Make way Roblox, the LOL Suprise Dolls are moving in! The fashionable dolls that are known for their fun surprises have just landed in the new “LOL Surprise Official Party” game.

The kid-safe digital game is available today on Roblox, where kiddos can enjoy a free gaming experience with tons of features. Players will be able to use interactive doll characters where they can mix and match LOL Surprise outfits and accessories, have dance offs, play surprising challenges with unlockable rewards and more.

photo: Courtesy of Roblox

The new game is designed for co-play, and engages parents in their children’s play that is fun for the entire family. Isaac Larian CEO and Founder of MGA Entertainment says “LOL Surprise is a global phenomenon that continues to surprise and amaze fans with product innovations and novel ways to play.”

“LOL Surprise Official Party” has best-in-class trust and safety features which include real-time AI moderation of comments and in-game chat, removal of in-game purchases, daily compliance monitoring and dynamic moderation of problematic terms and words. Even better, parents can use Roblox’s menu of parental controls to configure the perfect experience for their child.

Head to roblox.com to get playing!

––Karly Wood

 

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Extra, extra––read all about it! The LEGO Group and Universal Music Group (UMG) have teamed up for their first collaboration and it’s bringing the brickmaker and global industry leader in music together in a special way.

Introducing LEGO VIDIYO, “a playful and innovative music video maker experience designed to celebrate and expand children’s creativity and passion for music.” The new app lets kids dream up, direct, produce, star and share their own music videos using tunes from UMG’s chart topping artists.

Perfect for kids ages seven to 10, LEGO VIDIYO offers a safe space for them to “travel” the world and experiment with music. The app brings new technology with the LEGO System in Play and pairs it with music from all over the world so kiddos can creatively express themselves.

LEGO VIDIYO requires verified parental consent and external moderation of all content shared to the App feed for ultimate parent confidence.

The new app is packed with music, augmented reality, minifigures and other iconic LEGO elements. Kids have tons of editing options which can be unlocked through “Beat Bits,” a special effect.

To get started, download the free app (which will be available for Android and Apple users starting Feb. 16) and then young creators will choose a song. Next, create a band from new minifigs which can be customized and brought to life using AR technology.

Let LEGO VIDIYO scan your location in just three seconds and you’ve got the perfect background. Next, get those “Beat Bits” going–– 2×2 square LEGO elements that unlock digital effects when scanned. Options for special effects include audio effects, confetti showers and even surfing on a shark!

Record up to a 60 second performance then trim down to your liking before uploading to the App feed. Kids videos will undergo moderation with the caveat that any content featuring personally-identifiable information won’t be approved for App feed upload. However, these videos can be stored in-App and shared with fam and friends.

To keep it fresh, LEGO VIDIYO will add new music, challenges, and inspirational content often. Keep an eye out––you can start getting your hands on the new products in most countries starting Mar. 1.

––Karly Wood

All photos: Courtesy of LEGO

 

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Julia Randall

A licensed therapist by day, Momma to one (soon to be two) boys, and lifestyle blogger at theblissfulmomma.com.

“Self-care” As Mothers, we hear this phrase a lot, oftentimes with a joke about drinking excessive amounts of wine, or actually being able to enjoy a warm cup of coffee; both are examples of coping, but not really self-care. Self-care goes beyond just how we cope; it is a multi-faceted way of taking care of our many needs as mothers, women, and as human beings. I think it is helpful to look at self-care across several different arenas..

I encourage you to brainstorm what each of these categories means to you. I’ve jotted down my understanding of these categories to help get you started:

Physical: Taking care of your body by seeing medical providers regularly, getting enough sleep, exercising regularly, fueling your body with a variety of nourishing foods (yes, that also means enjoying foods like pizza and chocolate in moderation).

Spiritual: Meditating, participating in a religious organization, volunteering, practicing gratitude, and journaling are all great ways to take care of your spiritual self.

Emotional: Making time to have without the kids (and sometimes your partner), saying “no” to what does not serve you, setting boundaries, and addressing stress as it pops up in your life.

Financial: A less well-known category of self-care, but an extremely important one. If you don’t have enough money to pay your bills – or if you spend recklessly – you will end up having a lot of stress. Financial self-care can be having a budget, paying bills on time, saving money, and overall having a good idea of your finances.

Environmental: Our immediate physical surroundings can have a big impact on how we feel. This involves having a system to keep some sense of order in your home, cleaning, and asking for help when you need it.

Psychological: Your mental health is impacted by all of these areas, but also needs to be treated as a separate entity. Social supports such as friends, Mom groups, empathic family members, and therapists are all examples of taking care of yourself psychologically.

What self-care is not: overspending, drinking alcohol/using substances, over-exercising, restricting/binging on food, not speaking up about stressors, not asking for help.

My biggest recommendation for self-care is recognizing that it is an ongoing journey, it is unique to each individual, and it is important to be flexible as you change over time. I’ve linked my favorite self-care items that span across all of these categories.


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Mama Affirmation Cards

Inspirational Affirmation Cards for Mommas

$17.95

When I am struggling to feel capable as a Mother, these affirmation cards can quickly remind me of abilities, strength, and validate different emotions I am experiencing. Emotional self-care.

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Neck & Back Massager

Better than Your Partner's Back Massage

$49.99

Because the Spa is expensive and not all of our partner's want to give us back massages. This Shiatsu massager can go deep with it's kneading massage and also provides heat to all those sore spots. I know I tend to carry all of my tension in my shoulders and feel so much better when I relieve them. Perfect for your physical self-care!

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The Gift of a Happy Mother

Like a hug from all the other Mommas out there

$9

A reminder that even though Motherhood can feel very lonely, we are not alone, Perfect for your emotional and psychological self-care.

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Essential Oils

Scents that will help ground you on the craziest of days

$17.99

Research has shown that aromatherapy both can help relax the mind and sometimes even stimulate it when we are struggling. Scent is a powerful sense and we can help ease our stress levels and re-focus with essential oils we apply or diffuse at home.

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Home Cleaning Checklist

Cleaning To-Do Lists that make you want to Clean

$2.50

Since cleaning is something that I loathe and put off, this downloadable chore checklist helps me feel like I can tackle cleaning. There is something so rewarding about having a list ready-to-do that I just have to check-off as I complete tasks.

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Ghiradelli Chocolate

A chocolate a day keeps this Momma happy

$10.99

This may seem silly, but never underestimate the power of a quality piece of chocolate. Best enjoyed when you are doing an activity for yourself.

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Patchology Mask Kit

Aromatherapy and masks for pampering yourself

$30 BUY NOW

Another way to experience a spa night at home, this kit includes my favorite brand of aromatherapy masks for your face, hands, feet, and even special ones for under your eyes. Plus they are all safer beauty products!

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October is Bullying Prevention Month, and it is an important time to talk about how bullying can affect kids and teens, and what you can do as a parent to empower them to take action and help deal with the issues they themselves or their friends may be going through.

In a nationwide survey of U.S. parents and teens commissioned by a global online entertainment platform Roblox, 22 % of parents shared that their children have personally experienced some form of online bullying, and nearly 1 in 5 teens confirmed they’ve experienced online bullying within the previous 12 months. With stay-at-home requirements this year and most kids spending more time online, some of this behavior will likely have moved into the digital spaces kids and teens hang out in. 

We spoke with kids and teens in the Roblox community and also got recommendations from experts at global organizations like The Diana Award and Project Rockit that are focused on raising resilient digital citizens and training young people to stand up instead of standing by. Here are their top 10 tips to share with your kid or teen to help them manage a hard situation they might be experiencing with online bullying:

1. Talk to someone about it. Alex Holmes, deputy CEO at The Diana Award, an organization providing resources and support for people who are experiencing bullying, recommends: “Let someone—anyone—know how you are feeling, sense check the situation by asking someone ‘this just happened, what do you think’? Often instead of worrying on your own you might get a different perspective or take on the situation which may lead to you feeling much better and lead to you feeling supported and valued.” 

2. If you find it really hard to speak to someone, try writing a message. Holmes advises to consider sending a text or an email, or reaching out to an anonymous helpline or service. Some schools and colleges have anti-bullying ambassadors or peer support projects, and you might even find it helpful to get involved yourself.

3. Find your allies. A co-founder of Project Rockit, Australia’s youth-driven movement against (cyber)bullying, Lucy Thomas notes that while it sounds obvious, sometimes we need to ask people to stand up for us: “This doesn’t mean picking a fight with the person who is giving you a hard time. Instead, they could try interrupting nasty comments with a distraction, or posting positive content to show they have your back. If your opponent knows you have people on your side, they are less likely to continue hassling you.” By the way, some good news: in our survey of nearly 600 teens, almost everyone (96%) said they’re likely to help a friend they see being bullied online!

4. Don’t let others take over your problem. While it’s important to seek help, another recommendation from The Diana Award is not to let others overtake your issue. Instead you can say: “I’d like you to listen, and perhaps we can solve this together.’” Then come up with a strategy together that feels good to you.

5. Look after yourself. Bullying can take its toll on emotional wellbeing, so make sure you surround yourself with people you like and do things that make you happy. Also, look after the physical side; you need to eat well and sleep. 

6. Remember that you are strong. “When someone treats you in the wrong way, it affects our emotions, feelings and mood,” explains Holmes adding that it’s natural to feel upset or vulnerable, but that doesn’t make you weak. “We should try and remember the strength each and every one has inside of us. The talent and skills you possess, the great friend you are to others and the potential you have to make the world a better place. What’s happening to you isn’t ok but it doesn’t define you, and things will get better.”

7. Use self-moderation tools like block and report on Roblox (or similar tools on other platforms) as recommended by our community saying: “These are powerful tools that give you back control. Make sure you know how to use them on all the apps and websites you use.” Parents can also report bad actors or inappropriate content together with their kids which helps them understand what to do and shows solidarity.

8. Resist the urge to retaliate. Project Rockit experts stress that there is no sense in repaying hate with hate: “Retaliating only keeps the cycle going. Besides, we’ve got to keep in mind that those who hate from behind a screen are not truly anonymous. Neither are you!” You definitely don’t want to provide your attackers with ammunition that could be used against you later. If you stay strong in treating others online as you would offline, you’ll find it much easier to remain connected to who you really are, even in the face of (cyber)bullying.

9. Help a friend or others targeted by online hate. So what if you see someone being bullied? Thomas notes that one of the most awful parts of (cyber)bullying is feeling totally humiliated in front of a huge public audience—this is a super isolating experience. That’s why she recommends, “Even if you aren’t confident enough to stand up for someone in the moment or it doesn’t feel safe, you can still send them a private message or chat with them face-to-face to let them know you don’t agree with the way they’re being treated. It seems small but can honestly change a person’s life.” Be cautious if you plan to challenge the person directly; you don’t want to escalate the problem but it’s ok to say you don’t like what they’re doing.

10. Make your world a better place. The team at The Diana Award shared some words of empowerment saying: “If you’ve experienced bullying, what you went through wasn’t great, but hopefully you resolved it and became stronger and more resilient as a consequence. Now use that experience as a learning or teaching moment, empower others who find themselves in a similar situation, guide them and stand up quietly or loudly when you next see the same sort of behavior.” 

 

As Director of Digital Civility at Roblox, Laura Higgins leads the company's groundbreaking initiative focused on providing the community with the skills needed to create positive online experiences, in partnership with the world’s leading safety and industry organizations. Higgins has over 20 years of experience building proven safeguarding, online safety and civility programs. 

 

My daughter Kaylie was four years old. She was sitting on her favorite kitchen stool, headphones on, watching cartoons on our family iPad. After the video ended, she walked over to me and asked the meaning of a word that’s not fit to print. My jaw hit the floor. I asked her where she heard a word like that, and she told me it was in the video she just watched. I unplugged her headphones, and sure enough, there was Dora the Explorer swearing like a sailor. 

This is a true story about YouTube content gone wrong, and sadly, one that a lot of parents are familiar with. Another infamous example that made headlines featured a man offering advice on how to commit suicide in a clip of a popular children’s video game. And this kind of rogue, inexplicably disturbing content is a problem of YouTube’s own making—one that’s inherent to a platform with a hands-off moderation policy where anyone can publish anything. 

Should YouTube vet and approve videos before they go live? This was the question facing the platform earlier this year. The platform had agreed to make changes to improve child privacy following an investigation and $170 million fine from the FTC, and apparently they were considering moderating all content across the platform. But, they ultimately decided against it, which isn’t all that surprising given that around 500 hours of content is uploaded to YouTube every minute. And, it would have changed the nature of the platform itself: they would no longer be a “neutral” space where anyone could upload anything.

If they decided to curate, YouTube would have taken a giant leap towards becoming a programmer, which would expose them to increased regulation, liability, and risk. So instead, YouTube now requires content creators to designate whether their content is for kids or not. This essentially puts the onus on content creators—and holds them more directly responsible for the content they create. 

In theory, this change—and the other updates YouTube made recently—should help protect children’s privacy, but the platform stopped short of the change that could make the content itself safer for kids: moderation. It’s hard to know what compels someone to make Dora say unholy things, or (even worse) to splice instructions for self-harm into a kids’ video, but as long as there’s a platform that relies on content creators to self-police their videos, it’s likely to keep happening. 

So what can parents do to keep their kids safe on YouTube? We learned the hard way that looks can be deceiving, so we made a few changes to the way we used YouTube in our family after the Dora incident. Kaylie only watched videos sans headphones until she got a little older. That way, we could intervene if Peppa Pig started running her mouth. We also stuck to videos on channels we knew and trusted, and we adopted a hard rule: no clicking through recommended videos. 

It’s of course “best practice” to watch content together with your kids, but that’s not always possible, especially when YouTube is giving you a much-needed parental sanity break. So, if you’re setting your kids up to watch a video and you’re feeling concerned, jump ahead to a few spots throughout to make sure there’s nothing untoward. And it’s not a bad idea to have a talk with your children about what to do if they see something upsetting. Older kids might even be ready to learn how to report videos on their own. 

Short of the platform moderating every video before it goes live, it’s going to be tricky to stop bad people from publishing bad things. Hopefully the increased liability on the part of content creators makes them think twice before targeting children with disturbing videos, but it’s a good idea to stay vigilant when your kids are involved. 

 

Sean Herman is CEO/founder of Kinzoo, a new company that helps parents turn screen time into family time. Sean aims to make Kinzoo the most-trusted brand for incorporating technology into children’s lives. Sean's first book, "Screen Captured," debuted at number one in Amazon's parenting category, and separates technology fact from fiction for parents.

research study about Disney princesses? Now this is research we can really use in our daily lives as parents. As a mom of boys, I have secretly been relieved that I didn’t have to go through the “princess phase.” But wait! This research discusses boys too. Let’s take a closer look.

The study involved 198 preschool-age children and examined their exposure to Disney princess media and toys. The researchers then considered if there was a relationship between exposure to Disney princess items and gender-stereotyped behavior.

If you have a daughter of preschool age, this is probably the study you have been waiting for for years. I think most of us parents have wondered if all the princess-saturated media and toys actually have an impact on kids, particularly girls.

From this study, it looks like the princess culture does seem to have some impact on girls and boys behavior. The more girls and boys interacted with princesses, the more likely they were to exhibit female gender-stereotypical behavior a year later. So this means girls acted in more traditional female ways (e.g., avoiding getting dirty, avoiding risks), but boys did too. Of course, the impact on boys was less dramatic because they had less interaction with princess items.

Gendered Values

Of course, the irony of this study is that what we in our American culture value in one gender is not what we value in the other. Culturally, we try to encourage girls to think outside the “girly” box. Many parents want their girls to take more risks and avoid falling into the stereotypical passive female role. While hypermasculinity still reigns, we as parents try to foster a softer, more caring boy mindset.

So it seems, that while the princess culture represents what we want girls to avoid, it illustrates the gentler side we want boys to develop.

So what is a parent to do? Ban all Disney princess items from your home? As in all things parenting, moderation is usually the key. It’s helpful for kids to play with a variety of toys and crafts, not just character-themed items.

I think it’s also crucial to really understand your particular child’s personality. Was your daughter a “girly girl” from the start or did you see an increase in female-stereotyped behaviors as she was exposed to more princess culture? Does she seem to copy the poses or behavior of princeses in a way that you don’t want to support? Ask her what characteristics of the princesses she really likes? Is it just their appearance or something else about them. The same could be said for boys. Is your son really bought into the hyper-masculine “tough guy” role or did this increase as he was exposed to more media that supported this role?

As KJ Dell’Antonia smartly points out in her New York Times article, it might be helpful to point out to girls the characteristics of princesses that do not conform to the gender stereotype. For example, illustrate how some of the princesses are very active in deciding their own fate, or how they use their intelligence to get out of a difficult situation.

One aspect of the princess culture that this study did not particularly address is the emphasis on appearance and the sometimes sexualized poses of princess characters that is seen. While these aspects are sort of wrapped up in the overall princess culture, it would be interesting to see if these particular characteristics were adopted more by girls who have a lot of princess interaction. I think most parents would not want to support media or toys that put forth the image of women being only valued for appearance. This I think could be the rallying point for parents of both boys and girls. I think most of us would agree that our adult culture emphasizes appearance and sexualization enough already, our children, both girls and boys, do not need to be inculcated into a culture of devaluing women at a young age.

Amy is a scholar turned stay-at-home mom of two young boys. When she's not stepping on Legos, she writes at The Thoughtful Parent. With this blog she brings child development research into the lives of parents in the trenches of child-rearing.

 

For years, the short-form video has been a popular way for people to connect and express their creativity online. There have been several platforms over the years offering everyone with a smartphone the ability to create and watch these videos, most famously, Vine, which shut down uploads in late 2016.

Many people were disheartened by the demise of Vine, but it wasn’t to be the end of social short-form video. In 2019, the TikTok app emerged to fill the short video gap in the social media landscape and has captured the attention of teenagers all over the country.

Parents and educators might be less than thrilled at the prospect of yet another social media platform, but there’s more to the service than meets the eye. The TikTok platform has the potential to serve as a powerful learning tool—here’s how.

The Tech Behind TikTok

So what is TikTok, and what makes it different from the defunct Vine or the likes of Snapchat? Basically, it’s an app about creativity and collective fun through super-short videos. Users can make videos based on challenges provided by the app, which are loaded with effects, music, and filters.

Unlike other social media platforms, which rely solely on users to come up with their own content, TikTok provides some structure with challenges designed to encourage engaging and viral 15-second videos.

The tech behind TikTok is AI and machine learning-based. Using data from the platform, TikTok’s algorithms are getting smarter all the time and are contributing to both curation and content creation within the app. It’s a good example of how AI can be applied practically in all aspects of a business model and even encourage creativity.

The Importance of Keeping Creativity Alive for Kids

There’s been an understandable push toward more emphasis on STEM (Science, Technology, Engineering, and Math) subjects at schools all over the country in the last few years. That’s not surprising, as many jobs now and in the future will require these skills. But it’s also important to keep kids’ creativity alive for a number of reasons.

Studies in the arts and exposure to culture help kids develop critical thinking skills, memory, and even empathy. By nurturing creativity, we can help young people become more innovative, tolerant, curious, and focused. Expressing one’s self is also important for exploring identity, learning healthy coping mechanisms, and maintaining good mental health.

While it might not be obvious that a social media platform could support these benefits, the truth is that TikTok has become a strong creative outlet for many young people. Challenges from the app offer them enough structure to spark their creativity without being overwhelming, while the nature of short video requires the use of problem-solving and creativity to create compelling content in a very short timeframe. They also have the opportunity to gain feedback and recognition for their content, which can further help improve creativity.

Kids and teens love using their devices to create and explore. What better way than to build their creativity at the same time?

Taking the Digital Domain by Storm

TikTok has been growing in popularity and taking the digital domain by storm in 2019. In addition to offering users new outlets for their creativity, the company has also partnered with GIPHY and has begun offering new options for creating and sharing videos.

Now, GIPHY stickers can be added to videos and top TikTok videos can be used as GIFs, extending the reach of the app into other social media platforms, texts, and more. What’s more, many users say they’re discovering new music thanks to the TikTok platform. By integrating all of these features, users can explore, expand their musical horizons, and create engaging videos.

All Good Things in Moderation

TikTok can help teens build their creativity, but it’s important to remember that any app has the potential to be harmful if it’s used in excess. Many teens spend far too much time looking at screens, and 70% of teens check their cell phones as soon as they wake up, according to a recent Pew Research survey.

Parents must give their children the freedom to explore and develop creativity. However, they should also be mindful of how much time their kids are spending with their devices and manage their screen time carefully.

Since social media can be both helpful and harmful, parents need to ensure that these platforms are being used safely and appropriately. All good things in moderation—even silly, fun things that can help kids become more innovative adults.

Sarah Daren has been a consultant for startups in industries including health and wellness, wearable technology, and education. She implements her health knowledge into every aspect of her life, including her position as a yoga instructor and raising her children. Sarah enjoys watching baseball and reading on the beach. 

With the world in our pockets and Alexa tapping into our every mood, some speculate that George Orwell’s “Big Brother” is here. If he is, he seems to be focused on babysitting the kids. After all, youngsters live in a state of constant monitoring and connection. (And if I’m being radically honest, their parents do, too).

Apocalyptic musings aside, kids are definitely stressed by a flood of never-ending check-ins and an overwhelming feeling that somewhere, somehow, they’re missing out. Fear of missing out—FOMO, if you’re 2016 hip—is real, constant, and quantifiable.

study from Carleton and McGill universities indicated that young college students felt FOMO most acutely later at night and as the weekend approached. Not surprisingly, FOMO affected their choices, including forgoing sleep and studying lest they fall behind socially—never mind about those deadline-driven exams or labs. But we can’t blame their choices on youth: Nielsen finds that adults spend nearly half their days online, too.

Many parents wish they could put the genie back in the bottle. Yeah, not happening. Pew Research revealed that among 18- to 34-year-olds, 90% had smartphones. Besides, we all know that having instant access to information offers myriad positives: education, amusement, entertainment.

Years ago, if I had a question about a topic, I had to hit the books or find and contact an expert to help. Now, I have my choice of experts. I can watch a 30-minute YouTube video about pretty much whatever I want to know. For kids, this unprecedented access to information has changed their capabilities. Whether they want to figure out a cool way to give their room a face-lift for under $50 or find a little help with a sticky physics problem at 10:29 p.m., they can.

Therein lies in the conundrum facing all parents. Yes, kids feel anxiety and pressure at being privy to others’ highlight reels 24/7. Yes, they can receive addictive dopamine rushes every time their phones go off, per Harvard studies. Yes, their self-esteem can take a nasty hit due to peer comparison anxiety. But at the same time, being more informed or in contact with loving people can be a huge asset.

So what’s the answer for those of us trying to help young people navigate an incredibly high-tech world and all its stressors? Instead of forcing kids to go cold turkey or creating dictatorial rules, parents can help them by adopting a few measures:

1. Set specific, measurable parameters. We have the ability to choose our digital experience. Period. As parents, that goes for your children, too. From apps to websites, you can stay in control of your children’s viewing by limiting device time and setting parental controls like specific site blocking. Moms and dads of older teens, teach your children to take advantage of options such as muting offensive tweets or accounts. Talking openly as a family about how to make technology work for you, not own you, makes sense in our connected world.

2. Less hovering. More modeling positive behaviors. Eventually, kids will become adults. If they haven’t developed the ability to self-discipline by then, they’ll have trouble staying on task in college or the workplace. Establish household routines while your kids are still home (without becoming a helicopter). A good way for kids to learn moderation? Mimicry. If you don’t jump online at every opportunity, your kids will be less likely to do so. If you set nonnegotiable “no screen time” habits, your kids will develop the discipline to say “no” themselves. Bonus: The ability to disconnect without prompting is good for lowering everyone’s stress levels.

3. Game digital consumption. Kids are incentive-driven—use that to your advantage. Reduce the time suck of constant device use by turning it into a game. Try offering a reward to whichever child spends the least time on their devices every week. Let me be clear: The goal here shouldn’t be to get to zero use. The world’s gone digital, and some careers (and classes) do require a thorough understanding of tech. When the median pay for computer programmers is more than $84,000 annually, moms and dads need to balance their desire to chuck smartphones out the window with figuring out how to help kids make responsible choices.

4. Encourage anonymity. Being online is best done anonymously, particularly for kids. And with so many data scandals in the news—remember Cambridge Analytica?—more platforms valuing anonymity will no doubt crop up. Children should be taught to travel the internet as anonymous explorers, finding favorite subreddits and watching from the shadows. Not every conversation needs a comment. The rewards of lurking can be a balanced point of view and a discerning, independently thinking brain. Parents can help kids discover nonjudgmental communities that uplift them.

5. Support “head in the cloud” thinking. The cloud is a great place to do work, maintain notes, store photos, and place anything valuable. From Evernote to Google Docs, countless platforms enable the next generation to store their digital stuff. Kids deserve to know how beneficial and practical the cloud can be. Sit down with your children and share ways to make better use of cloud-based services and options wisely and securely.

At the end of the day, kids will still be kids. They’ll make dumb mistakes and play like there’s no tomorrow. The difference for Generation Z is that they have to be more responsible on the digital playground. Parents who steer their kids away from the biggest pitfalls brought on by digitization will usher in a new breed of digital natives who can actually put down the phone, forget about FOMO, and give Big Brother the boot.

Mike Monroe is a Christian, husband, dad, marketer, and wannabe athlete. Mike started working at Vector Marketing in 2000 as a student at Boston College. He wanted to stick out from the crowd and develop himself professionally. Nearly two decades later, that goal hasn’t changed. Learn more at TheVectorImpact.com.

What started as a platform to share photography has now become a useful marketing tool for businesses of all sizes. With 1 billion people using Instagram every month, it’s no wonder people are using it as a go-to advertising platform.

There are plenty of reasons people love using Instagram such as staying connected to others, scoping out new destinations to visit, and self-expression.

However, social media can sometimes cause unnecessary comparisons, dissatisfaction with life, and a feeling of being left out. With suicide rates being associated with social media use, it’s more important than ever for parents to have tools under their belt. In a time when teens are desperately trying to fit in and find their place in the world, it’s clear that social media can harm their self-esteem and mental health.

How can we address the problem of social media and teen mental health? It’s time for parents to get involved and tackle teen mental health at home. While mental health is a complex issue, parents can safeguard their teens’ well-being with healthy social media practices. Here’s how you can make sure your kids have a healthy relationship with social media and a thriving life outside of their screens.

1. Show them what’s real and what’s fake. Social media distorts reality. Snapchat and Instagram filters are fun, but they can quickly warp our sense of what’s real. Take a photo and show your teen how filters are added to make photos look a certain way. Talk about how lighting, tones, and Photoshop affect an image. Show your teen FaceTune and other apps that allow you to alter and blur imperfections on the face or body. This allows you to alter your physique and create an unrealistic image for social media.

This sounds obvious, but many teens don’t realize that social media is full of almost exclusively edited images. They can learn to manage their expectations as they scroll through their feed, preserving their sense of self-esteem by avoiding unrealistic comparisons.

2. Encourage teens to live in the moment. Social media is great to stay in touch with friends and family—when used in moderation. Most of us like to indulge in social media from time to time, but it’s a recipe for losing time. Social media makes us feel like we aren’t living in the moment. We’re either caught up with other people’s Instagram posts or worrying about what we’ll post next to get the most likes.

While it feels like we’re connected with other people on social media, it’s a way to escape real-world social interactions. Studies show that excessive social media use can make a person feel more isolated and depressed. Set a limit on your child’s phone for social media apps. Experts suggest limiting teens’ social media use to no more than 30 minutes per day.

And instead of plugging into social media for hours on end, encourage your child to get involved with activities, like sports or school clubs, that help them feel part of a group. It’s these social interactions that will help your teen feel accepted and happy, not taking selfies on Snapchat.

3. Invest in your parent-child relationship. Adults are just as guilty as teens when it comes to social media use. Don’t let screens be a substitute for a face-to-face relationship with your child. Lead by example. Limit your time on social media and stop obsessing over your Instagram likes. Give your teen love and attention without documenting it on Snapchat or anywhere else online. Show that life happens outside of Instagram. Demonstrate unconditional love and acceptance when you talk to your teen, especially when they’re feeling low. If they’re feeling sad, validate their feelings and understand their disappointment.

Allow your home to be a safe place where they can talk about their feelings. This opens the door to positive conversations about self-esteem and their identity, which can help with early intervention to preserve teen health.

Social media is an important tool in teens’ lives, but parents have to set healthy expectations and practices. Together we can prevent self-harm and suicide by spotting unrealistic images, setting social media boundaries, and investing in our personal relationships.

For more resources about responsible social media use for teens and children, check out Common Sense Media.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, please call the free and confidential National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK.

 

As a former Emmy-Award Winning News Anchor and over 10 years of experience in the news industry, Kristen prides herself on being able to tell great stories. As an expert in communications and mother of two, Kristen gives her tips and tricks.

 

Imagine this familiar scene: It’s dinner time and one (if not all) of your kids are refusing to eat the meal you’ve prepared—and refusing it loudly. Instead of throwing in the towel and dishing out “kid-friendly” foods (aka frozen, starchy, sugary stuff), consider a new angle. Dr. Dina Rose Ph.D., the author of It’s Not About the Broccoli, has created the Food Explorer Kit—a unique way to deal with picky eaters. From over 60 discovery activities to tasting spoons and a progress chart, there’s a ton of fun with food to be had! Keep reading to learn more.

What It Is

The Food Explorer Kit is a fun addition to Dr. Rose’s book, It’s Not About the Broccoli. As a sociologist, Dr. Rose digs deep into why kids develop particular food habits, and what parents are doing that might be counterintuitive. It’s about fixing habits, how to engage in open talk about food, and teaching moderation, among other subjects, with the end goal of helping kids develop a healthy relationship with food. “We keep talking about nutrition and tricking kids into eating when what we should be talking about is habits,” says Rose. And the Food Explorer Kit is the perfect tool to help make that happen.

How It Works

You’ll receive your Food Explorer Kit in a fun red lunch bag, with a discovery notebook for recording texture, taste, smell, sound, appearance and temperature. There’s also a lab tray, magnifying glass, descriptive word list, spoons and medicine dropper. Your exploring eaters can nibble, crumble, sniff, move, and chew on any food that might seem scary or too new, instead of being confronted with it at the dinner table. Then, after they record their findings in their discovery notebooks, they’ll be armed with what Rose calls “a database” of food information they can use to figure out what a food will be like before they taste it. Talk about a creative way to get kids to eat their greens (and reds, purples and yellows!). 

Where to Buy It

You can purchase Food Explorer Kit here, for $30

You can purchase It’s Not About the Broccoli here, for $13.60

— Gabby Cullen

 

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Feature photo: Nicole De Khors from Burst