Figuring out your parenting style is definitely a matter of personal choice, but as it turns out, other factors can have an influence on the style you choose. A new study shows that having rude coworkers could affect how you parent—and working with rude people isn’t just annoying, it can actually have a negative impact on your kids.
Researchers at Carleton University in Ottawa, Canada have found that women who experience rudeness in the workplace are more likely to be strict with their kids at home. In an online survey of 146 working moms and their spouses, moms were asked about their experiences with rudeness or incivility at work, as well as how effective they believed they were at parenting. Then, the spouses were asked about how the moms behaved around the kids once they got home from work.
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The results if the survey showed that moms who experienced incivility at work were more likely to be authoritarian parents and were also more likely to feel inadequate as parents.
“In uncovering how this mistreatment in the workplace interferes with positive mother-child interactions, this research also speaks to a previously unacknowledged group of indirect incivility victims, namely children,” said Angela Dionisi, study co-author and assistant professor of management Carleton University’s Sprott School of Business.
The study defined authoritarian parenting as characterized by parents with high expectations and unconditional rules for their kids, who value discipline over fun.
“This style of parenting has been associated with a variety of negative child outcomes, including associating obedience and success with love, exhibiting aggressive behavior outside the home, being fearful or overly shy around others, having difficulty in social situations due to a lack of social competence, suffering from depression and anxiety, and struggling with self-control,” explained Kathryne Dupre study co-author and associate professor of organizational psychology at Carlton.
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