Excitement. Nervousness. Joy.
This is what I’m feeling as my best friend goes to the hospital today to have her baby. I sit here thinking that the person who I’ve been close to since third grade, who always spoke about wanting nothing more in this world than to have kids, is going to be a mom! Her son will soon experience all of the traits that drawn me to her as a kid — her silliness, her boldness, her kindness — and he will love her for it.
Part of me is secretly rubbing her hands in delight thinking “we’ve got one!” I don’t have many close mom friends, so whenever someone I know is pregnant, it’s a big deal in more ways than one. After all, being a mom is lonely business sometimes and it’s important to stay social, otherwise you might just lose your mind.
Making the time to be with friends is tough, especially for new moms. As a mom with a full-time job, it’s something I’m still trying to master. It’s even more challenging when you live an hour away from each other.
The biggest thing to remember when you and your circle of friends start cranking out a family is to keep making time for each other. Even if it’s just for a quick cup of coffee. Twenty minutes of “face time” with a close friend can really boost your spirit, especially when you’ve spent the past few days cleaning up poopy diapers while “Sesame Street” blares throughout the house (and rattles deep into your brain). Now that I’m a mom, I’ve experienced feelings of loneliness, sadness, and being overwhelmed with life more times than I could count. Fortunately, whenever I get together with friends, even for a little while, it always helps me feel better. Just listening to someone else talk about their day distracts me from the crazy week I had.
If you can’t meet up, there other ways to stay in touch with the people you love. Throughout my best friend’s pregnancy we’ve kept up with hilarious texts, inappropriate emails and phone calls that had us laughing so hard we may or may not have peed ourselves. Fingers crossed that we’ll keep that up after baby is born.
If you are the first of your friends to have a baby, it’s on you to make first contact when your friend has a baby. Offer to help out where needed but give her space, too. Let her know that you’re a phone call away and maybe even set up a weekly call time, coffee break, or yoga date so it becomes part of your routine.
As I wait to hear the good news, I am overjoyed that my best friend and her husband will soon know the meaning of love at first sight and experience all of the amazing moments that follow. I just hope she doesn’t lose my phone number!