As new moms, we may not make it to midnight on New Year’s Eve to watch the ball drop, but we are serious about our New Year’s resolutions. Here are five common #newmom goals for the new year—and simple ways to make the resolutions a reality.
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1. The goal: Be present
Spending hours scrolling mindlessly through your social media is so last year. Be present with the tiny people in front of you who need you and adore you. Put down your phone and play peek-a-boo, blow raspberries, have a coo-conversation, and catch all sorts of firsts and milestones.
How to make it happen: Worried the electronic force is too strong? Allow yourself phone check-in points throughout the day, but only after you’ve spent quality time with your little. And set a timer before each scrolling sesh to keep yourself from getting sucked into the Internet like a black hole. Also, make use of your phone’s do-not-disturb feature to silence notifications.
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2. The goal: Get enough sleep
Sleep when the baby sleeps, we’re told. Easy to say, but tough to do with everything on our plate. Getting enough rest (is that even a thing?) is crucial for physical and mental health, especially when you’re a new mom.
How to make it happen: As the primary life source for a tiny human, the idea of getting 8 hours of sleep every night probably sounds like a crazy dream. (If you slept long enough to have dreams, that is.) When babies are little, it’s important to go for quality over quantity. Create a space that’s conducive to rest, just as you’ve done for your baby: Invest in blackout curtains; keep your room a comfortable temperature (60-67 is optimal); spritz sheets with lavender linen spray; and, most importantly, make your phone off-limits at least two hours before bedtime. Use that phone-free time to wind down—brew a cup of chamomile tea, catch up on a favorite book, or enjoy a soak in the tub.
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3. The goal: Leave the house alone
It’s easy to turn mama kangaroo and keep that little one attached to you 24/7. But a little absence can only make your mother’s heart grow fonder—and give you a chance to feel like a human again, even if it’s only for a couple of hours. One night a month, plan to slip on something pretty, meet up with friends or your parter, and linger over dinner and drinks.
How to make it happen: Book a sitter for a standing Saturday night once a month for the rest of the year. Scheduling in advance will help you stick to your resolution—especially on those nights when you feel like crawling into your pajamas and collapsing onto the couch. (Don’t worry: You can do that all the other days of the month.)
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4. The goal: Shower every day
You know that amazing just-stepped-out-of-the-shower feeling of clean? The one you felt a few days ago? How amazing would life be if you could experience the renewing power of a hot shower every single day? (Answer: pretty darn amazing.)
How to make it happen: Make baby part of the act by pulling a bouncy seat or exersaucer into the bathroom or laying out a cushy baby blanket on the floor with a smattering of toys. If baby starts to fuss, bust out your best rendition of Adele and scrub on.
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5. The goal: Treat yourself right
Self-care. It’s the newest buzzword, but it’s important: You need to love yourself well so you can love those around you well, including your tiny human. If you’re going to keep one resolution this year, make it this one.
How to make it happen: Expand your definition of self-care. Sure, it can mean indulging in candle-lit bubble baths and chocolate, but real self-care includes opting for carrot sticks instead of potato chips, going to sleep instead of staying up for an episode of Scandal, or doing that 20-minute workout when you’d so much rather chill with a cup of coffee. Those are the little changes that will help you be the best mom and the best you all year long.
What are your resolutions for this coming year? Share with us in the comments below.
— Suzanna Logan