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Let’s be honest, parents love a good kids’ movie. One that combines quality comedy (appropriate for the little ones, of course), a plot that maintains your interest and adorable animations is the purr-fect way to spend an afternoon together.

Fortunately for parents, this summer, Paws of Fury: The Legend of Hank is delivering exactly that. The CGI animated film meets martial arts comedy is set in a realm where cats and dog(s) definitely fight—but also learn to team up to defeat a villainous kitty. With a laugh-out-loud plot that doesn’t miss a chance to use animal puns or famous movie references, children and parents will enjoy the relatable themes of friendship, courage, self-confidence and determination.

Toss in the A-list cast of hilarious actors and comedians–including Michael Cera, Samuel L. Jackson, Ricky Gervais, Mel Brooks and Gabriel Iglesias (a.k.a. Fluffy!)–and this comical movie will have your entire family howling with laughter.

Cats out of the bag: Paws of Fury: The Legend of Hank will be in theaters on July 15!

The Action-Packed Premise

Paws of Fury follows Hank, a hard-on-his-luck hound (voiced by actor Michael Cera), who is a bit of an outcast with his fellow canines. He has dreams of becoming a tough samurai, so when he finds himself in a village of dog-hating cats who are in danger, he knows he must go from underdog to unlikely hero. The only problem is: who will teach this old dog new tricks? 

With assistance and training from his reluctant cat mentor, Jimbo (Samuel L. Jackson), Hank trades in his stick for a sword to become the town samurai. He teams up with his newfound pals to take down Ika Chu (Ricky Gervais), an evil cat who plans to destroy the community. 

The movie also features voice talent from the acclaimed ensemble of Mel Brooks, George Takei, Aasif Mandvi, Gabriel Iglesias, Djimon Hounsou, Michelle Yeoh, Kylie Kuioka and Cathy Shim. You don't want to miss this epic cat (and dog) fight!

How many paws will it take to defeat the villainous feline?

Why Parents Will Love the Theatrical Animated Comedy

Following the journey of Hank chasing his dreams instead of his tail, Paws of Fury explores universal themes of bravery, determination and friendship. Through the fantasy realm where cats and dogs can truly be friends, the movie highlights how people (and animals, too!) can form a bond despite being from different backgrounds and having different perspectives. It also showcases how, when others work together and put their differences aside, they can achieve wonderful and positive outcomes.

Children can also look up to Hank's courage, grit and confidence in himself when learning a new talent of becoming a samurai. While the uncoordinated pup initially knows nothing of self-defense, he doesn't give up and continues to push forward, which leads him to defeat the villain. 

With many meaningful life lessons subtly weaved in, the animated film will resonate with families and kids of all ages and backgrounds. 

Keep the Laughs Going

For an added layer of fun (and we can't forget giggles), check out the Paws of Fury mini-game here. Your kiddo can test their samurai skills by performing special moves during a training session with instructor Jimbo. 

For a brain teaser, try to help Hank make his way through a maze, spot the difference between two photos or play a memory card game with this free, downloadable activity book.

Paws of Fury: The Legend of Hank is pouncing into theaters on July 15. Buy your tickets meow!

Photo: Ali Flynn

As I raise daughters in today’s world, I am often scared. Scared for their safety and for mine. Scared of what can happen at any given moment.

After reading the news over the weekend, about Sarah Everard in London, I am scared of what our girls must be feeling.

If they can’t feel safe walking around fully clothed, a mask covering one’s face, and talking on the phone, where can they feel safe? We can’t raise our girls to live in a bubble.

So as I raise my daughters to listen to their gut, pay attention to their surroundings, and physically and emotionally defend themselves, thoughts keep popping up.

Do men ever have the fear of walking alone in an enclosed parking garage, a busy street, or a dark parking lot? 

Do men ever think they must find a spot, to park the car, under the street light? 

Do men feel uncomfortable walking alone on a street or navigating unknown territory? 

Do men always need to listen to their gut instincts before a date? Or while walking on the street?

Do men ever think they shouldn’t accept a drink from a stranger in a bar?

Do men ever feel a need to paint their nails, with special nail polish, to make sure their drink isn’t roofied?

Do men ever feel concerned about how to get themselves out of a potentially dangerous situation with a woman? 

Do men fear a woman will attack them sexually and with such aggressive behavior that many years later they still carry around the fear? 

Do men fear that if they share information about an assault that no one will hear them? 

No one will believe them?  They will be blamed and ridiculed? 

Do men fear a woman could potentially kill them because their footsteps are just a bit too close behind them to feel comfortable?

Do men feel a need to double-check the Uber driver’s name and learn how to unlock child locks in the back seat?

Do men feel that a self-defense class is necessary to learn how to fight off a woman? 

Do men purchase bracelets to alert police and emergency contacts they are in danger?

Do men wonder if police, those protecting us, are actually the police?

Do men question how much clothing covers their body so as not to be blamed if they are taken advantage of?

Do men have to worry about being followed home, looking in rearview mirror, or turning their heads around while walking?

Do men need their keys on hand before they approach their apartment door so there isn’t any lag time?

Do men need to downplay their sexuality to not be blamed?

Well, the reality is this, many women feel this way.

I wish these fears, for many women, didn’t exist and maybe the fear doesn’t show up daily, but it is enough to take pause, take notice and often take action to ensure one’s safety.

But how do we make these fears end? 

I don’t have the answers…but I have a simple wish.

As our world moves forward, may our daughters feel safe, protected and continue to listen to their gut instincts.

This is my silent prayer for all of our daughters.

And for the men who carry these fears as well, my hope for you too is to never have to carry this burden around with you, and rather know you are safe and at peace.

 

 

Ali Flynn Is excited to share with you the joys and hardships of motherhood with an open heart, laughter and some tears. Ali is a monthly guest contributor for Westchester County Mom  and has been seen on Filter Free Parents, Grown and Flown, Today Parents and Her View From Home.

In spite of what we’re facing now with the COVID-19 crisis, as parents we still must look forward, and we know summer is coming. For many of us, summer camps and childcare is a necessity. We are doing our best to monitor any changes, and encourage you to double-check the individual camp refund/cancellation policies. We also want to continue to support our local businesses including these beloved summer camps. 

If summertime has you feeling like a cruise director with the daily “what are we going to do today?” questions, we’ve got the scoop for you. These local Bay Area summer camps for kids have modified their offerings to create smaller group camp experience and virtual camps for kids. Kids can practice different forms of art, make pasta, learn coding and spend the day outdoors exploring nature. And, don’t forget to check out our Summer Camp Guide for even more Bay Area summer camp ideas!

ABADA Capoeira Summer Camps

ABADA Capoeira

ABADA Capoeira San Francisco (ACSF) will be holding two in person summer camps for kids ages 5-12 starting July 6.

ACSF’s experiential camp is full of fun, friends, and learning! During each one-week session, children are exposed to diverse cultural arts, and introduced to the Mission neighborhood through mural tour adventures. Campers spend the day learning capoeira and maculelê movements, playing instruments including trying their hand at drumming, singing songs in Portuguese, and playing capoeira-based games that accentuate team building, leadership and cooperation.

Campers not only learn acrobatic and self-defense movements but also use them to improvise and create in collaboration with other students. They receive exposure to a broad range of arts, with guest artist classes in hip hop, percussion, and Afro-Brazilian dance.  Camp is led by Antonio Contreras “Instrutor Corrente”, under the supervision of Mestra Márcia Cigarra.

Online: abada.org

Cooking Round the World—Virtual and In-Person Camps

Cooking Round the World

Cooking Round the World Summer Camp is a delightful way for your child to have a summer of food, fun and deliciousness! They offer virtual camps throughout the summer as well as in-person camps available in Oakland, Millbrae, Walnut Creek, Concord, Cupertino, Hayward, Hercules and Pinole. Themes like Harry Potter, Star Wars, baking and Pixar are sure to keep the kids interested in cooking. 

Dates: June 15-Aug. 14 
Online
: www.cookingroundtheworld.com

COVID-19 Update: Check the website for precautions being followed for in-person camps. 

Camp CuriOdyssey—Virtual STEAM Camps

Camp CuriOdyssey provides kids with interactive experiences that spark excitement and ignite curiosity. Campers utilize their natural talents of inquiry, investigation, and individual discovery to develop lifelong critical thinking skills. Camp groups are small and there are lots of opportunities for scientific discovery. Camps available for pre-K through 6th graders. 

Dates: Week-long camps available June 15-August 21 (see update below)
1651 Coyote Point Drive
San Mateo, CA
Online: curiodyssey.org

COVID-19 Update: While their traditional science camps will not be taking place this summer, CuriOdyssey has re-envisioned their summer programs to provide stimulating activities that will ignite children’s curiosity in a format that can be delivered safely for everyone. Virtual STEAM offerings will include materials that can be picked up or delivered prior to camp. 

Virtually Vocal

Virtually Vocal

The award-winning choral organization for girls, Young Women's Choral Projects of San Francisco, is offering two weeks of online singing camps for girls in grades 1-8, in two sessions grouped by age. Activities for each group will include singing music in a variety of styles, building music reading and writing skills, instruction in vocal technique, music games, dancing, yoga, arts and crafts—and more singing! Local and non-local singers welcome. Scholarships available. Come experience the joy of singing this summer! 
 
Dates: July 13-17 and July 20-24
Online: ywcp.org

The Marine Mammal Center’s Camp Sea Quest

Giancarlo Rulli/The Marine Mammal Center

The Marine Mammal Center’s Camp Sea Quest is getting a virtual makeover to support families during these uncertain times. This summer, rising fifth through eighth graders have an exciting opportunity to experience the best marine science activities the world’s largest marine mammal hospital has to offer from the comfort of their home! Through our interactive virtual community, campers will connect with one another as they learn about the importance of ocean conservation and marine mammals while developing key team-building and leadership skills.

Campers have the opportunity to choose from a mix of science-based activities they can complete at home, as well as behind-the-scenes virtual experiences of the hospital and marine mammal habitats. Interactive activities include science experiments, crafts, monitoring animal behavior, marine mammal identification and much more that can be easily done at home with just a few materials!

Dates: July 13-17 and 27-31
Online
: marinemammalcenter.org

Camp EDMO—EDMO Live!

Camp EDMO

Camp EDMO, leading Bay Area non-profit offering STEAM and SEL (social emotional learning) camps and programs, announced its line-up of online summer camps that will provide a rich and engaging virtual experience for kids in Pre-k to 8th grade, while still moderating screen time. The week-long, 2.5 hour morning and afternoon camps, will kick off the week of June 8 and will be led by experienced Camp EDMO staff. Camp sessions, arranged by age groups, are geared to maker, science and tech projects, but will also include rallies, snack breaks, SEL games and indoor recreation. 

Dates: June 8-Aug. 14. Morning, afternoon and drop-in sessions available. 
Online: campedmo.org

The Rabbit Hole Children's Theater—Virtual Summer Camps

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With the health and safety of families and staff at the forefront of our mind, The Rabbit Hole has decided to transition their summer programming to a new In-Home structure. Consistent with their studio-based imaginative offerings, your kiddos will experience interactive, creative, collaborative FUN in the safety of your home! 

Home-to-Home Camps will be offered by delivering a camp Bunny Box to your door filled with craft projects, props, set pieces and everything your child will need to build an exciting show. We will also include a camp schedule, daily morning zoom class, recorded puppet shows, and a dance routine in addition to a pre-recorded narration of the final show that will feel like old world radio meets a make-believe podcast adventure to really spark your kiddo's imagination and guide them through a theatrical performance at home!

Dates: June 1- Aug. 28
Online: therabbitholesf.com

Young Art Virtual STEAM Camps

Kate Loweth

If you've been to any of the Bay Area Young Art locations, you know what an awesome experience it is for kids to get hands-on coaching in creating art. This summer, Young Art will be offering a virtual class experience combining multiple art forms and scientific experiments. Weekly morning and afternoon sessions are available. A supply list will be provided or purchase a supply kit to have it sent to you. 

Dates: June 8- Aug. 28
Cost: Use code "RedTriCamp" to save 50% off the $79 weekly camp cost
Online: youngartusa.co

GrowFit Camp Redwood City, San Jose, West Sacramento, San Ramon & Rancho Cordova

Grow Fit

GrowFit Camp is for kiddos between the ages of four and twelve. Locations are open this summer in Redwood City, San Jose, West Sacramento, San Ramon, and Rancho Cordova. GrowFit strives to be the safest place for kids to try new sports. Nurturing the playfulness within us, GrowFit’s social-emotional approach helps children ages four to twelve, learn to love being active – while building confidence and having fun. Schedules vary at all locations based on county COVID-19 orders.

Online: growfit.camp

Summer Film and Arts Camps

Katherine Hecht

Alexander Valley Film Society (AVFS), Luther Burbank Center for the Arts (LBC), and Transcendence Theatre Company (TTC) are collaborating on an incredible program of virtual summer camps. Collectively, the organizations will provide seven weeks of virtual, wrap-around summer arts camp experiences for students sheltering in place.

Beginning June 22, they can take the AVFS Filmmaking Bootcamp to prepare for capturing footage of themselves and their families during the rest of the summer camps. Next, students head to the LBC Summer Arts Sampler Camp for hip-hop dance, ukulele, & percussion for one of the three week-long sessions. Then students attend the Transcendence Theatre Company camps for theater, improv, dance, and movement. Finally, students return to the AVFS Editing Bootcamp to put together their final footage from the summer. Students are encouraged to mix and match camps or take them all! A showcase of student films will take place at a later date.

Bonus: the majority of the camps are totally free!

Online: avfilmsociety.org

Coastal Camp at NatureBridge—Sausalito

NatureBridge

Connect with nature in the Marin Headlands with weekly themes like marine biology, coastal ecology, conservation and cultural history. Campers get up close with tidepool creatures in the intertidal marine lab, create field sketches while overlooking the Golden Gate Bridge, sail the Bay on an 82-foot schooner and hike along coastal trails to the historic Point Bonita Lighthouse. They even offer a shuttle service from San Francisco, Sausalito and Mill Valley.

Dates: Week-long camps available June 8-August 14 (partially canceled, see update below)
Marin Headlands
1033 Fort Cronkhite
Sausalito, CA
Onlinecoastalcamp.org

COVID-19 Update: Costal Camp has canceled all sessions through June 29. They have also canceld the shuttle service. See here for updates. 

Snapology Virtual Summer Camps Featuring LEGO Bricks

Snapology

Snapology offers STEAM fun online theme based virtual camps. Camps are designed for ages 5-12 and only use the screen or device to simply instruct the students. The core of their two-hour camps is always focused on building, creating, designing and problem solving using LEGO bricks. Programs include plenty of activity breaks to make sure your child stays active and engaged. 

Dates: June 8 - Aug. 7
Online: embed.snapology.com

The Coder School—Various Bay Area Locations

At our summer camps we mastered Cat's Cradle, but today's campers will come home with the ability to build websites, design games, even create their own social media platforms. The Coder School is a wildly popular South Bay institution, training the next generation of techies. 

Dates: Week-long camps available June 8-August 14 (see update below)
Locations: throughout the Bay Area
Online: thecoderschool.com

COVID-19 Update: Coder School will be holding in-person camps based on the local requirements. Some locations will be offering virtual camps in place of in-person. Check your nearby location for current information. 

Steve & Kate's Camp—Various Bay Area Locations

Steve & Kate's Camp

A total procrastinator's dream, Steve and Kate's Camp offers drop-in camps for kids as young as four at their 13 Bay Area locations. Camps run Monday through Friday, 7:30 a.m. to 6 p.m. and you can drop off your camper any time during that period with no advance notice needed. Camp days are totally led by each kid—they choose from activities relating to film, bread-making, coding, fashion and film. There's no worry about kids getting bored as they can literally move to another activity whenever they choose. You can purchase any number of day passes you wish and use them at any of their locations. Plus, you are automatically refunded for any passes that you buy and don't use by the end of the summer.

Dates: Daily, drop-in camp from June 8-August 14 (see update below)
Onlinesteveandkatescamp.com

COVID-19 Update: As of 5/26, Steve & Kate's is in a holding pattern for Summer 2020. They plan to offer a modified summer camp program to comply with local requirements. Check here for current updates. 

Cucina Bambini—San Jose and Los Gatos

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With two locations in Los Gatos and Willow Glen, kids have tons of opportunities to beef up their cooking skills at Cucina Bambini's summer camp. Teens can learn how to make pasta while little ones bake cakes or make apple crumble with ice cream in a bag. There's even a Top Chef-esque battle class where kids learn essential cooking skills and compete in daily individual and group challenges. 

1040 Lincoln Ave.
San Jose, CA

22 S. Santa Cruz Ave.
Los Gatos, CA
Onlinecucinabambini.com

COVID-19 Update: Cucina Bambini will be offering smaller classes (max 12 students) beginning June 15. 

Sessions Academy of Movement—San Jose

Kids will feel like an American Ninja Warrior when they take on the obstacle courses, parkour games, freerunning and other age-dependent activities at this summer camp. Kids will flip for the acrobatics they get to do into the stunt bag. Campers must be at least age five and all camps run from 9 a.m.-3 p.m. 

2016 Senter Rd.
San Jose, CA
Onlinesessionsgym.com

COVID-19 Update: Camps will be held as scheduled with smaller groups (max 12 kids). 

Have you signed your kids up for a summer camp in the Bay Area? Where will they be going this year? Don’t forget to visit our Summer Camp Guide for even more summer camp suggestions.

—Kate Loweth & Erin Feher

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Self-care looks different for every mom, yet sometimes we try to impose our definitions of self-care onto our Mom friends or acquaintances.

I have, admittedly, not been good with self-care. No one would run through a list of my qualities and be like, “I really admire how well she balances taking care of her family with taking care of her own sanity.”

Do I see the value in self-care? Absolutely! However, I believe every mom goes through different seasons, where something her child or family is going through asks more of her and she needs to do whatever she feels is best in those seasons of life, whether it means some days she needs more time for herself or some days she gets none.

You might hear about mom-shaming because a mother took care of herself or time out for herself, but I have lived the very opposite and it’s difficult as well.

I didn’t expect to have an out of the ordinary first time parenting experience, but when my daughter was born with a cleft palate, hearing loss, feeding difficulties, severe apnea, required oxygen and later was diagnosed with sensory processing disorder and autism…I felt like what she needed from me in that time in our lives, far outweighed anything I would need or want to do for myself.

My life became about therapy around the clock, surgeries, specialists, always watching her breathe and praying she wouldn’t stop. I was an Army wife. My husband was in Afghanistan. I had no family and hardly any friends in our duty station and yet everyone I had ever known kept telling me that I needed to go out. I needed a bath. I needed a nap. I needed to get my nails done. I needed to go to a spa.

They meant well. I know they did. They were worried about me. They felt bad for the stress I was under and felt all their suggestions were helpful to me. However, it tended to make me feel even worse. For starters, I literally did not have a single soul who could help me with my daughter, so I would be able to do any of those things. I was doing the best I could alone, to keep my head above water most days. It also felt like no one understood how much the sacrifice was my choice. I wanted to help my daughter get healthier. I wanted to be the one sleeping next to her on the hospital floor. I wanted to be the first face she saw when she woke up from surgeries, scared and in pain. I wanted to learn how to do all her therapies with her, so I could give her the best shot at a good future. I wanted it to be me, as draining and soul-sucking as it was sometimes.

My husband? He understood this about me. He understood that she came first to me. He knew that no matter how many times he would encourage me to get out or take a bath, that I would choose her every time. Both he and I knew this wouldn’t last forever and that her needs outweighed ours and we lovingly did what she needed us to do in that season of her life.

Fast forward eight years and add two more kids. I just graduated from a 40-hour self-defense course. I go get the occasional pedicure. I treat myself to daily Dutch Bro’s. My husband puts the kids down for bed, so I can sit at Starbucks and write or go for a drive without being asked 5,000 questions and listening to a Blippi soundtrack.

I take care of myself better than I ever have, but it was on my terms, in the way I felt good about.

Listen Mamas: The only person who truly knows your heart is the good Lord and you! You are the only one who needs to approve of how you parent and how you take care of yourself. It is alright if that looks different than other people tell you it should.

It’s okay if it’s all too much sometimes and it’s okay to push through the tears and exhaustion. It’s okay to take a day at the spa and it’s okay if taking a shower every 2-3 days feels like a victory. It’s okay to want a night out in clothes that aren’t covered in mac n’ cheese and ketchup and it’s okay to feel like there’s no place in the world you’d rather be than curled up with your babies, listening to them breathing.

 Self-care looks different to each and every one of us, at different times in our lives. At the end of the day, when you climb into bed and your soul is weary, you are the only one who has to feel content with what you gave to the day and what you gave to yourself. It was your best and it was enough.

The Redeemed Mama is a writer who had had articles published by The Today Show, Love What Matters, The Mighty, Faithit, For Every Mom, The Creative Child Magazine and more. She has 3 beautiful kids and resides in Southern Arizona and loves writing about parenting, life and growth!

Getting fit in 2020 is easier than ever for local parents. These Portland-area workout options don’t make you choose between tending to the kids or yourself. They offer play and care options for the wee ones so you you can sweat it out for a bit. Getting your workout in isn’t just possible, it’s easy with these gyms that provide childcare. Read on to find out where you can get fit fast.

photo: VillaSport via yelp

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Locally founded barre3 offers hour-long classes designed for a full body workout. Incorporating elements of yoga, ballet and isometric holds, classes are taught in group settings with individualized modifications to fit any fitness level. With five area locations in the Pearl, SE Division, Cedar Mill, Kruse Village and North Williams, there’s likely also a studio near you. The “play lounge” is only $5 per session, where children can read books, play with toys or draw pictures with the onsite nanny service.

Four Portland-area locations, including the Pearl, SE Division, Cedar Mill and North Williams
Online: barre3.com

photo: West Coast Fitness via facebook

West Coast Fitness
Locally owned West Coast Fitness features a 2,500 square foot yoga studio, large weight room and an expansive group fitness class schedule, all included in membership. They also have a well appointed childcare facility stocked full of toys and learning materials. Maybe you just need a respite from the winter grind? Take advantage of the inclusive services of hydro massage, full spectrum light therapy and steam and sauna while your kiddos get some supervised exercise and play. You’ll all leave feeling a little more relaxed and refreshed!

7522 N. Lombard
503-283-5404
Online: pdxgym.com

photo: Aspire Total Fitness via facebook

Aspire Total Fitness
Another locally-owned and operated fitness studio is Aspire Total Fitness, situated in Happy Valley. Aspire Total Fitness offers group classes, nutrition counseling and personal training for a fully customized experience. In addition to their wide range of cardio, resistance band and barbell classes, Aspire also offers childcare during your workout. Drop in rates are $5/child, or families can purchase an unlimited monthly package for $75 (great for those fitness fanatics with 2+ kids).

14210 SW Sunnyside Rd. Ste. 600
Happy Valley
503-855-3588
Online: aspiretotalfitness.com

photo: Boom Fitness via facebook

Boom Fitness
With locations in both Beaverton and Bridgeport, Boom Fitness has CrossFit, yoga, kickboxing and cycling classes (to name a few!), plus personal training options. Their kids club provides supervised childcare to infants through pre-teens for a flat rate package of $35 per month, or a drop off fee of $8. Check each location for childcare hours.

Bridgeport
18039 SW Lower Boones Ferry Rd.
503-684-8151

Tanasbourne
2200 NW Amberbrook Dr.
Beaverton
503-531-8400
Online: boomfitnesspdx.com

Northwest Women’s Fitness
Looking for a women’s only gym? Check out NW Women’s Fitness for group training classes and boot camps, a weight room and cardio machine center, and semi-private Pilates classes (men are welcome to some Pilates and specialty classes). The Kids Club is open Monday-Saturday and is staffed by two moms who have ran the childcare center for over 10 years. They truly care about your little ones. Drop in fees are $10 for one child, $12 for two children or $15. for 3+ children, plus monthly packages are available. Need a break? Take a steam, sit in the relaxing aroma-light therapy, or get an onsite massage.

2714 NE Broadway
503-287-0655
Online: nwwomensfitness.com

photo: Mittleman JCC via facebook

Mittleman Jewish Community Center (MJCC)
The MJCC has been around for over 100 years, offering swimming, physical therapy, personal training and adult exercise classes. All faiths are welcome! Club J’s drop-in childcare center is open for children aged six months to five years old for up to two hours per session. Rates are only $5/month for members or $15/month for non-members. For older children aged 6-12 years old, there are a variety of camps ranging from swimming, soccer, basketball, racquetball, and board games. Check with the Center for more details on what’s currently available.

6651 SW Capitol Highway
Portland,
503-244-0111
Online: oregonjcc.org 

The Nest Playground
Nest Playground is a 5,000 square foot indoor playground and family wellness center, offering an array of activities for the whole family. Some active options including a rock wall, and classes such as martial arts, dance classes for kids. Additionally, they offer barre, cardio kickboxing and self defense and HIIT classes for adults—and a full service café. Parents lacking the time to fit in an exercise class while shuttling their children back and forth between school and extracurricular activities will benefit from adult classes scheduled at the same time as classes for their children.

The Nest’s full service café and lounge area features free wifi, panini sandwiches, small plates, snacks, pastries, Ristretto Roasters coffee drinks, tea, beer, wine, chai lattes and more.

6517 NE Sandy Blvd,
Portland,
971-229-0963
Online: nestplayground.com

photo: VillaSport via yelp

VillaSport
If you’re looking for the most robust children’s gym center, look no further than Beaverton’s VillaSport! The 12,000 square foot VillaKids is a kids’ club within the larger VillaSport facility, especially for children aged six weeks to 12 years. Youth are treated to studios and courts for exercise, art, basketball and educational activities, plus an enclosed outdoor playground and indoor climbing structure. VillaSport also offers monthly “Parent’s Night Out” parties from 5-10 pm, where children can participate in themed activities while parents enjoy an offsite date night.

13900 SW Meridian St.
Beaverton
971-317-2600
Online: villasport.com

photo: Yoga Union via yelp

Yoga Union
The Mt. Tabor neighborhood’s Yoga Union Community Wellness Center offers more than just yoga. In addition to twelve types of yoga classes ranging from beginners to Vinyasa, the Prema Health Wellness Center provides counseling, massage, acupuncture and naturopathic medicine. While parents engage in healthy activities, the onsite Reggio Emilia-based childcare center offers a safe, nurturing environment for children at affordable prices and extensive hours. Pricing starts at $6 for a half hour, but packages reduce pricing and can be shared amongst siblings.

2305 SE 50th Ave #100
Portland
503-235-9642
Online: yogaunion.com

—April Hasson

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I’ll never forget how in third grade, Kim used to repeatedly ask me to open my mouth, look inside, and ask if I have a retainer. “Why do you talk weird?” she’d ask. I’ll always remember her look of sheer disbelief that the only thing in my mouth was a Daffy Duck-sounding lisp. One friend thought it was so hilarious to ask me to say,“Sprite” and “slushy” to hear my speech impediment in action. Both felt awful and embarrassing.

In fifth grade, Barbara threatened me to fight in the middle of recess—she fought everybody, and I was a “goody-goody.” I told her she couldn’t cut the line and boss people around during jump rope. I told her to wait her turn, and so she was ready to punch me in the face like another girl the week before. The only thing I could stammer was, “I don’t want to fight yooo!” Then I walked so fast into class as the bell rung, holding my breath the entire way—she never bothered me again.

In seventh grade, a boy asked me out and I said, “no” because I was so shy, and so he retaliated by telling everyone my arm hair was like a gorilla’s. He called me “gorilla” often and to everyone. Little did he know that I secretly liked him too, so I made light of the name-calling scenario by giving him a red stuffed animal gorilla. It was so mortifying—all of it—but he never called me that name again. Case closed.

Identifying the Bully

Bullies come in all forms—physical, emotional, and verbal—and it always stinks to be on the receiving end. What’s even worse is when you watch your kids suffer through it all.

No, you shouldn’t be the police parent or the blind-eye parent either. But what do you do? When do you step in? What if the child tells the teacher and he/she downplays the scenario and does nothing? The most important role as children face new and challenging scenarios is to arm them with the best knowledge to identify, speak up, alert a teacher, discuss with a parent, and trust that the parent will step up when necessary.

When gearing up your kids to return to the back-to-school trenches, parents should first understand my top five keys to effective anti-bully combat.

1. Enable open communication and a trusting environment.

2. Discuss “red flag” rules.

3. Provide the proper tools for self-defense.

4. Empower children to alert and escalate an issue to responsible adults.

5. Know when and how to intervene as a parent.

Teach Them to Talk

As kids move through the ranks in school, there will be many situations that cause your kid grief. From pushing and sharing issues, friendship woes, three’s a crowd, jealousy, name-calling, physical grabbing, taunting, and threatening, most negative behaviors stem from the bully’s personal frustration, and often, a lack of discipline. While some situations are minor, others require immediate attention and action.

One of the most important responsibilities as a parent is to create an honest and open line of communication with your child. This communication may seem trivial when he/she is young, but it may be life-changing through the years. Let your child know that he/she is always free to discuss anything about the day without reprimanding—such as trivial social dilemmas, questionable peer discussion, and concerning situations.

Red Flag Rules

Some situations may be part of learning how to navigate through friendships and those less friendly. Social development is vital for children to positively gain a sense of self-worth, identity, and the power to stop and prevent a negative action for themselves and others.

While it isn’t necessary to “tattle” in every instance, children need to learn the “red flags” of inappropriateness. Always teach and remind your children where to draw the line.

  • Physical threatening
  • Verbal threats to physically harm
  • Aggressive grabbing on the body
  • Inappropriate touching or flashing private parts
  • Excessive and condescending name-calling

All scenarios need to be discussed thoroughly, especially when kids are young—role playing is the most effective tactic in arming your child understanding and confidence.

Tools of Armor

Sometimes kids can be emotional, moody, and jealous. Does that mean a call to the principal/head master? Absolutely not, when it’s just a friendship issue. Now that they know what to look out for, it’s time to teach them what to do, which is equally important.

One simple phrase, “Have a nice day!” That’s it. If a friend is rude and unreasonable, wish them well and move on. “Don’t be part of their dark cloud. Continue your sunny day and walk away,” I say. He/she can’t get mad at that phrase. Works every time.

Verbal defense is such an important facet of self-worth and self-respect. I’ll never forget how proud I was when my eldest daughter told me about a girl who kept bullying her and calling her “shrimp” and “such a cute little girl like a baby,” continuously. The bully always pushed her way in front of her in line, until that one day when my daughter spoke up.

“My mom said that people come in all different shapes, sizes, and colors, and THAT is what makes us beautiful. So why don’t you go and pick on someone your own size!”

The bully sheepishly went to the back of the line and later apologized. Speaking up without a personal attack, but with reason, is so critical. From the time a child is beginning school to upper senior school, it is so crucial to teach how to say some key phrases, such as:

  • Stop!
  • Don’t touch me!
  • Leave me alone!
  • That’s not ok.
  • We’ll talk when you’re calm/nicer.

Arming your child with a strong verbal shield is key to confronting the bully. The next step is equally important in knowing when and how to request backup support from school teachers and parents.

Elevating Responsibility

Your kid comes home crying and torn about an issue. As a parent, you don’t want to micro-manage or swoop in for the save every time. But when is it ok to elevate?

Let mild social issues settle themselves unless it crosses the line and there’s some serious name-calling or physical bullying infractions. Parents then get the green light to step in by navigating through a few suggested contacts.

  • Confront the bully’s parent in a team-minded approach to resolve the issue.
  • Alert the class teacher for in-class attention.
  • Step in with the mommy stink-eye.
  • Meet with the head of school.

Mommy-Stink Eye

Did the “mommy stink-eye” catch your eye? Good. This little trick was coined by yours truly, and it’s quite an effective crowd-pleaser among my mom crew. When alerting the bully’s parent isn’t part of your plan, the teacher’s response is weak, and the issue isn’t big enough to escalate to the head of school, what do you do? That’s right, the stink-eye. When I accompany my kid to primary school class and see the snot-faced kid pestering mine, I take action:

  • Ask your kid to repeat what the other one did.
  • Repeat it just loud enough for the child to “overhear.”
  • When the kid turns around to sneak a guilty look at you, give your best look of disapproval and shake your head in dismay. “Don’t worry, I know he/she won’t do that anymore because that’s not ok. It’s never ok to [repeat the bully crime]. Please let me know if it happens again because I know his/her mom well.” Done.

Always remember to trust your instinct. If you see your child coming home particularly angry, moody, or frustrated, get to the bottom of the problem. Discuss options, role play, and always be there for your child to learn from the situation.

Ruthi Davis is a the Founder of Ruth Davis Consulting LLC with over two decades of success in advertising/marketing, media/publicity, business development, client relations, and organizational optimization for a variety of clients. Ruthi is a proud mom and influencer in the parenting and family market as founder of the Superfly Supermom brand.

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Being a girl today is a lot different than it was when I was making my awkward way through middle and high school. Teens are cutting themselves, or worse, at an alarming rate. Our children are getting bullied day in and day out and school systems provide parents with a lackluster, “We don’t tolerate that behavior,” but nothing is being done to put a stop to it. In the age of the #metoo movement, as strong mothers, we must raise strong daughters. 

And while it seems the slogan “Smash the Patriarchy” is everywhere, instead, I’ve created a list of ways that we, as women, can “Restore the Matriarchy.”  Let’s redefine what it means to be a “lady,” etiquette be damned.

1. You don’t need a man, or a woman, to complete you. When I was in high school, my ultimate goal in life was to get married in my early 20’s and start a family as soon as possible. While I don’t regret my family for a second, I do regret not spending more time planning for the future. Now that our family is complete and our youngest has started school, I find myself struggling to find my way in this new chapter of my life. Spend your time after graduation learning about yourself, building a tribe of girlfriends, and becoming comfortable in your own shoes. The last thing a partnership needs is for one or both members to discover themselves five years in and realize they made a big mistake.  

2. Experiment with your st‌yle. Cut your hair, dye it, buy combat boots, wear purple eyeliner, or don’t. Wear that Hogwarts t-shirt until the hem is frayed and it’s so faded you can barely make out the graphic. If people tell you they have a problem with your clothes or the way you do your hair, then these people don’t matter! Your job is not to impress, but to succeed, whatever that means to you. As long as you are happy, how you look doesn’t matter.

3. Not everyone is out to get you. When my daughter received her class schedule for school this year, she immediately started complaining about two of her teachers simply because she heard a rumor that they were awful. Fast forward to the end of her first day, turns out, those teachers aren’t so bad after all. She wasted so much energy focusing on the negative, energy that could have been focused on goal setting for the new year or reading a  book. Some people are jerks and they will try their best to knock you down. Your job is to not let them. There are good people in this world, people who will compliment you and bring out your best. Find those people and cling to them. 

4. Turn up your favorite music and dance and sing to it at least once a day. It doesn’t matter if you are as tone-deaf as boiled cabbage, blast Bohemian Rhapsody and belt it like you’re Freddie Mercury incarnate. Guaranteed to make you forget whatever nonsense you’re dealing with that day, it’s my favorite way to unwind and move on. 

5. Enjoy the steak or that piece of cheesecake. Far too many women punish themselves with ridiculous workouts and long sessions of cardio because they had a bite of chocolate cake or ordered their coffee with half and half. My mother was constantly trying fad diets and shaming me for what I ate. The result? Binge eating Oreos and pizza, yo-yo dieting, and misery well into my 30’s. Be healthy, however that looks for you, but enjoy your body and what you put in it. 

6. Take a self-defense course or learn how to use a firearm. I know we need to hold men more accountable and I will teach my girls that it’s never okay for a person to touch them without permission, that no means no, etc., I will also teach them how to protect themselves. My older daughter is a black belt in taekwondo and every semester, they teach different self-defense techniques. She knows how to use a firearm safely and will be armed with pepper spray prior to entering high school. I’d like to think that she’s also being raised by a strong mother with a take-no-bull mentality, and hope that she’s picking up just a little of what I’m throwing down. 

7. Take charge of your sexual health and enjoyment. My parents were very prudish about sex and what happens to the body during puberty. Thank God for sex education class and good girlfriends, or I would have been like the main character in Carrie when I got my first period. We are very open about sex and nudity in our house. We’ve always been very honest with our children when they have questions about sex and do our best to make them feel comfortable when there’s something they’d like to know. My girls will also know that a woman’s pleasure is important, too, and not just some magical unicorn that’s impossible to achieve. I spent the beginning of my sexual life believing that sex was something that just happened to women and orgasms were few and far between. It took me a long time to realize that my satisfaction should be expected every time sex is in the forecast. Our needs are important, too. Sexual pleasure and masturbation are an important part of any woman’s life, whether she’s with a partner or not. Know what’s going on with your body, track your menstrual cycles, and steer clear of any partner who thinks their sexuality is more important than yours. 

Raising girls is hard and the hardest thing I’ve ever done, by far. But I’m doing my best to instill these strong values in my girls so they will feel empowered for the rest of their lives and know their strength and happiness comes from within them. 

 

This post originally appeared on The Pirate Mom.

I'm a mother, wife, birth professional, lover of the outdoors, and a pirate! I love supporting mothers and making them feel they're not alone in this crazy journey. I created The Pirate Mom blog to show the unconventional side of motherhood and all that entails.