginia means lots of changes for young Hee Jun. He doesn’t speak the language, doesn’t look like the other kids, and doesn’t recognize much from home. So when he finds a Rose of Sharon in a friend’s yard—a flower he recognizes from Korea—he begins to feel at home. Ages 5-8.
1. Shh! We have a Plan by Chris Haughton Four friends conspire to sneak up on an exotic bird in this comedy of errors. Will they or won’t they eventually be able to spot this elusive bird? Ages 2-5.
2. Thank you, Omu! A heartwarming story about a pot of stew and filling hungry bellies, Omu’s generosity leaves her with an empty pot and none for herself. Will she have a chance to enjoy her tasty gift? Ages 4-7.
3. Same, Same but Different by Jenny Sue Kostecki-Shaw Pen pals may be old school, but the realizations Elliot and Kailash have about each other’s experiences and culture are timeless. The two find endless ways to be the same but totally different while maintaining a friendship across the ocean. Ages 4-7.
4. My Name is Yoon by Helen Recorvits The question “what’s in a name?” is answered in this beautifully illustrated book. Yoon isn’t quite sure she likes the way her name looks in English. Maybe she’d be better off with another one—like “cat” or how about “cupcake?” Ages 4-8.
5. Daniel Finds a Poem by Micha Archer Poetry is all around. At least that’s what Daniel discovers after spending time in the natural world and interacting with his animal friends. Wonderfully playful pictures bring these grand images to life. Ages 5-8.
6. Bird by Zetta Elliot There are many issues complicating Mekhai’s life, like his grandfather’s recent death and his brother’s issues with addiction. For Mekhai, nicknamed Bird, life gets easier in his drawings, where he can escape and erase mistakes he (and others) make. Find out about the healing power of art in this engaging, award-winning book. Ages 8-12.
7. Ruby’s Wish by Shirin Yim Ruby is a young girl in old China who dreams of attending university, just like the boys in her family do. It’s a story inspired by the author’s grandmother, and it celebrates hard work and determination that is part of working to make dreams a reality. Ages 8-12.
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Middle school graduation gift ideas? Don’t even get us started. Okay fine, let us share our two cents on this one. The thing with middle school graduation is that it’s a pretty big deal. It’s not high school, but it’s also not elementary school. It’s the transition between childhood and preteen years. So, you want to get a gift that’s not too immature or too grown up. Middle school graduation gift ideas can be tough to come up with, especially when you want to find something that’s both thoughtful and age-appropriate.
There are plenty of classic gift options, but as we remember all too well, their image is ultra-important. So, really, it doesn’t hurt to also keep in mind it truly is the thought and the gift that count with tweens. And that’s totally okay! It’s completely normal and absolutely part of growing up. We rounded up some of our favorite middle school graduation gifts that (since we’re still ultra-cool and with it) we feel pretty confident they’ll love (and love showing off to all their friends!). The transition from middle to high school is a big deal and we’ve got the gifts to commemorate it!
Doomlings
Doomlings
They're getting more independent, but an easy way to keep them close a little longer is by rounding up the crew and playing a game that they'll actually want to play. Doomlings is quirky, funny, and perfect for family game night. It works as a 2 player game and up to a party of 6, so it's great for summertime staycations, road trips, and camping weekends, too. With over 4,000 5-star reviews, you seriously can't go wrong. Doomlings ($24.99+)—Buy Here!
Real Review: "I got this for my nephews (ages 8 and 10) and not only did they love it, the whole family did! Loads of fun, really easy to pick up how to play, and really cute graphics!"—Mylène H.
Designed for athletes and busy kids alike, these recovery sneakers are breathable, sustainable, and feel incredible on! They come in a bunch of colors and are gender-neutral. Kane Revive Sneakers ($75.00)—Buy Now!
iWalk Portable Phone Charger
iWalk
TikTok isn't going to scroll itself! Don't let them get stuck with a dying phone (which is like, the worst thing ever). This super cool charger comes in 6 colors to match their phones, too. iWalk Portable Phone Charger ($34.99)—Buy Now!
This is such a sweet cuff with a hidden message (just in case they get a little embarrassed by sentiment—we were 13 once, too)! "Believe in You" Cuff ($12.97)—Buy Now!
LEGO Technic App-Controlled Transformation RC Toy Car 42140
Middle school to high school means big feelings, and getting tweens into journaling their feelings is a great way to teach them healthy ways of handling them. DIY Journaling Kit ($19.99)—Buy Now!
Everyday California Floating Waterproof Snapback Surf Hat
It sure seems like we're proud supporters of the customized lighting movement. And that's because we are. The LED strip lights from Govee has vivid colors and lots of options for customization. Govee 32.8ft Color Changing LED Strip Lights ($22.99)—Buy Now!
Pave Lightning Bolt Nap Earrings
Maison Miru
Remind them how powerful they are with these lightning bolt nap earrings from Maison Miru! What makes them nap earrings? The flat backs mean they can wear them all the time, even to sleep! Pave Lightning Bolt Nap Earrings ($85.00)—Buy Now!
Throw Throw Burrito
Target
It's a combination of a card game and dodgeball! Players go head-to-head collecting cards, earning points, and throwing squishy toy burritos at one another. From the creators of The Oatmeal and Exploding Kittens, this game is a whole lot of fun! This card game takes 5 minutes to learn and 15 minutes to play. You had us at "burrito". Throw Throw Burrito ($24.99)—Buy Now!
This light up flying disc isn't a plain old Frisbee! As the original and patent-pending invention, the TOSY Disc is 100x brighter than any other light-up flying disc. It looks super cool, especially when you throw it outdoors at night! TOSY Ultimate Disc LED ($39.99)—Buy Now!
Charge all the essentials—phone, watch, and AirPods—all at one time with the super fast and powerful (and compact!) Chargetree from STM Goods! STM Goods Chargetree ($119.95)—Buy Now!
Athleta Excursion Mini Belt Bag
Athleta
Belt bags are having a moment right now, and we're loving the Mini Excursion from Athleta for our soon-to-be high schoolers! They're the perfect size for anything they need, keep them hands-free, and come in 4 colors. Seriously trending gift? Check! Athleta Excursion Mini Belt Bag ($49.00)—Buy Now!
Crocs Classic Clog
Foot Locker
Love 'em or hate 'em, Crocs are back in a big way. It probably has a lot to do with how comfortable they are, but it doesn't hurt that they come in a bunch of colors and styles, too. Crocs Classic Clog ($39.99)—Buy Now!
Allkinds Bath & Body for Kids & Teens
Allkinds
Bath & body essentials they’ll use on a daily basis. The six Allkinds collections have their own active ingredients, colour, theme, and 100% natural signature fragrance. Sweet Talk, Lazy Days, Cosmic Choc, Superfresh, Hey Vacay, and more! They smell unbelievable and are perfect for mixing and matching, too. Allkinds Bath & Body for Kids & Teens—Shop Now!
Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Instant Camera & Accessory Kit
Fujifilm/Amazon
We mentioned the importance of pictures, so make sure they have some to display with this Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Instant Camera! It comes with everything they could need for capturing important moments. It also comes in four colors! Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Instant Camera & Accessory Kit ($134.99)—Buy Now!
The jellies from our youth are back, but way more chic. These Jella Slides are perfect for the pool, and if your middle schooler is anything like ours, they look pretty cute with socks, too! They come in multiple colors, also. UGG Jella Clear Slide Sandals ($95.00)—Buy Now!
Y2K Bracelets
Amazon
Yep, we said "Y2K". Believe it or not, the styles we wore in high school while wondering if all the computers in the world would shut down on New Year's Eve 1999 are back. We'd be lying if we said we weren't eyeing these bracelets for ourselves. Y2K Bracelets ($9.99)—Buy Now!
Sunset Lamp
TRENDY PRO/Amazon
Golden Hour at any hour! This fun lamp makes it happen. It's awesome for relaxing, TikTok videos, pictures, and more! Sunset Lamp ($23.99)—Buy Now!
M&Ms, jelly beans, peanuts, gumballs—whatever they're into, this dispenser is perfect. After all, now that they're going into high school, you can show that you trust them to keep candy in their rooms. Maybe. Sharper Image Candy Dispenser ($21.99)—Buy Now!
Tortilla Blanket
Amazon
Maybe they don't use their baby blankets anymore, but who wouldn't want to be wrapped up like a burrito?? Tortilla Blanket ($19.99)—Buy Now!
MYNT3D Professional Printing 3D Pen with OLED Display
MYNT3D
Hold the magic of 3D printing in your hand with the MYNT3D Professional 3D Pen! Now you can use FDM technology in any application from drafting and prototyping to spatial learning and 3D sculpting. Young artists and budding engineers will adore this! MYNT3D Professional Printing 3D Pen with OLED Display ($59.99)—Buy Now!
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