Keeping up with middle school slang can be a tad overwhelming—just when you think you’ve got it down, your kid comes home, spouting off new words that seem like utter nonsense. You’re unsure if it’s an insult or a compliment, and if you attempt to ask them to explain, you’ll be laughed out of the room and still have no idea what they’re talking about. We looked to our resident Gen Alpha and Gen Z slang expert, Mr. Lindsay, for intel on the latest phrases middle school kids are using. Some have a positive connotation, and some are most definitely “Ohio,” so keep reading and get informed.
Replying to @laurencella What a great opportunity we have as educators and parent to use one of the words our kids are using and leverage it to teach valuable life skills! Every one would benefit from people young and old who are #standingonbusiness and doing exactly what they say they are going to do! Now that you know what it means, how can you leverage this word to connect with your students and teach them valuable life skills? #teachersoftiktok#teacherfyp#teacher#teach#genalpha#middleschoolslang#genz#slang
This phrase is big with Gen Z and Gen Alpha kids. But unlike other slang words, you can benefit from understanding what it means and trying it out on your kids. According to Mr. Lindsay, it describes doing exactly what you said you would do. “You’re not minding anyone’s business but your own. And you have really clear boundaries and expectations for yourself and others. And if you’re not standing on business, it means you’re all talk. You’re wishy-washy,” he says.
He continues by saying this behavior is what he hopes to see in his classroom and that it’s an opportunity to help kids build the skill set they’ll need later in life. We couldn’t agree more.
I guess I’m just a typical #millenial put here in my LuLuLemon! 😂 Here is a new one. The middle schoolers are using now: “Thats so _________ coded” Have you heard this one yet? What words are they putting in front of coded for you? tteachersoftiktoktteacherfypsslangggenzmmillenialcodedmmiddleschoolmmiddleschoolersm#middleschoolteacher
While this Gen Z slang word isn’t brand-brand new, according to Mr. Lindsay, it’s becoming a more commonplace term for middle schoolers. “My outfit is millennial coded to some of these kids, [which] just means that it’s very typical of a millennial to wear an outfit like this. So they’re using all kinds of things with the word ‘coded’ after to say something insulting in a sly, underhanded, sarcastic way, like, that’s so typical of that group.”
So, parents, if your kid says something like “That’s so soccer mom coded” or “That’s so millennial coded,” it’s an insult, and you have every right to call them on it.
This Gen Z slang word is a way of telling someone they’re so cool. This person has all the rizz. Mr. Lindsay spoke with some of his students to get an accurate definition of the term, and according to them, Sigma is somewhat of a replacement for the term Alpha. So, instead of being the Alpha, you’re now the Sigma. “You’re the baddie, the Alpha, the Sigma, you’re him. You’re all that and a bag of Doritos.” So, if someone tells you that you’re not a Sigma, it means you’re not him, you’re not a baddie, you’re not cool. The kids went on to clarify that while usually used jokingly, it’s also a serious compliment.
This one has been around for a while but only recently made its way into TikTok, live streams, and YouTube. It stems from the song “I Got Motion,” which came out at the beginning of 2023, but in early March 2024, live streamers Jinxi and Sketch took it to a whole new level. In a recent podcast episode, Jinxi asked Sketch how long he’s had motion, and Sketch replied: “Since birth.” Someone merged the clip with the song, and it has gone viral.
What does it mean? According to our Gen Z slang expert, Mr. Lindsay, it’s a versatile and fluid word used for various reasons, and different groups of kids might define it differently. The general idea, however, is that if you’ve got motion, you can make things happen and be productive. Gen Z and Gen Alpha kids use it to describe someone who can make money, has major rizz (can flirt), or is an admirable human. Regardless of the context, the assumption is if someone has motion, they’re a good person and doing good things.
This one is a head-scratcher. We know Ohio as the state of Ohio. But this term came from a meme created around 2021 or 2022. During that time, a lot of wild and weird things were happening in Ohio, and the meme represented the idea that crazy, wacky, or cringy stuff happens “only in Ohio.” Gen Z and Gen Alpha kids pulled the word from the meme and redefined it. Now, calling someone “Ohio” or saying “only in Ohio” refers to something being off the wall or just plain cringe.
Skibidi Ohio Rizz
This one is just… whew. We know Skibidi gained traction with the popular YouTube Skibidi Toilet videos, and the word means “something bad.” We know Ohio = cringe or weird. And we know rizz is charisma. Put them all together, and what do you get? Someone whose attempt or ability to flirt or be charming is terrible.
The one thing we can agree on about the tween and teen years is that it’s all a bit unknown. Those typically chatty middle schoolers go from sharing everything about their day to responding with mono-syllabic answers when questioned about classes or friends. Or they just flat-out argue with you over everything.
Logically, we can understand that it’s all about our teens becoming independent people, but this change can put a serious strain on the parent-child relationship. While we used to connect with our kids by spending time with them, most teens spend the majority of their day in their rooms and prefer to hang out with friends over doing things with family members.
One thing you can do is connect with your tween/teen in non-verbal ways. Psychologist Lucie Hemmen shared some examples in a recent TikTok, and they really resonated with parents. Bonus: They don’t take much effort on your part.
Her list included small gestures parents can do to show their teenagers they care for them:
Clip a flower from your yard, put it in a vase, and place it in your teenager’s room to show your love.
Have a snack ready to go for when you pick up your exhausted teenager from sports practice or other activities.
Run a bubble bath for your child when they come home from volleyball practice.
Make your child’s bed for them while they’re in the shower to help them have a calm space before school.
Parents in the comments offered additional ideas, including preparing coffee for older teens who are heading off to work and making your child’s favorite dinner. Notice that none of these gestures cost a lot of money or are particularly time-consuming. “Small gestures can remind your teen that even though things can get tough between you, that you love them, you’re anticipating things that will make their day easier, and that you care,” Hemmen says.
If you’ve been to Sephora or Ulta in recent months, you’ve likely noticed that the teens and tweens are taking over. Middle schoolers are spending all their birthday money on brands like Drunk Elephant, Glow Recipe, and La Roche-Posay, and posting their #grwm (“get ready with me”) videos on TikTok. A recent study found that teen spending on beauty products increased by 23% in 2023 from the prior year, with a 33% increase in cosmetics spending alone. But does a 12-year-old really need a vitamin C serum?
Dermatologist Brooke Jeffy, MD, recently shared her advice for teens and tweens on TikTok, and it’s all about keeping things simple and focusing on healthy habits.
🌟 Skincare Dos and Don’ts for Tweens and Teens with Normal Skin 🌟 🚫 Don’t overcomplicate your routine: Stick to a simple 3-4 step process. 🚫 Don’t use chemical exfoliants, retinols, and harsh scrubs: They can be too aggressive for young skin. 🚫 Don’t dive into anti-aging too early: Skip peptides, growth factors, and retinol for now. ✅ Do protect your skin: Apply sunscreen every morning. ✅ Do maintain healthy habits: Eat plenty of fruits & veggies, stay hydrated, prioritize sleep & exercise, and cherish close relationships. ✅ Do avoid harmful substances: Steer clear of alcohol and vaping for lasting skin health. #TeenSkincare#TweenSkincare#Dermatologist
Focus on healthy body habits, like a diet rich in fruits and vegetables, staying hydrated, getting enough sleep and exercise, and having close relationships for social support.
Now that you’re tempted to throw out everything in your tween’s bathroom and start over, you might want to check out Dr. Jeffy’s other TikTok, which goes into specifics on skincare brands that she recommends avoiding. She also shares that if your tween wants to buy everything in the viral Glow Recipe line, they should stick with the Avocado Cleanser and Watermelon Glow Pink Juice Moisturizer.
At the end of the day, anything beyond a gentle cleanser, a moisturizer, and sunscreen is unnecessary and could be doing more damage than good.
Ah, the ever-elusive concept of time. It’s like a ninja—stealthily slipping away when you’re not looking but stubbornly dragging on when you’re trying to entertain a restless toddler or engage an uninterested tween. Luckily, we’ve compiled a list of fun play ideas for kids of all ages that won’t take longer than a snack break. From magic tricks to a game of animal charades, these activities are guaranteed to make 20 minutes feel like a flash. And who knows, the memories made during these mini-adventures might just become cherished family stories down the road.
Play Ideas for Kids Age 2-4
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Notoriously known for having zero attention span, toddlers can lose interest quickly, so filling 20 minutes with engaging activities isn’t always easy. These quick-fix ideas help turn any idle time into a burst of fun.
1. Play I-Spy. This classic game stands the test of time and helps toddlers better understand their surroundings. It’s also easily adaptable, requires no materials, and takes almost no time to complete. Put a twist on the same old game and set up your “I Spy” with a theme. Pick a letter (all things that begin with “B”), a color (only purple objects), or any other focus that your kiddo can dream up.
2. Stack Stuff. Watch your little one learn hand-eye coordination, spatial awareness, and problem-solving skills by just stacking stuff. Whether it’s cups or blocks, they’ll have a blast figuring out balance and stability.
3. Have a Dance Party. Throw on some music and dance it out. Choose from our roundup of the best Spotify playlists, and spike your heart rate to a family-friendly tune. It’s also a great way to shake things up when your little one is feeling grumpy.
4. Play Follow the Leader. Get creative with this old-school favorite. Choose a theme (such as acting like animals or moving like snowflakes), create super-silly walks, or explore outside with a follow-the-leader nature walk.
Ideas for Ages 4-6
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Preschoolers are curious, and their imagination is always running at warp speed. It’s a great time to introduce play ideas that activate their love of make-believe. Unchanged: Preschoolers are curious, and their imagination is always running at warp speed. It’s a great time to introduce play ideas that activate their love of make-believe.
4. Act out a book. While reading a book together is always a good idea, acting one out could be even more fun. If your toddler has a favorite book they’re obsessed with, dig into the dress-up box and have them try to act out a live-action version.
5. Have your little one stay in character when you play a quick game of animal charades. No prep is necessary for this easy guessing game. Just pick your favorite animal and go for it. With each successful guess, trade places and start again. Ee-i-ee-i-o!
6. Create a card for a loved one. Surprise a friend or relative with a homemade card from you and your toddler. They’ll have fun stamping, coloring, and creating a fun design, and the recipient will be thrilled with the surprise mail.
Play Ideas for Kids Ages 6-8
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It’s no surprise that recess is this group’s favorite time of day. Grade school kids need to run and unleash energy, so killing 20 minutes is easy when you have open space to move. Here are some fun activities to keep moving and even a few for when they need to sit still.
7. Play freeze tag. The person who is “it” tries to tag the others. Once you’ve been tagged, you have to stand (frozen in the position you were in when you were tagged) until another “untagged” person can tag you to free you.
8. Create a Scavenger Hunt. Whether you pull a pre-organized list off the internet or create your own, enjoy watching your grade-schooler expend some serious energy while hunting for one item after another.
9. Play a minute to win it game. This age set loves a timer and since every phone has one you can break out a minute to win it game just about anywhere. From ball drop to sponge run, we’ve got a full list of games that take 60 seconds or less and are sure to make time fly.
10. Have fun with jokes. Laughter really is the best medicine. Telling jokes is an instant mood booster, so whether you’re stuck in traffic or waiting in the orthodontist’s office, tap into some of our favorite belly-laughing jokes. We even have a best-of-summer roundup!
Play Ideas for Kids Ages 10-12
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Avoid the dreaded “I’m bored” phrase by suggesting one of these activities to your soon-to-be middle schoolers.
12. Conversation starters. Jumping into a good discussion with tweens isn’t always seamless, but these conversation starters can help. Try using this one right before dinner—If you could make any vegetable against the law, which would it be? Just be ready for their answer!
13.Play “Exquisite Corpse,” where you create a story together. Decide on a theme and have the first person write a phrase or sentence. The next person continues the story by writing the next sentence or phrase, using the last word or phrase from the previous person’s contribution. Continue taking turns until you have a complete story.
14. Learn a magic trick. Start with the simple paper-clip trick and keep moving through this entire list of tricks.
15. Play Name that Tune—and let them pick the music! It’s a great way to get your kiddo to talk more about what they’re into and for you to add some variety to your playlist.
The Best Ideas for Teens
Trying to get your teen to put down their phone and engage in conversation is like trying to teach a cat to swim – it’s not impossible, but it sure feels like it sometimes! The good news is, once you do, they’re happy you did it and more likely to form healthy habits around screen usage.
15. Play a game of “20 Questions”. Get more insight into your teen’s mind and thought process with this classic game you can play anywhere, anytime. It also fosters strategic thinking and is a game of deduction and logic that will be very satisfying for your ever-growing tween.
16. Play Wordle or do a mini crossword. Want to engage and still use the phone? We suggest pairing up to solve everyone’s favorite word puzzles.
17. Boost their confidence. Sometimes just letting them know you’re proud of them can lead to the best discussions. Here are 30 positive things to say to your favorite almost-teen when they don’t feel like talking.
18. Trivia for Tweens and Teens. From who is the half-blooded prince to who is the oldest gamer on YouTube, we’ve rounded up some of the most intriguing trivia questions for teens (and tweens) that are guaranteed to keep them entertained.
Your child says, “I’m hungry,” and you grab them a snack. They say “I’m bored,” and you find a way to entertain them. But when should the butler treatment end? When is it time to teach your child how to be self-sufficient and let them do things for themselves?
Believe it or not—now is as good a time as any! Your two-year-old can help you do the laundry; your 6-year-old can brush her teeth; and your 10-year-old can hang out alone at home while you walk the dog. And, no matter how desperately they cry, “Watch me!” young kids don’t always need you right there next to them (being just nearby is just fine).
“What you’re really trying to do is get the child to learn how to make decisions and take control over the things they can have control over,” said Dr. Michael Ungar, director of the Resilience Research Center and the author of We Generation: Raising Socially Responsible Kids. “What you really want is a child who can make a contribution to their family, who can navigate their community, who can problem solve.”
We created an age-by-age guide that ranges from letting your toddler help with household chores to giving your tween tech time to help you figure out the right time to give your kids that much-needed independence. Here’s what the experts say.
Things Kids Can Do: Ages 0 to 2
Don’t worry: You won’t need to start nudging your one-year-old out of the nest. According to Los Angeles child psychiatrist Patrick Kelly, it’s the opposite: the stronger the attachment between parents and their babies, the more comfortable those kids will be doing things independently as they grow. That said, there are a few “big kid” things your tiny tot can start learning at this age:
Feeding and Dressing Themselves – According to Los Angeles pediatrician Amin Davari, simple things like allowing older infants to feed themselves age-appropriate foods and letting young children dress themselves give kids “minor struggles and successes” that help them learn how to be self-sufficient and build skills and confidence.
Swim Lessons – The AAP recently changed its guidelines to say that kids should start swimming lessons at age one. Although swim lessons will never make a child “drown proof,” lessons between the ages of one to four years have been shown to reduce drowning risk, according to the AAP.
Sign Language – Just because your baby can’t talk doesn’t mean she’s not trying to tell you something. Advocates say teaching babies and toddlers basic signs (things like “eat,” “more” and “milk”) can increase confidence in both the kids and their caregivers, helping little ones who can’t yet speak get their needs met. Taking a class can mean a fun social outing for Mom or Dad—though you can also learn from home.
Things Kids Can Do: Ages 2 to 4
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At this age, kids are ready—and willing!—to take on some responsibility around the house. You’ll know the time is right when you see them start pretending to do grown-up things, like playing “family” or play-driving the car when they’re in the push car. Take advantage of this need now by giving them:
Simple Household Chores – Give them a broom or a dustpan, and let them help you sweep the kitchen floor. You’d be surprised how willingly kids this age will want to help you clean. If you’re lucky, the habit will continue into their later years. Other simple household chores suitable for two-to three-year-olds, according to The Montessori Notebook are:
Help pack their backpack
Brushing/feeding the dog (just let it go when they make a mess!)
Helping make the bed (at four, kids should be able to at least pull up a duvet by themselves)
Placing clothing in the laundry and pushing the buttons you point to
Solo Playtime – As long as you’ve created a safe space to play, at this age most kids are generally past the swallowing-small-objects phase and can happily play by themselves for 30 to 45 minutes at a time. If your child is reluctant to play alone, just agree to be nearby, but set up toys with which they can play solo.
“Reading” Time – Your child doesn’t need to know how to read to get lost in a world of books. Give kids a stack of picture books and let them have at it. If they want to hear stories read out loud—but you still want them to be on their own—we love the Yoto player, a simple speaker designed for kids ages three and up that allows kids to insert small cards to read popular stories aloud.
Pick What they Wear – Something as simple as choosing their clothes can make a child feel incredibly independent, says Dr. Ungar. “Three-year-olds can’t negotiate their bedtimes, but they can decide to wear green pajamas or blue pajamas. The trick seems to be to find these ways that the child can make a genuine contribution.”
Use a Balance Bike – Kids may not be ready for a two-wheeler at age two… but a balance bike is an easy go-to! “Once a child can confidently walk around the house, they can start walking with a balance bike between their legs,” says Schwinn spokesperson Ryan Berkicht. “This could be as soon as 18 months old for some kids.”
Things Kids Can Do: Ages 4 to 6
Gross motor skills are advancing quickly at this age, too, so your kids should be ready for fun things like climbing on a play structure (without you constantly spotting), and using the “big kid swing” all by themselves. And while these may seem like ordinary childhood milestones, all of these accomplishments help them learn how to be self-sufficient and instill huge amounts of confidence. So cheer your kids on as they:
Brush Their Teeth: While most dentists advise that you keep assisting with their pearly whites until age 7, your kids should know how to brush their teeth all on their teeth by age 5 or 6—with you nearby to make sure there’s actual brushing going on (as opposed to just holding the electric toothbrush in their mouths while the motor revs). A good compromise is to let your kids do the morning brush and you can brush their teeth in the evening.
Use a Microwave with Supervision – Not only does using the microwave buttons help reinforce number recognition, but it also makes kids feel like real big kids. Teach your kids what can and can’t go in the microwave, and let them push the buttons and press “start” all on their own.
Ride a Two-Wheeler – Sure, some kids are ready for a two-wheeler at three years old—and some five-year-olds want nothing to do with a bike—but experts say age 5 or 6 is a good target age for getting a kid on her first two-wheeler. If they’ve been riding a balance bike or a bike with training wheels, they should be able to transition easily.
Have Drop-Off Play Dates – According to the AAP, kids around ages 5 and 6 are developmentally ready to be dropped off for play dates. Got a child who’s nervous about it? It might help to have the playdates at your house, where you can step away—but not out.
Day Camp – Since this is the age when kids start preschool or kindergarten, they’re also usually ready for day camp at this age, too. If your kids don’t seem uber-enthusiastic about camp, try to keep the camp schedule similar to their school schedule (if your child attends a half-day school, for instance, start with a half-day camp).
Things Kids Can Do: Ages 6 to 8
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By this age, kids have started kindergarten and are usually happy to do anything that makes them feel grown-up and competent. So watch them closely for opportunities to teach them how to be self-sufficient—while also keeping them safe (for instance, let them ride a bike up and down your street, but make them wear a helmet). Here are some things kids are ready to do by this age:
Use a peeler to peel raw potatoes, ginger, mangoes, and other washed fruits and vegetables
Break eggs into a bowl (and remember to wash hands afterward)
Scoop out avocados after being sliced in half by an adult
Snap green beans
Shuck corn and rinse before cooking
Rinse and cut parsley or green onions with clean, blunt kitchen scissors
Take a Bath By Themselves – According to this article in the National Library of Medicine, most children can take a bath by themselves (i.e., without you sitting by the tub) by age 6. We recommend parents still stay within earshot and keep baths short enough that kids don’t get tired or rowdy in the bathtub by themselves.
Tie Their Shoes (with you supervising) – By age 6 or 7, most kids have the fine motor skills to attempt this surprisingly complex set of movements, according to Carolina Therapy Connection. You’ll know your child is ready to tie their shoes when they’re able to easily cut paper with scissors, string beads, or button and unbutton buttons.
Use a Computer to Browse the Internet – Experts recommend supervising children’s internet use at this age: If you’re not able to be there watching, you can use a filtering device like the Circle, which lets you dictate what apps and websites kids can and can’t visit online (as well as setting up bedtimes and screen time limits); or try a web filtering program like Microsoft Edge Kids Mode, which keeps your kids from seeing anything inappropriate online and lets you customize their web experience (it also prevents them from exiting the kid-safe browser to explore other apps on the computer).
Things Kids Can Do: Ages 8 to 10
Older kids are ready for adventure! Now’s the time to loosen the reins and let them chart their course a little bit. By this age, your child might be ready to:
Have a Sleepover – Around this age, they may be ready—as long as they can sleep through the night, no problem. That said, before you send your kids to another person’s home for the night, they must understand body boundaries and inappropriate touching. “I do think it’s a great time to start teaching kids about appropriate touches and that we’re the boss of our bodies and we’re the boss of our private parts,” writes child abuse prevention expert Pattie Fitzgerald. She also urged parents to talk to the host parents so they’ll know exactly who will be supervising and whether there will be older kids (such as teenage-aged siblings) or extended family in the home. The answer to these questions may well alter your decision to say “yes,” as parents should have a strong baseline of trust with the hosts.
Note: Some experts believe children (and their parents!) aren’t ready for sleepovers until the age of 10 and up.
Go to Overnight Camp – As long as your child can shower, doesn’t wet the bed, and has shown no problems spending the night at friends’ or relatives’ homes, they’re probably ready for sleepaway camp. While many overnight camps offer programs for kids as young as six or seven, the American Camp Association gives age nine as the target age for kids to start the summer camp journey. Some camps offer one-week “starter” programs for reluctant or nervous campers.
Walk to School by Themselves(Under Certain Conditions) – The AAP says elementary school-aged kids can walk to school by themselves, provided the walk is short, the neighborhood is safe, and there are school crossing guards stationed at any intersections. If there are non-guarded streets or you live in a city, waiting until age 12 is better.
Things Kids Can Do: Ages 10 and Up
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Tweens are all about breaking free and taking risks. Your job is to let them experiment with autonomy while still making sure they’ve got set limits to keep them safe. By age 10, kids can:
Be Left At Home for a Short Time – The laws vary on this, with some states like Oregon and Tennessee giving home-alone privileges to 10-year-olds and states like Colorado and Delaware saying 12 is a better age to start this. This Washington Post article gives state-by-state guidelines on the regulations, but it’s a good idea to check with your state’s Family or Child Services Department to be sure.
In any case, before you leave your kids home alone—even for a short time—it’s important that they know what to do in case of emergency and what your expectations are should unexpected things happen (like someone knocking on the door or a friend stopping by unannounced). The Department of Health and Human Services recommends that parents ask themselves these questions before leaving kids alone:
Is your child physically and mentally able to care for him or herself?
Does your child obey rules and make good decisions?
How does your child respond to unfamiliar or stressful situations?
Does your child feel comfortable or fearful about being home alone?
If you’re leaving for more than an hour, it’s best to wait to take your children. And experts say it’s not a good idea to let kids this age babysit younger children while no parents are home.
For more advice and tips, see this handout from the DHH.
Ride a Bike to School – It’s hard to find any specific laws about kids riding bikes to school, but the American Academy of Pediatrics says that by late elementary school, most kids can safely do this, provided the route is short and the roads safe. Before your child starts riding to school, make sure you practice the route with them (several times!) and go over what to do if unexpected things arise, such as a fall or a flat tire. If it makes you feel better, have your child wear a GPS watch or other tracking device to alert you when she gets to school safely.
Of course, you should always make sure your kids wear a good-fitting helmet and try to enlist a friend to ride along, to ensure both kids get there safely.
This is it. The bridge to the young adult years. Kids in this final stretch to the teens are longing to break free, so the trick is to let them feel independent and learn how to be self-sufficient while encouraging them to make responsible choices. Here are some things they’re ready to do now:
Have Their Own Cell Phone – While many argue that cell phones should wait until high school, middle schoolers can have a phone, provided it is monitored and filtered by the parents. Before you give your child a phone, have them sign a technology agreement that lays out the rules—for instance, no cell phones should be allowed in your child’s room overnight, and your child should know that you will read and monitor her messages. To keep your kids off inappropriate or dangerous apps and sites, use apps and programs like Screentime (for iPhones), Circle, or Securly.
Babysit Younger Children – There are no real legal restrictions for babysitting (except in states that have laws on when kids can be left alone), but the Red Cross doesn’t allow kids to take its babysitting course until age 11. By 12, kids should be able to babysit with a grown-up present in the house (or for short times when a grown-up leaves the house); by 14, they can usually babysit younger children on their own. When it comes to an older sibling watching the younger kids in the house, parents need to ask themselves whether their oldest is mature enough and responsible enough to handle the task. If there are any doubts, skip it.
Be Dropped Off in a Public Place with Friends – As long as your child agrees to stay with the group and you’ve talked about uncomfortable situations (if a stranger talks to them or if other kids are experimenting with drugs or alcohol), most experts agree that by middle school—or around age 13—kids can be dropped off at public place (like a movie theater or mall) for a few hours as long as they are in a group and you are leaving them in a safe location. This depends, of course, on your child’s level of maturity, your city’s crime rate, and whether you trust them to make good decisions.
Note: Check with your state laws before letting your teen go to certain places solo: Some states, such as Minnesota and Delaware, do not permit children under 16 to be in certain malls without adult supervision, according to this article.
Anyone who’s ever interacted with a middle schooler knows that those are just the weird years. Middle schoolers are riding a fine line between still being young enough to enjoy toys and snuggling up with their parents once in a while, and at the same time, establishing some independence, taking an interest in dating, and putting a ton of stock in being “cool.” Gabe Dannenbring, a middle school teacher on TikTok, is sharing videos of the hilariously random things he sees his students do to prove to their peers how “cool” they are, and as ridiculous as they are, they’re sure to bring a smile to your face.
“It’s not cool just to throw a piece of paper away normally,” Gabe explains. “You gotta do this instead.”
He then demonstrates zigging and zagging across the classroom like an NBA player on the basketball court before dramatically dunking the paper into the trash can. Naturally.
Next? “If you ever get new shoes, it is so uncool to crease your shoes,” he says. He then demonstrates how middle schoolers walk (waddle) with perfectly straight legs to avoid bending their feet and creasing their new shoes. It’s also uncool to wear a coat to school, so he recommends throwing your coat straight into the garbage. And when a middle schooler enters the classroom, it’s very uncool to just walk through the door. Instead, he says, the “cool” ones jump and tap the top of the door frame on their way in.
Finally, he says, “You should never greet your teacher with a, ‘Hi, good morning, or how are you doing?’ You should greet with this instead: ‘Yo, what’s up teach? Dab me up, bro. Yeah, dab me up, bro. Yeah, what’s up teach? What’s up?'”
A middle school math teacher is going viral on TikTok for using dating advice to make her algebra lessons both relatable and memorable for her students
How do you make middle schoolers understand and remember math principles? As a 30-something, I sure couldn’t tell you—there’s not one lesson from a single algebra class I ever took that I can recall. But one math teacher has found the best way. Her secret? Talking about her exes.
Ms. Diamond, a math teacher known as @captainch4risma on TikTok, has tons of viral videos where she shares incredibly fun and relatable lessons with her class. This one about functions, for example, is inspired by her dating history—which isn’t all that different from students’ own messy love lives, as it turns out.
In algebra, functions describe a relationship between an independent variable and a dependent variable, represented by X and Y. In Ms. Diamond’s lesson, “Every X has to have a Y,” and to demonstrate, she leads her students through a hilarious call-and-response exercise about her dating past.
“When you think about X, you think of ‘my ex.’ And when you think about Y, you think of ‘why did I date you?'” she says. Then, she uses the dating analogy to help her students understand the limits of functions, asking, “Can X repeat itself?”
The answer is no, because if it does, it’s “not a function,” just like going back to an ex is “not functioning” in your life.” As Ms. Diamond puts it, “You broke up with them one time for a reason, you probably gonna break up with them again for the same reason.”
The function lesson is great, but it’s not her only one. Ms. Diamond also has tons of great videos where she leads her kids through remixes of songs—only in true math teacher style, she’s rewritten the words to be about math.
We especially love this one on dividing fractions, where her kids sing a song about how you “flip it and reverse it” (get it? Because when you divide fractions, you flip the second one and then multiply them).
Here’s the truth about your big concerns from the early years all the way through high school
From the first goodbye in kindergarten to the last day of twelfth grade, sending our kids to school means letting go a little bit every day. And for many parents, that nudge out of the nest brings up ALL the parental concerns. Questions run the gamut, from “Will my kindergartener get lost on her way to the bathroom? ” to “What if my college-bound kid doesn’t get good grades?” But teachers say to take a deep breath!
“What does worry actually contribute? A lot of times parents feel that it’s their responsibility and role to worry, but we’re having an epidemic of anxiety among young people right now. A lot of people point to technology, but I would also point to this culture of worry that parents have picked up,” said former Los Angeles school principal Bruce Harlan, who currently teaches middle school science.
Worried now? Don’t be. Whether you’ve got a kid just starting their school journey or a teen almost at the end, we talked to teachers about common parental concerns—and why you can rest easy knowing that your kids will be fine.
Preschool/Kindergarten/First Grade
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The Worry: Your child will get lost on the way to or from the bathroom (or the cafeteria or any other place inside the school).
The Truth: They might. But someone will help them find their way. “This happens all the time. It’s always within the first week. It’s all hands on deck that first week. Parents need to remember that school is a very safe place. There are teachers and support staff everywhere, and everybody knows that in the first few weeks of school, you’re going to find a random kindergartener wandering the halls,” said Los Angeles elementary school teacher Anne Vanderpool.
If your child is worried about getting lost, you can help ease the jitters by practicing. Stick around after school and walk around the school with your child (especially the way to and from the bathroom and classroom). By the first week or two of the school year, even the youngest of students will find their way.
The Worry: Your child will have a potty accident.
The Truth: Many do.
It is common for preschoolers, kindergarteners—and even older kids— to have an occasional accident said Amanda Yuill, a longtime teacher and educational spokesperson, on her website. “For this reason, it is a good idea to ask parents to send a labeled bag with extra clothes you can keep in the classroom if you are teaching kindergarten.” “If there is a child in an older class who still has trouble with this, you can do the same thing with just that child and not the whole class.”
Experts say some kids are just too shy to use the bathroom—whether it’s because they are too embarrassed to raise their hand to ask or they’re worried another schoolmate might hear them going (this is mortifying for some kids!). To help ease these worries (and yours), have a conversation with your child about their concerns—and how the alternative (wetting their pants) may actually be more problematic than not going in the first place. If they keep holding it in, talk to the teacher about letting your child use a single-stall bathroom (for instance, in the nurse’s office), which may alleviate their shyness.
The Worry: You’re wondering if you should hold your child back from kindergarten.
The Truth: More time is usually a good thing
According to Vanderpool, one of the most common questions she gets from parents is whether they should hold their younger children (those with late summer birthdays) back for kindergarten. She said she almost always thinks it’s a good idea to do so. “It varies by child, but always my reaction was to ask them a question back. I’d ask them, ‘Tell me when you had too much time to do something, and tell me when that was a problem for you.”’
Holding kids back—mainly when they are on the younger side for kinder—usually helps them by giving them the time they need to mature into ready-to-learn students. When it comes to kids in the middle of the age net, Vanderpool says the answer isn’t always as clear. “It might be OK. But then I ask the question, ‘How do you want your senior year to go? They’re going to be 18 before they start their senior year. Do you want them to be closer to 20 in their freshman year of college?'”
The Worry: Your kindergartener/first grader isn’t reading as well as some of her peers.
The Truth: Some kids take longer than others—and that’s OK.
AnnMarie Sossong, a reading specialist in Florida, told US News and World Report,“Some children are ready to learn to read at age 3, and some take much longer. I have seen both, and by age 12 or 13, they are reading at the same level, which seems counter-intuitive, but it is not. When they are ready, they are ready, and everything clicks.” And while there seems to be a national push for kids to read earlier and earlier, literacy expert Timothy Shanahan said children only really need to master around 20 sight words by the end of kindergarten and 100 by the end of first grade.
The Worry: Your child has separation anxiety when you drop him off.
The truth: Your kids are (almost always) fine once you leave.
The trick to easing the separation and making your child realize that school is non-negotiable is to be confident at dropoff. “It’s a transition issue. Most of the time, the parent has the hardest time with this—the kids are completely fine. Your child is probably four or five, and you’ve fixed everything up to this point. This is the first time they’re going to do it themselves. The worst thing you can do is tell them they can’t do it. Just swallow the tears for a minute, give them your brave face, and say, ‘I’m so proud of you. You’re going to be great. I’ll see you in a few hours,’” says Vanderpool.
The Worry: Your kid isn’t learning how to spell correctly.
The Truth: Spelling doesn’t matter until later on (and some teachers say it is a nonissue even then).
There’s no denying that kiddified spelling is adorable, but at what point should you correct those cute little misspells and teach your kid the proper way to spell those tricky words?
Not in kindergarten or first grade, say teachers. “There’s a heavier focus on fluency and building confidence [in kinder and first grade], and then you circle back to the nitty gritty later in second and third grade,” said Vanderpool. Even later on, when they’re in upper grades, spelling isn’t the obstacle it used to be, with some teachers admitting that in the age of spell-check and voice type, spelling isn’t as important as it used to be. Dierdre Amey, a third and fourth-grade teacher in Philadelphia, PA, says, “Don’t sweat it if your students are not the best spellers in the upper grades. There are so many strategies and accommodations available for their children via computer.”
Elementary Years
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The Worry: Your child doesn’t seem to like school.
The Truth: How worried you should be depends on the reason.
This is a tricky one, teachers say, since some kids may legitimately be struggling while others don’t like school simply because they’d rather be elsewhere. “Ask your child, ‘Why?’ He might say, ‘Oh, it’s boring.’ Or, ‘I don’t have any friends.’ Or, ‘It’s too hard.’ All of these are great responses that should be explored. Sometimes it’s just a preference; there’s no real good reason; it’s just that your child would rather be home playing video games,” said Vanderpool.
For better or worse, not liking school is a common predicament—especially as kids get older. A 2020 survey of more than 21,000 American high schoolers showed that the top two feelings students said they experienced at school were “stressed” (79.8 percent) and “bored” (69.5 percent), with nearly 75 percent of their self-reported feelings about school being negative.
Friendships play a big part. According to a University of Illinois study, kids with “reciprocal friendships” were more likely to like school and be more academically successful. Similarly, a Gallup poll found that friendships were the biggest predictor of student engagement in both fifth grade and 11th. Talk to your child about whether they have friends at school; if not, try to set up some time with their peers to forge better relationships.
“If we are to help kids gain happiness from their education in the short and long term, we need to bring to bear more resources to facilitate friendship, which tends to solve both the loneliness and boredom problems.” Arthur C Brooks writes in The Atlantic.
The Worry: Your kids’ teachers don’t give enough homework—or your kid doesn’t want to do it.
The Truth: Homework isn’t how young kids learn best anyway.
Dierde Amey, who has been teaching elementary school for 19 years, says “It is the least effective method for learning at a young age.” In fact, a study from the University of Missouri found no academic advantage to doling out homework in elementary school. For middle schoolers, however, homework does help—but only if the work lasts between one to two hours per night (after that, achievement levels don’t change, experts say).
If your school does a “Student of the Month” certificate (or anything like that), it may be disappointing when you don’t see your little scholar standing in the spotlight. Try not to worry.
“Short of a Nobel or Pulitzer, most awards don’t really have a long-term effect on anyone’s life. How many adults can truly point to a childhood award making a deep impact on their future?” teacher Braden Bell told the Washington Post. Parents can use these moments to build empathy, as he did himself when his son didn’t get an award in kindergarten—but a good friend did. “I explained that feelings are like living things, whichever one he fed would get bigger. He realized that he had a choice: He could focus on his own unhappiness or be happy for his friend.”
The Worry: Your child didn’t get into the Gifted and Talented program.
The Truth: It doesn’t mean your child isn’t smart.
Parents often misunderstand the Gifted and Talented (GATE) program as a Smart Kids Club. But teachers say that’s not really the case. “The Gifted and Talented program is not for good students. It’s for kids who learn differently, who can excel in a program that offers a different style of learning,” said Vanderpool. Of course, this reality doesn’t stop parents from wondering how they can “get their child into” the program.
“Holy moly, I had so many parents want to have a personal conference with me about how they’re going to GATE test and their expectation for this child to pass. My greatest recommendation is for parents to be a little more informed and realize it might not be a good fit for your child,” she says.
If your child does get into the program, take that as a cue that maybe your child needs alternative types of teaching, and discuss how you can accommodate these needs at home and as your child grows.
The Worry: Your kid lost (or keeps losing) a game.
The Truth: Consider it a win.
You’re holding your breath as your child steps up to the plate. They swing… miss… and strike out. What do you do now? Cheer, of course! “They don’t have to win. All you really need to say to your kid after a game—win or lose—is ‘I love watching you play,'” said Bruce Harlan, who also worked as a swim coach before his experience teaching middle school.
Here’s the real win: Losing has been shown to help kids. A 2019 Brigham Young University study found that high school students who had participated in youth sports showed higher levels of resilience—as well as self-regulation and empathy—than students who didn’t participate.
“Learning to cope with loss is important because they’re not always going to win later in life. It’s an important skill to develop, to lose with grace, not to blame other people, and to take responsibility for the loss,” psychologist Dr. Kate Lund said in this article.
Parental Concerns About Middle & High School
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The Worry: Your child is dealing with social drama.
The Truth: Don’t get involved (unless you have to).
Harlan, who has been working with kids for 33 years, says “Adolescents ride an emotional roller coaster. The role of the parent is to be steady and calm and not ride that roller coaster with them. This is normal socialization. Kids are going to get feedback from their peers—and often not in a gentle way—about how to be. That is how they learn, and sometimes it is painful.”
That means if your daughter comes home complaining that a friend was mean to her in school, resist the urge to call that friend’s mom. “It sends a bad message to the kids that, ‘Wow, this thing that I brought home must be really important because now all the adults are getting involved,'” says Harlan.
The other unintended consequence is that kids might stop sharing their troubles with parents to avoid them stepping in (which can be embarrassing for most kids). “You want open communication, but sometimes kids will stop telling their parents because they don’t want their parents to overreact,” Harlan said.
The Worry: You’re putting too much pressure on grades.
The Truth: The grades aren’t what matters most.
Sure, you want your kids to do well in school—but how much pressure is too much? “Don’t care more than your kid cares. The teacher will reach out if concerned. And stay off the grading websites,” said Kate England, a 10th-grade civics teacher in Abington, PA.
Instead, focus on effort… and kindness. It sounds hokey, but experts say that if parents worry less about grades and more about teaching decency, good grades will follow naturally. A study done by Arizona State University found that teaching children kindness and compassion—instead of focusing solely on academic achievement and extracurricular activities—helped kids do better in school. Researchers looked at the school performance of 506 sixth-grade students, then asked what their parents valued the most about them. The kids that performed the best in school were the ones whose parents seemed to value kindness more than grades.
In this article, Suniya Luthar, a professor of psychology at ASU said, “When parents emphasize children’s achievement much more than their compassion and decency during the formative years, they are sowing the seeds of stress and poorer well-being. In order to foster well-being and academic success during the critical years surrounding early adolescence. . . parents should accentuate kindness and respect for others at least as much as (or more than) stellar academic performance and extracurricular accolades.”
The Worry: Your child wants to be/can’t get into AP classes?
The Truth: AP Classes aren’t always a good thing.
AP classes sound good. After all, they give your kid a chance to earn college credit while still in high school (Woohoo! No math class freshman year at university!). But many teachers advise against them—and some, like these eight private schools in Washington DC—are doing away with them altogether.
“The truth is that college courses, which demand critical thinking and rigorous analysis, look nothing like AP courses, which stress breadth over depth. Moving away from AP courses will allow us to offer courses that are foundational, allow for authentic engagement with the world and demonstrate respect for students’ intellectual curiosity and interests,” the schools said in a joint statement published by The Washington Post.
Instead of worrying about AP courses, let your kids enroll in interesting electives. “Let them take cooking, sewing, and art even though those classes don’t boost GPAs. They make for a well-rounded student who isn’t stressed beyond belief,” advises England, a teacher of 17 years.
Harlan echoed her thoughts. “There’s no joy in AP classes. It’s a drill-and-kill type of instructional style that is so old-fashioned and goes against everything we know. . . Even the colleges don’t like them because once you’ve gotten credit, you cant retake it in college… but you don’t get the same level of instruction you do in college.”
The Worry: Your child’s SAT scores aren’t great.
The Truth: SATs aren’t always required.
While SATs used to be the gold standard by which every student measured their college-bound worth, that has changed. Today more than 80 percent of US colleges have “test-optional” applications, meaning SAT scores are not required for admission. The California State University system went a step further when it announced in 2022 that it won’t accept SATs or ACTs in the application process for any of its 23 schools—so kids don’t have to worry about whether or not they should “option-in” their scores when applying.
“The era of standardized testing is starting to slide away,” Harlan said, adding that the same is true for tests kids take in elementary and middle school. “Most of the high schools in our area aren’t even accepting them anymore.”
The Worry: Your kid isn’t who you thought they’d be.
The truth: Love the kid you’ve got.
Parents often despair when their kids grow up to be a different person they’d imagined they would be—whether that means that you expected your kid to love sports and they only love computers; or whether you hoped for a cheerleader and got a bookworm. All this worry goes nowhere, experts say.
“Parents start to graph out the life of their kids, and they extrapolate all the way to graduate school. That is not fair to the kids. It’s their life, their ups, and downs,” Harlan said. Instead, he emphasized loving the kid you have. “You don’t order a fully-baked human being when you have a kid. Stop worrying about how you thought things would go for your kid.”
And don’t feel guilty about your feelings. Doctors say it’s normal to feel some loss when our children don’t grow up to be what we thought they’d be. But don’t let those expectations dictate how you treat your child. “When our fantasies about our children do not coincide with their interests, talents, and tendencies, our expectations can strike a debilitating blow to our children’s development. Accepting these losses and mourning them opens our eyes to what we can celebrate about our children.” psychotherapist David Braucher said in Psychology Today.
Supplement your summer reading list with a few prizewinners that hit every age and stage
Whether you’ve got a tween who can’t get enough reading or you’re telling tales to your baby bump, every bookshelf deserves a few award winners. Sweet picture books, lyrical stories, and middle school graphic novels are just a few prizewinners you’ll find bearing the coveted winning seal. From the Caldecott Medal to the Coretta Scott King Medal, here are our top picks for award-winning children’s books.
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Newbery Medal
It’s not if you’ve read a Newbury Medal winner, but rather how many. Starting in 1922, this award is given annually to the author “of the most distinguished contribution to American literature for children.” It’s named after 18th-century English children’s book publisher John Newbury, and it’s where you’ll find some of the best award-winning children’s books for upper elementary-grade and middle school kiddos. Read these, and then grab more from the complete winner’s list.
1. When You Trap a Tiger by Tae Keller This award-winning children's book takes us into the world of Korean folklore. Lilly and her family move in with her sick grandma, and soon, a magical tiger appears and Lilly learns of a secret family history. Will she trade what her Halmoni stole from the tigers for Halmoni's health, or is the deal too good to be true? Ages 8-12
2. New Kid by Jerry Craft In this new graphic novel, middle schooler Jordan Banks starts out at a prestigious new day school rather than the art school he longs to attend. Caught between two worlds and one of the few students of color at Riverdale Academy Day School, will Jordan find a balance between his school and home life and find a place to fit in? Ages 8-12
3. Last Stop on Market Street by Matt de la Pena It all starts with a question—“Nana, how come we don’t got a car?”—and the story of young C.J. and the wisdom his grandma imparts is off and running, just like the bus they ride down Market Street after church on Sundays. This simple story about the perspective only grandparents can give their grandkids won the Caldecott Honor Award in 2016. Ages 3-5.
4. The Tale of Despereaux by Kate DiCamillo Follow the tale of the brave mouse, Despereaux Tilling—who is in love with Princess Pea—Roscuro the rat, and Miggery Sow, a serving girl, as they come together to face the odds. Castles, dungeons, and soup are the backbones of this exciting story. Ages 7-10.
5. Shiloh by Phyllis Reynolds Naylor Young Marty Preston is out for a walk when a shy beagle approaches him. The two bond instantly, and Marty takes the dog he dubbed Shiloh home, hiding him from his family and friends. Trouble ensues when Marty realizes this beautiful dog belongs to Judd Travers, a drinker who is cruel to all his hunting dogs. Will Marty be able to do the right thing and still keep Shiloh? Ages 7-10
6. Hello, Universe by Erin Entrada Kelly The story of a bully, a prank, and a group of kid neighbors coming together to save one of their own is at the heart of this poignant and humorous story. If you’ve ever felt like a misfit or wanted to encourage your inner hero, this is the story for you. Ages 8-12.
7. Walk Two Moonsby Sharon Creech On a road trip from Ohio to Idaho, Salamanca Tree Hiddle entertains her grandparents with the story of Phoebe Winterbottom. As Phoebe’s larger-than-life story unfolds, so does Salamanca’s, which revolves around her missing mother. Ages 8-12.
8. The One and Only Ivan by Katherine Applegate This engaging story about a gorilla in captivity and his friendship with a baby elephant is unique in so many ways. Not only is it told from Ivan the gorilla’s perspective, but it draws readers in with humor and the touching friendship between two unforgettable characters. Ages 8-12.
9. The Westing Gameby Ellen Raskin Eccentric millionaire, Sam Westing, has been murdered and the residents of the newly constructed Sunset Towers are invited to solve the mystery… with the possibility of winning big money. Follow the clues in the story to see if you can solve the mystery first. It’ll keep you guessing till the last page! Ages 8-12.
10. Merci Suarez Changes Gears by Meg Medina The most recent Newbery recipient chronicles the middle school life of Merci Suarez, a scholarship student at a private school in Florida. She takes on jealous mean girls and tries to navigate her home life too. It’s a quintessential sixth-grade journey that will ring true for many kids who’ve been there. Ages 9-12
11. The Crossover by Kwame Alexander Written in fast-moving verse that mirrors the pace of bouncing balls on the basketball court, this novel follows the life of two brothers, Josh and Jordan Bell as they navigate life both on and off the court. Ages 10-12.
12. The Graveyard Book by Neil Gaiman This award-winner is a fanciful tale about a boy named Bod, who was raised in a graveyard by the ghoulies and ghosts who live there. Caught between two worlds, the living and the dead, he’s got challenges to face. Will he be up to the task? Ages 10 & up.
13. Kira-Kira by Cynthia Kadohata Katie Takeshima’s world is upended when her family moves from a Japanese community in Iowa to the rural south, in Georgia. It’s there that she starts to notice differences that weren’t there before. Then her beloved sister, who helps her navigate the world, falls ill. Katie works to find the kira-kira (glittering light) in her newfound challenges. Ages 10 & up.
14. Number the Stars by Lois Lowry An important work of historical fiction, Lois Lowry’s Newberry Award winner offers young readers a glimpse into the Holocaust. Centered around two families living in Copenhagen during WWII, one Jewish, and one not, the story chronicles the way a family helped rescue their Danish Jewish neighbors from being sent to a Concentration Camp. Ages 10-12.
You’ve probably noticed the gold embossed Caldecott emblem on your kids’ books before. One of the most-recognizable ALA awards, it has honored the illustrator of the “most distinguished American picture book for children” since 1937. If picture books are your kid’s jam, this list highlights the best of the best. Check out the complete list of winners here.
1. We Are Water Protectors by Carole Lindstrom and Michaela Goade Inspired by Native-led movements to protect the environment, this beautiful book by an Indigenous-author-illustrator team is an urgent cry to protect the Earth's water from pollution and harm. Ages 3-6
2. The Undefeatedby Kwame Alexander and Kadir Nelson A poem about the reality of slavery and all of its trauma, the power of the civil rights movement, and the determination of some of our country's greatest heroes, this historical book is a must for your bookshelf. Kids will not only get a deeper insight into an integral period of our nation's history but learn the words of change makers like Martin Luther King, Jr. and Gwendolyn Brooks. Ages 6-9
3. A Ball for Daisy by Chris Raschka Whether your kiddo loves dogs or balls, they’ll find a special place in their heart for this book. Dear Daisy has a ball, a wonderful ball she loves to play with. But something happens to the ball, and Daisy has to deal with the loss that goes with it. Ages 3-7.
4. The Adventures of Beekle:The Unimaginary Friend by Dan Santant If you’ve ever wondered where imaginary friends come from, this is the adventure for you. Much like babies, they’re born on an island; then chosen by a child who needs one. But what happens when an imaginary friend doesn’t get selected? Find out in this award-winning book. Ages 4-7.
5. Grandfather’s Journey by Allen Say Centered around a worn family album, the sweeping watercolors of this book bring to life the longing for home that is at the heart of this story. The story of a grandfather who left Japan and wants to return, but feels out of place, is one many families can relate to. Ages 4-7.
6. The Polar Express by Chris Van Allsburg The wildly popular tale of a young boy who boards the Polar Express, bound for the North Pole on Christmas Eve. His adventure aboard the train is almost as exciting as his chance to meet Santa and choose the first gift of Christmas. But a hole in the boy’s pocket may leave him giftless in the end. Ages 4-7.
7. Flotsam by David Weisner A young boy’s trip to the ocean to beach comb, where he finds a barnacle-encrusted underwater camera, leads him on this beautifully illustrated adventure. A picture book that makes the usual magical, it’s a must-view. Ages 4-7.
8. This is Not My Hat by Jon Klassen What happens when a little fish steals a hat from a big one? Find out in this illustrated tale that begs the age-old question, “will I get caught?” Ages 4-8.
9. Finding Winnie: The True Story of the World’s Most Famous Bear by Lindsay Mattick If you ever wondered about the origins of Winnie the Pooh, this children’s book will clue you in. It all started when a vet, on his way to tend wounded horses in WWI, adopted a baby bear and named him Winnie. The story follows Winnie around the world until he finally lands in the London Zoo where he meets… you guessed it—Christopher Robin. Ages 5-6.
10. Hello, Lighthouse by Sophie Blackall This Caldecott winner details the life of a lighthouse. From the boats that pass by in the night, to the family that lives inside. The illustrations are a centerpiece of this engaging tale. Ages 5-8.
11. The Man Who Walked Between the Towers by Mordicai Gerstein File the action in this book under “don’t try this at home.” Then marvel at the tale of French aerialist, Philippe Petit, who walked, danced, and generally delighted on a tightrope he strung between the Twin Towers. Ages 5-8.
12. Radiant Child: The Story of Young Artist, Jean-Michel Basquiat by Javaca Steptoe Artist Javaca Steptoe tells the story of break-out artistic sensation Jean-Michel Basquiat, growing up in New York City. Bold, colorful pictures bring the poetry of the story to life, and Basquiat’s vision jumps off the page. Ages 6-9.
13. The Invention of Hugo Cabaret by Brian Selznick A young orphan, Hugo, lives in the clock tower of a busy Paris train station. There, he goes unnoticed, until an odd girl and the old man who runs the toy store in the station collide with Hugo’s world. There are mysteries to solve in this beautifully illustrated book for older kids. Ages 9-12.
14. Golem by David Wisniewski Cut paper pictures illustrate this story of legend. A Jewish Rabbi creates a golem from clay to protect his people in the ghettos of 16th-century Prague. As the story unfolds, ideas of good and evil and the responsibility of creation emerge. Ages 10-12.
Starting in 1969, the Coretta Scott King Award has been given to African American authors and illustrators who “demonstrate an appreciation of African American culture and universal human values” in their books for children and young adults. You can get the full list of winners here, including the John Steptoe Award for New Talent author and illustrator winners.
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1. Before the Ever After by Jaqueline Woodson This is Woodson's second Coretta Scott King Award; Before the Ever After is a thoughtful novel that examines what happens to a family after the glory days are gone and what exactly professional sports due to Black bodies. Ages 10-12
2. One Crazy Summer by Rita Williams-Garcia One Crazy Summer is the story of three young sisters who set out from New York to spend a month in California with their poet mother. The year is 1968, and they soon find out the summer they have envisioned is far from the one they experience during their stay. This award-winning book is a fantastic snapshot of a moment in America’s history. Ages 8-12.
3. P.S. Be Eleven by Rita Williams-Garcia The second book in the series is about the Gaither sisters, this one takes place after the girls arrive home from their summer. And thanks to their newly found independence, and some other big changes, things back at home aren’t running smoothly. Ages 8-12.
4. Gone Crazy in Alabama by Rita Williams-Garcia Centered around the Gaither sisters, Delphine, Vonetta, and Fern, this stand-alone book can be read on its own or as a companion to the original two (mentioned above). This time the girls are off to Alabama to visit family, but when they get there they realize Ma Charles (their great-grandmother) and her half-sister, Miss Trotter, aren’t on speaking terms. The girls work to bring the two together in this heartwarming tale about the importance of family. Ages 8-12.
6. Bud, Not Buddy by Christopher Paul Curtis This Newbery Award winner is set in Flint, Michigan in 1936 and centers on the story of Bud Caldwell, a 10-year-old orphan. After escaping an untenable foster situation, Bud and his friend Bugs head West in search of his father, Herman E. Calloway, a musician. What Bud learns and who he finds, in the end, will keep you turning the pages of this novel. Ages 8-12.
7. brown girl dreaming, by Jacqueline Woodson Jacqueline Woodson’s novel, written in verse, chronicles her life growing up in the Civil Rights era. Caught between two worlds, one black and one white, one New York and one South Carolina, each of the book’s poems weaves in another strand of her life’s history as she tries to both find and define her place in the world. Ages 10 & up.
8. Piecing Me Together by Renee Watson The story of Jade, a young African American girl who is taking advantage of every opportunity that comes her way so she can make it out of her poor neighborhood and find success. But an invitation to join a program for “at-risk” girls leaves Jade to wonder how she’s viewed in this world. Ages 12 & up.
9. March: Book 3 by John Lewis & Andrew Aydin The final book in a graphic novel trilogy that follows then civil rights activist (now Congressman) John Lewis as he creates innovative campaigns to bring about a non-violent revolution in 1963, In this book, it’s time to march in Selma. Ages 12 & up.
1. New Kid by Jerry Craft In this new graphic novel, middle schooler Jordan Banks starts out at a prestigious new day school rather than the art school he longs to attend. Caught between two worlds and one of the few students of color at Riverdale Academy Day School, will Jordan find a balance between his school and home life and find a place to fit in? Ages 8-12
2. The Stuff of Stars by Marion Dane Bauer Follow the development of our world from its first BANG into creation to the intricate lives of individuals now. Vivid illustrations help to bridge science and art in this award-winning book. Ages 4-8.
3. Trombone Shortyby Troy Andrews Follow the life of trombone prodigy, Troy Andrews, from leading his own band at the age of six to earning numerous Grammy nominations now. You don’t have to be a music lover to be inspired by this biographical tale. Ages 4-8.
4. I, too, Am America by Langston Hughes The pictures that illustrate this Langston Hughes poem remind all Americans that we are one united country, despite our differences. Ages 4-8.
5. Underground: Finding the Light to Freedom by Shane W. Evans See through the eyes of escaping slaves and the lengths they went to in order to find freedom. A poignant introduction to the difficult but uplifting topic of the Underground Railroad, it’s a great read for little kids. Ages 4-8.
6. Rosa by Nikki Giovanni Cut paper images are used to retell the iconic story of Rosa Parks, the civil rights activist who refused to give up her seat on a city bus over 50 years ago. The images bring this story to life for young readers. Ages 4-8.
7. Firebird by Misty Copeland Written by famous ballerina—Misty Copeland—the book shares Copeland’s time-tested formula for success: hard work, perseverance, and believing in oneself. With stunningly fluid illustrations that make the characters dance off the pages, this inspirational story will get young readers motivated to try whatever piques their interest. Ages 5-8.
8. Out of Wonder by Kwame Alexander Poetry that pays homage to famous poets who came before—that’s the gist of this brilliantly illustrated book. Introduce your kids to greats, both new and old with this read. Ages 8-12.
First awarded in 1996, this medal is named after the first Latina librarian at the New York Public Library, Pura Belpré. It honors Latino/Latina authors and illustrators whose work best portrays, affirms, and celebrates the Latino cultural experience in literature for children and youth. Originally awarded every two years, it’s now awarded annually. The full list is a great resource.
1. Efrén Divided by Ernesto Cisneros The story of a young boy and his family, when American-born Efrén's mother fails to return home one day, he must find the courage to care for his siblings and reunite his family. A stark but important glance at the tragic effects deportation has on a family. Ages 8-12
2. Sal and Gabi Break the Universe by Carlos Hernandez Sal and Gabi didn't meet under the best circumstances, but that doesn't stop them from high adventure. When Gabi discovers Sal can reach through time, she wonders—can it bring back her mother who's passed away? This Cuban-inspired sci-fi story is just what your middle schooler ordered. Ages: 8-12
3. Drum Dream Girl by Margarita Engle This story is based on the life of real-life girl drummer, Millo Castro Zaldarriaga, who broke gender norms in Cuba. Bright pictures and words that could be lyrics themselves make this an engaging read for all music-loving kids. Ages 4-7.
4. Dreamers by Yuyi Morales The newest winner by celebrated children’s author, Yuyi Morales, tells the tale of her own migration, leaving home with nothing but her passion, skills, and knowledge and embarking on an overwhelming adventure in a new land with her young son. Ages 4-8.
5. Chato’s Kitchen by Gary Soto East L.A.’s coolest cat, Chato is in luck! A plump family of mice has moved in next door, and he can’t wait to have them over for dinner … as the main course. But these mice have a few tricks up their sleeve yet. Find out what happens when you read this colorful picture book with your kids. Ages 4-8.
6. Grandma’s Gift by Eric Velasquez It’s Christmas time, and young Eric is visiting his grandmother for the holiday. After prepping for the celebration, the two head to the MET, where an artist who shares his last name inspires Eric. Grandma takes note and finds a special gift for him to put under the tree. Ages 4-8.
7. Juana & Lucas by Juana Medina Get to know Juana, a spitfire character living in Bogota, Columbia, and her sidekick Lucas in this charming easy reader. Juana is learning how to speak English in school, but she’s not sold until her grandparents allude to a special trip she’ll be taking and why speaking a second language might come in handy. Find out what she learns in the first of a series about Juana. Ages 7-9.
8. The Dreamer by Pam Munoz Ryan What would you do if you heard a voice calling to you from the forest? This is a question young Neftali answers in The Dreamer. Does he listen to his critics or follow the voice on an adventure that takes him on a “journey of self-discovery”? Ages 8-12.
9. Lucky Broken Girl by Ruth Behar A compelling coming-of-age story, Lucky Broken Girl remembers the author’s early years, her immigration to New York from Cuba, and the devastating car crash that left her confined to bed in a body cast. A powerful read about the strength of the human spirit. Ages 10-12.
10. I Lived on Butterfly Hill by Marjorie Agosin This work of historical fiction chronicles the life of Celeste Marconi who is sent to America after her parents have to go into hiding in Chile. Always dreaming of home, she wonders what will happen to her mother and father after democracy is restored in her homeland. Ages 10-14.
11. Poet X by Elizabeth Acevedo The lyrical language of this novel makes reading Xiomara’s story easy, although her life was not. She’s a scrapper, who came into this world fighting, even though her mother would prefer she didn’t. She’s got poetry in her veins, so it’s no wonder she’s invited to join her school’s slam poetry club. But will Mami let her? Ages 12 & up.
Originally established in 1985 to encourage new talent in the field of children’s literature, the EJK award now honors both illustrators and writers. It’s a curated list of picture books that tell compelling, diverse stories with pictures to match. You can find all the winning titles here.
Author
1. Small in the City by Sydney Smith A sweet picture book from first-time author Smith that sees a big, busy city through the eyes of a small child. Ages 4-8.
2. Tea Party Rules by Ame Dyckman We’ve all been there—invited to a tea party but not quite sure about the rules. Your tot will love sussing it out alongside Bear as he tries his best to be a team player and get cookies at the tea party. Ages 3-5.
3. Crown: An Ode to the Fresh Cut by Derrick Barnes As many kids can tell you, having a fresh haircut makes you feel like a king (or queen). And that’s what this beautifully illustrated story is all about. Hop into the barber chair for a fresh perspective! Ages 3-8.
4. And Then It’s Spring by Julie Fogliano Winter is over, and a young boy decides he’s ready for spring! So he plants a garden and waits … and waits … through all the brown, looking for signs of the green to come. A good lesson in taking care of things and practicing patience, this sweet story is a joyful one. Ages 4-7.
5. Kitten and the Night Watchman by John Sullivan One of the newer recipients of this award, it’s a sweet story based on the author’s real-life watchman experience, with his stray sidekick cat, Bebee. But what happens when the watchman’s new friend goes missing? A feel-good, good-night read. Ages 4-8.
You might think it silly to sign up to play the violin at a talent show after just three lessons; Hana’s older brothers do. But Hana signs up anyway and practices her little heart out getting ready for the big day. Inspired by her grandfather’s playing and wise advice, she can’t wait for her debut! Ages 4-8.
Navigating friendship can be tough. And so it is for Lily when she spends time at the pool over the summer. While she’s declared Tamkia to be her new best friend, Tamika isn’t available—she’s already got a best friend. Who will be Lily’s friend now? Ages 4-8.
8. A Piece of Home by Jeri Watts Moving from Korea to West Virginia means lots of changes for young Hee Jun. He doesn’t speak the language, doesn’t look like the other kids, and doesn’t recognize much from home. So when he finds a Rose of Sharon in a friend’s yard—a flower he recognizes from Korea—he begins to feel at home. Ages 5-8.
1. Shh! We have a Plan by Chris Haughton Four friends conspire to sneak up on an exotic bird in this comedy of errors. Will they or won’t they eventually be able to spot this elusive bird? Ages 2-5.
2. Thank you, Omu! A heartwarming story about a pot of stew and filling hungry bellies, Omu’s generosity leaves her with an empty pot and none for herself. Will she have a chance to enjoy her tasty gift? Ages 4-7.
3. Same, Same but Different by Jenny Sue Kostecki-Shaw Pen pals may be old school, but the realizations Elliot and Kailash have about each other’s experiences and culture are timeless. The two find endless ways to be the same but totally different while maintaining a friendship across the ocean. Ages 4-7.
4. My Name is Yoon by Helen Recorvits The question “what’s in a name?” is answered in this beautifully illustrated book. Yoon isn’t quite sure she likes the way her name looks in English. Maybe she’d be better off with another one—like “cat” or how about “cupcake?” Ages 4-8.
5. Daniel Finds a Poem by Micha Archer Poetry is all around. At least that’s what Daniel discovers after spending time in the natural world and interacting with his animal friends. Wonderfully playful pictures bring these grand images to life. Ages 5-8.
6. Bird by Zetta Elliot There are many issues complicating Mekhai’s life, like his grandfather’s recent death and his brother’s issues with addiction. For Mekhai, nicknamed Bird, life gets easier in his drawings, where he can escape and erase mistakes he (and others) make. Find out about the healing power of art in this engaging, award-winning book. Ages 8-12.
7. Ruby’s Wish by Shirin Yim Ruby is a young girl in old China who dreams of attending university, just like the boys in her family do. It’s a story inspired by the author’s grandmother, and it celebrates hard work and determination that is part of working to make dreams a reality. Ages 8-12.
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Middle school graduation gift ideas? Don’t even get us started. Okay fine, let us share our two cents on this one. The thing with middle school graduation is that it’s a pretty big deal. It’s not high school, but it’s also not elementary school. It’s the transition between childhood and preteen years. So, you want to get a gift that’s not too immature or too grown up. Middle school graduation gift ideas can be tough to come up with, especially when you want to find something that’s both thoughtful and age-appropriate.
There are plenty of classic gift options, but as we remember all too well, their image is ultra-important. So, really, it doesn’t hurt to also keep in mind it truly is the thought and the gift that count with tweens. And that’s totally okay! It’s completely normal and absolutely part of growing up. We rounded up some of our favorite middle school graduation gifts that (since we’re still ultra-cool and with it) we feel pretty confident they’ll love (and love showing off to all their friends!). The transition from middle to high school is a big deal and we’ve got the gifts to commemorate it!
Doomlings
Doomlings
They're getting more independent, but an easy way to keep them close a little longer is by rounding up the crew and playing a game that they'll actually want to play. Doomlings is quirky, funny, and perfect for family game night. It works as a 2 player game and up to a party of 6, so it's great for summertime staycations, road trips, and camping weekends, too. With over 4,000 5-star reviews, you seriously can't go wrong. Doomlings ($24.99+)—Buy Here!
Real Review: "I got this for my nephews (ages 8 and 10) and not only did they love it, the whole family did! Loads of fun, really easy to pick up how to play, and really cute graphics!"—Mylène H.
Designed for athletes and busy kids alike, these recovery sneakers are breathable, sustainable, and feel incredible on! They come in a bunch of colors and are gender-neutral. Kane Revive Sneakers ($75.00)—Buy Now!
iWalk Portable Phone Charger
iWalk
TikTok isn't going to scroll itself! Don't let them get stuck with a dying phone (which is like, the worst thing ever). This super cool charger comes in 6 colors to match their phones, too. iWalk Portable Phone Charger ($34.99)—Buy Now!
This is such a sweet cuff with a hidden message (just in case they get a little embarrassed by sentiment—we were 13 once, too)! "Believe in You" Cuff ($12.97)—Buy Now!
LEGO Technic App-Controlled Transformation RC Toy Car 42140
Middle school to high school means big feelings, and getting tweens into journaling their feelings is a great way to teach them healthy ways of handling them. DIY Journaling Kit ($19.99)—Buy Now!
Everyday California Floating Waterproof Snapback Surf Hat
It sure seems like we're proud supporters of the customized lighting movement. And that's because we are. The LED strip lights from Govee has vivid colors and lots of options for customization. Govee 32.8ft Color Changing LED Strip Lights ($22.99)—Buy Now!
Pave Lightning Bolt Nap Earrings
Maison Miru
Remind them how powerful they are with these lightning bolt nap earrings from Maison Miru! What makes them nap earrings? The flat backs mean they can wear them all the time, even to sleep! Pave Lightning Bolt Nap Earrings ($85.00)—Buy Now!
Throw Throw Burrito
Target
It's a combination of a card game and dodgeball! Players go head-to-head collecting cards, earning points, and throwing squishy toy burritos at one another. From the creators of The Oatmeal and Exploding Kittens, this game is a whole lot of fun! This card game takes 5 minutes to learn and 15 minutes to play. You had us at "burrito". Throw Throw Burrito ($24.99)—Buy Now!
This light up flying disc isn't a plain old Frisbee! As the original and patent-pending invention, the TOSY Disc is 100x brighter than any other light-up flying disc. It looks super cool, especially when you throw it outdoors at night! TOSY Ultimate Disc LED ($39.99)—Buy Now!
Charge all the essentials—phone, watch, and AirPods—all at one time with the super fast and powerful (and compact!) Chargetree from STM Goods! STM Goods Chargetree ($119.95)—Buy Now!
Athleta Excursion Mini Belt Bag
Athleta
Belt bags are having a moment right now, and we're loving the Mini Excursion from Athleta for our soon-to-be high schoolers! They're the perfect size for anything they need, keep them hands-free, and come in 4 colors. Seriously trending gift? Check! Athleta Excursion Mini Belt Bag ($49.00)—Buy Now!
Crocs Classic Clog
Foot Locker
Love 'em or hate 'em, Crocs are back in a big way. It probably has a lot to do with how comfortable they are, but it doesn't hurt that they come in a bunch of colors and styles, too. Crocs Classic Clog ($39.99)—Buy Now!
Allkinds Bath & Body for Kids & Teens
Allkinds
Bath & body essentials they’ll use on a daily basis. The six Allkinds collections have their own active ingredients, colour, theme, and 100% natural signature fragrance. Sweet Talk, Lazy Days, Cosmic Choc, Superfresh, Hey Vacay, and more! They smell unbelievable and are perfect for mixing and matching, too. Allkinds Bath & Body for Kids & Teens—Shop Now!
Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Instant Camera & Accessory Kit
Fujifilm/Amazon
We mentioned the importance of pictures, so make sure they have some to display with this Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Instant Camera! It comes with everything they could need for capturing important moments. It also comes in four colors! Fujifilm Instax Mini 11 Instant Camera & Accessory Kit ($134.99)—Buy Now!
The jellies from our youth are back, but way more chic. These Jella Slides are perfect for the pool, and if your middle schooler is anything like ours, they look pretty cute with socks, too! They come in multiple colors, also. UGG Jella Clear Slide Sandals ($95.00)—Buy Now!
Y2K Bracelets
Amazon
Yep, we said "Y2K". Believe it or not, the styles we wore in high school while wondering if all the computers in the world would shut down on New Year's Eve 1999 are back. We'd be lying if we said we weren't eyeing these bracelets for ourselves. Y2K Bracelets ($9.99)—Buy Now!
Sunset Lamp
TRENDY PRO/Amazon
Golden Hour at any hour! This fun lamp makes it happen. It's awesome for relaxing, TikTok videos, pictures, and more! Sunset Lamp ($23.99)—Buy Now!
M&Ms, jelly beans, peanuts, gumballs—whatever they're into, this dispenser is perfect. After all, now that they're going into high school, you can show that you trust them to keep candy in their rooms. Maybe. Sharper Image Candy Dispenser ($21.99)—Buy Now!
Tortilla Blanket
Amazon
Maybe they don't use their baby blankets anymore, but who wouldn't want to be wrapped up like a burrito?? Tortilla Blanket ($19.99)—Buy Now!
MYNT3D Professional Printing 3D Pen with OLED Display
MYNT3D
Hold the magic of 3D printing in your hand with the MYNT3D Professional 3D Pen! Now you can use FDM technology in any application from drafting and prototyping to spatial learning and 3D sculpting. Young artists and budding engineers will adore this! MYNT3D Professional Printing 3D Pen with OLED Display ($59.99)—Buy Now!
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