New Year’s Eve hits different when you’re a mom. We may not be able to stay up until midnight on New Year’s Eve to party and watch the ball drop, but we are serious about keeping our New Year’s resolutions. Here are five #newmom resolutions for the new year—and clutch advice to help you stick to those goals.

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1. The Resolution: Be Present
Spending hours scrolling mindlessly through your social media is so last year. Be more present with the tiny people who need you and adore you. Put down your phone and play peekaboo, blow raspberries, talk and coo to your baby, and play games with the older kids. You will catch all sorts of firsts and milestones, as well as smiles and giggles.

How to Make It Happen: Worried the electronic force is too strong? Allow yourself phone check-in points throughout the day, but only after you've spent quality time with your little one(s). Set a timer for each scrolling sesh to keep yourself from getting sucked into the Internet too deep. Also, make use of your phone's do-not-disturb feature to silence notifications so you won't get distracted.

2. The Resolution: Get Enough Sleep
Getting enough rest (is that even a thing?) is crucial for physical and mental health, especially when you're a new mom. But how? And when? Sleep when the baby sleeps, we're told. Easy to say but tough to do.

How to Make It Happen: As the primary life source for a tiny human, the idea of getting 8 hours of sleep every night probably sounds like a crazy dream. (If you slept long enough to have dreams, that is.) When babies are little, it's important to go for quality over quantity. Create a space that's conducive to rest, just as you've done for your baby: Invest in blackout curtains; keep your room a comfortable temperature (60-67 is optimal); spritz sheets with lavender linen spray; and, most importantly, make your phone off-limits at least two hours before bedtime. Use that phone-free time to wind down—brew a cup of caffeine-free tea, catch up on a favorite book, or soak in the tub.

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3. The Resolution: Leave the House Alone
It’s easy to turn into a mama kangaroo and keep that little one attached to you 24/7. But absence can make your mother’s heart grow fonder—and give you a chance to feel like a human again, even if it’s only for a couple of hours. One night a month (or whatever schedule works for your life), plan to slip on something pretty, head out with your partner or friends, and linger over dinner and drinks.

How to Make It Happen: Book a sitter for a standing Saturday night once a month for the rest of the year. Or take turns with your partner so you can each go out with friends. Scheduling in advance will help you stick to your resolution, especially on those nights when you feel like crawling into your pajamas and collapsing onto the couch. (Don’t worry: You can do that all the other nights of the month.)

4. The Resolution: Shower Every Day
You know that amazing just-stepped-out-of-the-shower feeling of clean? The one you felt a few days ago? How amazing would life be if you could experience the renewing power of a hot shower every single day? (Answer: Pretty darn amazing.)

How to Make It Happen: Make your baby part of the act by pulling a bouncy seat or exersaucer into the bathroom or laying out a cushy baby blanket on the floor with a few toys. If baby starts to fuss, sing your baby's favorite songs to keep your little one entertained and scrub on.

 

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5. The Resolution: Treat Yourself Right
Self-care. We hear it all the time for good reason: You need to love yourself well so you can love those around you well, including your tiny human. If you're going to keep one resolution this year, make it this one.

How to Make It Happen: Expand your definition of self-care. Sure, it can mean indulging in candle-lit bubble baths and chocolate, but real self-care includes opting for carrot sticks instead of potato chips, going to sleep instead of staying up too late watching TV, or doing that 20-minute workout when you’d so much rather chill with a cup of coffee. Those are the little changes that will help you be the best mom and the best you all year long.

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One thing that’s universal in parenting, especially in the earliest days, is the need to keep an eye on your little one. Whether you’re trying to squeeze in some me-time (or a snooze yourself!) while the baby is napping or need to keep a watchful eye on an adventurous toddler trying to climb out of their crib, a baby monitor is essential for being able to look in on the kids without disturbing them.

Parent-favorite baby monitor brand, Infant Optics, has a new model that is up for the challenge of growing with your kids and your needs as a parent. The new DXR-8 PRO from Infant Optics has upgrades from the previous DXR-8 model fueled by feedback from parents.

One of the most prominent feature upgrades, and a first for baby monitors, is their new Active Noise Reduction (or ANR) technology which, when enabled, reduces background noises like fans and air conditioners so your child can be heard more clearly.

It is also a non-WiFi, closed-loop system, providing a sense of security and privacy for parents. There’s aren’t any apps to download and the system is expandable to use up to four cameras paired with the display.

The DXR-8 PRO includes a large 5-inch display (up from 3.5-inches on the previous model) with 720P HD video resolution. The unit also comes with a zoom lens included which is interchangeable with a wide-angle lens (sold separately) giving parents the ability to use a lens that best fits their viewing needs in a particular space. This can be especially useful when traveling or using in different rooms for optimal viewing when paired with the pan, tilt and zoom features of the camera.

The video monitor is available at Target, Amazon & BuyBuy Baby for $199

––Jen Watro

All photos: Courtesy of Infant Optics

 

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There’s a difference between tattling and reporting. When kids understand the difference, they are more likely to report unsafe situations and real trouble.

Definitions: Snitching & Tattling vs. Reporting

Snitching or Tattling: Telling on someone to get that person in trouble.

Reporting: Telling a trusted adult to get help. Focused on keeping yourself and others safe.

The Difference Between Tattling & Reporting

In early elementary school, snitching or tattling is common as kids learn to navigate rules and social dynamics. In these situations, the “snitcher” is usually trying to get someone in trouble, control another, or avoid blame. Often, no one is in danger of being physically hurt, and the situation could be solved without adult intervention with some conflict resolution skills.

By middle school, snitching has become socially unacceptable. Because of this stigma, older students may be afraid to report real trouble. Fear of being seen as a snitch peaks just as dangerous and inappropriate behaviors (bullying, sexual harassment, and threats of violence) are on the rise.

When Kids Understand the Difference, Schools are Safer

When kids understand the difference between snitching and reporting it helps them feel safe to report. This requires regular discussions at home and at school about what types of situations need to be reported. It’s also important to have a safe, confidential way for students to share, like Safe2Tell.org. This service allows students, families, and community members to report concerns or threats anonymously.

In today’s world, all of us need to look out for each other. These efforts go a long way in helping our kids feel safe as well.

This post originally appeared on JessicaSpeer.com

Jessica Speer is the author of BFF or NRF (Not Really Friends)? Girls Guide to Happy Friendships. Combining humor, the voices of kids, and research-based explanations, Jessica unpacks topics in ways that connect with tweens and teens. She’s the mother of two and has a Master’s Degree in Social Sciences.    

Welcome 2021, with the Chinese New Year celebrating the Year of the Ox! May this year be more auspicious! For celebrating in a joyful way each day at lunchtime, discover below our Chinese New Year bento lunchbox ideas!

1. Bye Lunchbox Note, Hi Fortune Card! As the celebrations last up to 16 days (Chinese New Year, with Spring Festival, officially begins on February 12th, 2021, and ends on February 22nd, then you have the Lantern Festival held on February 26th), insert one fortune card each day in the lunch bag!

2. Fortune Cookies​ With fun and positive messages inside, these fresh and tasty fortune cookies will make lunch yummy and fun for sure! Definitely what we need these days!

3. Cute Chinese Red Envelopes Chinese Hong Bao, the red envelopes, are believed to bring good luck to the person who receives them. They are traditionally filled with money, but you could slip in a fortune card or chocolate gold coins for a lucky bento lunchbox! With the year of the Ox, let the auspicious care for you, let happiness smile forever! 72 Traditional and Fun Chinese New Year Red Envelopes, $12.99, Amazon 72 Elegant and Meaningful Chinese New Year Red Envelopes, $11.99, Amazon 12 Cute Kid-Friendly Chinese New Year Red Envelopes, $10.99, Amazon

4. Lunar New Year Chocolate Coins​ These good luck red and good fortune gold foiled Belgian chocolate Coins are perfect to place in the lunchbox!

5. Year of the Ox Sticker Favors Not a fan of the chocolate coins? You can take the candies you like and place these Year of the Ox stickers on them. Or place two stickers at the top of a wooden toothpick and you get cool Chinese New Year food picks! That will do the trick to bring Chinese New Year vibes in the bento lunchbox!

6. Eco-Friendly Moo-rrific Water Bottle Hydration should be a good resolution everyone should take for 2021! This water bottle is just fantastic for celebrating the Year of the Ox, with water, juice, or… milk!

7. Moo-tastic Lunch Bags May these lovely lunch bags bring your peaceful, happy, yummy lunchtime all this year! We selected four designs we liked best (and it seems we’re not the only ones finding these lunch bags cute – they disappear fast!). Which one would you choose? Dabbawalla Kids’ Lunch Bag, $20, Amazon Lunch Bag Cow Print, $14.49, Amazon Cows & Flowers Lunch Bag, $17.98, Amazon Cute Cows Lunch Bag, $22.98, Amazon

8. Chinese New Year Lunchbox Ideas Discover Chinese New Year lunchbox ideas and more on Teuko.com! See the ingredients that the families of our lunchbox community used and recreate easily these yummy bento lunch box ideas! Bentovivlov’s lunchbox idea BentoBette’s fun lunch.

So, how do you plan to celebrate the Chinese New Year? Any other food idea, accessory, or tip you would like to share? Add them in the comments!

This post originally appeared on Teuko Blog.

Teuko is the first platform that empowers families to simplify lunch packing. Using Teuko, they can find and share kid-approved lunchbox ideas, recipes, and tips, all in one place. Teuko is transforming the lunch packing experience by boosting inspiration and motivation week after week. 

It’s resolution time, parents! And although saving the planet is a tall order as far as resolutions are concerned, working toward a sustainable environment doesn’t have to be overwhelming. So if you’re looking for simple and easy solutions to support sustainability in 2021, you’ve come to the right place. From kits that help reduce food waste to how to recycle everyday plastic waste, we’ve got what you need to make your New Year a bit green-er.

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Skip the Landfill

We’re all doing our best to reduce, reuse and recycle. But if you find yourself puzzling over what to do with broken toys, plastic food wrap and clothes that have holes, you’re not alone. Check out these services and resources that help keep items out of the landfill.

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When it comes to recycling, there’s only so much you can put in your big blue bin. That’s where Seattle-based Ridwell comes in. What started as a father-son quest to collect dead batteries for recycling has grown into an odds-and-ends recycle and reuse subscription service boasting over 15,000 customers in the Seattle area.

Ridwell collects everyday items like light bulbs, clothes, shoes and plastic film (think: cereal box liners, Ziploc baggies and that stack of Amazon bubble envelopes you’ve got sitting in garage) on a bi-monthly basis and delivers them to area recycling and reuse partners so you don’t have to. They also gather those really strange items you’re not quite sure what to do with, like eye glasses, pet items, Halloween candy and even Christmas lights—they designate one special item as their featured category each month. To date, Ridwell has collected more than one million pounds of trash that would have otherwise gone into landfills.

Online: ridwell.com

Allison Sutcliffe

Work the Web
What’s the old saying? One person’s junk is another’s treasure. Sometimes keeping things from the landfill is as easy as offering them up to others to use. Joining groups like Buy Nothing and Freecycle makes the reuse part of the three r’s a cinch. If you don’t have any takers, you can always see if local reuse art stores like Seattle ReCreative and Tinkertopia in Tacoma are collecting what you’re looking to offload. (Hint: they both love leftover art supplies, parents!)

Find a Fix-It Fair
Whether you’ve got a vacuum on the fritz, a chair that needs repair or you can’t darn a sock worth a darn, “fixers” at a Seattle or Tacoma area Fix-It-Fair can help. Simply bring small appliances, broken toys, tools, computers—you get the idea—and have a skilled “fixer” take a look. They’ll give it a once over, repair it if they can and offer helpful tips you can take home too. Although the pandemic has put these Fix-It-Fairs on hold, King County has plans to bring them back in some from or another in the near future. So don’t get rid of that broken blender just yet. Help is on the way!

Eat Locally

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Find Local Farms & Farmers
When it comes to our area’s sustainability, supporting local farms and farmers is a simple action that has a serious ripple effect on Mother Earth. Not only does it reduce the resources needed to grow, ship and prepare food, it puts good stuff back into the land (think nutrient dense soils and healthy waters) and the economy. Find everything you need for 2021 at the newly launched eatlocalfirst.org that features more than 1,700 sustainable and organic farms, farmers markets and food businesses around Washington state. The best part of this new resource is that it puts the tools families need to eat locally at their fingertips. This is one resolution you can keep!

Online: eatlocalfirst.org

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Join a CSA, shop the farmer's markets and visit farm stores
If you’re interested in joining a CSA, start planning now. Consider you family’s needs—do you want produce only? What about meat? Are you looking for farm pick up or home delivery? Then browse eatlocalfirst.org to find the perfect match for your fam.

A leisurely stroll at the local Farmer’s Market isn’t always an option for busy parents, especially during a pandemic. But one of COVID’s silver linings (if there is such a thing) is that our local farmer’s markets have pivoted to online shopping with curbside pick up that makes seasonal eating as easy as driving through your local fast food joint. Don’t forget home delivery options from local spots like Local Yokels, Pacific Coast Harvest and Milk Run.

Finally, throw in a visit to a farm store like Green Bow Farm in Ellensburg, Bellewood Farms in Lyden or Garden Treasures in Arlington on your next road trip. Enviro-adventures away!

Reduce Food Waste

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Download the Food Matters Action Kit
Composting is the first line of defense in reducing food waste (great job, Seattle!). Cutting down on what you compost is second. When you think about it, wasting food wastes all the resources that went into producing it (growing, transporting and selling) and uses even more to process the waste. So if your family wants to shrink their food waste in 2021, the Food Matter Action Kit has everything you need. Plus it engages kids in the process. They get to do math, play detective and help save the planet. Sounds good to us!

Seattle mom, Terumi Pong, has been using the kit with her kids. She describes one of the lessons as “eye-opening” explaining her family didn’t realize “how much food waste we created and how some of the things we often waste can actually be eaten.” She goes on to say, “After reading through the toolkit and working through some of the lessons, my family is more aware of the choices we make with food and it didn't take a lot of time or effort. I'm thankful that in this time period where so many things feel out of our control, we can do a little bit to help ourselves and our community at home by reducing food waste.” You might be surprised by what you find, too.

Online: cec.org/flwy/

—Allison Sutcliffe

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The holidays can be a great time to practice conflict resolution skills. More people + more perspectives = more conflict. Whether it’s with partners, family members, or children, some of the same skills can work for us all. Try using the four C’s of Conflict Resolution: Calm, Curiosity, Collaboration and Connection when conflict emerges.

1. Calm: Try using positive self-talk or taking deep breaths to calm yourself when conflict emerges. Maybe say to yourself, “I can handle this conflict, I’ve got this.” We are much better able to navigate conflict when we have our body calm and regulated. This also helps those around us regulate too since emotions can be contagious.

2. Curiosity: Use curiosity to explore what the other person is trying to communicate. You don’t have to agree with them, but try reflecting back to them what you hear them say. “I see, you are thinking that pumpkin pie would be better than pecan this year.” This helps the other person feel heard and understood and helps you move into a place of understanding, from which you can problem solve.

3. Collaboration: Explore the possibilities of problem-solving the conflict. Take the time to express your own perspective and see if you can encourage the other person to engage with you in coming up with creative solutions. Even children can learn to do this. Is there a solution that could lead to everyone being happy? If not, what would be another creative option.

4. Connection: Whether you came up with a mutual solution, or ended with an “agree to disagree” scenario, we can almost always find a way to connect and repair with the ones we love. Letting a child know, “it’s okay to be sad about my decision” or letting a relative know, “I hear how disappointing it is to change plans this year. I feel sad about it too. I cannot wait to see you again next year.” can remind us that conflict is a natural part of relationships and we can get through these moments with love and connection.

There are many resources and tools available these days to support young children in learning these conflict resolution skills early on. Slumberkins Conflict Resolution Collection with Hammerhead Shark offers more tools and support for moving through these moments together.

 

Kelly Oriard & Callie Christensen
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

Kelly Oriard and Callie Christensen are co-founders of Slumberkins, a children's brand supporting social-emotional learning for children. Kelly has a dual master's degree in family therapy and school counseling, and Callie has a master's degree in teaching. Both are passionate about teaching children social-emotional skills to thrive in our modern world. 

Family. We love the heck out of them, but they can be the toughest to shop for. If you’re stuck in an “I’ll just give them a fancy candle.” rut, you came to the right article. We’ve found a high-tech (but simple), wow (but affordable), gift that any parent, grandparent, even dog parent will adore. Read on for three reasons we love the Aura digital frame!

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Ultimate Storage & Sharing

Aura digital frames are beautifully designed WiFi frames that connect people worldwide through a delightfully simple photo sharing experience. Got a big family? No problem! Enjoy 10,000+ photos and invite as many people as you'd like through the Aura app with zero subscription fees. Even if you're scattered across the globe, you can stay connected through shared memories on your Aura frame. (We were thinking the same thing—there could not be a better time for this!)

Easy for All

Aura frames are super easy to set up and use (even for the technologically challenged). You can even add photos ahead of time, and like the magical elf you are, surprise someone special with personalized memories, and POOF!—they'll appear on the frame! Not to mention the super high-res, auto-brightness adjusting display means your photos always look their best, even that surprise-attack photo your kiddo took of you before you had coffee—no bueno.

With its interactive frame controls​, you can change photos, view details, and share the love with the swipe of a finger. Save time with Aura's smart curation photo tools that help find your best photos, avoiding duplicates and blurry shots. Then choose your photos, and they'll appear on your frame like magic, wherever it is in the world. No memory cards required—just happy memories relived.

Gorgeous Design

Because why would you frame your loved ones in anything less? Aura makes gorgeous, living room-worthy frames that are the ultimate gift this holiday. No wonder it's a two-time favorite for Oprah, The Wall Street Journal, Forbes Magazine, was named Top Pick for Best Digital Frame in Wirecutter and more! 

Each Aura frame is thoughtfully designed and meticulously crafted from materials like wood or stainless steel mesh, and the crystal clear screen resolution means your photos are museum level. (Disclaimer: not actually, but they'll look darn fine.) Finally, a screen that's display worthy in your home! Beyond convenient technology, Your Aura frame is sure to get a lot of "oohs" and "ahhs" and "Did you know my birthday is coming up?" from friends and family—take the hint.

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