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I Refuse to Let My Life Be Ruled by My Kids’ Extracurriculars

by Rachel Garlinghouse

My husband and I decided long ago that we wouldn’t let our lives be ruled by extracurriculars. Yet my four kids, who range in age from kindergartener to teen, still come home with plenty of flyers—and oh the e-mails we get—about “opportunities” to make their lives better. They will become smarter, more athletic, or more creative if we will simply pay (usually a hefty) fee and enroll them in adult-orchestrated activities.

These include sports, clubs, classes, organizations, and even junior committees. They can learn a new language, build robots, code, earn badges, and much more. There’s no shortage of possibilities when you live in suburbia—and parents take a lot of pride in rattling off how “busy” they are every single night of the week and all weekend long, too.

I have no doubt that each of these can teach kids valuable lessons and provide parents with some respite. Teamwork, for example, is best taught in a team (duh) environment. Many of these opportunities encourage kids to be more giving, patient, and open-minded. Of course, these traits are important—but let’s not pretend that the only way kids will grow up to be wholesome, respectful adults is if they are in nonstop extracurriculars.

Our decision to limit our children’s participation is based on our belief that our health should be our number one priority. We see family dinners, which have been proven to do wonders for mental health, as a time to catch up with one another, problem-solve, and enjoy a meal together. They don’t work out every night, but they do happen most evenings. Then there are the general benefits of downtime and a great night’s rest. Plus, every evening, we spend one-on-one time with our kids at bedtime: playing games, reading books, and talking.

We also want them to have the opportunity to simply be bored! Boredom fosters creativity—and kids (and adults) need time to just chill out and think. Because every waking minute of their day isn’t filled with activities, my kids actually have time to read a book, draw, build with Legos, or hang out with one another.

Related: Letting Your Kids Be Bored Is Actually Good for Them

That doesn’t mean we’re against them altogether. We attempt to strike a balance between not too much and not too little. We don’t have hard-and-fast rules about how many extracurriculars our kids can be in, though we tend to rotate based on interest. One of my kids loves basketball—a winter sport—whereas in spring, we prioritize track. My son’s martial arts takes place immediately after school, two days a week. My youngest, desperate to play soccer, took a short class over the summer.

Limiting their options just teaches them to prioritize: What do they truly want to do versus what’s sort-of-maybe interesting and fleeting? What needs to be an extracurricular, and what can be learned through a book, online class, or video? We encourage our kids to try new things, but we never push them to make a youth career out of one activity. Variety is the spice of life, right?

They’ve also learned to prioritize themselves, at times, and one another, at others. Sometimes their job is to show up to their sibling’s game and cheer them on. Each kid isn’t always the star of the show—an important lesson.

I’m also ever-mindful that enrolling kids in many extracurriculars, or even one, is steeped in privilege. After all, there’s the cost of signing up, plus transportation, time, and (almost always) extra gear or supplies they need to participate. It’s a suburban belief that “good kids” have enrichment activities, when, in truth, they’re for those who can afford it.

We have given ourselves parental permission to enjoy the time we have with our kids and not make extracurriculars the dictators of our lives. They can be absolutely wonderful, and if an activity is doable and affordable, we say “yes.” But there are plenty of reasons to say no to overscheduling our family. Extracurriculars are just that: extra. They should be bonuses, not obligations.

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Why Alone Time Matters & How to Encourage It for Your Toddler

by Melissa Heckscher

I have a video of my two-year-old daughter sitting quietly in the middle of a tornado. Not a real tornado, of course. Just the whirling, noisy storm of her two older brothers literally running in circles around her. In that moment, she is sitting on the floor rocking a baby doll while her brothers bounce around the room like pinballs. While they’re shrieking and giggling, jumping from couch to floor and back again, she is singing a lullaby nobody can hear—as if she and her doll are in a quiet place somewhere far, far away.

I watch it now and say a silent thank you. Because—while it may have taken me three kids to get there—it was in that moment that I knew I had a child who is happy just playing by herself.

And that matters. Experts say solo play or “independent play” not only helps children build confidence in themselves; it also helps inspire creativity, build focus, nurture problem-solving skills, and inspire trust—both in themselves and in their relationship with their parents.

Then of course there’s the (very important) fact that alone time for the child gives parents a little time to themselves, too. “It does give parents a break,” said Bryana Kappadakunnel, a Los Angeles-based LMFT and founder of Conscious Mommy, which offers coaching and workshops for parents of young children. “If a child knows how to play independently and doesn’t require the parent to engage or entertain them, it makes things like preparing dinner much easier.”

So where do you start? How can you turn your wiggly, codependent toddler into a self-sufficient kid who’s happy to play alone? I asked some experts and am sharing my own experiences to give you some suggestions.

 

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Start by doing solo time with your child

Sure, we all want to have children who can let us go to the bathroom without knocking incessantly at the door because they need us right now (just saying). But that doesn’t mean we can send our unsuspecting two-year-olds to their rooms and expect the magic to happen.

Start by setting up a space that invites them in: Put some paper and crayons on the kitchen table while you’re cooking dinner; set up a playdough station; put a box of Magna-Tiles on the living room floor. Or, says Amy Carney, author of Parent On Purpose: Raising Thoughtful Children in a Complicated World, set up a “boredom box” with age-appropriate items that spark creative play in your child. For this, Carney recommends small items like art supplies, trinkets, toys from birthday party bags, figurines, slime, or putty.

Related: 22 Genius Amazon Finds That’ll Keep the Kids Busy

“Narrate” your child’s play

Want to make your toddlers feel good about playing by themselves? Sit nearby and “narrate.” This means just acknowledging what your child is doing, i.e. “You are building a really high tower!” or “You’re really being caring to your baby doll.” Doing this builds children’s confidence about what they’re doing.

By the same token, avoid correcting your child or trying to make it a teaching moment—don’t quiz them about colors or ask them to count the blocks in their hands. After all, this is play; not school.

And, replace your instinct to correct with curiosity: for example, if your child is using stacking blocks for all-things-NOT stacking (hey, they make fun hats!), say something like, “Hmm you seem to have found a new way to play with that toy.”

Finally: Don’t ask questions, which Kappadakunnel said can be distracting to the child. Just watch and narrate. Imagine that you’re a nature photographer and just observe the child in her “natural habitat.” (They’re interesting creatures, those kiddos!)

Don’t overload the space

Apparently, your child doesn’t need a lot of toys. A 2017 study from the University of Toledo in Ohio suggested that an environment with fewer toys is better for toddlers and that too many toys actually decrease the “quality of play.” It becomes overwhelming for the child. For each play session, just a handful of toys is enough.

Start by putting out a few toys and telling your child that you’re going to watch them play and that they can show you how the toys work. Let your kid get busy, and just be there to watch (if they ask you to play, tell them it is their time to show you or to play on their own—but that you’re there to see all they can do!). Then, once they are used to playing without you as a playmate, you can try putting the toys down and walking to another room (or another part of the room where you can do something else independently of your child).

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The kind of toy matters

They say “the more a toy does, the less your child does.” So choose simple toys that inspire open-ended play. Some good examples are:

  • Magna-Tiles
  • Blocks
  • Pretend play items (a kitchen, tools, etc.)
  • Baby dolls or a dollhouse
  • Simple instruments
  • Sensory play (playdough, clay, slime, etc.)

And don’t tell your child how to use the toy. Let them explore it for themselves. There is no WRONG way to play with a toy (unless it puts the child is in danger, of course).

Note: Avoid toys with screens or sounds—and don’t use toys that are meant to “teach” (like toys that claim to teach ABCs or colors). Toys that teach have their place, experts say, but when it comes to solo play, open-ended toys are best because they inspire creativity and free thought, and allow the child to lead the way.

“If we can take the pressure off of play to be academic and instead see the learning in play associated with how a child learns to regulate their body, how a child learns to interact with others, how a child learns to occupy themselves—play then becomes this rich, wonderful work that is fascinating,” Kappadakunnel said.

Related: 11 Toys That Foster Independent Play (& Will Gift You a Few Minutes to Yourself)

If your child is resistant to solo play, ask, “Have I been available?”

Does your child fight you when you try to get them to “go play”? Kappadakunnel said maybe your child just needs more of you, first.

Ask yourself: Have you been available to your child lately? If the answer is no, then figure out how you can change that. It doesn’t have to be much: Even 10 to 15 minutes of scheduled “special time” a day does wonders for kids. Just set a timer and sit down on the floor with your child. It may seem like a blip to you, but those 10 minutes can really make a difference—for both of you.

Remember that screens don’t count as “alone time”

While an older child might prefer to spend every moment of her alone time on an iPad or video game console, kids need to make time for more productive time alone. That means, maybe, instead of turning on cartoons first thing in the morning, put down some novel toys and ask your child to make something of them. It may be a hard shift at first, but beginning the day with play is a good way to start!

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Now is as good a time as any

Whether you’ve got toddlers as clingy as koala bears or older kids who still consider you Playmate No. 1, it’s never too late to start encouraging a little solo time. For toddlers, having “Alone Time” bursts once or twice a week is a good place to start. You can also lead by example, scheduling time for yourself as often as you can and sharing your feelings about it with your kids.

And don’t forget about YOU. We all know you need some of that precious me-time, too. So make yourself a model: If they see how happy you are doing something for yourself, by yourself (arts & crafts, taking a walk, reading quietly), maybe they’ll start to crave those same sorts of experiences, too. Remember: You can lead the way.

Read books that celebrate being alone

Books are a good way to teach young children—especially when it means they get some quality time with you. Try reading these books to get your kiddos craving solo play:

Leave Me Alone by Vera Brosgol
My Very Own Space, by Pippa Goodhart
Charlotte The Scientist Is Squished, by Camille Andros

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We’re Here to Help You Find a Mother’s Helper & Save Your Summer

by Kate Cartia

We’re here to help you find mother’s helpers near you

As a working or busy mom (let’s be real: all moms are working and busy!), life can often be a juggling act of managing work, home, and kids. Especially during school breaks when our schedules are turned upside down (looking at you, summer). Trying to do it all can be overwhelming and exhausting. We get it. Every day, there’s at least a moment or two where we wish there were two of us. That’s where a mother’s helper comes in. A mother’s helper is a fantastic resource for any parent who needs an extra set of hands around the house. Whether you’re a stay-at-home mom who needs a break, a working mom who needs help with the kids, or a single mom who needs some extra support, a mother’s helper provides a winning solution.

If you’re looking for a mother’s helper for the spring and summer months,  ZipRecruiter can be an excellent option. You just have to create an account and post your job listing with information about duties, hours, and compensation that you plan to offer. Once your listing is live, you will be able to review applications and contact prospective candidates for interviews. We’re here to break it all down for you so you can spend less time looking for help and more time getting it! Here’s exactly how to find a mother’s helper near you.

Create a Job Posting

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ZipRecruiter is about to become your new best friend here. Using the job posting page, creating one is super easy. A few tips? Be sure to include key details about what you're looking for in a helper, such as availability, responsibilities, and qualifications. Here's a quick example:

Job Title: Part-Time Helper Needed

We are seeking a reliable and responsible part-time helper to assist us with various tasks around our home. Our ideal candidate would be available to work approximately 10-15 hours per week, with a flexible schedule to accommodate our needs.

Responsibilities:

  • Cleaning and organizing various rooms in the house
  • Laundry and general household chores
  • Running errands, such as grocery shopping or picking up dry cleaning
  • Assisting with meal preparation and cooking
  • Childcare for our two school-aged children

Qualifications:

  • Previous experience in a similar role
  • Excellent time management and organizational skills
  • Detail-oriented and thorough
  • Familiarity with basic cleaning and household maintenance tasks
  • Ability to work independently with minimal supervision
  • Comfortable working around children
  • Must have reliable transportation

We are looking for someone who is trustworthy, dependable, and has a positive attitude. If you meet the qualifications and are interested in this opportunity, please submit your resume and cover letter for consideration. Thank you for your interest in our position!

Narrow it Down

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This may seem obvious, but depending on the number of interested people who apply to your job posting, it can be easy to get overwhelmed. It's also totally normal to want to give everyone a chance, but we really encourage you to remember that only focusing on those candidates who have skills and experience that closely match what you're looking for not only saves you time, it also doesn't take time away from jobseekers who aren't a fit for you!

Check Out Your Applicants

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Take the time to review each candidate's profile and messages before making a decision. We know you're already super busy, but you definitely want to be as thorough as possible here!  You can also request additional information from candidates, such as references or a resume.

When reviewing a candidate's profile, check out their education, work experience, skills, and any relevant certifications or awards they may have earned. Look for consistency in their work history and pay attention to any gaps in employment or frequent job changes. Gaps don't mean a negative right off the bat, of course, but it's worth getting more info!

When you're reviewing messages or emails, pay attention to the tone and professionalism of the candidate's communication. Are they responsive and timely in their replies? Is their grammar and spelling correct? Are they respectful in their language and approach?

If you have any doubts or questions about a candidate, don't hesitate to request additional information. This can include references from previous employers or coworkers, and more details about the information on their resume or application. 

Ultimately, you want to ask yourself: Is this someone I want in my home, around my kids, and regularly in my family's life?

Ready to Make Some Decisions?

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As a mom, there's a good chance you won't have the time to meet every prospective candidate in person to chat. We suggest setting up phone screenings where you spend 10-15 minutes getting a feel for the people who you're considering before committing to a sit-down formal interview. Usually, phone screenings include giving a brief overview of the position, getting some quick details from your candidate, confirming pay expectations, and allowing for a few minutes of additional questions.

From there, you'll be able to only schedule longer interviews with those people you feel are truly strong possibilities. Remember, you're hiring a mother's helper because you need, well, help, so this is the perfect opportunity to manage your time and avoid wasting it on folks who really aren't a strong fit.

If the idea of summer break is completely overwhelming, there are lots of different ideas to keep everyone happy and having fun (camps, cool online classes for kids, crafts, projects, and more!). Hiring a mother’s helper is just one option, but it’s definitely one that can make your summer more about creating memories and less about turning your schedule upside down!

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Shop Local: 19 Women-Owned Businesses in Seattle

by Allison Sutcliffe

Whether you’re looking for a good book, a fantastic workout, or a way to reduce waste, make an impact when you shop at one of our favorite local spots

When it comes to innovative ideas, practical products and community-minded missions, you can count on these Seattle-area, women-owned businesses to get the job done. And as far as we’re concerned, there’s no better time to support these enterprising local go-getters than during Women’s History Month. Whether you’re looking for a good book, a fantastic workout or a way to reduce waste, you can make an impact when you shop at one of our favorite spots.

Brick & Mortar Shops We Love

Noir Luxe Candle Co.

Belltown is where you'll find this hot new shop that opened in mid-February. Owner and mom to two kiddos, Colina Bruce started making candles as gifts and party favors for friends. In a short time, she turned her kitchen side hustle into a successful online business, and is excited to bring her soy-based, wood wick candles to her new candle bar. Bruce's candle scents are rooted in nostalgia, self care and good vibes, carefully blended in small batches.

While the new candle bar is a great spot for gal pal get togethers, it's also a new take on a family activity. Pouring sessions are held three to five times daily during business hours, and you're welcome to try you luck as a walk-in or make a reservation online to guarantee your spot. After you arrive, it's time to pick your vessel and your fragrances. There are over 50 scents to choose from. Bruce recommends blending up to three in a single candle. The whole process takes about 45 minutes from start to finish. If you've got an event coming up in the future (think: birthday bash or baby shower), the space is available to rent, with or without a pouring session.

Insider tip: Future store pop-ups featuring local BIPOC-owned small businesses are on the horizon.

3020 Warren Pl.
Seattle, WA
Online: noirluxcandleco.com

Mimi's Zero Waste Market

Saving the planet just got a little easier, thanks to Mimi's Zero Waste Market, Seattle's newest bulk and plastic-free shopping experience. The store opened in October 2021 by Seattle mom Heather and her daughter Berenice, and it's made its mark in just five short months. Heather estimates they've saved 740 potential single use containers from going into the waterways and trash. Not bad for a shop that started as a hobby during the pandemic. The store is stocked with sustainable household products and all kinds of organic bulk pantry staples you need to cook, bake and create in the kitchen. To shop here, all you need to bring are clean containers (think: mason jars, steel canisters, even reusable takeout containers) and your shopping list. Don't have any? Not to worry, you can purchase what you need at the store.

Pro tip: If you're not sure where to start, but you know you're ready to dive in to the zero waste waters, Heather suggests starting simple and small. For example, eliminating plastic containers full of products that are mostly water (like liquid laundry detergent) is a good place to start. Consider replacing your usual with a powder or concentrated form instead.

7749 15th Ave. N.W., Unit B
Seattle, WA
Online: mimiszerowastemarket.com

Three Trees Books

If a new book is what you need, head to this woman-owned Burien bookstore that just celebrated its third year in business. It's an old-school book shop that's all about community, from the free lending library you'll find on-site to the secret books they hide in Free Little Libraries around the city (psst..they're usually wrapped in brown paper packaging with colorful bakers twine). You'll find a diverse selection of kid's books here alongside playful gifts. And the staff is always ready to help with suggestions when you need them.

2118 S.W. 152nd St.
Seahurst, WA
Online: threetreesbooks.com

Marination Ma Kai

Marination Ma Kai has long been one of our favorite spots to dine outdoors in Seattle. What started as a food truck has grown into a brick and mortar with three Seattle locations. If you haven't been, it's time to check out this woman-owned, laidback restaurant perched on West Seattle’s shore that boasts unparalleled views of the city skyline. The menu plays with Korean Hawaiian Asian fusion food. Tacos are a popular choice, though the fish and chips (only available at this location) are another reliable favorite. Kids may enjoy the salty Spam musubi, the perfect precursor to the syrupy Hawaiian shave ice for dessert (psst..they make it boozy too). Board the water taxi from downtown for a door-to-door adventure.

Insider tip: Count on the line being out the door on summer weekends. Visit mid-week or when the weather isn't so inviting for faster service with the same amazing views.

1660 Harbor Ave. S.W.
Seattle, WA
Online: marinationmobile.com

Macadons

Macadons owner Donna Chen spent a year perfecting her macarons, but it wasn't until she leaned in and embraced her heritage that she was able to break through. She found that by adding unique, Asian-inspired flavors like taro, durian, lychee and green tea to her delicate macarons, she created something different. Now you'll find all kinds of inventive flavors. many with intriguing printed pictures on them, at the flagship store in White Center. They come in all shapes and sizes; some are even filled with ice cream. Speaking of ice cream, Macadon's is hard to beat. It makes a great base for dunking delicate cookies, or so we're told.

9828 16th Ave. S.W.
Seattle, WA
Online: seattle.macadons.com

The Barre

Belly up to the barre for fitness, friendship and fun. The Barre, a Mill Creek-based fitness studio and lounge, promotes overall wellbeing by encouraging community and emphasizing physical and mental health. This boutique studio specializes in barre and cycle classes, but also offers yoga and TRX taught by instructors with extensive experience. Each instructor puts their own spin on the class, so you’re guaranteed a great workout every time. What sets The Barre apart from other fitness facilities? Its lounge. The Barre hosts happy hours, coffee dates, small business shopping events and more. Their lounge and peaceful outdoor patio space are also available to rent for your next event.

16709 9th Ave. S.E., Ste. B
Mill Creek, WA
Online: thebarremillcreek.com

Spruce Apothecary

Spruce Apothecary is a skincare studio that focuses on clean and effective beauty products, holistic wellness and sustainable lifestyle goods. Book a service including facials, waxing, sugaring and more or check out their many product lines. Located in West Seattle, this studio supports small businesses who prioritize protecting the environment and creating sustainable goods. Spruce Apothecary sources non-toxic products created from ingredients that are healthy for our bodies and our planet. Spruce Apothecary prioritizes women-owned, BIPOC-owned and queer-owned product lines.

4156 California Ave. S.W.
Seattle, WA 
Online: spruceapothecary.co

Jenny Cookies

From a blog to a nationally recognized brand, Jenny Cookies has grown from a small operation to serving up deliciousness at two brick-and-mortar locations in Lake Stevens and Alderwood Mall. Jenny Cookies specializes in creative and delicious desserts for any occasion. From crispy cubes to classic cookies, cupcakes to frosted sugar cookies, Jenny Cookies has something for every sweet too. Themes and flavors change periodically, so visit often. Don’t forget to pick up some of their must-have merch. As far as we're concerned, everyone needs to sport an “Eat Cookies, Be Happy” sweatshirt. Jenny Cookies also offers pre-orders for pick up and ships some products across the country.

Alderwood Mall
3000 184th St. S.W.
Lynnwood, WA

Lake Stevens Bakeshop
12420 20th St. N.E.
Lake Stevens, WA
Online: jennycookiesbakeshop.com

SpoonFed Training

Former track and field athlete and American Ninja Warrior contestant, LaTaunya Witherspoon, opened SpoonFed Training to provide a friendly, non-intimidating environment for health seekers to achieve their goals. Trainers at this Renton-based gym work with people to help them reach their goals, providing support and accountability along the way. SpoonFed Training offers a variety of class formats, including cardio boxing, speed and agility training and live virtual classes. With over 14 years of experience in fitness and sports, Witherspoon has a natural passion for supporting and encouraging others on their health and wellness journey.

2000 Benson Rd. S., #183
Renton, WA
Online: spoonfedtraining.com

Find What You Need Online

Sproutable

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For parents with Littles, Sproutable has long been a reliable resource that's helped get them through the most challenging stages (we're looking at you, threenagers) with a level head and practical skills. And as of last month, they're offering the same positive parenting approach to parents with middle and high school aged kids. In February, Sproutable merged with the adolescent parenting company, Joyful Courage. Now these three founding women are bringing their expertise and tips to Seattle parents through online courses, videos, podcasts and more so you can be the best parent for your kiddo, no matter what their age or stage. 

Online: besproutable.com

SimplyFun

If you're looking to game on with your kids, there's no better spot to find a fresh, new game than Bellevue-based SimplyFun. Guided by President and CEO, Patty Pearcy, the company publishes award-winning educational games for kids ages 3 and up. To find a just-right game for your kiddos, start with one of the four learning categories: Life and Thinking Skills, Reading and Language Arts, Social Sciences and Studies or Math and STEM. Then it's as easy as finding a game that piques your interest. The company's latest game, SavannaScapes explores the biodiversity of the Serengeti-Mara in a wildly entertaining way. 

Online: simplyfun.com

Ember Community Kits

Born in 2020 in the middle of the COVID pandemic, Ember Community Kits' goal is to build strong communities. These kits are on a two-fold mission: to support local businesses and makers and to spread joy and cheer throughout Seattle when people receive their kit. Choose from a variety of kits including housewarming essentials, pantry staples, ultimate ice cream sundae toppings and self-care. Send to a friend’s front door (Seattle deliveries are free, but they also ship anywhere in the United States) or treat yourself. Most products are hyper-local to Seattle, and the handmade kits include a write-up of products and a little introduction to the business. Ember Community Kits are a fantastic way to get to know Seattle-area makers, while receiving high-quality products and gifts. Bonus: partial proceeds from each kit sold are donated to a local organization in need.

Online: embercommunitykits.com

Elementary Innovators

Through birthday parties and at-home makerspace kits, Elementary Innovators encourages exploring, learning and sharing through hands-on projects. As a former teacher, owner Angie O’Malley is passionate about teaching kids to be creative and fearless when learning something new. Creating a collaborative environment for kids to play, discover, and of course have fun, is the primary goal of each event (whether it’s in-person or virtual). Elementary Innovators presents Science, Technology, Engineering, Art, and Math (STEAM) principles in an engaging platform that fosters confidence and a sense of accomplishment.

Online: elementaryinnovators.com

Swoop Bag

Inspired by her grandmother and her kids' obsessions with LEGOs, Seattle mom Sarah Kirk released the Swoop Bag over ten years ago, and it's been a parent favorite ever since. This LEGO storage bag's brilliance is in its simplicity. Kids can easily clean up what feels like an entire swimming pool's worth of LEGOs by gathering them onto the bag and then "swooping" them up. We're pretty sure even toddlers can handle this one. All of the bags are made right here in Seattle and can help kids (and parents!) store all kinds of odds and ends using these colorful, durable pouches.

Online: swoopbags.com

L'Avant Collective

If you have little ones around, there is one thing you are guaranteed to be doing often: cleaning up after them! L’Avant Collective, founded by two local moms, realized the struggle is real and a solution was born. L’Avant Collection cleaning products are non-toxic, plant-based and highly effective. The products are sustainably-sourced and packaged in subtle, stylish, refillable bottles. Products are sold individually or bundled together. Order the Discovery Bundle to get a taste of everything. L’Avant Collective also offers a CLEAN subscription program. Your favorite products, like dish soap and multipurpose cleaner will be delivered to your door at the frequency you need. Bonus: subscription members receive a 15 percent discount.

Online: lavantcollective.com

Product of the North

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Product of the North

What's the one parent product you can't live without? If your diaper bag is the first thing that popped into your mind, we're right there with you. We're crushing on the functional, hands-free Elkin diaper bag from Product of the North. The bags are made with sustainability in mind from recycled water bottles, and their gender-neutral colors go with whatever spit-up stained top you (or your better half) happen to be wearing. Plus, the easily-cleaned lining means you don't have to worry about spills when they happen. Our favorite part? That the bag's neutral design allows it to be used as an everyday backpack once you're past those basic baby stages.

Online: productofthenorth.com

Useful Subscription Boxes

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baby doc box

Years of experience as a pediatrician led Alison Scott to launch babydocbox in 2020. It’s a thoughtfully curated subscription box that puts a pediatrician’s expertise at parents’ fingertips. Each themed box focuses on a different first-year developmental milestone, like sleep, feeding or illness. The boxes are filled with high-quality, safe, practical and fun products from local small businesses (and a few big ones too), alongside practical tips and advice straight from the pediatrician’s mouth. There’s a little something for moms in there too. (As a doctor, Scott realizes the seriousness of postpartum depression and includes postpartum resources and information in each box.) A year’s subscription includes six boxes, but parents can jump in any time during those first twelve months to get in on the action.

Online: babydocbox.com

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Mother Snacker

Every mom needs a “sweet” break from the chaos of motherhood. Mother Snacker is a dessert gift and subscription box made exclusively for moms by Bothell mom, Leah Brushett. Each box is filled with decadent sweets, self-care products and more, sourced from female-founded companies and socially-responsible brands. Choose from a one-time gift or start a subscription for a well-loved mom in your life. Mother Snacker can accommodate allergies and dietary needs. Moms have one of the toughest jobs on the planet and they all deserve some pampering!

Online: mothersnacker.com

Outside the Box Creation

Share the love of art with a child in your life. Outside the Box Creation provides kid art subscription boxes. No prior art experience or talent needed–just a love of creating and a great imagination. Purchase a month-to-month subscription or a one-time box. All you need is scissors and a pencil and your box will come with everything else you need. This Langley-based company values creativity through art expression and memory-making experiences. Outside the Box Creation actively gives back to the community by donating boxes and art supplies to local non-profit organizations. Boxes are filled with quality, non-toxic products that are sustainably-sourced and eco-friendly. Create a masterpiece and some memories with a kid art box.

Online: outsidetheboxcreation.com

—additional reporting from Abbey McGee

 

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28 Black Owned Businesses in the Bay Area to Support Now & Always

by Christine Lai

Support our Black community and snag a slice of pizza, get a haircut or satisfy your soul food longing today

During the month of February, we celebrate Black History Month and one way to do so is by getting in the habit of shopping and supporting Black-owned Bay Area businesses. From pilates classes and bookstores to pie and coffee, you’ll find a slew of businesses below that your family will love. So go buy yourself a sweet treat, purchase a few gift cards, and support these businesses now and always.

 

Black Owned Bookstores in San Francisco

Multicultural Bookstore
Walk into Tamara Shiloh’s store and you will be transported to a world of multicultural books including sections on LGBTQ, disabilities, and biracial families—everything one could want to teach and learn about diversity and inclusion. 

Marcus Books
The oldest, independent Black bookstore in the country, Oakland’s Marcus Bookstore is over 60 years old and proudly carries books by and about Black people.

Must-Shop Black Owned Shops in the Bay Area

Cincha 
Stylish yet practical, Cincha is a travel belt that secures personal bags and coats to your luggage leaving your hands free to hold on to more important things... like little hands. Every purchase means 100 airline miles is donated to the nonprofit Miles4Migrants, which helps to reconnect migrant families. 

Taylor Jay’s
With the approach that “We Are Every Woman”, this Oakland-based clothing collection prides itself on inclusivity and sustainability for clothing that will not only last a lifetime but look and feel incredible.  

Beija-Flor Naturals
Using fair trade and organic botanical ingredients from Brazil, founder Stevonne Ratliff began crafting skin products to treat her own skin hyper and hypopigmentation. Years later and with stores in Oakland and San Francisco, Beija-Flor carries a full product line for face, hair, and body. 

Iyoba
Born out of a desire to relieve her son’s eczema using natural products, Oakland mom Efiya created what is now her famous artisan soap. Today, she handcrafts organic, natural hair, body, and home products, all of which are paraben, synthetic fragrance, and sulfate free.

Blk Girls Green House
This lovely open-air plant and home goods store is also a community space but currently accepting shopping by appointment only.

Oakland’s Own
Every purchase from this store means an investment back into the Oakland community through youth empowerment, mentoring services, and community programs.

 

Black Owned Restaurants in the Bay Area

Nabolom Bakery & Pizzeria
Since 1976, this family-friendly restaurant has been serving up one-of-a-kind sauce and meat free pizzas on a thin, sourdough crust. Try their take-and-bake pizza and finish baking at home for the irresistible smell to fill up your kitchen. 

Jackie’s
Looking for the Bay area’s best fried chicken and soul food? Look no further. Originally from Texas, Jackie pays homage to the Lone Star state with customer favorites such as Uncle Greg’s ribs and JP’s Chicken & Waffles served up in true Texan style... HUGE.

Z Zoul Cafe
When owners Aref and Dalia and their four children immigrated to San Francisco in 2016, they discovered no authentic Sudanese restaurants in the city. Using generations-old and passed-down family recipes, Z Zoul Cafe was born—be sure to try Dalia’s famous rice pudding. 

Sonoma Crust
Every item is made from scratch with Chef Anne’s vision to be a “flavor pusher”. Waffle sandwiches and chicken tenders are the name of the game here to be washed down with multiple options of iced tea but leave room for the beignets!    

MB’s Place
Award-winning “3 Way” Chili awaits you at MB’s place along with filet mignon burgers and smoked chicken meatball sandwiches—is your mouth watering yet?!

Tastebuds
San Francisco natives Melvin and Helen Simmons’ cafe serves up soul food in this family-owned restaurant where chicken and waffles and southern shrimp and grits will have your tastebuds begging for more! 

Black Owned Dessert & Coffee Shops in the Bay Area

The Giving Pies
Not only does this business make some of the best pies in town (they even come in TINY sizes!), but they also contribute a portion of their profits to E-Sports, a program that partners typical and special needs kids in athletic capacities. 

DeeLee Cakes
The inspiration behind Chef DeReath Times’ creations comes from the memory of her Grandma and a heavy dose of her secret family ingredient… love. Her cinnamon rolls and sweet potato pound cake will blow your socks off!

Yvonne’s Southern Sweets
Yvonne started out by sharing praline treats with friends and co-workers and expanded to cakes, cookies, and pies which led to a contract with Super Bowl 50, and is currently a vendor for the Chase center. 

Sextant Coffee Roasters
Partnering with farms in Ethiopia, Kenya and Colombia, first-generation Ethiopian founder Kinani Ahmed brings the best coffee beans from Africa to San Francisco.

James and the Giant Cupcake 
Using fresh and sustainable ingredients from farmers’ markets, Eurydice Manning’s custom cupcakes and cakes are all the rage at three locations in the Oakland area. 

Rasa Cafe
Rasa in Sanskrit means "flavor" and this cafe uniquely blends influences from Africa with India in their coffee and tea menu—try the award-winning Rose latte! 

Pietisserie
Pietisserie focuses on one thing and one thing alone: PIES. With fifteen toothsome pies to choose from, your dilemma comes down to this: key lime pie or black bottom walnut pie?!

Super Juiced
A queer- and Black-owned smoothie and acai bowl shop, the menu at Super Juiced is seasonal and draws organic ingredients from small, local farms. All their nut milks are made in-house making this the place to go for a delicious (and nutritious) snack in Oakland.  

 

Black Owned Services We Love in the Bay Area

Kutz and Colors Barbershop & Hair Salon
When not delivering quality haircuts, owner “KC” is a basketball coach for at-risk youth and is in the process of fundraising for a community sports complex for all to play safely in.

The Pilates School SF
With a goal of creating strong and balanced bodies, co-owners Ray and Rae started this school to make affordable, quality classical pilates accessible for everyBODY. 

Megah Brown’s
Skilled at cutting any type of hair, talented barber Damion Hunter commands a cult-like following of customers in his store with his casual, relaxed atmosphere and easy conversation. Bonus: he’s great with kids, too! 

Strictly Braids
Beyond a braid salon, owner Ninja also offers classes on braiding so everyone can learn intricate hair braiding. 

Bikes4Life
Offering repairs and sales, Bikes 4 Life is the only Black-owned bike shop in Oakland and has been around for ten years serving the community. 

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