We’ve all been there. It’s your child’s first day of daycare, preschool or kindergarten, and things aren’t going as planned. Your kiddo is crying and doesn’t want you to leave. Who is this very first separation harder for? You or her? Well, if you’ve had this issue (or you ever have it in the future), one mama has a trick that helps.

Louise Mallet’s son was headed off to school and, as she wrote on her Facebook page, “I could tell he was feeling a little emotional this morning so we had a chat and came up with the idea of having a heart each and if we pressed it, it sent a hug to the other one.”

So they drew a heart on one hand, creating hug buttons. And it worked. Think of this as an updated, more concrete version of the now-classic children’s tale by Audrey Penn, The Kissing Hand. Published more than two decades ago, in 1993, Penn’s tale of a mama and child raccoon couple (just in case you haven’t had to read it a zillion times to your child) includes a cute little kiss that the mother gives her kiddo. Of course, as the name of the book implies, the kiss is on the hand. When the little raccoon feels lonely, he can press it against his chest and think of his mother’s love.

What’s your go-to tip for helping your child deal with separation anxiety? Tell us in the comments below.