It’s all about lowering the bar and bringing expectations back to normal

It’s quite common that couples have trouble connecting, especially when you add kids and jobs and the stress of the world into the mix. The passion you once shared in your pre-kid life has… morphed, shall we say; now you’re lucky if you have the time and energy to sit and discuss your day after the kids have gone to bed, let alone engage in any sexy business.

A common frustration is that one partner doesn’t feel “in the mood” when the other initiates sex, but a quick perspective shift can change that. Sex therapist Vanessa Marin explains that we’re putting too much pressure on ourselves to expect it to happen this way. “Most of us think that we are supposed to be turned on in the exact moment that our partner initiates. And that can lead to this feeling of being put on the spot, feeling embarrassed or ashamed that you are not turned on when they initiate.” Does it say something about me or us that I’m not into it?

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Marin suggests that we remember that a couple is made up of two different people with different needs. “It would just be too much of a coincidence for you both to be wildly turned on and ready to go at the exact same moment every single time.” In fact, Marin admits that she’s only turned on about 20-25% of the time when her partner initiates sex. (And she’s a sex therapist!)

Rather than feeling upset or annoyed by this situation, Marin has a suggestion for couples: “Instead of asking yourself in that moment, ‘Oh my god, am I turned on right now?’ tell yourself, ‘My partner wants to connect with me. They want to be close to me right now. Am I open to seeing if I can get turned on? Am I open to seeing if I can connect with them?’ That way you just lower the bar, bring expectations back to normal, and you might find that you are so much more open to connection.”

This simple reframing can take the pressure off the situation and leave you open to engaging with your partner on a romantic level.

In previous TikToks, Marin shared other simple tips for connecting with your partner, like doing something new together or talking about your favorite memories as a couple, like your wedding or first date. She also explained why she and her husband find that making out every night without it leading to anything is a great way to keep their connection strong.

Sometimes all it takes is shuffling the deck a bit and re-thinking your approach.

There’s no such thing as a meltdown-free kid, but parents already know that certain situations tend to inspire more tantrums. One of these is leaving a fun place, like a park or somewhere your kids are playing. These are known as “transition meltdowns,” and they may seem like they just come with the territory of having kids of a certain age. But one parenting coach on TikTok has a surprisingly simple tip to help prevent them, and you’re going to want to hear it.

Dr. Chelsey Hauge-Zavaleta posted this video, which starts with a clip of a dad telling his kids they have five minutes before it’s time to leave a bounce house. Right on cue: meltdown.

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“There is a fundamental clash of perspectives between the adult brain and the child brain when you’re trying to transition,” she explains. “This dad is future-oriented. He said, ‘Five minutes and then we’re leaving.’ His language is focused on what comes next. You know what the kids’ brain is focused on? What they’re doing right now.”

The solution, Dr. Hauge-Zavaleta says, is to “work with your child’s brain, not against it.”

“Focus on what they’re focusing on… Instead of ‘five more minutes until we leave,’ say, ‘five more minutes to play,'” she says.

Is it really that simple? According to her, yes! But that’s not her only tip. She has others that she says will make transitions even less likely to result in your child kicking, shouting, and fighting you every step of the way. Another thing parents can do is join their kids to play for the last few minutes. This, she says, helps “deliver the information [that it’s time to leave] in a way that matches their experience of the world.”

“You’ve got to slow way down and you’ve got to shift to their perspective,” she adds.

Some more suggestions: get close to your kids when you deliver what may be bad news, rather than shout it at them from across the playground. And use “melodic intonation.” In the video, she demonstrates how she sings to her kids that it’s time to get in the car.

Of course, there’s no advice in the world that will completely put a stop to meltdowns, because kids are kids. But these tips are a great place to start.

Attn: Parents of tiny explorers! Kids of all ages and stages are on a 24/7 mission to pursue their curiosity. So it’s certainly no surprise that anything and everything has the potential to become a danger zone.

With September marking Baby Safety Month, it’s a great time to ensure that the gear you choose for your growing family is equipped with features that make for a smoother, safer journey together. When it comes to selecting a high-quality, durable, and safe stroller, Bugaboo’s baby gear is tested well beyond industry safety and quality standards.

For peace of mind when your family is on the go, look to these recommended Bugaboo products and top safety tips to keep your infant safe.

 

Bugaboo Baby Gear to Keep Your Bundle Safe & Secure

1. Bugaboo Fox 3

The Bugaboo Fox 3 Bassinet and Seat Stroller is a versatile, all-terrain must-have. The bassinet attachment includes breezy panels for optimal airflow, ensuring your baby can regulate their natural body temperature and won’t get overheated on hot days. Better yet, you can magnetically seal the panel closed whenever cold drafts come your way. When your newborn is ready for the stroller seat, buckle up with the five-point harness, which allows each strap to be secured independently. The four-wheel advanced suspension and large puncture-proof wheels make it simple to steer (even one-handed!), no matter what bumps along the road you might encounter.

2. Bugaboo Donkey 5

From birth to toddler, this reversible, side-by-side double stroller is a sibling (and parent!) essential. It takes just three clicks to change up the configurations–you can use it with just one child, then add another! Kiddos can sit next to each other, face each other, or both face outward at the sights ahead. This latest version features a higher seat, bassinet and side luggage basket to bring your child three centimeters closer to you for an easier reach at mealtime, playtime and hug time. And just like the Fox 3, the new advanced bassinet’s ventilation system regulates your baby's temperature and keeps them comfortable no matter where you stroll!

3. Bugaboo Butterfly

Three words: one-second fold. Yep, this sleek, lightweight, ultra-compact stroller closes in just a second with only one hand. When folded, the dimensions are compatible with the requirements for carry-on luggage–making it an excellent pick for more effortless travel. The Bugaboo Butterfly is made for children six months of age and up to 48.5 lbs. However, it can be used from birth onwards with a car seat using the Butterfly car seat adapters (sold separately).

4. Bugaboo Turtle One by Nuna

Speaking of car seats, the Turtle One by Nuna seat seamlessly integrates with Bugaboo Ant, Bee, Butterfly, Donkey, Fox, Lynx and Cameleon 3 strollers. Designed in collaboration with premium car seat brand Nuna, this seat safely transports your baby from stroller to car (and back!) with ease from the day you drive home from the hospital to the countless adventures ahead. Parents appreciate the resilient outer shell and tailor tech foam for top-notch side-impact protection. P.S.: The Turtle One by Nuna is 20 percent off for the month of September in honor of Safety Month!

Top Safety Tips to Ease Your Worries

No matter which Bugaboo stroller you choose, these simple tips can help keep your kiddo safe and comfortable:

  • Don’t hang heavy bags on the handlebars, or it may tip backward. Properly store your belongings in the basket below the seat.
  • Always lock the stroller’s brakes when you’re stopped. And make sure the stroller is in a locked position when you put your child in!
  • Never leave your child unattended in the stroller.
  • When opening and closing the stroller, be sure that your child isn’t close enough to get their little fingers caught in the hinges.
  • Buckle your baby’s harness whenever you’re out for a stroll.

 

To learn more about Bugaboo strollers, accessories and car seats, visit bugaboo.com.

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Whether you’re prepared, scared, or maybe in denial, there’s no denying that the new school year is here. Although that may look different for families all over the country, with some opting into in-person learning, staying remote, a combination of both, or maybe even still unsure, we’re all in this together. I don’t need to tell you this school year will be unlike any other, you already know that. Instead, I’m using my years of experience as both a mom and a primary educator to provide some simple tips to help balance a new routine and tackle the new year feeling confident and empowered to make this the best year yet for your little learners. If nothing else, just remember you got this.  

1.  Use all the resources available to you. As a kindergarten teacher and mom of two littles, I’m always looking for ways to take some tasks off of my plate. We started to use grocery drop off/pick up services to save a little time. Also, everyone in the family is taking on more of an active role. We’ve also leaned on our family and friends in ways that we have not in the past. This can be difficult for so many parents that feel like we have to do it all….use your village! 

2. Give your children more control during a time when they might feel out of control. I love the word “yes.” When my children ask to do something, wear something, or play something…if it’s in my power to say “yes,” then I do! I want them to feel like they have some control when the world seems to be changing daily. For me, that means letting them select their own clothes or even giving them a little more control in their daily schedule. My children also learned how to pack their own lunches during quarantine so they can keep this up whether they are at home for distance learning or back in the classroom. We decided to put their lunch items, snacks, and juice boxes in places that are accessible for their tiny hands.

3. Support your kids by supporting their teachers. This is near to me since I hold space as a veteran teacher and concerned parent. I understand what it means to deal with distance learning at home or send my child into a school that I’m not allowed to step foot into. It’s tough stuff! On the other hand, I know what it is to be the teacher under pressure—especially during this unprecedented time. When it comes to your children’s’ teachers: assume the best intentions, be understanding. This is new for everyone. Be flexible and remember—the whole world is going through this. We are winning with each passing day!

4. Take care of yourself. Self-care is critical. Self-care is proactive. Self-care is so much deeper than a relaxing bubble bath. For me personally, self-care is even cleaning the bathtub after the relaxing bubble bath because I know that a dirty space might be a trigger for stress later. In a world that is ever connected, it’s also easy to compare yourself to others. Don’t! This is one of the fast ways to trigger stress and anxiety—and for me, that is the opposite of self-care. We are all on our own journey. Remember social media is a highlight reel and if you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t take care of anyone else.

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Amber Kemp-Gerstel is the host of Disney Family Sundays on Disney+ and founder of Damask Love, a creative blog all about DIY. Amber received her Ph.D. in Clinical Child Psychology from Vanderbilt University and practiced as a pediatric psychologist for many years before shifting careers to pursue her passion for creativity. 

I get excited when I see social media posts in the United States about people gathering, friends hugging and going to the grocery store without wearing masks. My social media feeds are finally filling up with concerts, parties, and vacations. July 4th looked considerably different in 2021 versus 2020. 2020 was rough and consisted of lockdowns, endless bad news about COVID-19, limited celebrations, and few get-togethers. Thankfully 2021 featured an abundance of BBQs, parades, get-togethers, and exploding fireworks that matched the excitement in everyone’s hearts as they finally get back to normal.

While this is a reality for many of the world, it is not for many expatriates overseas. Where I live specifically, the COVID-19 numbers have been higher than they’ve ever been the past five days, and new restrictions, including a lockdown, have been mandated. It feels like a repeat of 2020 but with far worse statistics.

I had to explain to my daughters that for the next few weeks, and likely the remainder of their summer, they would be inside. No more pool, no more water parks, no more malls, no more restaurants—there were all closed. On top of that, we don’t know what school will look like in the fall, but we know it won’t be back to normal.

Oof. Talk about a heavy heart and major disappointment. While most of the world is taking steps forward, we are moving backward here in southeast Asia.

Life is full of disappointments, and those disappointments come in all shapes and sizes. It could be something as simple as not getting what they expected for their birthday or not being in the same class as one of their best friends. Or, in this case, likely not returning to in-person school and embarking on yet another year of virtual school. Learning how to navigate simple disappointments at a young age will help children build resiliency tools to handle the bigger disappointments in life.

So how do we teach children to handle disappointment well? Start with these simple tips.

1. Listen & Empathize

When you listen to understand, you are letting your child that you care. And it’s ok, to be honest with how you’re feeling too! This will let your child know that they are not alone in how they are feeling.

2. Guide Expectations

It’s tempting to sugarcoat the situation to minimize the sadness. However, that could lead to more disappointment. Instead, be your child’s mentor. Tell them what to expect next and then help guide them through whatever the situation may be.

3. Learn Self Calming Skills

When a child gets disappointed, they often get sad or angry. Learning breathing exercises and grounding techniques are great ways to center, calm down, and refocus. These are helpful for adults as well!

4. Remind Them of What They Can Control

Kids tend to feel out of control when they are disappointed, so it’s good to remind them that they won’t feel this way forever and that there are some things they can control. Attitude and mindsets are great places to start. Some other examples include:

  • They can’t see their friends in person, but they can still be social by connecting over facetime or zoom.
  • They can’t meet with their piano teacher, but they can still practice the piano.
  • Their favorite flavor of ice cream is out, but they can choose another flavor.

5. Practice Gratitude

There are many benefits to showing gratitude. Studies show that expressing gratitude positively affects your health, mindset, and relationships. Working with your child to make a list of things you’re both thankful for is an excellent way to practice gratitude.

Remember, big or small, experiencing disappointment at times in life is inevitable. So, the next time playdates are canceled, they don’t make the team, or their recipe didn’t turn out as they expected, remind your child of everything they’ve already overcome and help them through the disappointment they’re facing right now. Doing so will strengthen their mental and emotional health and prepare them for whatever life throws their way—it may even help you, too!

This post originally appeared on www.jamieedelbrock.com.
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Jamie is married to her high school sweetheart and has three beautiful daughters. Through years of experience working with children, and raising her own, she knows how difficult parenting can be. She is an advocate for children's mental health and is best known for her creativity, optimism, and kind heart.

Kids (and kids at heart) all look forward to staying up late and watching fireworks over the summer. But dogs? Not so much. Those loud booms, pops and crackles are enough to make them beeline it for a spot under the bed. Since animals don’t understand that the noise and bursts of light are for July 4th celebrations, fireworks can feel unexpected and downright terrifying for pets. Signs of distress may include shaking, pacing, panting, hiding, crawling into your lap (even when they’re 80 pounds!), or engaging in destructive behavior. Pro tip: Hide your favorite shoes! Here are some simple tips to ease your dog’s anxiety during fireworks:

Every family’s pet journey looks a little different, but one thing remains the same: We all want our furry friends to be healthy and happy. Hill’s provides science-backed nutrition for every age, size and need and makes it easier to support your pet’s needs. See how Hill’s science-backed nutrition can give your best friend their best life.

Stay Inside

The sounds from fireworks may feel like a threat, and your anxious pup doesn’t know where to flee if his natural “fight or flight” response is triggered. That’s why it’s important to keep dogs inside during fireworks, so you don’t risk him running away from home in an attempt to get away from the noise. Make sure his collar, with correct contact information, is on just in case you have an escape artist on your hands! Avoid bringing your dog to a firework show, especially if you don’t know how he’ll react when seeing fireworks among a crowd. 

Stay Close By

Your dog will feel better being close to you—a reassuring, familiar presence. If you won’t be home during a fireworks session, arrange for your pooch to stay with a trusted pet sitter or family member so he’s not alone during a stressful time.

Set Up a Safe, Cozy Space

Cuddle up on the couch with blankets and toys, guide him to his crate if that’s where he likes to curl up, or consider hanging out in a smaller room of the house (with the door closed) where the noise won’t feel so threatening. Keep windows and doors shut during fireworks. Closing the blinds also helps dim the startling lights.

Drown Out the Noise

Play calming music, an audiobook or other soothing ambient noise to help minimize the sensory overload from fireworks. There are tons of playlists online made just for dogs! Aside from fireworks, pup-approved music really comes in handy as a technique to handle other bouts of fear, including separation anxiety. 

Dress for Success

Some dogs (and cats!) respond really well to wearing a Thundershirt. This snug wrap works much like an infant swaddle by applying gentle pressure to calm anxiety from fireworks, thunderstorms, travel, vet visits and more. 

Every family’s pet journey looks a little different, but one thing remains the same: We all want our furry friends to be healthy and happy. Hill’s provides science-backed nutrition for every age, size and need and makes it easier to support your pet’s needs. See how Hill’s science-backed nutrition can give your best friend their best life.

Talk to Your Vet about Treatment

Some dogs benefit from medication during high-stress times. There are over-the-counter pheromone sprays, chews or prescription medications for severe cases. Ask your veterinarian about options for your dog if you’re concerned.

Keep Calm and Carry On!

Act normal around your pet during fireworks. Play together and provide treats for good behavior. Your dog will pick up on your mood cues and feel secure.

Every family’s pet journey looks a little different, but one thing remains the same: We all want our furry friends to be healthy and happy. Hill’s provides science-backed nutrition for every age, size and need and makes it easier to support your pet’s needs. See how Hill’s science-backed nutrition can give your best friend their best life.

 

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As parents, we want our children to be happy and confident. We hope they will grow into the sort of adults we would like to know: able to look after themselves, social and successful in at least one role. Knowing how to prepare one’s own meals is a fundamental aspect of being an adult. Beyond just opening packets, the ability to select fresh food and combine it in a tasty and appealing way is a true life-skill.

It makes sense to introduce this skill to children early in their lives. The ability to prepare nutritious and sustaining food is an especially precious possession. And now, even more so, knowing that plant-based diets are thought to provide ‘primordial prevention’ against the serious chronic diseases of our time, puts the potential for good health firmly in the cook’s hands.

Even very young children can participate in the preparation of family meals. It’s a chance to connect with real food ingredients and to recognize qualities that will help children make healthy and compassionate choices, later. They will develop skills and talents to use throughout life. Everyone appreciates a good meal…and the cook who made it!

In fact, children usually love being in the kitchen. Cooking is creative and fun. Eating is social and delicious. It’s all good news!

Most of us parents have to ‘re-wire’ our attitudes and habits, though. Because cooking beside kids is a party! Yes, there are safety issues. Sure, a few hygiene practices need explaining. But when else in your life are you going to see your five-year-old kneading bread dough; your tweenie inventing sandwiches that include mashed potato; your teen using the wooden spoons to practice a drum riff on your mixing bowl—at the same time as whipping up a stunning lentil soup?

Kids in the kitchen offers a chance to put the joy back into meal making. Don that funny apron you were ‘too cool’ to wear a year ago. Serve the dessert first for an ‘upside-down’ dinner. Breakfast can be candle-lit; ambient music can be heavy metal.

If you are worried about safety, the mess, or a shortage of time, take a moment to consider the options: banning children from the kitchen will keep them in unskilled ignorance until young adulthood or beyond. Share meal prep with them now, and they are likely to gain skills, grow in confidence and probably delight you with wonderful conversation and photo opportunities.

If you say ‘Yes!’ to kids in the kitchen, here are simple tips to help you get started:

Safety: Give your child a qualification! The role of Safety Officer gives them the power to correct you if you break one of the Safety Rules. You’ll have to agree on the Rules; but the young officer learns to value and pay attention to details of safety, which they are then unlikely ever to forget.

Mess: Have plenty of floor cloths and hand towels at the ready and make sure everyone knows which is which. Offer aprons. Sweep up before you trip up. Do the washing up while you sing or play word games. Most of all, relax. This is a phase that won’t last forever.

Time: Yes, it does take more time; but it’s an investment in your child. You can schedule long sessions for the weekend; on other days, share simple tasks that suit their age. Try not to watch the clock; a non-pressured atmosphere is best.

3-6-year-olds: Water play comes into its own! Stand them at the sink and let them scrub vegetables, wash berries, or measure liquids. On dry land, let them try kneading and stirring.

7-10-year-olds: Children of this age are natural experimenters. Let them make a spice mixture, concoct a new spread, or design a smoothie. When they are ready, encourage them to write a recipe!

11-13-year-olds: The age of expertise. Theirs might be the difference between black, pink and white peppers, but it still denotes enthusiasm! Putting safety first, let them learn the same kitchen skills you have. Sharp knives, blenders, hotplates and open flame are facts of life and, with your unobtrusive guidance, these young people can deal with them very well.

14-16-year-olds: At this age, they can ‘take over’ or successfully deal with your phone call asking ‘Please, can you make dinner tonight?’ But, they still need to feel looked after, so don’t make that call too often!

16 plus: Going solo is just around the corner. Encourage them to develop a wide repertoire of dishes to set them up, for good!

You: Become assistant to your child: help only when necessary, preferably only when asked. Enjoy!

Peggy Brusseau has written or co-written some 24 books, many of them major bestsellers. Her recently published book, The Contented Vegan: recipes and philosophy from a family kitchen, is a guide to the fastest-growing lifest‌yle of the 21st century. Peggy lives in London with her husband and sons.

We asked our #OutdoorsAll4 Facebook Group of over 12,000 parents to share how their kids will be learning this fall. No surprise, the breakdown looks pretty different from school years past: 49% of kids will be learning at home, 28% will participate in “hybrid” or online schooling and 19% are attending a school or center, in person, either full or part time, while the remaining families are either undecided or simply have kids too young for “schooling.”

One thing all of these families agree on, and we know to be true, is that kids need play. If kids are learning at home, they’ll need the opportunity to learn on their own—and how better to do that than through purposeful play? If they’re online for all or part of their schooling, they’ll need breaks to play and go outdoors in order to balance the impact of screen time on their bodies and minds. And, if they are heading into a school environment, they’ll likely benefit from the joy and wellness benefits that outdoor play provides once they’re home for the day. And, grown-ups, don’t forget that play is good for us, too!

How do you build in play? Add in play breaks!

No matter what your family’s schedule, here are some simple tips to build play breaks into the part of the day your kids are home.

If kids are learning at home: Build blocks of time for play into your schedule. Research tells us that kids need a minimum of 30 minutes for self-led play to start, take hold, and realize its magic. Yet we’ve seen play last far longer, kids benefitting from plenty of time to explore and develop their ideas. We recommend 1-hour chunks of time with flexibility to go even longer in your schedule.

If kids are following an online program: Make sure kids use some of the time they’re not required to be on screen to get up, move their bodies, and get outdoors. If you can, schedule at least 30 minutes or more once or twice a day for designated playtime. And, use transition times between tasks to build in small chances to move and be playful.

If kids are going to a school or center: As much as possible, try to refrain from scheduling too many structured activities after school in order to leave more open-ended time for play. Though teachers and schools are doing heroic work to make schools feel like schools, kids’ freedom may often be limited in exchange for their safety—not to mention the extra level of stress on everyone involved. So, all the more reason for free, kid-led play when the school day is done!

If kids need a break: No matter how learning is structured in your house, we all know those moments when kids just need a break—and when we might need one too. A play break can work wonders!

How do you inspire kids to play?

To help all families inspire kids to take a break for play, we have developed our new series—quick, easy ideas that inspire hours of purposeful (and fun!) outdoor play. Starting September 6th, each Sunday, we’ll release a new set of five play break ideas to help inspire play throughout the week.

The ideas surround a new theme every week and are available for three age groups: babies and toddlers, preschoolers, and school-aged kids. All of our Play Breaks are derived from our Tinkergarten learning method and are engineered to inspire joy and help balance children’s bodies and minds. For a sneak peek, check out a sample of a week’s worth of Play Breaks designed for preschoolers here.

Step 1: Set up a “Play Break” Jar.

We recommend that you designate a large jar, basket or box as your Play Break grab bag. Each week, print out or write down the Play Break ideas you like best, and put them in your jar. You can always invent and add your own ideas, too! Like one idea in particular? Keep putting it back in the jar—repetition is a wonderful way for kids to deepen the quality of their play!

Step 2: Pick Out an Idea.

Whenever it’s time for a break, let kids pull out one of the ideas at random—the element of surprise adds even more joy to the mix. Read the idea, and off kids go! If you need a break, yourself, join in, and benefit from the chance to play and connect with kids.

Step 3: Talk about the Play

Later, when you have a moment to talk with kids, ask some questions to get kids reflecting on their play Questions like the following can help kids develop their communication skills and give you a window into the kinds of play breaks they’d love more of:

Can you tell me about what you played today? 

What did you use to make nature pie? 

How did you build a home for your stuffies?

Want even more ways to thrive this fall? Click here to access our Fall Family Playbook.

This post originally appeared on Tinkergarten.

After 18 years as an educator, curriculum developer and school leader, Meghan has her dream gig—an entrepreneur/educator/mom who helps families everywhere, including hers, learn outside. Today, Meghan serves as co-founder and Chief Learning Officer of Tinkergarten, the national leader in outdoor play-based learning. 

We are in the thick of winter so we are craving more sunlight and warmer temps. For now, however, we’ll have to deal with the uninspired forecasts. In addition to the lackluster weather, we are in a constant battle to keep the cold and flu germs away. And if you have lost that battle, you are not alone my friend. I am here to admit that I recently had a house full of moderately ill little ones. In fact, I too fell ill. And it was horrendous. I was weak and barely dragging myself around while my kiddies had all the energy in the world. Literally, if it weren’t for their runny noses, you wouldn’t have been able to tell they were sick. But as a mama (or papa) you still have to go on. Life doesn’t stop just because you’re sick. So how did I make it through? I’ll share my simple tips:

1. Rest. This may seem obvious to some but there are those out there who will still try to do everything they usually do while they are sick. Listen, your body is trying to heal and repair itself. It’s ok to slow down a bit. You won’t be able to completely stop, especially if you have toddlers but you can at least modify what you would usually do. And speaking of toddlers, communicate with them that you aren’t feeling too well. I did just that with my four-year-old and it helped her to understand why mommy wasn’t as energetic as usual. 

2. Get help. Whether it’s a family member, neighbor or friend, you may need some backup. My husband was able to stay home one of the days I was sick and it helped tremendously! Just having another adult in the house allowed me to let my guard down even more. I napped when the kids were up- something I obviously wouldn’t be able to do had he not been there. Getting help could also mean ordering out or having sandwiches for dinner. Again, don’t pressure yourself into your usual way of doing things.

3. Get some fresh air ASAP. Chances are that if you get sick, you’re going to be stuck in the house for a few days—not fun. So as soon as you start to feel a little better, get some fresh air. Even if it’s to just go on your front steps for a few moments—bundle up and enjoy some sun rays. 

4. Remember that this too shall pass. When you’re in the thick of the battle, it can seem like it’ll last forever. But before you know it, you’ll be back on your feet like new. So don’t let yourself get down. Go through the process and allow yourself to properly heal. 

I hope these simple tips help. They may not change the weather but they’ll keep you going when the cold and flu bug tries to stop you. 

Hi Everyone. I’m Amber. I’m a wife and mom of 2 beautiful princesses. I was born a creative and I’m learning to find creativity in every area of my life. I’m a lover of all things beautiful but I’m also drawn to the broken because there’s always room for restoration. 

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Children go to school to learn, but there’s a lot of learning that happens outside the classroom too. The key to setting up the right play space is to prepare it so your child experiences sensory play instead of regular play. The difference is that they’ll learn how to use and enjoy their five senses instead of just “playing with toys.”

Sensory play works as the foundation for all the skills a child needs to solve math problems, read and write during regular school hours. And setting up a sensory play space at home is easy if you follow these simple tips that won’t cost a lot of time or money.

Kids with autism or other developmental challenges will also experience many benefits from sensory fun. Many children on the autism spectrum are unable to regulate sensory stimuli, and sensory rooms are an extension of occupational therapy in your home, even if they may take additional time getting used to sensory activities.

1. Play with Instruments: Being able to handle the sense of hearing in different situations will help any child succeed in life. They won’t be nervous or afraid to enter new scenarios where there may be loud or surprising sounds once they’ve gotten used to how sounds work.

Investing in instruments makes noises less frightening for kids. It gives them control over what they hear in a fun way. A simple beginner’s keyboard could be all your child needs to develop their ability to handle sounds at different volumes.

Or make homemade bongos with items you probably already have at home.

1. Clean out an empty soup can and cover it with a stretched-out balloon.
2. Use rubber bands to secure the balloon in place.

Play around with different-sized cans so various sounds can be produced.

2. Host a Bubble Wrap Competition: Bubble wrap is something that comes in nearly every package your child will receive in the future, but it can be scary for those who aren’t used to the sound of the bubble wrap popping. Instead, use it in their play space and host a bubble wrap competition by seeing who can create the coolest dance moves to music, while dancing on bubble wrap. It will make the experience of popping bubble wrap much more fun, so the next time your child sees bubble wrap, they won’t be afraid to interact with it or hear it pop.

3. Try Out Finger Painting: Cover a table with newspaper and have your child try out finger painting with all their favorite colors. Finger painting is one of the best sensory activities to do. Your child will use their touch and feel senses, as well as their senses of smell and sight.

4. Hide Toys in a Sandbox: Engage your child’s sense of touch by giving them an activity with sand. Use a sandbox in your backyard or an empty shoebox filled with sand. Hide small dinosaurs or other animal toys in the sand and have your child excavate them. Feeling around in the sand is a great sensory experience. They’ll also love the sense of accomplishment that comes with discovering the toy that’s been hidden in the sand.

Just make sure you don’t hide a toy they love or are used to playing with. It may scare them that the toy is missing and buried under the sand. Instead, get tiny figurines down at your local dollar store that they can even pick out for themselves. They’ll associate the new toy with the new sandbox game and not be afraid of playing along.

5. Create Edible Playdough: Many times, teachers will use playdough with younger kids to provide a sensory activity that gives them the power to make whatever they want. Sometimes, though, playdough isn’t always the best option.

Kids can easily take a bite of playdough when you’re not watching, and it’s not meant to be eaten. Instead, make it completely safe to play with by creating edible playdough at home. All you need is whipped cream, cornstarch, and olive oil. It’s not a healthy snack by any means, but it won’t hurt your child if they accidentally eat some while they exercise their sense of touch.

6. Taste-Test Together: When your child isn’t looking, put some of their favorite foods on a few dishes. Then, have your child close their eyes or wear a blindfold. Put all the bowls in front of them and present them one by one. Your child can have fun tasting the food and guessing what it is. Play along by taste-testing them, too. Have a prize ready for them at the end when they’ve guessed all the foods correctly.

You can combine the taste and touch senses by having them identify foods by feel instead of smell. Green beans, popcorn, and even crackers could be an easy way to do this.

7. Develop Their Interests: When your child plays with friends or on their own, what do they prefer to do? Developing their interests is a great way to work with kids who are afraid or unsure of other sensory experiences. A child who enjoys manipulating toys could try out finger painting. After they realize how much fun it was to play with what you suggested, they may feel more comfortable trying something new, like dancing on bubble wrap. With time, they’ll have so much fun that they’ll forget they’re learning.

Jennifer Landis is a mom, wife, freelance writer, and blogger. She enjoys long naps on the couch, sneaking spoonfuls of peanut butter when her kid's not looking, and binge watching Doctor Who while her kid's asleep.  She really does like her kid, though, she promises. Find her on Twitter @JenniferELandis.