There’s nothing we love more than a good mom hack. Especially a mom hack that’ll keep babies busy for at least 15 minutes (and that’s saying something!). So when we spotted this sensory play hack on TikTok, we had to share. Mom Elle, whose handle is @marmapickle, was looking for a way to create a safe material for her seven-month-old daughter Amara, and as you can see in the video below, she certainly succeeded.

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When you’ve got a little one, finding activities for babies that are both safe and fun can be a real challenge. Not to mention that it takes some creative thinking to come up with a way to have a beach day when you live hundreds of miles from a real ocean. After looking around at what she had at home, Elle decided to use her Nutribullet to pulverize Cheerios into a material her daughter could enjoy outside on a sunny day. Once she had enough, she added regular sand toys to a sensory tray and took it all outside. The best part? It still has a sand-like consistency, but since it’s made of cereal dust, it’s totally edible.

 

Many commentators on the video brought up the issue of what might happen if the baby goes to an actual beach and tries to put real sand in her mouth, but plenty of people, like us, consider it to be pure parenting genius.

One smart mama had a great comeback. “This is wonderful! Some babies and kids try to eat any and everything anyway. Worry about that bridge when you get to it.”

Another mom says, ” Anyone who has a small child knows they’re gonna eat sand/dirt regardless. I love this idea.”

All photos courtesy of Elle Taylor

 

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The warm weather is finally here, and you know what that means: It’s time to pull out all your backyard hacks because the kids can go outside to play! Think of all the raisins and Cheerios that won’t be all over your carpeting—the spills, the scuffs, and the accidents which won’t be on your couch.

Packing up and going to the park is fun for the kids, but not always practical for you. Depending on the ages and interest levels of your children, going to the park can require an unlikely consensus, as well as a lot of gear you will likely only need if you don’t pack it.

It would be ideal if you could just send them outside in your backyard and let them have at it while you work on preparing dinner, cleaning up after the last meal, or getting some work done.

It doesn’t take a lot of space to make your backyard fun—just some planning and implementation. You can’t do it all, but you can do quite a bit with some simple changes. Work with what you have and try to make your backyard the best place for your kids to play this summer.

Organize a Treasure Hunt

Use some of the toys you have been stepping on inside your house as hidden treasures in a backyard scavenger hunt. Make this event big or small, depending on how many children you have or how many neighbor kids you have hanging around your house.

Hide the toys in places that are easy or challenging to find, depending on how busy or frustrated you want your children to be. Everyone can be a winner. Award them with a healthy snack or treat them to cookies and milk. Discuss the hunt and come up with new backyard games you can play.

Create an Obstacle Course

For older children who have some athletic ability, set up an obstacle course and have them compete to see who can complete it the fastest. Have them jump through hula hoops, duck under rope barriers and crawl through empty boxes. Use what you have around the house or in the garage. Just make sure the items are clean and nontoxic.

Prepare for arguments about who won the event, who cheated, and what was and was not fair about the obstacle course. It’s all part of the fun.

Set Up a Playset

Who needs the park when you can build your mini-park in your backyard? Playsets provide many activities in one connected structure. You can have a swing set, slides, climbing walls, forts, rope swings, or any number of attachments.

Pick out which activities suit your children’s desires and abilities, but make sure to account for the future. They grow up fast and will outgrow a playset designed only for toddlers. You don’t want to have to buy another playset in only a few years.

Get bucket swings for babies and toddlers, but use regular swings for school-aged children. Attach a tunnel the kids can run through and hide in. It’s up to you, but realize you can always add on and remove pieces as your children grow older.

Add a Sandbox

A sandbox is so much fun for kids, whether it is a standalone structure or a part of a playset. You can construct them from simple wooden boards or purchase specially designed sandboxes that look like colorful animals, cars, or spaceships.

Most home improvement stores sell sand designated for play, which is inexpensive and clean. Add a set of beach buckets and shovels, toy trucks, and any household containers, and your children will stay busy for hours.

Give Them a Chalkboard

If you have some wall space, even if it’s on a fence, give your kids a chalkboard to write on. Chalk is cheap, and kids love coloring with it. Pus, giving them a chalkboard means less chalk on your house or garage.

Tack up a chalkboard or buy chalkboard tiles sold in home improvement stores. Provide a bucket or other container for the chalk, so you don’t end up mowing over chalk chunks every week. Your kids can use chalk to make hopscotch boards, tic-tac-toe games, or for artistic endeavors. When they’re finished playing, you can easily wipe or sweep the chalk off, or you can wait for the rain to clear the boards and force your children to start over.

Build a Tree Fort

If you have trees, you can make your kids a tree fort. It can be simple — a few boards designating an area, or an elaborate dwelling built high above. It all depends on your budget, your intentions, and your abilities.

Take your children’s age into consideration before constructing a tree fort. Also, if you are concerned about their safety, start with a fort near a tree, not in a tree. They will enjoy this just as much, and you won’t have to worry about falls.

Attach a Tire Swing

Instead of a fort, you can use your tree’s limbs to attach a tire swing. Your kids won’t ever tire of a tire swing, although you may get sick of constantly pushing them. You can repurpose tires from areas where they litter a neighborhood or use your old car tires after you’ve purchased new ones for your vehicle.

Use sturdy nylon rope to attach the tire to your tree. Make sure the arc of the swing does not allow your children to smash into the house, other trees, and structures, or your neighbors’ property.

Whatever kind of backyard you have, make it the most fun backyard for your kids to play in. Use some of these ideas or come up with new ones of your own. Ask your children to help brainstorm. They won’t disappoint you with how creative they can be, even if their ideas may be unrealistic. You may not be able to dig an underground tunnel to their friend’s house, but you will find ways to make their backyard the best place to play this summer. Slather them in sunscreen and turn them outside for summertime fun they’ll never forget!

Jennifer Landis is a mom, wife, freelance writer, and blogger. She enjoys long naps on the couch, sneaking spoonfuls of peanut butter when her kid's not looking, and binge watching Doctor Who while her kid's asleep.  She really does like her kid, though, she promises. Find her on Twitter @JenniferELandis.

My mother was so excited for her son and son-in-law that she continuously sent package after package of new clothes to our house. Week after week they came, each filled to the brim to show just how much she loved her new granddaughter.

Newborns do not stay small for long, and with piles of new clothes forming I found some time to go to the store and exchange some items for some bigger sizes. I packed the multiple bags of pink, purple, and pink/purple pants and shirts into my car, excited at the prospect of getting some greens, yellows, and grays into my new daughter’s wardrobe.

I walked into the store and quickly learned about the “boys” and “girls” sections: girls were meant to wear three colors: pink, purple, and pink/purple. Dresses and shirts were adorned with phrases such as “World’s Best Mom” or “Mom Knows Best.”

Across the aisle in the boys’ section, I saw gray pants, green sweatshirts, black vests, and superheroes. Lots of superheroes. Absent were any “World’s Best Dad” or “Dad Knows Best” shirts, let alone clothes with designs and slogans geared toward kids rather than parents.

After repeated trips to the store to make exchanges—my mom’s packages kept coming—I quickly developed a strategy to find the clothes I want: Ignore the sections; pick eye-catching colors; and get clothes that fit my daughter’s developing personality. As a parent of a child with two Dads the same sentences went through my head every time I went to that store: “Right. I’m different here too.”

Being a new parent is hard. You’re quickly confronted with lots of decisions and few people to help you navigate them. You are also confronted with all the stereotypes and prescribed narratives that come along with being a “mom” or a “dad.” As a gay man, I was used to creating my own narrative. I realized that now, as a gay adoptive parent with my husband, we would have to chart our own course.

And here’s what I realized: Past experiences figuring it out on my own set me up to feel totally comfortable crossing that aisle from the girls’ to boys’ section in the store: I’ve dressed in drag, I like the color pink, and why would I ever let a clothing store dictate to me what was in my closet, let alone my kid’s closet!?!

One thing that’s clear with kids is that they see the world differently than we do. They take things less seriously and like to play. So why not encourage that through their clothing? Why not make fashion an enabler of expressing who they are rather than telling them they have a limited sandbox in which to play?

We have been lucky to be in a generation where more and more we see boys running around in dresses and girls wearing all black. We love seeing kids play with gender, mixing and matching st‌yles that speak to them rather than the outside world. We love the freedom that comes from picking clothes the same way we pick our food at the supermarket: choose what nourishes you and your body. Food is meant to be enjoyed, mixed and matched, played with through new and old recipes. Clothes should be too.

Eventually my mother’s boxes of clothing stopped coming—our daughter passed age 8 and she was ready to choose her own clothes. She is still amazed when we shop for pants and remembers history books that talk about women being admonished for wearing pants. She asks: “Why would anyone care? Who made those rules?” Good questions!

Our kids are ready to have playful fashion that matches their ability to see each other as people, not strictly as boys or girls who fit into a box. Let’s take that box, shake it out on the floor, and mix and match until our kids pick what they want to wear. Everything ends up dirty in the laundry machine anyway!

—by Alex Davidson via StereoType

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Elizabeth Brunner is a San Francisco-based designer and the founder of StereoType, a gender-free, st‌yle-forward kids clothing brand that’s designed to celebrate individuality and freedom of self-expression by blending traditional ideas of boys’ and girls’ wear. StereoType combines st‌yle, design and comfort to inspire creativity, individuality and freedom of expression.

When I was little, I always knew I was in trouble by the size of my mother’s eyes. If I did something wrong, her eyes widened to reveal every inch of white and her disappointment. My Mom was never a yeller—she always spoke in an even tone, and communicated very well about what we needed to correct regarding our behavior or attitude. I believe the way she reacted taught me and my siblings many lessons about respect.

Remember respect? I feel like this is a lost virtue in the world today, especially between children and adults. Somehow we have communicated to children that they are equal with adults, and I don’t know about you, but that’s not the world I grew up in! We were taught to respect our elders; to learn from our elders.

Now, let me clarify: respecting our elders does NOT mean we teach our children to not respect themselves, or suppress their voices or discourage them from even finding their voices. Respect is something we have to teach by example, and once that is accomplished, respect should be a mutual dance that is done easily and instinctively. But, it starts in the sandbox. And it starts with you.

First, it’s gut-check time: how are you showing your children what respect means and what respect is? I am a visual learner, and I believe most kids are. You want to show them how to treat people, not just tell them. As a parent or caretaker, let’s take inventory of how you treat your friends, family, strangers, etc? More importantly, how do you treat others when you don’t agree with them?

I see parents yelling at the TV because they’re watching the news and they disagree with commentators. To think your kids aren’t watching you, hearing you, or taking in your energy is shortsighted. That moment, as small as you may think it is, speaks volumes. What you are teaching your child, as they watch your emotions get the best of you, is that if you disagree with someone or something, you can yell/scream/cuss—whatever you want because you “feel like it.”

I understand that we can’t edit our reactions, nor should we try and suppress emotions, but I do believe we need to teach our children that there is a right and wrong way to react and to communicate our feelings. Perhaps they are just getting in tussles on the playground right now, but they will have bigger problems later in life that you need to prepare them for now. They will be faced with challenging moments that stress them out; hurt them; incite them, etc. It’s our job to give them the tools to react to whatever arena they’re dropped in with the self-respect, and respect of others, that they and we all deserve.

This may sound like a daunting task what I am asking, but if you step back, I am not asking anything from you that isn’t basic: it comes down to manners. Saying “please,” “thank you,” “pardon me,” “I appreciate you,” etc. We need to give our kids this language and we need to remember to practice it, too. Holding doors for people, being a helper when we see someone in need, approaching people from a place of empathy and compassion, etc—these are all lessons we need to teach our children, and the only way to successfully do that is by showing them how we treat others and how we treat them. Yes, you read that right—treating our children with respect is how they learn to respect themselves and respect others.

We also have to be mindful of our village: the people influencing our children. Maybe this is extended family, grandparents, friends, teachers, or even our children’s friends. You are the company you keep, as they say. This is yet another lesson our kids need to learn from the jump. If they hang around troublemakers, chances are they are going to get into more mischief. You can’t always control who your children choose as friends, but you certainly need to be paying attention to it. Sometimes your child’s behavior, especially if erratic or if you’re seeing changes over time, is being influenced by something or, more likely, someone.

If you ever witness your children’s friends being disrespectful, I give you permission to step in. I am not telling you to spank or punish, but you certainly have the authority to let that child know that there are rules in your house and specific behavior won’t be tolerated. Of course, there is a fine line we don’t want to cross when it comes to correcting or disciplining other people’s children, but try to remember that you’re measuring it based on the values of your home. It’s simple: either they align with your values or they don’t. And, if they don’t, then maybe that friendship isn’t meant to be.

Regardless of your definition of respect, there is one thing we can all agree on: we want the best for our kids, and we want to raise them to be kind and spread it. The way to do that? Respect.

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Florence Ann Romano, The Windy City Nanny™ (WindyCityNanny.com), is an author, philanthropist and web series star/host who has always had a special place in her heart for children. 

Even if you can’t go to the museum or the zoo, you can still explore these places virtually. Many locations are offering opportunities for your kids to experience some awesome places from the comfort of your living room.

photo: Rawpixel

—Jennifer Swartvagher & Karly Wood

 

Featured image: iStock 

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Make 2021 the year of the family photo. Yes, it’s time to get your finger on the photo button once again! You don’t have to hire a pro photographer or travel to a tropical location to capture a great family portrait.  If you’re taking family hikes or walks around Washington, DC, you are probably passing the perfect backdrop for an insta-worthy family photo. We rounded up some of our favorite places to take a picture. Get ready to get snappy with one of these iconic backdrops in the DMV.

#1 Washington Monument

Meghan Yudes Meyers

Photo Tip: Due to the slight elevation at the top of the hill, this is a great place to snap a picture with the Lincoln Memorial or the Capitol in the background. If you want to feature the Washington Monument, try to position yourselves so that the Monument itself is between people and not sticking out of the top of someone’s head!

Safety regulations: There are periodic closures on the National Mall due to recent events at the Capitol. Check here for the latest updates. The Washington Monument is temporarily closed to visitors until 1/24. 

Washington Monument
2 15th St. NW
National Mall
Online: nps.gov

#2 DC Murals

Meghan Yudes Meyers

Photo tip: Gray skies and winter weather can wash out even the best backdrop. Head to one of these vibrant murals in DC to add pops of color to your candids. 

Find DC's most vibrant murals here

#3 Great Falls Park

Tricia Mirchandani

Photo tip: Let the water take center stage at this location. Huddle together on one of the overlooks in your fleeces on a brisk day and the waterfalls create a brilliant backdrop.

Safety regulations: Trails and overlooks are open, but the visitor center is closed. Water fountains are currently not available. 

Great Falls Park
9200 Old Dominion Dr.
McLean, VA
Online: nps.gov

#4 A Local Winery

Libby Denton

Photo Tip:  A great picture has a backdrop that enhances a person's portrait, it doesn't compete with it. Wineries offer a rich background that blends foliage with rustic stone and wood. Even in the winter, snow covered vines add an architectural element to a family portrait. 

Find a local DC winery here

#5 Gravelly Point Park

Vivi N. via Yelp

Photo Tip: Timing really is everything with this one but capturing your faces, or at least your eyes, below a plane taking off is possible! It may take a few tries and a few different angles but don’t give up!

Gravelly Point Park
George Washington Pkwy.
Arlington, VA
Online: nps.gov

#6 Howard County Conservancy

Yasmina Cowan

Photo tip: You want to add texture to the back of your subjects, and this location offers a variety to choose from. You'll find rolling hills, tall grasses and historic structures. Plus, the lighting at dusk is dreamy. It's a favorite spot for DC photographers, like Yasmina Cowan

Safety regulations: Trails remain open from dawn to dusk, but nature center is currently closed. 

Howard County Conservancy
10520 Old Frederick Rd.
Woodstock, MD
Online: https://www.howardnature.org/

#7 Any Park or Playground

Schmidt-Reportagen via Pixabay

Photo tip: On the swing, in the sandbox, going down the slide, if you’re there, take a picture just for fun! Two pairs of feet at the top of a twisty slide capture the moment just as nicely as two pairs of eyes smiling at the camera. And, after all, capturing the moment is photos are all about.

Find a DC playground here

—Meghan Yudes Meyers and Tricia Mirchandani

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Originally focused on helping children with disabilities express their creativity through music, the team at SKOOG created a suite of unique hands-on technology devices that children of all abilities can enjoy. Their patented platform includes a parent-controlled app with unique cube-like hardware hat allows your little ones to play and create without relying solely on a smartphone screen. Now they have partnered with Sesame Street to pair SKOOG technology with Sesame Workshop’s early childhood expertise and educational content.

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By pressing soft, squeezable, interchangeable RFID buttons on their SKOOG Cube, little ones will be able to enjoy interactive songs, games and stories featuring the voices of beloved Sesame Street characters.

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“Children’s interactive play has never been as important as it is right now. In today’s complex digital world, we set out on a mission to help motivate and inspire children, leading the shift from passive consumption to active engagement—while enabling children of all abilities to play, engage, and consume safe and smart content independently,” said Gregg Stein, SKOOG Inc., CEO. “As huge Sesame Street fans, we’re thrilled to be collaborating with Sesame Workshop, a community of creators, educators, and unforgettable characters built on diversity, equity, and inclusion. Together, we have created a best-in-class physical and digital creative sandbox that will empower millions of children to experience the joy of infinitely expandable personal play patterns, enabled by stories and audio books, branching adventures, games, musical instruments, songs and so much more.”

“Playful learning is at the heart of everything we do at Sesame Workshop, so we’re thrilled to work with SKOOG, Inc. to bring this enriching new play experience to life,” said Scott Chambers, Sesame Workshop’s Senior Vice President & General Manager, North America Media & Licensing. “We hope that our unique combination of SKOOG technology and Sesame Workshop’s powerful content will inspire kids and families to get creative together – with a little help from the Sesame Street Muppets!”

SKOOG is launching at CES Digital 2021. Be the first to learn more by signing up at: https://skoog.media/

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of SKOOG

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Since he was in his early 20’s, my husband has known he would name his son Archie in honor of his beloved grandfather.   They had an enviable relationship built on shared interests, humor, mutual respect and a closeness that doting grandparents strive to achieve. When my husband emerged from a brief serious illness as a child, he requested only one thing: a gingerbread man.  Grandpa Archie ran all over town looking for an open bakery.  Archie took my husband to Israel for his bar mitzvah.  The stories about Archie – his booming voice, his humor, his out-sized personality – are lore in our family.  As Archie lay dying, my husband rushed home from college and sat at his bedside, expressing his love and promising to name a son in his honor. 

Our second child is a boy.  His name is Archie.  He is now 16 years old, and you would be hard-pressed to find many more Archie’s in his school, or in any school in our community.

When it was announced that the Duke and Duchess of Sussex have named their precious new baby Archie Harrison.  And the internet has begun to implode.

Archie is a popular name in Great Britain.  When my son was young, we were playing in the park one summer day, and I heard a woman with a British accent hollering for him.   I turned to try and figure out why this stranger was calling my son.  It didn’t occur to me that she might be calling another child – namely, her own son who had wandered over to the sandbox.

When I do occasionally meet another boy named Archie, I am taken aback.  I’m not sure why I’m so surprised, but I am.  There is a uniqueness about the name, perhaps tied to its’ strong association with the old Archie Comics character.  Inevitably, when I mention his name, someone will respond, “Where’s Jughead?  Is it Veronica or Betty?  Hey, like the comic book!” 

Yes, like the comic book.

I’m sure my teenaged son really loves all of this, and all of the additional feedback he gets on his name on a regular basis.

I’ve been fascinated to read all of the negative, insulting messages about the name Archie on social media comments.  Every parent can name their child anything they like, and in the United States, many parents have created, from whole cloth and imagination, some particularly interesting and sometimes outlandish names.  Yet a couple in Great Britain choosing an old-fashioned name like Archie is noteworthy, and also, strangely, an issue about which total strangers feel entitled to an opinion.  I’ll admit, the Duke and Duchess aren’t any ordinary couple: they are a hugely popular, closely watched couple who have just produced a half-American, bi-racial royal offspring.  But still, all of this fuss over the name Archie feels a little extreme.

Archie is the Scottish or English nickname for Archibald, which is of Germanic origin.  It means bold or brave.  It is my understanding that Archie is a family name of Prince Harry’s late mother, Princess Diana.  Regardless, they could have named their son Moon or Sun or Stars.  That choice was entirely up to them.

My son has already grown tired of hearing the royal baby naming news from classmates, teachers and anyone he encounters.  His unique name has suddenly taken on a level of interest that he hasn’t yet experienced in his life.  The upside is that the news cycle changes quickly these days, and social media trolls will soon move on to bashing other people for their personal life choices.  As my British friend reminded me, today’s news is tomorrow’s fish ‘n chip wrapper.

For our family, the true, very personal origin of my son’s name makes it even more special and important.  There’s nothing trendy about it.  He was named to honor, to remember and to show tremendous love.  We named him with the sincere hope that he would have a long, happy life like the one his great grandfather enjoyed.  At the end of the day, I imagine that’s the hope of every parent as they gaze into the face of a newborn baby, placed gently in their arms for the first time, as they whisper, “hello.”

So I say….

Hello, Archie Harrison.  Welcome to the world.  Great name.

Natalie Silverstein
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

Natalie Silverstein, MPH, is the NYC coordinator of Doing Good Together. She is a writer, speaker and consultant on the topic of family service. Her first book Simple Acts: The Busy Family's Guide to Giving Back was published in 2019 and her second book for teens will be published in 2022.

They may have bonded in the sandbox over their shared love of diggers or locked eyes while reaching for the same LEGO in the bin, but since playdates are a no-go these days how can kiddos keep up with their besties? Try some good old fashioned paper correspondence this summer! It will help kids feel less isolated, and who doesn’t love getting mail?

Here are a 10 topics to get kids thinking about what they want to “talk” about with their new friends. Encourage kids to ask (and answer) through a letter. Don’t forget the stamps!

photo: Andrea Piacquadio via Pexels 

1. Tell me one interesting thing about each person you live with.

2. If you could be any animal, what would it be and why?

3. What is a weird habit that you have?

4. What is the very first thing you do when you wake up each day?

5. Do you have any scars? How did you get them?

6. What do you want to be when you grow up?

7. If you could only eat one food for a week, what would it be?

8. What’s the coolest place you have ever visited and why?

9. If you could do anything you wanted for an entire day, what would you do?

10. Who is the person you most like to spend time with and why?

–Erin Feher

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The words of Robert Fulghum’s essay, “All I Really Need to Know I Learned in Kindergarten,” hung on my kitchen wall like a whisper of God’s grace amidst our daily living when my three kids were tiny tots.  He reminds us with profound wonder how most of what you need to know about life you learn in kindergarten: share everything, play fair, clean up your own mess, to name a few.

If you’ve been a parent for any length of time, say, a few months, I’m guessing you’ve come to learn the school of parenting includes an even deeper sandbox of lessons from which to scoop meaning and purpose. And not because counting forward from the date on our birth certificate equates to wisdom either. Wisdom is knowing what you don’t know, which is a lot of not knowing much about anything when entering parenthood.

Kids are ego smashers, and the “in the sand experience of raising them” offers many opportunities to knock down our castles of pride and self-preservation. After 23 years of feet in the gritty stuff adventure, my soul walks much lighter having had fortresses of vainglory crumble.

The journey of raising kids does a number on our heart, whatever the real meaning is of such a cliché. But doing a number on us in terms of parenting means unexplainable twists and turns, tugs and pulls of emotions. And if we allow ourselves to learn from the flux, the experience can and should transform our heart in any number of ways.

For me, doing the mom thing for decades means a head full of retrospect and a heart which continues to morph in a million ways. Consider the following poem my parenting heartspeak in 100 words—inspired in full by the talented and wise Robert Fulghum.

Cherish everything.

Fight fair.

Don’t compare yourself to others.

Put everything into perspective.

Worry about your own mess.

Don’t expect others to see things the way you do.

Say I love you. Always.

Count to ten before anything.

Pray.

Trials and struggles enlighten you.

Live a grateful life.

Trust more, think less.

And love and hug and listen and laugh.

Speak, but also be.

Make some time for you every day.

When you feel like you’re alone on an island,

Know a million other parents share the same shore.

Communicate, then succeed and fail together.

Become a child once again.

Our children see the world from a different vantage point. Finding the courage to stoop to their level is akin to sprinkling pixie dust upon any beleaguered, disparaging, and calloused life views. The evils of fallen nature have yet to tarnish the innocence, so the wonder, wide-eyed amazement and unconditional love of everything in sight still tumbles through their spirit. Choosing to go along for the ride can awaken our tired adult selves and rebirth a knowing of what matters most.

And these are only some of the lessons we learn in the first decade. The second half of child-rearing is a close encounter of the undefinable kind, unfurling life lessons from every quantum cranny of the parent-child universe. Stay tuned as I sit crisscross applesauce in my empty nest and muse over how to pen the adolescent years into 100 words or less.

And if you know a mom or dad who would enjoy this post, please share. The more insight we can garner and pass around, the better journey for us as parents—which means even greater rewards for our kids going forward.

Transform on, crazy Mamas!

A self-described “sappy soul whisperer/sarcasm aficionado,” Shelby is a wife of 27 years & mom of three millennials. She co-authored How Are You Feeling, Momma? (You don't need to say, "I'm fine.") Her stories are in print at Guideposts, online at sites like Her View From Home and Parenting Teens & Tweens, and at shelbyspear.com. Get 3 FREE chapters of Shelby's book