You’ve heard reading aloud is critical to your child’s success and you strive to get it in most nights when you can. Sometimes, though, it’s just hard to put in the time. You work long hours, you’re tired, homework went on forever or after-school activities ended late and you just want to skip story time tonight. For all the many reasons why that seems like a good idea, here are five solid reasons in favor of reading aloud consistently  (just 10 minutes!) when you need a little motivation.

5 great reasons to read aloud to your child

Modeling fluency skills: Children need to hear adult, skilled readers model what good fluency sounds like when they read aloud so they can copy that sound. A reader is fluent when the words flow together well and are not choppy or slow. The more you can model how the words should flow well together when you read (as well as stopping at periods, pausing at commas, and obeying the other punctuation marks too) the better your child will pick up this skill.

Modeling language and vocabulary: books are amazing for increasing children’s understanding of language and learning new vocabulary words. Even simple children’s books often have a rich vocabulary that is not in our everyday conversation and therefore children do not hear it. In order to know a word, it needs to be used, in context (in the story) and so reading aloud is the perfect way to share new words with children.

Sharing quality time together: In the craziness that is life these days, we often don’t have more than 10 minutes a day of quality time to spend with family members. Reading books aloud together creates this time and allows us to be in the moment with our children, enjoying their company as well as a good story and it also builds memories that will last a long time.

Make a statement: “We value reading.” When we do it together every day, we are telling our children that reading is important in our home, and it’s a habit that is a part of our lives. When we skip days or find too often that we allow other excuses to take the place of reading time, we are sending our children the message that reading takes a back seat to those distractions and that message is powerful.

Relaxation: Reading is a relaxing activity. By choosing to read aloud at night before bed, we are winding down each day in a relaxing way in a way that screens such as cell phones and iPads don’t allow for.

Monica, mom to 11-year-old Zane, says this about reading aloud, “It’s often very easy to slip into a million reasons why we can’t make time at night to read a book together. Once we started allowing ourselves to be distracted, it just got even easier. However, we knew that was not going to help Zane with reading so we promised each other that reading aloud would come first. Since we made it a top priority, we don’t let each other miss our nightly story and Zane’s teacher has told us that his reading has improved in school.”

If you’re finding it hard to get in the time, strive for just 10 minutes a night. This is enough time for a short picture book, or chapter in a simple chapter book, and will ensure you don’t let distractions get in the way of this time together. Then on nights that are less busy, work towards reading for 30 minutes together. I promise it will be one of the best ways you can spend time as a family.

 

 

Colleen Carroll, EdD
Tinybeans Voices Contributor

I am passionate about helping families raise children who LOVE to read. I created Innovative Reading to provide easy activities to moms and dads who have children that dislike reading and that struggle to read.  Together we can help your child become a confident and happy reader with only 10 minutes of time a night. (www.InnovativeReading.com)

You want to tell your daughter what she needs to hear. Here are our favorite inspiring words to use

When it comes to helping your daughter become a strong woman, it’s important to offer compliments and inspiring words in a way that boosts self-esteem and confidence. Words are powerful, and when they come from a grown-up they can make a huge difference. From appreciating her creative side to how far and fast her strong legs will carry her, here are 20 ways to praise your daughter today (and every day). And here are 10 times your daughter shouldn’t have to say “I’m sorry.

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1. Thanks for giving me a hug, I needed that. As kids grow older, they're less likely to want to snuggle up with mom or dad. When they do show affection, let them know it's as important to you as it's always been. 

2. I trust you. It's important kids know you trust them—it's the foundation for good communication once they hit the tween years

3. You are a good friend. Teaching kids about the power of healthy relationships is the key to raising strong adults.  

4. I love how hard you worked on this project, and how you stuck with it even when you got frustrated. Focus on how they overcame the challenge and what they accomplished.

5. You make the world a better place just by being in it. And if anyone thinks otherwise, it's their loss!

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6. Don't let mean kids tell you what to think of yourself. Your self-esteem belongs to only you.

7. I'm so happy you're in my life. After all, wouldn't you want to hear that from someone you love?

8. Isn't it great that your strong legs can help you run super fast? Praising the things a little girl can do with her body instead of noticing how it looks will help her appreciate, and strive for, a healthy lifestyle.

9. I love the color combo you've got going on today, it's very creative! Nice things to say to your daughter don't have to focus on just looks. Compliment your daughter on her outfit when you focus on her creativity, rather than how pretty she looks.

10. You are a kind person. Compliments for girls that focus on kindness, courage, and honesty will go far in building self-esteem.

Related: 5 Things Never Ever to Say to Your Daughter

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11. I am proud of you. Because kids need to hear this from their parents. Every. Day.

12. I’m impressed with how you solved/built/created that. Can you show me a thing or two?! Praise your daughter for her critical thinking and problem-solving prowess.

13. I think you are a great leader. One of the best things you can do for your daughter is to show her that being a leader isn’t just “being bossy.”

14. Just be yourself. It’s enough. Girls are constantly being told they aren’t enough, and it's time to break the cycle and instill confidence.

15. Your ideas are important, and I want to hear them. Kids in general, but especially girls, need to know their ideas are awesome and worth sharing.

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16. Your inner beauty and kindness shine through your personality. Outer beauty is a bonus.

17. Your bright smile shows me how happy you are. Your daughter is smiling for a reason, and when you notice, it'll make her even happier. 

18. You're strong, you're smart, and you can change the world. Because she can!

19. I'm here for you. She needs to know that she can come to you for anything and that you'll be ready to listen.  

20. I'm sorry. No one is perfect, and sometimes we lose our cool. An apology shows that we can admit when we're wrong, which is an important life skill. 

Related: Daughters (Who’ll Conquer the World) Need to Hear These 8 Things

 

 

 

Gerber is looking for a new spokesbaby—and that’s not all! This year the beloved brand is adding an extra bonus for the winner. Along with the spokesbaby honor, the top pic pick will also become the Chief Growing Officer.

What exactly is a Chief Growing Officer? According to Gerber, the CGO will “Steer—whether by crawling, wobbling, walking, or running—Gerber’s Executive Committee with big kid decisions, eat tasty and nutritious baby food products, act as the adorable face of the company, and appear on Gerber’s social media channels and marketing campaigns throughout the year.”

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Mohini JoshiGerber Vice President of Marketing, said in a press release, “As part of our mantra to do anything for baby, each year we strive to make Photo Search bigger and better. In honor of the program’s 11-year anniversary, we’re excited to give Gerber families something new and exciting.” Joshi added, “Our Chief Growing Officer’s adorable roles and responsibilities are sure to make Gerber’s 2021 Photo Search a year like NO other and provide executive leadership new inspiration to help babies thrive.”

To apply for the 2021 Photo Search and CGO position, submit your 0 to 48-month-old’s pic to Gerber through the brand’s submission portal from Apr. 27 to May 17!

—Erica Loop

Featured photo: Tatiana Syrikova via Pexels

 

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Having four teenage girls, all in high school, you can imagine I am rarely by myself and if I happen to be, it is usually to use the restroom, shower, or on my way home after driving one of them to a friend’s house.

But last week I went snowshoeing alone…Deep in the woods.

Alone.

It took me some time to settle in and stop worrying a bobcat was going to jump out and attack me, but I kept moving forward.

Step by step, I gained more confidence and left my fears behind.

Alone…for the first time in a long time.

So there I was, alone in the woods.

Alone with my deepest thoughts.

Alone with the quiet and the sunlight peeking through the trees creating the most glorious shadows.

So as I walked along, listening to the crunching beneath my feet, I recognized that I truly wasn’t alone and an inner peace embraced me.

There I was, trudging through the pathway of white, in all of my fullness.

This alone time was a gift as I was wrapping myself up in self-love and providing a space to reflect and grow.

Who knew just a short three-mile snowshoeing trek could open up my heart to hearing and seeing new parts of myself.

Who knew the quiet and solitude would allow inner conversations to emerge and come to light.

And who knew being alone could feel so magical after so many years of always having my girls near me.

But maybe that’s it right there…

Maybe being alone is exactly what I needed in order to find more growth within… to strive to be a better mom and to think through things, really think, not the kind of thinking that gets done in-between loads of laundry and emptying the dishwasher.

 And what I realized was this…

I am blessed to never feel alone, even when one set of footprints, my own, trails behind in the snow. There may be one set of footprints but this mama of four will always see her family of six walking alongside her, even when alone. The six sets of footprints trailing behind and next to me is a blessing today and all the days moving forward.

There is no doubt the love and support of my family encourages, inspires, and moves me along as the footprints behind keep me company.

So all of this alone time got me thinking.

My eldest will be making her trek along a new path when she embarks on her college journey in the fall.

She may have moments where she feels alone.

She may feel alone on the evenings her dorm room is quiet and miss our bustling home, filled with high pitched laughter, screams of frustration, and some tears.

She may feel alone as she walks across a campus busy with other students, and miss those quiet moments holding her sister’s hand.

She may feel alone when she grabs a quick granola bar on the way to class rather than sharing her to-do list with me, as she looks on while I make her an egg sandwich.

But maybe being alone is just what she needs…

Maybe being alone allows the quiet to seep in while recalling the billowing laughter that wrapped her up each day in love.

Maybe being alone allows a sense of solitude to embrace her soul while remembering a sense of peace from each hug.

But as this heart of mine gets used to being more alone amongst the world of raising teenagers, I can only wish for my sweet girl to also know, even on the days she feels alone, there are always six sets of footprints trailing behind, supporting every path she embarks on.

Our family footprints will forever trail behind each and every one of us, making imprints along our unique paths of life.

 

 

Ali Flynn Is excited to share with you the joys and hardships of motherhood with an open heart, laughter and some tears. Ali is a monthly guest contributor for Westchester County Mom  and has been seen on Filter Free Parents, Grown and Flown, Today Parents and Her View From Home.

Parenting and raising a self-reliant daughter is a delicate balance between allowing her to discover things on her own and making sure she’s not feeling neglected. Your involvement in your daughter’s life will always be beneficial. But if you do too much, or even everything for your daughter, you’re not only robbing her of opportunities to learn life skills but also sending a message that you don’t trust in her abilities.

Independence boosts self-value and self-esteem, and according to veteran startup mentor, executive, and author Martin Zwilling, being independent is a key ingredient for entrepreneurial success. Even if your daughter has no interest in becoming an entrepreneur, you can still encourage her to develop a self-starter attitude that will benefit her in life, regardless of the path she chooses, with the following suggestions.

BE HER ROLE MODEL.

Your daughter needs someone to look up to and learn from, and you’re the best candidate for the job! It’s not that tough–you just have to remember to lead by example. You may even have already noticed that your daughter observes and models your words and actions. It’s never too early or late to do a self-evaluation and ensure your behavior promotes independence. Strive for progress, not perfection, as a role model.

COACH FROM THE SIDELINES

Age-appropriate chores are great tools that teach basic life skills. When assigning household duties to your daughter, include time for training and proper handover, so she learns to complete tasks on her own without you continually looking over her shoulder. This set-up allows her to feel a sense of accomplishment and understand what it’s like to make meaningful contributions.

SET HIGH BUT ATTAINABLE STANDARDS

While your daughter learns the ropes and accomplishes tasks independently, continue to set her up for success with evidence-based growth mindset practices such as cultivating a passion for learning, valuing effort, teaching grit, and setting high academic attainment expectations. This approach helps your daughter become more independent because she will learn that skills improve with practice, mastery takes time and effort, and persistence pays off.

STRIVE FOR CONSISTENCY

Aim for a daily routine. The more consistent, the better. Eventually, your daughter will become less reliant on you and take charge of her responsibilities without constant reminders from you. Solving problems on her own, especially the ones she can handle, will become second nature to her.

BE ON THE SAME PAGE

Get everyone in your household on board and share the responsibility of fostering independence in your daughter. If you and other family members, including involved grandparents and nannies or babysitters are not on the same page, it can be a source of confusion for your daughter. It’s for your daughter’s benefit that you form a united front with everyone who interacts with her regularly.

MAINTAIN YOUR BOND

Carve out quality time with your daughter and check in on her. Encourage her to share her feelings and express her fears and frustrations. Keeping the lines of communication open with your daughter gives you insight into how well she’s coping with challenges, stress, and failure, which you can use as a teachable moment for resilience and independence.

Whenever you encourage your daughter’s sense of autonomy, you provide your daughter with the belief that she can competently handle life’s ups and downs. You also give her the chance to strengthen her ability to view challenges as opportunities, one of the many traits most important for budding young entrepreneurs

This post originally appeared on The Startup Squad Blog.

I've always built businesses, from a childhood gummy bear business to adult gigs at IMAX and Coupons.com. I founded The Startup Squad to help girls reach their potential and my book series, The Startup Squad, is published by Macmillan. I live in Silicon Valley with my wife and two daughters.

It seems like every parent wants their kid to play a varsity sport. Parents put such a large focus on their children’s athletic talents and gifts—you are a great swimmer, you are good dribbler, and so on. Children start activities and sports way younger now than in previous generations and we applaud our children for their focus, specialization, and commitment from an early age, convinced these pieces are the foundations for their later success. Unfortunately, many of us relegate one of the most important characteristics, kindness, to the B-Team.

Here are four ways to influence your children to be the “Varsity Captain of Kindness.”

1. Establish a Better Morning Routine.
Set yourself and your family up for success in the morning. The beginning of the day sets the tone for every family member. Mornings can often be rushed, and important details may fall through the cracks. This stress can lead to family fights, which doesn’t do anyone any favors. Instead, gather as a family in the evening and work together to prep for the next day. Not only will it be a good bonding time, but it will save everyone from a stressful morning and give everyone the space to be kinder to each other.

2. Set Daily Kindness Goals.
It’s great to set family goals. Kindness can be a family and individual goal just like playing on a sports team. You can’t make varsity unless you practice every day and it’s great to remind your children of any age to be kind during their day.

Teach children at an early age to be kind or a “good sport” to the other teammates. This will help them develop into being a good sport for the rest of their life. You can also play “Spot the Giving Moment” where you recognize the opportunity to give to other children and adults. The giving moment, when practiced over and over, becomes second nature. These moments can become magical and more easily seen if the focus is put on children to look for them daily.

3. Surround Yourself With People That Want the Same Goal.
The exciting piece of being part of a team is that all the teammates are want to win the games. Every part of the individual’s practice, whether it is stretching, doing the drill over and over or staying for private coaching etc…will greatly impact the wins or losses for the season.

The beautiful part of life is that we are not alone. We can make conscious choices daily to have people in our lives with similar approaches to and goals of kindness. You can listen and look at how they interact and see if they are a person you want on your team or are, they going to not be committed and talk badly about their teammates? Look at the people currently on your team of life and see if they are going after the same goal of kindness.

4. End Your Day on a Kindness Note.
A kindness reminder at the end of the day will help to instill this virtue in your children. Consider buying—or better yet, making—cute posters or signs with reminders to be kind. Originally creating and then focusing on this visual before drifting off to dreamland will inspire your team players to strive to be the Captain of the Varsity Kindness team.

Let’s make kindness the varsity sport in our homes. Make a daily, conscious decision to devote practice hours to be more loving and kind players in the game of life. Not only can we earn our letterman jackets, but we can also all strive to be the captain!

Plank Books is founded by Jane and Katelyn. Jane, a former childhood star of the movie The Mighty Ducks, now has the opportunity and passion to bring joy again to a new generation of children through the Giving Adventures of Sam the Squirrel and other animal friends to come.

I have the privilege of being a doctor, I have the distinct honor of taking care of people, little (very cute) people to be precise. I don’t take this task lightly but much of what I do is run of the mill colds and cases of flu, earaches and throat aches. I work with a population which, for the most part, is healthy and I’m happy about that. But that doesn’t mean I don’t see my share of badness.

Bad things happen to good people, bad things happen to little people—babies and young children that live and unfortunately die in hospitals. As a doctor, we sometimes have to develop these hard shells to deal with it, to be able to keep going, to see another patient and then go home and hug our families. A recent visit melted my shell and shook me to the core. 

The patient was a newborn baby boy and he was doing just fine. His mother, on the other hand, was a young mother of two boys with a new diagnosis of terminal cancer, she was diagnosed only one month before giving birth to her second son. A son she may never see walk or talk. 

As she told me her story, she started crying and tears sprang to my eyes as well. My shell was gone and in its place was fear, anger, sadness, hope and most of all gratitude. Gratitude was my first thought as she shared her diagnosis.

I was doing a home visit and felt so fortunate that I could have the time to spend with her, that she didn’t have to sit in a waiting room full of germs, that I didn’t have to rush her because I had a roomful of patients waiting. All I had to give her was my time and support and my prayers.

So why does it take this tremendous tragedy to make me feel gratitude? I wake up every morning (wishing I could go back to bed) checking my Facebook/Instagram and email, thinking about my day ahead, my errands, my schedule, my kids’ schedule, who needs to be where and when and how I’m going to get them there, what am I making for dinner and whether I had time to sneak in a nap (I never do but I like to dream I do). Of all those thoughts I have first thing in the morning, none of them are thoughts of gratitude. 

First I should be grateful to be awake, that I have another day to live, to dream, to be, to love. Then I could list 100 or more things I should be grateful for on a daily basis (don’t worry, I won’t). But if you are reading this then that means your list will be pretty long too!

I get so bogged down every day with mundane things and even get angry about them, why? Because I’m human, because this is my world and sometimes I need to feel the petty things and then I need to let go of the petty things. I’m working on the second part.

I told this mother that she was doing a great job, she had a beautiful healthy baby boy and she was instrumental in bringing him into this world. She said to me she is blessed to have supportive family around her. Let me repeat that, she said she is BLESSED to have a supportive family. 

At that moment, I was in awe, in her darkest times this woman was able to see her life as blessed. I stayed for a while and answered her questions, reassured her of how wonderful of a job she was doing and left with a heavy heart and only one thought in my head, gratitude.

This does not mean I will now forever wakeup with only thoughts of gratitude, I wish it would, but I’m human. I still get mad, sad, angry and frustrated even about the petty stuff. But I will strive every day to live in gratitude. I will strive to always feel blessed as this courageous woman did. 

How do you stay in gratitude? How do you deal with the petty things?

This post originally appeared on A Doctor Mom and a Blog.

 I'm a mom to 2 busy kids and a pediatrician. My blog is about all things mom, doctor and how the two come together. My goal is to help you find your voice while I find mine and help you become your best version while I become mine!

With schools starting to reopen, we have shoe shopping on the brain. On Tues. Aug. 18 Payless will be making a comeback in the North American market. After closing its stores nationwide in 2019, the famous shoe store is launching an immersive E-commerce platform and new retail concept stores. 

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Payless will be opening 300+ locations in the next 3-5 years, coupled with the same, unparalleled value proposition to help customers get “back on their feet” with style, comfort and confidence as they head back to work and back to school this fall 2020.

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The Payless relaunch collection will consist of new fashion items, accessories, and of course shoes, and will be available for purchase at the new E-comm website.

To further Payless’ continued commitment to value, and “having their consumers’ backs” as we as a country strive to get back on our feet, Payless is also partnering with schools across the country to provide internet access, complimentary lunches, and of course, stylish shoes to teachers, students and their families knowing this back-to-school season will likely look quite different from years before.

—Jennifer Swartvagher

All photos courtesy of Payless

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Pride month has come to a close, but that doesn’t mean we have to stop celebrating. The Story Pirates are proud to present a special Pride edition of Story Creation Zone. This virtual show will be made up on the spot from kids’ ideas with a cast of incredible LGBTQIA+ Story Pirates and moderated by NYC company member Andrew Barbato.

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A child’s imagination can be their most valuable plaything. The Story Pirates, known for teaching creative writing to kids, began ramping up production of their digital content by adding new and exciting creativity building activities and podcasts. 

The Story Pirates strive to celebrate one another and amplify stories of inclusion. They have made this week’s Story Creation Zone free to anyone who wants to watch. Tune in Fri., Jul. 3 at 7 p.m. ET. 

—Jennifer Swartvagher

Featured photo: The Story Pirates

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While Denver kids are home from school, you can still tour lots of your favorite museums, visit the animals at the zoo and check out the local art scene. We’ve got a bunch of our favorite Denver virtual events for kids below and you can head over to our massive virtual events calendar for more. We’re here for you, parents!

Virtual Safari with the Denver Zoo

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Denver Zoo may be closed, but animal care staff is still providing vital care for nearly 3,000 animal residents. They're here to keep you informed, entertained and engaged with daily videos, wildlife-themed activity ideas and much more!

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#LETSMCA

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Join the Museum of Contemporary Art Denver Instagram community for daily inspiration. Practice gratitude, tap into your creativity, learn, laugh and more. 

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The Colorado Symphony will be sharing videos from their incredible musicians as they #PlayOn during this difficult time. They'll showcase projects they've been working on and what they're up to while they strive to keep the community safe and healthy. Hopefully these videos give you a moment of peace, a brief distraction from the grind, or just a small smile as you go about your day.

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Dance Along with Wonderbound

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Join in this series of dance classes with a learning twist! 

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Dig into Nature at Home with the Denver Botanic Gardens

Denver Botanic Gardens

While Denver Botanic Gardens may be temporarily closed, there are still plenty of ways to engage your family in fun and educational activities. Go on a scavenger hunt, play garden BINGO, study seeds and more.

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Tour Some Denver Public Art from Home

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Denver public art staff and their families suggested their favorite local works of art. You can also find some coloring pages to go along with your art tour.

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Check Out Our MASSIVE Virtual Events Calendar

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For more virtual fun every day of the week, head to our virtual events calendar. You'll find dance classes, scavenger hunts, animal encounters, drawing classes and MORE!

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—Kate Loweth

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