If the idea of swimsuit season makes you tense up, stick with us. We know it’s not always easy to fully embrace our bodies, but times are a-changin’! Social media, fashion websites, even store mannequins have gotten with the program and are showcasing a wide range of body types. Now more than ever,  it’s much easier to find models and influencers that represent our own bodies. And although there’s definitely a lot of work still to be done as far as size inclusivity goes across the board, there’s progress in the air. The body positivity movement isn’t going anywhere, so the perfect mom swimsuit is out there. We promise.

Let’s remember, no matter how you feel about your body, every body is a beach body. Our kids just want us to put on the bathing suit and spend the season creating memories with them. Not only do they not care about your oh-so-human “imperfections”, they likely don’t even see them. We can guarantee that no one sees what you consider to be flaws the same way that you do. At the end of the day, we want to set an example for our children. Showing them that their own bodies are perfect just as they are starts with us learning to love our own. We aren’t saying it’s that simple; but we are saying that the first step in getting comfortable at the beach or pool is just doing it. Putting on the swimsuit and getting out there. And we’re here to help.

These mom swimsuits from Amazon are totally mom-friendly. They’re flattering, confidence-boosting, and downright cute. We’ve made sure that they’re also supportive, offer various levels of coverage, and include a wide range of sizes. These are some seriously adorable and wearable suits that we’re confident you’ll feel great in. Get ready to flaunt that hot (yes, hot!) bod this spring and summer in one of these mom swimsuits, all snaggable from Amazon!

SweatyRocks Monokini

SweatyRocks

This little number is like a bikini without the commitment. It also comes in a ton of colors so you may want to pick up more than one!

Amazon Review: I have an athletic build (with a few extra winter pounds in this pic ;) but love the suit for the most part. I wish it was a little less cheeky / narrow cut in the back and the off shoulder side was a little higher for a little more chest coverage. Overall very happy with it. Quality fabric and stays in place. I returned L because it was too small and the XL fits well. I usually I'm somewhere between a medium and large both for top and bottom. —SavvyStagerAndHomeMaker

SweatyRocks Monokini ($29.99)—Buy Now!

CUPSHE V-Neck Tummy Control One-Piece

CUPSHE

You've probably heard of CUPSHE, and with good reason. They're famous for creating cute and flattering swimsuits that are supportive and flattering, and this v-neck one is no exception! It comes in 19 colors and prints.

Amazon Review: First of all, I am just under 5’9” and it’s very difficult to find a one piece that not only fits correctly, but is also flattering. The color is beautiful and I can’t wait to wear this on my upcoming vacation. Buy the suit. It really does look good on everyone. —Scott Christensen

CUPSHE V-Neck Tummy Control One-Piece ($33.99)—Buy Now!

High-Neck Plunge Mesh One-Piece

Tempt Me

Our Shopping Editor actually owns this one in 3 colors. Yes, 3. It's incredibly flattering, a little flirty, and comes in a bunch of colors and patterns!

Amazon Review: All I can say is, oh my gosh!! I have a REALLY hard time finding one piece swim suits. I have a long torso and suits usually only reach my boobs. So frustrating. I took a chance with this one, hoping it would work. I’m going on a cruise on April and wanted something cute. This one is stunning! I got the white and the wine color. It makes me look good!! —Melissa

High-Neck Plunge Mesh One-Piece ($33.99)—Buy Now!

Retro Halter Ruched One-Piece

When retro-style swimsuits are this cute, we wonder why we ever changed them! This one also comes in lots of colors (are you spotting a trend here?).

Amazon Review: This suit is so flattering. I have a new baby and really wanted something cute that would make me feel confident even with my mom bod. Highly recommend —LauraWelcher220

Retro Halter Ruched One-Piece ($34.99)—Buy Now!

Flowy Tankini Two-Piece

Aqua Eve

If you like the retro silhouette but prefer a two-piece, this tankini will be right up your alley!

Amazon Review: I bought this for my 16 year old daughter. She is bustier on top and makes it hard to find a swimsuit that will hold those girls in. She absolutely loved this swimsuit and the shorts as well. Bought size 16 and fits her perfectly. She is 5’4” and weighs about 190lbs. —Sara

Flowy Tankini Two-Piece ($40.99)—Buy Now!

CUPSHE Ruffle Lace-Up

Yep, it's another CUPSHE suit, but we obviously couldn't resist these ruffles and flattering plunging neckline!

Amazon Review: After three babies, I’ve struggled to find something I’m comfortable in swimsuit-wise. This suit is perfect. I never write reviews, but felt a fellow momma needed to know this suit is great for covering the mommy tummy due to the ruching and good support. Buy it! I got a size large and am 5’6”, 175lbs. Fits perfect. —Jennifer B.

CUPSHE Ruffle Lace-Up ($36.99)—Buy Now!

One-Shoulder Tankini

Tempt Me

Although this one comes in a lot of colors and patterns, we're crushing on this nautically-inspired navy one.

Amazon Review: I needed a new swimsuit for a trip and took a chance on this one. I couldn't be happier with the pattern, fit and detail with the one-shoulder bandeau! I am 5'3 and 128 lbs. and the Large fit so well. It showed on chart that LARGE is a 10-12 and I am usually a size 8-10 but this fit perfectly. I chose the Red Leaf design and love it. —Amazon Customer

One-Shoulder Tankini ($29.99+)—Buy Now!

Ruched Halter One-Piece

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We're firm believers that ruching is really flattering and the Amazon reviews agree.

Amazon Reviews: LOVE THIS BATHING SUIT MORE THAN LIFE! I like many women have a hard time loving their body; I'm not a mother, but I'm 5'8" with a short torso, and super long legs (about 190lbs). This suit made me feel SO good and confident. It's super comfortable & flattering, and I felt completely tucked in and adorable. I really am so glad I purchased after buying suit after suit that made me hate looking in a mirror. —angelica

Ruched Halter One-Piece ($21.49+)—Buy Now!

High-Waisted Two-Piece

American Trends

Another suit our Shopping Editors swear by! We love a high waist, too.

Amazon Review: Love this swimsuit! I am so glad I ordered this swimsuit. I had lost 50lbs so wasn’t sure what size to order. It fit perfectly and is true to size. It was comfortable and coverage was great. I can’t wait to order more in different designs —Amazon Customer

High-Waisted Two-Piece ($26.99)—Buy Now!

Crossover Strappy One-Piece

Hilor

Strappy is so on-trend and the negative space at the waist creates an hourglass figure!

Amazon Review: I have a very long torso so finding one piece bathing suits are difficult. I’m 57, 125 LBS and the suit fits perfectly, very flattering. Looking for a suit that has a full coverage on the bottom is also a plus. —pickyshopper

Crossover Strappy One-Piece ($26.59+)—Buy Now!

High-Waisted Bikini

Yonique

Looking to soak up a little more sun? This bikini shows some skin while still keeping you feeling secure.

Amazon Review: This came today and I ran to try it on. I have to say it is quite flattering for a woman of my size. I am a mom of 4 , twins included. It is plus and of very good quality, but it is nice. I wear 2 pieces all the time but I make sure they cover me and cinch me and I have very large DD cups or may even go to specialty stores and go up to an F or G. I am impressed that it offers support for me. That said I’m ready to hit Cancun in this 2 piece! —MBakerpsych

High-Waisted Bikini ($35.99)—Buy Now!

Rash Guard Bike Shorts Two-Piece

LALAGEN

Prefer some extra coverage? This set offers additional modesty while making it so easy to run or swim after your kiddos without having to adjust!

Amazon Review: Fit great and very comfortable on. As a plus size woman, I personally am uncomfortable wearing swimsuits in the public eye but I LOVE this suit. The shorts come down to just above the knee and are really comfortable. The top is not so low cut that I spill out, and the fit was GREAT. Not too tight anywhere. The top is long enough to cover my belly without riding up constantly and it dries fairly quickly. Definitely glad I bought it! —Aja Collins

Rash Guard Bike Shorts Two-Piece ($36.99)—Buy Now!

Cutout One-Piece

Daci

The little cutout and bow add a little something extra to this classic style!

Amazon Review: BUY IT! I am curvy! I HATE buying suits! Nothing ever fits right from very expensive to cheap! This suit is absolutely amazing! Hitting all the right spots and you wrap the top as tight or as loose as you want!!! After this first purchase I literally bought three more! —Nikki Vidal

Cutout One-Piece ($38.99)—Buy Now!

Yonique Cutout Swimdress

Yonique

Cutouts are clearly having a moment, and if you prefer some extra hip coverage, this swimdress checks all the boxes!

Amazon Review: Just BUY it! You have to try this bathing suit. Now I have never, like ever, worn a bikini and typically not thrilled with my stomach exposed, but I tried this suit due to all the positive reviews and pics of women of all sizes wearing it. It is so comfortable and flattering. I also liked it because it was one piece vs. a bottom underneath a swim dress. Perfect! —Melissa

Yonique Cutout Swimdress ($37.99)—Buy Now!

Ruffle Sleeve One-Piece

Blooming Jelly

The ruffle sleeves really make this suit even cuter and really unique!

Amazon Review: I felt so confident in this bathing suit, and that doesn’t happen often. Beautiful color, fit great in all the right places. Obsessed with the ruffles!! —Laura Osofsky

Ruffle Sleeve One-Piece ($35.99)—Buy Now!

Avanova Bow-Back Bikini

Avanova

The feminine bow in the back and adjustable straps mean that you can customize for the perfect fit.

Amazon Review: I LOVE this bathing suit, and it’s been a LONG time since I have felt good in a bathing suit! I’m 185lbs, 5’9”, where a 38 DD, don’t have much of a butt and I ordered an XL. By far a great buy! Probably will buy more soon! —Amazon Customer

Avanova Bow-Back Bikini ($26.99+)—Buy Now!

SUUKESS Wrap Push-Up Bikini

SUUKESS

We've very into bust support when it comes to our swimsuits, and this wrap top/high waist combo bikini is an easy fave.

Amazon Review: Bought for my 15yr old. Perfect color and fit. She's xl and larger on top. Held her well. Great suit, I was shocked to find one we both agreed on! Will buy more —Heather Joubert Bearb

SUUKESS Wrap Push-Up Bikini ($33.95)—Buy Now!

Blooming Jelly Lace Front Swimsuit

Blooming Jelly

The lace detail gives the illusion of an hourglass shape (and is really darling, too!).

Amazon Review: It has the vintage look with the elegance. Not the typical bathing suit you find at the store. Got a lot of compliments. —A.R.

Blooming Jelly Lace Front Swimsuit ($31.99+)—Buy Now!

Ruffle Off-the-Shoulder One-Piece

Tempt Me

Adjustable and removable straps, lots of colors—what more could you ask for?

Amazon Review: Often i have issues feeling comfortable in a bathing suit other than black. I am 5’2/ 165 lbs. I wear a size 36 DDD and i am on the curvy side. I would highly recommend this swimsuit. It makes me feel comfy & cute and covers up in the back. It is also hard to find a bathing suit that fits me correctly but this suit really holds the girls in. I am a size L for most stores and i ordered a large here. True to size- for me. —Kristina

Ruffle Off-the-Shoulder One-Piece ($30.99+)—Buy Now!

Yonique Blouson Tankini

Yonique

A blouson top is blousy and flowy, so if you prefer a less fitted option, this is a great way to go.

Amazon Review: Love the boy legs & blouson top. Better than I expected! —Skinner

Yonique Blouson Tankini ($37.99)—Buy Now!

Zip-Front Long-Sleeve Rash Guard Swimsuit

woman in pastel printed rash guard swimsuit
AXESEA

This suit is pretty much the definition of "secure". You don't risk exposure from carrying kiddos or big waves, plus it's really comfortable!

Amazon Review: I ABSOLUTELY love this product and rave about it to everyone. It’s modest and chic. This swimsuit is easy to put on, unbelievably comfortable, lightweight, padding is so comfortable, beautiful pattern. —Patience

Zip-Front Long-Sleeve Rash Guard Swimsuit ($38.99)—Buy Here!

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Did you know that Frederick Douglass was nominated to be Vice President of the United States? Educate the kiddos (and re-educate yourself) on this founding father whose outstanding contributions to society broke ground, broke color barriers, and changed the course of history. Here are facts about Frederick Douglass you might not know. To continue the conversation with your kids, check out 25 Black history figures kids should know

Frederick Douglas is an important Black history figure kids need to learn about
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1. He chose the last name Douglass from a poem.
Frederick Douglass was born Frederick Augustus Washington Bailey. He was born into slavery in Maryland in 1818. Although both of his parents were enslaved people, Frederick never really knew his mother as she worked on a different plantation, and he never met his father. Later, when Frederick married, he chose the last name Douglass after the hero clan in Sir Walter Scott's famous poem, Lady of the Lake

Tip: For younger kids who don't know the history of slavery in the United States, have a conversation with them on a level they will understand. We recommend reading a few (or all) of these books that encourage open discussion about racial injustice and inequality.

2. He taught himself to read and write.
A widely known fact about Frederick Douglass is that although he did not attend school (Black children were not allowed), he understood the power and value of literacy. And so, he taught himself to read and write at a young age.

3. He disguised himself as a sailor to escape slavery.
Young Frederick read avidly and educated himself on the rights of every person to be free. After several unsuccessful attempts to escape slavery, he finally managed to, thanks to a free Black woman named Anne Murray. She helped him pay for a train ticket north. Disguised as a sailor, he escaped on Sep. 3, 1838. He was 20 years old.

4. He picked his birthday.
Here's a fact about Frederick Douglass you might not know: After he was freed from slavery, Douglass chose February 14th as his birthday.

5. He married the woman who helped him escape.
Not long after his successful escape, Frederick married Anne Murray, and they took the last name, Douglass. They moved to New Bedford, Massachusetts, and together had five children.

6. Douglass was an abolitionist.
An abolitionist is a person who wants to get rid of (abolish) a practice or institution. Specifically, the abolitionist movement sought to be rid of slavery.

7. Despite the risk of recapture, he was an active speaker and employed by the Massachusetts Anti-Slavery Society. He traveled throughout the northern and midwestern states, speaking on behalf of the anti-slavery movement. Once, he had to travel to Ireland and England to avoid being recaptured. But he never stopped speaking out.

8. He was a prolific author.
Frederick Douglass was an excellent writer and wrote several works during his lifetime, including three autobiographies: The Narrative of the Life of Frederick Douglass, an American Slave (1845), My Bondage and My Freedom (1855) and The Life and Times of Frederick Douglass (1881). These are still considered today to be of unparalleled value to the historical narrative of our country.

9. He was also a publisher and an editor.
In addition to being a speaker and author of books, he published a paper for more than 16 years. He owned his own printing press and started the publication of The North Star. (Remember, he taught himself to read and write!!)

10. He fought for women’s rights and desegregation in the North.
While there was no active slavery in the northern states, segregation was rampant, and African Americans were still considered second-class citizens. Douglass challenged this in his speeches and his publications.

An interesting fact about Frederick Douglass is that his second wife was white.
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11. His second marriage broke ground, too.
Sadly, Douglass’ beloved wife Anna died in 1881 of a stroke. Several years later, Douglass remarried activist Helen Pitts. Helen was white, and their interracial marriage was widely criticized. Undeterred, Douglass and Helen continued traveling and advocating on behalf of equality and justice everywhere. He died of a heart attack in 1895 at the age of 77.

12. He met with President Abraham Lincoln.
During the Civil War—which erupted in 1861 over the issue of slavery— black soldiers were given lesser pay and non-equal treatment. Douglass met with Lincoln to advocate on behalf of the soldiers. Douglass had two sons who served in the Army, and he actively recruited African Americans to fight in the Civil War. Douglass, along with many others, spoke out for equal citizenship and the emancipation (freeing) of all slaves. After the war, Douglass fought for the 13th Amendment (which abolished slavery), the 14th Amendment (which granted citizenship to those born in the United States as enslaved persons), and the 15th Amendment (giving voting rights to men of all color—women would not gain the right to vote until the 19th Amendment in 1920).

13. There are plaques in his honor in Ireland and England.
In 2012 the Imperial Hotel in Cork, Ireland, has a plaque commemorating Douglass’ visit. The Waterford City Hall (in Waterford, Ireland), where Douglass once gave a speech has a plaque. And in South Kensington, London, you can visit the Nell Gwynn House, where Douglass stayed during his visit.

14. In 1965, Douglass was honored on a USPS stamp.
The stamp was designed during the Civil Rights movement of the 1960s by Walter DuBois Richards and was based on a photograph provided by Douglass' family.

15. Washington Douglass Commonwealth?
Although Washington D.C. is part of the United States, it is not considered a state. In November 2016, voters passed a measure that would petition for statehood. The new state would be known as the State of Washington D.C., but D.C. will no longer stand for the District of Columbia. It will stand for Douglass Commonwealth (named after Frederick Douglass).

16. He never gave up.
Douglass worked tirelessly for justice. He served council in many prestigious positions, including legislative council member of the D.C. Territorial Government, President of Freedman’s Bank, Recorder of Deeds for D.C., Minister Resident, and Consul General to Haiti.

17. He worked for five different U.S. Presidents.
Starting with President Rutherford B. Hayes in 1877, he then worked for Presidents Garfield, Arthur, Cleveland, and Harrison as the U.S. Marshal for D.C.

18. He was once nominated for Vice President.
In 1872, he found himself on the ballot with Victoria Woodhull, who picked him as her Vice Presidential running mate for the Equal Rights Party—without his knowledge. He never acknowledged he was even chosen to run, likely because he had already backed another presidential candidate.

19. There are over 160 different portraits of him.
Another interesting fact about Frederick Douglass was that he was the most photographed man of the 19th century. He called photography a "democratic act" and gave away his pictures at lectures he held to normalize seeing Black people as humans rather than possessions.

7 Ways to Honor Douglass' Legacy Today

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1. Identify injustice. Ask your kids to find an issue they feel is unjust or an instance where someone has been treated unfairly. Talk about how it makes them feel and what they can do to change it.

2. Write a speech. Have the kiddos write or recite a few words advocating their point of view on an issue they feel strongly about.

3. Read to them. Douglass knew his key to freedom was education. Spend some time reading and writing with the kids. Here’s our current list of Black History books for kids; a great place to start. 

4. Talk with Douglass. Ask your kids to imagine they can ask Frederick Douglass a question. What would it be? What do they think the answer would be?

5. Draw Douglass. There are several excellent photos you can find of Douglass online. Look at the ones in this post or draw a scene of Douglass giving a speech.

6. Find an Example. Is there a modern-day Frederick Douglass your kids can identify with? Talk about the qualities that make someone a fearless leader and activist.

7. Visit Living History. Rochester, NY, was home to Douglass from 1847 to 1842. This is where he published his newspapers and where you will find his grave (in the same cemetery as Susan B. Anthony). Click here to learn more about finding Frederick Douglass in Rochester. You can also visit the Frederick Douglass National Historic Site in Washington, D.C. 

 

What did the angry pepperoni say? What museums do NY comedians love?

Kids and jokes are a match made in heaven. (We find the sillier, cornier, and punnier, the better.) Take your family’s joking up a notch with these NYC-centric goofs that hopefully won’t make you gag! (See what we did there?)

1. What's a New Yorker's favorite storm?

A Cyclone.

2. How do the Brooklyn and Manhattan Bridges communicate? 

In span-ish.

3. Why was the bagel store robbed?

The lox were broken. 

4. What did the angry pepperoni say?

You wanna pizza me? 

5. Where do New York chefs get their broth? 

The Stock Exchange.

6. What do you call a barber in the Bronx?

A Yankee Clipper.

7. What did the Atlantic Ocean say to the sand? 

Nothing, it just waved. 

8. Where’s the best place to charge your phone in NYC?

Battery Park.

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9. Where did the rooster live?

In a co-op.

10. How do New Yorkers show affection?

They’ll give you a hug and a knish.

11. How did the sailor get around the city?

He took Ocean Parkway.

12. What’s the best street for moving trucks? 

Broadway.

13. What is the landscaper’s favorite museum?

Mow-Ma.

14. Where do the Rolling Stones love to perform?

Rock Center.

15. What museum do comedians love?

The Wit-ney

16. What’s the coziest spot in New York?

Snug Harbor

17. Where did the math teacher like to hang out?

Times Square

18. Who do kids in Chelsea hang out with?

Their piers. 

19. Can a kid jump higher than the Statue of Liberty? 

Of course, silly. The Statue of Liberty can't jump!

 

My son was 10 when we relocated to a new city and state. And with that move came some new vocabulary as well.

Right away, child-of-mine picked up on the fact that his new classmates were saying, with some frequency, the word “crap,” a syllable I’d strictly forbidden from crossing his sassy little lips. And when he first heard a teacher shamelessly utter the expression, right there in front of her students, he decided we needed to have a little chit-chat on the subject.

Using his powers of persuasion and logic—which are both impressive and infuriating—he convinced me to let him try out this previously banned four-letter word. But I wasn’t thrilled about it—and he knew it.

And so it went. Naturally, he had a very hard time suppressing his newfound fascination with the pseudo-swear. “Crappity-crap-crap-crap!” Suddenly, I was cohabitating with a pint-sized, PG-rated sailor.

“That’s crap!”
“What the crap?”
“Holy crap!”

So we had to set some ground rules. Those three expressions above, yeah, they were nixed immediately. When I proposed he could try “what the heck” instead of “what the crap” or “holy moly” instead of “holy crap,” he guffawed at my old-lady ways, and I glimpsed the teenager he would most likely become. Whether I was uncool or not, he had no choice but to relent to the Mommy-in-Charge.

And so, thank goodness, he began to dial it back. “That’s crap!” transformed into “That’s junk!” (Sigh. Is that really any better?) And we came upon a consensus: No “crapping” in public or in front of family. And no excessive “crappity-crap-crapping” just because you have working vocal cords.

He knew this was a test of his maturity—possibly even a gateway to other privileges—and fortunately, treated it as such. In fact, he’s managed to find a palatable balance among all this crap, and he now only sparingly uses the once-controversial expression.

However, there was one unforeseen hiccup I should have seen coming a mile away. But nope. Oh no. I walked right into it. Just days after this new idiomatic freedom was bestowed upon my child, we had friends over for dinner. Gleefully, he announced to everyone in attendance: “My mom lets me say the C-word now!”

This post originally appeared on Samiches & Psych Meds.

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Your little skippers will be ready for a high-seas adventure after learning a few fun words and phrases and their nautical origins. And if you like these, check out our pirate dictionary. You never know, one of these terms just might bale you out of the doldrums in just a couple of shakes. Read on!

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Adrift: Evolved from the word ‘drift’ or float, it became a way of describing a ship moved by wind and tides. It is now used to describe anything that is lost, as in, “Her matching sock were adrift among the piles of laundry.”

Bale/bale out: To remove water from a vessel, this phrase now means to help someone out of a sticky situation. (Note: alternate, Old nautical English spelling of bail).

Becalm: To cut off the wind from the sails of a ship. Can be used interchangeably with sooth, as in, “The mother was able to becalm her child temporarily with the promise of a cookie.”

Booby: A fearless little sea bird that is known for being easy to catch. The term booby or boob is sometimes used to describe someone who may not be that bright.

Bumboat: A privately owned boat that sells goods or merchandise. Fun to say.

Caboose: Sure, you know it as the little red car at the end of a train but a ship has a caboose too! It’s the kitchen or galley on a small ship.

Cats paws: A term to describe small waves produced by light, variable winds on otherwise calm waters.

Chew (chewing) the fat: Salt pork or fatty, jerky-like meat was common food on sailing vessels as it lasted a long time without rotting. Sailors would complain about the food while gnawing away at the fat, thus the term became synonymous with gabbing, casual conversation or gossip.

Cranky: A crank was an unstable ship or vessel, now a term to describe a toddler who hasn’t napped.

Cringle: Not to be confused with Kris Kringle or the delicious pastry, kringle, this nautical term describes a rope loop at the corner of a sail for fixing the sail to the spar (see definition of spar below).

Dinghy: A dinghy can be a small boat carried or towed by a larger ship, often inflatable and used as a life raft; a type of racing yacht; or a rowboat.

Dog watch: A short watch period (for sailors on deck) from 4–6 p.m. or 6–8 p.m. it can also refer to any night shift, most often the last shift. As in, “Tonight Dad was on dogwatch for the little one’s feeding so mom could get some much-needed sleep.”

Doldrums: An area in the equatorial region of the Atlantic Ocean with calms, sudden storms and unpredictable but light winds. Because of the variable weather ships would get stuck in the doldrums. Now we use it as a term to describe being stuck or stagnant. As in, “Our nightly dinner routine is in the doldrums.”

Dolphin: A man-made structure in the sea or river used as a marker.

Earings: Nope, not (earrings) the kind with bling. These are the small lines that secure the upper corners of the largest sail to the yardarms. (See below for yardarms definition).

Fore and aft: From stem to stern or lengthwise of a ship. “Please vacuum your room fore and aft and not just the entryway.”

Ghost: To sail slowly.

Gob-stoppers: Grapeshot put in the mouth of a young, gabby sailor. Now used to describe the hard, chipped-tooth-inducing candy.

Grapeshot: Small cannonballs; basically smallish balls of lead fired from a canon used to damage rigging or aimed directly at sailors on an enemy ship (cannon balls would be used to cause more structural damage and sink the ship).

Hog: A rough flat scrubbing brush for cleaning the ship’s bottom underwater. No comment.

Horse: To move or adjust a sail by hand, using brute force rather than running rigging.

Hulk: An old ship that has become obsolete. (not all that incredible).

Jack, also jack tar:  A sailor. Also sometimes a flag on a ship.

Jury rig: The act of rigging temporary mast or sails, also the actual mast or sail that has been temporarily rigged. This is now used interchangeably with makeshift.

Mind your P’s & Q’s: When sailors would go to a port town and visit the local tavern, the barkeepers would give them credit. A “P” would indicate pint and a “Q” was a quart. So when payday came and it time to pay their tab, they’d be minding their Ps and Qs. It is now considered a term for good manners.

Ship Shape: A term now used to say something is clean, tidy and ready to go, in the 1800s, ships were inspected to make sure they were okay to port. If a vessel was in “ship shape” it was free of disease or other unsavories. “Timmy’s room was in ship shape before the play date.”

Show your true colors: A warship would have many colored flags on board to try and deceive enemy ships. The true color would only be revealed when it was too late. Now it’s a term used to describe someone who has shown their true nature.

Spar: Not to be confused with the verb which means to fight, a spar is a pole, usually of wood or metal, used to support the ship’s sail. Sometimes called a pelican striker.

Spin a yarn: This phrase means to tell a story or a tale and is comes from the stories sailors would tell to pass the time while doing monotonous tasks such as making spun-yarn.

Starboard and Port: Starboard is the ship’s right and port its left. Fun fact: the term “posh” originated from port out, starboard home, said to be the way to get the best view, and so where the elite class was seated or bunked.

Two shakes or a couple of shakes: Used to describe a short period of time, as in, “Give me two shakes and I’ll have your PB&J ready.” Sailors would measure short periods of time by the shaking of the sails.

Whole nine yards: Old ships had three masts, each of which had three-yard sails, so the whole nine yards meant all sails were up. Now it means all of something.

Yardarms: Either end of a yard of a square sail.

What’s your favorite nautical term or phrase? Share it with us in the comments below. 

—Amber Guetebier

I will never forget the day when my family went for a sail around the waters of Sandy Hook, NJ and we got caught in an unexpected storm.  Growing up, my parents were fortunate to have a small sailboat to take us out on little day adventures. 

On this particular day, while we were out, the wind really picked up, creating whitecaps on the water. The weather was too risky to attempt our trip home, so my parents decided to duck into a nearby cove and drop the anchor to ride out the storm. I was a super nervous sailor, so getting stuck in this surprise storm was not ideal for me. But I remember feeling safe and secure once the anchor was nestled deep into the muddy floor of the cove. Once I noticed my parents settled and calm, that was my cue to feel like I could breathe. Even though the wind was whipping around outside, I knew we would be safe because the anchor would hold strong.

An anchor is powerful, heavy, and unbreakable. Blowing wind and crashing waves may push a boat around, but the anchor is strong and unwavering, serving as a reliable source of strength for a sailor. It is what grounds the vessel, allowing it to bob in the water without drifting away. And even in certain weather, when a sailor needs to add more slack on the line to allow more leeway, the anchor’s hold maintains the sailor’s position. The anchor is quite dependable.

In life, we are constantly met and challenged with situations out of our control, especially in our role as parents! When challenges arise in your parenting, what keeps you anchored through the storm? What is connecting your family’s boat to what truly matters? Being anchored to your core values is what will help you feel confident through any patch of rough weather.

Values are the key beliefs that guide your decision making. They define how you chose to live and how you create happiness in your life. When you have clarity on what your values are, the decisions you make around discipline and family time just make sense and feel good. Having clear family values allows you to live authentically, feeling grounded and true to yourself as opposed to feeling lost and misguided. 

When your anchor of family values is set firmly on the ocean floor, it allows your family some movement without getting lost. You will feel secure as you brave the ever-changing winds of raising children. When managing the rough waters of outside influences, your anchor will hold you safe and in place. And even during those moments when you have to give more slack to the line, allowing your children some space to grow, the anchor is still there doing its job.  When your family values are clear, practiced and in place, your house rules and expectations will be more consistent, allowing your children to feel safe and secure with your parenting. Having a solid hold on your family values will even allow you to feel more comfortable with other external viewpoints without compromising yourself and who you truly are.  

Of course, there are times the anchor slips and loses its grip on the earth. The sailor’s awareness of the drifting boat allows her to recast the anchor to set it again. It is not uncommon for any of us to lose our hold sometimes, but it’s the clarity that allows us to reestablish our footing. While we’re navigating through the current storms of raising our children in 2020, allow yourself some time to check-in and be sure you are anchored in your family values. 

Here are a few questions to consider:

  1. What are the basic beliefs that help you decide what is important in life?  What are your family values?

  2. Do you and your partner value the same things?  

  3. Which values would you like to pass on to your children and what steps can you take to encourage them?

  4. How do you honor the values in your life?

  5. How can you realign yourself to be sure you are living true to your beliefs?

A boat without an anchor is forced to keep moving no matter what comes its way. The sailor does her best to navigate through the waters, trying to find a path that will keep her out of harm’s way. The same is true for a family unaligned with its core values. When your values are unclear or not practiced, it can be difficult to be consistent with decision making, disciplining, and just finding an overall direction. Stop drifting through your days. Drop the anchor and become solidified in your family values.

 

This post originally appeared on Real Life Parent Coaching Blog.

Hi! I'm Rebecca from Real Life Parent Coaching. I use my background as an educator to help parents discover & cultivate their strengths and reach their parenting potential. I live in New Jersey with my husband and two kids. I enjoy exploring, being creative & having fun with my crew!

My daughter Kaylie was four years old. She was sitting on her favorite kitchen stool, headphones on, watching cartoons on our family iPad. After the video ended, she walked over to me and asked the meaning of a word that’s not fit to print. My jaw hit the floor. I asked her where she heard a word like that, and she told me it was in the video she just watched. I unplugged her headphones, and sure enough, there was Dora the Explorer swearing like a sailor. 

This is a true story about YouTube content gone wrong, and sadly, one that a lot of parents are familiar with. Another infamous example that made headlines featured a man offering advice on how to commit suicide in a clip of a popular children’s video game. And this kind of rogue, inexplicably disturbing content is a problem of YouTube’s own making—one that’s inherent to a platform with a hands-off moderation policy where anyone can publish anything. 

Should YouTube vet and approve videos before they go live? This was the question facing the platform earlier this year. The platform had agreed to make changes to improve child privacy following an investigation and $170 million fine from the FTC, and apparently they were considering moderating all content across the platform. But, they ultimately decided against it, which isn’t all that surprising given that around 500 hours of content is uploaded to YouTube every minute. And, it would have changed the nature of the platform itself: they would no longer be a “neutral” space where anyone could upload anything.

If they decided to curate, YouTube would have taken a giant leap towards becoming a programmer, which would expose them to increased regulation, liability, and risk. So instead, YouTube now requires content creators to designate whether their content is for kids or not. This essentially puts the onus on content creators—and holds them more directly responsible for the content they create. 

In theory, this change—and the other updates YouTube made recently—should help protect children’s privacy, but the platform stopped short of the change that could make the content itself safer for kids: moderation. It’s hard to know what compels someone to make Dora say unholy things, or (even worse) to splice instructions for self-harm into a kids’ video, but as long as there’s a platform that relies on content creators to self-police their videos, it’s likely to keep happening. 

So what can parents do to keep their kids safe on YouTube? We learned the hard way that looks can be deceiving, so we made a few changes to the way we used YouTube in our family after the Dora incident. Kaylie only watched videos sans headphones until she got a little older. That way, we could intervene if Peppa Pig started running her mouth. We also stuck to videos on channels we knew and trusted, and we adopted a hard rule: no clicking through recommended videos. 

It’s of course “best practice” to watch content together with your kids, but that’s not always possible, especially when YouTube is giving you a much-needed parental sanity break. So, if you’re setting your kids up to watch a video and you’re feeling concerned, jump ahead to a few spots throughout to make sure there’s nothing untoward. And it’s not a bad idea to have a talk with your children about what to do if they see something upsetting. Older kids might even be ready to learn how to report videos on their own. 

Short of the platform moderating every video before it goes live, it’s going to be tricky to stop bad people from publishing bad things. Hopefully the increased liability on the part of content creators makes them think twice before targeting children with disturbing videos, but it’s a good idea to stay vigilant when your kids are involved. 

 

Sean Herman is CEO/founder of Kinzoo, a new company that helps parents turn screen time into family time. Sean aims to make Kinzoo the most-trusted brand for incorporating technology into children’s lives. Sean's first book, "Screen Captured," debuted at number one in Amazon's parenting category, and separates technology fact from fiction for parents.

Your kids love play dress up and probably know how to mutiny, especially when it comes to veggies, so you might as well accept it, at least for one day: Talk Like a Pirate Day is September 19, and ye need to be sure yer in a Jolly Roger mood. Here be 51 common pirate sayings any good matey should know, fer today or any day. Scroll down fer the list.

Afeard: Afraid, as in “I am most afeared of crocodiles.”

Ahoy: Hello!

Arrrrrr: In certain dialects, pronounced “yarrr” and commonly used to start a sentence and emphasize a pirate was about to say something important.

Avast: A command to stop, as in “Avast, mateys! Let’s weigh anchor here.”

Aye: Yes, yes! As in, “Aye, aye, Captain!”

Bilge: Old, stinky, gross water that seeps into the ship’s hull. “Put him in the bilge and make him drink it!” was a form of punishment most foul.

Booty or bootie: spoils won from war, pillaging or plunder. Now used more commonly to denote prizes of any kind.

Buccaneer: A pirate, especially one who raided the Spanish colonies along the American coast in the late 1600s.

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Cap'n: Captain.

Chantey: A song, usually of a seafaring nature. Sometimes also spelled chantie or shanty (usually pronounced shan-tee).

Crow’s Nest: A platform high up on a ship’s mast used for spotting ships from a distance. This allowed a greater advantage for plundering.

Corsair: A pirate from the Barbary Coast of North Africa.

Cutlass: A short, curved sword favored by pirates for its ability to end an argument with one brandish.

Davey Jones’ Locker: The bottom of the sea where sailors and pirates have drowned, Davey Jones being a generic name for a sailor.

Doubloon: A gold coin, originally of Spanish origin but used as a general term for gold coins.

Dungbie: Rear end, probably referring to a ship but can be used creatively, as in, "Cover up your dungbie with these undies."

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Fer: For. As in, “Blackbeard, fer the win!”

Flotsam: Wreckage from a ship and its cargo found floating on the water.

Freebooter: A person who is searching for plunder aka a pirate. As in, "The lousy freebooter stole my apple again."

Grog: a mixture of rum and water with a bit of lemon. Also any alcoholic drink.

Hearties: Friends. As in, "Ahoy me harties!"

Hornswaggle: To cheat; (someone who cheats is a hornswaggler) as in, “She was sure to hornswaggle the lot of them while they passed out at the card table.” “Or, don’t play Sorry with him, he’s a real hornswaggler.”

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Jetsam: Cargo or goods cast overboard on purpose, to lighten the ship’s load.

Jolly Roger: The infamous skull and crossbones flag, which was flown to warn “here there be pirates.”

Keelhaul: to punish by dragging under the ship and up the other side. As in, "Drink all the grog again and we'll keelhaul ya."

Kraken: a legendary sea monster, some what like a large ocotopus or squid, that lives in the waters off the coast of Norway. Can be used to declare mayhem, especially when grade schoolers are set free to recess. As in, "Release the kraken!"

Land lubber: A person who does not have much experience at sea or who cannot sail. Usually meant as an insult.

Lass or lassie: A child.

Lily-livered: weak or cowardly. As in, "The lion once was lily-livered but now has found his cuh-raygh."

Matey: What pirates call each other/fellow shipmates. "Hey, Matey, can ye grab me some grog?"

Mutiny: To revolt. For pirates, specifically against a ship’s captain, but can be used to describe any act of rebellion (Warning: It’s possible that the teaching of this word could lead to a “mutiny” against Brussel sprouts.)

Peg leg: A wooden leg. Pirates of olden days lived harsh lives and prosthetic limbs were most often created from salvaged wood and iron hooks.

Pieces of Eight: Silver coins. Originally after the Spanish peso de ocho (worth 8 reales, a Spanish increment of money).

Plunder: To take whatever you want. “My little brother tries to plunder my toys all the time.”

Poop deck: The deck on top of the stern (rear) of the ship. Yep. They get to say poop.

Port: the left side of the ship

Privateer: a pirate for hire; someone hired by the government to pillage enemy ships and weaken their forces

Rapparee: an Irish pirate or freebooter

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Scallywag: A scamp or a rascal. Not necessarily an evil do-er, but someone out for their own personal gain. “That scallywag traded me empty coconuts for safe passage to shore.”

Scurvy: Originally, a disease with symptoms that includes swollen gums and spots on the skin, brought on by a lack of Vitamin C. Commonly used to describe someone who is nasty, mean or disliked,  as in “You scurvy lass, you’ll get none of this treasure.”

Scuttlebutt: A term used to describe gossip, but originally the drinking fountain on a ship. (Around the water cooler, pirate style).

Sea Dog: A pirate, especially an experienced older one.

Sea legs: The ability to keep from getting seasick when out at sea. As in, “Once the storm passed, Davey managed to get his sea legs for the remaining six weeks of the journey and did not get sick again.”

Shiver me timbers: A reference to the wood of a boat “shivering” or rocking with a sudden, unexpected gust of wind, it is an expression that indicates surprise. As in, “Well, shiver me timbers, it’s the Captain’s ghost after all!”

Skull and Crossbones: A human skull above two crossed bones, used on pirate flags and bottles of poison.

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Spanker: the sail on the mast closest to the stern of  a square-rigged ship

Starboard: the right side of the ship

Swab: a large mop

Swab the deck: To mop the deck of the ship. As in, “Swab the poop deck, ye land lubber.”

Swashbuckler: A daredevil.

Walk the plank: Walking the ship’s plank until you plunged into the sea. Used as a threat and against mutiny.

Ye/Yer: You/Your, use in place in all sentences. As in, “No dessert until ye finish all yer peas.”

—Amber Guetebier

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Featured photo: iStock 

If you’re lucky enough to have crossed the American Museum of National History’s “Night at the Museum” sleepover off your list, congrats. (If not, add it to the family “bucket list.”) Either way, that’s hardly the only sleepover in town. You and the kids can sleep like royalty in a cathedral, a sailor on an aircraft carrier, a scientist in not one, but two museums, and more. Just note the dates and book soon — these affairs sell out fast! Click through to find the overnight for you!

For the Classic: A Night At The Museum

It's the big one! It's the big one! Overnight visitors get a thorough flashlight tour of the heavy hitters of the museum, meeting "relatives" in the Anne and Bernard Spitzer Hall of Human Origins, standing beneath a massive T. rex dinosaur, and exploring live-animal exhibitions with knowledgeable museum explainers. It's all followed by a screening of "Wonders of the Arctic", now showing in 3-D the LeFrak Theater. Then it's time to set up camp (i.e. grab a cot and unroll the sleeping bag) beneath the 94-foot-long blue whale, next to African elephants, or at the base of a striking volcanic formation. Recommended for kids ages six to 13.

Next Overnight: Jan. 27, additional dates through June

Tickets: $145/person' $135 for members

Central Park West at 79th St,
Upper West Side
212-769-5200
Online: amnh.org

Do you have a favorite NYC family sleepover? Tell us in the comments below!

— Mimi O’Connor

 

Daily
Today Is National Coast Guard Day
Everybody wave!
1

Rescue your next meal from the doldrums with a life preserver-inspired dish or two.

2

Learn to speak like a sailor without swearing.

3
Host a friendly little competition with paper boat races.

{ Today’s ideas brought to you by Two Ships Passing in the Night }